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Ask: How to Relate to Anyone
Setiap orang ingin menjadi pribadi yang paling menarik agar mudah mendapatkan teman, relasi bisnis, bahkan pasangan. Namun, melalui buku ini penulis membalik anggapan yang sudah umum tersebut. Bahwa untuk menjalin hubungan yang erat, kita harus menjadi orang yang selalu tertarik, alih-alih menjadi seseorang yang menarik.
Buku yang disusun dengan cermat ini menunjukkan kepada Anda bagaimana menjalin hubungan yang lebih akrab dengan siapa pun. Berdasarkan fakta-fakta menarik dan meyakinkan di bidang psikologi, komunikasi dan ilmu saraf, buku ini memandu kita untuk memulai bertanya dan memecahkan kebuntuan saat berinteraksi sehingga kita dapat meningkatkan hubungan dengan rekan kerja, partner bisnis, teman, serta keluarga terdekat.
Daniel R. Solin, yang merupakan penulis buku bestseller New York Times, telah membagikan penelitian transformatifnya ini kepada ribuan orang di seluruh dunia dan telah membantu mengubah hubungan mereka menjadi lebih baik. Pelajaran dalam buku ini mudah dipahami dan dipraktikkan, sehingga akan membantu Anda untuk mengubah cara terhubung dengan orang lain.
“Menghibur. Premis Solin tampak sederhana namun solid. Cerdas, ringkas, dan sangat menarik.�
—Kirkus Reviews
“Siapa pun yang ingin menguasai seni membangun hubungan yang langgeng, buku ini merupakan panduan penting bagi Anda.�
—Dave Butler, Co-CEO of Dimensional Fund Advisors LP
“Solin menawarkan temuannya yang padat dan menarik. Kegeniusannya terletak pada mendemonstrasikan temuan tersebut sehingga dapat dengan mudah dipraktikkan oleh para pemimpin, penasihat, guru, dan siapa saja yang berusaha untuk lebih berguna bagi manusia lainnya.�
—Moira Somers, Ph.D., C.Psych., penulis Advice that Sticks
“Buku menarik. Memberikan wawasan yang bijaksana, dapat dipraktikkan, dan yang paling penting, didukung bukti yang mengungkapkan bagaimana kita dapat meningkatkan kemampuan untuk lebih terhubung dengan orang lain.�
—David Hoffeld, penulis The Science of Selling
Buku yang disusun dengan cermat ini menunjukkan kepada Anda bagaimana menjalin hubungan yang lebih akrab dengan siapa pun. Berdasarkan fakta-fakta menarik dan meyakinkan di bidang psikologi, komunikasi dan ilmu saraf, buku ini memandu kita untuk memulai bertanya dan memecahkan kebuntuan saat berinteraksi sehingga kita dapat meningkatkan hubungan dengan rekan kerja, partner bisnis, teman, serta keluarga terdekat.
Daniel R. Solin, yang merupakan penulis buku bestseller New York Times, telah membagikan penelitian transformatifnya ini kepada ribuan orang di seluruh dunia dan telah membantu mengubah hubungan mereka menjadi lebih baik. Pelajaran dalam buku ini mudah dipahami dan dipraktikkan, sehingga akan membantu Anda untuk mengubah cara terhubung dengan orang lain.
“Menghibur. Premis Solin tampak sederhana namun solid. Cerdas, ringkas, dan sangat menarik.�
—Kirkus Reviews
“Siapa pun yang ingin menguasai seni membangun hubungan yang langgeng, buku ini merupakan panduan penting bagi Anda.�
—Dave Butler, Co-CEO of Dimensional Fund Advisors LP
“Solin menawarkan temuannya yang padat dan menarik. Kegeniusannya terletak pada mendemonstrasikan temuan tersebut sehingga dapat dengan mudah dipraktikkan oleh para pemimpin, penasihat, guru, dan siapa saja yang berusaha untuk lebih berguna bagi manusia lainnya.�
—Moira Somers, Ph.D., C.Psych., penulis Advice that Sticks
“Buku menarik. Memberikan wawasan yang bijaksana, dapat dipraktikkan, dan yang paling penting, didukung bukti yang mengungkapkan bagaimana kita dapat meningkatkan kemampuan untuk lebih terhubung dengan orang lain.�
—David Hoffeld, penulis The Science of Selling
239 pages, Hardcover
Published October 8, 2020
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About the author
Daniel R. Solin
14Ìýbooks39ÌýfollowersDan Solin is the New York Times bestselling author of the Smartest series of books which include: The Smartest Investment Book You'll Ever Read, The Smartest 401(k) Book You'll Ever Read, The Smartest Retirement Book You'll Ever Read, The Smartest Portfolio You'll Ever Own The Smartest Money Book You'll Ever Read, The Smartest Sales Book You'll Ever Read and Does Your Broker Owe You Money?
His latest book, Ask: How to Relate to Anyone, is based on cutting edge research he did to find out why he wasn't better at sales. What he discovered turned everything he previously believed upside down, increased his conversion rate exponentially and transformed his business and personal relationships.
Dan has taught the lessons in Ask with great success to audiences in North America, Europe and Asia.
Dan blogs regularly for Advisor Perspectives and also has a newsletter distributed to thousands of subscribers.
He graduated from Johns Hopkins University and the University of Pennsylvania Law School.
Visit the website for Ask for more information: askdansolin.com
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November 6, 2020
Ask: how to relate to anyone is a self-help book defining ways where we can establish and maintain long term relationships. The author demonstrates this ability by using psychology and neuroscience.
The book is written well and is easy to follow. The lesson is to understand and practice behavior that produces opportunities in arguments rather than destroy a positive outcome.
The author believes that we need to listen to others and ask them questions. He mentions that we think by talking more, we grab the attention, but it’s actually the opposite. By letting the other person talk, we make them happy, and that causes them to like us.
I thought that the methods and science behind the goals would have slightly altered due to cultural and religious differences; however, it appeared to gear towards everyone.
The literature and the layout of the book were very well put together. I believe the work would be more suitable for people who wish to establish or learn how to communicate and build long-lasting bonds with others.
If you are shy, haven’t had a good chance of making friends, or wish to be in a suitable relationship, this book is for you.
The book is written well and is easy to follow. The lesson is to understand and practice behavior that produces opportunities in arguments rather than destroy a positive outcome.
The author believes that we need to listen to others and ask them questions. He mentions that we think by talking more, we grab the attention, but it’s actually the opposite. By letting the other person talk, we make them happy, and that causes them to like us.
I thought that the methods and science behind the goals would have slightly altered due to cultural and religious differences; however, it appeared to gear towards everyone.
The literature and the layout of the book were very well put together. I believe the work would be more suitable for people who wish to establish or learn how to communicate and build long-lasting bonds with others.
If you are shy, haven’t had a good chance of making friends, or wish to be in a suitable relationship, this book is for you.
January 21, 2021
Here's the gist of this book: Everyone wants to talk about themselves, not listen to the other person. So, in order to get along with people, ask them questions, and follow-up questions about themselves, and whatever they want to talk about.
OK, fine. But, how does that work when the other person wants to talk, and have the first person listen? Take turns, I guess. That issue is not addressed.
OK, fine. But, how does that work when the other person wants to talk, and have the first person listen? Take turns, I guess. That issue is not addressed.
November 26, 2023
Such a useful tool for every relationship. Asking questions and being curious leads to fulfilling relationships especially with those who reciprocate. This book emphasizes the importance of asking meaningful questions and staying curious in order to build our current relationships and establish new ones.
November 7, 2020
Be curious my friends. A great book to understand your brain and how it responds to conversation and emotions. Understanding how to create relationships based on ... dare I say science! Short and an easy read. Thanks for sticking to the science for those of us who rely on it.
December 14, 2024
I liked this booked. Very insightful on how to create/deepen relationships. I got this as an audio book, which is why it took me so long. Definitely will utilize lots of what I learned from this read!
February 5, 2025
living with an open mind
Living with an open mind and curious first attitude will help forge meaningful interactions and deeper relationships. Recommended pairing with Fight Right and Serviceberry
Living with an open mind and curious first attitude will help forge meaningful interactions and deeper relationships. Recommended pairing with Fight Right and Serviceberry
February 28, 2021
It is a good read for a slow Sunday. Reminds you of being mindful of your interactions with people.
October 21, 2023
Interesting and useful concept, but once again a business book that would have actually been good as a 5 page article instead of pages and pages of blabla.
January 2, 2025
Pragmatic. Game changer.
October 2, 2020
This book isn't just an effective tool for business, it's a great tool for life. Be prepared to have your mind broadened in an unexpected way. Many people have gone through life telling the world about themselves. This book is a wake-up call for those. For those who specifically haven't been successful in business or in life.
The lessons in this book are presented in a logical fashion. The author has taken a proper scholastic approach. Each chapter, the reader is presented with a thesis. The author then provides a body of data to defend and explain the thesis. The author finishes with a conclusion that makes the thesis approachable to the reader.
This is a time-tested scholarly approach to writing that works extremely well with this subject matter. You will find yourself rethinking how you conduct business, relationships, even commuter trips. Read this book and learn to look deeper into the person you are speaking to. Make your conversations about being interesting and not just about yourself.
A remarkably original approach to self help that will help anyone who picks up this book. A very good read and I recommend it to all.
My Rating: 5 stars
Reviewed by Mr. N
The lessons in this book are presented in a logical fashion. The author has taken a proper scholastic approach. Each chapter, the reader is presented with a thesis. The author then provides a body of data to defend and explain the thesis. The author finishes with a conclusion that makes the thesis approachable to the reader.
This is a time-tested scholarly approach to writing that works extremely well with this subject matter. You will find yourself rethinking how you conduct business, relationships, even commuter trips. Read this book and learn to look deeper into the person you are speaking to. Make your conversations about being interesting and not just about yourself.
A remarkably original approach to self help that will help anyone who picks up this book. A very good read and I recommend it to all.
My Rating: 5 stars
Reviewed by Mr. N
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