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夭賳丿诏蹖 丕乇夭卮 夭蹖爻鬲賳 丿丕乇丿
賴丿賮 夭賳丿诏蹖 趩蹖爻鬲責 賴丿賮 夭賳丿诏蹖 賲賳 趩蹖爻鬲責 丌蹖丕 賲賳 夭賳丿诏蹖 賴丿賮賲賳丿蹖 丿丕乇賲責
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丕蹖賳 夭賳丿诏蹖 卮賲丕 丕爻鬲 賵 賲賴賲 丕爻鬲 讴賴 夭賳丿诏蹖 禺賵亘蹖 丿丕卮鬲賴 亘丕卮蹖丿. 丕蹖賳讴賴 趩诏賵賳賴 夭賳丿诏蹖 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屫� 亘乇 卮賲丕 賵 丕賮乇丕丿 丿蹖诏乇蹖 鬲兀孬蹖乇诏匕丕乇 丕爻鬲. 丿乇讴 丕蹖賳 賳讴鬲賴 丨賯蹖賯鬲丕賸 亘丕丕賴賲蹖鬲 丕爻鬲. 乇賵蹖讴乇丿 卮賲丕 賳爻亘鬲 亘賴 夭賳丿诏蹖 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗀� 亘賴 诏賵賳賴鈥屫й� 亘丕卮丿 讴賴 丕夭 賱丨馗賴 賱丨馗賴 夭賳丿诏蹖鈥屫з� 亘賴鬲乇蹖賳 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 乇丕 亘亘乇蹖丿.
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亘丕 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 卮賲丕 讴卮賮 禺賵丕賴蹖丿 讴乇丿 趩诏賵賳賴:
鈥� 卮賵乇 賵 丕卮鬲蹖丕賯 禺賵丿 乇丕 丿乇蹖丕亘蹖丿 賵 亘賴 丌賳 毓賲賱 讴賳蹖丿
鈥� 丿乇 賴賳诏丕賲 鬲毓丕乇囟 丕乇夭卮鈥屬囏ж� 乇丕賴 禺賵丿 乇丕 倬蹖丿丕 讴賳蹖丿
鈥� 亘乇 丌賳趩賴 賵丕賯毓丕賸 亘乇丕蹖 鬲丨賯賯 乇賵蹖丕賴丕蹖鬲丕賳 丕賴賲蹖鬲 丿丕乇丿 鬲賲乇讴夭 讴賳蹖丿
鈥� 鬲兀孬蹖乇蹖 倬丕蹖丿丕乇 亘乇 丿賳蹖丕 亘诏匕丕乇蹖丿
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丕蹖賳 夭賳丿诏蹖 卮賲丕 丕爻鬲 賵 賲賴賲 丕爻鬲 讴賴 夭賳丿诏蹖 禺賵亘蹖 丿丕卮鬲賴 亘丕卮蹖丿. 丕蹖賳讴賴 趩诏賵賳賴 夭賳丿诏蹖 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屫� 亘乇 卮賲丕 賵 丕賮乇丕丿 丿蹖诏乇蹖 鬲兀孬蹖乇诏匕丕乇 丕爻鬲. 丿乇讴 丕蹖賳 賳讴鬲賴 丨賯蹖賯鬲丕賸 亘丕丕賴賲蹖鬲 丕爻鬲. 乇賵蹖讴乇丿 卮賲丕 賳爻亘鬲 亘賴 夭賳丿诏蹖 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗀� 亘賴 诏賵賳賴鈥屫й� 亘丕卮丿 讴賴 丕夭 賱丨馗賴 賱丨馗賴 夭賳丿诏蹖鈥屫з� 亘賴鬲乇蹖賳 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 乇丕 亘亘乇蹖丿.
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亘丕 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 卮賲丕 讴卮賮 禺賵丕賴蹖丿 讴乇丿 趩诏賵賳賴:
鈥� 卮賵乇 賵 丕卮鬲蹖丕賯 禺賵丿 乇丕 丿乇蹖丕亘蹖丿 賵 亘賴 丌賳 毓賲賱 讴賳蹖丿
鈥� 丿乇 賴賳诏丕賲 鬲毓丕乇囟 丕乇夭卮鈥屬囏ж� 乇丕賴 禺賵丿 乇丕 倬蹖丿丕 讴賳蹖丿
鈥� 亘乇 丌賳趩賴 賵丕賯毓丕賸 亘乇丕蹖 鬲丨賯賯 乇賵蹖丕賴丕蹖鬲丕賳 丕賴賲蹖鬲 丿丕乇丿 鬲賲乇讴夭 讴賳蹖丿
鈥� 鬲兀孬蹖乇蹖 倬丕蹖丿丕乇 亘乇 丿賳蹖丕 亘诏匕丕乇蹖丿
倬爻 賲賳鬲馗乇 趩賴 賴爻鬲蹖丿責 賴賲蹖賳 丕賲乇賵夭 夭賳丿诏蹖鈥屫з� 乇丕 鬲睾蹖蹖乇 丿賴蹖丿.
272 pages, Paperback
First published November 1, 2010
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About the author
Matthew McKay
151听books288听followersMatthew McKay, PhD, is a professor of psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, and author of more than 30 professional psychology and self-help books which have sold a combined total of more than 3 million copies. He is co-founder of independent self-help publisher, New Harbinger Publications. He was the clinical director of Haight Ashbury Psychological Services in San Francisco for twenty five years. He is current director of the Berkeley CBT Clinic. An accomplished novelist and poet, his poetry has appeared in two volumes from Plum Branch Press and in more than sixty literary magazines. His most recent novel, Wawona Hotel, was
published by Boaz Press in 2008.
published by Boaz Press in 2008.
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July 24, 2013
This book is written by three doctors who have been through life-altering experiences and who wish to share the wisdom they have to help others make the decision to live their lives on purpose. Though the introduction is as deep as the writers get in terms of self-disclosure of life-lessons learned, they do offer some examples of patients they have had in terms of applying some of their suggestions. The first and most important suggestion being; Live your life according to your values. They try to help you discern what your values may be and encourage mindfulness practices for discovering cognitive, emotional and behavioral barriers. This book covers a lot in it's 209 pages. It is written for the average person, so it lays things out simply and there are insightful quotes starting each chapter. While this book introduced people to Mindfulness and Acceptance strategies, and outlines a lot of good information, it seems like only the starting block to implementing an action plan. I would encourage people who have just finished this book to move onto The Passion Test , which I found to be highly motivational, enlightening and encouraging, and/or Who Are You Meant to Be? for a more personal look at how your life can be better oriented to your personality and your values.
May 16, 2023
The exercises, philosophy, and pacing are clunky and variable. There鈥檚 a good effect from going through it, but unfortunately it鈥檚 also poorly organized in terms of flow and thought process, and a tad too prescriptive.
Nonetheless I recommend it because there seems to be a lack of books like this in the marketplace.
Some of us have arrived at a point in life where we realize we need some help finding direction. Not mental peace or mental health or positive thoughts or care even, but simply the will and awareness of self-advocacy through time. Some of us find that what we鈥檝e been robbed of that no one can give us is a direction in life.
Because once we鈥檝e freed ourselves from the yoke of old masters, we need a bit of coaching to not fall back into old patterns of misery. To learn how to choose for ourselves. This book helps with that in a way your therapist would approve of, rather than your boss, friends, lovers, family, or fellow citizens. This is different than identifying boundaries or traumas, nor is it planning things out or cheering you on. It鈥檚 the critical in-between brain lobes that for some of us are atrophied, the part that is a delicate ganglion or two that quietly whispers to us what we鈥檇 be satisfied with for all time.
Why aren鈥檛 there more books like this?
Nonetheless I recommend it because there seems to be a lack of books like this in the marketplace.
Some of us have arrived at a point in life where we realize we need some help finding direction. Not mental peace or mental health or positive thoughts or care even, but simply the will and awareness of self-advocacy through time. Some of us find that what we鈥檝e been robbed of that no one can give us is a direction in life.
Because once we鈥檝e freed ourselves from the yoke of old masters, we need a bit of coaching to not fall back into old patterns of misery. To learn how to choose for ourselves. This book helps with that in a way your therapist would approve of, rather than your boss, friends, lovers, family, or fellow citizens. This is different than identifying boundaries or traumas, nor is it planning things out or cheering you on. It鈥檚 the critical in-between brain lobes that for some of us are atrophied, the part that is a delicate ganglion or two that quietly whispers to us what we鈥檇 be satisfied with for all time.
Why aren鈥檛 there more books like this?
February 7, 2021
夭賳丿诏蹖 丕乇夭卮 夭蹖爻鬲賳 丿丕乇丿 丕賲丕 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕乇夭卮 禺賵丕賳丿賳 賳丿丕乇丿!
June 19, 2016
It's a very good book, especially if it's one of the first you read in this subject area. Pros: It breaks things down very well, and uses a scientific based methodological approach. Very clear and covers a lot of bases. Cons: Although the authors attempt to inspire, the overall tone is a little lacking in that department. Especially in comparison to other inspirational books on life purpose. However, those usually don't break it down and explain what's really happening, as well as they do here. Basically, it depends what you are trying to get out of this book. Decide based on above pros and cons if this is the right book for you now.
September 26, 2014
An very inspirational book. It tells what motivates you and what is the cost you must pay. Pain is evitable, so dignify your pain.
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