Amir's bookshelf: read en-US Fri, 21 Mar 2025 00:04:11 -0700 60 Amir's bookshelf: read 144 41 /images/layout/goodreads_logo_144.jpg <![CDATA[The Hard Thing About Hard Things: Building a Business When There Are No Easy Answers―Straight Talk on the Challenges of Entrepreneurship]]> 18176747
In The Hard Thing About Hard Things, Ben Horowitz, cofounder of Andreessen Horowitz and one of Silicon Valley's most respected and experienced entrepreneurs, draws on his own story of founding, running, selling, buying, managing, and investing in technology companies to offer essential advice and practical wisdom for navigating the toughest problems business schools don't cover. His blog has garnered a devoted following of millions of readers who have come to rely on him to help them run their businesses. A lifelong rap fan, Horowitz amplifies business lessons with lyrics from his favorite songs and tells it straight about everything from firing friends to poaching competitors, from cultivating and sustaining a CEO mentality to knowing the right time to cash in.

His advice is grounded in anecdotes from his own hard-earned rise—from cofounding the early cloud service provider Loudcloud to building the phenomenally successful Andreessen Horowitz venture capital firm, both with fellow tech superstar Marc Andreessen (inventor of Mosaic, the Internet's first popular Web browser). This is no polished victory lap; he analyzes issues with no easy answers through his trials, including demoting (or firing) a loyal friend;
whether you should incorporate titles and promotions, and how to handle them;
if it's OK to hire people from your friend's company; how to manage your own psychology, while the whole company is relying on you; what to do when smart people are bad employees; why Andreessen Horowitz prefers founder CEOs, and how to become one; whether you should sell your company, and how to do it.

Filled with Horowitz's trademark humor and straight talk, and drawing from his personal and often humbling experiences, The Hard Thing About Hard Things is invaluable for veteran entrepreneurs as well as those aspiring to their own new ventures.]]> 304 Ben Horowitz 0062273205 Amir 4 entrepreneurship 4.20 2014 The Hard Thing About Hard Things: Building a Business When There Are No Easy Answers―Straight Talk on the Challenges of Entrepreneurship
author: Ben Horowitz
name: Amir
average rating: 4.20
book published: 2014
rating: 4
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]]> <![CDATA[A Random Walk Down Wall Street: The Time-Tested Strategy for Successful Investing]]> 40242274

The answer: turn to Burton G. Malkiel’s advice in his reassuring, authoritative, gimmick-free, and perennially best-selling guide to investing. Long established as the first book to purchase before starting a portfolio or 401(k), A Random Walk Down Wall Street now features new material on “tax-loss harvesting,� the crown jewel of tax management; the current bitcoin bubble; and automated investment advisers; as well as a brand-new chapter on factor investing and risk parity. And as always, Malkiel’s core insights—on stocks and bonds, as well as real estate investment trusts, home ownership, and tangible assets like gold and collectibles� along with the book’s classic life-cycle guide to investing, will help restore confidence and composure to anyone seeking a calm route through today’s financial markets.]]> 432 Burton G. Malkiel 1324002182 Amir 0 to-read 4.18 1973 A Random Walk Down Wall Street: The Time-Tested Strategy for Successful Investing
author: Burton G. Malkiel
name: Amir
average rating: 4.18
book published: 1973
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]]> <![CDATA[ایران، جامعه کوتاه‌مد� و سه مقاله دیگر]]> 13517353 165 Homa Katouzian Amir 3 3.75 2012 ایران، جامعه کوتاه‌مدت و سه مقاله دیگر
author: Homa Katouzian
name: Amir
average rating: 3.75
book published: 2012
rating: 3
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]]> <![CDATA[Continuous Deployment: Enable Faster Feedback, Safer Releases, and More Reliable Software]]> 205977540
Based on years of work with medium to large organizations at Thoughtworks, Valentina Servile explains how to perform safe and reliable deployments with no manual gate to production. You'll learn a framework to perform incremental, safe releases during everyday development work, structured exclusively around the challenges of continuous deployment in nontrivial, distributed systems. Complete with interviews and case studies from fellow industry professionals.

Close the feedback loop and leverage the production environment to manage your end-to-end development lifecycle efficiently. This book helps you take observability, performance, test automation, and security into account when splitting work into increments; create a daily development plan that takes immediate deployments to production into account; deploy work in progress to production incrementally without causing regressions; and more.]]> 443 Valentina Servile 1098146727 Amir 3 computer-science 4.71 Continuous Deployment: Enable Faster Feedback, Safer Releases, and More Reliable Software
author: Valentina Servile
name: Amir
average rating: 4.71
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]]> <![CDATA[The Sovereign Individual: Mastering the Transition to the Information Age]]> 82256
The Sovereign Individual details strategies necessary for adapting financially to the next phase of Western civilization.

Few observers of the late twentieth century have their fingers so presciently on the pulse of the global political and economic realignment ushering in the new millennium as do James Dale Davidson and Lord William Rees-Mogg. Their bold prediction of disaster on Wall Street in Blood in the Streets was borne out by Black Tuesday. In their ensuing bestseller, The Great Reckoning, published just weeks before the coup attempt against Gorbachev, they analyzed the pending collapse of the Soviet Union and foretold the civil war in Yugoslavia and other events that have proved to be among the most searing developments of the past few years.

In The Sovereign Individual, Davidson and Rees-Mogg explore the greatest economic and political transition in centuries—the shift from an industrial to an information-based society. This transition, which they have termed "the fourth stage of human society," will liberate individuals as never before, irrevocably altering the power of government. This outstanding book will replace false hopes and fictions with new understanding and clarified values.]]> 448 James Dale Davidson 0684832720 Amir 0 to-read 4.20 1997 The Sovereign Individual: Mastering the Transition to the Information Age
author: James Dale Davidson
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average rating: 4.20
book published: 1997
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]]> <![CDATA[Grokking Algorithms An Illustrated Guide For Programmers and Other Curious People]]> 22847284
Grokking Algorithms is a disarming take on a core computer science topic. In it, you'll learn how to apply common algorithms to the practical problems you face in day-to-day life as a programmer. You'll start with problems like sorting and searching. As you build up your skills in thinking algorithmically, you'll tackle more complex concerns such as data compression or artificial intelligence. Whether you're writing business software, video games, mobile apps, or system utilities, you'll learn algorithmic techniques for solving problems that you thought were out of your grasp. For example, you'll be able to:
Write a spell checker using graph algorithms
Understand how data compression works using Huffman coding
Identify problems that take too long to solve with naive algorithms, and attack them with algorithms that give you an approximate answer instead
Each carefully-presented example includes helpful diagrams and fully-annotated code samples in Python. By the end of this book, you will know some of the most widely applicable algorithms as well as how and when to use them.]]> 256 Aditya Y. Bhargava 1617292230 Amir 0 4.41 2015 Grokking Algorithms An Illustrated Guide For Programmers and Other Curious People
author: Aditya Y. Bhargava
name: Amir
average rating: 4.41
book published: 2015
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]]> <![CDATA[The Little Book of Common Sense Investing: The Only Way to Guarantee Your Fair Share of Stock Market Returns]]> 171127 216 John C. Bogle 0470102101 Amir 0 to-read, wealth, economics 4.11 2007 The Little Book of Common Sense Investing: The Only Way to Guarantee Your Fair Share of Stock Market Returns
author: John C. Bogle
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average rating: 4.11
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]]> The Intelligent Investor 106835 Now available for the first time in paperback!

The Classic Text Annotated to Update Graham's Timeless Wisdom for Today's Market Conditions

The greatest investment advisor of the twentieth century, Benjamin Graham taught and inspired people worldwide. Graham's philosophy of "value investing" -- which shields investors from substantial error and teaches them to develop long-term strategies -- has made The Intelligent Investor the stock market bible ever since its original publication in 1949.

Over the years, market developments have proven the wisdom of Graham's strategies. While preserving the integrity of Graham's original text, this revised edition includes updated commentary by noted financial journalist Jason Zweig, whose perspective incorporates the realities of today's market, draws parallels between Graham's examples and today's financial headlines, and gives readers a more thorough understanding of how to apply Graham's principles.

Vital and indispensable, this HarperBusiness Essentials edition of The Intelligent Investor is the most important book you will ever read on how to reach your financial goals.]]> 623 Benjamin Graham 0060555661 Amir 0 to-read, economics, wealth 4.24 1949 The Intelligent Investor
author: Benjamin Graham
name: Amir
average rating: 4.24
book published: 1949
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]]> <![CDATA[The Bogleheads' Guide to Investing]]> 381355 336 Taylor Larimore 0471730335 Amir 0 to-read, economics, wealth 4.25 2006 The Bogleheads' Guide to Investing
author: Taylor Larimore
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average rating: 4.25
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]]> <![CDATA[Life 3.0: Being Human in the Age of Artificial Intelligence]]> 34272565 How will Artificial Intelligence affect crime, war, justice, jobs, society and our very sense of being human? The rise of AI has the potential to transform our future more than any other technology--and there's nobody better qualified or situated to explore that future than Max Tegmark, an MIT professor who's helped mainstream research on how to keep AI beneficial.

How can we grow our prosperity through automation without leaving people lacking income or purpose? What career advice should we give today's kids? How can we make future AI systems more robust, so that they do what we want without crashing, malfunctioning or getting hacked? Should we fear an arms race in lethal autonomous weapons? Will machines eventually outsmart us at all tasks, replacing humans on the job market and perhaps altogether? Will AI help life flourish like never before or give us more power than we can handle?

What sort of future do you want? This book empowers you to join what may be the most important conversation of our time. It doesn't shy away from the full range of viewpoints or from the most controversial issues--from superintelligence to meaning, consciousness and the ultimate physical limits on life in the cosmos.]]> 384 Max Tegmark 0451485076 Amir 0 to-read, science 4.02 2017 Life 3.0: Being Human in the Age of Artificial Intelligence
author: Max Tegmark
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average rating: 4.02
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]]> <![CDATA[The Singularity is Near: When Humans Transcend Biology]]> 83518
“Artfully envisions a breathtakingly better world.”� Los Angeles Times

“Elaborate, smart and persuasive.”� The Boston Globe

“A pleasure to read.”� The Wall Street Journal

One of CBS News ’s Best Fall Books of 2005 •� Among St Louis Post-Dispatch ’s Best Nonfiction Books of 2005 •� One of Amazon.com’s Best Science Books of 2005

A radical and optimistic view of the future course of human development from t he bestselling author of How to Create a Mind and The Singularity is Nearer who Bill Gates calls “the best person I know at predicting the future of artificial intelligence�

For over three decades, Ray Kurzweil has been one of the most respected and provocative advocates of the role of technology in our future. In his classic The Age of Spiritual Machines , he argued that computers would soon rival the full range of human intelligence at its best. Now he examines the next step in this inexorable evolutionary the union of human and machine, in which the knowledge and skills embedded in our brains will be combined with the vastly greater capacity, speed, and knowledge-sharing ability of our creations.]]> 652 Ray Kurzweil 0143037889 Amir 0 to-read, science 3.92 2005 The Singularity is Near: When Humans Transcend Biology
author: Ray Kurzweil
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average rating: 3.92
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]]> Foundation (Foundation, #1) 29579 The first novel in Isaac Asimov's classic science-fiction masterpiece, the Foundation series

For twelve thousand years the Galactic Empire has ruled supreme. Now it is dying. But only Hari Seldon, creator of the revolutionary science of psychohistory, can see into the future--to a dark age of ignorance, barbarism, and warfare that will last thirty thousand years. To preserve knowledge and save humankind, Seldon gathers the best minds in the Empire--both scientists and scholars--and brings them to a bleak planet at the edge of the galaxy to serve as a beacon of hope for future generations. He calls his sanctuary the Foundation.]]> 244 Isaac Asimov 0553803719 Amir 4 elon-musk-s-recommendation 4.18 1951 Foundation (Foundation, #1)
author: Isaac Asimov
name: Amir
average rating: 4.18
book published: 1951
rating: 4
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]]> The Psychology of Money 41881472 242 Morgan Housel 0857197681 Amir 5 wealth 4.27 2020 The Psychology of Money
author: Morgan Housel
name: Amir
average rating: 4.27
book published: 2020
rating: 5
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]]> Café in Berlin 18806935
Newly arrived in Berlin, a young man from Sicily is thrown headlong into an unfamiliar urban lifestyle of unkempt bachelor pads, evanescent romances and cosmopolitan encounters of the strangest kind. How does he manage the new language? Will he find work?

Experience daily life in the German capital through the eyes of a newcomer, learn about the city and its people, and improve your German effortlessly and instantly.

Learning German Doesn't Have To Be A Chore

Just got started learning the language of poets and thinkers? Memorized a few words but struggle with longer texts? This book is designed to help beginners make the leap from studying isolated words and phrases to reading (and enjoying!) German fiction.

Using simplified sentence structures and a very basic vocabulary you can build upon, this German reader of 10 short stories for beginners is carefully crafted to allow even novice learners to fully immerse themselves in an authentic German learning experience.

Each chapter comes with a complete German-English dictionary with special emphasis on collocative phrases (high frequency word combinations), short sentences and expressions designed for improved memorization.

By working with these building blocks instead of just single words, learners can boost their active usage of new material instantly and make the language learning process more fluid and fun.

What You'll Find In This Book

10 Berlin stories about life and culture in the capital

a balance between cozy vocabulary and introduction of new words

tons of phrases and expressions you will actually use in daily life

fun facts about the city of Berlin, its quirks and cuisine

a detailed German-English dictionary after every chapter

enough support to make following along easy, without spoiling your own efforts

fun short quizzes to check your text-comprehension (including answers)

a relatable protagonist and other fun characters

hand-drawn illustrations by the author

the beginning of a grand German learning adventure ...



Read, Learn & Collect Them All

Yes! That's right. This is only the first episode of a whole series of exciting German short stories for beginners. Follow our protagonist to Frankfurt, Cologne, Munich, Zurich, Vienna and many other cities! Before you know it, you'll have travelled half of Europe and picked up more German than years' worth of expensive courses.

Learning German has never been more fun.

What You WON'T Find In This Book

parallel translations that may seem convenient but don't teach you anything

dull characters designed by academics and committees

interspersed English sentences that take you out of the reading flow

archaic German words and phrases nobody uses in real life

a jumble of unrelated places, people and events

wordy footnotes that only get in the way of immersion

condescending storytelling that insults your intelligence

a teaching approach which takes itself too seriously]]> 98 André Klein Amir 0 currently-reading 4.24 2013 Café in Berlin
author: André Klein
name: Amir
average rating: 4.24
book published: 2013
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]]> <![CDATA[Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last]]> 56692
This breakthrough book guides you through a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage.

You'll also learn that more sex doesn't necessarily improve a marriage, frequent arguing will not lead to divorce, financial problems do not always spell trouble in a relationship, wives who make sour facial expressions when their husbands talk are likely to be separated within four years and there is a reason husbands withdraw from arguments—and there's a way around it.

Dr. Gottman teaches you how to recognize attitudes that doom a marriage—contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling—and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. You can avoid patterns that lead to divorce, and� Why Marriages Succeed or Fail will show you how.]]> 240 John M. Gottman 0684802414 Amir 0 4.14 1994 Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last
author: John M. Gottman
name: Amir
average rating: 4.14
book published: 1994
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]]> <![CDATA[The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want]]> 25664439 The Man’s Guide to Women unlocks the mystery of how to attract, satisfy, and succeed with a woman for a lifetime. For the first time ever, there is a science-based answer to the age-old question: What do women really want in a man?

Dr. Gottman, author of the New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, and his wife and collaborator, clinical psychologist Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, have pored over the research along with bestselling coauthors Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD. Together, they have written this definitive guide for men, providing answers on everything from how to approach a woman and build a connection with her to how to truly satisfy her in bed and know when the relationship is on the right track. The Man’s Guide to Women is a must-have playbook for how to play—and win—the game of love.]]> 224 John M. Gottman 1623361842 Amir 0 4.13 2016 The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want
author: John M. Gottman
name: Amir
average rating: 4.13
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]]> <![CDATA[Ender’s Game (Ender's Saga, #1)]]> 375802
But Ender is not the only result of the experiment. The war with the Buggers has been raging for a hundred years, and the quest for the perfect general has been underway almost as long. Ender's two older siblings, Peter and Valentine, are every bit as unusual as he is, but in very different ways. While Peter was too uncontrollably violent, Valentine very nearly lacks the capability for violence altogether. Neither was found suitable for the military's purpose. But they are driven by their jealousy of Ender, and by their inbred drive for power. Peter seeks to control the political process, to become a ruler. Valentine's abilities turn more toward the subtle control of the beliefs of commoner and elite alike, through powerfully convincing essays. Hiding their youth and identities behind the anonymity of the computer networks, these two begin working together to shape the destiny of Earth-an Earth that has no future at all if their brother Ender fails.]]> 324 Orson Scott Card 0812550706 Amir 4 fiction 4.31 1985 Ender’s Game (Ender's Saga, #1)
author: Orson Scott Card
name: Amir
average rating: 4.31
book published: 1985
rating: 4
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]]> The Lean Startup 10127019 Most startups fail. But many of those failures are preventable. The Lean Startup is a new approach being adopted across the globe, changing the way companies are built and new products are launched.

Eric Ries defines a startup as an organization dedicated to creating something new under conditions of extreme uncertainty. This is just as true for one person in a garage or a group of seasoned professionals in a Fortune 500 boardroom. What they have in common is a mission to penetrate that fog of uncertainty to discover a successful path to a sustainable business.



The Lean Startup approach fosters companies that are both more capital efficient and that leverage human creativity more effectively. Inspired by lessons from lean manufacturing, it relies on "validated learning," rapid scientific experimentation, as well as a number of counter-intuitive practices that shorten product development cycles, measure actual progress without resorting to vanity metrics, and learn what customers really want. It enables a company to shift directions with agility, altering plans inch by inch, minute by minute.

Rather than wasting time creating elaborate business plans, The Lean Startup offers entrepreneurs - in companies of all sizes - a way to test their vision continuously, to adapt and adjust before it's too late. Ries provides a scientific approach to creating and managing successful startups in a age when companies need to innovate more than ever.]]> 299 Eric Ries 0307887898 Amir 5 entrepreneurship 4.11 2011 The Lean Startup
author: Eric Ries
name: Amir
average rating: 4.11
book published: 2011
rating: 5
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]]> <![CDATA[The Will of the Many (Hierarchy, #1)]]> 58416952 At the elite Catenan Academy, a young fugitive uncovers layered mysteries and world-changing secrets in this new fantasy series by internationally bestselling author of The Licanius Trilogy, James Islington.

AUDI. VIDE. TACE.

The Catenan Republic � the Hierarchy � may rule the world now, but they do not know everything.

I tell them my name is Vis Telimus. I tell them I was orphaned after a tragic accident three years ago, and that good fortune alone has led to my acceptance into their most prestigious school. I tell them that once I graduate, I will gladly join the rest of civilised society in allowing my strength, my drive and my focus � what they call Will � to be leeched away and added to the power of those above me, as millions already do. As all must eventually do.

I tell them that I belong, and they believe me.

But the truth is that I have been sent to the Academy to find answers. To solve a murder. To search for an ancient weapon. To uncover secrets that may tear the Republic apart.

And that I will never, ever cede my Will to the empire that executed my family.

To survive, though, I will still have to rise through the Academy’s ranks. I will have to smile, and make friends, and pretend to be one of them and win. Because if I cannot, then those who want to control me, who know my real name, will no longer have any use for me.

And if the Hierarchy finds out who I truly am, they will kill me.]]> 639 James Islington 1982141190 Amir 0 to-read 4.60 2023 The Will of the Many (Hierarchy, #1)
author: James Islington
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average rating: 4.60
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]]> <![CDATA[Kaput: The End of the German Miracle]]> 214631090 'Compelling' Guardian

'Eloquent and comprehensive' Financial Times

'Excellent' The Telegraph

'Astonishing' The Times

'An eye-opener' Gavin Esler

Until recently, Germany appeared to be a paragon of economic and political success. But recent events � from Germany's dependence on Russian gas to its car industry's delays in the race to electric � have undermined this view.

In Kaput, Wolfgang Münchau argues that the weaknesses of Germany's economy have, in fact, been brewing for decades. The close connections between the country's industrial and political elite have left Germany technologically behind, over-reliant on authoritarian Russia and China, and with little sign of being able to adapt to the digital realities of the twenty-first century. It is an essential read for anyone interested in the future of Europe's most important economy.]]> 220 Wolfgang Münchau 1800753446 Amir 0 to-read 4.16 Kaput: The End of the German Miracle
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]]> Project Hail Mary 54493401
Except that right now, he doesn’t know that. He can’t even remember his own name, let alone the nature of his assignment or how to complete it.

All he knows is that he’s been asleep for a very, very long time. And he’s just been awakened to find himself millions of miles from home, with nothing but two corpses for company.

His crewmates dead, his memories fuzzily returning, Ryland realizes that an impossible task now confronts him. Hurtling through space on this tiny ship, it’s up to him to puzzle out an impossible scientific mystery—and conquer an extinction-level threat to our species.

And with the clock ticking down and the nearest human being light-years away, he’s got to do it all alone.

Or does he?]]> 476 Andy Weir 0593135202 Amir 4 novel
He's created a world of fiction in a way that it sounds like real legitimate science. Attention to the detail is fascinating.

Highly recommend to science fiction lovers. ]]> 4.49 2021 Project Hail Mary
author: Andy Weir
name: Amir
average rating: 4.49
book published: 2021
rating: 4
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I very much liked how the author kept reasoning about complex issues. Easy to follow yet quite engaging.

He's created a world of fiction in a way that it sounds like real legitimate science. Attention to the detail is fascinating.

Highly recommend to science fiction lovers.
]]> <![CDATA[هل اول: رازها و رمزهای خلق، حفظ و رشد ثروت در ایران]]> 216667316 این کتاب منحصربه‌فر� است، چرا که کتابی برای پایان دادن به نگرانی شما برای پول درآوردن و پایان تشویش برای حفاظت از ثروتتان در یکی از پرنوسان‌تری� اقتصادهای جهان یعنی اقتصاد ایران است.
این کتاب برای خواندن نیست، برای عمل کردن است. اگر به رازها و رمزهای این کتاب عمل کردید، هل اول به دوچرخه‌� مالی شما داده می‌شو� و بدون زمین خوردن و از دست دادن زمان یاد می‌گیری� در این فضای بی‌ثبا� چطور باید زندگی خود را با آرامش بسازید، البته بدون این‌ک� زندگی دیگران را خراب کنید. دقیقا همان‌طو� که دوچرخه‌سوار� را یاد گرفتید!
این کتاب برای همه‌� افراد با هر سطحی از سواد مناسب است. اگر هیچ چیز از اقتصاد نمی‌دانی� این کتاب به شما کمک می‌کن� تا پایه‌ها� اقتصاد و سواد مالی را درست در ذهن خود بنا کنید. اگر هم تجربه‌� بیشتری دارید یا سرمایه‌گذا� ماهری هستید، این کتاب به شما کمک می‌کن� تا مهارت‌ها� خود را به‌نح� محسوسی بهبود بخشید.]]> 378 سید محمد صادق الحسینی 6220606221 Amir 0 to-read 3.81 2024 هل اول: رازها و رمزهای خلق، حفظ و رشد ثروت در ایران
author: سید محمد صادق الحسینی
name: Amir
average rating: 3.81
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]]> <![CDATA[Gray Hat Hacking: The Ethical Hacker's Handbook]]> 23857841 Fortify your network and avert digital catastrophe with proven strategies from a team of security experts. Completely updated and featuring 12 new chapters, Gray Hat Hacking: The Ethical Hacker's Handbook, Fourth Edition explains the enemy’s current weapons, skills, and tactics and offers field-tested remedies, case studies, and ready-to-deploy testing labs. Find out how hackers gain access, overtake network devices, script and inject malicious code, and plunder Web applications and browsers. Android-based exploits, reverse engineering techniques, and cyber law are thoroughly covered in this state-of-the-art resource.

Build and launch spoofing exploits with Ettercap and Evilgrade Induce error conditions and crash software using fuzzers Hack Cisco routers, switches, and network hardware Use advanced reverse engineering to exploit Windows and Linux software Bypass Windows Access Control and memory protection schemes Scan for flaws in Web applications using Fiddler and the x5 plugin Learn the use-after-free technique used in recent zero days Bypass Web authentication via MySQL type conversion and MD5 injection attacks Inject your shellcode into a browser's memory using the latest Heap Spray techniques Hijack Web browsers with Metasploit and the BeEF Injection Framework Neutralize ransomware before it takes control of your desktop Dissect Android malware with JEB and DAD decompilers Find one-day vulnerabilities with binary diffing

]]> 1106 Shon Harris 0071838503 Amir 0 4.04 2004 Gray Hat Hacking: The Ethical Hacker's Handbook
author: Shon Harris
name: Amir
average rating: 4.04
book published: 2004
rating: 0
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]]> Rules of the Game 18652715
In his international bestseller The Game, Neil Strauss delved into the secret world of pick-up artists—men who have created a science out of the art of seduction. Not only did he reveal the techniques that they had developed, but he became a master of The Game, and the world's No. 1 PUA, as Style.

Now, in this bestselling companion, Strauss reduces three books of life-changing knowledge into a single-volume set. The first book, The Stylelife Challenge, breaks down the knowledge he learned and techniques he invented into simple step-by-step instructions that anyone can follow to meet and land the women of their dreams.

In the second book, Strauss takes readers into the dark side of The Game. The Style Diaries offers a series of tales of seduction and sexual (mis)adventure. From accidentally getting married during a drunken night in Reykjavik, to luring a famous musician's granddaughter into a threesome; to the stress and frustration of the torturous and highly unorthodox "30 Day Sex Experiment," The Style Diaries takes you further into the seduction underworld than ever before. Finally, in the all-new, updated third volume, Strauss collects the greatest, most powerful, field-tested, word-for-word routines.

You don't need money, looks, or fame to succeed with women. All you need is an understanding of how attraction works—and this thirty-day workout program for your social skills, which has already guided countless men from frustration to fulfillment.]]> 386 Neil Strauss 0062130102 Amir 0 3.81 2007 Rules of the Game
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average rating: 3.81
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]]> <![CDATA[The Cold Start Problem: How to Start and Scale Network Effects]]> 55338968 A venture capitalist draws on expertise developed at the premier venture capital firm, Andreessen Horowitz, and as an executive at Uber to address how tech’s most successful products have solved the dreaded "cold start problem”—by leveraging networks effects to launch and scale towards billions of users.

Although software has become easier to build, launching and scaling new products and services remains difficult. Startups face daunting challenges entering the technology ecosystem, including stiff competition, copycats, and ineffective marketing channels. Teams launching new products must consider the advantages of “the network effect,� where a product or service’s value increases as more users engage with it. Apple, Google, Microsoft, and other tech giants utilize network effects, and most tech products incorporate them, whether they’re messaging apps, workplace collaboration tools, or marketplaces. Network effects provide a path for fledgling products to break through, attracting new users through viral growth and word of mouth.

Yet most entrepreneurs lack the vocabulary and context to describe them—much less understand the fundamental principles that drive the effect. What exactly are network effects? How do teams create and build them into their products? How do products compete in a market where every player has them? Andrew Chen draws on his experience and on interviews with the CEOs and founding teams of LinkedIn, Twitch, Zoom, Dropbox, Tinder, Uber, Airbnb, Pinterest � to provide unique insights in answering these questions. Chen also provides practical frameworks and principles that can be applied across products and industries.

The Cold Start Problem reveals what makes winning networks successful, why some startups fail to successfully scale, and most crucially, why products that create and compete using the network effect are vitally important today.]]> 386 Andrew Chen 0062969749 Amir 0 4.17 The Cold Start Problem: How to Start and Scale Network Effects
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]]> <![CDATA[Parasitic Mind: How Infectious Ideas Are Killing Common Sense]]> 49680197
Dr. Gad Saad, the host of the YouTube show THE SAAD TRUTH, exposes the bad ideas—what he calls “idea pathogens”—that are killing common sense and rational debate. Incubated in our universities and spread through the tyranny of political correctness, these ideas are endangering our most basic freedoms—including freedom of thought and speech.

The danger is grave, but as Dr. Saad shows, politically correct dogma is riddled with logical fallacies. We have powerful weapons to fight back with—if we have the courage to use them.

A provocative guide to defending reason and intellectual freedom and a battle cry for the preservation of our fundamental rights.]]> 264 Gad Saad 162157959X Amir 3 3.87 2020 Parasitic Mind: How Infectious Ideas Are Killing Common Sense
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average rating: 3.87
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rating: 3
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]]> <![CDATA[Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality]]> 94318 Awareness in a grand synthesis.

In short chapters for reading in quiet moments at home or at the office, he cajoles and challenges: We must leave this go-go-go world of illusion and become aware. And this only happens, he insists, by becoming alive to the needs and potential of others, whether at home or in the workplace.

Here, then, is a masterful book of the spirit, challenging us to wake up in every aspect of our lives.]]> 184 Anthony de Mello 0385249373 Amir 0 to-read 4.30 1990 Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality
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]]> <![CDATA[The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Caused an Epidemic of Mental Illness]]> 171681821
A must-read for all parents: the generation-defining investigation into the collapse of youth mental health in the era of smartphones, social media, and big tech—and a plan for a healthier, freer childhood.

“With tenacity and candor, Haidt lays out the consequences that have come with allowing kids to drift further into the virtual world . . . While also offering suggestions and solutions that could help protect a new generation of kids.� —Shannon Carlin, ,i>TIME, 100 Must-Read Books of 2024

After more than a decade of stability or improvement, the mental health of adolescents plunged in the early 2010s. Rates of depression, anxiety, self-harm, and suicide rose sharply, more than doubling on many measures. Why?

In The Anxious Generation, social psychologist Jonathan Haidt lays out the facts about the epidemic of teen mental illness that hit many countries at the same time. He then investigates the nature of childhood, including why children need play and independent exploration to mature into competent, thriving adults. Haidt shows how the “play-based childhood� began to decline in the 1980s, and how it was finally wiped out by the arrival of the “phone-based childhood� in the early 2010s. He presents more than a dozen mechanisms by which this “great rewiring of childhood� has interfered with children’s social and neurological development, covering everything from sleep deprivation to attention fragmentation, addiction, loneliness, social contagion, social comparison, and perfectionism. He explains why social media damages girls more than boys and why boys have been withdrawing from the real world into the virtual world, with disastrous consequences for themselves, their families, and their societies.

Most important, Haidt issues a clear call to action. He diagnoses the “collective action problems� that trap us, and then proposes four simple rules that might set us free. He describes steps that parents, teachers, schools, tech companies, and governments can take to end the epidemic of mental illness and restore a more humane childhood.

Haidt has spent his career speaking truth backed by data in the most difficult landscapes—communities polarized by politics and religion, campuses battling culture wars, and now the public health emergency faced by Gen Z. We cannot afford to ignore his findings about protecting our children—and ourselves—from the psychological damage of a phone-based life.]]> 400 Jonathan Haidt 0593655036 Amir 0 to-read 4.36 2024 The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Caused an Epidemic of Mental Illness
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]]> <![CDATA[Slow Productivity: The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout]]> 197773418 Do fewer things. Work at a natural pace. Obsess over quality.

From the New York Times bestselling author of Digital Minimalism and Deep Work, a groundbreaking philosophy for pursuing meaningful accomplishment while avoiding overload.

Our current definition of “productivity� is broken. It pushes us to treat busyness as a proxy for useful effort, leading to impossibly lengthy task lists and ceaseless meetings. We’re overwhelmed by all we have to do and on the edge of burnout, left to decide between giving into soul-sapping hustle culture or rejecting ambition altogether. But are these really our only choices?

Long before the arrival of pinging inboxes and clogged schedules, history’s most creative and impactful philosophers, scientists, artists, and writers mastered the art of producing valuable work with staying power. In this timely and provocative book, Cal Newport harnesses the wisdom of these traditional knowledge workers to radically transform our modern jobs. Drawing from deep research on the habits and mindsets of a varied cast of storied thinkers—from Galileo and Isaac Newton, to Jane Austen and Georgia O’Keefe—Newport lays out the key principles of “slow productivity,� a more sustainable alternative to the aimless overwhelm that defines our current moment. Combining cultural criticism with systematic pragmatism, Newport deconstructs the absurdities inherent in standard notions of productivity, and then provides step-by-step advice for workers to replace them with a slower, more humane alternative.

From the aggressive rethinking of workload management, to introducing seasonal variation, to shifting your performance toward long-term quality, Slow Productivity provides a roadmap for escaping overload and arriving instead at a more timeless approach to pursuing meaningful accomplishment. The world of work is due for a new revolution. Slow productivity is exactly what we need.]]> 244 Cal Newport 0593544854 Amir 0 to-read, productivity 3.65 2024 Slow Productivity: The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout
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]]> <![CDATA[Tidy First?: A Personal Exercise in Empirical Software Design]]> 171691901 122 Kent Beck 1098151240 Amir 0 3.88 Tidy First?: A Personal Exercise in Empirical Software Design
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]]> High Output Management 324750
The essential skill of creating and maintaining new businesses—the art of the entrepreneur—can be summed up in a single word: managing.Born of Grove’s experiences at one of America’s leading technology companies (as CEO and employee number three at Intel), High Output Management is equally appropriate for sales managers, accountants, consultants, and teachers, as well as CEOs and startup founders. Grove covers techniques for creating highly productive teams, demonstrating methods of motivation that lead to peak performance.

"Generous enough with advice and observations to be required reading."� The Wall Street Journal]]> 272 Andrew S. Grove 0679762884 Amir 0 to-read 4.27 1983 High Output Management
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average rating: 4.27
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]]> <![CDATA[Staff Engineer: Leadership Beyond the Management Track]]> 56481725 337 Will Larson 1736417908 Amir 0 4.05 Staff Engineer: Leadership Beyond the Management Track
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]]> <![CDATA[Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention� and How to Think Deeply Again]]> 57933306 Our ability to pay attention is collapsing. From the New York Times bestselling author of Chasing the Scream and Lost Connections comes a groundbreaking examination of why this is happening--and how to get our attention back.

In the United States, teenagers can focus on one task for only sixty-five seconds at a time, and office workers average only three minutes. Like so many of us, Johann Hari was finding that constantly switching from device to device and tab to tab was a diminishing and depressing way to live. He tried all sorts of self-help solutions--even abandoning his phone for three months--but nothing seemed to work. So Hari went on an epic journey across the world to interview the leading experts on human attention--and he discovered that everything we think we know about this crisis is wrong.

We think our inability to focus is a personal failure to exert enough willpower over our devices. The truth is even more disturbing: our focus has been stolen by powerful external forces that have left us uniquely vulnerable to corporations determined to raid our attention for profit. Hari found that there are twelve deep causes of this crisis, from the decline of mind-wandering to rising pollution, all of which have robbed some of our attention. In Stolen Focus, he introduces readers to Silicon Valley dissidents who learned to hack human attention, and veterinarians who diagnose dogs with ADHD. He explores a favela in Rio de Janeiro where everyone lost their attention in a particularly surreal way, and an office in New Zealand that discovered a remarkable technique to restore workers' productivity.

Crucially, Hari learned how we can reclaim our focus--as individuals, and as a society--if we are determined to fight for it. Stolen Focus will transform the debate about attention and finally show us how to get it back.]]> 357 Johann Hari 0593138511 Amir 0 to-read 4.22 2022 Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention— and How to Think Deeply Again
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]]> <![CDATA[Taking Charge of Adult ADHD: Proven Strategies to Succeed at Work, at Home, and in Relationships]]> 59028408
See also Dr. Barkley's bestselling resource on childhood ADHD, Taking Charge of ADHD, Third Edition: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents.]]> 306 Russell A. Barkley 1462547559 Amir 0 4.10 2000 Taking Charge of Adult ADHD: Proven Strategies to Succeed at Work, at Home, and in Relationships
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average rating: 4.10
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]]> <![CDATA[ADHD 2.0: New Science and Essential Strategies for Thriving with Distraction—From Childhood Through Adulthood]]> 53231680 A revolutionary new approach to ADD/ADHD featuring cutting-edge research and strategies to help readers thrive, by the bestselling authors of the seminal books Driven to Distraction and Delivered from Distraction

"An inspired road map for living with a distractible brain . . . If you or your child suffer from ADHD, this book should be on your shelf. It will give you courage and hope."--Michael Thompson, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling co-author of Raising Cain

World-renowned authors Dr. Edward M. Hallowell and Dr. John J. Ratey literally "wrote the book" on ADD/ADHD more than two decades ago. Their bestseller, Driven to Distraction, largely introduced this diagnosis to the public and sold more than a million copies along the way.

Now, most people have heard of ADHD and know someone who may have it. But lost in the discussion of both childhood and adult diagnosis of ADHD is the potential upside: Many hugely successful entrepreneurs and highly creative people attribute their achievements to ADHD. Also unknown to most are the recent research developments, including innovations that give a clearer understanding of the ADHD brain in action. In ADHD 2.0, Drs. Hallowell and Ratey, both of whom have this "variable attention trait," draw on the latest science to provide both parents and adults with ADHD a plan for minimizing the downside and maximizing the benefits of ADHD at any age. They offer an arsenal of new strategies and lifestyle hacks for thriving with ADHD, including

- Find the right kind of difficult. Use these behavior assessments to discover the work, activity, or creative outlet best suited to an individual's unique strengths.
- Reimagine environment. What specific elements to look for--at home, at school, or in the workplace--to enhance the creativity and entrepreneurial spirit inherent in the ADHD mind.
- Embrace innate neurological tendencies. Take advantage of new findings about the brain's default mode network and cerebellum, which confer major benefits for people with ADHD.
- Tap into the healing power of connection. Tips for establishing and maintaining positive connection "the other Vitamind C" and the best antidote to the negativity that plagues so many people with ADHD.
- Consider medication. Gets the facts about the underlying chemistry, side effects, and proven benefits of all the pharmaceutical options.

As inspiring as it is practical, 'ADHD 2.0' will help you tap into the power of this mercurial condition and find the key that unlocks potential.




RUNNING TIME => 7hrs.

©2021 Edward M. Hallowell and John J. Ratey (P)2021 Random House Audio]]> 208 Edward M. Hallowell 0399178732 Amir 0 to-read, psychology 4.05 2021 ADHD 2.0: New Science and Essential Strategies for Thriving with Distraction—From Childhood Through Adulthood
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]]> <![CDATA[The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living: A Guide to ACT]]> 3250347
The techniques presented in The Happiness Trap will help readers to:

•Reduce stress and worry
•Handle painful feelings and thoughts more effectively
•Break self-defeating habits
•Overcome insecurity and self-doubt
•Create a rich, full, and meaningful life]]> 240 Russ Harris 1590305841 Amir 0 4.09 2007 The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living: A Guide to ACT
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name: Amir
average rating: 4.09
book published: 2007
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]]> <![CDATA[Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love]]> 37588679
Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort—and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on forty years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.

Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range—from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put Into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions—will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before—and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.
]]> 231 John M. Gottman 1523504463 Amir 0 4.21 2019 Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
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]]> <![CDATA[Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body]]> 34272471 Two New York Times-bestselling authors unveil new research showing what meditation can really do for the brain.

In the last twenty years, meditation and mindfulness have gone from being kind of cool to becoming an omnipresent Band-Aid for fixing everything from your weight to your relationship to your achievement level. Unveiling here the kind of cutting-edge research that has made them giants in their fields, Daniel Goleman and Richard Davidson show us the truth about what meditation can really do for us, as well as exactly how to get the most out of it.

Sweeping away common misconceptions and neuromythology to open readers' eyes to the ways data has been distorted to sell mind-training methods, the authors demonstrate that beyond the pleasant states mental exercises can produce, the real payoffs are the lasting personality traits that can result. But short daily doses will not get us to the highest level of lasting positive change--even if we continue for years--without specific additions. More than sheer hours, we need smart practice, including crucial ingredients such as targeted feedback from a master teacher and a more spacious, less attached view of the self, all of which are missing in widespread versions of mind training. The authors also reveal the latest data from Davidson's own lab that point to a new methodology for developing a broader array of mind-training methods with larger implications for how we can derive the greatest benefits from the practice.

Exciting, compelling, and grounded in new research, this is one of those rare books that has the power to change us at the deepest level.]]> 336 Daniel Goleman 0399184384 Amir 0 to-read 3.87 2017 Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body
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]]> <![CDATA[The Great Mental Models Volume 3: Systems and Mathematics]]> 57016829
In part one, you'll learn mental models from systems, helping you see unexpected connections and avoid costly mistakes. You'll discover how these concepts govern the behaviors and interactions in your life. Part one covers topics such as how to:

- Identify the right feedback loops to adjust for behavior change (your own and others')
- Leverage bottlenecks to supercharge your innovative capabilities
- Scale up businesses and other endeavors without damaging their longevity
- Reduce risk and preventing disaster by knowing when to incorporate a margin of safety
- Construct reliable algorithms in your mind for predictable success to get the results you want every time

In part two, you'll learn mental models from mathematics that reveal logical patterns in the world. This isn't your high school math class. Part two covers topics such as how to:

- Reap exponential gains by investing in knowledge, relationships, and experiences that compound
- Utilize the surprising power of sample sizes to reshape your perspective and open your mind
- Embrace randomness to become less predictable and more creative
- Identify the fundamental components of systems that lead to failure if neglected, so you can focus your energy where it matters most]]> 373 Rhiannon Beaubien 1999449061 Amir 0 4.22 The Great Mental Models Volume 3: Systems and Mathematics
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]]> <![CDATA[The Great Mental Models Volume 2: Physics, Chemistry and Biology]]> 52200318 Solve problems. Think with clarity. Achieve your goals.
The secret to better decision-making is learning things that won’t change. Mastering a small number of versatile concepts with broad applicability enables you to rapidly grasp new areas, identify patterns, and understand how the world works. Don’t waste your time on knowledge with an expiry date - focus on the fundamentals.
The Farnam Street latticework of mental models gives you the durable cognitive tools you need to avoid problems and make better decisions.
A mental model is a representation of how something works. Constructing mental models helps you to navigate the world efficiently and intelligently. Time and time again, great thinkers such as Charlie Munger and Warren Buffett have found mental models indispensable in both solving problems and preventing them in the first place. Cultivating stronger mental models is one of the most powerful things you can do to become a better thinker.





The Great Mental Volume 2covers essential models from chemistry, biology, and physics.


The hard sciences offer a wealth of useful tools you can use to develop critically important skills like curiosity, relationship-building, and leadership. Formal expertise in science is not necessary, though if you have it you may see parts of your discipline in a new light.
This second volume of the Great Mental Models series shows you how to make connections between concepts from the sciences and your own life. You'll not only get a better understanding of the forces that influence the world around you, but you'll learn how to direct those forces to create outsized advantages in the areas of your life that matter most to you.
Volume 2 will teach you how


And much more...





Mastering The Great Mental Models helps you thrive in an uncertain world. The right cognitive tools prepare you for any type of challenge. From parenting to healthy eating, relationships to personal productivity, and from learning to product design, this book will give you new lenses for understanding life.
A wonderful resource you’ll keep returning to year after year. As you incorporate the models in this book into your mental toolbox, you’ll see the world with fresh eyes.
START BUILDING YOUR LATTICEWORK TODAY!



Praise for The Great Mental Models


“I’m really glad this exists in the world and I can see that I will be recommending it often.�
� Matt Mullenweg, co-founder of WordPress, founder and CEO of Automattic


“If you’ve read Charlie Munger’s Almanack this is the book you deeply crave in its wake. � Learn the big ideas from the big disciplines and you’ll be able to twist and turn problems in interesting ways at unprecedented speeds. � You owe yourself this book.�
� Simon Eskildsen


“This is what non-fiction books should aspire to be like. Informative, concise, universal, practical, visual, sharing stories and examples for context. Definitely, a must-read if you’re into universal multi-disciplinary thinking.�
� Carl Rannaberg


“I can truly say it is one of the best books I’ve ever had the pleasure of getting lost in. I loved the book and the challenges to conventional wisdom and thinking it presents.�
� Rod Berryman


“Want to learn? Read This! This should be a standard text for high school and university students.�
� Code Cubitt]]> 397 Shane Parrish 1999449037 Amir 4 decision-making 4.14 2019 The Great Mental Models Volume 2: Physics, Chemistry and Biology
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name: Amir
average rating: 4.14
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]]> <![CDATA[The Ultimate Guide to Body Recomposition]]> 48710510 If you want to learn how to transform your body by building muscle while losing fat, this is the scientifically proven guide to doing it! It · 15 Chapters and over 250 Pages of everything you need to know · Sample Meal Plans · Specifics on Your Pre and Post Workout Nutrition · A Progress Tracking Sheet · A Guide for Maximizing Recovery Factors · A Full Chapter on “Skinny Fat”]]> 267 Jeff Nippard Amir 3 fitness 4.14 The Ultimate Guide to Body Recomposition
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]]> <![CDATA[Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships (The Dr. Sue Johnson Collection, 2)]]> 17899355
Every day, we hear of relationships failing and questions of whether humans are meant to be monogamous. Love Sense presents new scientific evidence that tells us that humans are meant to mate for life. Dr. Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our "love sense" -- our ability to develop long-lasting relationships.

Love is not the least bit illogical or random, but actually an ordered and wise recipe for survival. Love Sense covers the three stages of a relationship and how to best weather them; the intelligence of emotions and the logic of love; the physical and psychological benefits of secure love; and much more. Based on groundbreaking research, Love Sense will change the way we think about love.]]> 352 Sue Johnson 0316133760 Amir 0 4.08 2013 Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships (The Dr. Sue Johnson Collection, 2)
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]]> <![CDATA[The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work]]> 34001660 The structure of modern successful marriages is revealed in this inspiring and useful new perspective on the most important relationship a human being can have.
The institution of marriage in America is struggling. But as Eli Finkel's most recent research reveals, the best marriages today are better than the best marriages of earlier eras. Indeed, they are the best marriages the world has ever known. Still, the quality of the average marriage is in decline. This book reverse engineers the best marriages--from the "traditional" to the utterly nontraditional--showing how any marriage can be better.
Why do some celebrity marriages work and others don't? Finkel provides insight into the lives of household names such as Elizabeth Gilbert and Neil Strauss, as well as one marriage that delivered three Olympic gold medals in 2016. Finkel digs deeper with a sweeping historic overview showing that the primary function of marriage from 1776 to 1850 was food, shelter, and protection from violence. From 1850 to 1965, the purpose revolved around love and companionship. Nowadays, marriage is all about self-discovery, self-esteem, and personal growth. (Will your spouse give you that?) Ultimately, this much-needed book delivers practical advice for immediate action as well as long-term strategies: seven "love hacks" that take little time or reflection; four categories of how to channel greater levels of effort; and three ways of recalibrating the marriage so expectations match reality--and happiness can flourish.]]> 352 Eli J. Finkel 052595516X Amir 0 to-read 3.53 2017 The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work
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]]> <![CDATA[No Boundary: Eastern and Western Approaches to Personal Growth]]> 449818 149 Ken Wilber 1570627436 Amir 0 to-read 4.29 1979 No Boundary: Eastern and Western Approaches to Personal Growth
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]]> <![CDATA[The Great Mental Models: General Thinking Concepts]]> 44245196
The more tools you have at your disposal, the more likely you'll use the right tool for the job � and get it done right.

The same is true when it comes to your thinking. The quality of your outcomes depends on the mental models in your head. And most people are going through life with little more than a hammer.

Until now.

The Great Mental Models: General Thinking Concepts is the first book in The Great Mental Models series designed to upgrade your thinking with the best, most useful and powerful tools so you always have the right one on hand.

This volume details nine of the most versatile, all-purpose mental models you can use right away to improve your decision making, productivity, and how clearly you see the world. You will discover what forces govern the universe and how to focus your efforts so you can harness them to your advantage, rather than fight with them or worse yet� ignore them.

Upgrade your mental toolbox and get the first volume today!]]> 216 Shane Parrish Amir 4 decision-making 4.05 2018 The Great Mental Models: General Thinking Concepts
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]]> Principles: Life and Work 34536488 Ray Dalio, one of the world’s most successful investors and entrepreneurs, shares the unconventional principles that he’s developed, refined, and used over the past forty years to create unique results in both life and business—and which any person or organization can adopt to help achieve their goals.

In 1975, Ray Dalio founded an investment firm, Bridgewater Associates, out of his two-bedroom apartment in New York City. Forty years later, Bridgewater has made more money for its clients than any other hedge fund in history and grown into the fifth most important private company in the United States, according to Fortune magazine. Dalio himself has been named to Time magazine’s list of the 100 most influential people in the world. Along the way, Dalio discovered a set of unique principles that have led to Bridgewater’s exceptionally effective culture, which he describes as “an idea meritocracy that strives to achieve meaningful work and meaningful relationships through radical transparency.� It is these principles, and not anything special about Dalio—who grew up an ordinary kid in a middle-class Long Island neighborhood—that he believes are the reason behind his success.

In Principles, Dalio shares what he’s learned over the course of his remarkable career. He argues that life, management, economics, and investing can all be systemized into rules and understood like machines. The book’s hundreds of practical lessons, which are built around his cornerstones of “radical truth� and “radical transparency,� include Dalio laying out the most effective ways for individuals and organizations to make decisions, approach challenges, and build strong teams. He also describes the innovative tools the firm uses to bring an idea meritocracy to life, such as creating “baseball cards� for all employees that distill their strengths and weaknesses, and employing computerized decision-making systems to make believability-weighted decisions. While the book brims with novel ideas for organizations and institutions, Principles also offers a clear, straightforward approach to decision-making that Dalio believes anyone can apply, no matter what they’re seeking to achieve.

Here is a rare opportunity to gain proven advice unlike anything you’ll find in the conventional business press.]]> 16 Ray Dalio 1508243247 Amir 4 4.09 2017 Principles: Life and Work
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]]> <![CDATA[Outlive: The Science & Art of Longevity]]> 61153739 #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER � A groundbreaking manifesto on living better and longer that challenges the conventional medical thinking on aging and reveals a new approach to preventing chronic disease and extending long-term health, from a visionary physician and leading longevity expert

Wouldn’t you like to live longer? And better? In this operating manual for longevity, Dr. Peter Attia draws on the latest science to deliver innovative nutritional interventions, techniques for optimizing exercise and sleep, and tools for addressing emotional and mental health.

For all its successes, mainstream medicine has failed to make much progress against the diseases of aging that kill most people: heart disease, cancer, Alzheimer’s disease, and type 2 diabetes. Too often, it intervenes with treatments too late to help, prolonging lifespan at the expense of healthspan, or quality of life. Dr. Attia believes we must replace this outdated framework with a personalized, proactive strategy for longevity, one where we take action now, rather than waiting.

This is not “biohacking,� it’s science: a well-founded strategic and tactical approach to extending lifespan while also improving our physical, cognitive, and emotional health. Dr. Attia’s aim is less to tell you what to do and more to help you learn how to think about long-term health, in order to create the best plan for you as an individual. In Outlive, readers will discover:

� Why the cholesterol test at your annual physical doesn’t tell you enough about your actual risk of dying from a heart attack.
� That you may already suffer from an extremely common yet underdiagnosed liver condition that could be a precursor to the chronic diseases of aging.
� Why exercise is the most potent pro-longevity “drug”—and how to begin training for the “Centenarian Decathlon.�
� Why you should forget about diets, and focus instead on nutritional biochemistry, using technology and data to personalize your eating pattern.
� Why striving for physical health and longevity, but ignoring emotional health, could be the ultimate curse of all.

Aging and longevity are far more malleable than we think; our fate is not set in stone. With the right roadmap, you can plot a different path for your life, one that lets you outlive your genes to make each decade better than the one before.]]> 496 Peter Attia 0593236599 Amir 0 currently-reading 4.33 2023 Outlive: The Science & Art of Longevity
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]]> <![CDATA[Life Force: How New Breakthroughs in Precision Medicine Can Transform the Quality of Your Life Those You Love]]> 59530244 INSTANT #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

Transform your life or the life of someone you love with Life Force—the newest breakthroughs in health technology to help maximize your energy and strength, prevent disease, and extend your health span—from Tony Robbins, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Money: Master the Game.

What if there were scientific solutions that could wipe out your deepest fears of falling ill, receiving a life-threatening diagnosis, or feeling the effects of aging? What if you had access to the same cutting-edge tools and technology used by peak performers and the world’s greatest athletes?

In a world full of fear and uncertainty about our health, it can be difficult to know where to turn for actionable advice you can trust. Today, leading scientists and doctors in the field of regenerative medicine are developing diagnostic tools and safe and effective therapies that can free you from fear.

In this book, Tony Robbins, the world’s #1 life and business strategist who has coached more than fifty million people, brings you more than 100 of the world’s top medical minds and the latest research, inspiring comeback stories, and amazing advancements in precision medicine that you can apply today to help extend the length and quality of your life.

This book is the result of Robbins going on his own life-changing journey. After being told that his health challenges were irreversible, he experienced firsthand how new regenerative technology not only helped him heal but made him stronger than ever before.

Life Force will show you how you can wake up every day with increased energy, a more bulletproof immune system, and the know-how to help turn back your biological clock. This is a book for everyone, from peak performance athletes, to the average person who wants to increase their energy and strength, to those looking for healing. Life Force provides answers that can transform and even save your life, or that of someone you love.]]> 720 Anthony Robbins 1982121734 Amir 0 to-read 3.96 2022 Life Force: How New Breakthroughs in Precision Medicine Can Transform the Quality of Your Life Those You Love
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]]> <![CDATA[The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure]]> 60044562 0 Jonathan Haidt 0241308364 Amir 0 to-read 3.67 2018 The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure
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]]> <![CDATA[Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control]]> 60018575 In his New York Times bestselling book Courage is Calling, author Ryan Holiday made the Stoic case for a bold and brave life. In this much-anticipated second book of his Stoic Virtue series, Holiday celebrates the awesome power of self-discipline and those who have seized it.

To master anything, one must first master themselves–one’s emotions, one’s thoughts, one’s actions. Eisenhower famously said that freedom is really the opportunity to practice self-discipline. Cicero called the virtue of temperance the polish of life. Without boundaries and restraint, we risk not only failing to meet our full potential and jeopardizing what we have achieved, but we ensure misery and shame. In a world of temptation and excess, this ancient idea is more urgent than ever.

In Discipline is Destiny, Holiday draws on the stories of historical figures we can emulate as pillars of self-discipline, including Lou Gehrig, Queen Elizabeth II, boxer Floyd Patterson, Marcus Aurelius and writer Toni Morrison, as well as the cautionary tales of Napoleon, F. Scott Fitzgerald and Babe Ruth. Through these engaging examples, Holiday teaches readers the power of self-discipline and balance, and cautions against the perils of extravagance and hedonism.

At the heart of Stoicism are four simple virtues: courage, temperance, justice, and wisdom. Everything else, the Stoics believed, flows from them. Discipline is Destiny will guide readers down the path to self-mastery, upon which all the other virtues depend. Discipline is predictive. You cannot succeed without it. And if you lose it, you cannot help but bring yourself failure and unhappiness.]]> 312 Ryan Holiday 0593191692 Amir 2 success 4.24 2022 Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control
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]]> <![CDATA[Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior...and Feel Great Again]]> 43866 Jeffrey E. Young, Ph.D., and Janet S. Klosko, Ph.D., show readers how to free themselves from negative life patterns. Written with compassion as well as clinical insight, this thought-provoking book guides readers through the process of identifying "life traps." For example, "Do you put the needs of others before your own? Are you drawn into relationships with people who are self-centered, cold to you, misunderstand you, or use you? Do you feel inadequate compared to people around you?" Followed by an engaging discussion that makes use of case studies, this book can help people change their lives by stopping the cycle of self-destruction.]]> 365 Jeffrey E. E. Young 0452272041 Amir 0 psychology, to-read 4.08 1993 Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior...and Feel Great Again
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]]> <![CDATA[The Daily Laws: 366 Meditations from the author of the bestselling The 48 Laws of Power]]> 56756745
Each entry delivers refined and concise wisdom from one of his books, in an easy to digest lesson that will only take a few minutes to read, as well as a Commandment -- a prescription or prompt for the reader to follow.

Not only is The Daily Laws the perfect entry point for those new to Greene's penetrating insight, but it will also help the many Greene fans throughout the world understanding and internalizing the many lessons that fill his books. It is a guide to a lifetime of reading and re-reading about power, seduction, strategy, psychology and human nature.]]> 463 Robert Greene 1788168542 Amir 0 to-read 4.21 The Daily Laws: 366 Meditations from the author of the bestselling The 48 Laws of Power
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]]> <![CDATA[Effective Python: 59 Specific Ways to Write Better Python (Effective Software Development Series)]]> 23020812 Actionable guidelines for all major areas of Python 3.x and 2.x development, with detailed explanations and examples Best practices for writing functions that clarify intention, promote reuse, and avoid bugs Coverage of how to accurately express behaviors with classes and objects Guidance on how to avoid pitfalls with metaclasses and dynamic attributes More efficient approaches to concurrency and parallelism Better techniques and idioms for using Python s built-in modules Tools and best practices for collaborative development Solutions for debugging, testing, and optimization in order to improve quality and performance "]]> 227 Brett Slatkin 0134034287 Amir 0 computer-science, to-read 4.25 2015 Effective Python: 59 Specific Ways to Write Better Python (Effective Software Development Series)
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]]> <![CDATA[Effective Python: 90 Specific Ways to Write Better Python]]> 48566725 Updated and Expanded for Python 3 It’s easy to start developing programs with Python, which is why the language is so popular. However, Python’s unique strengths, charms, and expressiveness can be hard to grasp, and there are hidden pitfalls that can easily trip you up. This second edition of Effective Python will help you master a truly “Pythonic� approach to programming, harnessing Python’s full power to write exceptionally robust and well-performing code. Using the concise, scenario-driven style pioneered in Scott Meyers� best-selling Effective C++, Brett Slatkin brings together 90 Python best practices, tips, and shortcuts, and explains them with realistic code examples so that you can embrace Python with confidence. Drawing on years of experience building Python infrastructure at Google, Slatkin uncovers little-known quirks and idioms that powerfully impact code behavior and performance. You’ll understand the best way to accomplish key tasks so you can write code that’s easier to understand, maintain, and improve. In addition to even more advice, this new edition substantially revises all items from the first edition to reflect how best practices have evolved. Key features include 30 new actionable guidelines for all major areas of Python Detailed explanations and examples of statements, expressions, and built-in types Best practices for writing functions that clarify intention, promote reuse, and avoid bugs Better techniques and idioms for using comprehensions and generator functions Coverage of how to accurately express behaviors with classes and interfaces Guidance on how to avoid pitfalls with metaclasses and dynamic attributes More efficient and clear approaches to concurrency and parallelism Solutions for optimizing and hardening to maximize performance and quality Techniques and built-in modules that aid in debugging and testing Tools and best practices for collaborative development Effective Python will prepare growing programmers to make a big impact using Python.]]> 480 Slatkin Brett 0134854594 Amir 0 currently-reading 4.42 Effective Python: 90 Specific Ways to Write Better Python
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]]> <![CDATA[Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray]]> 20707972 New York Times) Anatomy of Love quickly became a classic. Since then, Fisher has conducted pioneering brain research on lust, romantic love, and attachment; gathered data on more than 80,000 people to explain why you love who you love; and collected information on more than 30,000 men and women on sexting, hooking up, friends with benefits, and other current trends in courtship and marriage. And she presents a new, scientifically based and optimistic perspective on relationships in our digital age—what she calls “slow love.�


This is a cutting-edge tour de force that traces human family life from its origins in Africa over 20 million years ago to the Internet dating sites and bedrooms of today. And it’s got it all: the copulatory gaze and other natural courting ploys; the who, when, where, and why of adultery; love addictions; her discovery of four broad chemically based personality styles and what each seeks in romance; the newest data on worldwide (biologically based) patterns of divorce; how and why men and women think differently; the real story of women, men, and power; the rise—and fall—of the sexual double standard; and what brain science tells us about how to make and keep a happy partnership.]]> 464 Helen Fisher 0393349748 Amir 0 3.80 1992 Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray
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]]> <![CDATA[The Accidental Superpower: The Next Generation of American Preeminence and the Coming Global Disorder]]> 21926865 An eye-opening assement of American power and deglobalization in the bestselling tradition of The World is Flat and The Next 100 Years .
Near the end of the Second World War, the United States made a bold strategic gambit that rewired the international system. Empires were abolished and replaced by a global arrangement enforced by the U.S. Navy. With all the world's oceans safe for the first time in history, markets and resources were made available for everyone. Enemies became partners.

We think of this system as normal - it is not. We live in an artificial world on borrowed time.

In The Accidental Superpower , international strategist Peter Zeihan examines how the hard rules of geography are eroding the American commitment to free trade; how much of the planet is aging into a mass retirement that will enervate markets and capital supplies; and how, against all odds, it is the ever-ravenous American economy that - alone among the developed nations - is rapidly approaching energy independence. Combined, these factors are doing nothing less than overturning the global system and ushering in a new (dis)order.

For most, that is a disaster-in-waiting, but not for the Americans. The shale revolution allows Americans to sidestep an increasingly dangerous energy market. Only the United States boasts a youth population large enough to escape the sucking maw of global aging. Most important, geography will matter more than ever in a de-globalizing world, and America's geography is simply sublime.]]> 384 Peter Zeihan 1455583669 Amir 0 currently-reading 4.30 2014 The Accidental Superpower: The Next Generation of American Preeminence and the Coming Global Disorder
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]]> <![CDATA[The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity—and Will Determine the Fate of the Human Race]]> 38728977 Why is addiction "perfectly logical" to an addict?
Why does love change so quickly from passion to indifference?
Why are some people diehard liberals and others hardcore conservatives?
Why are we always hopeful for solutions even in the darkest times--and so good at figuring them out?

The answer is found in a single chemical in your brain: dopamine. Dopamine ensured the survival of early man. Thousands of years later, it is the source of our most basic behaviors and cultural ideas--and progress itself.

Dopamine is the chemical of desire that always asks for more--more stuff, more stimulation, and more surprises. In pursuit of these things, it is undeterred by emotion, fear, or morality. Dopamine is the source of our every urge, that little bit of biology that makes an ambitious business professional sacrifice everything in pursuit of success, or that drives a satisfied spouse to risk it all for the thrill of someone new. Simply put, it is why we seek and succeed; it is why we discover and prosper. Yet, at the same time, it's why we gamble and squander.

From dopamine's point of view, it's not the having that matters. It's getting something--anything--that's new. From this understanding--the difference between possessing something versus anticipating it--we can understand in a revolutionary new way why we behave as we do in love, business, addiction, politics, religion - and we can even predict those behaviors in ourselves and others.

In The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity--and will Determine the Fate of the Human Race, George Washington University professor and psychiatrist Daniel Z. Lieberman, MD, and Georgetown University lecturer Michael E. Long present a potentially life-changing proposal: Much of human life has an unconsidered component that explains an array of behaviors previously thought to be unrelated, including why winners cheat, why geniuses often suffer with mental illness, why nearly all diets fail, and why the brains of liberals and conservatives really are different.]]> 240 Daniel Z. Lieberman 1946885118 Amir 0 to-read 4.12 2018 The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity—and Will Determine the Fate of the Human Race
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]]> <![CDATA[Radical Candor: Be a Kickass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity]]> 29939161
"I raced through Radical Candor --It’s thrilling to learn a framework that shows how to be both a better boss and a better colleague. Radical Candor is packed with illuminating truths, insightful advice, and practical suggestions, all illustrated with engaging (and often funny) stories from Kim Scott’s own experiences at places like Apple, Google, and various start-ups. Indispensable." � Gretchen Rubin author of New York Times bestseller The Happiness Project

"Reading Radical Candor will help you build, lead, and inspire teams to do the best work of their lives. Kim Scott's insights--based on her experience, keen observational intelligence and analysis--will help you be a better leader and create a more effective organization." � Sheryl Sandberg author of the New York Times bestseller Lean In

"Kim Scott has a well-earned reputation as a kick-ass boss and a voice that CEOs take seriously. In this remarkable book, she draws on her extensive experience to provide clear and honest guidance on the fundamentals of leading others: how to give (and receive) feedback, how to make smart decisions, how to keep moving forward, and much more. If you manage people--whether it be 1 person or a 1,000--you need Radical Candor . Now." � Daniel Pink author of New York Times bestseller Drive

From the time we learn to speak, we’re told that if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. When you become a manager, it’s your job to say it--and your obligation.

Author Kim Scott was an executive at Google and then at Apple, where she worked with a team to develop a class on how to be a good boss. She has earned growing fame in recent years with her vital new approach to effective management, Radical Candor.

Radical Candor is a simple idea: to be a good boss, you have to Care Personally at the same time that you Challenge Directly. When you challenge without caring it’s obnoxious aggression; when you care without challenging it’s ruinous empathy. When you do neither it’s manipulative insincerity.

This simple framework can help you build better relationships at work, and fulfill your three key responsibilities as a leader: creating a culture of feedback (praise and criticism), building a cohesive team, and achieving results you’re all proud of.

Radical Candor offers a guide to those bewildered or exhausted by management, written for bosses and those who manage bosses. Taken from years of the author’s experience, and distilled clearly giving actionable lessons to the reader; it shows managers how to be successful while retaining their humanity, finding meaning in their job, and creating an environment where people both love their work and their colleagues.]]> 336 Kim Malone Scott 1250103509 Amir 0 to-read 4.05 2017 Radical Candor: Be a Kickass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity
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]]> Memories, Dreams, Reflections 612188 Memories, Dreams, Reflections includes Jung's VII Sermones ad Mortuos. It is a fully corrected edition.From the Trade Paperback edition.]]> 430 C.G. Jung 0679723951 Amir 0 to-read, psychology 4.16 1962 Memories, Dreams, Reflections
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]]> Man and His Symbols 123632 Man and His Symbols owes its existence to one of Jung's own dreams. The great psychologist dreamed that his work was understood by a wide public, rather than just by psychiatrists, and therefore he agreed to write and edit this fascinating book. Here, Jung examines the full world of the unconscious, whose language he believed to be the symbols constantly revealed in dreams. Convinced that dreams offer practical advice, sent from the unconscious to the conscious self, Jung felt that self-understanding would lead to a full and productive life. Thus, the reader will gain new insights into himself from this thoughtful volume, which also illustrates symbols throughout history. Completed just before his death by Jung and his associates, it is clearly addressed to the general reader.]]> 415 C.G. Jung 0440351839 Amir 0 to-read, psychology 4.19 1964 Man and His Symbols
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]]> <![CDATA[Modern Man in Search of a Soul]]> 646175 A provocative and enlightening look at spiritual unease and its contribution to the void in modern civilization

Considered by many to be one of the most important books in the field of psychology, Modern Man in Search of a Soul is a comprehensive introduction to the thought of Carl Gustav Jung. In this book, Jung examines some of the most contested and crucial areas in the field of analytical psychology, including dream analysis, the primitive unconscious, and the relationship between psychology and religion. Additionally, Jung looks at the differences between his theories and those of Sigmund Freud, providing a valuable basis for anyone interested in the fundamentals of psychoanalysis.
]]> 244 C.G. Jung 0156612062 Amir 0 to-read, psychology 4.20 1931 Modern Man in Search of a Soul
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]]> The Undiscovered Self 67891 One of the world's greatest psychiatrists reveals how to embrace our own humanity and resist the pressures of an ever-changing world.

In this challenging and provocative work, Dr. Carl Jung—one of history's greatest minds—argues that civilization's future depends on our ability as individuals to resist the collective forces of society. Only by gaining an awareness and understanding of one's unconscious mind and true, inner nature�"the undiscovered self"—can we as individuals acquire the self-knowledge that is antithetical to ideological fanaticism. But this requires that we face our fear of the duality of the human psyche—the existence of good and the capacity for evil in every individual.

In this seminal book, Jung compellingly argues that only then can we begin to cope with the dangers posed by mass society�"the sum total of individuals"—and resist the potential threats posed by those in power.]]> 112 C.G. Jung 0451217322 Amir 0 to-read, psychology 4.18 1961 The Undiscovered Self
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]]> <![CDATA[The Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious (Collected Works 9i)]]> 67890
Essays which state the fundamentals of Jung's psychological system: "On the Psychology of the Unconscious" and "The Relations Between the Ego and the Unconscious," with their original versions in an appendix.]]> 550 C.G. Jung 0691097615 Amir 0 to-read, psychology 4.32 1959 The Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious (Collected Works 9i)
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]]> <![CDATA[How to Live: 27 conflicting answers and one weird conclusion]]> 58188742
Not quite non-fiction, not quite self-help. It’s a work of art about conflicting philosophies.




Many books believe they know how you should live.
But each book disagrees with the next.
In “How to Live�, each chapter believes it knows how you should live.
And each chapter disagrees with the next.


One chapter makes a compelling argument for why you should be completely independent, keeping all options open. The next chapter argues why you should commit to one career, one place, and one person.


One chapter persuades you to be fully present, and experience each moment. The next, to delay gratification and invest for the future.


Which one is right? Which does the author believe? All of them. It's a philosophy of conflicting philosophies.


A very unique and thought-provoking book.
Meant for reflection as much as instruction.


113 incredibly succinct pages of profound insights.
No philosophers are quoted.
No -isms are named.
Only actionable directives.
The end result feels more like poetry than prose.

]]> 115 Derek Sivers Amir 0 to-read 4.17 2021 How to Live: 27 conflicting answers and one weird conclusion
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]]> <![CDATA[Livewired: The Inside Story of the Ever-Changing Brain]]> 51778153 From the best-selling author of Incognito and Sum comes a revelatory portrait of the human brain based on the most recent scientific discoveries about how it unceasingly adapts, re-creates, and formulates new ways of understanding the world we live in.

The magic of the brain is not found in the parts it's made of but in the way those parts unceasingly reweave themselves in an electric living fabric. And there is no more accomplished and accessible guide than renowned neuroscientist David Eagleman to help us understand the nature and changing texture of that fabric. With his hallmark clarity and enthusiasm he reveals the myriad ways that the brain absorbs experience: developing, redeploying, organizing, and arranging the data it receives from the body's own absorption of external stimuli, which enables us to gain the skills, the facilities, and the practices that make us who we are.
Eagleman covers decades of the most important research into the functioning of the brain and presents new discoveries from his own research as well: about the nature of synesthesia, about dreaming, and about wearable devices that are revolutionizing how we think about the five human senses. Finally, Livewired is as deeply informative as it is accessible and brilliantly engaging.]]> 352 David Eagleman 030790749X Amir 0 to-read, neuroscience 4.17 2014 Livewired: The Inside Story of the Ever-Changing Brain
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]]> <![CDATA[The Pathless Path: Imagining a New Story For Work and Life]]> 60135094
Paul Millerd thought he was on his way. From small-town Connecticut kid to the most prestigious consulting firm in the world, brushing shoulders with CEOs and with the resume to match.

The Pathless Path is about finding yourself in the wrong life, and the real work of figuring out how to live. Through painstaking experiments, living in different countries and the goodwill of people from around the world, Paul Millerd pieces together a set of ideas and principles that guide him from unfulfilled and burned out to the good life and all of the existential crises in between.

This book is a personal journey of awakening and is an ideal companion for people considering leaving their jobs, embarking on a new path, dealing with the uncertainty of an unconventional path, or searching for better models for thinking about work in a fast-changing world. Reader feedback: “It’s a rare book in that it is tangentially about careers and being more focused and productive, but unlike almost every other book I have read about these topics, I finished this one and felt better about myself and my career.� “The themes are timeless. The content is expertly written. The advice is refreshingly non-prescriptive.� “If you have questioned your own path, or a nagging lack of intention in your choices you need this book. If you have felt a gradual loss of agency in your direction you need this book. You are in the grip of an invisible script that was not written for you.� - Kris Abdelmessih “The writing is fantastic - Paul's writing is approachably poetic; a quick read that weaves together his own experience moving from a 'default path' overachiever to a 'pathless path' seeker of passion and curiosity, deep research into the history of work and collections of perspectives from years of podcasting, friendship, conferences, and meetings with other 'alternative path' life-livers.”]]> 220 Paul Millerd Amir 0 success, currently-reading 3.96 2022 The Pathless Path: Imagining a New Story For Work and Life
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]]> <![CDATA[How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships]]> 35210 "You'll not only break the ice, you'll melt it away with your new skills." -- Larry King

"The lost art of verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes." -- Harvey McKay, author of "How to Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive"

What is that magic quality makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover!) In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their "Midas touch?"

What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people.

The author has spent her career teaching people how to communicate for success. In her book How to Talk to Anyone (Contemporary Books, October 2003) Lowndes offers 92 easy and effective sure-fire success techniques-- she takes the reader from first meeting all the way up to sophisticated techniques used by the big winners in life. In this information-packed book you'll find:


9 ways to make a dynamite first impression 14 ways to master small talk, "big talk," and body language 14 ways to walk and talk like a VIP or celebrity 6 ways to sound like an insider in any crowd 7 ways to establish deep subliminal rapport with anyone 9 ways to feed someone's ego (and know when NOT to!) 11 ways to make your phone a powerful communications tool 15 ways to work a party like a politician works a room 7 ways to talk with tigers and not get eaten alive
In her trademark entertaining and straight-shooting style, Leil gives the techniques catchy names so you'll remember them when you really need them, including: "Rubberneck the Room," "Be a Copyclass," "Come Hither Hands," "Bare Their Hot Button," "The Great Scorecard in the Sky," and "Play the Tombstone Game," for big success in your social life, romance, and business.

How to Talk to Anyone, which is an update of her popular book, Talking the Winner's Way (see the 5-star reviews of the latter) is based on solid research about techniques that work!

By the way, don't confuse How to Talk to Anyone with one of Leil's previous books, How to Talk to Anybody About Anything. This one is completely different!]]> 345 Leil Lowndes 007141858X Amir 3 3.68 1998 How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
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]]> <![CDATA[Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience]]> 58330567 Atlas of the Heart, Brown takes us on a journey through eighty-seven of the emotions and experiences that define what it means to be human. As she maps the necessary skills and an actionable framework for meaningful connection, she gives us the language and tools to access a universe of new choices and second chances—a universe where we can share and steward the stories of our bravest and most heartbreaking moments with one another in a way that builds connection.

Over the past two decades, Brown's extensive research into the experiences that make us who we are has shaped the cultural conversation and helped define what it means to be courageous with our lives. Atlas of the Heart draws on this research, as well as on Brown's singular skills as a storyteller, to show us how accurately naming an experience doesn't give the experience more power, it gives us the power of understanding, meaning, and choice.

Brown shares, "I want this book to be an atlas for all of us, because I believe that, with an adventurous heart and the right maps, we can travel anywhere and never fear losing ourselves."]]> 301 Brené Brown 0399592555 Amir 3 strategic-thinking, science 4.33 2021 Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
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]]> <![CDATA[Bigger Leaner Stronger: The Simple Science of Building the Ultimate Male Body]]> 25049103
Here's the deal:

Getting into awesome shape isn't nearly as complicated as the fitness industry wants you to believe.

You don't need to spend hundreds of dollars per month on the worthless supplements that steroid freaks shill in advertisements.

You don't need to constantly change up your exercise routines to "confuse" your muscles. I'm pretty sure muscles lack cognitive abilities, but this approach is a good way to just confuse you instead.

You don't need to burn through buckets of protein powder every month, stuffing down enough protein each day to feed a third world village.

You don't need to toil away in the gym for a couple of hours per day, doing tons of sets, supersets, drop sets, giant sets, etc. (As a matter of fact, this is a great way to stunt gains and get nowhere.)

You don't need to grind out hours and hours of boring cardio to shed ugly belly fat and love handles and get a shredded six-pack. (How many flabby treadmillers have you come across over the years?)

You don't need to completely abstain from "cheat" foods while getting down to single-digit body fat percentages. If you plan cheat meals correctly, you can actually speed your metabolism up and accelerate fat loss.

In this book you're going to learn something most guys will never know: The exact formula of exercise and eating that makes putting on 10 to 15 pounds of quality lean mass a breeze...and it only takes 8-12 weeks.

This book reveals secrets like...

The 6 biggest myths & mistakes of building muscle that stunt 99% of guys' muscle gains. (These BS lies are pushed by all the big magazines and even by many trainers.) (Page 28)

How to get a lean, cut physique that you love (and that girls drool over) by spending no more than 5 percent of your time each day. (Page 61)

The 4 laws of muscle growth that, when applied, turn your body into an anabolic, muscle-building machine. You'll be shocked at how easy it really is to get big once you know what you're doing... (Page 32)

How to develop a lightning-fast metabolism that burns up fat quickly and leaves you feeling full of energy all day long. (Page 41)

The carefully-selected exercises that deliver MAXIMUM results for your efforts, helping you build a big, full chest, a wide, tapered back, and bulging biceps. (Page 91)

A no-BS guide to supplements that will save you hundreds if not THOUSANDS of dollars each year that you would've wasted on products that are nothing more than bunk science and marketing hype. (Page 100)

How to get shredded while still indulging in the "cheat" foods that you love every week like pasta, pizza, and ice cream. (Page 83)

And a whole lot more!

The bottom line is you CAN achieve that "Hollywood hunk" body without having your life revolve around it--no long hours in the gym, no starving yourself, no grueling cardio that turns your stomach.

Imagine, just 12 weeks from now, being constantly complimented on how you look and asked what the heck you're doing to make such startling gains. Imagine enjoying the added benefits of high energy levels, no aches and pains, better spirits, and knowing that you're getting healthier every day.

SPECIAL BONUS FOR READERS!

With this book you'll also get a free 75-page bonus report from the author called "The Year One Challenge." In this bonus report, you'll learn exactly how to train, eat, and supplement to make maximum gains in your first year of training.

By applying what you learn in the book and in this report, you can make more progress in one year than most guys make in three, four, or even five (seriously!).]]> 327 Michael Matthews 1938895274 Amir 0 to-read, health 4.21 2011 Bigger Leaner Stronger: The Simple Science of Building the Ultimate Male Body
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]]> <![CDATA[Domain-Driven Design Distilled]]> 28602719 176 Vaughn Vernon 0134434420 Amir 0 to-read 3.77 Domain-Driven Design Distilled
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]]> <![CDATA[Accelerate: Building and Scaling High Performing Technology Organizations]]> 35747076 288 Nicole Forsgren 1942788339 Amir 0 to-read, software-management 4.03 Accelerate: Building and Scaling High Performing Technology Organizations
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]]> <![CDATA[Team Topologies: Organizing Business and Technology Teams for Fast Flow]]> 44135420 Effective software teams are essential for any organization to deliver value continuously and sustainably. But how do you build the best team organization for your specific goals, culture, and needs?

Team Topologies is a practical, step-by-step, adaptive model for organizational design and team interaction based on four fundamental team types and three team interaction patterns. It is a model that treats teams as the fundamental means of delivery, where team structures and communication pathways are able to evolve with technological and organizational maturity.

In Team Topologies, IT consultants Matthew Skelton and Manuel Pais share secrets of successful team patterns and interactions to help readers choose and evolve the right team patterns for their organization, making sure to keep the software healthy and optimize value streams.

Team Topologies is a major step forward in organizational design for software, presenting a well-defined way for teams to interact and interrelate that helps make the resulting software architecture clearer and more sustainable, turning inter-team problems into valuable signals for the self-steering organization.

]]> 240 Matthew Skelton 1942788827 Amir 0 to-read, software-management 4.15 2019 Team Topologies: Organizing Business and Technology Teams for Fast Flow
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]]> What We Owe the Future 59802037 An Oxford philosopher makes the case for "longtermism"—that positively influencing the long-term future is a key moral priority of our time.

The fate of the world is in our hands. Humanity’s written history spans only five thousand years. Our yet-unwritten future could last for millions more—or it could end tomorrow. Astonishing numbers of people could lead lives of great happiness or unimaginable suffering, or never live at all, depending on what we choose to do today.

In What We Owe the Future, philosopher William MacAskill argues for longtermism, that idea that positively influencing the distant future is a key moral priority of our time. From this perspective, it’s not enough to reverse climate change or avert the next pandemic. We must ensure that civilization would rebound if it collapsed; counter the end of moral progress; and prepare for a planet where the smartest beings are digital, not human.

If we make wise choices today, our grandchildren’s grandchildren will thrive, knowing we did everything we could to give them a world full of justice, hope and beauty.]]> 335 William MacAskill 1541618629 Amir 0 to-read, philosophy 3.81 2022 What We Owe the Future
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]]> Stumbling on Happiness 56627 � Why will sighted people pay more to avoid going blind than blind people will pay to regain their sight?
� Why do dining companions insist on ordering different meals instead of getting what they really want?
� Why do pigeons seem to have such excellent aim; why can’t we remember one song while listening to another; and why does the line at the grocery store always slow down the moment we join it?

In this brilliant, witty, and accessible book, renowned Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert describes the foibles of imagination and illusions of foresight that cause each of us to mis-conceive our tomorrows and mis-estimate our satisfactions. Vividly bringing to life the latest scientific research in psychology, cognitive neuroscience, philosophy, and behavioral economics, Gilbert reveals what scientists have discovered about the uniquely human ability to imagine the future, and about our capacity to predict how much we will like it when we get there. With penetrating insight and sparkling prose, Gilbert explains why we seem to know so little about the hearts and minds of the people we are about to become.]]> 263 Daniel Todd Gilbert 1400077427 Amir 5 psychology, happiness علم روانشناسی هم با رو کردن خطاهایی که در غریضه و سیستم فکری و شناختی ما وجود داره به همین صورت مشکلایی رو مطرح کرده که قبلا وجود
نداشتن.
خوندن این کتاب حسابی مغز آدم رو از اشتباهات و توهمات تصفیه می کنه یا حداقل ما رو نسبت بهشون آگاه می کنه که بتونیم تصمیمات دقیق تری در مورد آیندمون بگیریم.
این یه کتاب عملی و راهنما برای خوشحال بودن نیست و بیشتر این موضوع رو بررسی می کنه که چرا چیزهایی که فکر می کنیم در آینده ما رو خوشحال می کنن وقتی بهشون می رسیم می بینیم نه، همچین خبری نیست انگار.

ویژگی های کتاب
استایل نوشتن دنیل گیلبرت با ذائقه من که خیلی جور بود، مثلا می خواد دلیل یک خطای فکری رو توضیح بده، اول یه مثال ساده می زنه و بعد سیستم کارکرد مغز رو بر اساس همون مثال شرح می ده و در ادامه هم یه پونصدتایی مثال از ریسرچ هایی که این موضوع رو بررسی و اثبات کردن میاره.

گزیده هایی از کتاب
اضطراب وقتی در ما به وجود میاد که به آینده فکر می کنیم.

کلید خوشحالی، و اغنای روحی در اینه که زیاد به آینده فکر نکنیم..
رویاپردازی درباره آینده گاهی اونقدر خوشاینده که ترجیح می دیم بیشتر بهش فکر کنیم تا اینکه بهش برسیم.

تحقیقات نشون می ده که وقتی یه نفر خیال پردازی در مورد آیندش براش راحته، در مورد احتمال رسیدن به اون آینده بیش از حد دست بالا می گیره که می تونه عواقب بدی داشته باشه.

داشتن انتظار پیش آمدهای بد می تونه به شدت از تاثیر اونها کم کنه.
چرا انقدر ما خیال پردازی می کنیم
یه سوال مهم اینه که اصلا چرا اینقدر ما در آینده سیر می کنیم. یکی از جواب های اصلی "داشتن حس کنترل هست". گفته می شه نیاز به حس کنترل یکی از بنیادی ترین نیازهای بشر هست و تفکر در مورد آینده تا حدی این نیاز رو ارضا می کنه.

اگر به کسی اختیاراتی (قدرت کنترل کردن یک سری مسائل) داده بشه و بعد ازش گرفته بشه، به شدت توی روحیه و خوشحالی طرف اثر منفی می ذاره و حتی می تونه موجب مرگش بشه.

ازین جمله جان استورات میل هم خوشم اومد بسیار:
It's better to be a human unsatisfied than being a pig satisfied.
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اندر حکایات مغز شگفت انگیز و معیوب ما
هر اتقاقی که رخ بده مغز تنها رشته هایی ازون واقعه رو در حافظه ذخیره می کنه و هربار که می خواد اونها رو به خاطر بیاره، بر اساس اعتقادات، باور ها و احساس های فعلیش اون خاطره رو بازسازی می کنه. ازین عجیب تر اینکه با به یاد آوردن اون خاطره و صحبت کردن در موردش، مغز همون خاطره رو به شکلی متفاوت از اونچیزی که در ابتدا بوده، ذخیره می کنه.

مغز ما تنها زمانی متوجه تغییری در محیط اطرافمون می شیم که مشخصا بر روی چیزی که قراره تغییر کنه متمرکز باشیم و یا اون تغییر زیادی بزرگ باشه. یکی از آزمایشای معروف این موضوع اینه که یه مسابقه بسکتبال رو به جمعی نشون می دن و می خوان که امتیازات مسابقه رو بشمارن، جالب اینکه وسط این مسابقه یه گوریل چندین بار از جلو صحنه رد می شه و کسی متوجه اون نمی شه.

وقتی یک تجربه جدید در زندگیمون رقم می خوره، پس از اون دنیا رو اونطور که قبلا دیده بودیم نمی تونیم ببینیم.
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آدما حتی در خصوص احساساتی که تجربه می کنن هم می تونن اشتباه کنن.
مثلا توی یک آزمایش زنی یک طرف پل خطرناکی وای می سته در یک آزمایش و از داوطلبین می خواد که از اون پل عبور کنن. تقریبا همه داوطلبایی که از پل خطرناک گذشتن این احساس ترس رو با هیجان و جذب شدن به اون خانوم اشتباه گرفتن.
(داره کم کم جالب می شه )
Hatred seems to operate the same glands as love (graham Greene)

تصورات ما از آینده پر از اشکالات هستن. درک این اشکلات با دونستن نقص هایی که در سیستم کارکرد حافظمون هست و همچنین نقص هایی که در ادراک ما از زمان حال وجود داره راحت تر می شه.

یکی از اشکالات حافظه همین هست که مغز تنها بخش های کوچکی از خاطرات رو ذخیره می کنه و حین بازیابیشون، ما بقی خاطره رو در لحظه می سازه.
در پشت بخشی از رتینای چشم یک عصب وصل هست که به انتهای مغز می ره و در این بخشی از رتینا که این عصبب وصل هست سلول های نوری وجود نداره، با این حال ما هیچ نقطه کوری وقتی اطرفا رو نگاه می کنیم متوجه نمی شیم. دلیلش اینه که مغز ما با تجه به تصاویری که در اطراف وجود داره، اون بخشی که از دیدش پنهان هست رو حدس می زنه و بازسازی می کنه.
بله، مغز ما بدون اجازه ما یک سری تصاویر رو که حدس می زنه درست باشه اختراع می کنه و به ما قالب می کنه.
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خوب تا نویسنده این بود که شما رو متقائد کنه که هیچ چیز اونطور که به نظر می رسه نیست و از اینجا به بعد تلاش می کنه که شما متقائد شید که شما چاره ای ندارید جز اینکه واقعا باور کنید همه چیز همونطوری که می بینید هستن. :D
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وقتی از شما خواسته می شه در آینده مثلا میزان لذتی که می برید رو از خورد یک ظرف ماکارونی تصور کنید شما این کار رو در چندثانیه انجام می دین. (به به یه ظرف ماکارونی با سس مخصوص و یه ظرف سالاد شیرازیم کنارش و به به چه شود ...) اما در همین حین یک اشکال بزرگ صورت گرفته. شما فقط یه ظرف ماکارونی رو تصور نکردید، بلکه با رجوع به حافظه (همون حافظه نه چندان صحیح و سالممون) مجموعه ای از چیزای مختلف رو با تجربه ماکارونی خوردن همراه کردین.
این اشکال در خصوص همه پیش بینیای ما در مورد آینده رخ می ده و وقتی بهشون می رسیم متوجه می شیم بسیاری از چیزایی که وجود نداشتن رو تصور کردیم، و از طرف دیگه مسائل بسیاری رو نتونستیم تصور کنیم.

وقتی آینده رو تصور می کنیم بسیاری از جزئیات اساسی و کلیدی رو که از چشم پنهون هست توسط مغز با ساخته و پرداخته می شن و ما اصلا متوجه این موضوع نیستیم.
When we imagine the future, we often do so in the blind spot of our mind's eye, and this tendency can cause us to misimagine the future events whose emotional consequences we are attempting to weighZ.
این موضوع مثل همون نقطه کوری هست که توی رتینای چشم ما وجود داره و مغز ما اون بخشی رو که چشم ما نمی بینه خودش بازسازی می کنه. علاوه بر این مشکل، مسئله مهمتر دیگه جزئیاتی هست که مغز ما در مورد آینده ساخت و پاخت این تصورات از آینده نسبت بهشون کاملا غغافل هست.
ذهن انسان ممکنه بتونه اتفاقاتی رو که در حال رخ دادن هستن رو متوجه بشه، اما به ندرت متوجه اتفاقاتی که باید می افتادن اما نیافتادن می شه و این یکی دیگه از مشکلاتی هست که وقتی می خوایم حس و حالمون از آینده رو تخمین بزنیم پیش میاد. هزار و یک جزئیاتی که از قوه عقل ما پنهون می مونه.
When we imagine the future, there is a whole lot missing, and the things that are missing matter a lot.
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وقتی می خوایم انتخابی رو انجام بدیم (مثلا سفر کجا بریم) بین گزینه های موجود می گردیم دنبال نکته های مثبت و وقتی بخوایم یک گزینه ای رو رد کنیم (مثلا از بین این شهر ها یکی رو نمی تونیم بریم) می گردیم دنبال نکات منفی اون گزینه ها. یعنی اینکه در انتخاباتمون، ما اغلب سبک سنگین نمی کنیم ...

وقتی که می خوایم در مورد آینده دور نظر بدیم بسیاری از جزئیات رو از دست می دیم و اگر همون سوال رو در مورد چند روز آینده از ما بپرسن با جزئیات و دقت بیشتری بهشون می پردازیم. به این دلیل هست که وقتی تعهدی به یک موضوعی که در آینده قراره رخ بده می دیم، وقتی زمانش می رسه می بینیم همچین کار راحتیم نبوده و اگه برگردیم عقب همچین قولی نمی دادیم.
In a study when volunteers are asked to "imagine a good day," they imagine a greater variety of events if the good day is tomorrow than if the good day is a year later. When we spy the future through our prospectiscopes,
the clarity of the next hour and the fuzziness of the next year can lead us to make a variety of mistakes.
پس یکی از مشکلات تصور کردن آینده اینه که مغز آزادنه یک سری جزئیات رو از خودش می سازه و یک بخش زیادی از جزئیات رو هم حذف می کنه بدون اینکه با ما مشورتی کنه و مهمتر اینکه ما از هیچ کدوم ازینا با خبر نیستیم و فکر می کنیم تصورات ما همواره عین حقایق هستن.

Presentism: The tendency for current experience to influence one's views of the past and the future
کلوین یکی از آینده نگرترین فیزیکدان ها و پیش بینی کرد هرچیزی که از هوا سنگین تر باشه غیر ممکنه که بتونه پرواز کنه و تقریبا همه دانشمندان هم عصر او باهاش موافق بودن!!!

اون جزئیاتی رو که گفتیم مغز باهاشون گذشته و آینده رو پر می کنه ماده ای و ترکیبی دارن به اسم "امروز".
When college students hear persuasive speeches that demonstrably change their political opinions, they tend to remember that they always felt as they currently feel...
Presentism in the future: If the past is a wall with some holes, the future is a hole with no walls.
اغلب ما به سختی می تونیم فردایی رو تصور کنیم که خیلی با امروز ما تفاوت داشته باشه و مشخصا به شدت سخت خواهد بود که تصور کنیم در آینده نسبت به موضوی احساس، عقیده و یا فکر دیگه ای داشته باشیم. جوونا تتو می کنن چون فکر می کنن تا آخر عمر دوستش خواهند داشت و یه آدم سیگاری که پنج دقیقه از آخرین نخی که کشیده می گذره حس می کنه می تونه به راحتی آب خوردن سیگار رو ترک کنه.
وقتی گرسنه هستیم نمی تونیم تصور کنیم چه غذایی رو دوست داریم فردا نوش جان کنیم.
And yet, for some reason,
when our bellies are stuffed with mashed potatoes and cranverry sauce, we cant't imagine being hungry? How come?
یکی از بهترین های کتاب این موضوع هست: دقت کردین وقتی می خواین آهنگی رو به یاد بیارید، اگر یه آهنگ دیگه در حال پخش باشه نمی تونید اون رو به خاطر بیارید؟ یا وقتی می خواین چهره یه نفر رو به خاطر بیارید چشماتون رو می بندین تا راحت تر این کار رو کنید؟ دلیلش اینه که تصور کردن آهنگ یا چهره از همون بخش از مغز استفاده می کنیه که گوش و چشم ما استفاده می کنن و اولویت مغز با گوش و چشم هست تا تصورات صوتی و تصویری و نکته اساسی اینه که احساسات ما هم همینطوری کار می کنه.
مثلا اگر حال خوشی داشته باشیم و ازمون بپرسن فکر می کنید در آینده از این سفر چقدر لذت ببرید حال حاضرمون در تخمین حس آیندمون از اون سفر به شدت تاثیر می گذاره.
We can't see or feel two things at once, and the brain has strict priorities about what it will see, hear, and feel and what it will ignore. Imagination's requests are often denied. Both the sensory and emotional systems enforce this policy, and yet, we seem to recognize when the sensory systems are turning down imagination's requests but fail to recognize when the emotional system is doing the same.
Habituation: تکرار کردن یک تجربه هرچقدر هم که خوشایند باشه باعث دلزدگی ازون می شه نهایتا. راه هل ایجاد تنوع و زیاد کردن فاصله بین انجام اون کار خوشایند هست تا بتونیم همون لذت اولیه رو از انجامش ببریم. اما اینجا یه نکته ای وجود داره، یکی ازین دو مورد رو بیشتر نباید به کار بگیریم. اگر فاصله کافی بین یک ترجبه خوشایند وجود داشته باشه، افزایش تنوع باعث می شه لذت کمتری ببریم:
When episodes are sufficiently seperated in time, variety is not only unnecessary-it can actually be costly.
وقتی پی می بریم که در مورد آینده داریم زیادی اغراق می کنیم، میایم تا کمی در تصوراتمون تعادل ایجاد کنیم. ازین نظر خوبه، اما تحقیقات نشون می ده نقطع شروع ما در تخمین یک موضوع تا حد زیادی در تخمین نهایی ما تاثیر می ذاره.
Rationalization: The act of causing something to be or to seem reasonable.
گفته می شه که اتفاقات بدی که برامون رخ می ده اغلب منجر به رشد می شه. سوال اینه که اگر اینطور هست چرا ما از اتفاقات بدی که در آینده ممکنه برامون رخ بده (شکست عشقی کاری ...) انقدر حراس داریم. جواب این سوال "وجود ابهام" هست که مغز از ابهام موجود در شرایط سو استفاده می کنه.
Most stimuli are ambiguous-that is, they can mean more than one thing-and the interesting question is how we disambiguate them-that is, how we know which of a stimulus's many meanings to infer on a particular occasion. Research shows that context, frequency, and recency are especially important in this regard.

مثلا اگر از ما پرسیده بشه تعریف استعداد چیه، به دلیل ابهام این کلمه، تعریفی رو ارائه می دیم که منجر به حس خوب در ما بشه، یکی می گه استعداد یعنی توانایی حل کردن مسائل ریاضی، یکی دیگه می گه یعنی نواختن خوب موسیقی و ...
Studies suggest that we are quite adept at finding a positive way to view things once those things become heir own ...
.Psychological Immune System: اغلب پیش میاد که آدم از می تونه ا زخیانت همسرش بگذره اما چکه کردن سقف پارکینکش ممکنه دیوونش کنه. دلیلش اینه که اتفاقات بد هرچی سخت تر باشن اجتمال اینکه سیستم دفاع روانی رو فعال کنن بیشتر می شه و این سیستم در مواجه با اتفاقات کم اهمیت تر اقدامی نمی کنه ...
یکی دیگه از مورادی که باعث می شه این سیستم دفاعی فعال بشه (عدم وجود راه فرار) هست. مطالعات نشون می ده اگر انتخابی رو انجام بدیم و بعد از اون حق نداشته باشیم اون رو تغییر بدیم رضایت و خشوحالی بیشتری نسبت به اون انتخابمون خواهیم داشت.

راه حل
با این همه مشکلاتی که سیستم شناختی و فکری ما داره سوال اساسی اینه که خوب چه طور دقیق تر تحمین بزنیم که موضوعی در آینده واقعا ما رو خوشحال می کنه یا نه. دنیل گیلبرت نتیجه می گیره که بهترین راه برای اینکار اینه که از افرادی که در حال حاضر درگیر اون مسائلی هستن که ما دوست داریم روزی بهشون برسیم بپرسیم که چه حس و حالی دارن.

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واقعا فکر نمی کردن این کتاب تا این حد به خطاهای شناختی پرداخته باشه و از نظر واقعا فوق العاده بود. بهتر از اون مطالعات و مثال های متعدد از اثبات این خطا ها بود. بعد از خوندن این کتاب با ظرافت، دقت و آگاهی بیشتری می تونید به آیندتون نگاه کنید و مسیر رو انتخاب کنید]]> 3.82 2006 Stumbling on Happiness
author: Daniel Todd Gilbert
name: Amir
average rating: 3.82
book published: 2006
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date added: 2022/12/12
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روزی روزگاری یک مرد با ریش های سفید یه زمین مسطح درست می کنه وسط آسمون که درون نسل بشر در مرکزیت همه چیز قرار داشت و از جمله خورشید به دورش می چرخیدن. همه خوب و خوش بودن دور هم تا اینکه علم فیزیک اومد و با تئوری هایی مثل بیگ بنگ و ذرات کوانتومی و سیاه چاله ها و ... همه چیز و انقد پیچیده کردن تا اینکه نتییجتا چندین سال بعد آدم دیگه نمی دونه کجای جهان هستی قرار داره.
علم روانشناسی هم با رو کردن خطاهایی که در غریضه و سیستم فکری و شناختی ما وجود داره به همین صورت مشکلایی رو مطرح کرده که قبلا وجود
نداشتن.
خوندن این کتاب حسابی مغز آدم رو از اشتباهات و توهمات تصفیه می کنه یا حداقل ما رو نسبت بهشون آگاه می کنه که بتونیم تصمیمات دقیق تری در مورد آیندمون بگیریم.
این یه کتاب عملی و راهنما برای خوشحال بودن نیست و بیشتر این موضوع رو بررسی می کنه که چرا چیزهایی که فکر می کنیم در آینده ما رو خوشحال می کنن وقتی بهشون می رسیم می بینیم نه، همچین خبری نیست انگار.

ویژگی های کتاب
استایل نوشتن دنیل گیلبرت با ذائقه من که خیلی جور بود، مثلا می خواد دلیل یک خطای فکری رو توضیح بده، اول یه مثال ساده می زنه و بعد سیستم کارکرد مغز رو بر اساس همون مثال شرح می ده و در ادامه هم یه پونصدتایی مثال از ریسرچ هایی که این موضوع رو بررسی و اثبات کردن میاره.

گزیده هایی از کتاب
اضطراب وقتی در ما به وجود میاد که به آینده فکر می کنیم.

کلید خوشحالی، و اغنای روحی در اینه که زیاد به آینده فکر نکنیم..
رویاپردازی درباره آینده گاهی اونقدر خوشاینده که ترجیح می دیم بیشتر بهش فکر کنیم تا اینکه بهش برسیم.

تحقیقات نشون می ده که وقتی یه نفر خیال پردازی در مورد آیندش براش راحته، در مورد احتمال رسیدن به اون آینده بیش از حد دست بالا می گیره که می تونه عواقب بدی داشته باشه.

داشتن انتظار پیش آمدهای بد می تونه به شدت از تاثیر اونها کم کنه.
چرا انقدر ما خیال پردازی می کنیم
یه سوال مهم اینه که اصلا چرا اینقدر ما در آینده سیر می کنیم. یکی از جواب های اصلی "داشتن حس کنترل هست". گفته می شه نیاز به حس کنترل یکی از بنیادی ترین نیازهای بشر هست و تفکر در مورد آینده تا حدی این نیاز رو ارضا می کنه.

اگر به کسی اختیاراتی (قدرت کنترل کردن یک سری مسائل) داده بشه و بعد ازش گرفته بشه، به شدت توی روحیه و خوشحالی طرف اثر منفی می ذاره و حتی می تونه موجب مرگش بشه.

ازین جمله جان استورات میل هم خوشم اومد بسیار:
It's better to be a human unsatisfied than being a pig satisfied.
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اندر حکایات مغز شگفت انگیز و معیوب ما
هر اتقاقی که رخ بده مغز تنها رشته هایی ازون واقعه رو در حافظه ذخیره می کنه و هربار که می خواد اونها رو به خاطر بیاره، بر اساس اعتقادات، باور ها و احساس های فعلیش اون خاطره رو بازسازی می کنه. ازین عجیب تر اینکه با به یاد آوردن اون خاطره و صحبت کردن در موردش، مغز همون خاطره رو به شکلی متفاوت از اونچیزی که در ابتدا بوده، ذخیره می کنه.

مغز ما تنها زمانی متوجه تغییری در محیط اطرافمون می شیم که مشخصا بر روی چیزی که قراره تغییر کنه متمرکز باشیم و یا اون تغییر زیادی بزرگ باشه. یکی از آزمایشای معروف این موضوع اینه که یه مسابقه بسکتبال رو به جمعی نشون می دن و می خوان که امتیازات مسابقه رو بشمارن، جالب اینکه وسط این مسابقه یه گوریل چندین بار از جلو صحنه رد می شه و کسی متوجه اون نمی شه.

وقتی یک تجربه جدید در زندگیمون رقم می خوره، پس از اون دنیا رو اونطور که قبلا دیده بودیم نمی تونیم ببینیم.
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آدما حتی در خصوص احساساتی که تجربه می کنن هم می تونن اشتباه کنن.
مثلا توی یک آزمایش زنی یک طرف پل خطرناکی وای می سته در یک آزمایش و از داوطلبین می خواد که از اون پل عبور کنن. تقریبا همه داوطلبایی که از پل خطرناک گذشتن این احساس ترس رو با هیجان و جذب شدن به اون خانوم اشتباه گرفتن.
(داره کم کم جالب می شه )
Hatred seems to operate the same glands as love (graham Greene)

تصورات ما از آینده پر از اشکالات هستن. درک این اشکلات با دونستن نقص هایی که در سیستم کارکرد حافظمون هست و همچنین نقص هایی که در ادراک ما از زمان حال وجود داره راحت تر می شه.

یکی از اشکالات حافظه همین هست که مغز تنها بخش های کوچکی از خاطرات رو ذخیره می کنه و حین بازیابیشون، ما بقی خاطره رو در لحظه می سازه.
در پشت بخشی از رتینای چشم یک عصب وصل هست که به انتهای مغز می ره و در این بخشی از رتینا که این عصبب وصل هست سلول های نوری وجود نداره، با این حال ما هیچ نقطه کوری وقتی اطرفا رو نگاه می کنیم متوجه نمی شیم. دلیلش اینه که مغز ما با تجه به تصاویری که در اطراف وجود داره، اون بخشی که از دیدش پنهان هست رو حدس می زنه و بازسازی می کنه.
بله، مغز ما بدون اجازه ما یک سری تصاویر رو که حدس می زنه درست باشه اختراع می کنه و به ما قالب می کنه.
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خوب تا نویسنده این بود که شما رو متقائد کنه که هیچ چیز اونطور که به نظر می رسه نیست و از اینجا به بعد تلاش می کنه که شما متقائد شید که شما چاره ای ندارید جز اینکه واقعا باور کنید همه چیز همونطوری که می بینید هستن. :D
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وقتی از شما خواسته می شه در آینده مثلا میزان لذتی که می برید رو از خورد یک ظرف ماکارونی تصور کنید شما این کار رو در چندثانیه انجام می دین. (به به یه ظرف ماکارونی با سس مخصوص و یه ظرف سالاد شیرازیم کنارش و به به چه شود ...) اما در همین حین یک اشکال بزرگ صورت گرفته. شما فقط یه ظرف ماکارونی رو تصور نکردید، بلکه با رجوع به حافظه (همون حافظه نه چندان صحیح و سالممون) مجموعه ای از چیزای مختلف رو با تجربه ماکارونی خوردن همراه کردین.
این اشکال در خصوص همه پیش بینیای ما در مورد آینده رخ می ده و وقتی بهشون می رسیم متوجه می شیم بسیاری از چیزایی که وجود نداشتن رو تصور کردیم، و از طرف دیگه مسائل بسیاری رو نتونستیم تصور کنیم.

وقتی آینده رو تصور می کنیم بسیاری از جزئیات اساسی و کلیدی رو که از چشم پنهون هست توسط مغز با ساخته و پرداخته می شن و ما اصلا متوجه این موضوع نیستیم.
When we imagine the future, we often do so in the blind spot of our mind's eye, and this tendency can cause us to misimagine the future events whose emotional consequences we are attempting to weighZ.
این موضوع مثل همون نقطه کوری هست که توی رتینای چشم ما وجود داره و مغز ما اون بخشی رو که چشم ما نمی بینه خودش بازسازی می کنه. علاوه بر این مشکل، مسئله مهمتر دیگه جزئیاتی هست که مغز ما در مورد آینده ساخت و پاخت این تصورات از آینده نسبت بهشون کاملا غغافل هست.
ذهن انسان ممکنه بتونه اتفاقاتی رو که در حال رخ دادن هستن رو متوجه بشه، اما به ندرت متوجه اتفاقاتی که باید می افتادن اما نیافتادن می شه و این یکی دیگه از مشکلاتی هست که وقتی می خوایم حس و حالمون از آینده رو تخمین بزنیم پیش میاد. هزار و یک جزئیاتی که از قوه عقل ما پنهون می مونه.
When we imagine the future, there is a whole lot missing, and the things that are missing matter a lot.
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وقتی می خوایم انتخابی رو انجام بدیم (مثلا سفر کجا بریم) بین گزینه های موجود می گردیم دنبال نکته های مثبت و وقتی بخوایم یک گزینه ای رو رد کنیم (مثلا از بین این شهر ها یکی رو نمی تونیم بریم) می گردیم دنبال نکات منفی اون گزینه ها. یعنی اینکه در انتخاباتمون، ما اغلب سبک سنگین نمی کنیم ...

وقتی که می خوایم در مورد آینده دور نظر بدیم بسیاری از جزئیات رو از دست می دیم و اگر همون سوال رو در مورد چند روز آینده از ما بپرسن با جزئیات و دقت بیشتری بهشون می پردازیم. به این دلیل هست که وقتی تعهدی به یک موضوعی که در آینده قراره رخ بده می دیم، وقتی زمانش می رسه می بینیم همچین کار راحتیم نبوده و اگه برگردیم عقب همچین قولی نمی دادیم.
In a study when volunteers are asked to "imagine a good day," they imagine a greater variety of events if the good day is tomorrow than if the good day is a year later. When we spy the future through our prospectiscopes,
the clarity of the next hour and the fuzziness of the next year can lead us to make a variety of mistakes.
پس یکی از مشکلات تصور کردن آینده اینه که مغز آزادنه یک سری جزئیات رو از خودش می سازه و یک بخش زیادی از جزئیات رو هم حذف می کنه بدون اینکه با ما مشورتی کنه و مهمتر اینکه ما از هیچ کدوم ازینا با خبر نیستیم و فکر می کنیم تصورات ما همواره عین حقایق هستن.

Presentism: The tendency for current experience to influence one's views of the past and the future
کلوین یکی از آینده نگرترین فیزیکدان ها و پیش بینی کرد هرچیزی که از هوا سنگین تر باشه غیر ممکنه که بتونه پرواز کنه و تقریبا همه دانشمندان هم عصر او باهاش موافق بودن!!!

اون جزئیاتی رو که گفتیم مغز باهاشون گذشته و آینده رو پر می کنه ماده ای و ترکیبی دارن به اسم "امروز".
When college students hear persuasive speeches that demonstrably change their political opinions, they tend to remember that they always felt as they currently feel...
Presentism in the future: If the past is a wall with some holes, the future is a hole with no walls.
اغلب ما به سختی می تونیم فردایی رو تصور کنیم که خیلی با امروز ما تفاوت داشته باشه و مشخصا به شدت سخت خواهد بود که تصور کنیم در آینده نسبت به موضوی احساس، عقیده و یا فکر دیگه ای داشته باشیم. جوونا تتو می کنن چون فکر می کنن تا آخر عمر دوستش خواهند داشت و یه آدم سیگاری که پنج دقیقه از آخرین نخی که کشیده می گذره حس می کنه می تونه به راحتی آب خوردن سیگار رو ترک کنه.
وقتی گرسنه هستیم نمی تونیم تصور کنیم چه غذایی رو دوست داریم فردا نوش جان کنیم.
And yet, for some reason,
when our bellies are stuffed with mashed potatoes and cranverry sauce, we cant't imagine being hungry? How come?
یکی از بهترین های کتاب این موضوع هست: دقت کردین وقتی می خواین آهنگی رو به یاد بیارید، اگر یه آهنگ دیگه در حال پخش باشه نمی تونید اون رو به خاطر بیارید؟ یا وقتی می خواین چهره یه نفر رو به خاطر بیارید چشماتون رو می بندین تا راحت تر این کار رو کنید؟ دلیلش اینه که تصور کردن آهنگ یا چهره از همون بخش از مغز استفاده می کنیه که گوش و چشم ما استفاده می کنن و اولویت مغز با گوش و چشم هست تا تصورات صوتی و تصویری و نکته اساسی اینه که احساسات ما هم همینطوری کار می کنه.
مثلا اگر حال خوشی داشته باشیم و ازمون بپرسن فکر می کنید در آینده از این سفر چقدر لذت ببرید حال حاضرمون در تخمین حس آیندمون از اون سفر به شدت تاثیر می گذاره.
We can't see or feel two things at once, and the brain has strict priorities about what it will see, hear, and feel and what it will ignore. Imagination's requests are often denied. Both the sensory and emotional systems enforce this policy, and yet, we seem to recognize when the sensory systems are turning down imagination's requests but fail to recognize when the emotional system is doing the same.
Habituation: تکرار کردن یک تجربه هرچقدر هم که خوشایند باشه باعث دلزدگی ازون می شه نهایتا. راه هل ایجاد تنوع و زیاد کردن فاصله بین انجام اون کار خوشایند هست تا بتونیم همون لذت اولیه رو از انجامش ببریم. اما اینجا یه نکته ای وجود داره، یکی ازین دو مورد رو بیشتر نباید به کار بگیریم. اگر فاصله کافی بین یک ترجبه خوشایند وجود داشته باشه، افزایش تنوع باعث می شه لذت کمتری ببریم:
When episodes are sufficiently seperated in time, variety is not only unnecessary-it can actually be costly.
وقتی پی می بریم که در مورد آینده داریم زیادی اغراق می کنیم، میایم تا کمی در تصوراتمون تعادل ایجاد کنیم. ازین نظر خوبه، اما تحقیقات نشون می ده نقطع شروع ما در تخمین یک موضوع تا حد زیادی در تخمین نهایی ما تاثیر می ذاره.
Rationalization: The act of causing something to be or to seem reasonable.
گفته می شه که اتفاقات بدی که برامون رخ می ده اغلب منجر به رشد می شه. سوال اینه که اگر اینطور هست چرا ما از اتفاقات بدی که در آینده ممکنه برامون رخ بده (شکست عشقی کاری ...) انقدر حراس داریم. جواب این سوال "وجود ابهام" هست که مغز از ابهام موجود در شرایط سو استفاده می کنه.
Most stimuli are ambiguous-that is, they can mean more than one thing-and the interesting question is how we disambiguate them-that is, how we know which of a stimulus's many meanings to infer on a particular occasion. Research shows that context, frequency, and recency are especially important in this regard.

مثلا اگر از ما پرسیده بشه تعریف استعداد چیه، به دلیل ابهام این کلمه، تعریفی رو ارائه می دیم که منجر به حس خوب در ما بشه، یکی می گه استعداد یعنی توانایی حل کردن مسائل ریاضی، یکی دیگه می گه یعنی نواختن خوب موسیقی و ...
Studies suggest that we are quite adept at finding a positive way to view things once those things become heir own ...
.Psychological Immune System: اغلب پیش میاد که آدم از می تونه ا زخیانت همسرش بگذره اما چکه کردن سقف پارکینکش ممکنه دیوونش کنه. دلیلش اینه که اتفاقات بد هرچی سخت تر باشن اجتمال اینکه سیستم دفاع روانی رو فعال کنن بیشتر می شه و این سیستم در مواجه با اتفاقات کم اهمیت تر اقدامی نمی کنه ...
یکی دیگه از مورادی که باعث می شه این سیستم دفاعی فعال بشه (عدم وجود راه فرار) هست. مطالعات نشون می ده اگر انتخابی رو انجام بدیم و بعد از اون حق نداشته باشیم اون رو تغییر بدیم رضایت و خشوحالی بیشتری نسبت به اون انتخابمون خواهیم داشت.

راه حل
با این همه مشکلاتی که سیستم شناختی و فکری ما داره سوال اساسی اینه که خوب چه طور دقیق تر تحمین بزنیم که موضوعی در آینده واقعا ما رو خوشحال می کنه یا نه. دنیل گیلبرت نتیجه می گیره که بهترین راه برای اینکار اینه که از افرادی که در حال حاضر درگیر اون مسائلی هستن که ما دوست داریم روزی بهشون برسیم بپرسیم که چه حس و حالی دارن.

کلام آخر
واقعا فکر نمی کردن این کتاب تا این حد به خطاهای شناختی پرداخته باشه و از نظر واقعا فوق العاده بود. بهتر از اون مطالعات و مثال های متعدد از اثبات این خطا ها بود. بعد از خوندن این کتاب با ظرافت، دقت و آگاهی بیشتری می تونید به آیندتون نگاه کنید و مسیر رو انتخاب کنید
]]> <![CDATA[Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life]]> 44595007
What would be possible if you followed through on your best intentions? What could you accomplish if you could stay focused and overcome distractions? What if you had the power to become "indistractable"?

International best-selling author, former Stanford lecturer, and behavioral design expert, Nir Eyal, wrote Silicon Valley's handbook for making technology habit-forming. Five years after publishing Hooked, Eyal reveals distraction's Achilles' heel in his groundbreaking new book.

In Indistractable, Eyal reveals the hidden psychology driving us to distraction. He describes why solving the problem is not as simple as swearing off our devices: Abstinence is impractical and often makes us want more.

Eyal lays bare the secret of finally doing what you say you will do with a four-step, research-backed model. Indistractable reveals the key to getting the best out of technology, without letting it get the best of us.

Inside, Eyal overturns conventional wisdom and reveals:


Why distraction at work is a symptom of a dysfunctional company culture - and how to fix it
What really drives human behavior and why "time management is pain management"
Why your relationships (and your sex life) depend on you becoming indistractable
How to raise indistractable children in an increasingly distracting world
Empowering and optimistic, Indistractable provides practical, novel techniques to control your time and attention - helping you live the life you really want.]]> 290 Nir Eyal 194883653X Amir 2 productivity 3.71 2019 Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life
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]]> <![CDATA[How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love]]> 54304221
Have you ever looked around and wondered, “Why has everyone found love except me?� You’re not the only one. Great relationships don’t just appear in our lives—they’re the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love.

Drawing from years of research, behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn’t lead to results. You have to actually change your behavior. Ury shows you how.

This “simple-to-use guide� (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone ) focuses on a different decision in each chapter, incorporating insights from behavioral science, original research, and real-life stories. You’ll learn:
-What’s holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern)
-What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn’t)
-How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you)
-How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love)
-How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews)
-Why “the spark� is a myth (but you’ll find love anyway)

This “data-driven� ( Time ), step-by-step guide to relationships, complete with hands-on exercises, is designed to transform your life. How to Not Die Alone will help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.]]> 352 Logan Ury 1982120622 Amir 3
The advices are sound, and in addition to advices, she offers techniques borrowed from behavioral science to help you follow through those advices.

I didn’t give it five stars because after finishing the book I’m still single ]]> 3.97 2021 How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love
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Author tries to cover different phases of relationships from where/how to find people to meet, to how to know if you should break up with or marry your partner.

The advices are sound, and in addition to advices, she offers techniques borrowed from behavioral science to help you follow through those advices.

I didn’t give it five stars because after finishing the book I’m still single
]]> <![CDATA[The Lean Product Playbook: How to Innovate with Minimum Viable Products and Rapid Customer Feedback]]> 25374501 The missing manual on how to apply Lean Startup to build products that customers love

The Lean Product Playbook is a practical guide to building products that customers love. Whether you work at a startup or a large, established company, we all know that building great products is hard. Most new products fail. This book helps improve your chances of building successful products through clear, step-by-step guidance and advice.

The Lean Startup movement has contributed new and valuable ideas about product development and has generated lots of excitement. However, many companies have yet to successfully adopt Lean thinking. Despite their enthusiasm and familiarity with the high-level concepts, many teams run into challenges trying to adopt Lean because they feel like they lack specific guidance on what exactly they should be doing.

If you are interested in Lean Startup principles and want to apply them to develop winning products, this book is for you. This book describes the Lean Product a repeatable, easy-to-follow methodology for iterating your way to product-market fit. It walks you through how

Determine your target customers Identify underserved customer needs Create a winning product strategy Decide on your Minimum Viable Product (MVP) Design your MVP prototype Test your MVP with customers Iterate rapidly to achieve product-market fit This book was written by entrepreneur and Lean product expert Dan Olsen whose experience spans product management, UX design, coding, analytics, and marketing across a variety of products. As a hands-on consultant, he refined and applied the advice in this book as he helped many companies improve their product process and build great products. His clients include Facebook, Box, Hightail, Epocrates, and Medallia.

Entrepreneurs, executives, product managers, designers, developers, marketers, analysts and anyone who is passionate about building great products will find The Lean Product Playbook an indispensable, hands-on resource.]]> 307 Dan Olsen Amir 0 to-read 4.27 2015 The Lean Product Playbook: How to Innovate with Minimum Viable Products and Rapid Customer Feedback
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]]> <![CDATA[The Rational Optimist: How Prosperity Evolves]]> 7776209
Yet Matt Ridley does more than describe how things are getting better. He explains why. Prosperity comes from everybody working for everybody else. The habit of exchange and specialization—which started more than 100,000 years ago—has created a collective brain that sets human living standards on a rising trend. The mutual dependence, trust, and sharing that result are causes for hope, not despair.

This bold book covers the entire sweep of human history, from the Stone Age to the Internet, from the stagnation of the Ming empire to the invention of the steam engine, from the population explosion to the likely consequences of climate change. It ends with a confident assertion that thanks to the ceaseless capacity of the human race for innovative change, and despite inevitable disasters along the way, the twenty-first century will see both human prosperity and natural biodiversity enhanced. Acute, refreshing, and revelatory, The Rational Optimist will change your way of thinking about the world for the better.]]> 448 Matt Ridley 006145205X Amir 0 to-read, success 3.94 2010 The Rational Optimist: How Prosperity Evolves
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]]> <![CDATA[The Day That Turns Your Life Around: Remarkable Success Ideas That Can Change Your Life in an Instant]]> 34535316
This book revolves around a central, life-altering moment: the day one decides to take control of their life. It's about the day when the fog of unfulfilled dreams clears, and the path to a life of purpose, health, and prosperity becomes visible. Rohn vividly describes this transformative experience, comparing it to releasing a helium balloon that, once gone, cannot be retrieved.

It's a call to seize each moment and make it count.

Rohn delves into his own transformative experiences, recounting how he shifted from a life of broken dreams and financial struggles to achieving remarkable wealth and success.
The book is filled with Rohn's classic wisdom, uniquely presented and deeply personal, guiding readers through the process of initiating and sustaining life changes.

Rohn emphasizes the significance of the internal battle that accompanies decision-making, illustrating how crucial victories are won in the mind first.

Moving beyond just the concept of faith, Rohn offers practical advice on how to actively change any life aspect, focusing on the importance of starting, no matter how small the first step might be.

The Day That Turns Your Life Around is a blueprint for personal transformation. Rohn's storytelling, infused with wisdom and warmth, acts as a catalyst for readers to recognize their own 'life-changing day' and harness its power. This book is a must-read for anyone ready to reshape their destiny and embark on a journey toward a life filled with success, fulfillment, and a profound sense of purpose.]]> Jim Rohn 1935944630 Amir 5 4.70 The Day That Turns Your Life Around: Remarkable Success Ideas That Can Change Your Life in an Instant
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]]> The Evolution of Cooperation 366821 The Evolution of Cooperation provides valuable insights into the age-old question of whether unforced cooperation is ever possible. Widely praised and much-discussed, this classic book explores how cooperation can emerge in a world of self-seeking egoists—whether superpowers, businesses, or individuals—when there is no central authority to police their actions. The problem of cooperation is central to many different fields. Robert Axelrod recounts the famous computer tournaments in which the “cooperative� program Tit for Tat recorded its stunning victories, explains its application to a broad spectrum of subjects, and suggests how readers can both apply cooperative principles to their own lives and teach cooperative principles to others.]]> 264 Robert Axelrod 0465005640 Amir 0 to-read 4.26 1984 The Evolution of Cooperation
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]]> <![CDATA[The Compleat Strategyst: Being a Primer on the Theory of Games of Strategy (Dover Books on Mathematics)]]> 293700 Revised, updated, and available for the first time in an inexpensive paperback edition, The Compleat Strategyst is a highly entertaining text essential for anyone interested in this provocative and engaging area of modern mathematics. In fully illustrated chapters complete with everyday examples and word problems, Williams offers readers a working understanding of the possible methods for selecting strategies in a variety of situations, simple to complex. With just a basic understanding of arithmetic, anyone can grasp all necessary aspects of two-, three-, four-, and larger strategy games with two or more sets of inimical interests and a limitless array of zero-sum payoffs.
As research and study continues not only in this new discipline but in the related areas of statistics, probability and behavioral science, understanding of games, decision making, and the development of strategies will be increasingly important. In the areas of economics, sociology, politics, and the military, game theory is sure to have an even wider impact. For students and amateurs fascinated by game theory's implications there is no better, immediately applicable, or more entertaining introduction to the subject than this engaging text by the late J. D. Williams, Professor of Mathematics at Princeton University and a member of the Research Council of The Rand Corporation.]]> 268 J.D. Williams 0486251012 Amir 0 to-read, strategic-thinking 3.45 1965 The Compleat Strategyst: Being a Primer on the Theory of Games of Strategy (Dover Books on Mathematics)
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]]> <![CDATA[Building a Second Brain: A Proven Method to Organize Your Digital Life and Unlock Your Creative Potential]]> 59616977
Now, this eye-opening and accessible guide shows how you can easily create your own personal system for knowledge management, otherwise known as a Second Brain. As a trusted and organized digital repository of your most valued ideas, notes, and creative work synced across all your devices and platforms, a Second Brain gives you the confidence to tackle your most important projects and ambitious goals.

Discover the full potential of your ideas and translate what you know into more powerful, more meaningful improvements in your work and life by Building a Second Brain.]]> 272 Tiago Forte 1982167386 Amir 4 productivity
If like me, you take a gazillion of notes and never return them, this book will teach you a better way of taking notes.

It teaches you a system that will serve your present future self.

]]> 3.98 2022 Building a Second Brain: A Proven Method to Organize Your Digital Life and Unlock Your Creative Potential
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This book delivered much more than I expected.

If like me, you take a gazillion of notes and never return them, this book will teach you a better way of taking notes.

It teaches you a system that will serve your present future self.


]]> <![CDATA[The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness]]> 55359713

So what are these skills, and how do we learn them? What are the principles that should guide our efforts? What does progress really look like?


Naval Ravikant is an entrepreneur, philosopher, and investor who has captivated the world with his principles for building wealth and creating long-term happiness. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant is a collection of Naval's wisdom and experience from the last ten years, shared as a curation of his most insightful interviews and poignant reflections. This isn't a how-to book, or a step-by-step gimmick. Instead, through Naval's own words, you will learn how to walk your own unique path toward a happier, wealthier life.]]> 242 Eric Jorgenson 1544514212 Amir 0 to-read 4.50 2020 The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness
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]]> <![CDATA[Work Rules!: Insights from Inside Google That Will Transform How You Live and Lead]]> 22875447 From the visionary head of Google's innovative People Operations comes a groundbreaking inquiry into the philosophy of work-and a blueprint for attracting the most spectacular talent to your business and ensuring that they succeed.

"We spend more time working than doing anything else in life. It's not right that the experience of work should be so demotivating and dehumanizing." So says Laszlo Bock, head of People Operations at the company that transformed how the world interacts with knowledge.

This insight is the heart of WORK RULES!, a compelling and surprisingly playful manifesto that offers lessons including:


Take away managers' power over employees
Learn from your best employees-and your worst
Hire only people who are smarter than you are, no matter how long it takes to find them
Pay unfairly (it's more fair!)
Don't trust your gut: Use data to predict and shape the future
Default to open-be transparent and welcome feedback
If you're comfortable with the amount of freedom you've given your employees, you haven't gone far enough.



Drawing on the latest research in behavioral economics and a profound grasp of human psychology, WORK RULES! also provides teaching examples from a range of industries-including lauded companies that happen to be hideous places to work and little-known companies that achieve spectacular results by valuing and listening to their employees. Bock takes us inside one of history's most explosively successful businesses to reveal why Google is consistently rated one of the best places to work in the world, distilling 15 years of intensive worker R&D into principles that are easy to put into action, whether you're a team of one or a team of thousands.

WORK RULES! shows how to strike a balance between creativity and structure, leading to success you can measure in quality of life as well as market share. Read it to build a better company from within rather than from above; read it to reawaken your joy in what you do.

]]> 406 Laszlo Bock 1455554790 Amir 0 to-read 4.11 2015 Work Rules!: Insights from Inside Google That Will Transform How You Live and Lead
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]]> <![CDATA[The Elephant in the Brain: Hidden Motives in Everyday Life]]> 28820444
Our unconscious motives drive more than just our private behavior; they also infect our venerated social institutions such as Art, School, Charity, Medicine, Politics, and Religion. In fact, these institutions are in many ways designed to accommodate our hidden motives, to serve covert agendas alongside their "official" ones. The existence of big hidden motives can upend the usual political debates, leading one to question the legitimacy of these social institutions, and of standard policies designed to favor or discourage them. You won't see yourself - or the world - the same after confronting the elephant in the brain.]]> 408 Kevin Simler 0190496010 Amir 3 psychology Summary

The origination of our disproportionate intelligence is better explained by the competitive social challenges against other humans in the zero-sum games of sex, status, and politics rather than the cooperative ecological challenges against nature in positive-sum games of survival. These social challenges require players to evaluate and attract allies. This is done through signals: honest and expensive signs of status.

Zero-sum competition is inefficient for groups as little progress is made in aggregate yet resources are spent. Norms, which are agreed-upon punishments enforced by a collective against a subject who committed a certain action, limit the resources spent in zero-sum competition. Norms against discreet actions (killing, rape) are hard to bypass, but norms against intentions (romantic intent towards someone’s spouse) can be bypassed. Norms paradoxically reduced the resources you can direct into zero-sum competition but increased the incentives to be a clever competitor: one who operates on selfish/ugly motives but convinces others that they are prosocial/pretty ones.

To reap this reward people lie a lot, but lying is costly as it takes a lot of mental resources, and getting caught is expensive. Therefore, we started deceiving ourselves of our true intentions in order to deceive others better. This also gives us plausible deniability if we are “caught�. This explains the evolutionary advantage to the psychological idea of “repression�: we hide elements of ourselves to our conscious so that we can present a better version of ourselves to others.

We are great at operating under hidden motives, but the danger is poor optimization since our conscious and unconscious goals are different. Our saving grace is that we are inconsistent and incongruent: It is possible for our brains to maintain a relatively accurate set of beliefs in systems tasked with evaluating potential actions without certain harmful beliefs surfacing into consciousness where we manage social impressions.

Finally, we are great at rationalizing decisions as seen by split-brain patients and disability denial. There is an interpreter module in our left hemisphere that is great at coming up with narratives and reasons for our actions that we actually have little visibility into.

The existence of hidden motives accounts for a lot of friction in personal relationships, but this expands to institutions as well. In many areas, our hidden agendas explain a surprising amount of our behavior, often a majority. When push comes to shove, we often prioritize our hidden agendas over the official ones. Here are some hidden agendas in seemingly innocent domains

Body Language:
- Why we are unaware of our body language:
- It gives us the ability to preserve the power to deny and avoid interrogation. I John flirts and his wife complains, he can deny it.
- It keeps our press secretary in the dark and enables her to come up with better explanations, denying things more easily than if she knew what was going on.
- Body language is hidden in the three games of life: politics, sex, and social status.

Laughter: signals playfulness and friendliness, psychological distance to subject with the added protection of plausible deniability.
- laughter has evolved to signal that we perceive the situation to be unharmful and not dangerous.
- Laughter is a play signal . Play is prevalent in animal kingdom and is a means to build skills. But, we need to communicate that we are playing and there’s no seriousness or danger. Hence, we do it by laughter.
- We mainly laugh under two scenarios:
1. We laugh At ourselves to communicate we’re being playful
2. We laugh At others� actions to communicate: I perceive your actions as playful, not dangerous. It’s in response to stimuli such as tickling, jokes, etc.

both forms of laughter act as forms of assurances. : in spite of what seems to be dangerous, I’m still being playful.

Language/conversation: instead of lending someone a specific tool (information sharing) we want to signal to people that we are a diverse toolbox and that by allying with us they gain access to all of our tools.

Consumption: We talk more than we listen because talking and sharing useful information is a way of increasing one's status in a group

Art: a function of art is to signal the genetic fitness of the artist as well as those who are able to discern good art. Good art also could imply an abundance of resources. The person has had enough resources that could put his/her time into crafting an art.

What we subconsciously value is the extrinsic value of art. What the art tells about the artist is what matter. 80 percent of people asked, preferred seing ashes of the burned original Mona Lisa painting than seeing a fake copy.

Charity: visibility (are we recognized), proximity (is the person a neighbor or across the world), relatability (one death is a tragedy, a million is a statistic), mating (men more likely to give money when observers are female).

Education: Educated people are not better workers because of their education. Rather, they are good workers because they have attributes that make them both good students and workers.

Companies put a value on education not because of the skills that academia provides. Rather, the academic degree is a certification that this person can work under pressure and provide results in a timely manner.]]> 3.96 2017 The Elephant in the Brain: Hidden Motives in Everyday Life
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Summary

The origination of our disproportionate intelligence is better explained by the competitive social challenges against other humans in the zero-sum games of sex, status, and politics rather than the cooperative ecological challenges against nature in positive-sum games of survival. These social challenges require players to evaluate and attract allies. This is done through signals: honest and expensive signs of status.

Zero-sum competition is inefficient for groups as little progress is made in aggregate yet resources are spent. Norms, which are agreed-upon punishments enforced by a collective against a subject who committed a certain action, limit the resources spent in zero-sum competition. Norms against discreet actions (killing, rape) are hard to bypass, but norms against intentions (romantic intent towards someone’s spouse) can be bypassed. Norms paradoxically reduced the resources you can direct into zero-sum competition but increased the incentives to be a clever competitor: one who operates on selfish/ugly motives but convinces others that they are prosocial/pretty ones.

To reap this reward people lie a lot, but lying is costly as it takes a lot of mental resources, and getting caught is expensive. Therefore, we started deceiving ourselves of our true intentions in order to deceive others better. This also gives us plausible deniability if we are “caught�. This explains the evolutionary advantage to the psychological idea of “repression�: we hide elements of ourselves to our conscious so that we can present a better version of ourselves to others.

We are great at operating under hidden motives, but the danger is poor optimization since our conscious and unconscious goals are different. Our saving grace is that we are inconsistent and incongruent: It is possible for our brains to maintain a relatively accurate set of beliefs in systems tasked with evaluating potential actions without certain harmful beliefs surfacing into consciousness where we manage social impressions.

Finally, we are great at rationalizing decisions as seen by split-brain patients and disability denial. There is an interpreter module in our left hemisphere that is great at coming up with narratives and reasons for our actions that we actually have little visibility into.

The existence of hidden motives accounts for a lot of friction in personal relationships, but this expands to institutions as well. In many areas, our hidden agendas explain a surprising amount of our behavior, often a majority. When push comes to shove, we often prioritize our hidden agendas over the official ones. Here are some hidden agendas in seemingly innocent domains

Body Language:
- Why we are unaware of our body language:
- It gives us the ability to preserve the power to deny and avoid interrogation. I John flirts and his wife complains, he can deny it.
- It keeps our press secretary in the dark and enables her to come up with better explanations, denying things more easily than if she knew what was going on.
- Body language is hidden in the three games of life: politics, sex, and social status.

Laughter: signals playfulness and friendliness, psychological distance to subject with the added protection of plausible deniability.
- laughter has evolved to signal that we perceive the situation to be unharmful and not dangerous.
- Laughter is a play signal . Play is prevalent in animal kingdom and is a means to build skills. But, we need to communicate that we are playing and there’s no seriousness or danger. Hence, we do it by laughter.
- We mainly laugh under two scenarios:
1. We laugh At ourselves to communicate we’re being playful
2. We laugh At others� actions to communicate: I perceive your actions as playful, not dangerous. It’s in response to stimuli such as tickling, jokes, etc.

both forms of laughter act as forms of assurances. : in spite of what seems to be dangerous, I’m still being playful.

Language/conversation: instead of lending someone a specific tool (information sharing) we want to signal to people that we are a diverse toolbox and that by allying with us they gain access to all of our tools.

Consumption: We talk more than we listen because talking and sharing useful information is a way of increasing one's status in a group

Art: a function of art is to signal the genetic fitness of the artist as well as those who are able to discern good art. Good art also could imply an abundance of resources. The person has had enough resources that could put his/her time into crafting an art.

What we subconsciously value is the extrinsic value of art. What the art tells about the artist is what matter. 80 percent of people asked, preferred seing ashes of the burned original Mona Lisa painting than seeing a fake copy.

Charity: visibility (are we recognized), proximity (is the person a neighbor or across the world), relatability (one death is a tragedy, a million is a statistic), mating (men more likely to give money when observers are female).

Education: Educated people are not better workers because of their education. Rather, they are good workers because they have attributes that make them both good students and workers.

Companies put a value on education not because of the skills that academia provides. Rather, the academic degree is a certification that this person can work under pressure and provide results in a timely manner.
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]]> <![CDATA[How to Profit by One's Enemies]]> 20553844 Who among us does not have rivals? Plutarch writes about it as easily as only great communicators do, and explains how to treat those who are not on our side. In "De capienda former inimicis utilitate": "How to profit by one’s enemies," the great philosopher introduces his thought with irony but also with overwhelming logic, revealing an infallible system for winning in a confrontation with one’s enemies. Rules conceived long ago, but which are relevant more than ever. A great help to improve our relationships with others.

THE AUTHOR
Plutarch was a writer and philosopher in ancient Greece.
He was born at Chaeronea, in Southern Greece sometime around AD, during the domination of the Roman Empire.
Later, he moved to Athens and began his studies in philosophy and mathematics. He travelled a lot, in Asia and then Rome, where, thanks to his prestige, he gained honorary positions which he held once back in Greece.
His works are numerous and they reveal his huge culture; Plutarch wrote about everything, driven by his curiosity and the desire to investigate human nature and the human mind from every angle.
His subjects, still incredibly relevant today, inspired famous authors such as Shakespeare, Alfieri and De Montaigne.]]> 19 Plutarch 8862776497 Amir 5 strategic-thinking چگونه از دشمنان خود بهره ببریم
این کتاب انقدر در مورد محسنات دشمن خوب توضیح داده که شخصا در پی دشمن تراشی برای خودم هستم :D
پلوتارک توی این کتاب کوتاه دید آدم رو نسبت به موضوع دشمن یا بدخواه خیلی باز می کنه و توصیه های کاربردی در خصوص بهره بردن از جملات مختلف این دشمنان عزیز ارائه داه که چنتاش رو برای نمونه میارم خدمت مبارکتون:

در بخش اول می گه در طبیعت بشر هست که همیشه دشمنانی رو در سایه داشته باشه و می گه حتی به مرور زمان بسیاری از دوستان آدم تبدیل به بدخواه می شن. این دسته از آدما زندگی آدم رو زیر و رو می کنن و به دقت همه رفتار و گفتار آدم رو زیر نظر دارن بلکه راهی برای ضربه زدن بهش پیدا کنن.
در نتیجه این ها پلوتارک می گه باید بدونیم وقتی چنین مسئله بزرگی در زندگی آدمی ناگزیر هست چه طور بیشترین استفاده رو ازش ببریم.

از اونجا که دشمن همیشه درکمین هست و گفتار و رفتار آدم رو زیر ذره بین داره، توصیه اول پلوتارک این هست که در همه حالت حتی در حضور بهترین دوستان شخص باید مراقب گفتار و رفتارش باشه. سعدی در همین باب می گه:
چرا گوید آن چیز در خفیه مرد. که گر فاش گردد شود روی زرد
اندر مزایای دشمن داشتن
یه بخشی از این کتاب خیلی دید من رو باز کرد. یک تمثیل جالب به کار می بره نویسنده به این صورت که می گه احتمالا برای شما پیش اومده که در نمایش یا کنسرتی شرکت می کنید و متوجه می شید که خواننده یا هنرمند با همه وجود کارش رو ارائه نمی کنه. اما اگر همین هنرمند در حضور یک رقیب دیگه بخواد کاری رو ارائه کنه بیشترین توان و تلاشش رو برای ارائه بهترین کار ارائه می ده.
با یک مثال دیگه می گه ترس من از زوال رم وقتی شروع شد که تونست کارتاژ رو شکست بده و رومیان رو به بردگی بگیره. یعنی تمام دشمنانش رو شکست داد.
نکته این مثال ها در این هست که آدم در حضور دشمنی که مدام اون رو به چالش می طلبه همیشه آمادگی و آگاهی خودش رو حفظ می کنه و در صدد قدرت موندن می مونه و در نبود این دشمنان ممکنه رو به سستی و کاهلی ببره.
Evil hath this peculiar quality in it, that it dreads an enemy more than a friend.
دیاگونیس در پاسخ به اینکه بهترین راه انتقام از دشمن چیست می گه: تنها راه زدن یک ضربه موثر و زهردار به دشمن این هست که همیشه یک شخص صادق و درستکار باشی.

بهره بردن از توهین های دشمن
در این بخش پلوتارک در صورتی که دشمنان و یا بدخواهان به شما توهین هایی کردن (مثلا نفهم، بی سواد ...) توصیه می کنه با ذهن باز این تحقیرها رو بررسی کنید. اگر بهتون می گن بی سواد دانشتون رو بالا ببرید یا اگر به شما می گن ترسو در راستای قوی تر شدن و شجاعت قدم های محکمی بردارید.

لقمان را گفتند ادب از که آموختی
در بخشی دیگر مثالی از ارسطو آورده می شه که یکی از عاداتش در هنگام همنشنی با آدم هایی که خوشایندش نبودن این بوده که به دقت رفتارهاشون رو بررسی می کرده که ببینه عادات زشت و زننده اون ها چی هست و ازون پس سعی می کرد که اگر چنین وجوه مشترکی داره باهاشون همه رو از خودش پاک کنه.

در باب زخم زبان زدن به زخم زبان زنندگان
یکی دیگه از روش هایی که می شه از وجود بدخواهان برای رشد کردن استفاده کرد همین زخم زبان و تهمت زدن هاشون هست. پلوتارک می گه اگر چنین رفتارهایی شما رو اذیت می کنه اگر در پاسخ چنین افرادی از همان تندی ها استفاده کنید با اون ها فرقی ندارید. پس خودتون رو عاری کنید از چنین اصفات زشت و زننده ای که از بدخواهانتون بر می آینددد.

دشمنم آرزوست
در راستای موارد قبل، یکی از نکته های جالب این کتاب این بود که دشمنان ما حقیقتا از روی بدخواهی لطفی که به ما می کنن این هست که عیب های ما رو به ما گوش زد می کنن. چیز بسیار ارزشمندی که دوستان ما برای حفظ محبوبیتشون پیش ما از ما خواسته یا نا خواسته دریغ می کنن.
(توی پرانتز اگر می خواین دوست بهتری باشید با حفظ یک سری اصول، کم و کاستی های دوستانتون رو به نحوی دل انگیز به عرضشون برسونید.)
So he that hath no friend to give him advice and to reprove him in what he acts amiss must bear patiently the rebukes of an enemy, and thereby learn to amend errors of his ways.
چی شد؟
یکی دیگه از توصیه های خوب پلوتارک در خصوص تهمت های ناروا این بود که می گه اگر دشمنی به ناحق تهمتی به شما زد خیلی واجب و ضروری هست که بفهمید سر منشا چنین تفکری چی هست؟

مار کبری
شخصا بعد از یاد گرفتن از یک سری بزرگان، یکی از معیارهام برای سنجش پختگی و خرد آدم ها سیستم حرف زدنشون هست. آدمایی که کنترل گفتارشون رو ندارن و بی پروا هر چیزی به از زهنشون می گذره به زبان جاری می کنن یعنی:
1. یاد نگرفتن عواقب زدن حرف نسنجیده چقد لطمه آور می تونه باشه
2. اگر هم یاد گرفته باشن، انضباط و تعهد و لازم رو برای پرورش دادن ذهنشون نداشتن
An exact government of the tongue is a strong evidence of a good mind.
Practice makes perfect
یکی از استفاده های خوبی که می شه از آدم های زخم زبان زن کرد تمرین صبوری هست. هرچیزی با تکرار ساده تر می شه، حتی مسائلی مثل تحمل کردن آدم های نا خوشایند. پس هر موقع با افرادی نا بخردی برخوردین که فقط توهین و انتقاد و ... بلد هستن به عنوان یک حریف تمرینی در راستای قوی تر کردن ذهنتون کمال استفاده رو ببرید ازشون :D

دشمن یا نردبام؟
این توصیه پولتارک هم بسی بسیار مایه رضایت این جانب بود. شاید خیلی از ماها نا خودآگاه این کار رو انجام بدیم. این تکنیک، ستایش کردن نقات قوت دشمن ما هست.
اگر واقعا دشمن یا بدخواهی دارید، نقاط مثبتش رو گاها بیان کنید چرا که در دید بقیه بی طرفی، کنترل، و انصاف خودتون رو اثبات می کنید.
Thus a man that praises his enemy for his real deserts shall himself obtain the more honor by it
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چگونه از دشمنان خود بهره ببریم
این کتاب انقدر در مورد محسنات دشمن خوب توضیح داده که شخصا در پی دشمن تراشی برای خودم هستم :D
پلوتارک توی این کتاب کوتاه دید آدم رو نسبت به موضوع دشمن یا بدخواه خیلی باز می کنه و توصیه های کاربردی در خصوص بهره بردن از جملات مختلف این دشمنان عزیز ارائه داه که چنتاش رو برای نمونه میارم خدمت مبارکتون:

در بخش اول می گه در طبیعت بشر هست که همیشه دشمنانی رو در سایه داشته باشه و می گه حتی به مرور زمان بسیاری از دوستان آدم تبدیل به بدخواه می شن. این دسته از آدما زندگی آدم رو زیر و رو می کنن و به دقت همه رفتار و گفتار آدم رو زیر نظر دارن بلکه راهی برای ضربه زدن بهش پیدا کنن.
در نتیجه این ها پلوتارک می گه باید بدونیم وقتی چنین مسئله بزرگی در زندگی آدمی ناگزیر هست چه طور بیشترین استفاده رو ازش ببریم.

از اونجا که دشمن همیشه درکمین هست و گفتار و رفتار آدم رو زیر ذره بین داره، توصیه اول پلوتارک این هست که در همه حالت حتی در حضور بهترین دوستان شخص باید مراقب گفتار و رفتارش باشه. سعدی در همین باب می گه:
چرا گوید آن چیز در خفیه مرد. که گر فاش گردد شود روی زرد
اندر مزایای دشمن داشتن
یه بخشی از این کتاب خیلی دید من رو باز کرد. یک تمثیل جالب به کار می بره نویسنده به این صورت که می گه احتمالا برای شما پیش اومده که در نمایش یا کنسرتی شرکت می کنید و متوجه می شید که خواننده یا هنرمند با همه وجود کارش رو ارائه نمی کنه. اما اگر همین هنرمند در حضور یک رقیب دیگه بخواد کاری رو ارائه کنه بیشترین توان و تلاشش رو برای ارائه بهترین کار ارائه می ده.
با یک مثال دیگه می گه ترس من از زوال رم وقتی شروع شد که تونست کارتاژ رو شکست بده و رومیان رو به بردگی بگیره. یعنی تمام دشمنانش رو شکست داد.
نکته این مثال ها در این هست که آدم در حضور دشمنی که مدام اون رو به چالش می طلبه همیشه آمادگی و آگاهی خودش رو حفظ می کنه و در صدد قدرت موندن می مونه و در نبود این دشمنان ممکنه رو به سستی و کاهلی ببره.
Evil hath this peculiar quality in it, that it dreads an enemy more than a friend.
دیاگونیس در پاسخ به اینکه بهترین راه انتقام از دشمن چیست می گه: تنها راه زدن یک ضربه موثر و زهردار به دشمن این هست که همیشه یک شخص صادق و درستکار باشی.

بهره بردن از توهین های دشمن
در این بخش پلوتارک در صورتی که دشمنان و یا بدخواهان به شما توهین هایی کردن (مثلا نفهم، بی سواد ...) توصیه می کنه با ذهن باز این تحقیرها رو بررسی کنید. اگر بهتون می گن بی سواد دانشتون رو بالا ببرید یا اگر به شما می گن ترسو در راستای قوی تر شدن و شجاعت قدم های محکمی بردارید.

لقمان را گفتند ادب از که آموختی
در بخشی دیگر مثالی از ارسطو آورده می شه که یکی از عاداتش در هنگام همنشنی با آدم هایی که خوشایندش نبودن این بوده که به دقت رفتارهاشون رو بررسی می کرده که ببینه عادات زشت و زننده اون ها چی هست و ازون پس سعی می کرد که اگر چنین وجوه مشترکی داره باهاشون همه رو از خودش پاک کنه.

در باب زخم زبان زدن به زخم زبان زنندگان
یکی دیگه از روش هایی که می شه از وجود بدخواهان برای رشد کردن استفاده کرد همین زخم زبان و تهمت زدن هاشون هست. پلوتارک می گه اگر چنین رفتارهایی شما رو اذیت می کنه اگر در پاسخ چنین افرادی از همان تندی ها استفاده کنید با اون ها فرقی ندارید. پس خودتون رو عاری کنید از چنین اصفات زشت و زننده ای که از بدخواهانتون بر می آینددد.

دشمنم آرزوست
در راستای موارد قبل، یکی از نکته های جالب این کتاب این بود که دشمنان ما حقیقتا از روی بدخواهی لطفی که به ما می کنن این هست که عیب های ما رو به ما گوش زد می کنن. چیز بسیار ارزشمندی که دوستان ما برای حفظ محبوبیتشون پیش ما از ما خواسته یا نا خواسته دریغ می کنن.
(توی پرانتز اگر می خواین دوست بهتری باشید با حفظ یک سری اصول، کم و کاستی های دوستانتون رو به نحوی دل انگیز به عرضشون برسونید.)
So he that hath no friend to give him advice and to reprove him in what he acts amiss must bear patiently the rebukes of an enemy, and thereby learn to amend errors of his ways.
چی شد؟
یکی دیگه از توصیه های خوب پلوتارک در خصوص تهمت های ناروا این بود که می گه اگر دشمنی به ناحق تهمتی به شما زد خیلی واجب و ضروری هست که بفهمید سر منشا چنین تفکری چی هست؟

مار کبری
شخصا بعد از یاد گرفتن از یک سری بزرگان، یکی از معیارهام برای سنجش پختگی و خرد آدم ها سیستم حرف زدنشون هست. آدمایی که کنترل گفتارشون رو ندارن و بی پروا هر چیزی به از زهنشون می گذره به زبان جاری می کنن یعنی:
1. یاد نگرفتن عواقب زدن حرف نسنجیده چقد لطمه آور می تونه باشه
2. اگر هم یاد گرفته باشن، انضباط و تعهد و لازم رو برای پرورش دادن ذهنشون نداشتن
An exact government of the tongue is a strong evidence of a good mind.
Practice makes perfect
یکی از استفاده های خوبی که می شه از آدم های زخم زبان زن کرد تمرین صبوری هست. هرچیزی با تکرار ساده تر می شه، حتی مسائلی مثل تحمل کردن آدم های نا خوشایند. پس هر موقع با افرادی نا بخردی برخوردین که فقط توهین و انتقاد و ... بلد هستن به عنوان یک حریف تمرینی در راستای قوی تر کردن ذهنتون کمال استفاده رو ببرید ازشون :D

دشمن یا نردبام؟
این توصیه پولتارک هم بسی بسیار مایه رضایت این جانب بود. شاید خیلی از ماها نا خودآگاه این کار رو انجام بدیم. این تکنیک، ستایش کردن نقات قوت دشمن ما هست.
اگر واقعا دشمن یا بدخواهی دارید، نقاط مثبتش رو گاها بیان کنید چرا که در دید بقیه بی طرفی، کنترل، و انصاف خودتون رو اثبات می کنید.
Thus a man that praises his enemy for his real deserts shall himself obtain the more honor by it

]]> <![CDATA[Lives of the Most Excellent Painters, Sculptors, and Architects]]> 26852157 0 Giorgio Vasari Amir 0 to-read, r-h-recom 4.36 1568 Lives of the Most Excellent Painters, Sculptors, and Architects
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]]> <![CDATA[Drop Acid: The Surprising New Science of Uric Acid―The Key to Losing Weight, Controlling Blood Sugar, and Achieving Extraordinary Health]]> 57505860 THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
Unlock the secret to extraordinary health by reducing high uric acid levels—the hidden risk you didn't know you had—by theauthor ofGrain BrainandBrain Wash.

What do obesity, insulin resistance, diabetes, fatty liver disease, hypertension, cardiovascular disease, stroke, neurological disorders, and premature death have in common? All can be stoked by high uric acid levels.

Our most respected scientific literature is bursting with evidence that elevated uric acid levels lie at the root of many pervasive health conditions, but mainstream medicine for the most part remains unaware of this connection.This is especially alarming because a large number of Americans don’t know they are suffering from increased levels, putting them at risk for developing or exacerbating potentially life-threatening illnesses.

Offering an engaging blend of science and practical advice,Drop Acidexposes the deadly truth about uric acid and teaches invaluable strategies to manage its levels, including how to:
Reduce fructose and foods high in “purines� through simple dietary edits
Lower uric acid levels through natural hacks like consuming tart cherries, vitamin C, quercetin, and coffee
Identify common pharmaceuticals that threaten to increase uric acid
Implement lifestyle interventions, like restorative sleep and exercise
Easily test your uric acid levels at home—a test routinely performed in your doctor’s office during regular check-ups but typically ignored
Featuring the groundbreaking “LUV� (Lower Uric Values) diet, 35 delicious recipes, self-assessment quizzes, and a 21-day program for dropping levels, Drop Acid empowers readers with the information they need to address this hidden danger and live longer, leaner, and healthier lives.]]> 336 David Perlmutter 0316315397 Amir 0 to-read, health 3.91 2022 Drop Acid: The Surprising New Science of Uric Acid―The Key to Losing Weight, Controlling Blood Sugar, and Achieving Extraordinary Health
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name: Amir
average rating: 3.91
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]]> <![CDATA[Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence]]> 58154662
In Dopamine Nation, Dr. Anna Lembke, psychiatrist and author, explores the exciting new scientific discoveries that explain why the relentless pursuit of pleasure leads to pain...and what to do about it. Condensing complex neuroscience into easy-to-understand metaphors, Lembke illustrates how finding contentment and connectedness means keeping dopamine in check. The lived experiences of her patients are the gripping fabric of her narrative. Their riveting stories of suffering and redemption give us all hope for managing our consumption and transforming our lives. In essence, Dopamine Nation shows that the secret to finding balance is combining the science of desire with the wisdom of recovery.

"Brilliant... riveting, scary, cogent, and cleverly argued."--Beth Macy, author of Dopesick]]> 291 Anna Lembke 152474672X Amir 4 science Short Summary: From simple pleasure such as eating food to watching porn and using drugs, the desire we fill is fueled by a hormone called Dopamine.

Consider a scale in the brain. Whenever we indulge in a pleasure-seeking behavior such as scrolling through the Instagram feed to using drugs, it's like putting pleasure weights on this scale in the brain. The problem is that the brain always seeks to put this scale in equilibrium and balance. When you put pleasure on one side of the scale, the brain compensates by putting pain molecules on the other side of the scale.

The problem is that when the pleasure device is absent, you will have a lot of pain and craving. Why? Because the pleasure is absent on the scale, and the balance has tipped to the side of pain.

What's fascinating is that the other side of the story is also true. Namely, if you induce moderate pains onto yourself through activities such as a cold bath, or running in sprints, the brain tries to store the balance of the scale again. This time, by putting pleasure on the other side of the scale. What happens is that your biological set point for happiness is enhanced. In other words, you will generally have happier and more motivated in life.

Dopamine Fasting: The biggest takeaway for me is the concept of dopamine fasting. If we are addicted to destructive habits such as social media, alcohol, port, etc., since the balance is tipped to the side of pain, we will generally feel less motivated in life. We will have a hard time getting out of bed in the mornings. The way to restore this balance in the brain is by going on a Dopamine fasting. Namely, staying away from the addictive pleasure-seeking behavior that we have. It takes a maximum of one month for the brain to recover.

After that, we will feel much more lively and more importantly, we will derive more pleasure from more productive but maybe less pleasurable activities such as exercise or reading books.]]> 3.97 2021 Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence
author: Anna Lembke
name: Amir
average rating: 3.97
book published: 2021
rating: 4
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Short Summary: From simple pleasure such as eating food to watching porn and using drugs, the desire we fill is fueled by a hormone called Dopamine.

Consider a scale in the brain. Whenever we indulge in a pleasure-seeking behavior such as scrolling through the Instagram feed to using drugs, it's like putting pleasure weights on this scale in the brain. The problem is that the brain always seeks to put this scale in equilibrium and balance. When you put pleasure on one side of the scale, the brain compensates by putting pain molecules on the other side of the scale.

The problem is that when the pleasure device is absent, you will have a lot of pain and craving. Why? Because the pleasure is absent on the scale, and the balance has tipped to the side of pain.

What's fascinating is that the other side of the story is also true. Namely, if you induce moderate pains onto yourself through activities such as a cold bath, or running in sprints, the brain tries to store the balance of the scale again. This time, by putting pleasure on the other side of the scale. What happens is that your biological set point for happiness is enhanced. In other words, you will generally have happier and more motivated in life.

Dopamine Fasting: The biggest takeaway for me is the concept of dopamine fasting. If we are addicted to destructive habits such as social media, alcohol, port, etc., since the balance is tipped to the side of pain, we will generally feel less motivated in life. We will have a hard time getting out of bed in the mornings. The way to restore this balance in the brain is by going on a Dopamine fasting. Namely, staying away from the addictive pleasure-seeking behavior that we have. It takes a maximum of one month for the brain to recover.

After that, we will feel much more lively and more importantly, we will derive more pleasure from more productive but maybe less pleasurable activities such as exercise or reading books.
]]> On China 9328314
Since no other country can claim a more powerful link to its ancient past and classical principles, any attempt to understand China's future world role must begin with an appreciation of its long history. For centuries, China rarely encountered other societies of comparable size and sophistication; it was the "Middle Kingdom," treating the peoples on its periphery as vassal states. At the same time, Chinese statesmen-facing threats of invasion from without, and the contests of competing factions within-developed a canon of strategic thought that prized the virtues of subtlety, patience, and indirection over feats of martial prowess.

In On China, Kissinger examines key episodes in Chinese foreign policy from the classical era to the present day, with a particular emphasis on the decades since the rise of Mao Zedong. He illuminates the inner workings of Chinese diplomacy during such pivotal events as the initial encounters between China and modern European powers, the formation and breakdown of the Sino-Soviet alliance, the Korean War, Richard Nixon's historic trip to Beijing, and three crises in the Taiwan Straits. Drawing on his extensive personal experience with four generation of Chinese leaders, he brings to life towering figures such as Mao, Zhou Enlai, and Deng Xiaoping, revealing how their different visions have shaped China's modern destiny.

With his singular vantage on U.S.-China relations, Kissinger traces the evolution of this fraught but crucial relationship over the past 60 years, following its dramatic course from estrangement to strategic partnership to economic interdependence, and toward an uncertain future. With a final chapter on the emerging superpower's 21st-century world role, On China provides an intimate historical perspective on Chinese foreign affairs from one of the premier statesmen of the 20th century.]]> 608 Henry Kissinger 1594202710 Amir 0 to-read, geopolitics 4.16 2011 On China
author: Henry Kissinger
name: Amir
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]]> <![CDATA[Hierarchy in the Forest: The Evolution of Egalitarian Behavior]]> 2131522
The political flexibility of our species is we can be quite egalitarian, we can be quite despotic. Hierarchy in the Forest traces the roots of these contradictory traits in chimpanzee, bonobo, gorilla, and early human societies. Boehm looks at the loose group structures of hunter-gatherers, then at tribal segmentation, and finally at present-day governments to see how these conflicting tendencies are reflected.

Hierarchy in the Forest claims new territory for biological anthropology and evolutionary biology by extending the domain of these sciences into a crucial aspect of human political and social behavior. This book will be a key document in the study of the evolutionary basis of genuine altruism.]]> 304 Christopher Boehm 0674006917 Amir 0 to-read, evolution 4.05 1999 Hierarchy in the Forest: The Evolution of Egalitarian Behavior
author: Christopher Boehm
name: Amir
average rating: 4.05
book published: 1999
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]]> <![CDATA[Democracy for Realists: Why Elections Do Not Produce Responsive Government (Princeton Studies in Political Behavior)]]> 27311899 Democracy for Realists assails the romantic folk-theory at the heart of contemporary thinking about democratic politics and government, and offers a provocative alternative view grounded in the actual human nature of democratic citizens.

Christopher Achen and Larry Bartels deploy a wealth of social-scientific evidence, including ingenious original analyses of topics ranging from abortion politics and budget deficits to the Great Depression and shark attacks, to show that the familiar ideal of thoughtful citizens steering the ship of state from the voting booth is fundamentally misguided. They demonstrate that voters even those who are well informed and politically engaged mostly choose parties and candidates on the basis of social identities and partisan loyalties, not political issues. They also show that voters adjust their policy views and even their perceptions of basic matters of fact to match those loyalties. When parties are roughly evenly matched, elections often turn on irrelevant or misleading considerations such as economic spurts or downturns beyond the incumbents' control; the outcomes are essentially random. Thus, voters do not control the course of public policy, even indirectly.

Achen and Bartels argue that democratic theory needs to be founded on identity groups and political parties, not on the preferences of individual voters. "Democracy for Realists" provides a powerful challenge to conventional thinking, pointing the way toward a fundamentally different understanding of the realities and potential of democratic government."]]> 408 Christopher H. Achen 0691169446 Amir 0 to-read, political-mind 3.98 2016 Democracy for Realists: Why Elections Do Not Produce Responsive Government (Princeton Studies in Political Behavior)
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average rating: 3.98
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]]> <![CDATA[Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams]]> 34466963 Alternate cover edition of ISBN 9781501144318.

Neuroscientist and sleep expert Matthew Walker provides a revolutionary exploration of sleep, examining how it affects every aspect of our physical and mental well-being. Charting the most cutting-edge scientific breakthroughs, and marshalling his decades of research and clinical practice, Walker explains how we can harness sleep to improve learning, mood and energy levels, regulate hormones, prevent cancer, Alzheimer's and diabetes, slow the effects of aging, and increase longevity. He also provides actionable steps towards getting a better night's sleep every night.]]> 368 Matthew Walker Amir 0 to-read 4.37 2017 Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams
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]]> <![CDATA[Basic Economics: A Citizen's Guide to the Economy]]> 3023 Basic Economics is a citizen's guide to economics-for those who want to understand how the economy works but have no interest in jargon or equations. Sowell reveals the general principles behind any kind of economy-capitalist, socialist, feudal, and so on. In readable language, he shows how to critique economic policies in terms of the incentives they create, rather than the goals they proclaim. With clear explanations of the entire field, from rent control and the rise and fall of businesses to the international balance of payments, this is the first book for anyone who wishes to understand how the economy functions.]]> 448 Thomas Sowell 0465081452 Amir 0 to-read 4.35 2000 Basic Economics: A Citizen's Guide to the Economy
author: Thomas Sowell
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average rating: 4.35
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]]> <![CDATA[On Tyranny: Twenty Lessons from the Twentieth Century]]> 33917107
On November 9th, millions of Americans woke up to the impossible: the election of Donald Trump as president. Against all predictions, one of the most-disliked presidential candidates in history had swept the electoral college, elevating a man with open contempt for democratic norms and institutions to the height of power.

Timothy Snyder is one of the most celebrated historians of the Holocaust. In his books Bloodlands and Black Earth, he has carefully dissected the events and values that enabled the rise of Hitler and Stalin and the execution of their catastrophic policies. With Twenty Lessons, Snyder draws from the darkest hours of the twentieth century to provide hope for the twenty-first. As he writes, “Americans are no wiser than the Europeans who saw democracy yield to fascism, Nazism and communism. Our one advantage is that we might learn from their experience.�

Twenty Lessons is a call to arms and a guide to resistance, with invaluable ideas for how we can preserve our freedoms in the uncertain years to come.]]> 127 Timothy Snyder 0804190119 Amir 0 to-read 4.24 2017 On Tyranny: Twenty Lessons from the Twentieth Century
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]]> Philosophy: The Basics 31854

What is philosophy? Can you prove God exists? Is there an afterlife? How do we know right from wrong? Should you ever break the law? Is the world really the way you think it is? How should we define Freedom of Speech? Do you know how science works? Is your mind different from your body? Can you define art?
For the fourth edition, Warburton has added new sections to several chapters, revised others and brought the further reading sections up to date. If you've ever asked what is philosophy, or whether the world is really the way you think it is, then this is the book for you.]]> 184 Nigel Warburton 0203506413 Amir 0 to-read, philosophy 3.88 1995 Philosophy: The Basics
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book published: 1995
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]]> <![CDATA[Using Asyncio in Python: Understanding Python's Asynchronous Programming Features]]> 50083143
Veteran Python developer Caleb Hattingh helps end-user developers gain a basic understanding of Asyncio's building blocks--enough to get you started writing simple event-based programs. You'll learn why Asyncio offers a safer alternative to preemptive multitasking (threading) and how this API provides a simple way to support thousands of simultaneous socket connections.


Get a critical comparison of Asyncio and threading for concurrent network programming
Take an Asyncio walkthrough, including a quickstart guide to help you hit the ground looping with event-based programming
Learn the difference between Asyncio features for end-user developers and those for framework developers
Understand Asyncio's new async/await language syntax, including coroutines and task and future APIs
Get detailed case studies (with code) of some popular Asyncio-compatible third-party libraries]]> 156 Caleb Hattingh 1492075337 Amir 0 3.69 Using Asyncio in Python: Understanding Python's Asynchronous Programming Features
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]]> <![CDATA[Fluent Python: Clear, Concise, and Effective Programming]]> 54330869
Discover and apply idiomatic Python 3 features beyond your past experience. Author Luciano Ramalho guides you through Python's core language features and libraries and teaches you how to make your code shorter, faster, and more readable.

Complete with major updates throughout, this new edition features five parts that work as five short books within the book:

- Data structures: Sequences, dicts, sets, Unicode, and data classes
- Functions as objects: First-class functions, related design patterns, and type hints in function declarations
- Object-oriented idioms: Composition, inheritance, mixins, interfaces, operator overloading, protocols, and more static types
- Control flow: Context managers, generators, coroutines, async/await, and thread/process pools
- Metaprogramming: Properties, attribute descriptors, class decorators, and new class metaprogramming hooks that replace or simplify metaclasses]]> 850 Luciano Ramalho 1492056359 Amir 5 coding-essentials
The first edition covers python 3.5 and the second edition covers python 3.10. The second edition additionally covers @dataclass, the new asyinc-await syntax in concurrency, type annotations, and much more.

Chapters' contents are written from bottom to top. Namely, each concept is first explained with simple examples and advances to a more complicated form, built on top of what's already said. So, I'd advise you to read chapters page by page.

If you read this book, you'll be able to answer almost all python-specific questions in the interviews. It would also teach you great features that are specific to python which maybe absent in other languages

All in all, I think this book is a must-read if you want to gain a true mastery in python

Be advised: This is not a beginner's book at all, you'd better have at least 2-3 years of python experience before jumping into code.]]> 4.70 2015 Fluent Python: Clear, Concise, and Effective Programming
author: Luciano Ramalho
name: Amir
average rating: 4.70
book published: 2015
rating: 5
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This book is a deep dive into the inner workings of the python language. It covers all the topics of python, from primitive data types to advanced metaprogramming with great detail and example.

The first edition covers python 3.5 and the second edition covers python 3.10. The second edition additionally covers @dataclass, the new asyinc-await syntax in concurrency, type annotations, and much more.

Chapters' contents are written from bottom to top. Namely, each concept is first explained with simple examples and advances to a more complicated form, built on top of what's already said. So, I'd advise you to read chapters page by page.

If you read this book, you'll be able to answer almost all python-specific questions in the interviews. It would also teach you great features that are specific to python which maybe absent in other languages

All in all, I think this book is a must-read if you want to gain a true mastery in python

Be advised: This is not a beginner's book at all, you'd better have at least 2-3 years of python experience before jumping into code.
]]> <![CDATA[The Personal MBA: Master the Art of Business]]> 9512985
Josh Kaufman founded PersonalMBA.com as an alternative to the business school boondoggle. His blog has introduced hundreds of thousands of readers to the best business books and most powerful business concepts of all time. Now, he shares the essentials of entrepreneurship, marketing, sales, negotiation, operations, productivity, systems design, and much more, in one comprehensive volume. The Personal MBA distills the most valuable business lessons into simple, memorable mental models that can be applied to real-world challenges.

The Personal MBA explains concepts such
* The Iron Law of the Why every business is limited by the size and quality of the market it attempts to serve-and how to find large, hungry markets.
* The 12 Forms of Products and services are only two of the twelve ways you can create value for your customers.
* The Pricing Uncertainty All prices are malleable. Raising your prices is the best way to dramatically increase profitability-if you know how to support the price you're asking.
* 4 Methods to Increase There are only four ways a business can bring in more money. Do you know what they are?

True leaders aren't made by business schools-they make themselves, seeking out the knowledge, skills, and experience they need to succeed. Read this book and you will learn the principles it takes most business professionals a lifetime of trial and error to master.]]> 416 Josh Kaufman 1591843529 Amir 0 to-read 4.10 2010 The Personal MBA: Master the Art of Business
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average rating: 4.10
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