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Elinor wants to read 'East of Eden'

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Elinor wants to read East of Eden by John Steinbeck

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�� Codependents confuse caretaking and sacrifice with loyalty and love. Although they are proud of their unwavering dedication to the person they love, they end up feeling unappreciated and used. Codependents yearn to be loved, but because of their choice of dance partner, find their dreams unrealized. With the heartbreak of unfulfilled dreams, codependents silently and bitterly swallow their unhappiness. Codependents are essentially stuck in a pattern of giving and sacrificing, without the possibility of ever receiving the same from their partner. They pretend to enjoy the dance, but secretly harbor feelings of anger, bitterness, and sadness for not taking a more active role in their dance experience. They are convinced they will never find a dance partner who will love them for who they are, as opposed to what they can do for them. Their low self-esteem and pessimism manifests as a form of learned helplessness that ultimately keeps them on the dance floor with their narcissistic partner ...more �� Ross Rosenberg

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Lizzie S is 20% done with Codependent No More

Elinor is on page 149 of 336 of Jung, un voyage vers soi

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 13:43:53 -0800

Elinor is on page 149 of 336 of Jung, un voyage vers soi.

Elinor started reading 'Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on It'

Sat, 11 Jan 2025 23:07:07 -0800

Elinor started reading Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on It by Chris Voss

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Elinor liked Danielle's review of Our Missing Hearts:

"Very slow pace�� decent story nonetheless 🐌👍 "

Elinor has challenged herself to read 12 books in 2025.

Wed, 01 Jan 2025 08:42:02 -0800

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Elinor wants to read 'L'Insoutenable légèreté de l'être'

Sat, 28 Dec 2024 13:48:51 -0800

Elinor wants to read L'Insoutenable légèreté de l'être by Milan Kundera

Elinor added 'A Little Life'

Thu, 26 Dec 2024 09:27:58 -0800

Elinor gave 5 stars to A Little Life (Paperback) by Hanya Yanagihara
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When you both hate with a vengeance and love how a book made you feel, you know you are holding more than a bunch of words scattered on paper: A Work of Art - both moving and consuming.

The story is sordid and beautiful, melancholy and captivating. Its intricate and entwined storyline makes it not the easiest or fastest to read �� yet very appealing to the detailed mind. It is very sad, real, and raw �� any glimpse of light you may get lulls you into a false sense of security only to be later blanketed with despondency.

Many see in this book a story about homosexuality - I do not. It is about psychological destruction, sexual abuse, resulting self-harm, the paradoxical opposition between looks and reality, and how we get ensnared in the shortcomings of our own habits and patterns of thought.

If you don’t want sadness or too many negative feelings, don’t read this book. It is a difficult, emotionally wearing read, the balance tipped always towards the dimmer side of anything and everything. Shrouded by hopelessness, the reader becomes the willing and weary spectator of a most tragic life.

{Edit: 26/12/2024 - in retrospect, this was the first of several “misery porn�� books I read in these past years. It felt like a stunner at the time - so raw and bleak - and this is certainly one of the better executed ones (probably the best) I’ve read. However, the genre is not for me.}