Dr. Lillian Glass is an international communication and body language expert, media commentator and author of a dozen books, including Toxic People, He Says She Says, and a body language book, I Know What You're Thinking. She has a monthly body language column in Cosmopolitan Magazine. She also is actively involved as a jury consultant.
I found this book to be very helpful. The author identifies 11 types of men who may or may not be toxic to you, as the toxicity is dependent on your personality and reaction to them. It is clear, well organized, and insightful. I would recommend it to any woman.
I've been digging psychology about dating for a while after this friend guy of mine starting a new year resolution quest to get laid but not quiet successful. I respect the guy's choice except that he spent too much money on these scammers' cult. I told him his "alpha dog" project doesn't work. He should seek the real thing out instead. Women just want a guy to have fun with and doesn't have those true colors hidden and doesn't see women as objects so he never get hurt but never happy either. And that moving slow doesn't make him sexy. For now that the society have sources to warn women. These scammers aren't gonna get away with it by being a manipulative jerk. Women will dump them soon if they even ever get involved at all. Scammers think picking up women is the same as selling goods that they need to be original, mysterious, they need to be like junk food, like fictional books. In reality, you just came across as weird and somewhat off. This book is the real deal. Women don't wanna be with jerks. They thought those guys were nice at first. Also jerks nail lying since they believe people are tools to them. They proudly steal girls, blackmail girls. They basically have no sympathy. It's not about being a nice guy/bad boy. If a nice guy is successful with the ladies other guys just gonna label him as a bad boy. Simple as that. It's an erotic novel hype, fully tattooed shirtless fit looker Fabio riding a motorcycle. It might work in getting laid but not in a relationship. My guy friend started to see what he does wrong and now, he's not struggling anymore! Both financially and romantically!
This book could be read by all sexual orientations in regard to relationships. This book does not solely apply to romantic relationships. I enjoyed reading this book because I have encountered toxic men in my work environment and personal life, and walked away from these situations once I realized the toxicity was not needed in my life. However, I also think it is important for women to point out their own flaws and work to become better people. I think some women may be able to observe traits within themselves that fall along the toxicity spectrum just by reading this book. Nonetheless, I think the author did a great job pointing out the traits seen in toxic men. I just did not gather much as far as healing is concerned. I still recommend this book.
Everyone should read this for their own safety and emotional well being and save their time from toxic people. It鈥檚 specifically for women who have suffered from toxic men, since usually the toxicity is rooted in deep misogyny, but I think anyone can read this and look out for subtle beginning signs of disrespect and not excuse it. Too often we give people the benefit of the doubt or too much credit than they deserve. Sometime people are just toxic and crappy people and should be avoided. Sometimes toxic people say they want to change and better but they won鈥檛鈥攕o don鈥檛 be fooled. Everyone should read this to see beginning warning signs of disrespect and toxicity in any relationship. Could save you a lot of heartache and frustration.
The rating I would prefer is three stars as the author has portrayed men to be toxic. There are plenty of toxic women out there but the percentage is only 20% as opposed to men who are 80% ( evidence from scientific research) and majority of men are perpetrators of domestic violence. There are plenty of men in the world who treat women with respect. Toxicity as a trait is rooted to personality disorders( may be up to less percentage genetic reasons), but the majority is due to conditioning. patriarchal mindset and self-limiting beliefs. This book is a must read for all women who are in the dating scene or looking for matrimony as it is easy to be aware and check the potential red flags. Not all redflags seem obvious. One of the few are lovebombing, commiting to a relationship sooner, making the potential partner seem special and showing true colours once they believe they own the partner either through commitment or marriage. Toxic people like these treat their partner as objects and they believe they own them. In this book, the author has described 11 types of toxic men with their traits. She has also given practical advice and tools to manage including effective strategies to avoid them, set boundaries and ensuring that communication is effective. In arranged marriages there is no potential to recognise these red flags, If someone is getting married to a narcissist in an arranged marriage, good luck. It will take years for people in a marriage to realise that they are in an abusive marriage. This book helps us readers to take control of our lives and ensure that we find loving harmonious relationships as everyone, irrrespective of gender, deserves to live happily in a stable loving relationship, where there is mutual understanding, compassion,kindness, empathy and respect. One of the great traits of narcissists is they lack empathy( applies to covert, grandiose and malignant narcissists) and they would not be open to counselling as they are perfect in their eyes. Even if they are receptive to counselling, they are adept at making the therapist believe that their spouses are at fault. Narcissists cannot be redeemed unless they self- reflect. Best and only solution is divorce with a narcissist. Better to check before entering a relationship rather than repenting it later.