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The House of My Mother: A Daughter's Quest for Freedom
From eldest daughter Shari Franke, the shocking true story behind the viral 8 Passengers family vlog and the hidden abuse she suffered at the hands of her mother, and how, in the face of unimaginable pain, she found freedom and healing.
Shari Franke’s childhood was a constant battle for survival. Her mother, Ruby Franke, enforced a severe moral code while maintaining a façade of a picture-perfect family for their wildly popular YouTube channel 8 Passengers, which documented the day-to-day life of raising six children for a staggering 2.5 million subscribers. But a darker truth lurked beneath the surface—Ruby’s wholesome online persona masked a more tyrannical parenting style than anyone could have imagined.
As the family’s YouTube notoriety grew, so too did Ruby’s delusions of righteousness. Fueled by the sadistic influence of relationship coach Jodi Hildebrandt, together they implemented an inhumane and merciless disciplinary regime.
Ruby and Jodi were arrested in Utah in 2023 on multiple charges of aggravated child abuse. On that fateful day, Shari shared a photo online of a police car outside their home. Her caption had one word: “Finally.�
For the first time, Shari will reveal the disturbing truth behind 8 Passengers and her family’s devastating involvement with Jodi Hildebrandt’s cultish life coaching program, “ConneXions.� No stone is left unturned as Shari exposes the perils of influencer culture and shares for the first time her battle for truth and survival in the face of her mother’s cruelty.
Shari Franke’s childhood was a constant battle for survival. Her mother, Ruby Franke, enforced a severe moral code while maintaining a façade of a picture-perfect family for their wildly popular YouTube channel 8 Passengers, which documented the day-to-day life of raising six children for a staggering 2.5 million subscribers. But a darker truth lurked beneath the surface—Ruby’s wholesome online persona masked a more tyrannical parenting style than anyone could have imagined.
As the family’s YouTube notoriety grew, so too did Ruby’s delusions of righteousness. Fueled by the sadistic influence of relationship coach Jodi Hildebrandt, together they implemented an inhumane and merciless disciplinary regime.
Ruby and Jodi were arrested in Utah in 2023 on multiple charges of aggravated child abuse. On that fateful day, Shari shared a photo online of a police car outside their home. Her caption had one word: “Finally.�
For the first time, Shari will reveal the disturbing truth behind 8 Passengers and her family’s devastating involvement with Jodi Hildebrandt’s cultish life coaching program, “ConneXions.� No stone is left unturned as Shari exposes the perils of influencer culture and shares for the first time her battle for truth and survival in the face of her mother’s cruelty.
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First published January 7, 2025
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February 6, 2025
SO impactful and important! This is exactly why i am so anti family vlog channels and any social media pages that use children for some type of income, before they are mature enough to understand what they are signing up for. this quote from chapter 48 stuck out to me the most: “I wondered how the public’s consumption of others� pain and suffering crossed the line from empathy to voyeurism? How quickly have we, as a society, become numb to the struggles of others, our capacity for compassion eroded by the sheer volume of human drama we’re exposed to daily?�
January 9, 2025
I� have so many thoughts and I’m not sure if it’s appropriate to pass judgement on this book or not. I will just say I feel like the author was SO close to realizing the role that her church played in her experiences of abuse and I hope she gets there some day.
January 8, 2025
UPDATE: I am SO GLAD Shari finally got to tell her story, without news outlets and social media exploiting her family. This had me in tears, my heart was racing for her. She is stronger than I could ever hope to be. I hope anyone who reads this can learn the patterns of abuse, that Shari lays out in her book. These topics are so important to prevent abuse for ourselves and to advocate for others. WELL DONE SHARI.
IM LOCKED IN. NEED THIS BOOK NOW. 2025 HERE WE COME
IM LOCKED IN. NEED THIS BOOK NOW. 2025 HERE WE COME
January 8, 2025
fuck mommy bloggers
January 21, 2025
rating based on my personal reading experience
as someone who was raised LDS and grew up in the same hometown as Ruby, this was as harrowing as it was relatable. homophobia, abuse, grooming, manipulation, and coercion all under the guise of being sweet little mormons? sounds about right!! this book was well written and insightful and raw.
it seemed like Shari was 🤏 THIS CLOSE to fully understanding the role that the LDS church played in all of the suffering she has experienced. but by the end, she continues to be a member and changes Wards, keeping on the red colored glasses. I truly wish her the best and I hope one day she can finally leave the shackles of this terrible church and see it for what it is.
I also commend Shari for sharing her story and doing so in an empathetic and non-exploitative way for her and her younger siblings. ending cycles of generational trauma is hard!! she is doing a fantastic job
as someone who was raised LDS and grew up in the same hometown as Ruby, this was as harrowing as it was relatable. homophobia, abuse, grooming, manipulation, and coercion all under the guise of being sweet little mormons? sounds about right!! this book was well written and insightful and raw.
it seemed like Shari was 🤏 THIS CLOSE to fully understanding the role that the LDS church played in all of the suffering she has experienced. but by the end, she continues to be a member and changes Wards, keeping on the red colored glasses. I truly wish her the best and I hope one day she can finally leave the shackles of this terrible church and see it for what it is.
I also commend Shari for sharing her story and doing so in an empathetic and non-exploitative way for her and her younger siblings. ending cycles of generational trauma is hard!! she is doing a fantastic job
January 12, 2025
"In the end, ConneXions didn't change Ruby's tactics, it just gave her a manual to refine them."
This was so unbelievably heartbreaking. I'll post my full review in the morning!
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January 16, 2025*I do not rate memoirs.*
I was one of the many people that was following the case against Jodi Hildebrant and Ruby Franke. I never watched Eight Passengers, and I don't watch family vlogging content in general (and yes, I'm very proud to say that.) I do, however, keep up with happenings in the Mormon space and that's how I was alerted of this case.
I think that Shari and her co-writer did an excellent job, this story was well written. I did listen via audio which Shari narrated. I did learn things about Shari, the abuse she experienced, and her family from this memoir. There is a lot that the public will know if you were following the case. I still think it's a worthwhile read because it's Shari's accounting, and she was an actual victim of the abuse from her mother and Jodi.
Shari is still very young, maybe 22? So I don't think you should expect this memoir to read as if it was written by someone who is late 20s, 30s, or 40s. Shari is still very close to the abuse she and her siblings endured. I think that with time, age, and experience, she may have a different perspective on the entire situation. And even with this, I still think it's worth it to read her story.
Shari shares growing up with Ruby and how she also questioned if she was loved, and I think that's something many people can relate to. She chronicles life as a young child and how her mother got into family vlogging. She talks about embarrassing life moments being captured and put on the internet for content. I didn't know that Shari had a channel, but she followed the footsteps of her mother and created a YouTube channel where she vlogged her life and her siblings. She owns that she too benefited from her siblings by using them as content, but it's what she was shown by Ruby. I also appreciate and applaud her for not naming her younger siblings or going into detail about them in this memoir.
Some people are upset because at the end of the day, Shari is still a member of the Mormon faith. I too find this frustrating but then I step back and remember she's 22. She's so young. I was never in a high demand religion, but I was naive at 22, so I'm not surprised. She also shows a lot of grace for her father, Kevin Franke, who I don't think deserves it, but he's not my father. If that is part of her healing, then so be it.
Overall, I think for someone so young, this was a good memoir. I would be interested to hear from her again in 5-10 years, when she's had more life experience and distance from the trauma, to see what she would say. I wonder if she will stick with the Mormon faith? She is currently engaged and to me, that's super young, but very in line with a traditional Mormon. I wish her the best in her healing journey, and hope that she can enjoy her life offline, and only come back into the spotlight if she wants to.
I was one of the many people that was following the case against Jodi Hildebrant and Ruby Franke. I never watched Eight Passengers, and I don't watch family vlogging content in general (and yes, I'm very proud to say that.) I do, however, keep up with happenings in the Mormon space and that's how I was alerted of this case.
I think that Shari and her co-writer did an excellent job, this story was well written. I did listen via audio which Shari narrated. I did learn things about Shari, the abuse she experienced, and her family from this memoir. There is a lot that the public will know if you were following the case. I still think it's a worthwhile read because it's Shari's accounting, and she was an actual victim of the abuse from her mother and Jodi.
Shari is still very young, maybe 22? So I don't think you should expect this memoir to read as if it was written by someone who is late 20s, 30s, or 40s. Shari is still very close to the abuse she and her siblings endured. I think that with time, age, and experience, she may have a different perspective on the entire situation. And even with this, I still think it's worth it to read her story.
Shari shares growing up with Ruby and how she also questioned if she was loved, and I think that's something many people can relate to. She chronicles life as a young child and how her mother got into family vlogging. She talks about embarrassing life moments being captured and put on the internet for content. I didn't know that Shari had a channel, but she followed the footsteps of her mother and created a YouTube channel where she vlogged her life and her siblings. She owns that she too benefited from her siblings by using them as content, but it's what she was shown by Ruby. I also appreciate and applaud her for not naming her younger siblings or going into detail about them in this memoir.
Some people are upset because at the end of the day, Shari is still a member of the Mormon faith. I too find this frustrating but then I step back and remember she's 22. She's so young. I was never in a high demand religion, but I was naive at 22, so I'm not surprised. She also shows a lot of grace for her father, Kevin Franke, who I don't think deserves it, but he's not my father. If that is part of her healing, then so be it.
Overall, I think for someone so young, this was a good memoir. I would be interested to hear from her again in 5-10 years, when she's had more life experience and distance from the trauma, to see what she would say. I wonder if she will stick with the Mormon faith? She is currently engaged and to me, that's super young, but very in line with a traditional Mormon. I wish her the best in her healing journey, and hope that she can enjoy her life offline, and only come back into the spotlight if she wants to.
January 8, 2025
Not the most compelling memoir I’ve ever read. The story was a little disjointed, and people seemed to enter and leave the narrative at confusing intervals. The author is clearly very young, and as much as I appreciate the therapeutic nature of telling one’s story, I think maybe a few more years of processing and better editing would have really served her well.
January 15, 2025
update: full review to come in the next few days, but this was absolutely phenomenal.
oh i have been WAITING for this. no one bother me on january 7th i will be VERY BUSY
oh i have been WAITING for this. no one bother me on january 7th i will be VERY BUSY
January 7, 2025
As someone who grew up watching various family vloggers to fill the void my own imperfect family left, I needed to read this book to support Shari Franke and also to unpack what my child self had created these families (including the Frankes) to be. This book is a beacon of hope, a story of strength and resilience. There are a few important messages Shari Franke highlights:
1. Children don’t belong on social media.
2. Our fascination with true crime stories has to stop. We need to stop instrumentalizing victims� pain for a few shocking images or a quick dose of: "Oh my lord, these poor souls." We must stop giving power to the evil and return it to those who have been beaten down.
3. This book was beautifully written. Shari Franke had something to say, and her team made sure her voice was heard.
What I found particularly striking in Shari’s story is how, despite her deep connection to the LDS faith, she was able to critically reflect on some of its shortcomings. Not everyone has the ability or opportunity to question their upbringing in such a profound way, and this really highlights some of the challenges of raising children within a highly demanding religion. In many cases, children raised in such environments can struggle to develop independent opinions, often prioritizing obedience over self-expression. It made me reflect on how much influence a faith like the LDS religion can have on shaping one’s worldview and decisions. Ruby and Jodi, like all of us, are products of their upbringing.
I am hopeful that this book will satisfy people's hunger for answers in this case, and that we can now truly let the family heal in peace. I also hope it opens the eyes of family vloggers who are exploiting their kids on a daily basis. It needs to stop.
1. Children don’t belong on social media.
2. Our fascination with true crime stories has to stop. We need to stop instrumentalizing victims� pain for a few shocking images or a quick dose of: "Oh my lord, these poor souls." We must stop giving power to the evil and return it to those who have been beaten down.
3. This book was beautifully written. Shari Franke had something to say, and her team made sure her voice was heard.
What I found particularly striking in Shari’s story is how, despite her deep connection to the LDS faith, she was able to critically reflect on some of its shortcomings. Not everyone has the ability or opportunity to question their upbringing in such a profound way, and this really highlights some of the challenges of raising children within a highly demanding religion. In many cases, children raised in such environments can struggle to develop independent opinions, often prioritizing obedience over self-expression. It made me reflect on how much influence a faith like the LDS religion can have on shaping one’s worldview and decisions. Ruby and Jodi, like all of us, are products of their upbringing.
I am hopeful that this book will satisfy people's hunger for answers in this case, and that we can now truly let the family heal in peace. I also hope it opens the eyes of family vloggers who are exploiting their kids on a daily basis. It needs to stop.
January 7, 2025
Shari is very brave for sharing her raw, vulnerable story. However, this book desperately needed another edit for continuity. I also felt some points weren’t given enough context (like why Shari and Chad went to different schools in the first place). I also think many questions were left unanswered (like what kind of relationship does she have with her mother’s family now). Of course she is under no obligation to answer these questions, but as a reader I felt there were many remaining questions that were left unaddressed.
January 8, 2025
I already know I’ll get kickback for this review. To start I want to say that this is (a small portion) of her lived experience and I never want to take from that. I rate all the books I read so this will be no different.
Read this book in one setting. Very easy read. But I have some thoughts.
I felt like this book was teased to the public for so long as if it were going to hold the key to what happened. Instead, I was met with 50% of this book being about Jodi with just snippets of an emotionally abusive mother and, in my honest opinion, a checked out father.
Another thing I could tell, and I say this gently, is that she was a product of being a YouTube vlog family member. I say this because I feel like she does the same thing without truly realizing it. Forget about her social media presence - but this book does exactly what a YouTube vlog channel would do where it bread crumbs just enough to where you’re left with questions. And a lot of them. EXAMPLE: the way this book was teased to the public as a tell all but again, was mainly about Jodi for half the book and sprinkled in how Shari dealt with her mother BUT doesn’t go into what it was her mother had done outside of taking away electronics, making her leave the track team, etc.
Like I said, good book in the sense that it was written well and very easy to read. But I’ll be shocked to read reviews within the next month that don’t say the same thing. This book was a tease for those who followed the Franke family prior to the drama and even during and after the drama. I’ve only ever watched a handful of their videos in years past but only followed the saga once the courts and law enforcement got involved. So I’m left with a lot of questions.
Read this book in one setting. Very easy read. But I have some thoughts.
I felt like this book was teased to the public for so long as if it were going to hold the key to what happened. Instead, I was met with 50% of this book being about Jodi with just snippets of an emotionally abusive mother and, in my honest opinion, a checked out father.
Another thing I could tell, and I say this gently, is that she was a product of being a YouTube vlog family member. I say this because I feel like she does the same thing without truly realizing it. Forget about her social media presence - but this book does exactly what a YouTube vlog channel would do where it bread crumbs just enough to where you’re left with questions. And a lot of them. EXAMPLE: the way this book was teased to the public as a tell all but again, was mainly about Jodi for half the book and sprinkled in how Shari dealt with her mother BUT doesn’t go into what it was her mother had done outside of taking away electronics, making her leave the track team, etc.
Like I said, good book in the sense that it was written well and very easy to read. But I’ll be shocked to read reviews within the next month that don’t say the same thing. This book was a tease for those who followed the Franke family prior to the drama and even during and after the drama. I’ve only ever watched a handful of their videos in years past but only followed the saga once the courts and law enforcement got involved. So I’m left with a lot of questions.
January 11, 2025
Shari is without a doubt a resilient and brave young woman and it was harrowing to read her story. I’m glad she got to share her experience, but I struggle to believe that this wouldn’t have been better as an essay or long-form article. It certainly felt like she was trying to reach the 300 page count with superfluous details and language.
I understand that she has full autonomy over what she chooses to share, but she left just enough breadcrumbs about her mother’s crimes that I was googling for actual information the second I finished reading. And while she chose to protect her siblings while not using their names, I wish she had just used pseudonyms rather than leaving them fully nameless, leaving some stories feeling strange and impersonal. Lastly, the timeline here was hard to follow. Specific dates were helpful to guide the story, but between them I struggled to determine if she was discussing time periods of days or months.
Strong girl!! Wish her the best!! Was happy to buy this book and contribute to her livelihood!! But can’t recommend reading it at all.
I understand that she has full autonomy over what she chooses to share, but she left just enough breadcrumbs about her mother’s crimes that I was googling for actual information the second I finished reading. And while she chose to protect her siblings while not using their names, I wish she had just used pseudonyms rather than leaving them fully nameless, leaving some stories feeling strange and impersonal. Lastly, the timeline here was hard to follow. Specific dates were helpful to guide the story, but between them I struggled to determine if she was discussing time periods of days or months.
Strong girl!! Wish her the best!! Was happy to buy this book and contribute to her livelihood!! But can’t recommend reading it at all.
February 3, 2025
The kids of family vloggers are now old enough to publicly talk about their experiences, and these stories are not pretty: Shari Franke is the daughter of , who ran the YouTube family channel "8 Passengers" about her life with six children. At the moment, Ruby is incarcerated for aggravated child abuse: For years, she has forced her offspring to perform in front of the camera, exploiting their turmoil for views, emotionally manipulating them, enforcing strict rules and punishments - until she teamed up with , head of the counseling business ConneXions, a religiously infused NLP scheme that helped the two women rationalize even more gaslighting and abuse. What happened to Jodi, you ask? Jail. For aggravated child abuse.
Shari is now 22 years old, and her ghostwriters did a good job conveying her young voice and viewpoints - something tells me that in a few years, she might judge some aspects differently, and I'm here to learn about that as well. For instance, she largely exculpates her father Kevin, effectively putting him on the same level as the children: A naive, weak victim who was manipulated by his narcissistic wife. But this is a grown-ass man with a college degree responsible for protecting his kids - instead, he stood buy, remaining avoidant and passive. Ruby, on the other hand, gets all the anger: I'm not saying that Shari somehow has to forgive her, not at all, but her mother apparently has some serious psychological issues (that do not excuse anything, but still: why is the dad the pure saint and she's the pure witch?). Then, Ruby remains strangely attached to the Mormon church that played into her abuse (and her mom's issues), at the end even consulting a bishop about whether she would have to deal with her mom in the afterlife - I'm not saying that being religious is bad, but there's some space for reflection about how NLP and extreme religiosity in some cases connect.
What renders this book so important is that often, the media literacy of recipients is still not high enough to question digital content, especially when it's highly polished influencer videos designed to generate clicks and move product by creating the idea of a perfect family. It's not only that the parents ignore their children's rights, but the parasocial relationship between audience and creators keeps some viewers from even entertaining the thought that this might all be to the detriment of the kids: "But Ruby looks like such a good mother!" Yeah, she apparently looked like it, but even then, you had to look not very closely.
Great literature this is not, but this is not about aesthetics, it's about self-empowerment. So good for Shari that she gets her own voice back to set the record straight about her childhood.
Shari is now 22 years old, and her ghostwriters did a good job conveying her young voice and viewpoints - something tells me that in a few years, she might judge some aspects differently, and I'm here to learn about that as well. For instance, she largely exculpates her father Kevin, effectively putting him on the same level as the children: A naive, weak victim who was manipulated by his narcissistic wife. But this is a grown-ass man with a college degree responsible for protecting his kids - instead, he stood buy, remaining avoidant and passive. Ruby, on the other hand, gets all the anger: I'm not saying that Shari somehow has to forgive her, not at all, but her mother apparently has some serious psychological issues (that do not excuse anything, but still: why is the dad the pure saint and she's the pure witch?). Then, Ruby remains strangely attached to the Mormon church that played into her abuse (and her mom's issues), at the end even consulting a bishop about whether she would have to deal with her mom in the afterlife - I'm not saying that being religious is bad, but there's some space for reflection about how NLP and extreme religiosity in some cases connect.
What renders this book so important is that often, the media literacy of recipients is still not high enough to question digital content, especially when it's highly polished influencer videos designed to generate clicks and move product by creating the idea of a perfect family. It's not only that the parents ignore their children's rights, but the parasocial relationship between audience and creators keeps some viewers from even entertaining the thought that this might all be to the detriment of the kids: "But Ruby looks like such a good mother!" Yeah, she apparently looked like it, but even then, you had to look not very closely.
Great literature this is not, but this is not about aesthetics, it's about self-empowerment. So good for Shari that she gets her own voice back to set the record straight about her childhood.
January 22, 2025
Goodness! What a book....4.5
What Worked:The House of My Mother was an unexpected read. To be honest, I forgot that this book was even releasing this year, but I wanted to make sure I got to it this month. There isn't much that I can say about this book that Shari doesn't say for herself. I knew a little bit about the family based on information that was in the media regarding the case. However, I don't think that I realized what these kids experienced at the hands of someone who was supposed to be a provider and nurturer. And based on what I've learned about the laws in Utah, I highly doubt that Ruby will serve enough time to fit the crime.
This isn't the last book that we're going to see from kids of "mommy vloggers" or "family vloggers." Exploiting children for money and fame has detrimental consequences and the children who are forced to endure this abuse will not remain silent forever. It takes a certain type of strength to relive that trauma and expose it to the world in the hope that you gain control of the narrative. I hope that Shari gains some peace from this and is able to move forward with her life. While I do think that she has some reckoning to do with her church, especially as it pertains to abuse, this was a personal journey that Shari needed to take without the assistance or influence of anyone else. I was particularly proud of her for not sharing the stories of her siblings as she felt that was their own story to tell. Exploiting their experiences with abuse for this book would make her no different than Ruby.
Overall, this was an impactful and powerful read. Shari did an excellent job writing this book.
What Worked:The House of My Mother was an unexpected read. To be honest, I forgot that this book was even releasing this year, but I wanted to make sure I got to it this month. There isn't much that I can say about this book that Shari doesn't say for herself. I knew a little bit about the family based on information that was in the media regarding the case. However, I don't think that I realized what these kids experienced at the hands of someone who was supposed to be a provider and nurturer. And based on what I've learned about the laws in Utah, I highly doubt that Ruby will serve enough time to fit the crime.
This isn't the last book that we're going to see from kids of "mommy vloggers" or "family vloggers." Exploiting children for money and fame has detrimental consequences and the children who are forced to endure this abuse will not remain silent forever. It takes a certain type of strength to relive that trauma and expose it to the world in the hope that you gain control of the narrative. I hope that Shari gains some peace from this and is able to move forward with her life. While I do think that she has some reckoning to do with her church, especially as it pertains to abuse, this was a personal journey that Shari needed to take without the assistance or influence of anyone else. I was particularly proud of her for not sharing the stories of her siblings as she felt that was their own story to tell. Exploiting their experiences with abuse for this book would make her no different than Ruby.
Overall, this was an impactful and powerful read. Shari did an excellent job writing this book.
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January 19, 2025I truly don’t know how to write a review of this because I have no words. My jaw was constantly on the floor & tears filled my eyes many times. A heartbreaking & wild story told by such a resilient & brave woman.
January 17, 2025
This is not a review of the authors experience or the horrific circumstances of child abuse.
The author is clearly very young and the language and storytelling exemplifies that. I think this would be better told if she were to have written it in a few years. It is also very clearly written by a ghost writer.
The story felt like a high school essay where you have not met the minimum word count. It feels like she is constantly describing the scene without actually saying anything. She details her love of true crime earlier in the book but then vilifies the people who talk about her family’s story. So more time to separate herself from the events may have given her a sense of reflection.
I felt her team capitalized on the timing of the arrest and it seemed rushed
The author is clearly very young and the language and storytelling exemplifies that. I think this would be better told if she were to have written it in a few years. It is also very clearly written by a ghost writer.
The story felt like a high school essay where you have not met the minimum word count. It feels like she is constantly describing the scene without actually saying anything. She details her love of true crime earlier in the book but then vilifies the people who talk about her family’s story. So more time to separate herself from the events may have given her a sense of reflection.
I felt her team capitalized on the timing of the arrest and it seemed rushed
March 13, 2025
5⭐️ because fuck Ruby Franke and Jodi Hildebrandt.
February 9, 2025
REVIEW TO COME😭💔😭💔!!!!!!!!!
Wowza, I haven't had a five star read in a while😱!!!!!!!
Wowza, I haven't had a five star read in a while😱!!!!!!!
January 11, 2025
If you had told me three years ago, that I would be sitting here writing a review on Shari's book that outlined the horrors that she endured at the hands of a sick narcissist that was a sorry excuse for anything close to a 'mother', I would have laughed in your face in absolute disbelief. I was an avid 8 passengers watcher during my early teenage years - ever fascinated by their family dynamic of 6 kids and the LDS church. But when the video of Chad talking about how he slept on a beanbag for 7 months due to a harmless prank came out, I was appalled and had screen-recorded the video and uploaded it to TikTok, gaining virality as many other users shared their shock in the comment section of my video attempting to 'expose' Ruby. After that, even though I ended up deleting my account (out of guilt that I had taken the video out of context - when now that I know it was exactly as bad as portrayed) many other accounts followed and continued to post about Ruby and her despicable treatment of her children and I continued to watch from afar, hoping that nothing worse would ever come of it.
However, reading Shari's book, I literally have nothing to say other than 'holy shit'. The treatment she was subjected to, does not warrant anything but extreme rage and disbelief at the depth of Ruby's deception. How could someone have treated their children that way, yet play the role of the 'pinnacle of perfect parenting and motherhood' online? After finishing this, I am left angry. Angry at Ruby, angry for Shari and her siblings, and angry at the institutions that were meant to protect her and her siblings.
The way that Shari carried, expressed herself and her story, was inspiring and I have nothing to say but that she is incredible and her resilience, faith and strength should be admired. The phrase 'you are the product of your environment' is one that shrouds the very notion of parenting and motherhood, yet Shari remains unwavering in her commitment to her faith, and her courage and kindness despite her circumstances is to be revered.
It was a confronting read, particularly during the parts of the book where she outlined the behaviours and 'teachings' of cult leader, Jodi Hildebrant, but I think the exposure of these practices and how these 'cults' of religious extremism work are absolutely necessary.
Overall, this story of Ruby Franke and 8 Passengers will truly stay with me for a long time, and I urge people (even without previous knowledge of the case) to read this.
However, reading Shari's book, I literally have nothing to say other than 'holy shit'. The treatment she was subjected to, does not warrant anything but extreme rage and disbelief at the depth of Ruby's deception. How could someone have treated their children that way, yet play the role of the 'pinnacle of perfect parenting and motherhood' online? After finishing this, I am left angry. Angry at Ruby, angry for Shari and her siblings, and angry at the institutions that were meant to protect her and her siblings.
The way that Shari carried, expressed herself and her story, was inspiring and I have nothing to say but that she is incredible and her resilience, faith and strength should be admired. The phrase 'you are the product of your environment' is one that shrouds the very notion of parenting and motherhood, yet Shari remains unwavering in her commitment to her faith, and her courage and kindness despite her circumstances is to be revered.
It was a confronting read, particularly during the parts of the book where she outlined the behaviours and 'teachings' of cult leader, Jodi Hildebrant, but I think the exposure of these practices and how these 'cults' of religious extremism work are absolutely necessary.
Overall, this story of Ruby Franke and 8 Passengers will truly stay with me for a long time, and I urge people (even without previous knowledge of the case) to read this.
February 18, 2025
Last year, an echo of Ruby Franke's case reached my distant Estonia, though I wasn't interested in the topic at the time. On August 30th, 2023, in Ivans, Utah, an emaciated boy knocked on a stranger's door. Grey duct tape was wrapped around his wrists and ankles. He was hungry and thirsty, and the first thing he asked for was to call the police. The boy believed his other siblings were still in the Jodi Hilderbrandt's house, from which he escaped through the window. Even more horrifying was his assumption that his siblings might have been dead...
Shari Franke, the daughter of Ruby Franke, who was sentenced to four prison terms for aggravated child abuse, shares her family's story in a raw and vulnerable manner. I listened to an audiobook, told by Shari herself, and I could hear restrained tears in her words. Ruby Franke (and Shari always calls her Ruby, not mother, throughout the book) turned her house into a stage, her six children into live show actors, with herself as an infallible mother figure in the lead. Behind the camera with a perfect picture lay physical and psychological abuse such as deprivation of food and bed - Ruby made her oldest son sleep on bean bags - and retaliation if children misbehaved (she threatened to behead her daughter's favorite toy). Ruby's parenting methods became more extreme when she met a self-proclaimed mental health counselor Jodi Hildebrandt, who ran an organization ConneXions that could be called a cult, based on pseudo-psychology.
I keep wondering how many children nowadays are suffering from their mother's obsession with conservative values and money, their greed supported by the monetization of social platforms. Likes/follows can't justify the children's exploitation. Moreover, the great expectations born after seeing how their peers enjoy seemingly luxurious, carefree lives obscure the reality for the young audience.
As the trial over Ruby and Jodi ended, Shari and her father, conformable to the point of insignificance in his children's previous lives, started to reassemble their family. Shari Franke wrote THE HOUSE OF MY MOTHER to counterbalance the misinformation around the case. I'm sure she'll reexamine her feelings and learn more about herself as time passes.
Shari Franke, the daughter of Ruby Franke, who was sentenced to four prison terms for aggravated child abuse, shares her family's story in a raw and vulnerable manner. I listened to an audiobook, told by Shari herself, and I could hear restrained tears in her words. Ruby Franke (and Shari always calls her Ruby, not mother, throughout the book) turned her house into a stage, her six children into live show actors, with herself as an infallible mother figure in the lead. Behind the camera with a perfect picture lay physical and psychological abuse such as deprivation of food and bed - Ruby made her oldest son sleep on bean bags - and retaliation if children misbehaved (she threatened to behead her daughter's favorite toy). Ruby's parenting methods became more extreme when she met a self-proclaimed mental health counselor Jodi Hildebrandt, who ran an organization ConneXions that could be called a cult, based on pseudo-psychology.
I keep wondering how many children nowadays are suffering from their mother's obsession with conservative values and money, their greed supported by the monetization of social platforms. Likes/follows can't justify the children's exploitation. Moreover, the great expectations born after seeing how their peers enjoy seemingly luxurious, carefree lives obscure the reality for the young audience.
As the trial over Ruby and Jodi ended, Shari and her father, conformable to the point of insignificance in his children's previous lives, started to reassemble their family. Shari Franke wrote THE HOUSE OF MY MOTHER to counterbalance the misinformation around the case. I'm sure she'll reexamine her feelings and learn more about herself as time passes.
January 8, 2025
Wow. It is difficult to convey just how powerful this book is.
The House of My Mother is vulnerable, devastating, and inspiring. I was completely gripped and disgusted in parts as Shari Franke shares an insight into her childhood into adulthood which consisted of years of Ruby Franke’s emotional manipulation and abuse, long before she decided to pick up a camera and share selective parts of her family’s life with the world. Family vlogging is a significant issue that all legal systems need to start paying closer attention to, and the author has articulated this perfectly.
The book sheds light on narcissism and how disconnected from reality these individuals can be—delusional at times and, in cases like this, outright dangerous. This danger is magnified when influenced and guided by someone like Jodi Hildebrandt, a cult leader with horrific views and alarming power. I use the word 'guided' lightly because Ruby Franke is certainly not a victim in this story, no matter how much she tries to portray herself as one.
Shari Franke has shown incredible strength in navigating and overcoming such dark periods of her life, and has translated this great pain into something which is profound and beautiful. I hope she and her family find as much happiness as possible in their futures—they truly deserve it.
The House of My Mother is vulnerable, devastating, and inspiring. I was completely gripped and disgusted in parts as Shari Franke shares an insight into her childhood into adulthood which consisted of years of Ruby Franke’s emotional manipulation and abuse, long before she decided to pick up a camera and share selective parts of her family’s life with the world. Family vlogging is a significant issue that all legal systems need to start paying closer attention to, and the author has articulated this perfectly.
The book sheds light on narcissism and how disconnected from reality these individuals can be—delusional at times and, in cases like this, outright dangerous. This danger is magnified when influenced and guided by someone like Jodi Hildebrandt, a cult leader with horrific views and alarming power. I use the word 'guided' lightly because Ruby Franke is certainly not a victim in this story, no matter how much she tries to portray herself as one.
Shari Franke has shown incredible strength in navigating and overcoming such dark periods of her life, and has translated this great pain into something which is profound and beautiful. I hope she and her family find as much happiness as possible in their futures—they truly deserve it.
February 19, 2025
This book should be Exhibit A for why “family vlogging� is a horrible idea. The author is the eldest daughter of Ruby Franke, the now infamous Utah mommy influencer who was arrested for abusing her children. This book depicts Shari’s childhood growing up simultaneously under Ruby’s thumb and in the public eye, and what it’s like to become a young adult after such a traumatic childhood.
The story was gripping, but what I appreciated most about it was Shari’s decision to limit the scope to her own story. The only sibling she refers to by name is her adult brother, and she reveals very few details on her younger siblings� lives. Her choice to give them some privacy after a childhood where they were robbed of it is admirable. It’s clear that she is a very mature and empathetic young woman who, if she has children someday, will not follow in her mother’s footsteps.
This book was incredible and I finished it in a single day. You definitely don’t need to have watched the family’s YouTube videos to enjoy it (I’ve certainly never seen them and don’t plan to).
The story was gripping, but what I appreciated most about it was Shari’s decision to limit the scope to her own story. The only sibling she refers to by name is her adult brother, and she reveals very few details on her younger siblings� lives. Her choice to give them some privacy after a childhood where they were robbed of it is admirable. It’s clear that she is a very mature and empathetic young woman who, if she has children someday, will not follow in her mother’s footsteps.
This book was incredible and I finished it in a single day. You definitely don’t need to have watched the family’s YouTube videos to enjoy it (I’ve certainly never seen them and don’t plan to).
January 13, 2025
I was really looking forward to this book, but I found it disappointing. Super easy read, not boring but not exactly captivating. I don’t know how else to say this, so I don’t mean it as harsh as it sounds, but it feels like she was the wrong family member to write this story. There’s almost no new information, which while I understand her desire for privacy, “writing� a book that just repeats well known things isn’t exactly a great story. I’m also personally disappointed that she didn’t become aware that she is also brainwashed by the LDS Church, especially considering what happened with Derek & how SHE was punished and he wasn’t. She’s still young, so maybe she’ll get there one day. Overall, the book was fine, Shari seems like a sweet but naïve young woman, but the book as a whole lacked substance.
Edited to add/clarify: I don’t think most of you people realize Shari didn’t write this book. She had a ghost writer.
Edited to add/clarify: I don’t think most of you people realize Shari didn’t write this book. She had a ghost writer.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
March 21, 2025
Insightful, disturbing, heartbreaking and raw!
Shari Frank’s is the eldest daughter of Ruby and Kevin Franke, and reluctant cast member of the hit YouTube show �8 Passengers.� The reality show that provided a glimpse into an LDS family living in Utah quickly gained 2.5 million subscribers. However, when Ruby joined ConneXions, the brain child of relationship coach Jodi Hildebrandt, viewers noticed that a very harsh disciplinary regime was enacted on the Franke children. Were viewers watching child abuse in real time? Shari exposes the truth behind Hildebrandt’s dangerous influence on her family and her quest to free them from a religious cult.
Having never heard of this case or the popular YouTube series before I read Shari’s memoir, I went into reading this book blind. Shari is an extremely intelligent 22 year old with incredible courage. As the eldest sibling, she attended college while her siblings were stuck at home in a nightmare. While completely abandoned by her family due to questioning Ruby’s behavior, she struggles to find her own way while also taking down Ruby and Jodi. As a newbie to this story, I didn’t learn very much about the actual YouTube show and felt compelled to watch an episode. Can you believe it’s still on YouTube?! I think my experience with the memoir would have been different if I had watched the show prior to reading it. However, the memoir is harrowing and extremely well-written for someone so young.
I listened to the audiobook which is read by the author. I highly recommend this format.
4.5/5 stars rounded down
Trigger warnings: child abuse, cults, grooming
Shari Frank’s is the eldest daughter of Ruby and Kevin Franke, and reluctant cast member of the hit YouTube show �8 Passengers.� The reality show that provided a glimpse into an LDS family living in Utah quickly gained 2.5 million subscribers. However, when Ruby joined ConneXions, the brain child of relationship coach Jodi Hildebrandt, viewers noticed that a very harsh disciplinary regime was enacted on the Franke children. Were viewers watching child abuse in real time? Shari exposes the truth behind Hildebrandt’s dangerous influence on her family and her quest to free them from a religious cult.
Having never heard of this case or the popular YouTube series before I read Shari’s memoir, I went into reading this book blind. Shari is an extremely intelligent 22 year old with incredible courage. As the eldest sibling, she attended college while her siblings were stuck at home in a nightmare. While completely abandoned by her family due to questioning Ruby’s behavior, she struggles to find her own way while also taking down Ruby and Jodi. As a newbie to this story, I didn’t learn very much about the actual YouTube show and felt compelled to watch an episode. Can you believe it’s still on YouTube?! I think my experience with the memoir would have been different if I had watched the show prior to reading it. However, the memoir is harrowing and extremely well-written for someone so young.
I listened to the audiobook which is read by the author. I highly recommend this format.
4.5/5 stars rounded down
Trigger warnings: child abuse, cults, grooming
January 11, 2025
Shari Franke offers raw and harrowing account of growing up in an emotionally abusive home as part of a vlogger family, where things eventually escalated to the point of her mom being arrested for abuse of her younger siblings.
As the oldest child, she went off to college around when things began to get really bad, as her mom fell under the influence of a therapist with harmful methods and a cultlike following. She opens up about how this history of abuse opened her up to grooming from a predatory older man, and what it was like to eventually find freedom and begin to pursue healing. The Franke's are Mormon and while Shari is critical of the church, she remains firm in her faith on a personal level.
I don't think this is the last book we will get from children raised in what seemed to be picture perfect conditions on a family vlogging channel where there was more going on behind the scenes. We need legal protections for kids in this situation, at the very least to address the potential for financial abuse. There are laws to protect kids who act in film and tv, but not for kids where their parents are the ones filming them and profiting off of it. It's such an important topic to talk about. This was a brave and well-written memoir that is worth a read if you can deal with the content. Note that she intentionally focuses on her own experiences, rather than on some of the physical abuse of the younger kids that was documented in the court case.
As the oldest child, she went off to college around when things began to get really bad, as her mom fell under the influence of a therapist with harmful methods and a cultlike following. She opens up about how this history of abuse opened her up to grooming from a predatory older man, and what it was like to eventually find freedom and begin to pursue healing. The Franke's are Mormon and while Shari is critical of the church, she remains firm in her faith on a personal level.
I don't think this is the last book we will get from children raised in what seemed to be picture perfect conditions on a family vlogging channel where there was more going on behind the scenes. We need legal protections for kids in this situation, at the very least to address the potential for financial abuse. There are laws to protect kids who act in film and tv, but not for kids where their parents are the ones filming them and profiting off of it. It's such an important topic to talk about. This was a brave and well-written memoir that is worth a read if you can deal with the content. Note that she intentionally focuses on her own experiences, rather than on some of the physical abuse of the younger kids that was documented in the court case.
January 23, 2025
The author clearly had a difficult upbringing, and I empathize, but this book felt like the first draft of someone’s college application essay. “Show, don’t tell,� I muttered to myself on nearly every page. Shari’s claims about her mother’s emotional abuse are repetitive and vague, leaving the reader confused about what actually happened in this family. All I got was that Ruby was strict about talking Shari talking to boys (annoying but regular LDS stufff), forced her to play a lot of piano, and always shoved a camera in their faces. That’s all terrible, to be clear, but it is not enough to fill a memoir. I was craving more color, more detail. It never materialized.
Another problem is Shari’s refusal to name or share information about (even under pseudonyms) four of her five siblings. What was the dynamic between all these kids and their parents? How old are all the siblings, and what are their personalities like? Did Ruby treat them all differently from one another? There was no detail whatsoever. I recognize that Shari wants to protect her siblings� privacy, but then� she should not have written this book.
This may seem minor but I was also confused about who was paying her college tuition and room and board? What were the financial dynamics, in general, in this family? How did she form such a close relationship with her fake new Mom and Dad? What did her family think of them? Did her siblings have any relationships like that with surrogate parents?
Finally, nothing about the dad made sense. Where was he? What was his point of view? How exactly did she reconcile with him? What is happening?!??
This should not have been published as a memoir. With the right editor, it would have been a compelling essay.
Another problem is Shari’s refusal to name or share information about (even under pseudonyms) four of her five siblings. What was the dynamic between all these kids and their parents? How old are all the siblings, and what are their personalities like? Did Ruby treat them all differently from one another? There was no detail whatsoever. I recognize that Shari wants to protect her siblings� privacy, but then� she should not have written this book.
This may seem minor but I was also confused about who was paying her college tuition and room and board? What were the financial dynamics, in general, in this family? How did she form such a close relationship with her fake new Mom and Dad? What did her family think of them? Did her siblings have any relationships like that with surrogate parents?
Finally, nothing about the dad made sense. Where was he? What was his point of view? How exactly did she reconcile with him? What is happening?!??
This should not have been published as a memoir. With the right editor, it would have been a compelling essay.
January 31, 2025
I've never watched family vloggers and I had no idea who Ruby Franke was until she got arrested, but I've been following the story since, and obviously had to give Shari's book a read.
It was incredibly heartbreaking and hard to listen to at times, because of what she and her siblings went through.
The book is narrated by the author, which made the listening experience more personal, and we got to see what her family's life was like pre vlogging, during vlogging and gaining popularity, when Jodi entered the picture and after everything went down.
It shows us that the abuse didn't start with Jodi, Ruby had been abusive loooong before she met her. I can't even imagine treating your own kids like that, and exploiting them for content the way she did.
I'm glad that both of them are behind bars (hopefully for a very long time) so the kids can try to heal as much as possible. And I'm grateful Shari got to share this with us, she didn't have to, but she decided to be brave it and let it all out anyway.
I'd love to see an updated memoir a decade or two down the line to see how she's doing, I'm sincerely hoping that she's going to thrive and live her best life, she deserves it.
It was incredibly heartbreaking and hard to listen to at times, because of what she and her siblings went through.
The book is narrated by the author, which made the listening experience more personal, and we got to see what her family's life was like pre vlogging, during vlogging and gaining popularity, when Jodi entered the picture and after everything went down.
It shows us that the abuse didn't start with Jodi, Ruby had been abusive loooong before she met her. I can't even imagine treating your own kids like that, and exploiting them for content the way she did.
I'm glad that both of them are behind bars (hopefully for a very long time) so the kids can try to heal as much as possible. And I'm grateful Shari got to share this with us, she didn't have to, but she decided to be brave it and let it all out anyway.
I'd love to see an updated memoir a decade or two down the line to see how she's doing, I'm sincerely hoping that she's going to thrive and live her best life, she deserves it.
March 20, 2025
the setup�
Shari Franke is the eldest of her six siblings, the daughter of infamous Ruby Franke, the woman behind the former wildly successful YouTube channel 8 Passengers parenting vlog. Ruby was charged and convicted last year of aggravated child abuse and is currently in prison. Shari shares her personal relationship with an emotionally abusive mother and how she emerged and survived. Look to other sources (I urge you to do so) for the details of what Ruby Franke and Jodi Hildebrandt, her partner in crime, perpetrated on this family.
the heart of the story�
It’s important to distinguish Shari’s abuse from that of her younger siblings who experienced severe physical abuse after she left home. From her earliest memories, Shari never felt the warmth and affection most children expect and receive from their mothers. It worsened after the vlog was launched and gained traction, with Shari experiencing a different relationship with Ruby on camera. It’s also a strange brew of Ruby’s narcissistic approach to parenting couched in values of the Mormon practices that helped justify her perspectives. It’s remarkable that Shari was able to rise out of this with the clarity that she was being emotionally abused. Where was her father Kevin during this time? Great question.
the narration�
I prefer to listen to a memoir in the author’s own voice, even if they’re less skilled at the storytelling. While it felt like Shari Franke was reading, I could still hear her when she was relating those aspects she felt most deeply. I’m glad I listened.
the bottom line�
I strongly appreciated that this was Shari’s insights without exploitation of her mother and siblings. Her emotional growth from childhood to adulthood is nothing short of miraculous given her circumstances. While I think she’s still got a long road to travel, especially with her forgiveness of a father I find questionable and her continued participation in the Church of Latter Day Saints (Mormon) that was a contributor, she’s doing the work and her insights will evolve. In the meantime, I’m just happy she survived the madness. 3.5 stars
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(Thanks to Simon & Schuster Audio and Libro.fm for my complimentary copy. All opinions are my own.)
Shari Franke is the eldest of her six siblings, the daughter of infamous Ruby Franke, the woman behind the former wildly successful YouTube channel 8 Passengers parenting vlog. Ruby was charged and convicted last year of aggravated child abuse and is currently in prison. Shari shares her personal relationship with an emotionally abusive mother and how she emerged and survived. Look to other sources (I urge you to do so) for the details of what Ruby Franke and Jodi Hildebrandt, her partner in crime, perpetrated on this family.
the heart of the story�
It’s important to distinguish Shari’s abuse from that of her younger siblings who experienced severe physical abuse after she left home. From her earliest memories, Shari never felt the warmth and affection most children expect and receive from their mothers. It worsened after the vlog was launched and gained traction, with Shari experiencing a different relationship with Ruby on camera. It’s also a strange brew of Ruby’s narcissistic approach to parenting couched in values of the Mormon practices that helped justify her perspectives. It’s remarkable that Shari was able to rise out of this with the clarity that she was being emotionally abused. Where was her father Kevin during this time? Great question.
the narration�
I prefer to listen to a memoir in the author’s own voice, even if they’re less skilled at the storytelling. While it felt like Shari Franke was reading, I could still hear her when she was relating those aspects she felt most deeply. I’m glad I listened.
the bottom line�
I strongly appreciated that this was Shari’s insights without exploitation of her mother and siblings. Her emotional growth from childhood to adulthood is nothing short of miraculous given her circumstances. While I think she’s still got a long road to travel, especially with her forgiveness of a father I find questionable and her continued participation in the Church of Latter Day Saints (Mormon) that was a contributor, she’s doing the work and her insights will evolve. In the meantime, I’m just happy she survived the madness. 3.5 stars
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(Thanks to Simon & Schuster Audio and Libro.fm for my complimentary copy. All opinions are my own.)
January 30, 2025
Wow.. just wow. What these kids went through.
I had never heard of this family or the mom’s YouTube channel prior to this book, but I am pretty familiar with Mormonism, Mormon family life, and the almost seemingly unavoidable bad outcomes that families have whose children are part of either a reality tv show or a heavily monetized YouTube/social channel face. Almost always, it seems like being on screens ruins their family somehow. Unfortunately, the Franke family was torn apart by not just the effects of a public life, but also by what seems to be a very malevolent woman, Jodi. That being said, the mother (Ruby) has very serious issues herself and was not a good mother even prior to the brainwashing from Jodi.
I have so much empathy for what Shari went through and how she seems to have taken the reigns on her life and refused to allow her mother and her upbringing shape her adulthood. I also really respected how she kept her younger siblings experiences almost completely private, noting that their stories were not hers to tell.
This memoir is a story of absolutely horrid parenting, but it is also a story of courage and resilience, and of strength.
I listened to the audiobook and it was well-narrated.
5 stars!
I had never heard of this family or the mom’s YouTube channel prior to this book, but I am pretty familiar with Mormonism, Mormon family life, and the almost seemingly unavoidable bad outcomes that families have whose children are part of either a reality tv show or a heavily monetized YouTube/social channel face. Almost always, it seems like being on screens ruins their family somehow. Unfortunately, the Franke family was torn apart by not just the effects of a public life, but also by what seems to be a very malevolent woman, Jodi. That being said, the mother (Ruby) has very serious issues herself and was not a good mother even prior to the brainwashing from Jodi.
I have so much empathy for what Shari went through and how she seems to have taken the reigns on her life and refused to allow her mother and her upbringing shape her adulthood. I also really respected how she kept her younger siblings experiences almost completely private, noting that their stories were not hers to tell.
This memoir is a story of absolutely horrid parenting, but it is also a story of courage and resilience, and of strength.
I listened to the audiobook and it was well-narrated.
5 stars!
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