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毓蹖亘蹖 賳丿丕乇丿 丕诏乇 丨丕賱鬲 禺賵卮 賳蹖爻鬲
丿乇 讴鬲丕亘 讴賲丿蹖 丕賱賴蹖 丿丕賳鬲賴貙 賵蹖乇跇蹖賱 乇丕賴賳賲丕蹖 丿丕賳鬲賴 丕夭 噩賴賳賲 亘賴鈥屸€屫迟堐� 亘乇夭禺 丕爻鬲. 賵賯鬲蹖 丿丕賳鬲賴 亘丕 丿蹖賵丕乇 亘夭乇诏蹖 丕夭 丌鬲卮 乇賵亘賴鈥屫辟� 賲蹖鈥屫促堌� 賵 賵丨卮鬲 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 賵蹖乇跇蹖賱 亘賴 丕賵 賲蹖鈥屭堐屫�: 芦丕賳鬲禺丕亘 丿蹖诏乇蹖 賳丿丕乇蹖. 丕蹖賳 丌鬲卮蹖 丕爻鬲 讴賴 賲蹖鈥屫迟堌藏з嗀� 丕賲丕 丕夭 亘蹖賳 賳賲蹖鈥屫ㄘ必�.禄 賵賱蹖 丿丕賳鬲賴 賴賲趩賳丕賳 賲蹖鈥屫必池�. 賵蹖乇跇蹖賱 鬲乇爻 丕賵 乇丕 丨爻 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 丿爻鬲 乇賵蹖 卮丕賳賴鈥屫ж� 賲蹖鈥屭柏ж必� 賵 鬲讴乇丕乇 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀�: 芦丕賳鬲禺丕亘 丿蹖诏乇蹖 賳丿丕乇蹖.禄 丿丕賳鬲賴 賳蹖夭 毓夭賲 禺賵丿 乇丕 噩夭賲 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 賵 賵丕乇丿 賲蹖鈥屫促堌�.
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First published October 1, 2017
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Megan Devine
11听books359听followersMegan Devine is the author of the book It's OK that You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand.
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May 10, 2018
This is hands-down the best book on grief I've found, and I've been looking for a good many years now.
Megan Devine introduces the topic by telling readers that she had been a therapist/grief counselor, giving her clients the standard advice about "getting past" grief, "moving on," "finding closure," etc. Then her fiance died, and she discovered that none of that was helpful.
This book contains the wisdom she's gained after ten years of living with grief; trying to figure out why so much of our cultural reaction to death and grief is not only not helpful but actually hurtful and harmful to mourners; and starting her own website to let people share their stories of loss and find validation, and really listening to what people say there.
This book treats everyone, both mourners and the often clueless and lost friends who'd like to help but don't know how, with great kindness and empathy. It helps the grief-stricken cope with well-meaning attempts to "fix" them, and points out that death isn't fixable. You don't "move on" after the death of someone important and irreplaceable. You just keep moving.
It also has some really helpful advice about coping with the cognitive issues posed by grief, when a person's brain is occupied with trying to reorganize a world that no longer makes sense, and dealing with the often crippling anxiety that follows a loss.
I strongly recommend this to anyone who is currently or has ever been in mourning. It's not an easy read -- it acknowledges and touches all the sore spots, very gently, but they're still sensitive, and I found myself crying a lot -- but that acknowledgement and understanding flow off every page like a soft, warm blanket.
I also recommend this to everyone, because at some point you or someone you love will be bereaved, and the information in this book is worth knowing ahead of time. It won't help with the pain, but it will help with caring for yourself or that other person.
Thank you, Megan Devine, for being so thoughtful, and for sharing your pain and your ongoing journey on this road which no one wants to walk, but which is nevertheless crowded with people who need the comforting you offer.
Megan Devine introduces the topic by telling readers that she had been a therapist/grief counselor, giving her clients the standard advice about "getting past" grief, "moving on," "finding closure," etc. Then her fiance died, and she discovered that none of that was helpful.
This book contains the wisdom she's gained after ten years of living with grief; trying to figure out why so much of our cultural reaction to death and grief is not only not helpful but actually hurtful and harmful to mourners; and starting her own website to let people share their stories of loss and find validation, and really listening to what people say there.
This book treats everyone, both mourners and the often clueless and lost friends who'd like to help but don't know how, with great kindness and empathy. It helps the grief-stricken cope with well-meaning attempts to "fix" them, and points out that death isn't fixable. You don't "move on" after the death of someone important and irreplaceable. You just keep moving.
It also has some really helpful advice about coping with the cognitive issues posed by grief, when a person's brain is occupied with trying to reorganize a world that no longer makes sense, and dealing with the often crippling anxiety that follows a loss.
I strongly recommend this to anyone who is currently or has ever been in mourning. It's not an easy read -- it acknowledges and touches all the sore spots, very gently, but they're still sensitive, and I found myself crying a lot -- but that acknowledgement and understanding flow off every page like a soft, warm blanket.
I also recommend this to everyone, because at some point you or someone you love will be bereaved, and the information in this book is worth knowing ahead of time. It won't help with the pain, but it will help with caring for yourself or that other person.
Thank you, Megan Devine, for being so thoughtful, and for sharing your pain and your ongoing journey on this road which no one wants to walk, but which is nevertheless crowded with people who need the comforting you offer.
January 23, 2021
A great book I would recommend to those who are in the process of grieving, want to support a loved one who鈥檚 grieving, or who desire to learn more about grief overall. The main highlights of this book include what to say and what not to say to those in the grieving process. Megan Devine writes well about how because we often feel uncomfortable around other people鈥檚 pain, we are quick to make well-intentioned yet unhelpful and hurtful statements like 鈥淸insert loved one] is in a better place鈥� or 鈥渁t least you had them for as long as you did.鈥� Devine draws upon her own experience of grief and her work with clients and community members to emphasize how instead of trying to reduce or end the painful emotions related to grief, we can work to honor and make space for those emotions instead. She also offers practical suggestions related to coping with stress and anxiety that may stem from grief.
I give this book four instead of five stars for two reasons. I will say that I so appreciate Devine鈥檚 vulnerability and her psychological insight in this book. For example, she writes about how while people can come to cultivate meaning from painful events in their lives, no one should try to force them into that process before they feel ready 鈥� an insight that feels relevant to a painful event in my life right now. However, there were some passages where I almost felt like Devine鈥檚 writing came across as imprecise. For example, this paragraph:
鈥淥ur rampant avoidance of feeling-with-each-other requires us to distance ourselves from environmental devastation, from human suffering, from child abuse and sex trafficking, from global wars, from hate crimes of all kinds. When we do see suffering, we throw ourselves into outrage, rather than collapse into grief. Activist and author Joanna Macy speaks of the unrecognized, and unwelcome, pain in the hearts of most activists. It鈥檚 as if we are afraid the full force of our sadness would render us mute, powerless, and unable to go on. That unacknowledged pain results in burnout, disconnection, and a distinct lack of empathy for others who hold seemingly opposing views.鈥�
When I read this paragraph I was like wait what just happened? I felt like a lot of generalizations were made in this paragraph without any real substantiation. Like yes, I imagine some people who avoid their feelings also avoid reflecting on topics like global wars and child abuse, however, I also know a ton of people 鈥� and can point to research 鈥� that shows how some people who are most in touch with their feelings commit themselves to fighting these types of injustices because they鈥檝e found deep meaning through processing their pain. Furthermore, she states that unacknowledged pain results in a distinct lack of empathy for people with opposing views. While this relationship between lack of empathy and tolerating opposing views may be true sometimes, I also think that鈥檚 a huge and unmerited generalization. For example, I consider myself a pretty empathetic person (like, I鈥檓 a therapist, though I recognize not all therapists are empathetic, I think most of us are, but anyway) and I really do not tolerate views that promote white supremacy, homophobia, misogyny, imperialism, etc. I do not tolerate those views because I detest oppression and love social justice, not because I lack empathy. So some of these more throwaway phrases or paragraphs bothered me a little bit, though not enough that I鈥檇 avoid recommending this book to people who may enjoy it or benefit from reading it.
I also wondered if Devine could have dedicated more space to exploring or naming how other cultures process grief. While she names that the Western world kinda sucks at it, she does not highlight any alternatives. For example, I鈥檓 aware that Native culture in much more healthful, unrepressed ways. Still, I鈥檓 glad that Devine鈥檚 book may shift or expand how we talk about grief, to promote more compassion and emotional awareness.
I give this book four instead of five stars for two reasons. I will say that I so appreciate Devine鈥檚 vulnerability and her psychological insight in this book. For example, she writes about how while people can come to cultivate meaning from painful events in their lives, no one should try to force them into that process before they feel ready 鈥� an insight that feels relevant to a painful event in my life right now. However, there were some passages where I almost felt like Devine鈥檚 writing came across as imprecise. For example, this paragraph:
鈥淥ur rampant avoidance of feeling-with-each-other requires us to distance ourselves from environmental devastation, from human suffering, from child abuse and sex trafficking, from global wars, from hate crimes of all kinds. When we do see suffering, we throw ourselves into outrage, rather than collapse into grief. Activist and author Joanna Macy speaks of the unrecognized, and unwelcome, pain in the hearts of most activists. It鈥檚 as if we are afraid the full force of our sadness would render us mute, powerless, and unable to go on. That unacknowledged pain results in burnout, disconnection, and a distinct lack of empathy for others who hold seemingly opposing views.鈥�
When I read this paragraph I was like wait what just happened? I felt like a lot of generalizations were made in this paragraph without any real substantiation. Like yes, I imagine some people who avoid their feelings also avoid reflecting on topics like global wars and child abuse, however, I also know a ton of people 鈥� and can point to research 鈥� that shows how some people who are most in touch with their feelings commit themselves to fighting these types of injustices because they鈥檝e found deep meaning through processing their pain. Furthermore, she states that unacknowledged pain results in a distinct lack of empathy for people with opposing views. While this relationship between lack of empathy and tolerating opposing views may be true sometimes, I also think that鈥檚 a huge and unmerited generalization. For example, I consider myself a pretty empathetic person (like, I鈥檓 a therapist, though I recognize not all therapists are empathetic, I think most of us are, but anyway) and I really do not tolerate views that promote white supremacy, homophobia, misogyny, imperialism, etc. I do not tolerate those views because I detest oppression and love social justice, not because I lack empathy. So some of these more throwaway phrases or paragraphs bothered me a little bit, though not enough that I鈥檇 avoid recommending this book to people who may enjoy it or benefit from reading it.
I also wondered if Devine could have dedicated more space to exploring or naming how other cultures process grief. While she names that the Western world kinda sucks at it, she does not highlight any alternatives. For example, I鈥檓 aware that Native culture in much more healthful, unrepressed ways. Still, I鈥檓 glad that Devine鈥檚 book may shift or expand how we talk about grief, to promote more compassion and emotional awareness.
December 17, 2020
亘蹖卮鬲乇 丕夭 丿賴 禺胤 丿乇亘丕乇賴鈥屰� 丕丨爻丕爻賲 賳爻亘鬲 亘賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賳賵卮鬲賲 賵賱蹖 丿蹖丿賲 丕蹖賳噩丕 诏匕丕卮鬲賳卮 禺蹖賱蹖 賱賵爻 賲蹖卮賴.
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賴賲蹖賳 丿蹖诏賴 :))
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亘賳丕亘乇丕蹖賳 禺賱丕氐賴 賲蹖诏賲:
丕夭 爻丕乇丕 賯賳丿蹖 禺蹖賱蹖 賲賲賳賵賳賲 讴賴 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘乇丕賲 賮乇爻鬲丕丿 賵 倬蹖诏蹖乇 丨丕賱賲 亘賵丿. 賲丕趩 亘賴卮.
睾賲 賮賯丿丕賳 賴蹖趩賵賯鬲 鬲賲賵賲 賳賲蹖卮賴貙 丨鬲蹖 卮讴賱卮 毓賵囟 賳賲蹖卮賴貙 賮賯胤 亘丕蹖丿 亘賴 丿賵卮 亘讴卮蹖卮. 丕蹖賳 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賴乇诏夭 倬丕蹖丕賳卮 禺賵卮 賳亘賵丿賴.
賵賯鬲蹖 讴爻蹖 讴賴 爻賵诏賵丕乇賴貙 亘賴 賴乇 丿賱蹖賱貙 賵 丕夭 睾氐賴 賴丕卮 丨乇賮 賲蹖夭賳賴貙 賴乇噩丕蹖蹖貙 丿賲 丿爻鬲蹖 鬲乇蹖賳 鬲毓亘蹖乇 丕夭卮 噩賱亘 鬲賵噩賴賴. 卮丕蹖丿賲 賵丕賯毓丕 丿丕乇賴 噩賱亘 鬲賵噩賴 賲蹖讴賳賴貙 賵賱蹖 丕睾賱亘 賲賵丕賯毓 亘賴 讴賲讴 噩丿蹖 丕丨鬲蹖丕噩 丿丕乇賴. 賯囟丕賵鬲卮 賳讴賳蹖丿 賱胤賮丕. 亘賴卮 丕賳诏 賳夭賳蹖丿. 爻賵丕賱丕蹖 丕丨賲賯丕賳賴 賲孬賱 丕蹖賳讴賴 "賲诏賴 趩蹖卮丿賴" 丕夭卮 賳倬乇爻蹖丿. 賮賯胤 亘賴卮 诏賵卮 讴賳蹖丿 賱胤賮丕. 丨鬲蹖 鬲馗丕賴乇 賳讴賳蹖丿 讴賴 丿乇讴卮 賲蹖讴賳蹖丿. 賵賱蹖 賲蹖 鬲賵賳蹖丿 鬲馗丕賴乇 讴賳蹖丿 讴賴 诏賵卮 賲蹖讴賳蹖丿.
賴賲蹖賳 丿蹖诏賴 :))
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讴鬲丕亘 禺蹖賱蹖 禺賵亘蹖賴 丿乇 讴賱
June 28, 2019
This was a helpful and comforting book in many ways, but I have to admit I was really offended by Devine鈥檚 grief hierarchy in the beginning. This is a book for people experiencing grief so why exclude people who don鈥檛 fit her definition of deserving to grieve? I completely agree that out-of-order deaths must be the most intense. But her assumption is that sudden, accidental deaths of young people (like that of her boyfriend) are uniquely hard to process, and the book reads almost more like a memoir at times. My heart goes out to her, and I have no doubt that she is in so much pain over her loss. But I am here to tell you that the long, drawn-out death of a parent can also leave your whole world turned upside down. My mom was a fit and youthful 60 when she was diagnosed with terminal cancer. (Both her parents are alive and well, so I guess this was technically an out-of-order death, for them.) We had grand plans. She had every expectation of living decades longer. When she died last year the emotions were so complicated. Watching her die was at once a horrible nightmare and a relief to see the end of her suffering鈥擨 felt so much guilt for feeling relieved, and so much anguish over the many wrong things I had said and all the things left unsaid. My dad鈥檚 grief is still overwhelming, over a year later. I am sadder today than I was last year. Although my memory loss and other bizarre physical side effects have lessened, I still can鈥檛 sleep. I will never be the same.
I appreciate that this book tells me it鈥檚 okay that I am not okay. I agree with Megan Devine that 鈥渢his JUST happened.鈥� (She says any time in the first two years or so, it鈥檒l feel like the loss is very recent.)
I also appreciate that this book has a LOT of advice for people who are supporting a grieving person. I wish those people would read it, but at least those of us who have experienced grief will have some tools for helping our loved ones who go through it later on. Our society is horrible at dealing with grief and it鈥檚 wonderful to have people like Megan Devine who are telling the truth about it. At my mom鈥檚 memorial last summer, people said the strangest things to me. One woman berated me because my mom never announced her cancer on Facebook. 鈥淚 would have come to visit your mom, or at least checked in with her, if I鈥檇 known!鈥� Well, lady, let it be a lesson to you: either you care about people and check in with them from time to time, or you don鈥檛 and it shows. Many people wanted details about her illness and about her risk factors (she had none of them by the way; no family history of cancer and no other known risk factors). People love to place blame so they can reassure themselves that it won鈥檛 happen to them. Guess what? Shit happens! Those of us who have experienced loss understand that. It can happen at any moment. Magical thinking will not change it. Nothing happens 鈥渇or a reason.鈥� You just live and do your best to cope.
I think Devine鈥檚 grief hierarchy comes from her own unfortunate experience of people assuming she should 鈥渏ust move on鈥� because it was 鈥渏ust鈥� her boyfriend who died; they weren鈥檛 married and didn鈥檛 have kids so people were less sympathetic, perhaps. It鈥檚 not fair to her that people treated her that way. I have friends who were similarly expected not to need to grieve a loss, and I know it can really add layers of devastation to the experience. Again, I really feel for her. But I wish she hadn鈥檛 focused so much on accidental deaths because it felt like the rest of us, experiencing 鈥渆xpected鈥� deaths, should just move on already.
I appreciate that this book tells me it鈥檚 okay that I am not okay. I agree with Megan Devine that 鈥渢his JUST happened.鈥� (She says any time in the first two years or so, it鈥檒l feel like the loss is very recent.)
I also appreciate that this book has a LOT of advice for people who are supporting a grieving person. I wish those people would read it, but at least those of us who have experienced grief will have some tools for helping our loved ones who go through it later on. Our society is horrible at dealing with grief and it鈥檚 wonderful to have people like Megan Devine who are telling the truth about it. At my mom鈥檚 memorial last summer, people said the strangest things to me. One woman berated me because my mom never announced her cancer on Facebook. 鈥淚 would have come to visit your mom, or at least checked in with her, if I鈥檇 known!鈥� Well, lady, let it be a lesson to you: either you care about people and check in with them from time to time, or you don鈥檛 and it shows. Many people wanted details about her illness and about her risk factors (she had none of them by the way; no family history of cancer and no other known risk factors). People love to place blame so they can reassure themselves that it won鈥檛 happen to them. Guess what? Shit happens! Those of us who have experienced loss understand that. It can happen at any moment. Magical thinking will not change it. Nothing happens 鈥渇or a reason.鈥� You just live and do your best to cope.
I think Devine鈥檚 grief hierarchy comes from her own unfortunate experience of people assuming she should 鈥渏ust move on鈥� because it was 鈥渏ust鈥� her boyfriend who died; they weren鈥檛 married and didn鈥檛 have kids so people were less sympathetic, perhaps. It鈥檚 not fair to her that people treated her that way. I have friends who were similarly expected not to need to grieve a loss, and I know it can really add layers of devastation to the experience. Again, I really feel for her. But I wish she hadn鈥檛 focused so much on accidental deaths because it felt like the rest of us, experiencing 鈥渆xpected鈥� deaths, should just move on already.
September 28, 2017
鈥淔or those who are the stuff of other people鈥檚 nightmares鈥� - Wow! This quote sure hits home for me. My 21 year old son killed in a tragic car accident. What do you say to a mother who鈥檚 lost her son? Fear takes over in the people around you because they know it could happen to them, and they don鈥檛 want to think about that, it鈥檚 too painful. So the platitudes and 鈥渇ixing鈥� begins - or - they slowly disappear.
Megan Devine鈥檚 book is powerful, honest, and necessary in this culture that doesn鈥檛 understand or know how to tend to grief. 鈥淥ur culture sees grief as a kind of malady; a terrifying, messy emotion that needs to be cleaned up and put behind us as soon as possible鈥�(intro xvii)
We will all experience grief at some point in our lives. This book is essential for those who are experiencing deep grief and the way we help and support others who have endured loss. If you want to love better, read this book.
Thank you, Megan Devine...for giving me the permission to feel what I feel, unapologetically.
Megan Devine鈥檚 book is powerful, honest, and necessary in this culture that doesn鈥檛 understand or know how to tend to grief. 鈥淥ur culture sees grief as a kind of malady; a terrifying, messy emotion that needs to be cleaned up and put behind us as soon as possible鈥�(intro xvii)
We will all experience grief at some point in our lives. This book is essential for those who are experiencing deep grief and the way we help and support others who have endured loss. If you want to love better, read this book.
Thank you, Megan Devine...for giving me the permission to feel what I feel, unapologetically.
November 23, 2022
The author of this book tries to share her expertise on grief in a new authentic way, a more relatable and accurate way. She insists a lot on her position telling us that grief is not something to be fixed, it is not a terrible event that you need to overcome in order to get back to a normal life.
Devine explains how grief is an unique experience and needs to be 芦听dealt听禄 with your own way. Although she makes a tremendous amount of valid points in this book, it felt just fine for me.
This is best suited for people dealing with grief themself or someone who is trying to get ressources on how to help/support a grieving person.
3.5 猸愶笍
Devine explains how grief is an unique experience and needs to be 芦听dealt听禄 with your own way. Although she makes a tremendous amount of valid points in this book, it felt just fine for me.
This is best suited for people dealing with grief themself or someone who is trying to get ressources on how to help/support a grieving person.
3.5 猸愶笍
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"What cannot be fixed, can only be carried"
This is a classic case of one star reviews selling me a book.
I lost my 30 year old sister in January 2022. My most loved human. A full decade younger than me.
I didn't want to read a grief book, I didn't want to read that things happen for a reason, that God has a plan. Plus most grief books are focused on the natural order of things which isn't the case here.
There's a ton of one star reviews for this book. People feel belittled that their grief doesn't count because their grandparents died. No one should feel belittled in grief, ever, but this book definitely isn't for you.
I had 11 months between losing my Nan and my Sister and they feel very different to me so I knew I had to try to read this.
Finding this book which is solely focused on out of order deaths has helped. It hasn't made things easier, my grief is still the heavy immovable object it was before, but I feel seen, understood.
Megan spoke my language and I know I will reread chapters again over the course of my life. Grief is love and love lasts forever.
It's OK that I'm not OK.
Recommended for those who are dealing with a loss outside of the natural order of things. This is also a great resource for anyone in the supporting role of an out of order death.听
This is a classic case of one star reviews selling me a book.
I lost my 30 year old sister in January 2022. My most loved human. A full decade younger than me.
I didn't want to read a grief book, I didn't want to read that things happen for a reason, that God has a plan. Plus most grief books are focused on the natural order of things which isn't the case here.
There's a ton of one star reviews for this book. People feel belittled that their grief doesn't count because their grandparents died. No one should feel belittled in grief, ever, but this book definitely isn't for you.
I had 11 months between losing my Nan and my Sister and they feel very different to me so I knew I had to try to read this.
Finding this book which is solely focused on out of order deaths has helped. It hasn't made things easier, my grief is still the heavy immovable object it was before, but I feel seen, understood.
Megan spoke my language and I know I will reread chapters again over the course of my life. Grief is love and love lasts forever.
It's OK that I'm not OK.
Recommended for those who are dealing with a loss outside of the natural order of things. This is also a great resource for anyone in the supporting role of an out of order death.听
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鈥淕rief is not a sign that you鈥檙e unwell or unevolved. It鈥檚 a sign that love has been part of your life, and that you want love to continue, even here.鈥�
Within a month of each other, 2 of my best friend鈥檚 husbands passed away. Both had been fighting debilitating dis-ease for a while, but were tremendous fighters and not of the mindset that their end would be any time soon. But dis-ease doesn鈥檛 play fair all the time, or have a ready-made cure available; so, the loss of their partners was devastating for both of them. Even if it was expected.
As their good friend, what could I say or do to help make their world feel a little more safe, or secure, or less alone?
鈥淎bove all else, I鈥檇 want you to feel your loss is validated. Accepted. I hear you. I bow to you.鈥� 鈥� Grace, student
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鈥淭he reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. There is pain in this world that you can't be cheered out of. You don't need solutions. You don't need to move on from your grief. You need someone to see your grief, to acknowledge it. You need someone to hold your hands while you stand there in blinking horror, staring at the hole that was your life. Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.鈥�
Let鈥檚 repeat that line鈥�
鈥淪ome things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.鈥�
When we consider what the author shares here, we recognize that as their friend/partner/close relative, we can be witness to what is going on and be a place of hope to help the person to survive their loss. Not with platitudes, but with a recognition of what they are experiencing, by showing care, love and support.
鈥淚 wish this for you: to find the people you belong with, the ones who will see your pain, companion you, hold you close, even as the heavy lifting of grief is yours alone. As hard as they may seem to find at times, your community is out there. Look for them. Collect them. Knit them into a vast flotilla of light that can hold you.鈥�
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Of the 11 guiding principles, for how to help a grieving friend, #11: Love, stood out.
鈥淎bove all, show your love. Show up. Say something. Do something. Be willing to stand beside the gaping hole that has opened in your friend鈥檚 life, without flinching or turning away. Be willing to not have any answers. Listen. Be there. Be present. Be a friend. Be love. Love is the thing that lasts.鈥�
I needed to repeat this line, too鈥�
鈥淏e love. Love is the thing that lasts.鈥�
Throughout the book the author provides exercises, thoughtful quotes from others, guidance and activities that can help.
This would make an excellent resource for anyone who is grieving or wants to be present for the person who is grieving a loss.
Within a month of each other, 2 of my best friend鈥檚 husbands passed away. Both had been fighting debilitating dis-ease for a while, but were tremendous fighters and not of the mindset that their end would be any time soon. But dis-ease doesn鈥檛 play fair all the time, or have a ready-made cure available; so, the loss of their partners was devastating for both of them. Even if it was expected.
As their good friend, what could I say or do to help make their world feel a little more safe, or secure, or less alone?
鈥淎bove all else, I鈥檇 want you to feel your loss is validated. Accepted. I hear you. I bow to you.鈥� 鈥� Grace, student
This book helps those through their loss with ready-made advice that is practical, thoughtful, heart-opening and understanding; and, meaningful. It also helps those who are close to the person who is experiencing the heartbreak of loss, to know how to be there for them. As an example, this book tells us that it is ok to just sit with the person. Sometimes there are no words.
鈥淭he reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. There is pain in this world that you can't be cheered out of. You don't need solutions. You don't need to move on from your grief. You need someone to see your grief, to acknowledge it. You need someone to hold your hands while you stand there in blinking horror, staring at the hole that was your life. Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.鈥�
Let鈥檚 repeat that line鈥�
鈥淪ome things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.鈥�
When we consider what the author shares here, we recognize that as their friend/partner/close relative, we can be witness to what is going on and be a place of hope to help the person to survive their loss. Not with platitudes, but with a recognition of what they are experiencing, by showing care, love and support.
鈥淚 wish this for you: to find the people you belong with, the ones who will see your pain, companion you, hold you close, even as the heavy lifting of grief is yours alone. As hard as they may seem to find at times, your community is out there. Look for them. Collect them. Knit them into a vast flotilla of light that can hold you.鈥�
There are 16 chapters that offer guidance with a way forward 鈥� for both the grieving individual and the person who is there to support them. Along with an Appendix titled 鈥淗ow to help a grieving friend.鈥�
Of the 11 guiding principles, for how to help a grieving friend, #11: Love, stood out.
鈥淎bove all, show your love. Show up. Say something. Do something. Be willing to stand beside the gaping hole that has opened in your friend鈥檚 life, without flinching or turning away. Be willing to not have any answers. Listen. Be there. Be present. Be a friend. Be love. Love is the thing that lasts.鈥�
I needed to repeat this line, too鈥�
鈥淏e love. Love is the thing that lasts.鈥�
Throughout the book the author provides exercises, thoughtful quotes from others, guidance and activities that can help.
This would make an excellent resource for anyone who is grieving or wants to be present for the person who is grieving a loss.
February 16, 2021
賲诏丕賳 丿蹖賵丕蹖賳 丕賵丕蹖賱 讴鬲丕亘 賳賵卮鬲賴: 芦丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丿乇亘丕乇賴 賳丨賵賴 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴乇丿賳 卮賲丕 丿乇賵賳 賮賯丿丕賳鬲丕賳 丕爻鬲. 丕蹖賳讴賴 趩胤賵乇 丌賳趩賴 亘乇 丿賵卮 賲蹖鈥屭┴篡屫� 亘賴亘賵丿倬匕蹖乇 賳蹖爻鬲. 丕蹖賳讴賴 趩胤賵乇 丿賵丕賲 亘蹖丕賵乇蹖丿.禄
賮讴乇 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁� 丕蹖賳 噩賲賱賴 鬲賵氐蹖賮 禺賵亘蹖 丕夭 賲丨鬲賵丕蹖 讴鬲丕亘 丕乇丕卅賴 賲蹖鈥屫�. 丕蹖賳讴賴 爻賵诏 乇賵 亘賴 卮讴賱 蹖賴 賲卮讴賱 賳亘蹖賳蹖賲 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丨賱卮 讴賳蹖賲. 亘丕 禺賵丿賲賵賳 賲賴乇亘賵賳 亘丕卮蹖賲 賵 丕噩丕夭賴 亘丿蹖賲 爻賵诏 乇賵 亘賴 卮蹖賵賴鈥屰� 禺丕氐 禺賵丿賲賵賳 鬲噩乇亘賴 讴賳蹖賲 賵 亘丕賴丕卮 讴賳丕乇 亘蹖丕蹖賲.
亘賴 賳馗乇賲 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘賴鬲乇賴 賴賲賴鈥屰� 丕賮乇丕丿 爻賵诏賵丕乇 蹖丕 讴爻丕賳蹖 讴賴 丿賵爻鬲 丿丕乇賳 亘丿賵賳賳 亘丕 讴爻蹖 讴賴 爻賵诏賵丕乇賴 趩胤賵乇 乇賮鬲丕乇 讴賳賳 亘禺賵賳.
鬲賳賴丕 賳讴鬲賴鈥屰� 賲賳賮蹖 讴鬲丕亘 丕蹖賳 亘賵丿 讴賴 蹖賴 噩丕賴丕蹖蹖 丨乇賮丕卮賵 鬲讴乇丕乇 賲蹖鈥屭┴必�. 鬲乇噩賲賴 賴賲 賲鬲賵爻胤 亘賵丿.
丕诏乇 丿賵爻鬲 丿丕卮鬲蹖賳貙 倬爻鬲 賲賳 讴賴 亘乇丿丕卮鬲 丌夭丕丿 丕夭 賴賲蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘賵丿賴 乇賵 鬲賵蹖 丕蹖賳爻鬲丕诏乇丕賲 亘禺賵賳蹖丿:
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蹖丕丿诏丕乇蹖 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘:
亘蹖卮鬲乇 賲乇丿賲 爻賵诏 乇丕 賲卮讴賱蹖 賲蹖鈥屫ㄛ屬嗁嗀� 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丨賱 卮賵丿. 禺丕賳賵丕丿賴 賵 丿賵爻鬲丕賳鬲丕賳 卮賲丕 乇丕 丿乇 丿乇丿 賲蹖鈥屫ㄛ屬嗁嗀� 賵 賲蹖鈥屫堌з囐嗀� 丿乇丿 卮賲丕 乇丕 鬲爻讴蹖賳 丿賴賳丿.
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賮賯丿丕賳 丿乇爻鬲 賲孬賱 毓卮賯 賲賳賮乇丿 丕爻鬲.
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賴乇 賮賯丿丕賳蹖 賲毓鬲亘乇 丕爻鬲 賵賱蹖 亘丕 丿蹖诏乇蹖 蹖讴爻丕賳 賳蹖爻鬲.
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芦賴賲賴 趩蹖夭賴丕蹖蹖 乇丕 讴賴 丿乇 賲丿乇爻賴 蹖丕 讴賱蹖爻丕 蹖丕 賴乇 讴鬲丕亘蹖 亘賴 卮賲丕 诏賮鬲賴 卮丿賴 丕爻鬲 丿賵亘丕乇賴 亘乇乇爻蹖 讴賳蹖丿 賵 賴乇 丌賳趩賴 乇丕 讴賴 亘賴 乇賵丨 卮賲丕 亘蹖鈥屫ж必з呟� 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 乇賴丕 爻丕夭蹖丿.禄
賵丕賱鬲 賵蹖鬲賲賳
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賵賯鬲蹖 丿乇 丨丕賱 乇卮丿蹖賲貙 鬲賳賴丕 丕賳鬲禺丕亘蹖 讴賴 丿丕乇蹖賲 丕蹖賳 丕爻鬲 讴賴 趩胤賵乇 亘丕 丌爻蹖亘鈥屬矩佰屫臂屸€屬呚з� 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳蹖賲.
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丿乇丿蹖 讴賴 賲噩丕夭 賳蹖爻鬲 诏賮鬲賴 卮賵丿 蹖丕 亘蹖丕賳 卮賵丿貙 亘賴 禺賵丿卮 賲蹖鈥屬聚屭嗀� 賵 賲卮讴賱丕鬲 亘蹖卮鬲乇蹖 丕蹖噩丕丿 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀�.
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倬丕爻禺 丿乇丿 丿乇 禺賵丿 丿乇丿 丕爻鬲. 賴賲丕賳胤賵乇 讴賴 丕蹖. 丕蹖. 讴丕賲蹖賳诏夭 賳賵卮鬲: 芦丕賱鬲蹖丕賲 夭禺賲 乇丕 亘丕蹖丿 丿乇 禺賵賳 禺賵丿 夭禺賲 蹖丕賮鬲.禄
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亘賴鬲乇 丕爻鬲 讴賮卮 亘倬賵卮蹖賲貙 亘賴 噩丕蹖 丕蹖賳讴賴 賴賲賴鈥屰� 噩賴丕賳 乇丕 賮乇卮 讴賳蹖賲.
賮讴乇 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁� 丕蹖賳 噩賲賱賴 鬲賵氐蹖賮 禺賵亘蹖 丕夭 賲丨鬲賵丕蹖 讴鬲丕亘 丕乇丕卅賴 賲蹖鈥屫�. 丕蹖賳讴賴 爻賵诏 乇賵 亘賴 卮讴賱 蹖賴 賲卮讴賱 賳亘蹖賳蹖賲 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丨賱卮 讴賳蹖賲. 亘丕 禺賵丿賲賵賳 賲賴乇亘賵賳 亘丕卮蹖賲 賵 丕噩丕夭賴 亘丿蹖賲 爻賵诏 乇賵 亘賴 卮蹖賵賴鈥屰� 禺丕氐 禺賵丿賲賵賳 鬲噩乇亘賴 讴賳蹖賲 賵 亘丕賴丕卮 讴賳丕乇 亘蹖丕蹖賲.
亘賴 賳馗乇賲 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘賴鬲乇賴 賴賲賴鈥屰� 丕賮乇丕丿 爻賵诏賵丕乇 蹖丕 讴爻丕賳蹖 讴賴 丿賵爻鬲 丿丕乇賳 亘丿賵賳賳 亘丕 讴爻蹖 讴賴 爻賵诏賵丕乇賴 趩胤賵乇 乇賮鬲丕乇 讴賳賳 亘禺賵賳.
鬲賳賴丕 賳讴鬲賴鈥屰� 賲賳賮蹖 讴鬲丕亘 丕蹖賳 亘賵丿 讴賴 蹖賴 噩丕賴丕蹖蹖 丨乇賮丕卮賵 鬲讴乇丕乇 賲蹖鈥屭┴必�. 鬲乇噩賲賴 賴賲 賲鬲賵爻胤 亘賵丿.
丕诏乇 丿賵爻鬲 丿丕卮鬲蹖賳貙 倬爻鬲 賲賳 讴賴 亘乇丿丕卮鬲 丌夭丕丿 丕夭 賴賲蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘賵丿賴 乇賵 鬲賵蹖 丕蹖賳爻鬲丕诏乇丕賲 亘禺賵賳蹖丿:
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蹖丕丿诏丕乇蹖 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘:
亘蹖卮鬲乇 賲乇丿賲 爻賵诏 乇丕 賲卮讴賱蹖 賲蹖鈥屫ㄛ屬嗁嗀� 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丨賱 卮賵丿. 禺丕賳賵丕丿賴 賵 丿賵爻鬲丕賳鬲丕賳 卮賲丕 乇丕 丿乇 丿乇丿 賲蹖鈥屫ㄛ屬嗁嗀� 賵 賲蹖鈥屫堌з囐嗀� 丿乇丿 卮賲丕 乇丕 鬲爻讴蹖賳 丿賴賳丿.
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賮賯丿丕賳 丿乇爻鬲 賲孬賱 毓卮賯 賲賳賮乇丿 丕爻鬲.
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賴乇 賮賯丿丕賳蹖 賲毓鬲亘乇 丕爻鬲 賵賱蹖 亘丕 丿蹖诏乇蹖 蹖讴爻丕賳 賳蹖爻鬲.
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芦賴賲賴 趩蹖夭賴丕蹖蹖 乇丕 讴賴 丿乇 賲丿乇爻賴 蹖丕 讴賱蹖爻丕 蹖丕 賴乇 讴鬲丕亘蹖 亘賴 卮賲丕 诏賮鬲賴 卮丿賴 丕爻鬲 丿賵亘丕乇賴 亘乇乇爻蹖 讴賳蹖丿 賵 賴乇 丌賳趩賴 乇丕 讴賴 亘賴 乇賵丨 卮賲丕 亘蹖鈥屫ж必з呟� 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 乇賴丕 爻丕夭蹖丿.禄
賵丕賱鬲 賵蹖鬲賲賳
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賵賯鬲蹖 丿乇 丨丕賱 乇卮丿蹖賲貙 鬲賳賴丕 丕賳鬲禺丕亘蹖 讴賴 丿丕乇蹖賲 丕蹖賳 丕爻鬲 讴賴 趩胤賵乇 亘丕 丌爻蹖亘鈥屬矩佰屫臂屸€屬呚з� 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳蹖賲.
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丿乇丿蹖 讴賴 賲噩丕夭 賳蹖爻鬲 诏賮鬲賴 卮賵丿 蹖丕 亘蹖丕賳 卮賵丿貙 亘賴 禺賵丿卮 賲蹖鈥屬聚屭嗀� 賵 賲卮讴賱丕鬲 亘蹖卮鬲乇蹖 丕蹖噩丕丿 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀�.
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倬丕爻禺 丿乇丿 丿乇 禺賵丿 丿乇丿 丕爻鬲. 賴賲丕賳胤賵乇 讴賴 丕蹖. 丕蹖. 讴丕賲蹖賳诏夭 賳賵卮鬲: 芦丕賱鬲蹖丕賲 夭禺賲 乇丕 亘丕蹖丿 丿乇 禺賵賳 禺賵丿 夭禺賲 蹖丕賮鬲.禄
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亘賴鬲乇 丕爻鬲 讴賮卮 亘倬賵卮蹖賲貙 亘賴 噩丕蹖 丕蹖賳讴賴 賴賲賴鈥屰� 噩賴丕賳 乇丕 賮乇卮 讴賳蹖賲.
June 22, 2018
DNF
Looks like I鈥檓 In the monority because I couldn鈥檛 even make myself finish it.
Yes-I鈥檓 sorry for what she went through. Yes, people say stupid things when someone dies, no, you don鈥檛 just 鈥済et over it鈥�.
I鈥檝e been on both sides-we all have. One day you鈥檙e saying the stupid things, next day you鈥檙e hearing them said to you. Most people in grief do realize that others are trying to show they care when they say these things. And are just grateful for your presence. This book made me paranoid I can never say the right thing-no matter what I say is a cliche, has a hidden psychological meaning, or is in some other way wrong. Yet if I say nothing, I鈥檓 avoiding my own fears about 鈥渋t could happen to me鈥� and that鈥檚 wrong too. Damned if I do, damned if I don鈥檛.
The first about 30 pages or more could have been summed up as 鈥済rief sucks鈥�-but it鈥檚 said over and over in many ways. Ok, we get it.
As one who鈥檚 been there, I disagree that it doesn鈥檛 get better. You don鈥檛 wake up one day and say 鈥渙h yes, today I feel ok about it!鈥� and happily move on. But, you can move through it and find meaning in life. It鈥檒l always be part of you, but you can keep going.
If I thought I would鈥檝e been as miserable forever as she constantly repeats, I鈥檇 be even more depressed. We need hope or what is the point of life?
The part about religion and it being basically a crutch to avoid fear of death was what finally made me stop reading. That God is capricious and decides who lives and dies. Who are we to know the mind of God? Very offensive to those who do believe.
And yes you鈥檙e always grieving but if you鈥檙e acting the same in 10 years after as you did 10 days, yeah, something IS wrong and you need help.
Kubler Ross鈥檚 鈥淥n Grief and Grieving鈥� is MUCH better.
Looks like I鈥檓 In the monority because I couldn鈥檛 even make myself finish it.
Yes-I鈥檓 sorry for what she went through. Yes, people say stupid things when someone dies, no, you don鈥檛 just 鈥済et over it鈥�.
I鈥檝e been on both sides-we all have. One day you鈥檙e saying the stupid things, next day you鈥檙e hearing them said to you. Most people in grief do realize that others are trying to show they care when they say these things. And are just grateful for your presence. This book made me paranoid I can never say the right thing-no matter what I say is a cliche, has a hidden psychological meaning, or is in some other way wrong. Yet if I say nothing, I鈥檓 avoiding my own fears about 鈥渋t could happen to me鈥� and that鈥檚 wrong too. Damned if I do, damned if I don鈥檛.
The first about 30 pages or more could have been summed up as 鈥済rief sucks鈥�-but it鈥檚 said over and over in many ways. Ok, we get it.
As one who鈥檚 been there, I disagree that it doesn鈥檛 get better. You don鈥檛 wake up one day and say 鈥渙h yes, today I feel ok about it!鈥� and happily move on. But, you can move through it and find meaning in life. It鈥檒l always be part of you, but you can keep going.
If I thought I would鈥檝e been as miserable forever as she constantly repeats, I鈥檇 be even more depressed. We need hope or what is the point of life?
The part about religion and it being basically a crutch to avoid fear of death was what finally made me stop reading. That God is capricious and decides who lives and dies. Who are we to know the mind of God? Very offensive to those who do believe.
And yes you鈥檙e always grieving but if you鈥檙e acting the same in 10 years after as you did 10 days, yeah, something IS wrong and you need help.
Kubler Ross鈥檚 鈥淥n Grief and Grieving鈥� is MUCH better.
September 11, 2020
I don't usually review books. I also don't ever stop reading books before finishing them. I have to do both with this book.
I understand where this author is coming from. Grief sucks. There is no if, ands, or buts around that. It just totally sucks. And sometimes it is best to sit in that feeling, without focusing on getting to 'acceptance.'
But I worry about the message this book gives. You are stuck. Stay stuck. No one understands you. No therapists understand you (except the author, of course). This is your life now. Accept it. Because you might never, ever feel better again.
For some people, I can understand why this book can be helpful. Commiserating in the pain of grief can be it's own healing. For other people though, I honestly worry that this book can be damaging.
The lack of hope for growth. The blaming and anger towards others. The deep dark despair.
I am offended at the lengths she speaks about how uneducated and naive therapists are. She spends one statement acknowledging that some therapists are ok. But overall, she demeans the profession. Of course some therapists may say the wrong thing. But many, many, many therapists have dealt with their own grief and trauma; often bringing them to their own therapeutic journey and their own desire to become a therapist. Their therapeutic self-reflection and self-awareness can help their clients process grief, open their hearts to healing, and feel less alone.
One does not need to take the identity of a forever griever to handle grief 'the right way.' You can feel the anger, the depression, the frustration towards others who say the wrong thing. You can take your time feeling the pain. But you can also breathe and reflect and notice the good in others and notice your own growth. That's healthy.
I worry that this book will keep people stuck. And I worry it will deter some from seeking help from mental health professionals.
I understand where this author is coming from. Grief sucks. There is no if, ands, or buts around that. It just totally sucks. And sometimes it is best to sit in that feeling, without focusing on getting to 'acceptance.'
But I worry about the message this book gives. You are stuck. Stay stuck. No one understands you. No therapists understand you (except the author, of course). This is your life now. Accept it. Because you might never, ever feel better again.
For some people, I can understand why this book can be helpful. Commiserating in the pain of grief can be it's own healing. For other people though, I honestly worry that this book can be damaging.
The lack of hope for growth. The blaming and anger towards others. The deep dark despair.
I am offended at the lengths she speaks about how uneducated and naive therapists are. She spends one statement acknowledging that some therapists are ok. But overall, she demeans the profession. Of course some therapists may say the wrong thing. But many, many, many therapists have dealt with their own grief and trauma; often bringing them to their own therapeutic journey and their own desire to become a therapist. Their therapeutic self-reflection and self-awareness can help their clients process grief, open their hearts to healing, and feel less alone.
One does not need to take the identity of a forever griever to handle grief 'the right way.' You can feel the anger, the depression, the frustration towards others who say the wrong thing. You can take your time feeling the pain. But you can also breathe and reflect and notice the good in others and notice your own growth. That's healthy.
I worry that this book will keep people stuck. And I worry it will deter some from seeking help from mental health professionals.
November 14, 2020
讴鬲丕亘 毓蹖亘蹖 賳丿丕乇丿 丕诏賴 丨丕賱鬲 禺賵卮 賳蹖爻鬲 丿賯蹖賯丕 賲孬賱 丕爻賲卮 丿丕乇賴 賲蹖诏賴 丕诏賴 卮禺氐 蹖丕 趩蹖夭 賲賴賲蹖 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖鬲 丕夭 丿爻鬲 丿丕丿蹖 賵 丿乇 爻賵诏 丌賳 賴爻鬲蹖貙 毓蹖亘蹖 賳丿丕乇賴 讴賴 毓氐亘丕賳蹖 亘丕卮蹖貙 蹖丕 毓蹖亘蹖 賳丿丕乇賴 丕诏賴 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 丕賵賳 丕鬲賮丕賯 丿丕卅賲 氐丨亘鬲 賲蹖讴賳蹖貙 賵 禺蹖賱蹖 趩蹖夭丕蹖 丿蹖诏賴 讴賴 亘丕毓孬 賲蹖卮賴 丌乇賵賲鬲 讴賳賴 賵 丕賳诏丕乇 蹖讴蹖 賴爻鬲 讴賴 丿丕乇賴 丿乇讴鬲 賲蹖讴賳賴.
趩賳丿 賵賯鬲 倬蹖卮 賲丕丿乇 丿賵爻鬲賲 賮賵鬲 卮丿 賵 丿賵爻鬲賲 丿賱卮 賳賲蹖禺賵丕爻鬲 亘賴卮 鬲爻賱蹖鬲 亘诏賳. 蹖丕 丿賯蹖賯丕 賲賳 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 丿賵爻鬲卮 賳賲蹖 丿賵賳爻鬲賲 讴賴 趩賴 趩蹖夭蹖 亘丕蹖丿 亘賴卮 亘诏賲 讴賴 亘鬲賵賳賲 丌乇賵賲卮 讴賳賲貙 趩賵賳 賴乇 趩蹖 賲蹖诏賮鬲賲 丕賳诏丕乇 鬲丕孬蹖乇蹖 賳丿丕卮鬲.
趩賳丿蹖賳 乇丕賴 丨賱 賵 爻亘讴 乇賮鬲丕乇 丿乇 丕賳鬲賴丕蹖 讴鬲丕亘 賴爻鬲 讴賴 讴賲讴 賲蹖讴賳賴 亘鬲賵賳蹖 亘賴 讴爻蹖 讴賴 丿乇 爻賵诏 賴爻鬲 讴賲讴 讴賳蹖貙 賵賱蹖 禺蹖賱蹖 賳蹖爻鬲貙 賵 亘蹖卮鬲乇 讴鬲丕亘 亘乇丕蹖 禺賵丿 卮禺氐 爻賵诏 丿蹖丿賴 賲賳丕爻亘賴 讴賴 亘賴卮 亘诏賴 鬲賲丕賲 毓讴爻 丕賱毓賲賱 賴丕鬲 胤亘蹖毓蹖 賴爻鬲.
蹖賴 噩賲賱賴 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘 :
亘毓囟蹖 趩蹖夭賴丕 乇丕 賳賲蹖鬲賵丕賳 丿乇賲丕賳 讴乇丿貙 賮賯胤 亘丕蹖丿 丌賳 賴丕 乇丕 亘賴 丿賵卮 讴卮蹖丿.
趩賳丿 賵賯鬲 倬蹖卮 賲丕丿乇 丿賵爻鬲賲 賮賵鬲 卮丿 賵 丿賵爻鬲賲 丿賱卮 賳賲蹖禺賵丕爻鬲 亘賴卮 鬲爻賱蹖鬲 亘诏賳. 蹖丕 丿賯蹖賯丕 賲賳 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 丿賵爻鬲卮 賳賲蹖 丿賵賳爻鬲賲 讴賴 趩賴 趩蹖夭蹖 亘丕蹖丿 亘賴卮 亘诏賲 讴賴 亘鬲賵賳賲 丌乇賵賲卮 讴賳賲貙 趩賵賳 賴乇 趩蹖 賲蹖诏賮鬲賲 丕賳诏丕乇 鬲丕孬蹖乇蹖 賳丿丕卮鬲.
趩賳丿蹖賳 乇丕賴 丨賱 賵 爻亘讴 乇賮鬲丕乇 丿乇 丕賳鬲賴丕蹖 讴鬲丕亘 賴爻鬲 讴賴 讴賲讴 賲蹖讴賳賴 亘鬲賵賳蹖 亘賴 讴爻蹖 讴賴 丿乇 爻賵诏 賴爻鬲 讴賲讴 讴賳蹖貙 賵賱蹖 禺蹖賱蹖 賳蹖爻鬲貙 賵 亘蹖卮鬲乇 讴鬲丕亘 亘乇丕蹖 禺賵丿 卮禺氐 爻賵诏 丿蹖丿賴 賲賳丕爻亘賴 讴賴 亘賴卮 亘诏賴 鬲賲丕賲 毓讴爻 丕賱毓賲賱 賴丕鬲 胤亘蹖毓蹖 賴爻鬲.
蹖賴 噩賲賱賴 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘 :
亘毓囟蹖 趩蹖夭賴丕 乇丕 賳賲蹖鬲賵丕賳 丿乇賲丕賳 讴乇丿貙 賮賯胤 亘丕蹖丿 丌賳 賴丕 乇丕 亘賴 丿賵卮 讴卮蹖丿.
September 13, 2021
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丿乇 乇丕亘胤賴 亘丕 爻賵诏 亘蹖鈥屬嗀港屫� 亘賵丿. 亘賴 丿賵乇 丕夭 丨乇賮鈥屬囏й� 讴賱蹖卮賴 賵 夭賲丕賳 鬲毓蹖蹖賳 讴乇丿賳 亘乇丕蹖 丕鬲賲丕賲 爻賵诏 賵 丿爻鬲賵乇丕賱毓賲賱鈥屬囏й� 讴賱蹖 丿丕丿賳貙鈥屬� 丨鬲蹖 禺賱丕賮 丕蹖賳 賳賵毓 賳诏丕賴 禺賵丿 爻賵诏 乇賵 鬲毓乇蹖賮 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁� 賵 亘毓丿 亘丕 丕卮丕乇賴 亘賴 丕蹖賳讴賴 賯乇丕乇 賳蹖爻鬲 爻賵诏 芦丿乇賲丕賳禄 亘卮賴 賵 亘賳丕爻鬲 亘鬲賵賳蹖賲 丕賵賳 乇賵 亘乇 丿賵卮 亘讴卮蹖賲 氐丨亘鬲鈥屬囏й屰� 賲蹖讴賳賴. 乇丕賴 丨賱鈥屬囏й屰� 亘乇丕蹖 賲賵丕賯毓 丕囟胤乇丕亘 卮丿蹖丿 蹖丕 亘乇禺賵乇丿 亘丕 丕賮乇丕丿 丿蹖诏乇蹖 丕乇丕卅锟斤拷 賲蹖丿賴 讴賴 亘賴 賳馗乇賲 賲賳胤賯蹖 賵 丿乇 卮乇丕蹖胤 爻賵诏賵丕乇蹖 讴丕乇丕爻鬲.
毓賱丕賵賴 亘乇 氐丨亘鬲 亘丕 賮乇丿 爻賵诏賵丕乇貙 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 丿乇 賮氐賱 郾鄞 鬲賵氐蹖賴鈥屬囏й屰� 亘乇丕蹖 趩诏賵賳诏蹖 乇賮鬲丕乇 亘丕 蹖讴 賮乇丿 爻賵诏賵丕乇 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁� 讴賴 亘賴 賳馗乇賲 賲賮蹖丿 亘賵丿賳. 丿乇 倬丕蹖丕賳 讴鬲丕亘 賴賲 蹖讴 賲賯丕賱賴 亘丕 毓賳賵丕賳 芦趩胤賵乇 亘賴 丿賵爻鬲蹖 爻賵诏賵丕乇 讴賲讴 讴賳賲責禄 囟賲蹖賲賴 卮丿賴 讴賴 丕賵賳 賴賲 亘賴 賳馗乇賲 賳讴丕鬲 賲賴賲蹖 亘乇丕蹖 賴賲乇丕賴蹖 賵 賴賲丿賱蹖 亘丕 賮乇丿 爻賵诏賵丕乇 亘蹖丕賳 讴乇丿賴 亘賵丿.
讴賱 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 賲蹖鈥屫促� 丿乇 賴賲蹖賳 趩賳丿 噩賲賱賴鈥屰� 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 禺賱丕氐賴 讴乇丿 讴賴 芦禺蹖賱蹖 賲鬲丕爻賮賲 讴賴 亘賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賳蹖丕夭 丿丕乇蹖丿 賵 禺蹖賱蹖 禺賵卮丨丕賱賲 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇丕 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗃屫�. 毓蹖亘蹖 賳丿丕乇丿 丕诏乇 丨丕賱鬲丕賳 禺賵卮 賳蹖爻鬲. 亘毓囟蹖 趩蹖夭賴丕 丨賱 賳賲蹖鈥屫促堎嗀� 賮賯胤 賲蹖鈥屫堌з� 丌賳鈥屬囏� 乇丕 亘賴 丿賵卮 讴卮蹖丿. 亘丕卮丿 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 讴賲讴 讴賳丿 丌賳趩賴 乇丕 亘賴 卮賲丕 鬲毓賱賯 丿丕乇丿 亘乇 丿賵卮 亘讴卮蹖丿.禄
毓賱丕賵賴 亘乇 氐丨亘鬲 亘丕 賮乇丿 爻賵诏賵丕乇貙 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 丿乇 賮氐賱 郾鄞 鬲賵氐蹖賴鈥屬囏й屰� 亘乇丕蹖 趩诏賵賳诏蹖 乇賮鬲丕乇 亘丕 蹖讴 賮乇丿 爻賵诏賵丕乇 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁� 讴賴 亘賴 賳馗乇賲 賲賮蹖丿 亘賵丿賳. 丿乇 倬丕蹖丕賳 讴鬲丕亘 賴賲 蹖讴 賲賯丕賱賴 亘丕 毓賳賵丕賳 芦趩胤賵乇 亘賴 丿賵爻鬲蹖 爻賵诏賵丕乇 讴賲讴 讴賳賲責禄 囟賲蹖賲賴 卮丿賴 讴賴 丕賵賳 賴賲 亘賴 賳馗乇賲 賳讴丕鬲 賲賴賲蹖 亘乇丕蹖 賴賲乇丕賴蹖 賵 賴賲丿賱蹖 亘丕 賮乇丿 爻賵诏賵丕乇 亘蹖丕賳 讴乇丿賴 亘賵丿.
讴賱 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 賲蹖鈥屫促� 丿乇 賴賲蹖賳 趩賳丿 噩賲賱賴鈥屰� 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 禺賱丕氐賴 讴乇丿 讴賴 芦禺蹖賱蹖 賲鬲丕爻賮賲 讴賴 亘賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賳蹖丕夭 丿丕乇蹖丿 賵 禺蹖賱蹖 禺賵卮丨丕賱賲 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇丕 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗃屫�. 毓蹖亘蹖 賳丿丕乇丿 丕诏乇 丨丕賱鬲丕賳 禺賵卮 賳蹖爻鬲. 亘毓囟蹖 趩蹖夭賴丕 丨賱 賳賲蹖鈥屫促堎嗀� 賮賯胤 賲蹖鈥屫堌з� 丌賳鈥屬囏� 乇丕 亘賴 丿賵卮 讴卮蹖丿. 亘丕卮丿 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 讴賲讴 讴賳丿 丌賳趩賴 乇丕 亘賴 卮賲丕 鬲毓賱賯 丿丕乇丿 亘乇 丿賵卮 亘讴卮蹖丿.禄
September 29, 2017
This is THE book to read whether you are in the throes of early grief or whether long-term grief has settled in your bones. Ms. Devine is masterful at articulating the varied and harsh realities grievers (and those who support them) face on a daily basis and then provides real tools to identify your own path forward by validating your story of devastation, of hopelessness, and of love.
Through "It's OK That You're Not OK," I learned concepts for living with the death of my daughter and how to build "a life around the edges of what will always be a vacancy." This was especially helpful for an out-of-order death experience. As Ms. Devine says, "You do not need to leave your grief behind in order to live a newly beautiful life. It鈥檚 part of you. Our aim is integration, not obliteration."
If you purchase or give only one book on grief, let it be this one.
Through "It's OK That You're Not OK," I learned concepts for living with the death of my daughter and how to build "a life around the edges of what will always be a vacancy." This was especially helpful for an out-of-order death experience. As Ms. Devine says, "You do not need to leave your grief behind in order to live a newly beautiful life. It鈥檚 part of you. Our aim is integration, not obliteration."
If you purchase or give only one book on grief, let it be this one.
July 6, 2024
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 賳禺賵賳丿賴 亘賵丿賲 賵賱蹖 丕爻賲卮 鬲賵 匕賴賳賲 倬乇乇賳诏 卮丿賴 亘賵丿.
趩賳丿 乇賵夭 倬蹖卮貙 賵賯鬲蹖 丨丕賱賲 禺蹖賱蹖 亘丿 亘賵丿貙 鬲賵 讴丕賳丕賱賲 賳賵卮鬲賲:
丕夭 賳馗乇 乇賵丨蹖 賳蹖丕夭 丿丕乇賲 蹖讴蹖 亘賴賲 亘诏賲 毓蹖亘蹖 賳丿丕乇丿 丕诏乇 丨丕賱鬲 禺賵卮" 賳蹖爻鬲."
趩賳丿 丿賯蹖賯賴 亘毓丿 讴爻蹖 讴賴 丕氐賱丕 賳賴 鬲氐賵乇 賳賲蹖鈥屭┴必� 賵 賳賴 丕賳鬲馗丕乇卮 乇賵 丿丕卮鬲賲 賱蹖賳讴 賴丿蹖賴鈥屰� 讴鬲丕亘 丿乇 胤丕賯趩賴 乇賵 亘乇丕賲 賮乇爻鬲丕丿.
亘蹖鈥屬嗁囏й屫� 丕夭卮 賲賲賳賵賳賲.
賯亘賱丕 亘賴 禺賵丿卮 诏賮鬲賲 丕賲丕 丿賵爻鬲 丿丕乇賲 丕蹖賳噩丕 賴賲 蹖丕丿诏丕乇蹖 亘賲賵賳賴.
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倬.賳:
氐丨亘鬲蹖 丿乇亘丕乇賴鈥屰� 讴鬲丕亘 賳丿丕乇賲 噩夭 丕蹖賳 讴賴 禺賵賳丿賳卮 丿乇 丕賵賳 卮乇丕蹖胤 讴賲讴賲 讴乇丿貨 丨鬲蹖 亘丕 丕蹖賳 讴賴 賴賳賵夭 禺賵亘 賳蹖爻鬲賲 賵 丕卮讴賲 丿賲 賲卮讴賲賴.
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賮賯胤 亘乇丕蹖 讴爻丕賳蹖 讴賴 爻賵诏蹖 乇賵 鬲噩乇亘賴 讴乇丿賳丿 蹖丕 丿乇诏蹖乇卮 賴爻鬲賳丿 賳蹖爻鬲.
禺賵賳丿賳卮 賲蹖 鬲賵賳賴 亘乇丕蹖 賴乇讴爻蹖 爻賵丿賲賳丿 亘丕卮賴 賵 丕丨鬲賲丕賱丕 賲賴賲 鬲乇蹖賳 賵蹖跇诏蹖卮 賴賲 丕蹖賳賴 讴賴 亘賴賲賵賳 讴賲讴 賲蹖 讴賳賴 亘丕 爻賵诏賵丕乇丕賳 亘賴鬲乇 賵 賲賳氐賮丕賳賴 鬲乇 亘乇禺賵乇丿 讴賳蹖賲.
趩賳丿 乇賵夭 倬蹖卮貙 賵賯鬲蹖 丨丕賱賲 禺蹖賱蹖 亘丿 亘賵丿貙 鬲賵 讴丕賳丕賱賲 賳賵卮鬲賲:
丕夭 賳馗乇 乇賵丨蹖 賳蹖丕夭 丿丕乇賲 蹖讴蹖 亘賴賲 亘诏賲 毓蹖亘蹖 賳丿丕乇丿 丕诏乇 丨丕賱鬲 禺賵卮" 賳蹖爻鬲."
趩賳丿 丿賯蹖賯賴 亘毓丿 讴爻蹖 讴賴 丕氐賱丕 賳賴 鬲氐賵乇 賳賲蹖鈥屭┴必� 賵 賳賴 丕賳鬲馗丕乇卮 乇賵 丿丕卮鬲賲 賱蹖賳讴 賴丿蹖賴鈥屰� 讴鬲丕亘 丿乇 胤丕賯趩賴 乇賵 亘乇丕賲 賮乇爻鬲丕丿.
亘蹖鈥屬嗁囏й屫� 丕夭卮 賲賲賳賵賳賲.
賯亘賱丕 亘賴 禺賵丿卮 诏賮鬲賲 丕賲丕 丿賵爻鬲 丿丕乇賲 丕蹖賳噩丕 賴賲 蹖丕丿诏丕乇蹖 亘賲賵賳賴.
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倬.賳:
氐丨亘鬲蹖 丿乇亘丕乇賴鈥屰� 讴鬲丕亘 賳丿丕乇賲 噩夭 丕蹖賳 讴賴 禺賵賳丿賳卮 丿乇 丕賵賳 卮乇丕蹖胤 讴賲讴賲 讴乇丿貨 丨鬲蹖 亘丕 丕蹖賳 讴賴 賴賳賵夭 禺賵亘 賳蹖爻鬲賲 賵 丕卮讴賲 丿賲 賲卮讴賲賴.
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賮賯胤 亘乇丕蹖 讴爻丕賳蹖 讴賴 爻賵诏蹖 乇賵 鬲噩乇亘賴 讴乇丿賳丿 蹖丕 丿乇诏蹖乇卮 賴爻鬲賳丿 賳蹖爻鬲.
禺賵賳丿賳卮 賲蹖 鬲賵賳賴 亘乇丕蹖 賴乇讴爻蹖 爻賵丿賲賳丿 亘丕卮賴 賵 丕丨鬲賲丕賱丕 賲賴賲 鬲乇蹖賳 賵蹖跇诏蹖卮 賴賲 丕蹖賳賴 讴賴 亘賴賲賵賳 讴賲讴 賲蹖 讴賳賴 亘丕 爻賵诏賵丕乇丕賳 亘賴鬲乇 賵 賲賳氐賮丕賳賴 鬲乇 亘乇禺賵乇丿 讴賳蹖賲.
June 28, 2023
讴鬲丕亘 毓蹖亘蹖鈥屬嗀ж必� 丕诏乇 丨丕賱鬲 禺賵卮鈥屬嗃屫池�
賳賵卮鬲賴鈥屰� 賲诏丕賳 丿蹖賵丕蹖賳
鬲乇噩賲賴鈥屰� 爻蹖丿賴鈥屫池ж必р€屫敦必贺з呟� 賵 丌乇夭賵 賲賵賲蹖賵賳丿
丕夭 賳卮乇 賲蹖賱讴丕賳
賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴鈥屰� 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘貙
乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 亘賵丿賴 讴賴 爻丕賱鈥屬囏� 亘乇 丕爻丕爻 賲鬲丿 乇丕蹖噩 丕蹖賳 毓賱賲貙 亘丕 丕賮乇丕丿 爻賵诏賵丕乇 噩賱爻丕鬲 賲卮丕賵乇賴 丿丕卮鬲賴
丕賲丕 睾乇賯 卮丿賳 賵 賲乇诏 賴賲爻乇卮 丿乇爻鬲 丿乇 噩賱賵蹖 趩卮賲丕賳卮 賵 賴賳诏丕賲蹖 讴賴 讴丕乇蹖 丕夭 丿爻鬲卮 亘乇賳賲蹖鈥屫①呚囏�
鬲賲丕賲 匕賴賳蹖鬲 丕賵 乇丕 賳爻亘鬲 亘賴 爻賵诏賵丕乇蹖 亘賴賲 賲蹖鈥屫臂屫藏�
賵 賳鬲蹖噩賴鈥屰� 丌賳貙 禺賱賯 丕蹖賳 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕爻鬲.
讴鬲丕亘 丕卮丕乇賴 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 讴賴 賮乇賴賳诏 乇丕蹖噩 丿乇 賲賯丕亘賱 爻賵诏賵丕乇蹖 趩賯丿乇 賳丕賯氐 賵 趩賯丿乇 丌爻蹖亘鈥屫操嗁嗀� 亘賴 卮禺氐 爻賵诏賵丕乇 丕爻鬲. 趩賯丿乇 賴賲賴 賲蹖鈥屫堌з囐嗀� 卮禺氐 爻賵诏賵丕乇 乇丕 亘賴 爻乇毓鬲貙 丕夭 爻賵诏 毓亘賵乇 丿賴賳丿 賵 亘賴 賵囟毓蹖鬲 賯亘賱 丕夭 丨丕丿賯賴 亘乇诏乇丿丕賳賳丿 賵 丕蹖賳 丿乇 丨丕賱蹖鈥屫池� 讴賴 爻賵诏 賵 賮賯丿丕賳 丕賳爻丕賳 乇丕 鬲睾蹖蹖乇 丿丕丿賴 賵 賴蹖趩鈥屫必з囒� 亘乇丕蹖 亘丕夭诏卮鬲 亘賴 爻賲鬲 诏匕卮鬲賴 賵 賵囟毓蹖鬲 賯亘賱 丕夭 爻賵诏 賵噩賵丿 賳禺賵丕賴丿 丿丕卮鬲.
讴鬲丕亘 亘賴 卮蹖賵賴鈥屬囏й� 丕乇鬲亘丕胤 賲賵孬乇鈥屫� 亘丕 丕賮乇丕丿 爻賵诏 讴賴 禺賵丕賴 賳丕禺賵丕賴 乇賵夭蹖 賲丕 賳蹖夭 噩夭賵卮丕賳 禺賵丕賴蹖賲 亘賵丿貙 賲蹖鈥屬矩必ж藏� 賵 鬲賵囟蹖丨 賲蹖鈥屫囏� 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丿爻鬲 丕夭 賳卮丕賳 丿丕丿賳 爻賵诏 賵 賮賯丿丕賳 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 亘蹖賲丕乇蹖 賵 賲卮讴賱 亘乇丿丕乇蹖賲 賵 賳诏丕賴蹖 亘賴 爻賵诏 丿丕卮鬲賴 亘丕卮蹖賲 讴賴 賲毓丕丿賱 賳诏丕賴蹖 亘賴 蹖讴 丨丕賱鬲 胤亘蹖毓蹖 丕賳爻丕賳蹖鈥屫池�.
亘賴 賳賯賱 丕夭 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴貙 爻賵诏 賲孬賱 毓卮賯 賲賳丨氐乇 亘賴 賮乇丿 丕爻鬲 賵 爻賵诏 賴蹖趩鈥屭┴� 卮亘蹖賴 丿蹖诏乇蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 賵 丕夭 丕蹖賳 亘丕亘鬲貙 賴乇讴爻 丿乇 爻賵诏 禺賵蹖卮 鬲賳賴丕爻鬲 丕賲丕 丿乇 賴乇丨丕賱 賵噩賵丿 丕賮乇丕丿蹖 讴賴 賴賲丿乇丿蹖 乇丕 丌賲賵禺鬲賴 亘丕卮賳丿貙 亘丕毓孬 賲蹖鈥屫促堌� 丿乇 賲蹖丕賳 爻賵诏貙 丿賱诏乇賲蹖 賳蹖夭 倬蹖丿丕 卮賵丿.
讴鬲丕亘 賵噩賵丿 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇 乇丕 讴賴 亘毓丿 丕夭 賮賯丿丕賳 丿賵 乇丕賴 禺賵丕賴丿 賲丕賳丿貨 亘丕 卮丕丿 賵 禺賵卮丨丕賱 賵 賲賵賮賯 卮丿賳 蹖丕 鬲丕 丕亘丿 睾賲鈥屫藏� 賵 賲賮賱賵讴 亘賵丿賳 乇丕 丿賵乇 賲蹖鈥屫臂屫藏� 賵 丿乇 毓賵囟貙 丿爻鬲 賲禺丕胤亘 乇丕 賲蹖鈥屭屫必� 賵 賲蹖鈥屫ㄘ必� 丿乇 夭賲蹖賳 亘蹖鈥屫坟辟�. 噩丕蹖蹖 讴賴 睾賲 賴爻鬲 賵 卮丕丿蹖 賴賲. 夭賲蹖賳 亘蹖鈥屫坟辟� 噩丕蹖蹖 亘乇丕蹖 丿賵丕賲 丌賵乇丿賳鈥屫池� 丿乇 夭賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 卮乇丕蹖胤 爻禺鬲 賲蹖鈥屭柏必€屫� 亘乇丕蹖 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴乇丿賳 夭賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 孬丕賳蹖賴鈥屰� 亘毓丿 乇丕 賳賲蹖鈥屫堌з囒屫�. 噩丕蹖蹖 讴賴 賴賲 夭蹖亘丕蹖蹖 賴爻鬲 賵 乇卮丿 賵 毓卮賯 賵 賴賲 丿乇丿 賵 賮賯丿丕賳鈥�. 賲孬賱 夭賲蹖賳蹖 讴賴 丿賵亘丕乇賴 丨丕氐賱鈥屫屫� 卮丿賴 亘丕卮丿貨 賴乇趩賳丿 讴賴 丌孬丕乇 鬲禺乇蹖亘 丿蹖丿賴 賲蹖鈥屫促堌� 賵 亘賴 卮讴賵賮丕蹖蹖 賯亘賱 賳蹖爻鬲 丕賲丕 夭蹖亘丕蹖蹖 乇卮丿 诏蹖丕賴 賳蹖夭 丿乇 丌賳鈥屫� 丨囟賵乇 丿丕乇丿.
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丿乇爻鬲 賲丕賳賳丿 賲噩賲賵毓賴鈥� 噩賱爻丕鬲鈥屫必з聚屸€屫й� 賲蹖鈥屫ㄘж簇� 亘丕 乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 亘爻蹖丕乇 賲丕賴乇 讴賴 賴乇 賵賯鬲 亘禺賵丕賴蹖丿貙 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗃屫� 丿賵亘丕乇賴 禺賵丿鬲丕賳 乇丕 丿乇 丕蹖賳 噩賱爻丕鬲 亘蹖丕亘蹖丿.
" 鬲囟丕丿蹖 丿賵诏丕賳賴 丿乇 丕賳爻丕賳 亘賵丿賳 賵噩賵丿 丿丕乇丿. 丕賵賱 丕蹖賳讴賴 賴蹖趩 讴爻 賳賲蹖 鬲賵丕賳丿 亘賴 噩丕蹖 卮賲丕 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳丿 ( 蹖毓賳蹖 賴蹖趩 讴爻 賳賲蹖 鬲賵丕賳丿 亘丕 丌賳趩賴 卮賲丕 亘丕蹖丿 亘丕 丌賳 賲賵丕噩賴 卮賵蹖丿 乇賵亘乇賵 卮賵丿) 賵 賴蹖趩讴爻 賳蹖夭 賯丕丿乇 賳蹖爻鬲 亘賴 鬲賳賴丕蹖蹖 丕夭 倬爻 夭賳丿诏蹖 亘乇丌蹖丿."
" 爻賵鬲 丕賲鬲丿丕丿 胤亘蹖毓蹖 毓卮賯 丕爻鬲 倬丕爻禺蹖 爻丕賱賲 賵 毓丕賯賱丕賳賴 亘賴 賮賯丿丕賳."
" 丕賲丕 爻賵诏 賲卮讴賱蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘禺賵丕賴蹖賲 丌賳 乇丕 丨賱 讴賳蹖賲 丕卮鬲亘丕賴 賳蹖爻鬲 賵 賳賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗃屬� 丿乇爻鬲卮 讴賳蹖賲. 亘蹖賲丕乇蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘鬲賵丕賳蹖賲 丿乇賲丕賳卮 讴賳蹖賲. 賲丕 賮乇囟 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屬� 丕诏乇 趩蹖夭蹖 賳丕乇丕丨鬲 讴賳賳丿賴 亘丕卮丿貙 蹖毓賳蹖 丕卮鬲亘丕賴 丕爻鬲. 賲乇丿賲 賳鬲蹖噩賴 賲蹖鈥屭屫辟嗀� 讴賴 爻賵诏 亘丿 丕爻鬲貙 夭蹖乇丕 丿乇丿賳丕讴 丕爻鬲. 丕蹖賳 趩蹖夭 賴丕 夭蹖丕丿 亘賴 诏賵卮 賲蹖鈥屫必池�. 鬲爻讴蹖賳 丿丕丿賳 丿乇丿貙 禺賱丕氐 卮丿賳 丕夭 丿乇丿貙 丿蹖丿賳 乇賵蹖丕蹖 夭賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 丿乇丿 賵噩賵丿 賳丿丕乇丿貨 胤賵乇蹖 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屬� 讴賴 诏賵蹖蹖 爻賵诏 趩蹖夭蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 賴乇趩賴 夭賵丿鬲乇 丕夭 亘蹖賳 亘乇賵丿貨 丕賳丨乇丕賮蹖 讴賴 亘賴 丿乇賲丕賳 賳蹖丕夭 丿丕乇丿貙 賳賴 丕蹖賳讴賴 賵丕讴賳卮蹖 胤亘蹖毓蹖 亘賴 賮賯丿丕賳 丕爻鬲."
" 賲賯丕蹖爻賴 蹖讴 爻賵诏 亘丕 爻賵诏蹖 丿蹖诏乇 鬲賯乇蹖亘丕賸 賴賲蹖卮賴 賳鬲蹖噩賴 毓讴爻 賲蹖鈥屫囏�. 鬲噩乇亘賴鈥屫й� 丕夭 賮賯丿丕賳 賴賲 賲毓賳蹖 亘丕 賮賯丿丕賳 丿蹖诏乇蹖 賳蹖爻鬲. 賮賯丿丕賳 丿乇爻鬲 賲孬賱 毓卮賯 賲賳賮乇丿 丕爻鬲. 丕蹖賳讴賴 讴爻蹖 賮賯丿丕賳 蹖丕 鬲噩乇亘賴 讴乇丿賴 亘丕卮丿貙 丨鬲蹖 丕诏乇 賮賯丿丕賳蹖 亘爻蹖丕乇 賲卮丕亘賴 卮賲丕 亘丕卮丿貙 亘賴 丕蹖賳 賲毓賳丕 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 賱夭賵賲丕賸 卮賲丕 乇丕 丿乇讴 賲蹖讴賳丿."
" 亘乇丕蹖 诏賮鬲 賵 诏賵 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賴丕蹖蹖 讴賴 賲蹖鈥屫堌з囒屬� 丿乇亘丕乇賴 賮賯丿丕賳 賴丕蹖賲丕賳 鬲毓乇蹖賮 讴賳蹖賲貙 夭賲丕賳 賵 賲讴丕賳 賲卮禺氐蹖 賵噩賵丿 丿丕乇丿. 賲胤賲卅賳丕賸 賴賳诏丕賲蹖 讴賴 丿賳蹖丕蹖 卮賲丕 丕夭 亘蹖賳 乇賮鬲賴貙 蹖讴蹖 丕夭 夭賲丕賳 賴丕蹖 賲賳丕爻亘 賳蹖爻鬲. 賵賯鬲蹖 丿蹖诏乇丕賳 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賴丕蹖 爻賵诏賵丕乇蹖 卮丕賳 乇丕 鬲毓乇蹖賮 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁嗀� 丕丨爻丕爻 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屫� 讴爻蹖 丕夭 卮賲丕 爻乇賯鬲 讴乇丿賴 丕爻鬲. 趩賵賳 趩蹖夭蹖 丕夭 卮賲丕 诏乇賮鬲賴 卮丿賴 丕爻鬲: 丕賴賲蹖鬲賽 賲乇讴夭蹖賽 賵丕賯毓蹖鬲賽 賮毓賱蹖賽 卮賲丕鈥�."
" 爻賵诏 乇賵卮賳诏乇蹖 丕蹖 亘乇丕蹖 趩賳丿 賳賮乇 賲賳鬲禺亘 賳蹖爻鬲 賴蹖趩讴爻 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖鈥屫ж� 亘賴 賮賯丿丕賳蹖 毓馗蹖賲 亘乇丕蹖 鬲亘丿蹖賱 卮丿賳 亘賴 讴爻蹖 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 亘丕卮丿貙 賳蹖丕夭 賳丿丕乇丿. 噩賴丕賳 毓丕丿蹖 丕蹖賳诏賵賳賴 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 卮賲丕 亘丕蹖丿 亘賴 趩蹖夭蹖 鬲亘丿蹖賱 卮賵蹖丿. 賵 夭賳丿诏蹖 鬲噩乇亘賴 賵丨卮鬲賳丕讴 亘賴 卮賲丕 賲蹖鈥屫囏� 鬲丕 丌賳 賴丿賮 賲丨賯賯 卮賵丿. 亘乇毓讴爻 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳卮 賵 賵丕讴賳卮 丕爻鬲. 丕鬲賮丕賯丕鬲 丿乇 噩乇蹖丕賳 丕賳丿 賵 丌賳賴丕 乇丕 賲蹖鈥屬矩佰屫臂屬� 賵 爻丕夭诏丕乇 賲蹖 卮賵蹖賲. 賲丕 亘賴 丌賳趩賴 鬲噩乇亘賴 讴乇丿賴鈥屫й屬呚� 賵丕讴賳卮 賳卮丕賳 賲蹖鈥屫囒屬� 讴賴 賳賴 禺賵亘 丕爻鬲 賵 賳賴 亘丿. 賮賯胤 賵噩賵丿 丿丕乇丿. 賲爻蹖乇 乇賵 亘賴 噩賱賵 賲爻蹖乇 丕丿睾丕賲 丕爻鬲 賲爻蹖乇 亘賴亘賵丿."
" 爻賵诏 賲卮讴賱蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘禺賵丕賴丿 丨賱 卮賵丿 亘賱讴賴 鬲噩乇亘賴 丕蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 亘賴 丿賵卮 讴卮蹖丿賴 卮賵丿. 讴丕乇蹖 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丕賳噩丕賲 卮賵丿貙 倬蹖丿丕 讴乇丿賳 賵 丿乇蹖丕賮鬲 丨賲丕蹖鬲 賵 鬲爻賱蹖 禺丕胤乇 丕爻鬲 讴賴 讴賲讴 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 鬲丕 亘丕 賵丕賯毓蹖鬲 夭賳丿诏蹖 賵蹖跇诏蹖 禺賵丿鬲丕賳 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳蹖丿. 賲爻蹖乇 倬蹖卮乇賵 賲爻蹖乇 賴賲乇丕賴蹖 丕爻鬲 賳賴 賲爻蹖乇 丕氐賱丕丨."
" 丿乇 倬丕蹖丕賳 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 蹖丕 賴乇 夭賲丕賳 丿蹖诏乇蹖 賴賲蹖卮賴 丿乇丿 丿乇賲丕賳 賳賲蹖鈥屰屫жㄘ€�. 睾賱亘賴 亘乇 賲卮讴賱丕鬲 蹖丕 鬲亘丿蹖賱 丌賳 亘賴 賳毓賲鬲 卮噩丕毓鬲 蹖丕 賯賴乇賲丕賳 亘賵丿賳 賳蹖爻鬲鈥� 卮噩丕毓 亘賵丿賳 蹖毓賳蹖 亘蹖丿丕乇 卮丿賳 丕夭 禺賵丕亘 丿乇 賲賵丕噩賴賴 亘丕 乇賵夭蹖 讴賴 鬲乇噩蹖丨 賲蹖鈥屫囒屫� 丕夭 禺賵丕亘 亘蹖丿丕乇 賳卮賵蹖丿. 卮噩丕毓 亘賵丿賳 蹖毓賳蹖 丨丕囟乇 亘賵丿賳 丿乇 賯賱亘 禺賵丿貙 賯賱亘蹖 讴賴 卮讴爻鬲賴 賵 亘賴 賲蹖賱蹖賵賳鈥屬囏� 賯胤毓賴 賲禺鬲賱賮 鬲亘丿蹖賱 卮丿賴 賵 賴乇诏夭 賳賲蹖 鬲賵丕賳 丌賳 乇丕 丿乇爻鬲 讴乇丿鈥�. 卮噩丕毓鬲 蹖毓賳蹖 丕蹖爻鬲丕丿賳 丿乇 賱亘賴 倬乇鬲诏丕賴蹖 讴賴 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖 卮禺氐蹖 丕蹖噩丕丿 卮丿賴 賵 乇賵 亘乇賳诏乇丿丕賳丿賳 丕夭 丌賳. 倬賳賴丕賳 賳讴乇丿賳 賳丕乇丕丨鬲蹖 禺賵丿 夭蹖乇 賲丕爻讴 讴賵趩讴 賲孬亘鬲 賮讴乇 讴賳 卮噩丕毓鬲. 蹖毓賳蹖 亘诏匕丕乇蹖賲 丿乇丿 丌夭丕丿 亘丕卮丿 賵 鬲賲丕賲 賮囟丕蹖 賲賵乇丿 賳蹖丕夭卮 乇丕 丕卮睾丕賱 讴賳丿. 卮噩丕毓 亘賵丿賳 蹖毓賳蹖 丕蹖賳 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賴賲 賵丨卮鬲賳丕讴 丕爻鬲 賵 賴賲 夭蹖亘丕."
" 丕诏乇 禺賵卮 亘蹖賳蹖 丕噩亘丕乇蹖 亘乇丕蹖 爻乇讴賵亘 卮賵乇卮 噩賵丕亘 賳賲蹖鈥屫ж� 丕睾賱亘 鬲睾蹖蹖乇 鬲賲乇讴夭 丕夭 賵丕賯毓蹖鬲 賮毓賱蹖 亘賴 賳賵毓蹖 爻乇夭賲蹖賳 賲賵毓賵丿 賵 丌蹖賳丿賴 亘賴卮鬲蹖 丕蹖賳 讴丕乇 乇丕 賲蹖 讴乇丿鈥�: 賴乇趩賴 丨丕賱丕 亘蹖卮鬲乇 乇賳噩 亘亘乇蹖丿貙 蹖毓賳蹖 亘毓丿 丕夭 倬丕丿丕卮 亘夭乇诏 鬲乇蹖 亘賴 卮賲丕 丿丕丿賴 賲蹖鈥屫促堌�. 丌夭賲丕蹖卮蹖 丕爻鬲 亘乇丕蹖 丕蹖賳讴賴 賲毓賱賵賲 卮賵丿 鬲丨鬲 賮卮丕乇 趩賯丿乇 賲蹖 鬲賵丕賳蹖丿 禺賵亘 讴丕乇 讴賳蹖丿."
" 賲讴鬲亘 鬲賮讴乇 賲孬亘鬲 賲丕 亘賴 賴賲賴 囟乇乇蹖 賵丕乇丿 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 賲丕 乇丕 亘賴 丕蹖賳 亘丕亘鬲 賴丿丕蹖鬲 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 讴賴 亘蹖卮鬲乇 丕夭 丌賳趩賴 賴爻鬲蹖賲貙 毓賴丿賴 丿丕乇 賵 賲爻卅賵賱 噩賴丕賳蹖賲 賵 賲丕 乇丕 賲爻卅賵賱 賴乇 丿乇丿 卮讴爻鬲诏蹖 賳卮丕賳 賲蹖鈥屫囏� 讴賴 賲鬲丨賲賱 賲蹖鈥屫促堐屬�. 噩賴丕賳蹖 賲蹖鈥屫池ж藏� 讴賴 丿乇 丌賳 丕诏乇 倬丕蹖 賲丕 乇丕 讴噩丕 亘诏匕丕乇蹖賲貙 毓賵丕賯亘 亘丿蹖 丿乇 丕賳鬲馗丕乇賲丕賳 賲蹖鈥屬呚з嗀�. 噩賴丕賳蹖 讴賴 丿乇 丌賳 亘丕蹖丿 賲乇丕賯亘 亘丕卮蹖賲 禺丿丕蹖丕賳 丕夭 鬲賮讴乇丕鬲 賵 賳蹖鬲 賴丕蹖 賲丕 賳丕乇丕丨鬲 賳卮賵賳丿. 丕亘夭丕乇賴丕蹖 丌爻丕蹖卮 賵 丌夭丕丿蹖 乇丕 亘賴 丕噩亘丕乇 丿乇 丕賳讴丕乇 禺賵丿賮乇蹖亘蹖 亘賴 禺丿賲鬲 丿乇 賲蹖鈥屫①堌必� 賵 亘丕毓孬 賲蹖 卮賵丿 亘乇丕蹖 丕賮乇丕丿 爻賵睾丕鬲 卮毓丕乇賴丕蹖 亘蹖鈥屬佖й屫� 亘丿賴蹖賲 賵 賵毓丿賴 倬丕丿丕卮 亘丕卮讴賵賴 丿乇 丌蹖賳丿賴 禺蹖丕賱蹖 乇丕 噩丕乇 亘夭賳蹖賲 丿乇 丨丕賱蹖 讴賴 丿乇丿 賵丕賯毓蹖 賵 賮毓賱蹖 丌賳賴丕 乇丕 賳丕丿蹖丿賴 賲蹖 诏蹖乇蹖賲."
" 爻賵诏 賴賲丕賳賯丿乇 賳蹖丕夭 亘賴 乇丕賴 丨賱 丿丕乇丿 讴賴 毓卮賯 丿丕乇丿. 賳賲蹖 鬲賵丕賳蹖賲 亘乇 賲乇诏 蹖丕 賮賯丿丕賳 蹖丕 爻賵丿 倬蹖乇賵夭 卮賵蹖賲. 丕蹖賳賴丕 毓賳丕氐乇 孬丕亘鬲 夭賳丿賴 亘賵丿賳賳丿. 丕诏乇 賴賲趩賳丕賳 丕蹖賳鈥屬囏� 乇丕 賲爻丕卅賱蹖 亘亘蹖賳蹖賲 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丨賱 卮賵丿貙 賴乇诏夭 丿乇 毓賲蹖賯鈥屫臂屬� 丿乇丿 賴丕蹖賲丕賳 亘賴 丌乇丕賲卮 賵 鬲爻賱蹖 禺丕胤乇 賳賲蹖鈥屫必驰屬�."
" 賲賲讴賳 丕爻鬲 亘賴 禺賵丿鬲丕賳 亘蹖丕蹖蹖丿 賵 亘亘蹖賳蹖丿 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賮賯丿丕賳 丌賳 乇丕 亘丕乇賴丕 賵 亘丕乇賴丕 鬲毓乇蹖賮 讴乇丿賴 丕蹖丿. 丨鬲蹖 蹖丕 亘賴 賵蹖跇賴 亘賴 睾乇蹖亘賴 賴丕 蹖丕 亘賴 丌丿賲 賴丕蹖蹖 讴賴 鬲丕夭賴 賲賱丕賯丕鬲 讴乇丿賴 丕蹖丿 蹖丕 卮丕蹖丿 丿乇 匕賴賳鬲丕賳 賵賯丕蹖毓 乇丕 讴賴 亘賴 丕蹖賳 賮賯丿丕賳 賲賳噩乇 卮丿賴 亘丕乇賴丕 賲乇賵乇 讴乇丿賴 丕蹖丿. 賴賲賴 丕蹖賳鈥屬囏� 毓丕丿蹖 丕爻鬲. 丕賳爻丕賳 賴丕 賲賵噩賵丿丕鬲蹖 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 爻乇丕蹖賳丿. 亘賴 賴賲蹖賳 丿賱蹖賱 丕爻鬲 讴賴 丕爻胤賵乇賴 賴丕蹖 賮乇賴賳诏蹖貙 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賵 賮蹖賱賲 丿丕乇蹖賲. 亘丕 鬲毓乇蹖賮 讴乇丿賳 丿賵亘丕乇賴 賵 丿賵亘丕乇賴 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 丕蹖賳 賮賯丿丕賳貙 丕賳诏丕乇 亘賴 丿賳亘丕賱 倬丕蹖丕賳蹖 噩丕蹖诏夭蹖賳 賲蹖鈥屭必屬�."
" 亘丿賳 賴賳诏丕賲蹖 讴賴 丿乇 賲毓乇囟 賲丨乇讴 賴丕 賯乇丕乇 賲蹖鈥屭屫必� 亘丕蹖丿 禺賵丿卮 乇丕 亘蹖丕賳 讴賳丿. 亘丕蹖丿 丕蹖賳 讴丕乇 乇丕 亘讴賳丿. 賳蹖丕夭 丿丕乇丿. 賵賯鬲蹖 亘丿賳 賵 匕賴賳 丿乇丿 賵 鬲噩乇亘賴 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁嗀� 賲丕 賳蹖丕夭 夭蹖爻鬲蹖 亘乇丕蹖 亘蹖丕賳 丌賳 丿丕乇蹖賲 丿乇丿蹖 讴賴 賲噩丕夭 賳蹖爻鬲 诏賮鬲賴 卮賵丿 蹖丕 亘蹖丕賳 卮賵丿貙 亘賴 禺賵丿卮 賲蹖鈥屬聚屭嗀� 賵 賲卮讴賱丕鬲 亘蹖卮鬲乇蹖 乇丕 丕蹖噩丕丿 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀�."
賳賵卮鬲賴鈥屰� 賲诏丕賳 丿蹖賵丕蹖賳
鬲乇噩賲賴鈥屰� 爻蹖丿賴鈥屫池ж必р€屫敦必贺з呟� 賵 丌乇夭賵 賲賵賲蹖賵賳丿
丕夭 賳卮乇 賲蹖賱讴丕賳
賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴鈥屰� 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘貙
乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 亘賵丿賴 讴賴 爻丕賱鈥屬囏� 亘乇 丕爻丕爻 賲鬲丿 乇丕蹖噩 丕蹖賳 毓賱賲貙 亘丕 丕賮乇丕丿 爻賵诏賵丕乇 噩賱爻丕鬲 賲卮丕賵乇賴 丿丕卮鬲賴
丕賲丕 睾乇賯 卮丿賳 賵 賲乇诏 賴賲爻乇卮 丿乇爻鬲 丿乇 噩賱賵蹖 趩卮賲丕賳卮 賵 賴賳诏丕賲蹖 讴賴 讴丕乇蹖 丕夭 丿爻鬲卮 亘乇賳賲蹖鈥屫①呚囏�
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賵 賳鬲蹖噩賴鈥屰� 丌賳貙 禺賱賯 丕蹖賳 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕爻鬲.
讴鬲丕亘 丕卮丕乇賴 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 讴賴 賮乇賴賳诏 乇丕蹖噩 丿乇 賲賯丕亘賱 爻賵诏賵丕乇蹖 趩賯丿乇 賳丕賯氐 賵 趩賯丿乇 丌爻蹖亘鈥屫操嗁嗀� 亘賴 卮禺氐 爻賵诏賵丕乇 丕爻鬲. 趩賯丿乇 賴賲賴 賲蹖鈥屫堌з囐嗀� 卮禺氐 爻賵诏賵丕乇 乇丕 亘賴 爻乇毓鬲貙 丕夭 爻賵诏 毓亘賵乇 丿賴賳丿 賵 亘賴 賵囟毓蹖鬲 賯亘賱 丕夭 丨丕丿賯賴 亘乇诏乇丿丕賳賳丿 賵 丕蹖賳 丿乇 丨丕賱蹖鈥屫池� 讴賴 爻賵诏 賵 賮賯丿丕賳 丕賳爻丕賳 乇丕 鬲睾蹖蹖乇 丿丕丿賴 賵 賴蹖趩鈥屫必з囒� 亘乇丕蹖 亘丕夭诏卮鬲 亘賴 爻賲鬲 诏匕卮鬲賴 賵 賵囟毓蹖鬲 賯亘賱 丕夭 爻賵诏 賵噩賵丿 賳禺賵丕賴丿 丿丕卮鬲.
讴鬲丕亘 亘賴 卮蹖賵賴鈥屬囏й� 丕乇鬲亘丕胤 賲賵孬乇鈥屫� 亘丕 丕賮乇丕丿 爻賵诏 讴賴 禺賵丕賴 賳丕禺賵丕賴 乇賵夭蹖 賲丕 賳蹖夭 噩夭賵卮丕賳 禺賵丕賴蹖賲 亘賵丿貙 賲蹖鈥屬矩必ж藏� 賵 鬲賵囟蹖丨 賲蹖鈥屫囏� 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丿爻鬲 丕夭 賳卮丕賳 丿丕丿賳 爻賵诏 賵 賮賯丿丕賳 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 亘蹖賲丕乇蹖 賵 賲卮讴賱 亘乇丿丕乇蹖賲 賵 賳诏丕賴蹖 亘賴 爻賵诏 丿丕卮鬲賴 亘丕卮蹖賲 讴賴 賲毓丕丿賱 賳诏丕賴蹖 亘賴 蹖讴 丨丕賱鬲 胤亘蹖毓蹖 丕賳爻丕賳蹖鈥屫池�.
亘賴 賳賯賱 丕夭 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴貙 爻賵诏 賲孬賱 毓卮賯 賲賳丨氐乇 亘賴 賮乇丿 丕爻鬲 賵 爻賵诏 賴蹖趩鈥屭┴� 卮亘蹖賴 丿蹖诏乇蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 賵 丕夭 丕蹖賳 亘丕亘鬲貙 賴乇讴爻 丿乇 爻賵诏 禺賵蹖卮 鬲賳賴丕爻鬲 丕賲丕 丿乇 賴乇丨丕賱 賵噩賵丿 丕賮乇丕丿蹖 讴賴 賴賲丿乇丿蹖 乇丕 丌賲賵禺鬲賴 亘丕卮賳丿貙 亘丕毓孬 賲蹖鈥屫促堌� 丿乇 賲蹖丕賳 爻賵诏貙 丿賱诏乇賲蹖 賳蹖夭 倬蹖丿丕 卮賵丿.
讴鬲丕亘 賵噩賵丿 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇 乇丕 讴賴 亘毓丿 丕夭 賮賯丿丕賳 丿賵 乇丕賴 禺賵丕賴丿 賲丕賳丿貨 亘丕 卮丕丿 賵 禺賵卮丨丕賱 賵 賲賵賮賯 卮丿賳 蹖丕 鬲丕 丕亘丿 睾賲鈥屫藏� 賵 賲賮賱賵讴 亘賵丿賳 乇丕 丿賵乇 賲蹖鈥屫臂屫藏� 賵 丿乇 毓賵囟貙 丿爻鬲 賲禺丕胤亘 乇丕 賲蹖鈥屭屫必� 賵 賲蹖鈥屫ㄘ必� 丿乇 夭賲蹖賳 亘蹖鈥屫坟辟�. 噩丕蹖蹖 讴賴 睾賲 賴爻鬲 賵 卮丕丿蹖 賴賲. 夭賲蹖賳 亘蹖鈥屫坟辟� 噩丕蹖蹖 亘乇丕蹖 丿賵丕賲 丌賵乇丿賳鈥屫池� 丿乇 夭賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 卮乇丕蹖胤 爻禺鬲 賲蹖鈥屭柏必€屫� 亘乇丕蹖 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴乇丿賳 夭賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 孬丕賳蹖賴鈥屰� 亘毓丿 乇丕 賳賲蹖鈥屫堌з囒屫�. 噩丕蹖蹖 讴賴 賴賲 夭蹖亘丕蹖蹖 賴爻鬲 賵 乇卮丿 賵 毓卮賯 賵 賴賲 丿乇丿 賵 賮賯丿丕賳鈥�. 賲孬賱 夭賲蹖賳蹖 讴賴 丿賵亘丕乇賴 丨丕氐賱鈥屫屫� 卮丿賴 亘丕卮丿貨 賴乇趩賳丿 讴賴 丌孬丕乇 鬲禺乇蹖亘 丿蹖丿賴 賲蹖鈥屫促堌� 賵 亘賴 卮讴賵賮丕蹖蹖 賯亘賱 賳蹖爻鬲 丕賲丕 夭蹖亘丕蹖蹖 乇卮丿 诏蹖丕賴 賳蹖夭 丿乇 丌賳鈥屫� 丨囟賵乇 丿丕乇丿.
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丿乇爻鬲 賲丕賳賳丿 賲噩賲賵毓賴鈥� 噩賱爻丕鬲鈥屫必з聚屸€屫й� 賲蹖鈥屫ㄘж簇� 亘丕 乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 亘爻蹖丕乇 賲丕賴乇 讴賴 賴乇 賵賯鬲 亘禺賵丕賴蹖丿貙 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗃屫� 丿賵亘丕乇賴 禺賵丿鬲丕賳 乇丕 丿乇 丕蹖賳 噩賱爻丕鬲 亘蹖丕亘蹖丿.
" 鬲囟丕丿蹖 丿賵诏丕賳賴 丿乇 丕賳爻丕賳 亘賵丿賳 賵噩賵丿 丿丕乇丿. 丕賵賱 丕蹖賳讴賴 賴蹖趩 讴爻 賳賲蹖 鬲賵丕賳丿 亘賴 噩丕蹖 卮賲丕 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳丿 ( 蹖毓賳蹖 賴蹖趩 讴爻 賳賲蹖 鬲賵丕賳丿 亘丕 丌賳趩賴 卮賲丕 亘丕蹖丿 亘丕 丌賳 賲賵丕噩賴 卮賵蹖丿 乇賵亘乇賵 卮賵丿) 賵 賴蹖趩讴爻 賳蹖夭 賯丕丿乇 賳蹖爻鬲 亘賴 鬲賳賴丕蹖蹖 丕夭 倬爻 夭賳丿诏蹖 亘乇丌蹖丿."
" 爻賵鬲 丕賲鬲丿丕丿 胤亘蹖毓蹖 毓卮賯 丕爻鬲 倬丕爻禺蹖 爻丕賱賲 賵 毓丕賯賱丕賳賴 亘賴 賮賯丿丕賳."
" 丕賲丕 爻賵诏 賲卮讴賱蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘禺賵丕賴蹖賲 丌賳 乇丕 丨賱 讴賳蹖賲 丕卮鬲亘丕賴 賳蹖爻鬲 賵 賳賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗃屬� 丿乇爻鬲卮 讴賳蹖賲. 亘蹖賲丕乇蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘鬲賵丕賳蹖賲 丿乇賲丕賳卮 讴賳蹖賲. 賲丕 賮乇囟 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屬� 丕诏乇 趩蹖夭蹖 賳丕乇丕丨鬲 讴賳賳丿賴 亘丕卮丿貙 蹖毓賳蹖 丕卮鬲亘丕賴 丕爻鬲. 賲乇丿賲 賳鬲蹖噩賴 賲蹖鈥屭屫辟嗀� 讴賴 爻賵诏 亘丿 丕爻鬲貙 夭蹖乇丕 丿乇丿賳丕讴 丕爻鬲. 丕蹖賳 趩蹖夭 賴丕 夭蹖丕丿 亘賴 诏賵卮 賲蹖鈥屫必池�. 鬲爻讴蹖賳 丿丕丿賳 丿乇丿貙 禺賱丕氐 卮丿賳 丕夭 丿乇丿貙 丿蹖丿賳 乇賵蹖丕蹖 夭賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 丿乇丿 賵噩賵丿 賳丿丕乇丿貨 胤賵乇蹖 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屬� 讴賴 诏賵蹖蹖 爻賵诏 趩蹖夭蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 賴乇趩賴 夭賵丿鬲乇 丕夭 亘蹖賳 亘乇賵丿貨 丕賳丨乇丕賮蹖 讴賴 亘賴 丿乇賲丕賳 賳蹖丕夭 丿丕乇丿貙 賳賴 丕蹖賳讴賴 賵丕讴賳卮蹖 胤亘蹖毓蹖 亘賴 賮賯丿丕賳 丕爻鬲."
" 賲賯丕蹖爻賴 蹖讴 爻賵诏 亘丕 爻賵诏蹖 丿蹖诏乇 鬲賯乇蹖亘丕賸 賴賲蹖卮賴 賳鬲蹖噩賴 毓讴爻 賲蹖鈥屫囏�. 鬲噩乇亘賴鈥屫й� 丕夭 賮賯丿丕賳 賴賲 賲毓賳蹖 亘丕 賮賯丿丕賳 丿蹖诏乇蹖 賳蹖爻鬲. 賮賯丿丕賳 丿乇爻鬲 賲孬賱 毓卮賯 賲賳賮乇丿 丕爻鬲. 丕蹖賳讴賴 讴爻蹖 賮賯丿丕賳 蹖丕 鬲噩乇亘賴 讴乇丿賴 亘丕卮丿貙 丨鬲蹖 丕诏乇 賮賯丿丕賳蹖 亘爻蹖丕乇 賲卮丕亘賴 卮賲丕 亘丕卮丿貙 亘賴 丕蹖賳 賲毓賳丕 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 賱夭賵賲丕賸 卮賲丕 乇丕 丿乇讴 賲蹖讴賳丿."
" 亘乇丕蹖 诏賮鬲 賵 诏賵 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賴丕蹖蹖 讴賴 賲蹖鈥屫堌з囒屬� 丿乇亘丕乇賴 賮賯丿丕賳 賴丕蹖賲丕賳 鬲毓乇蹖賮 讴賳蹖賲貙 夭賲丕賳 賵 賲讴丕賳 賲卮禺氐蹖 賵噩賵丿 丿丕乇丿. 賲胤賲卅賳丕賸 賴賳诏丕賲蹖 讴賴 丿賳蹖丕蹖 卮賲丕 丕夭 亘蹖賳 乇賮鬲賴貙 蹖讴蹖 丕夭 夭賲丕賳 賴丕蹖 賲賳丕爻亘 賳蹖爻鬲. 賵賯鬲蹖 丿蹖诏乇丕賳 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賴丕蹖 爻賵诏賵丕乇蹖 卮丕賳 乇丕 鬲毓乇蹖賮 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁嗀� 丕丨爻丕爻 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屫� 讴爻蹖 丕夭 卮賲丕 爻乇賯鬲 讴乇丿賴 丕爻鬲. 趩賵賳 趩蹖夭蹖 丕夭 卮賲丕 诏乇賮鬲賴 卮丿賴 丕爻鬲: 丕賴賲蹖鬲賽 賲乇讴夭蹖賽 賵丕賯毓蹖鬲賽 賮毓賱蹖賽 卮賲丕鈥�."
" 爻賵诏 乇賵卮賳诏乇蹖 丕蹖 亘乇丕蹖 趩賳丿 賳賮乇 賲賳鬲禺亘 賳蹖爻鬲 賴蹖趩讴爻 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖鈥屫ж� 亘賴 賮賯丿丕賳蹖 毓馗蹖賲 亘乇丕蹖 鬲亘丿蹖賱 卮丿賳 亘賴 讴爻蹖 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 亘丕卮丿貙 賳蹖丕夭 賳丿丕乇丿. 噩賴丕賳 毓丕丿蹖 丕蹖賳诏賵賳賴 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 卮賲丕 亘丕蹖丿 亘賴 趩蹖夭蹖 鬲亘丿蹖賱 卮賵蹖丿. 賵 夭賳丿诏蹖 鬲噩乇亘賴 賵丨卮鬲賳丕讴 亘賴 卮賲丕 賲蹖鈥屫囏� 鬲丕 丌賳 賴丿賮 賲丨賯賯 卮賵丿. 亘乇毓讴爻 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳卮 賵 賵丕讴賳卮 丕爻鬲. 丕鬲賮丕賯丕鬲 丿乇 噩乇蹖丕賳 丕賳丿 賵 丌賳賴丕 乇丕 賲蹖鈥屬矩佰屫臂屬� 賵 爻丕夭诏丕乇 賲蹖 卮賵蹖賲. 賲丕 亘賴 丌賳趩賴 鬲噩乇亘賴 讴乇丿賴鈥屫й屬呚� 賵丕讴賳卮 賳卮丕賳 賲蹖鈥屫囒屬� 讴賴 賳賴 禺賵亘 丕爻鬲 賵 賳賴 亘丿. 賮賯胤 賵噩賵丿 丿丕乇丿. 賲爻蹖乇 乇賵 亘賴 噩賱賵 賲爻蹖乇 丕丿睾丕賲 丕爻鬲 賲爻蹖乇 亘賴亘賵丿."
" 爻賵诏 賲卮讴賱蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘禺賵丕賴丿 丨賱 卮賵丿 亘賱讴賴 鬲噩乇亘賴 丕蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 亘賴 丿賵卮 讴卮蹖丿賴 卮賵丿. 讴丕乇蹖 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丕賳噩丕賲 卮賵丿貙 倬蹖丿丕 讴乇丿賳 賵 丿乇蹖丕賮鬲 丨賲丕蹖鬲 賵 鬲爻賱蹖 禺丕胤乇 丕爻鬲 讴賴 讴賲讴 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 鬲丕 亘丕 賵丕賯毓蹖鬲 夭賳丿诏蹖 賵蹖跇诏蹖 禺賵丿鬲丕賳 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳蹖丿. 賲爻蹖乇 倬蹖卮乇賵 賲爻蹖乇 賴賲乇丕賴蹖 丕爻鬲 賳賴 賲爻蹖乇 丕氐賱丕丨."
" 丿乇 倬丕蹖丕賳 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 蹖丕 賴乇 夭賲丕賳 丿蹖诏乇蹖 賴賲蹖卮賴 丿乇丿 丿乇賲丕賳 賳賲蹖鈥屰屫жㄘ€�. 睾賱亘賴 亘乇 賲卮讴賱丕鬲 蹖丕 鬲亘丿蹖賱 丌賳 亘賴 賳毓賲鬲 卮噩丕毓鬲 蹖丕 賯賴乇賲丕賳 亘賵丿賳 賳蹖爻鬲鈥� 卮噩丕毓 亘賵丿賳 蹖毓賳蹖 亘蹖丿丕乇 卮丿賳 丕夭 禺賵丕亘 丿乇 賲賵丕噩賴賴 亘丕 乇賵夭蹖 讴賴 鬲乇噩蹖丨 賲蹖鈥屫囒屫� 丕夭 禺賵丕亘 亘蹖丿丕乇 賳卮賵蹖丿. 卮噩丕毓 亘賵丿賳 蹖毓賳蹖 丨丕囟乇 亘賵丿賳 丿乇 賯賱亘 禺賵丿貙 賯賱亘蹖 讴賴 卮讴爻鬲賴 賵 亘賴 賲蹖賱蹖賵賳鈥屬囏� 賯胤毓賴 賲禺鬲賱賮 鬲亘丿蹖賱 卮丿賴 賵 賴乇诏夭 賳賲蹖 鬲賵丕賳 丌賳 乇丕 丿乇爻鬲 讴乇丿鈥�. 卮噩丕毓鬲 蹖毓賳蹖 丕蹖爻鬲丕丿賳 丿乇 賱亘賴 倬乇鬲诏丕賴蹖 讴賴 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖 卮禺氐蹖 丕蹖噩丕丿 卮丿賴 賵 乇賵 亘乇賳诏乇丿丕賳丿賳 丕夭 丌賳. 倬賳賴丕賳 賳讴乇丿賳 賳丕乇丕丨鬲蹖 禺賵丿 夭蹖乇 賲丕爻讴 讴賵趩讴 賲孬亘鬲 賮讴乇 讴賳 卮噩丕毓鬲. 蹖毓賳蹖 亘诏匕丕乇蹖賲 丿乇丿 丌夭丕丿 亘丕卮丿 賵 鬲賲丕賲 賮囟丕蹖 賲賵乇丿 賳蹖丕夭卮 乇丕 丕卮睾丕賱 讴賳丿. 卮噩丕毓 亘賵丿賳 蹖毓賳蹖 丕蹖賳 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賴賲 賵丨卮鬲賳丕讴 丕爻鬲 賵 賴賲 夭蹖亘丕."
" 丕诏乇 禺賵卮 亘蹖賳蹖 丕噩亘丕乇蹖 亘乇丕蹖 爻乇讴賵亘 卮賵乇卮 噩賵丕亘 賳賲蹖鈥屫ж� 丕睾賱亘 鬲睾蹖蹖乇 鬲賲乇讴夭 丕夭 賵丕賯毓蹖鬲 賮毓賱蹖 亘賴 賳賵毓蹖 爻乇夭賲蹖賳 賲賵毓賵丿 賵 丌蹖賳丿賴 亘賴卮鬲蹖 丕蹖賳 讴丕乇 乇丕 賲蹖 讴乇丿鈥�: 賴乇趩賴 丨丕賱丕 亘蹖卮鬲乇 乇賳噩 亘亘乇蹖丿貙 蹖毓賳蹖 亘毓丿 丕夭 倬丕丿丕卮 亘夭乇诏 鬲乇蹖 亘賴 卮賲丕 丿丕丿賴 賲蹖鈥屫促堌�. 丌夭賲丕蹖卮蹖 丕爻鬲 亘乇丕蹖 丕蹖賳讴賴 賲毓賱賵賲 卮賵丿 鬲丨鬲 賮卮丕乇 趩賯丿乇 賲蹖 鬲賵丕賳蹖丿 禺賵亘 讴丕乇 讴賳蹖丿."
" 賲讴鬲亘 鬲賮讴乇 賲孬亘鬲 賲丕 亘賴 賴賲賴 囟乇乇蹖 賵丕乇丿 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 賲丕 乇丕 亘賴 丕蹖賳 亘丕亘鬲 賴丿丕蹖鬲 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 讴賴 亘蹖卮鬲乇 丕夭 丌賳趩賴 賴爻鬲蹖賲貙 毓賴丿賴 丿丕乇 賵 賲爻卅賵賱 噩賴丕賳蹖賲 賵 賲丕 乇丕 賲爻卅賵賱 賴乇 丿乇丿 卮讴爻鬲诏蹖 賳卮丕賳 賲蹖鈥屫囏� 讴賴 賲鬲丨賲賱 賲蹖鈥屫促堐屬�. 噩賴丕賳蹖 賲蹖鈥屫池ж藏� 讴賴 丿乇 丌賳 丕诏乇 倬丕蹖 賲丕 乇丕 讴噩丕 亘诏匕丕乇蹖賲貙 毓賵丕賯亘 亘丿蹖 丿乇 丕賳鬲馗丕乇賲丕賳 賲蹖鈥屬呚з嗀�. 噩賴丕賳蹖 讴賴 丿乇 丌賳 亘丕蹖丿 賲乇丕賯亘 亘丕卮蹖賲 禺丿丕蹖丕賳 丕夭 鬲賮讴乇丕鬲 賵 賳蹖鬲 賴丕蹖 賲丕 賳丕乇丕丨鬲 賳卮賵賳丿. 丕亘夭丕乇賴丕蹖 丌爻丕蹖卮 賵 丌夭丕丿蹖 乇丕 亘賴 丕噩亘丕乇 丿乇 丕賳讴丕乇 禺賵丿賮乇蹖亘蹖 亘賴 禺丿賲鬲 丿乇 賲蹖鈥屫①堌必� 賵 亘丕毓孬 賲蹖 卮賵丿 亘乇丕蹖 丕賮乇丕丿 爻賵睾丕鬲 卮毓丕乇賴丕蹖 亘蹖鈥屬佖й屫� 亘丿賴蹖賲 賵 賵毓丿賴 倬丕丿丕卮 亘丕卮讴賵賴 丿乇 丌蹖賳丿賴 禺蹖丕賱蹖 乇丕 噩丕乇 亘夭賳蹖賲 丿乇 丨丕賱蹖 讴賴 丿乇丿 賵丕賯毓蹖 賵 賮毓賱蹖 丌賳賴丕 乇丕 賳丕丿蹖丿賴 賲蹖 诏蹖乇蹖賲."
" 爻賵诏 賴賲丕賳賯丿乇 賳蹖丕夭 亘賴 乇丕賴 丨賱 丿丕乇丿 讴賴 毓卮賯 丿丕乇丿. 賳賲蹖 鬲賵丕賳蹖賲 亘乇 賲乇诏 蹖丕 賮賯丿丕賳 蹖丕 爻賵丿 倬蹖乇賵夭 卮賵蹖賲. 丕蹖賳賴丕 毓賳丕氐乇 孬丕亘鬲 夭賳丿賴 亘賵丿賳賳丿. 丕诏乇 賴賲趩賳丕賳 丕蹖賳鈥屬囏� 乇丕 賲爻丕卅賱蹖 亘亘蹖賳蹖賲 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丨賱 卮賵丿貙 賴乇诏夭 丿乇 毓賲蹖賯鈥屫臂屬� 丿乇丿 賴丕蹖賲丕賳 亘賴 丌乇丕賲卮 賵 鬲爻賱蹖 禺丕胤乇 賳賲蹖鈥屫必驰屬�."
" 賲賲讴賳 丕爻鬲 亘賴 禺賵丿鬲丕賳 亘蹖丕蹖蹖丿 賵 亘亘蹖賳蹖丿 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賮賯丿丕賳 丌賳 乇丕 亘丕乇賴丕 賵 亘丕乇賴丕 鬲毓乇蹖賮 讴乇丿賴 丕蹖丿. 丨鬲蹖 蹖丕 亘賴 賵蹖跇賴 亘賴 睾乇蹖亘賴 賴丕 蹖丕 亘賴 丌丿賲 賴丕蹖蹖 讴賴 鬲丕夭賴 賲賱丕賯丕鬲 讴乇丿賴 丕蹖丿 蹖丕 卮丕蹖丿 丿乇 匕賴賳鬲丕賳 賵賯丕蹖毓 乇丕 讴賴 亘賴 丕蹖賳 賮賯丿丕賳 賲賳噩乇 卮丿賴 亘丕乇賴丕 賲乇賵乇 讴乇丿賴 丕蹖丿. 賴賲賴 丕蹖賳鈥屬囏� 毓丕丿蹖 丕爻鬲. 丕賳爻丕賳 賴丕 賲賵噩賵丿丕鬲蹖 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 爻乇丕蹖賳丿. 亘賴 賴賲蹖賳 丿賱蹖賱 丕爻鬲 讴賴 丕爻胤賵乇賴 賴丕蹖 賮乇賴賳诏蹖貙 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賵 賮蹖賱賲 丿丕乇蹖賲. 亘丕 鬲毓乇蹖賮 讴乇丿賳 丿賵亘丕乇賴 賵 丿賵亘丕乇賴 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 丕蹖賳 賮賯丿丕賳貙 丕賳诏丕乇 亘賴 丿賳亘丕賱 倬丕蹖丕賳蹖 噩丕蹖诏夭蹖賳 賲蹖鈥屭必屬�."
" 亘丿賳 賴賳诏丕賲蹖 讴賴 丿乇 賲毓乇囟 賲丨乇讴 賴丕 賯乇丕乇 賲蹖鈥屭屫必� 亘丕蹖丿 禺賵丿卮 乇丕 亘蹖丕賳 讴賳丿. 亘丕蹖丿 丕蹖賳 讴丕乇 乇丕 亘讴賳丿. 賳蹖丕夭 丿丕乇丿. 賵賯鬲蹖 亘丿賳 賵 匕賴賳 丿乇丿 賵 鬲噩乇亘賴 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁嗀� 賲丕 賳蹖丕夭 夭蹖爻鬲蹖 亘乇丕蹖 亘蹖丕賳 丌賳 丿丕乇蹖賲 丿乇丿蹖 讴賴 賲噩丕夭 賳蹖爻鬲 诏賮鬲賴 卮賵丿 蹖丕 亘蹖丕賳 卮賵丿貙 亘賴 禺賵丿卮 賲蹖鈥屬聚屭嗀� 賵 賲卮讴賱丕鬲 亘蹖卮鬲乇蹖 乇丕 丕蹖噩丕丿 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀�."
December 31, 2017
I found this book hard to review, as the author states every person鈥檚 grief is different. I thought it was very well written.
My father passed away not that long ago so I wanted to read something that could help me process what I was feeling. The author hits the nail on the head when she said the way we deal with grief is broken; this rang so true for me.
I loved how he book was set out in a way you can read all at once or dip in and out when there is a particular subject your struggling with. The author is straight talking and describes some of the feeling I had around my father鈥檚 death perfectly.
This book is different from your normal self-help guides; it touches on the side of grief we don鈥檛 always want to face.
I have to add a quote from this book to sum up my feelings on grief and how I felt I connected with this book.
鈥淥ur culture sees grief as a kind of malady: a terrifying, messy emotion that needs to be cleaned up and put behind us as soon as possible鈥�.
This is very true and this book shows it doesn鈥檛 have to be this way.
Thank you to Netgalley for my ARC, I will be recommending this book to other family members who are also struggling to make sense of their own grief.
My father passed away not that long ago so I wanted to read something that could help me process what I was feeling. The author hits the nail on the head when she said the way we deal with grief is broken; this rang so true for me.
I loved how he book was set out in a way you can read all at once or dip in and out when there is a particular subject your struggling with. The author is straight talking and describes some of the feeling I had around my father鈥檚 death perfectly.
This book is different from your normal self-help guides; it touches on the side of grief we don鈥檛 always want to face.
I have to add a quote from this book to sum up my feelings on grief and how I felt I connected with this book.
鈥淥ur culture sees grief as a kind of malady: a terrifying, messy emotion that needs to be cleaned up and put behind us as soon as possible鈥�.
This is very true and this book shows it doesn鈥檛 have to be this way.
Thank you to Netgalley for my ARC, I will be recommending this book to other family members who are also struggling to make sense of their own grief.
August 2, 2020
丕诏乇 賮賯丿丕賳蹖 亘夭乇诏 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖
鬲丕賳 亘賴 賵噩賵丿 丌賲丿賴貙 趩蹖夭蹖 讴賴 夭蹖丕丿 賲蹖鈥屫促嗁堐屫� 丕蹖賳 丕爻鬲芦卮賲丕 鬲賳賴丕 賳蹖爻鬲蹖丿禄 讴賴 丕蹖賳 丨賯蹖賯鬲 賳丿丕乇丿.
亘賴 賳爻亘鬲 讴鬲丕亘 賵丕賯毓鈥屭必й屫з嗁団€� 賵 禺賵亘蹖 亘賵丿.
鬲丕賳 亘賴 賵噩賵丿 丌賲丿賴貙 趩蹖夭蹖 讴賴 夭蹖丕丿 賲蹖鈥屫促嗁堐屫� 丕蹖賳 丕爻鬲芦卮賲丕 鬲賳賴丕 賳蹖爻鬲蹖丿禄 讴賴 丕蹖賳 丨賯蹖賯鬲 賳丿丕乇丿.
亘賴 賳爻亘鬲 讴鬲丕亘 賵丕賯毓鈥屭必й屫з嗁団€� 賵 禺賵亘蹖 亘賵丿.
September 3, 2022
胤賵賱丕賳蹖 賵 禺爻鬲賴 讴賳賳丿賴 亘賵丿 賵 倬蹖丕賲 讴賱 讴鬲丕亘 鬲賵蹖 丕爻賲 讴鬲丕亘 禺賱丕氐賴 賲蹖卮丿.
乇丕賴 丨賱 禺丕氐蹖 丕乇丕卅賴 賳讴乇丿貙 丕賳鬲馗丕乇 亘蹖卮鬲乇蹖 丿丕卮鬲賲.
乇丕賴 丨賱 禺丕氐蹖 丕乇丕卅賴 賳讴乇丿貙 丕賳鬲馗丕乇 亘蹖卮鬲乇蹖 丿丕卮鬲賲.
January 8, 2023
4.5/5 stars
鈥淔or those who are living the stuff of other people鈥檚 nightmares鈥� 鈥� author's dedication
As a vocal sceptic with a history of disliking any self-help book I pick up, I was very hesitant when I saw that tag attached to this book at my library. I still gave it a chance and I鈥檓 deeply thankful I did. This was one of the best, shall we call it 鈥渟elf-help-ish鈥�, non-fiction books about grief I鈥檝e read.
Megan Devine approaches this topic from two sides; being a professional therapist and grief-counselor, as well as having experiences the deep grief and trauma of witnessing the accidental death of her partner. From this dual-perspective she paints a well-rounded picture of the different realities of grief; the grief she felt as well as the grief she鈥檚 witnessed with clients. From there, she offers a compassionate and approachable guide to thoughts and actions that might help you in your journey. Emphasis on might, as this book makes sure not to preach or offer a 鈥渜uick solution鈥� to your grief, and actually makes a strong stance against that mentality in general.
This book excels in two fronts:
First it offers a compassionate and accepting view towards grief that is so often lost in our modern society. As it says in the title: 鈥渋t鈥檚 okay that you鈥檙e not okay鈥�. Grief, in our western culture, too often is seen as something to overcome. As quickly as possible, as quietly as possible, and preferably coming out the other way as a happier and more fulfilled person. Megan Devine addresses this societal norm that offers no time, space or understanding for grief, and the way that norm is present in the day-to-day lives of someone dealing with a loss. From media-portrayal, to work-place regulations around allowed leave-of-absence after the passing of a loved one, to the way we inadvertently phrase our condolences and consolidations. The book ten sheds light on all the ways in which this approach to grief is counter-productive and often does more harm than good to the grieving person.
Secondly, it offers practical tips and advice on how to handle the situations that arise from this. This is where the 鈥渟elf-help-part鈥� comes in, as it offers concrete tips on how to navigate everyday-life without trying to fix your grief, and place in perspective some of the unhelpful or even stupid rhetoric you will encounter from other people.
This part was perhaps the most helpful to me personally. Going through my own experiences with multiple dimensions of grief, I鈥檝e heard almost every well-meant but unhelpful, offensive, and out-of-touch remark. In my worst days, they made me feel like I was broken, alone or 鈥渇ailing at working through my grief鈥�. Seeing Megan Devine writing these misconceptions out and breaking them down so succinctly was powerful today, but would鈥檝e made a world of difference had I had this book at the time. I hope and expect this book will do that for others in similar situations.
Overall, I will be adding this book to my short-list of grief-non-fiction to recommend. If you鈥檙e looking for a concise, insightful, mindful and compassionate book to help you on your next step in your grief-journey; look no further.
鈥淔or those who are living the stuff of other people鈥檚 nightmares鈥� 鈥� author's dedication
As a vocal sceptic with a history of disliking any self-help book I pick up, I was very hesitant when I saw that tag attached to this book at my library. I still gave it a chance and I鈥檓 deeply thankful I did. This was one of the best, shall we call it 鈥渟elf-help-ish鈥�, non-fiction books about grief I鈥檝e read.
Megan Devine approaches this topic from two sides; being a professional therapist and grief-counselor, as well as having experiences the deep grief and trauma of witnessing the accidental death of her partner. From this dual-perspective she paints a well-rounded picture of the different realities of grief; the grief she felt as well as the grief she鈥檚 witnessed with clients. From there, she offers a compassionate and approachable guide to thoughts and actions that might help you in your journey. Emphasis on might, as this book makes sure not to preach or offer a 鈥渜uick solution鈥� to your grief, and actually makes a strong stance against that mentality in general.
This book excels in two fronts:
First it offers a compassionate and accepting view towards grief that is so often lost in our modern society. As it says in the title: 鈥渋t鈥檚 okay that you鈥檙e not okay鈥�. Grief, in our western culture, too often is seen as something to overcome. As quickly as possible, as quietly as possible, and preferably coming out the other way as a happier and more fulfilled person. Megan Devine addresses this societal norm that offers no time, space or understanding for grief, and the way that norm is present in the day-to-day lives of someone dealing with a loss. From media-portrayal, to work-place regulations around allowed leave-of-absence after the passing of a loved one, to the way we inadvertently phrase our condolences and consolidations. The book ten sheds light on all the ways in which this approach to grief is counter-productive and often does more harm than good to the grieving person.
Secondly, it offers practical tips and advice on how to handle the situations that arise from this. This is where the 鈥渟elf-help-part鈥� comes in, as it offers concrete tips on how to navigate everyday-life without trying to fix your grief, and place in perspective some of the unhelpful or even stupid rhetoric you will encounter from other people.
This part was perhaps the most helpful to me personally. Going through my own experiences with multiple dimensions of grief, I鈥檝e heard almost every well-meant but unhelpful, offensive, and out-of-touch remark. In my worst days, they made me feel like I was broken, alone or 鈥渇ailing at working through my grief鈥�. Seeing Megan Devine writing these misconceptions out and breaking them down so succinctly was powerful today, but would鈥檝e made a world of difference had I had this book at the time. I hope and expect this book will do that for others in similar situations.
Overall, I will be adding this book to my short-list of grief-non-fiction to recommend. If you鈥檙e looking for a concise, insightful, mindful and compassionate book to help you on your next step in your grief-journey; look no further.
April 10, 2020
Suffering from a very recent loss myself I have been on the quest to cope, to try and understand my grief. Although I could relate to situations and the emotions I didn鈥檛 really connect with it. Perhaps this book was not for me but it does make a lot of valid points.
December 5, 2022
丕诏乇 賯乇丕乇 亘賵丿 亘蹖丕賳蹖賴鈥屰� 賲乇丕賯亘鬲 丕夭 禺賵丿蹖 亘賳賵蹖爻賲貙丕丨鬲賲丕賱丕賸 賲蹖鈥屬嗁堌簇�:亘丕 禺賵丿賽 睾賲诏蹖賳鬲丕賳 賲賴乇亘丕賳 亘丕卮蹖丿.
*丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘賴 卮丿鬲 倬蹖卮賳賴丕丿 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁� 亘乇丕蹖 丿賵爻鬲丕賳蹖 讴賴 毓夭蹖夭丕賳卮賵賳 乇賵 丕夭 丿爻鬲 丿丕丿賳丿.
*丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘賴 卮丿鬲 倬蹖卮賳賴丕丿 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁� 亘乇丕蹖 丿賵爻鬲丕賳蹖 讴賴 毓夭蹖夭丕賳卮賵賳 乇賵 丕夭 丿爻鬲 丿丕丿賳丿.
March 9, 2020
賲賳 禺蹖賱蹖 賵賯鬲鈥屬囏� 倬蹖卮 丕賵賲丿賴 丿乇賲賯丕亘賱 讴爻蹖 讴賴 毓夭蹖夭蹖 乇賵 丕夭 丿爻鬲 丿丕丿賴 賵丕賯毓丕 賳賲蹖鈥屫堎嗀池� 趩賴 乇賮鬲丕乇蹖 讴賳賲 讴賴 賲毓匕亘鈥屭┵嗁嗀� 賳亘丕卮賴. 丌禺乇 讴鬲丕亘 賲賯丕賱賴鈥屰� 讴賵鬲丕賴蹖 賳賵卮鬲賴 亘賵丿 賵 禺蹖賱蹖 賳讴鬲賴鈥屬囏й� 禺賵亘蹖 匕讴乇 讴乇丿賴 亘賵丿 亘乇丕蹖 讴賲讴 亘賴 丿賵爻鬲蹖 讴賴 賮賯丿丕賳蹖 乇賵 鬲噩乇亘賴 讴乇丿賴.
禺賵丿 讴鬲丕亘 賴賲 禺賵賳丿賳卮 禺蹖賱蹖 禺賵亘 賵 賲賮蹖丿 (賵 氐丿丕賱亘鬲賴 睾賲鈥屫з嗂屫�) 亘賵丿. 倬乇 丕夭 卮毓丕乇賴丕蹖 讴賱蹖卮賴鈥屫й� 賳亘賵丿 賵 丕夭 丕爻賲卮 賴賲 讴賴 丿蹖诏賴 賵丕囟丨賴! 毓蹖亘蹖 賳丿丕乇賴 丨丕賱鬲 禺賵卮 賳亘丕卮賴.
禺賱丕氐賴 丕诏乇 賮賯丿丕賳蹖 乇賵 鬲噩乇亘賴 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屫� 亘乇丕蹖 亘賴 丿賵卮 讴卮蹖丿賳 睾賲鈥� (賳賴 丨賱 讴乇丿賳卮貙 讴賴 睾賲 賲卮讴賱 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 丨賱 亘卮賴) 禺賵亘賴 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘禺賵賳蹖丿.
賲鬲丕爻賮丕賳賴 禺賵賳丿賲卮 鬲丕 丌禺乇 鬲丕 蹖讴 夭賲丕賳蹖 丕诏乇 丕鬲賮丕賯蹖 丕賮鬲丕丿 禺賵丿賲 丿趩丕乇 賮乇賵倬丕卮蹖 乇賵丕賳蹖 賳卮賲 賵 亘丕 丕蹖賳 賵噩賵丿 賲蹖鈥屫堎嗁� 禺賵賳丿賳 賴蹖趩 讴鬲丕亘蹖 鬲賵 亘毓囟蹖 賲賵賯毓蹖鬲鈥屬囏� 鬲丕孬蹖乇蹖 賳丿丕乇賴. 賵賱蹖 亘賴乇丨丕賱. 禺丕賱蹖 丕夭 賱胤賮 賳亘賵丿.
丕賱亘鬲賴 丿乇賲賵乇丿 賴賲蹖賳 鬲乇爻 賲賳 賴賲 亘賴 蹖賴 賳讴鬲賴鈥屫й� 丕卮丕乇賴 讴乇丿賴 亘賵丿貙 賱丕夭賲 賳蹖爻鬲 賳诏乇丕賳 丌蹖賳丿賴 亘丕卮蹖.
+ +鬲乇噩賲賴鈥屰� 賳蹖賲賴鈥屰� 丕賵賱 讴鬲丕亘 禺蹖賱蹖 亘賴鬲乇 賵 乇賵丕賳鈥屫� 亘賵丿貙 丨爻 讴乇丿賲 丕賵丕禺乇 讴鬲丕亘 賲鬲乇噩賲鈥�(賲鬲乇噩賲鈥屬囏ж�) 賮賯胤 賲蹖鈥屫堌ж池� 蹖賴 噩賵乇蹖 鬲賲賵賲卮 讴賳賳. 賵賱蹖 亘丕 丕蹖賳 賵噩賵丿 賯丕亘賱 禺賵賳丿賳 賵 丿乇讴 讴乇丿賳 亘賵丿.
禺賵丿 讴鬲丕亘 賴賲 禺賵賳丿賳卮 禺蹖賱蹖 禺賵亘 賵 賲賮蹖丿 (賵 氐丿丕賱亘鬲賴 睾賲鈥屫з嗂屫�) 亘賵丿. 倬乇 丕夭 卮毓丕乇賴丕蹖 讴賱蹖卮賴鈥屫й� 賳亘賵丿 賵 丕夭 丕爻賲卮 賴賲 讴賴 丿蹖诏賴 賵丕囟丨賴! 毓蹖亘蹖 賳丿丕乇賴 丨丕賱鬲 禺賵卮 賳亘丕卮賴.
禺賱丕氐賴 丕诏乇 賮賯丿丕賳蹖 乇賵 鬲噩乇亘賴 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屫� 亘乇丕蹖 亘賴 丿賵卮 讴卮蹖丿賳 睾賲鈥� (賳賴 丨賱 讴乇丿賳卮貙 讴賴 睾賲 賲卮讴賱 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 丨賱 亘卮賴) 禺賵亘賴 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘禺賵賳蹖丿.
賲鬲丕爻賮丕賳賴 禺賵賳丿賲卮 鬲丕 丌禺乇 鬲丕 蹖讴 夭賲丕賳蹖 丕诏乇 丕鬲賮丕賯蹖 丕賮鬲丕丿 禺賵丿賲 丿趩丕乇 賮乇賵倬丕卮蹖 乇賵丕賳蹖 賳卮賲 賵 亘丕 丕蹖賳 賵噩賵丿 賲蹖鈥屫堎嗁� 禺賵賳丿賳 賴蹖趩 讴鬲丕亘蹖 鬲賵 亘毓囟蹖 賲賵賯毓蹖鬲鈥屬囏� 鬲丕孬蹖乇蹖 賳丿丕乇賴. 賵賱蹖 亘賴乇丨丕賱. 禺丕賱蹖 丕夭 賱胤賮 賳亘賵丿.
丕賱亘鬲賴 丿乇賲賵乇丿 賴賲蹖賳 鬲乇爻 賲賳 賴賲 亘賴 蹖賴 賳讴鬲賴鈥屫й� 丕卮丕乇賴 讴乇丿賴 亘賵丿貙 賱丕夭賲 賳蹖爻鬲 賳诏乇丕賳 丌蹖賳丿賴 亘丕卮蹖.
+ +鬲乇噩賲賴鈥屰� 賳蹖賲賴鈥屰� 丕賵賱 讴鬲丕亘 禺蹖賱蹖 亘賴鬲乇 賵 乇賵丕賳鈥屫� 亘賵丿貙 丨爻 讴乇丿賲 丕賵丕禺乇 讴鬲丕亘 賲鬲乇噩賲鈥�(賲鬲乇噩賲鈥屬囏ж�) 賮賯胤 賲蹖鈥屫堌ж池� 蹖賴 噩賵乇蹖 鬲賲賵賲卮 讴賳賳. 賵賱蹖 亘丕 丕蹖賳 賵噩賵丿 賯丕亘賱 禺賵賳丿賳 賵 丿乇讴 讴乇丿賳 亘賵丿.
May 2, 2022
Grief is so personal and painful. There is no one-size-fits-all formula. There is no magic length of time, when someone will be finally 'over it,' or back to 'normal.' Megan Devine writes, "This book is about how you live inside your loss. How you carry what cannot be fixed. How you survive."
Not only is it extremely painful to experience our own loss, it can be painful to experience our friends and loved ones grieving for their losses also. We may feel helpless when it comes to thinking what to do or say to 'make it feel better,' or at least bearable. I found this advice for helping a grieving friend in the appendix:
"Be willing to stand beside the gaping hole that has opened in your friend's life, without flinching or turning away. Be willing to not have any answers. Listen. Be there. Be present. Be a friend. Be love. Love is the thing that lasts."
Not only is it extremely painful to experience our own loss, it can be painful to experience our friends and loved ones grieving for their losses also. We may feel helpless when it comes to thinking what to do or say to 'make it feel better,' or at least bearable. I found this advice for helping a grieving friend in the appendix:
"Be willing to stand beside the gaping hole that has opened in your friend's life, without flinching or turning away. Be willing to not have any answers. Listen. Be there. Be present. Be a friend. Be love. Love is the thing that lasts."
October 1, 2017
I read Megan's book with my dad's death in mind. What she had to offer was so helpful, and made me feel better about the fact that the typical approaches to dealing with my grief felt not just inadequate, but they actually made me feel worse. The amazing thing is that not only did thinking about things differently take an immense load off of me around my father's death, but also around some other relationships that I've lost in the last few years. Her work is equally applicable to the grief of the loss of a loved one and the loss of a friendship. I suspect I'll find there are even more places in my life that her work applies. Highly recommend.
September 28, 2017
Finally, a resource emerged that allowed me to accept my grief without shame, excuses or timetables. The author, Megan Devine, is a pioneer; paving a new path for those who have suffered debilitating loss by allowing them to see grief in a new way. She calmly and lovingly explains what well-meaning people in our culture do with grief and she does it without blame or shame. A lifesaving book and a must read. I have finally given my grief permission to be felt, experienced and carried in love because of this book. If you don't have a copy yet, get one.
October 16, 2021
賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 丕夭 賴賲賵賳 丕亘鬲丿丕 賲鬲賳 乇賵 亘丕 诏賮鬲賳 丕蹖賳讴賴 賯乇丕乇 賳蹖爻鬲 丨丕賱鬲賵賳 亘丕 禺賵賳丿賳 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘賴鬲乇 亘卮賴 賵 亘賴 夭賳丿诏蹖 毓丕丿蹖 亘乇鬲賵賳 诏乇丿賵賳賴 卮乇賵毓 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁� 賵 丕蹖賳 賵丕賯毓丕賸 鬲爻讴蹖賳鈥屫囐嗀団€屫池�. 丿乇賵丕賯毓 鬲賲賵賲 趩蹖夭賴丕蹖蹖 讴賴 鬲賵蹖 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 禺賵賳丿賲貙 賳夭丿蹖讴鈥屫臂屬� 趩蹖夭 亘賴 賲乇賴賲 亘禺卮蹖丿賳賴. 禺蹖賱蹖 丕賳鬲馗丕乇 丿丕卮鬲賲 讴鬲丕亘 讴丕賲賱丕賸 讴賱蹖卮賴鈥屫й� 賵 爻胤丨蹖 亘丕卮賴 丕賲丕 丨乇賮鈥屬囏й� 毓丕丿蹖 賵 丿賱鈥屫ж臂屸€屬囏й� 丿乇爻鬲卮 賵丕賯毓丕賸 鬲丕孬蹖乇诏匕丕乇賳. 賴丿賮 讴鬲丕亘 賴賲 賴賲蹖賳賴: 芦丿丕丿賳 丨爻蹖 毓丕丿蹖 丿乇 夭賲丕賳蹖 讴丕賲賱丕賸 睾蹖乇毓丕丿蹖.禄
December 25, 2021
鈥屭┴ж� 禺蹖賱蹖 禺賵亘 賵 賲賮蹖丿蹖 賵 丕诏乇 丿乇 夭賲丕賳 丿乇爻鬲 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘鬲賵賳蹖丿 亘禺賵賳蹖丿 亘賴 卮賲丕 讴賲讴 禺蹖賱蹖 亘夭乇诏蹖 賲蹖讴賳賴. 賴賲賵賳胤賵乇蹖 讴賴 丕夭 賲賵囟賵毓 倬蹖丿丕爻鬲 賲賳 賳賲蹖鬲賵賳賲 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘賴 讴爻丕蹖蹖 讴賴 睾賲 賮賯丿丕賳 乇賵 賳趩卮蹖丿賳(賮賯丿丕賳 賳夭丿蹖讴 禺蹖賱蹖 賳夭丿蹖讴) 倬蹖卮賳賴丕丿 亘丿賲.
讴賱 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘丕毓孬 卮丿 亘賴 禺賵丿賲 丨爻 亘賴鬲乇蹖 倬蹖丿丕 讴賳賲 賲禺氐賵氐丕 夭賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 賲蹖丿蹖丿賲 賵 鬲丕夭賴 賲鬲賵噩賴 賲蹖卮丿賲 亘毓囟蹖 丕夭 丕丨爻丕爻 賴丕賲 丕夭 讴噩丕 賵 趩賴 丨乇賮 賴丕蹖蹖 賲賳卮丕亍 賲蹖诏乇賮鬲.
讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 禺蹖賱蹖 倬蹖卮賳賴丕丿 賲蹖讴賳賲 亘賴 丕賮乇丕丿蹖 讴賴 丿趩丕乇 睾賲 賵 丕賳丿賵賴 賮賯丿丕賳 卮丿賳 賵賱蹖 蹖讴 賳讴鬲賴 丕蹖 讴賴 禺蹖賱蹖 亘賳馗乇賲 亘丕蹖丿 诏賮鬲賴 亘卮賴 丕蹖賳讴賴 賲丕 賳賲蹖鬲賵賳蹖賲 鬲丕 丌禺乇 毓賲乇賲賵賳 丕夭 賮賯丿丕賳 乇賳噩 亘亘乇蹖賲馃挃 亘賳馗乇賲 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘賴 賲丕 讴賲讴 賲蹖讴賳賴 讴賴 丿乇讴 讴賳蹖賲 讴賴 趩乇丕 丕賳賯丿乇 賳丕乇丕丨鬲蹖賲 賵 趩胤賵乇 亘丕賴丕卮 乇丕丨鬲 鬲乇 讴賳丕乇 亘蹖丕蹖蹖賲 賵 趩胤賵乇 卮乇賵毓 亘賴 讴賲讴 亘賴 禺賵丿賲賵賳 讴賳蹖賲.(丕诏乇 丿賵爻鬲 丿丕卮鬲蹖賲)
讴賱 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘丕毓孬 卮丿 亘賴 禺賵丿賲 丨爻 亘賴鬲乇蹖 倬蹖丿丕 讴賳賲 賲禺氐賵氐丕 夭賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 賲蹖丿蹖丿賲 賵 鬲丕夭賴 賲鬲賵噩賴 賲蹖卮丿賲 亘毓囟蹖 丕夭 丕丨爻丕爻 賴丕賲 丕夭 讴噩丕 賵 趩賴 丨乇賮 賴丕蹖蹖 賲賳卮丕亍 賲蹖诏乇賮鬲.
讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 禺蹖賱蹖 倬蹖卮賳賴丕丿 賲蹖讴賳賲 亘賴 丕賮乇丕丿蹖 讴賴 丿趩丕乇 睾賲 賵 丕賳丿賵賴 賮賯丿丕賳 卮丿賳 賵賱蹖 蹖讴 賳讴鬲賴 丕蹖 讴賴 禺蹖賱蹖 亘賳馗乇賲 亘丕蹖丿 诏賮鬲賴 亘卮賴 丕蹖賳讴賴 賲丕 賳賲蹖鬲賵賳蹖賲 鬲丕 丌禺乇 毓賲乇賲賵賳 丕夭 賮賯丿丕賳 乇賳噩 亘亘乇蹖賲馃挃 亘賳馗乇賲 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘賴 賲丕 讴賲讴 賲蹖讴賳賴 讴賴 丿乇讴 讴賳蹖賲 讴賴 趩乇丕 丕賳賯丿乇 賳丕乇丕丨鬲蹖賲 賵 趩胤賵乇 亘丕賴丕卮 乇丕丨鬲 鬲乇 讴賳丕乇 亘蹖丕蹖蹖賲 賵 趩胤賵乇 卮乇賵毓 亘賴 讴賲讴 亘賴 禺賵丿賲賵賳 讴賳蹖賲.(丕诏乇 丿賵爻鬲 丿丕卮鬲蹖賲)
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