"Is this the whitest woman with the fewest problems? You would be forgiven for thinking so for most of the book until she tackles actual issues, at which point her advice is (thankfully) to consult a professional. Otherwise, this is a repetitive, over-long book with absolutely zero new contributions to humanity that is an echo of ideas in every religion, philosophy, therapy, etc. known to humans, but transformed into one mantra that is supposed to cover every situation. And by every situation, I mean suburban American shit like whether to yell at someone who doesn't pick up their dog's poop or how to handle you son's prom date's not wanting a corsage. The fact that there is an audience for this book scares me a little, but still, I will "let them"..."

"Just let them.
If they want to choose something or someone over you, LET THEM.
If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM.
If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM.
If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM.
If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, LET THEM.
If they want to follow the crowd, LET THEM.
If they want to judge or misunderstand you, LET THEM.
If they act like they can live without you, LET THEM.
If they want to walk out of your life and leave, hold the door open, AND LET THEM.
Let them lose you.
You were never theirs because you were always your own.
So let them.
Let them show you who they truly are, not tell you.
Let them prove how worthy they are of your time.
Let them make the necessary steps to be a part of your life.
Let them earn your forgiveness.
Let them call you to talk about ordinary things.
Let them take you out on a Thursday.
Let them talk about anything and everything just because it’s you they are talking to.
Let them have a safe place in you.
Let them see the heart in you that didn’t harden.
Let them love you.

A Poem by Cassie Phillips, not a theory by Mel Robbings."