This book was terrible! I want my money back from Amazon. It's the worst book I've ever picked up! It basically postulates that there isn't a right or wrong, therefore if someone apologizes you just say "You did nothing wrong." It's a bunch of new age bullshit. It's not really about "forgiveness" at all. I'm not sure what the book is about, it was just a bunch of words on pages. Unfortunately, the author didn't say anything that made sense. At one point in the book, he goes onto talking about how people create their own cancer. One of his friends had an actual case of cancer and meditated it away at a cabin in the woods. He talks about how we give ourselves cancer (er, what about genetics? The environment? You think the kids of Chernobyl gave themselves cancer?) Yeah, kind of uncompassionate to blame potentially mortal illnesses on the people who get them. I forgive Colin Tipping for writing this terrible book.
If you want a real book on forgiveness written by someone who is competent and compassionate, read 'Forgiveness: How to Make Peace with your Past and Get on with Your Life." That was a very helpful book.
If this is where you are in your spiritual journey, it can be quite transformational. If not, then just let it go. Certainly not the book or concept for everyone, but for some, this book can be the beginning of an opened life.
I believe that forgiveness is really important. Understanding what forgiveness is -- it is not making excuses - and how to forgive are quests for many people. However, the way that this book approaches the nature of forgiveness does not seem effective. The book states that we made agreements before we were born to have certain things happen to us (abused children asked for it) - but we forgot the agreements. Okay, so how would the author remember anything about this and be able to write about it? My guess, he is just guessing. There's no proof offered.
The book further states that everything is working out perfectly according to those secret, pre-birth plans - including child abuse, rape, murder, racism, etc. These are all just events for us to use to work out forgiveness. What fun. How about we make pre-birth agreements not to have child abuse, rape, murder or racism in the first place? Why wouldn't we make secret pre-birth agreements for peace and harmony?
The problem I have with the people who espouse pre-birth experiences like this author or where we choose our own parents, etc. is that if we have a choice of living in the bliss of pre-birth nirvana, why would we want to incarnate at all? Why choose to enter into life with all its difficulties?
This is one of those book I always have a copy of. I listed it as read in 2008, but really I read it back in 2003. Howeve, I like to think its current because I mention it or refer it to people constantly. I can't tell you how many times I have given this book as a gift to people!!! Probably just as many times as I have run into strangers who suddenly spilled their lives to me out of nowhere at the airport, grocery store, post office, etc. and have consequently told them to buy it. At the root of many people's suffering is a lack of forgiveness. This book gives you an empowering perspective on those very things that we feel wronged about. Its a must read for anyone feeling stuck. I dare you to read it!!!
This book has helped me tremendously. It offers amazing tools to release pent up anger and regret in the best of us. The work just needs to be done. I know this has helped me release tons of anger that was building since birth, probably before birth. It is like a kick in the pants, a light bulb going off, it will work for you when the time is right. love, peace and forgiveness.
Radical Forgiveness was recommended to me by a friend of mine. The basic premise behind the book is to look beyond the victim mentality in your life. To radically forgive someone is to no longer blame them for any wrong doing and to take responsibility for your own life and how you feel about externalizations governing your circumstances.
Some people may have a hard time believing parts of the book, as it gets into the spiritual metaphysical nature of the world and presumes you have a belief in a higher power. I really loved the book though, and I recommend it for anyone who wants to get over any negative experience that happened in their life.
This book definitely lives up to its title! I experienced a transformational miracle. I was completely transformed from a victim mentality to a woman with a strong self-esteem. The truth in this book freed me to pursue my divine purpose in life and I've used its lessons to coach others into freedom. I wish everyone I know could read this book.
This book allowed me to grieve, heal, surrender, find acceptance, and finally forget about the past hurts, aches, and pains. I found myself stuck in a new relationship because I refused to surrender and find acceptance with things that transpired within my life. This book makes sense if you truly want to grow within and outside of yourself.
Self-Help in New Age clothing. Some interesting core concepts dressed up in hippie dippie tie-dye with a dash of pseudoscience. Always be suspicious of patent medicines and authors of mystical improvement books that warn you that you don't have to believe in the process for it to work.
This book suggests looking at every experience as your perfect learning opportunity. Then, rather than be offended, upset, or hold a grudge, you can give thanks for what you learned. Like _The Four Agreements_ this also forces you to recognize your responsibility in any situation, from creating to reacting...Like _A Course in Miracles_ it teaches to achieve forgiveness by changing your perception.
And it works: one day I changed my perception about an ongoing situation with a close relative, and that night he called me, ostensibly to ask about my kids, but he and I chattted for a long time and he never asked to talk to them.
Honestly I didn't even finish the first chapter it's such bullshit. I wanted to learn about forgiveness, was wondering if everything CAN be forgiven, wondering if everything SHOULD be forgiven, also HOW to forgive.
I'll summarize the first chapter for you ( or as much as I read) : be thankful your husband cheated on you multiple times, because he was giving you the opportunity to reach your full potential and heal yourself. like wtf?
Like any book of its type, it gets some things right and some things wrong but presents it all like there is only one absolute truth and "that" truth is theirs. What these authors/books can rarely capture is that there are as many "truths" as there are sentient beings. They should all be prefaced with "take what you need and leave the rest."
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This is an interesting little book...I keep saying to myself, "THAT'S what I've been saying for decades!!"
This book was recommended to me when I complained bitterly about having people tell me that I was doomed to repeat certain scenarios until I'd gleaned whatever truths I was supposed to learn from them. I might have also said, "I've had enough of this crap!! Just tell me what the heck all this is supposed to mean?? I haven't figured it out yet, and I'm tired of doing it!!"
Well, I still haven't figured it out, and I'm not done reading the book. There are so many questions, but when I'm done with the book, I hope I'll know at least some of the answers. And if not, Colin should expect an email from me.
In the meantime, I'm just so pleased that the book seems to support things I have thought about for most of my life. We'll see if I feel this pleased when I'm done reading it. It is kind of dry, and really not an easy read. Well, not to me.
I completed this book because I just don鈥檛 like not finishing what I started. I disagree with saying you need to thank people for the bad they do on cases such as murder, rape, genocide etc.... also if we can鈥檛 remember our past life or our 鈥渟piritual life鈥� where is the author getting his facts from? I just think this kind of book plays on people鈥檚 desperation and need to feel connected to something.
Walking one through the steps of divine forgiveness, allowing one to drop a victim mentality by understand the divineness of spiritual growth throughout life.
At best? This book is a poor assemblage of various cherry picked religious and psychological therapeutic ideas; there's talk of "soul contracts" and "divine guidance" and "angels," but also karma, and Gaia as the personification of "Mother Earth," as well as the Jungian shadow-self and CBT-esque worksheets. It's new age claptrap with no real focus and no credentials to support the positions it liberally takes from others.
At worst? This book is potentially harmful and is absolutely offensive. The author suggests that Hitler's "soul" was sent to Earth to teach the Jewish race about radical forgiveness. The author suggests that the devastation of New Orleans caused by Hurricane Katrina was divine guidance to teach "America's soul" about racial inequality. The author very literally says that heartbreak causes breast cancer. He simultaneously says we put too much merit in "Western" medicine... but at one point claims that "studies" have proven that "repressed anger causes Cancer." Studies by whom? No citation is given, of course. And medical studies using the scientific method are a lynchpin of "Western" science, which the author previously said we shouldn't trust so much. Except when it supports his inanity, apparently.
This book was the next stepping stone in my journey into spiritual teachings. The practices described here are very useful. However I do belive that this book may not go down for everyone as it makes a lot of assumptions which can be hard to digest if you have a different understanding and approach to spirituality. This book's main goal is to teach you and give you the tools to step out of the victim hood mentiality and into a creator mentality in your life.
This book is a must-read for anyone stuck in unresolved anger and resentment. It will help release the energy that keeps one stuck in the self-created image of victimhood. It takes work and self-reflection to get through the process. If you do the work, the process will work wonders. I was skeptical, but it really works. I haven't felt this positive in a long long time. I want to keep this book forever and use it any time I need healing in a relationship.