More than thirty years ago, an entire generation sought a new way of life, looking for fulfillment and meaning in a way no one had before. Leaving his teaching job at Harvard, Ram Dass embodied the role of spiritual seeker, showing others how to find peace within themselves in one of the greatest spiritual classics of the twentieth century, the two-million-copy bestseller Be Here Now . As many of that generation enter the autumn of their years, the big questions of peace and of purpose have returned demanding answers. And once again, Ram Dass blazes a new trail, inviting all to join him on the next stage of the journey.
Ram Dass (Richard Alpert), was one of America's most beloved spiritual figures, making his mark on the world giving teachings and promoting loving service, harmonious business practices, and conscious care for the dying. His spirit has been a guiding light for four generations, carrying millions along on the journey, helping free them from their bonds as he has worked his way through his own.
Ram Dass was a great public speaker and so it's unsurprising that the narration of this book was very well done. As Richard Alpert- the name he wore before being given the name of Ram Dass by his guru- he was at the forefront of research into the spiritual applications of psychedelics alongside Timothy Learly back in the 60s. He went on to study and teach Hindu spirituality and this book brings his collected insights from those experiences to bear on the subjects of aging, dying, and death.
There was a lot of good stuff in here. For me, the most interesting was his discussion of the mortal ego (who we THINK we are) and the eternal soul (the Atman/ witness/ consciousness). He wrote that "... without a belief in continuing consciousness or soul aging would be like being trapped on a sinking ship..." This intrigued me primarily because I am constantly wavering between this sort of thinking and the Buddhist idea of "anatta" (the principle that there is no eternal, unchanging soul).
There were a few huge leaps of logic that did weaken the book a little for me. For example, he says that there must be a reason for life or what's the point of it? But that's not really how reasoning works. Not everything has to have a point and the fact that we WANT a reason for life, doesn't necessitate that there IS one. At another point he seemed to be making the point that mindfulness offers immunity to senility/ dementia, but offered no evidence (I have never heard this claim before).
Living his beliefs, Ram Dass seems to have been a happy, kind, generous person who faced difficulties in life, and his fears of death, with grace and sincerely sought to help others do the same. I don't believe in everything he had to teach here, but there were enough nuggets of wisdom that I do feel I benefited from reading it.
Ram Dass is such an engaging writer and this book is a must for anyone dealing with debilitating illness and aging or for seniors who are beginning to feel or become curious about the onset of aging. And of course any age person can gain from his profound wisdom. As in "Be Here Now", he directs our consciousness in "Still Here" to the present moment and guides us through a conscious approach to aging (and dying) and as you read it you notice that it just really makes you feel better about yourself, living in a constantly changing world, dying, and the aging process. It is funny too and as you laugh at his descriptions of his own life experiences, you realize that you are really having a grand laugh at yourself.
Reading his book is a great way to sit quietly with yourself, as the reading of it feels like a meditation in it self. Reading this book relieves and quiets your worrying mind by putting words to familiar human experience that have perhaps not previously been as speech ripe in your mind as they are as you read his writing. I felt such peace as I read it. Still Here is on my Christmas list to gift many of my friends and family.
I laughed aloud and then lapsed into a contemplative silence when I recently encountered a church sign which read, "Ten out of ten people die. Are you ready?"
After reading Ram Dass' Still Here, I'm ready.
With gentleness and compassion, spiritual pioneer and stroke survivor Ram Dass guides readers in an exploration of two much maligned - yet inevitable - human undertakings, aging and dying. The wisdom he shares is simple and profound: Yes, we are our bodies, but we are also infinitely more.
As we age, Ram Dass reminds us, the focus of our lives gradually shifts from activity to stillness - a sometimes frightening prospect for a society that places such enormous emphasis on productivity and accomplishment, not to mention the physical beauty, good health, and independence which youth often swaps for old age.
Grounded by his own human experience and illuminated by years of spiritual study and practice, Ram Dass' insights invite us to begin stripping away the layers of fear surrounding our own inevitable futures. In doing so, we find that aging is just as beautiful, just as much a blessing, just as much an opportunity for growth, as the youth we often cling to.
Ram Dass has been in the consciousness-raising business since the 1960s, and he uses his self-awareness in the wake of a stroke to meditate on the topics (as flagged in the subtitle) of aging, changing and dying.
He turns ideas about disability, frailty, decay, pain, dependence, and other "bad" consequences associated with aging and turns them over and over and over in the rock-tumbler of his mind, producing beautiful objects for our consideration. His book testifies to the power that our attitudes have for framing our experience.
One of my favorite passages occurs in the final pages. Dass describes the importance of leading people--leading ourselves--towards healing rather than curing. A person experiencing the hard changes of aging can learn to accept and even embrace their "next chapter" and find peace, wisdom and even joy in these hard moments. Because he had a stroke, he has some direct experience with reframing a very difficult series of events that led to dramatic changes.
For anyone struggling to move through the next chapter of their aging process, I highly recommend this book. Dass serves (in his own words) as an advanced scout, finding a path to peace and mapping it for others to follow. I usually just read library books, but I will probably find a used copy online to keep at the house so that I can loan it to others and so that I can inhabit his attitude of peaceful acceptance as I move through various age-related changes.
I don't have to renounce my humanity in order to be spiritual....I can be both witness and participant, both eternal spirit and aging body....That's not just a new role, it's a new state of being. p7
From respectable professor to guru freak of the dropout nation;from the intellectual fringe and back, Ram Das has established himself over the decades as a beloved teacher who boldly overturned the barrier between eastern and western mysticism. This makes him an ideal guide for the final trip, with his 'curriculum of conscious aging' for those of us still 'trapped in time and desire'.
It is a paradox of mindful living that without having embraced our past, we cannot let it go. p117
When you've felt enough ecstasy, you're not going to cling to structures....The soul is not located in my body, nor is it limited to my body....Awareness goes on....you are not just material....death is just the rapids at a bend in the river. p161
Sit down, I have something to tell you: You are going to die. Everyone and everything you know and love is going to die. Death is a given. What's that? You say you already knew that? Then why are we all acting as if death is not a reality? Why are you not living life to the fullest? Why are you not seizing this very moment? And what does it mean to seize the moment? What does it really mean to be happy? Ram Dass is not the first to give us the unvarnished truth about our mortal bodies and the material world. But he is one who has devoted his life to compassion and wisdom and living a meaningful life. His book is full of wisdom. He wrote this book after a debilitating stroke. Read it - before you die.
This wise man is still lighting the way with an open heart and generosity of spirit. Having looked my mortality in the eye, adjusting to a changed and changing body, this book affirms my journey and inspires me to service.
¡°Rilke advised, ¡°be patient with all that is unresolved in your heart, and try to love the questions themselves. Do not seek for the answers that cannot be given, for you wouldn¡¯t be able to live with them, and the point is to live everything. Live the questions now, and perhaps without knowing it, you will live along someday into the answers.¡±
A beautiful book. I had seen him in person give a talk in Hawaii 20 years ago now when he was talking about service. At that time in his life he was taking care of his aging parents. In Still Here he has a stroke and has to learn about the importance of letting others serve you when you need it. I was there when I had a broken back. It is very challenging to receive help graciously when you desperately need it. This should be required reading for anyone in the business of serving others.
Una belleza de libro. Reci¨¦n descubro a Ram Dass, ahora que reci¨¦n muere. Me mata c¨®mo escribe, su sencillez, su honestidad y su humor. Me hace re¨ªr y llorar. Y entender muchas cosas.
S¨¦ que ha escrito libros aun m¨¢s importantes que ¨¦ste pero me encanta su manera de mirar la vida luego de su apopleg¨ªa, quer¨ªa leerlo en este estad¨ªo, y bajo ninguna sustancia. Y encontr¨¦ una espiritualidad muy humana e impresionante.
Ahora que andamos encerrados, me resuena mucho esto:
No necesito planear cada minuto de mi d¨ªa; los p¨¢jaros no tienen horarios ?verdad?
LEJOS DE DEPRIMIRME, ME ILUMIN? ME GUST? ME CALM? ME HIZO SONREIR Y NO TEMER PORQUE SIGO AQU? TODAV?A
Wasn¡¯t a big fan. Felt very white dude with dreads on acid at a festival proselytizing at 4AM while everyone just wants to sleep.. and I promised to leave that in my 20s.
Anyway was reading as a part of some exposure therapy I¡¯m doing and will say it sufficiently evoked enough anxiety and gave opportunity for some distress tolerance/self soothing.. so I gave it a star for that.
And there were a few metaphors and certain lines that hit a few times throughout, so that¡¯s my other star.
Selle raamatu osas olid mul v?ga k?rged ootused, kuid kahjuks ei vastanud raamat neile. Nimelt peaks raamat selgitama v?i aitama harmooniliselt kohaneda vananemisega kui ka kuidas leppida surelikkusega. Sellist asja nagu polnud. Pigem oli autori jutustus, mida ta on elus saavutanud ning siis kui sai insuldi, et kuidas ta k?ik pidi ¨¹mber vaatama. Ja kasutas sealjuures k?iki vaimseid tehnikaid, mida ta aastaid oli a?ramis ?ppinud. No tore on, aga mis kasu minu sellest on, kui ma ei ole midagi sellist ?ppinud. Ainuke asjalik soovitus v?i millest sain aru, oli mediteerimine ehk kohalolu ?ppimine. See peaks siis kuidagimoodi leevendama ja aitama.
Ram Dass is an American spiritual teacher well-known for his bestselling 1971 book Be Here Now, as well as his personal and professional relationships with Timothy Leary at Harvard University in the 1960s, his travels to India and relationship with his guru Neem Karoli Baba, and for founding the charitable organizations Seva Foundation and Hanuman Foundation. He wrote the book Still Here: Embraced Aging, Changing, and Dying after experiencing a stroke in 1997.
The book covers many topics (mostly related to aging and dying) that a person may encounter on their spiritual path. As we age, many things change with our physical bodies and minds, as well as our roles in society. However, Ram Dass attempts to point out that there is another level of being¡ªthe Soul level, which is experiencing reality through a human body while simultaneously being untethered to it.
A section discussing changes with our minds¡ªdue to the aging process¡ªintroduces the concept of mindfulness practice and covers several mentally-related common fears of aging: senility, loneliness, embarrassment, powerlessness, loss of role and meaning, and depression. Following that, Ram Dass gives some advice for facing those fears head on.
The next section covers bodily changes that occur due to aging, such as discontent with body image, low energy, focusing on a list of physical woes, the difference between healing and curing, working with pain, and disease.
Following the discussion on the body, Ram Dass explains how our societal roles change and shift during the aging process, how to live in the present moment, learning to die, and the effects (both positive and negative) that a stroke had on his life.
I greatly enjoyed this book. Like Be Here Now, it is filled with wisdom and sage advice for spiritual travelers. I would recommend this to anyone interested in stepping further down their own spiritual path, especially those who are currently in the later stages of life. I imagine that Still Here would have a lot to offer the average person that is on the verge of entering the next phase of their Soul journey.
In reading Still Here, I could not help but think that the universe presents us with opportunities to learn, grow, and change, at the precise moment we need it. Sometimes it is via the discovery of a book (like this one) or the ego crushing realizations that we are not in absolute control. For Ram Dass, his opportunity came when he was writing a book on aging, how to embrace it and the changes it brings, including death. He was near completion but having a difficult time with the last chapter. Then came a stroke (where he nearly died himself), and everything he had imagined or experienced from the outside became his own path: illuminated via paralysis, physical pain, the loss of words and the slowing of his speech, and, ultimately, the loss of his independence. The book took on a whole new meaning because he became an "incarnation of wisdom" rather than a "wise elder." I really appreciated the book's honest approach to this life and these bodies that eventually fade. As Jim Morrison famously sang, "No one here gets out alive." Why deny that? Why also deny that for most illnesses, we are never truly cured, only healed. Our bodies and minds rarely go back to precisely what they were before. His aphasia will likely never fade, nor will he ever play golf or be able to drive again. This need not be soul crushing. Aging, illness, and the changing of roles take away the distractions of our ego and bring us closer to all that is precious in life. "That's the ultimate in healing - "making whole" - because there's no longer anything left out, including the sickness." With the help of this book, I can see ever more clearly that change (big and small) can be as natural as breathing, something to be embraced and experienced fully rather than feared. Ride the roller coaster, but like a child - with wonder, anticipation, and exhilaration, the cherished help of friends (and good doctors), closing in on the divine.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
Still Here was exactly what I hoped it would be, as my second Ram Dass book and one of only a handful of audio books that I've listened to. Though I still zone out sometimes and miss bits and pieces (hence the reason I think I'll be sticking to non-fiction for audio books for now), I think I'm getting better at it! Practice makes perfect I guess, even with audio books.
Within, Ram Dass dives deep into the circumstances surrounding his stroke, as well as the resulting repercussions. He gives practical advice and wisdom on dealing with debilitating situations; like a stroke, sure, but also more general topics like the aging process, becoming old and facing death. Being a younger man, it's not really something that I think about too often (thankfully). Even so I found the book reassuring, and helpful in various small ways. Ram Dass is excellent at revealing alternate perceptions and ways of thinking that are maybe not totally novel, or unheard of, but are worth being reminded of now and then. Ego shedding, soul contact, love. There are themes that run through all of Ram Dass' writings, and they are present here.
I saw that I had a choice; change my mind, or stop living.
I didn't expect to like this book and dreaded reading it. Aging and dying are horrible topics as far as I'm concerned. None the less it is part of our physical existence and once I started I found Ram Dass had a lot to say that I suspected as well as resonated. There's also a lot I'll just have to wait and see about. This is the kind of stuff our elders once modeled and shared. They still do in India for example. Too bad we don't value elder wisdom anymore. Not sure there is much left around here. Seems we are a few generations removed and the next older generation from me is as freaked out about aging and death as we are. Looks like the West got a little to big for its breeches when we got so resistant to acknowledging aging and death.
Recovering from foot reconstruction has made me rather sedentary to say the least. It has also made me very reflective on life and aging. This book helped me put things in perspective. Dass comments to himself when he is faced with another aging issue: "Ah, this too," or words to that effect. He encourages a mindful acceptance of the changes that come with age. Not that you don't take care of yourself and try to be as well as you can, but you stop resisting the changes which are inevitable. After his stroke, he learned more acutely where the ego ends and the soul begins. I am learning that slowly through this experience as well.
Took this book along on a yoga retreat to have something to read in book form because electronics including my beloved kindle weren¡¯t allowed. I am so glad I did. Maybe it was the setting, definitely it was my age (70) but this book has become a permanent resident on my night stand. I have high lighted passages that were meaningful to me at the various times I have picked it up and reread it. Each time there has been something different that resonated with me. And I expect the next time I pick it up. I will find some new personal insight.
I am so ready for a really good book, and this was not it. I wanted to read more about how his stroke had informed his life, and there were small bits of that, but mostly a big ego writing a fairly preach-y book.
Indeed Ram Dass is still here in this moment after a crippling stroke to guide us toward an understanding of our place among our fellows in the world as we grow old. Once he was Richard Alpert, Harvard professor, and then, after turning on and dropping out in the sixties, became Ram Dass, author of the best-selling Be Here Now (1971), the axiom of the title from the ancients of the East thereby becoming a mantra for a generation of flower children.
In this inspiring and eminently readable book, Ram Dass celebrates aging as a time of self-discovery and of selfless service to others. What could be more appropriate for a man who has lived so passionately, who has traveled so widely and learned so much than to share his experience and wisdom with others? And Ram Dass does it well, without sanctimonious posturing or self-serving claptrap, in a prose style that is familiar, warm and sharing, and at times brilliant. Especially beautiful are the passages on pages 141-144 in which he recalls his Jewish home and then a visit to India in 1970. Of course he does remind us of the many friends and note worthies he has met along the way; and, true, he is not adverse to indulging himself a little with reflections about how HE has been of service to the aged, the infirm, and the dying. But this is only right. There is, as we are freed from many of the constraints of society and its shallow proprieties, no place for a false modesty, and if one has done well, one should be pleased with oneself, and like Walt Whitman, celebrate oneself. As a young man, Ram Dass went against the shared "wisdom" of the society that had so well nurtured him and sought his own way, and he found it. He is to be admired and listened to.
His way now is not that of renunciation, as one might expect from the Hindu influence on his life, but a more social orientation. He practices karma yoga, from the Bhagavad Gita in which one finds salvation and freedom through the non-attached performance of one's duties--one's dharma--without expectation, without seeking reward or the fruit of labor.
Ram Dass believes he suffered the stroke through the "fierce grace" of his guru because of this continued "attachment to the Ego" (pp. 200-201). By learning a deeper level of suffering first hand he drew closer to God. As his guru once said, "See? That's the way it works. Suffering does bring you closer to God." He was unable to totally renounce the delusions of this world, the social and political fruits that he loved so much, being such an intensely social person, and so the attachment remained. Now confined to a wheelchair he spends more time "hanging out" with his guru (p. 202), the deceased Maharajji, whom he reveres as a god, which is the way of the guru-devotee relationship. His faith was tested by the stroke, but he came away with his faith intact. He writes in closing the book, "I know now that my faith is unshakeable. That assurance is the highest gift I have received from the stroke..."
I think the most important thing this book does is to inspire us to treat our advancing years with wisdom and dignity, with a sense of self worth and to discard the empty notions found in the noxious and insidious suggestion that growing old is some kind of disease or reason for shame. Instead one embraces the natural changes that are taking place and sees them as a new challenge, full of unique surprises and experiences, and yes, pain and sorrow and loss. It takes a strong and focused person to grow old gracefully. (Growing old is not for the faint of heart!) And finally there is an understanding that death is part of life, its fulfillment to be sure. As Ram Dass writes on page 156, "by allowing the mystery of death...to inform our everyday life, we begin to see things anew." The key word is "inform." Death informs our life and makes it whole. Like Browning's Rabbi Ben Ezra, we might also say, "Grow old along with me!/The best is yet to be"; and in believing that and living it, and knowing that death itself is a great adventure, we are freed.
Ram Dass shares his experience through little stories about inspirational people he has met and how they guided him to an appreciation of what it means to change and grow old. His gentle and uplifting style, emphasizing the spiritual aspects of life, make reading this book a warm and fulfilling experience. Incidentally, the typographical style of the book, with its tinted pages with muted yantra symbols and the light wine/purple color of the letters makes for a very pretty book, pleasingly reminiscent of the wildly decorated, paper bag-colored pages of his best seller from long ago.
--Dennis Littrell, author of ¡°Yoga: Sacred and Profane (Beyond Hatha Yoga)¡±
Such a spiritual journey from Ram Dass to share with us. His idea is very Indian religion. I think it comforts many people who wishes to have afterlife. (i actually accept the possibility that there is no afterlife, I am ok to not have a continuation) With getting old, having stroke, he actually experienced mental roller coaster. He tried to guide us to transform ourselves to get ready for the fact that we need to die. I think this book will be perfect for me 5 years ago, but now I have different idea.
Perhaps not the easiest topic to read about and normally wouldn't choose this particular topic to educate myself about, but picked up firstly this book because of the author and I was sure that any of his written book will be enlightening to read. Stereotypically this theme would feel dark or in some ways heavy to understand, but happened exactly the opposite. I broke so many stigmas that I even didn't realise that was there in me, and by facing this topic even if I am only late 20's, was so valuable to see the spectrum of the "being" and "living". Somehow I managed to release some unnecessary stress factors that I had whenever life feels too fast and to remind myself what actually are my values. And those are being here and now. To be present and to enjoy every possible moment while I am physically in this body of mine. Ram Dass has a special spot in between those that inspires me.
I¡¯ll always give Ram Dass 5 stars. He confronts the most uncomfortable topics with lightness and grace. Addressing the fear of change and impermanence at it¡¯s most dramatic and challenging moments and providing ways to access ease on behalf of yourself and those around you. This book is a gift. It felt like sweeping out a corner of a room or that space behind the couch that you¡¯ve been avoiding as it accumulates dust. A deeply appreciated read that will be a returning practice.
What an impossible subject to tackle. I appreciate the insights and analogies in this book, but still feel incredibly uneasy and terrified - not that that¡¯s Dass¡¯ goal or motivation, but I can definitely appreciate and aim for his level of acceptance and understanding.
I might have read this book a little too early in my life as this book is all about how to deal with old age, failing bodies and death. Was it a total waste of time? No, it definitely gave me some keen insights and prepared me for some things I hadn't even considered as a 41 year old me.
Ever since I came across "Becoming Nobody" by Ram Dass I've really gotten to like his works and so far, I think he has been able to tell me how to 'live in the here and now', where others failed to.
One of the best things about this book is how Ram Dass talks about death and how according to his Guru, 'Dying is like taking off a tight shoe.' I really love that metaphor, because it's so simple to understand. Thanks to Ram Dass I have the believe once again that our souls are more than just this body and that we're only here to learn and experience.
I'll definitely have to re-read this book in thirty years, or so!