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تشارلز بونر
تشارلز بونر
244 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2002
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February 14, 2016
Some great stuff in here but I would add one warning to the information in this book. The techniques do no show how to integrate a critical voice...the techniques teach how to hide a voice a way.
This may cause a person to push the voice into the background and become part of their shadow as described by Jung. This ultimately separates the psych and may create a "part" as described in NLP.
That being said, the processes in this book are wonderful for objectifying the subjective nature of a critical internal voice. And of course the first step to getting over anything is to objectify it. Once you objectify something you are able to see it from a distance. This distance allows you get perspective.
Kind of like ripping the internal voice out of you, placing it in the middle of the room like an object, walking around it to see it from many angles, and finally seeing it for what it really is.
This book gets you to this point...but then teaches you to fight the voice. Depending on the nature of the voice, this may be a good thing. For instance...if the voice was originally learned from a parent that took their anger out on you...and it was discovered that the voice had no positive message for you or anything like that...just a parent being abusive...then yes. This would be a voice to fight against to some degree.
If however you discover that the voice had some type of information for you or some type of positive message that was simply poorly expressed...then integration would be better. Meaning that you take this seemingly separate "part" of you and unify it with the rest of you. This way...instead of having a separate "you" inside your mind, you would get just one "you" in there.
Remember...every part of your experience is "you". Every time you think of a person in your mind like your mother or father or whoever...that is actually a part of you. You have neurons on your head that are dedicated to those people. Kind of like a computer's hard drive space. Part of it is dedicated to representing that experience.
So if you have parts of you that you fight against inside your mind...like fighting an internal voice, or never forgiving someone or something like that...it is like taking a computer's hard drive and cutting off a section of it. When you integrate these different areas of you (because they actually only exist in "you", in your mind)...it is like getting all that hard drive space back.
So integration is better.
For more on how to better integrate I would highly recommend Transforming Negative Self-Talk from Steve Andreas. His technology with this is the best out there that you can find.
Everything in this review might not be true for you but as far as I can tell and what my experience has led me to believe...it is true for me.
This may cause a person to push the voice into the background and become part of their shadow as described by Jung. This ultimately separates the psych and may create a "part" as described in NLP.
That being said, the processes in this book are wonderful for objectifying the subjective nature of a critical internal voice. And of course the first step to getting over anything is to objectify it. Once you objectify something you are able to see it from a distance. This distance allows you get perspective.
Kind of like ripping the internal voice out of you, placing it in the middle of the room like an object, walking around it to see it from many angles, and finally seeing it for what it really is.
This book gets you to this point...but then teaches you to fight the voice. Depending on the nature of the voice, this may be a good thing. For instance...if the voice was originally learned from a parent that took their anger out on you...and it was discovered that the voice had no positive message for you or anything like that...just a parent being abusive...then yes. This would be a voice to fight against to some degree.
If however you discover that the voice had some type of information for you or some type of positive message that was simply poorly expressed...then integration would be better. Meaning that you take this seemingly separate "part" of you and unify it with the rest of you. This way...instead of having a separate "you" inside your mind, you would get just one "you" in there.
Remember...every part of your experience is "you". Every time you think of a person in your mind like your mother or father or whoever...that is actually a part of you. You have neurons on your head that are dedicated to those people. Kind of like a computer's hard drive space. Part of it is dedicated to representing that experience.
So if you have parts of you that you fight against inside your mind...like fighting an internal voice, or never forgiving someone or something like that...it is like taking a computer's hard drive and cutting off a section of it. When you integrate these different areas of you (because they actually only exist in "you", in your mind)...it is like getting all that hard drive space back.
So integration is better.
For more on how to better integrate I would highly recommend Transforming Negative Self-Talk from Steve Andreas. His technology with this is the best out there that you can find.
Everything in this review might not be true for you but as far as I can tell and what my experience has led me to believe...it is true for me.
December 11, 2024
من این کتاب رو خیلی دوست داشتم و قطعاً دوباره بارها و بارها به تمرین هاش برمیگردم و فکرهام رو بررسی میکنم که ببینم آیا مالِ خودم هستم یا مربوط به صدایِ منتقد درونی؟ (منتقد درونیِ هر کسی میتونه باشه: خانواده، دوست، همکار و ...)
May 7, 2014
An invaluable book for someone like me who has been a slave to my critical inner voice. By reading this book I learned to identify and conquer it. It will help you in all aspects of your life if you give it a chance.
April 20, 2014
This book is a mix to me, a hit or miss. Sometimes I get the sense that the book is trying to be genuine in trying to get us to recognize our critical inner voices and it succeeds. However, sometimes I see that this book appeals perhaps a little too much to ones pride, a sort of reactive sense that its everyone else's fault for being who one became rather than a more proactive stance that regardless of what others may or may not have intended [or done] how will one actually work now to get themselves out of the hole they are in currently.
I must insist that the initial 3 or 4 chapters, as well as the last chapter of the book were probably the most enlightening reads. The most aversive chapter during my read is Chapter 6 which had to do with Sexuality, and while there were parts of Chapter 6 I could agree with (e.g. A Good/Healthy Understanding of Sex), I get the sense that this reviewer [who is a Practicing Catholic, and loves it] was being implicitly told that Religion is bad because of its "repressive" attitude toward sex which is an institution within the culture, the reviewer certainly feels that the Generation of the 60s was not an enlightened generation but a darkened one: Merely exchanging one extreme (i.e. Puritanism) for another extreme (i.e. Individualist Hedonism). Nonetheless, to conclude this book is a hit or miss, sometimes it is helpful sometimes it seems all about worshiping oneself rather than making authentic progress in maturity.
I must insist that the initial 3 or 4 chapters, as well as the last chapter of the book were probably the most enlightening reads. The most aversive chapter during my read is Chapter 6 which had to do with Sexuality, and while there were parts of Chapter 6 I could agree with (e.g. A Good/Healthy Understanding of Sex), I get the sense that this reviewer [who is a Practicing Catholic, and loves it] was being implicitly told that Religion is bad because of its "repressive" attitude toward sex which is an institution within the culture, the reviewer certainly feels that the Generation of the 60s was not an enlightened generation but a darkened one: Merely exchanging one extreme (i.e. Puritanism) for another extreme (i.e. Individualist Hedonism). Nonetheless, to conclude this book is a hit or miss, sometimes it is helpful sometimes it seems all about worshiping oneself rather than making authentic progress in maturity.
May 19, 2021
Some good ideas in here that may help some people more than others. Reading it was like pulling teeth and I had to stop and start reading it for a long time. Often times the descriptions of certain behaviors/voices were too vague and/or redundant. And at least in the copy I read from, the sections within a chapter were organized rather indistinguishably from one another. Having all the journals at the end of a chapter but having the explanations for each brought up in different parts of the chapter was really conducive for me to just not want to do the journals, at least at the time of reading.
March 11, 2015
We react to our interpretation not to the actual event
August 27, 2021
این کتاب به زبان فارسی با عنوان "صدای منتقد درونیا� را خاموش کن" توسط حامد بُرابادی ترجمه و بدست نشر اسبار به چاپ رسیده است.
کتاب در ۱۰ فصل نوشته شده و با تعریف و علت صداهای منتقد آغاز و با شرح تاثیر این صداهای مخرب و منفی بر شغل، روابط عاطفی و جنسی ادامه پیدا کرده است. در ادامه نقش صدای منتقد درونی در شکل گیری رفتارهای اعتیادوار و همینطور افسردگی شرح داده شده و در دو فصل پایانی، به رهنمودهایی برای والدین و رهنمودهایی برای خوب زندگیکرد� میپرداز�.
موضوع کتاب بسیار جالب است و خودگویهها� منفی و منتقد ما را نشانه میگیر�. حتی صرفاً شناسایی این خودگویهه� و مشاهده نقش تاثیرگذار آن در همه جنبهها� زندگی، تاثیر عمیقی بر شناخت ما از ذهن و طرز تفکر ما نسبت به خود واقعی و خود آرمانی میگذارد� همینطور ما را وادار میکن� تا با بازنگری و دروننگر� در روابط دوران کودکی با والدین، خود را از تسلط باورهای نادرست و غیرواقعی رها کنیم.
متاسفانه بنظر میاید تفاوت نام اصلی و نام ترجمه شده، کل کتاب را تحت تاثیر قرار داده و کتاب از شرحی بر غلبه پیدا کردن بر این حس طبیعی درونی به مبارزها� خصمانه برای کشتن این صدا تبدیل شده است. همینطور در کتاب بجای گفتن اهمیت آگاهی از این ندای درونی و نحوه تبدیل آن از صدایی تخریبگر به شکلی ارزشمند و مفید، بر خاموش کردن و ساکت کردن و نشنیدن صدا تاکید بیشتری شده است. کتاب بیش از نگارش علمی به سبک کتابهای خودیاری نوشته شده و در فصل آخر که به توضیحاتی درباره معنای زندگی و راه بهزیست� میپردازد لحن ناصحانه خود را به اوج میرسان�.
کتاب در ۱۰ فصل نوشته شده و با تعریف و علت صداهای منتقد آغاز و با شرح تاثیر این صداهای مخرب و منفی بر شغل، روابط عاطفی و جنسی ادامه پیدا کرده است. در ادامه نقش صدای منتقد درونی در شکل گیری رفتارهای اعتیادوار و همینطور افسردگی شرح داده شده و در دو فصل پایانی، به رهنمودهایی برای والدین و رهنمودهایی برای خوب زندگیکرد� میپرداز�.
موضوع کتاب بسیار جالب است و خودگویهها� منفی و منتقد ما را نشانه میگیر�. حتی صرفاً شناسایی این خودگویهه� و مشاهده نقش تاثیرگذار آن در همه جنبهها� زندگی، تاثیر عمیقی بر شناخت ما از ذهن و طرز تفکر ما نسبت به خود واقعی و خود آرمانی میگذارد� همینطور ما را وادار میکن� تا با بازنگری و دروننگر� در روابط دوران کودکی با والدین، خود را از تسلط باورهای نادرست و غیرواقعی رها کنیم.
متاسفانه بنظر میاید تفاوت نام اصلی و نام ترجمه شده، کل کتاب را تحت تاثیر قرار داده و کتاب از شرحی بر غلبه پیدا کردن بر این حس طبیعی درونی به مبارزها� خصمانه برای کشتن این صدا تبدیل شده است. همینطور در کتاب بجای گفتن اهمیت آگاهی از این ندای درونی و نحوه تبدیل آن از صدایی تخریبگر به شکلی ارزشمند و مفید، بر خاموش کردن و ساکت کردن و نشنیدن صدا تاکید بیشتری شده است. کتاب بیش از نگارش علمی به سبک کتابهای خودیاری نوشته شده و در فصل آخر که به توضیحاتی درباره معنای زندگی و راه بهزیست� میپردازد لحن ناصحانه خود را به اوج میرسان�.
April 1, 2021
I found this book very helpful. I feel that I have already made functional changes in my life based on what I learned. I will definitely have to refer back to it.
June 16, 2024
3.5 my only issue is that a lot of the delivery is done by examples, which I have a hard time with.
February 28, 2021
This book changed my life. Highly recommend.
June 20, 2021
This book will appeal to dualistically-minded simpletons by hammering it into their heads (ad nauseum) that our psyches are composed of two factions at war with each other: an evil "critical inner voice" which wants to undermine and destroy us at every opportunity, and a fluffy, rosy "real me" that is all innocent and all good and just wants the chance to follow his hopes and dreams. This creates a simplistic, self-righteous mindset where one is a victim struggling to free oneself from the evil inner voice. The distinction that Firestone makes between "critical inner voice" (bad) and "conscience" (good) is unconvincing since these two things are closely related.
There is also a pronounced "anti-parent" theme, once again appealing to the those looking to be victims.
There is also a pronounced "anti-parent" theme, once again appealing to the those looking to be victims.
March 12, 2025
This book is one of those that you will definitely need time to read through and absorb as if you were on a therapy course.
It includes practice exercises after every chapter that also helps understanding better your critical inner voice and its influence on your life and being.
For me personally some chapters were more engaging and relevant than others, and I think that will vary from person to person. Nevertheless I highly suggest reading the last chapter.
And the quote that made me think from this book would be
“� to be fully alive means opening yourself up to all dimensions of life - sadness as well as joy, and pain as well as pleasure. It also involves committing yourself to a search for personal meaning and transcendent goals - of which happiness is a byproduct.�
It includes practice exercises after every chapter that also helps understanding better your critical inner voice and its influence on your life and being.
For me personally some chapters were more engaging and relevant than others, and I think that will vary from person to person. Nevertheless I highly suggest reading the last chapter.
And the quote that made me think from this book would be
“� to be fully alive means opening yourself up to all dimensions of life - sadness as well as joy, and pain as well as pleasure. It also involves committing yourself to a search for personal meaning and transcendent goals - of which happiness is a byproduct.�
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May 11, 2020
I can count on one hand the number of self-help books that have deeply impacted me, and this is one of them! I can't think of one person who wouldn't benefit from this. It is incredibly empowering. Highly recommend!
November 15, 2018
The book was okay. There were some informative sections, as well as some sections that are out-of-date.
August 23, 2023
كتا� مذهل وعلمي وعملي
November 16, 2023
The information that was presented in this book was redundant with new concepts that I’d never heard of. I liked the book but found myself bored and pushing through it. Very insightful though!
July 10, 2015
This book does a great service in emphasizing that often 'our critical inner voice" is what is really holding us back, not other people, not our circumstances, not our inability. It also is valuable in helping readers consider how our own fears and actions alter the actions and personalities of those around us, especially our partner, our children, and those we care about most. If you want to live and love more deeply, there are some good things to consider here. It is divided into short convenient units so that you can immediately focus in on an area of particular concern in your life.
I wish the authors had been a bit more circumspect in segregating their own assertions of reality from the science. References to science and studies are completely absent. Examples of anecdotal value are given from their own counseling experience, which is useful, but this is not the same. There are also times when the Firestones' own dogma is unilaterally asserted--in the discussion of the spiritual for instance, "We can come to understand that there are no absolute "truths" to be discovered."
I wish the authors had been a bit more circumspect in segregating their own assertions of reality from the science. References to science and studies are completely absent. Examples of anecdotal value are given from their own counseling experience, which is useful, but this is not the same. There are also times when the Firestones' own dogma is unilaterally asserted--in the discussion of the spiritual for instance, "We can come to understand that there are no absolute "truths" to be discovered."
March 17, 2015
Valuable and insightful on how the critical voice shows up in our lives and impacts everything we do until we gain awareness and tools to change it. Also made me feel a sense of relieve that I am not the only one with this critical voice.
I highly recommend it to anyone on self help journey, looking for a workbook that not only educates but also provides a step by step process to make long lasting changes.
I highly recommend it to anyone on self help journey, looking for a workbook that not only educates but also provides a step by step process to make long lasting changes.
July 13, 2010
Excellent workbook for dilving into the hidden unconsciousness
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