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袛邪褉褗褌: 12 褍褉芯泻邪, 泻芯懈褌芯 褖械 胁懈 锌芯屑芯谐薪邪褌 写邪 褋褗褏褉邪薪懈褌械 卸懈胁芯褌邪 褋懈
袩褗褉胁邪褌邪 泻薪懈谐邪 薪邪 袝写懈褌 袝谐械褉 鈥炐樞沸毙狙€褗褌鈥� 褉邪蟹泻邪蟹邪 懈褋褌芯褉懈褟褌邪 薪邪 薪械泄薪芯褌芯 芯褑械谢褟胁邪薪械 胁 泻芯薪褑械薪褌褉邪褑懈芯薪薪懈褌械 谢邪谐械褉懈, 薪械泄薪芯褌芯 斜褟谐褋褌胁芯, 懈蟹褑械谢械薪懈械 懈 锌褗褌褍胁邪薪械 泻褗屑 褋胁芯斜芯写邪褌邪. 袨锌褉邪 校懈薪褎褉懈 泻邪蟹胁邪: 鈥炐┬� 斜褗写邪 蟹邪胁懈薪邪谐懈 锌褉芯屑械薪械薪邪 芯褌 懈褋褌芯褉懈褟褌邪 薪邪 写-褉 袝谐械褉.鈥�
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啸懈谢褟写懈 褏芯褉邪 锌芯 褑械谢懈褟 褋胁褟褌 褋邪 锌懈褋邪谢懈 薪邪 袝谐械褉, 蟹邪 写邪 泄 褉邪蟹泻邪卸邪褌 泻邪泻 鈥炐樞沸毙狙€褗褌鈥� 谐懈 械 胁写褗褏薪芯胁懈谢 写邪 褋械 懈蟹锌褉邪胁褟褌 褋褉械褖褍 褋芯斜褋褌胁械薪芯褌芯 褋懈 屑懈薪邪谢芯, 锌芯泻邪蟹邪谢邪 懈屑 械 泻邪泻 写邪 褋械 懈蟹谢械泻褍胁邪褌 芯褌 斜芯谢泻邪褌邪 褋懈.
袩芯 屑芯谢斜邪 薪邪 褔懈褌邪褌械谢懈 写邪 薪邪锌懈褕械 鈥炐盒叫感承� 褋 懈薪褋褌褉褍泻褑懈懈鈥�, 袝写懈褌 袝谐械褉 芯褌胁褉褗褖邪 褋 鈥炐斝把€褗褌鈥�. 袣薪懈谐邪褌邪 褋械 锌褉械胁褉褗褖邪 胁 锌褉邪泻褌懈褔械褋泻懈 薪邪褉褗褔薪懈泻, 泻芯泄褌芯 薪械卸薪芯 薪懈 薪邪褋褗褉褔邪胁邪 写邪 锌褉芯屑械薪懈屑 屑懈褋谢懈褌械 懈 锌芯胁械写械薪懈械褌芯 褋懈, 泻芯懈褌芯 薪懈 写褗褉卸邪褌 胁 蟹邪褌胁芯褉邪 胁 屑懈薪邪谢芯褌芯.
袝写懈褌 袝谐械褉 薪懈 锌芯泻邪蟹胁邪 泻邪泻 写邪 褋锌褉械屑 褉邪蟹褉褍褕懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 屑芯写械谢懈 懈 蟹邪褌胁芯褉薪懈褔械褋泻懈褌械 屑懈褋谢懈, 蟹邪 写邪 褋械 薪邪褋谢邪写懈屑 薪邪 卸懈胁芯褌邪
啸懈谢褟写懈 褏芯褉邪 锌芯 褑械谢懈褟 褋胁褟褌 褋邪 锌懈褋邪谢懈 薪邪 袝谐械褉, 蟹邪 写邪 泄 褉邪蟹泻邪卸邪褌 泻邪泻 鈥炐樞沸毙狙€褗褌鈥� 谐懈 械 胁写褗褏薪芯胁懈谢 写邪 褋械 懈蟹锌褉邪胁褟褌 褋褉械褖褍 褋芯斜褋褌胁械薪芯褌芯 褋懈 屑懈薪邪谢芯, 锌芯泻邪蟹邪谢邪 懈屑 械 泻邪泻 写邪 褋械 懈蟹谢械泻褍胁邪褌 芯褌 斜芯谢泻邪褌邪 褋懈.
袩芯 屑芯谢斜邪 薪邪 褔懈褌邪褌械谢懈 写邪 薪邪锌懈褕械 鈥炐盒叫感承� 褋 懈薪褋褌褉褍泻褑懈懈鈥�, 袝写懈褌 袝谐械褉 芯褌胁褉褗褖邪 褋 鈥炐斝把€褗褌鈥�. 袣薪懈谐邪褌邪 褋械 锌褉械胁褉褗褖邪 胁 锌褉邪泻褌懈褔械褋泻懈 薪邪褉褗褔薪懈泻, 泻芯泄褌芯 薪械卸薪芯 薪懈 薪邪褋褗褉褔邪胁邪 写邪 锌褉芯屑械薪懈屑 屑懈褋谢懈褌械 懈 锌芯胁械写械薪懈械褌芯 褋懈, 泻芯懈褌芯 薪懈 写褗褉卸邪褌 胁 蟹邪褌胁芯褉邪 胁 屑懈薪邪谢芯褌芯.
228 pages, 屑邪谢褗泻 褎芯褉屑邪褌, 屑械泻懈 泻芯褉懈褑懈
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September 29, 2020
This is one of those books you will buy as a gift for very special people in your life. It's a true life changing book!!
The book is written by Dr. Edith Eva Ever, a holocaust survivor of Auschwitz. She is 92yrs young and holds a doctorate in Psychology.
Dr. Eger shares the horrors of life at Auschwitz along with personal stories of struggles from her clients in an effort to help others heal from every day challenges we all face. It is such a hopeful book and provides inspiration even in the darkest of times. Dr. Eger really makes you feel like you can beat the worst of odds because she has done it herself!! She will discuss techniques to help you break out of your personal prison and find freedom to live your best life, no matter what your past experiences were. Throughout the whole book, all I kept saying to myself is, I can't believe that Dr. Eger could have had a past like she did and still be so positive and encouraging to others today! I am humbled by her strength and tenacity to not let her past define who she is, but instead Use it to make her stronger and more engaged in life!
I think everyone should read this book! It鈥檚 a great reminder to truly live life to the fullest, but it also provides you with ways of being able to do that!! I plan on buying many copies for family and friends because that鈥檚 how important I think this book is for everyone!
Thank Edelweiss and Simon & Schuster for providing me with an ARC of this beautiful book in exchange for my unbiased review.
#Edelweiss #TheGift #Simon&Schuster #EdithEvaEger
The book is written by Dr. Edith Eva Ever, a holocaust survivor of Auschwitz. She is 92yrs young and holds a doctorate in Psychology.
Dr. Eger shares the horrors of life at Auschwitz along with personal stories of struggles from her clients in an effort to help others heal from every day challenges we all face. It is such a hopeful book and provides inspiration even in the darkest of times. Dr. Eger really makes you feel like you can beat the worst of odds because she has done it herself!! She will discuss techniques to help you break out of your personal prison and find freedom to live your best life, no matter what your past experiences were. Throughout the whole book, all I kept saying to myself is, I can't believe that Dr. Eger could have had a past like she did and still be so positive and encouraging to others today! I am humbled by her strength and tenacity to not let her past define who she is, but instead Use it to make her stronger and more engaged in life!
I think everyone should read this book! It鈥檚 a great reminder to truly live life to the fullest, but it also provides you with ways of being able to do that!! I plan on buying many copies for family and friends because that鈥檚 how important I think this book is for everyone!
Thank Edelweiss and Simon & Schuster for providing me with an ARC of this beautiful book in exchange for my unbiased review.
#Edelweiss #TheGift #Simon&Schuster #EdithEvaEger
July 26, 2020
Hope. It鈥檚 what lit the fire within my soul when I read The Choice and it鈥檚 what made its flame shine even brighter as I made my way through The Gift. Hope that I can do the work that I know I need to do in order to address the pain and trauma I鈥檝e experienced. Hope, because if Edith Eger can do it then so can I. Hope, which Dr Eger defines as 鈥渢he awareness that suffering, however terrible, is temporary; and the curiosity to discover what happens next.鈥�
One of my takeaways from The Choice was a desire to have the opportunity to be counselled by Dr Eger, a survivor whose experiences, compassion and insight combine to allow her to get to the root of a problem before she lovingly guides you towards the you that you鈥檝e been stifling under layers of pain, anger, [insert relevant adjective/s here], and paralysing what if鈥檚. You may never have the honour of sitting across from Dr Eger in her office but this book is the next best thing.
At the end of each chapter you鈥檒l find 鈥楰eys to Free Yourself鈥�. These consolidate what you鈥檝e learned in the chapter and can be used to facilitate your own healing. Some require you to use your imagination. Others provide prompts that you can use in journalling. Then there are some that would be ideal to work through with a therapist.
Although healing from pain and trauma is serious work, that doesn鈥檛 mean there aren鈥檛 smiles to be had as you make your way through this book. Currently, my favourite smile-inducing quote is about taking charge:
Because I know what Dr Eger chose to share in The Choice, I trust her when she outlines what she found helpful. I also can鈥檛 give myself an out, claiming something is too difficult, when I have witnessed someone I now have such admiration for working through unimaginable pain and trauma to find freedom.
Thank you so much to NetGalley and Rider, an imprint of Ebury Press, Penguin Random House UK, for the opportunity to read this book.
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One of my takeaways from The Choice was a desire to have the opportunity to be counselled by Dr Eger, a survivor whose experiences, compassion and insight combine to allow her to get to the root of a problem before she lovingly guides you towards the you that you鈥檝e been stifling under layers of pain, anger, [insert relevant adjective/s here], and paralysing what if鈥檚. You may never have the honour of sitting across from Dr Eger in her office but this book is the next best thing.
All therapy is grief work. A process of confronting a life where you expect one thing and get another, a life that brings you the unexpected and unanticipated.If you鈥檝e already read The Choice then you鈥檒l be familiar with some of the stories of Dr Eger鈥檚 life and those of her patients that are included in this book. You鈥檒l also find stories that will be new to you, which help illustrate the points Dr Eger makes as she hands you the keys that will help you unlock the prison of your mind.
To heal doesn鈥檛 mean to get over it, but it does mean that we are able to be wounded and whole, to find happiness and fulfillment in our lives despite our loss.Twelve keys are presented in this book. Dr Eger addresses the prisons of victimhood, avoidance, self-neglect, secrets, guilt and shame, unresolved grief, rigidity, resentment, paralysing fear, judgement, hopelessness, and not forgiving.
At the end of each chapter you鈥檒l find 鈥楰eys to Free Yourself鈥�. These consolidate what you鈥檝e learned in the chapter and can be used to facilitate your own healing. Some require you to use your imagination. Others provide prompts that you can use in journalling. Then there are some that would be ideal to work through with a therapist.
I like to remind my patients: the opposite of depression is expression.This is one of those books where it would have been much easier to have highlighted the passages that didn鈥檛 speak directly to me. While I discovered the gems in this book in the order Dr Eger has presented them, you don鈥檛 need to do this. Each chapter is its own lesson, so you can take what you need when you need it. I know I will be rereading this book from cover to cover in the not too distant future but I also anticipate I鈥檒l be spending more time on specific chapters over time.
What comes out of you doesn鈥檛 make you sick; what stays in there does.
Although healing from pain and trauma is serious work, that doesn鈥檛 mean there aren鈥檛 smiles to be had as you make your way through this book. Currently, my favourite smile-inducing quote is about taking charge:
Don鈥檛 be Cinderella, sitting in the kitchen waiting for a guy with a foot fetish.You could dive into this book without having experienced The Choice but I would recommend reading them in the order of publication. While you can apply the lessons to your life without knowing Dr Eger鈥檚 own story, they鈥檙e enriched by this knowledge.
Because I know what Dr Eger chose to share in The Choice, I trust her when she outlines what she found helpful. I also can鈥檛 give myself an out, claiming something is too difficult, when I have witnessed someone I now have such admiration for working through unimaginable pain and trauma to find freedom.
I now recognize that the most damaging prison is in our mind, and the key is in our pocket. No matter how great our suffering or how strong the bars, it鈥檚 possible to break free from whatever鈥檚 holding us back.Content warnings include addiction, death by suicide, domestic violence, eating disorders, grief, gun violence, murder, racism, sexual assault, suicidal ideation and torture.
It is not easy. But it is so worth it.
Thank you so much to NetGalley and Rider, an imprint of Ebury Press, Penguin Random House UK, for the opportunity to read this book.
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April 25, 2021
It鈥檚 not what happens to us that matters most, it鈥檚 what we do with our experiences.
Many of us make sense of our lives through story and never is this truer than when I read nonfiction books by survivors of horrific acts of cruelty, those who have lived to tell the story and found their way to acceptance and growth. As Elizabeth Kubler Ross noted, 鈥榯he most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss and have found their way out of the depths.鈥�
Holocaust survivor, Dr. Edith Eger, is one such beautiful person. What she suffered I cannot begin to fathom, but she chose to make her life a testament to what we can overcome, the lessons she shares in this book are innumerable going far beyond the 12 mental prisons she shares.
In my experience, victims ask, 鈥榳hy me?鈥� Survivors ask, 鈥榳hat now?鈥�
As she states, she survived Auschwitz, but it was only the first leg of her journey as she remained a prisoner of her past. Even as she was helping others, she was denying her grief and trauma. From this awareness she developed her therapeutic approach, a blend of insight and cognitive practices she calls choice therapy, acknowledging that suffering is inevitable and universal, but true freedom lies in how we choose to respond.
This is not hippy, dippy self-help, it is a practical guide with exercises and myriad examples from her life and that of others to help us lead more purposeful lives, focusing not on pain and trauma, but what we can learn from it.
There is so much I will take away from this book, but the truest and it may seem simple to others, but something I have to remind myself whenever I am going through a trying time, is that all suffering is temporary. Often we can鈥檛 see out of the hole we鈥檙e in, but there is light鈥ventually. And the lessons we take from that darkness, how we choose to incorporate them into our lives, will make the difference as we move forward. That is Dr. Eger鈥檚 message and one of this book鈥檚 many gifts.
HIGHLY RECOMMEND
Many of us make sense of our lives through story and never is this truer than when I read nonfiction books by survivors of horrific acts of cruelty, those who have lived to tell the story and found their way to acceptance and growth. As Elizabeth Kubler Ross noted, 鈥榯he most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss and have found their way out of the depths.鈥�
Holocaust survivor, Dr. Edith Eger, is one such beautiful person. What she suffered I cannot begin to fathom, but she chose to make her life a testament to what we can overcome, the lessons she shares in this book are innumerable going far beyond the 12 mental prisons she shares.
In my experience, victims ask, 鈥榳hy me?鈥� Survivors ask, 鈥榳hat now?鈥�
As she states, she survived Auschwitz, but it was only the first leg of her journey as she remained a prisoner of her past. Even as she was helping others, she was denying her grief and trauma. From this awareness she developed her therapeutic approach, a blend of insight and cognitive practices she calls choice therapy, acknowledging that suffering is inevitable and universal, but true freedom lies in how we choose to respond.
This is not hippy, dippy self-help, it is a practical guide with exercises and myriad examples from her life and that of others to help us lead more purposeful lives, focusing not on pain and trauma, but what we can learn from it.
There is so much I will take away from this book, but the truest and it may seem simple to others, but something I have to remind myself whenever I am going through a trying time, is that all suffering is temporary. Often we can鈥檛 see out of the hole we鈥檙e in, but there is light鈥ventually. And the lessons we take from that darkness, how we choose to incorporate them into our lives, will make the difference as we move forward. That is Dr. Eger鈥檚 message and one of this book鈥檚 many gifts.
HIGHLY RECOMMEND
August 31, 2020
Edith Eger brings her own life experiences as a survivor of Auschwitz. We get some great tips in this intriguing story. It's full of wisdom and compassion. The book is well written and easy to understand. There's stories from other survivors of various events. Edith has lots of life experiences. It teaches us new techniques to change how we are feeling/reacting/behaving. Everybody could learn something from reading this well written book about mental health and self care.
I would like to thank #NetGalley, #RandomHouseUK #EburyPublishing and the author #EdithEger for my ARC in exchange for an honest review.
I would like to thank #NetGalley, #RandomHouseUK #EburyPublishing and the author #EdithEger for my ARC in exchange for an honest review.
November 13, 2022
鈥淣o one can take from you what you鈥檝e put in your mind.鈥�
This is Edith Eger鈥檚 second book, and I鈥檝e loved them both. Her first one, The Choice: Embrace the Possible was more of a memoir. This book is a continuation of that one. As with most series, I don鈥檛 recommend reading them immediately, back-to-back. I鈥檓 thankful that I didn鈥檛. Both are worth reading for everyone, and I would give them infinite stars if I could.
When Edith was sixteen, she and her family were sent to Auschwitz. She is a psychologist and wrote this book when she was 92. Here is what she wrote:
鈥淚 earned my doctorate in clinical psychology in 1978 and I鈥檝e been treating patients in a therapeutic setting for over forty years. I have worked with combat veterans and survivors of sexual assault; students, civic leaders, and CEOs; people battling addiction and those struggling with anxiety and depression; couples grappling with resentment and those longing to rekindle intimacy; parents and children learning how to live together and those discovering how to live apart. As a psychologist; as a mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother; as an observer of my own and others鈥� behavior; and as an Auschwitz survivor, I am here to tell you that the worst prison is not the one the Nazis put me in. The worst prison is the one I built for myself.鈥�
Here are some more of my favorite quotes:
Anger
鈥淚鈥檓 very selective about who鈥檚 going to get my anger, because when I鈥檓 angry, I鈥檓 the one who suffers.鈥�
Change
鈥淚 can. I want. I鈥檓 willing. For one day, keep track of every time you say I can鈥檛, I need, I should, and I鈥檓 trying. 鈥業 can鈥檛鈥� means I won鈥檛. 鈥業 need鈥� and 鈥業 should鈥� mean I鈥檓 abdicating my freedom of choice. And 鈥業鈥檓 trying鈥� is lying. Eliminate this language from your vocabulary. You can鈥檛 let go of something unless you replace it with something else. Replace the language of fear with something else: I can, I want, I鈥檓 willing, I choose, I am. Change is synonymous with growth. Do one thing differently today than you did yesterday. If you always drive the same way to work, take a different route鈥攐r ride your bike or take a bus. If you鈥檙e usually too rushed or preoccupied to chat with the checker at the grocery store, try making eye contact and conversation. If your family is usually too busy to eat together, try sitting down to a meal together without the TV on or cell phones at the table. These small steps might seem inconsequential, but they actually train your brain to know that you鈥檙e capable of change, that nothing is locked in stone, that your choices and possibilities are endless. And getting curious about your life helps turn your anxiety into excitement. You don鈥檛 have to stay where you are, how you are, doing what you鈥檙e doing. Mix things up. You鈥檙e not stuck.鈥�
Curiosity
鈥淐uriosity is vital. It鈥檚 what allows us to risk. When we鈥檙e full of fear, we鈥檙e living in a past that already happened, or a future that hasn鈥檛 arrived. When we鈥檙e curious, we鈥檙e here in the present, eager to discover what鈥檚 going to happen next. It鈥檚 better to risk and grow, and maybe fail, than to remain imprisoned, never knowing what could have been.鈥�
Feelings
鈥溾€� as long as you鈥檙e avoiding your feelings, you鈥檙e denying reality. And if you try to shut something out and say, 鈥業 don鈥檛 want to think about it,鈥� I guarantee that you鈥檙e going to think about it. So invite the feeling in, sit down with it, keep it company. And then decide how long you鈥檙e going to hold on to it. Because you鈥檙e not a fragile little somebody. It鈥檚 good to face every reality. To stop fighting and hiding. To remember that a feeling is just a feeling鈥攊t鈥檚 not your identity.鈥�
Forgiveness
鈥淎nother misconception about forgiveness is that the way to make peace with someone who has harmed us is to say, 鈥業鈥檓 done with her.鈥� It doesn鈥檛 work that way. It鈥檚 not about cutting someone out. It鈥檚 about letting go. As long as you say you can鈥檛 forgive someone, you鈥檙e spending energy being against rather than being for yourself and the life you deserve. To forgive isn鈥檛 to give someone permission to keep hurting you. It鈥檚 not okay that you were harmed. But it鈥檚 already done. No one but you can heal the wound. This kind of release doesn鈥檛 come easily. It鈥檚 not an overnight process. And lots of things get in the way. A desire for justice, or revenge, an apology, even just acknowledgment.鈥�
Grief and Loss
鈥淭o heal doesn鈥檛 mean to get over it, but it does mean that we are able to be wounded and whole, to find happiness and fulfillment in our lives despite our loss.鈥�
Hope
鈥淒on鈥檛 cover garlic with chocolate. It鈥檚 tempting to confuse hope with idealism, but idealism is just another form of denial, a way of evading a true confrontation with suffering. Resiliency and freedom don鈥檛 come from pretending away our pain. Listen to the way you talk about a hard or hurtful situation. It鈥檚 okay. It鈥檚 not that bad. Others have it so much worse. I don鈥檛 have anything to complain about. Everything will work out in the end. No pain, no glory! The next time you hear yourself using the language of minimization, delusion, or denial, try replacing the words with: 鈥業t hurts. And it鈥檚 temporary.鈥� Remind yourself, 鈥業鈥檝e survived pain before.鈥欌€�
Language
鈥淭o free yourself from the prison, pay attention to your language. Listen for the I can鈥檛, the I鈥檓 trying, the I need to, and then see if you can replace these imprisoning phrases with something else: I can, I want, I鈥檓 willing, I choose. This is the language that empowers us to change.鈥�
Life is a Gift
鈥淟ife 鈥� even with its inevitable trauma, pain, grief, misery, and death 鈥� is a gift. A gift we sabotage when we imprison ourselves in our fears of punishment, failure, and abandonment; in our need for approval; in shame and blame; in superiority and inferiority; in our need for power and control. To celebrate the gift of life is to find the gift in everything that happens, even the parts that are difficult, that we鈥檙e not sure we can survive. To celebrate life, period. To live with joy, love, and passion.鈥�
Marriage
鈥溾€橸ou鈥檙e either contributing to the relationship or you鈥檙e contaminating it,鈥� I said. 鈥楬ow do each of you contaminate the marriage?鈥欌€�
Practicing Happiness
鈥淎nything we practice, we become better at. Spend at least five minutes every day savoring pleasant sensations: the first sip of coffee in the morning, the feel of warm sun on your skin or a hug from someone you love, the sound of laughter or rain on the roof, the smell of baking bread. Take time to notice and experience joy. Work, love, play. Make a chart that shows your waking hours each day of the week. Label the time you spend every day working, loving, and playing. (Some activities might fit in more than one category; if so, use all the labels that apply.) Then add up the total hours you spend working, loving, and playing in a typical week. Are the three categories roughly in balance? How could you structure your days differently so you do more of whatever is currently receiving the least of your time? Show yourself some love. Reflect on a time within the last week when someone demanded something of you or asked you for a favor. How did you respond? Was your response out of habit? Necessity? Desire? How did your response feel in your body? Was your response good for you? Now reflect on a time within the last week when you asked鈥攐r wanted to ask鈥攕omeone for help. What did you say? How did it work out? Was your response good for you? What can you do today to be self-ish鈥攖o show yourself love and care?鈥�
Thoughts versus Feelings
鈥淲hen we鈥檙e in the habit of denying our feelings, it can be hard even to identify what we鈥檙e feeling, much less face it, express it, and finally release it. One way we get stuck is by confusing thoughts with feelings. I鈥檓 surprised how often I hear people say things like, 鈥業 feel I should head downtown this afternoon and run a few errands,鈥� or, 鈥業 feel like highlights would really brighten your eyes.鈥� These aren鈥檛 feelings! They鈥檙e thoughts. Ideas. Plans. Feelings are energy. With feelings there鈥檚 no way out but through. We have to be with them. It takes so much courage to be, without having to do anything about anything鈥攖o just simply be.鈥�
Victimhood
鈥淪ometimes it just takes one sentence to point the way out of victimhood: Is it good for me?鈥�
Your Mind
鈥淲hen hopelessness overwhelmed me, I鈥檇 think of what my mother had told me in the dark, crowded cattle car on our way to prison: 鈥榃e don鈥檛 know where we鈥檙e going. We don鈥檛 know what鈥檚 going to happen. Just remember, no one can take away what you鈥檝e put in your mind.鈥欌€�
January 21, 2021
"Lo contrario a la depresi贸n es la expresi贸n".
Esa frase me hizo mucho sentido mientras estoy en terapia y con medicamentos, especialmente porque mi depresi贸n est谩 muy ligada a no ser yo misma, a no atreverme a expresar y soltar.
El libro es maravilloso. Aunque es un libro de autoayuda, lleno de consejos, no se siente que te den mil cachetadas de realidad, sino mil abracitos de comprensi贸n, reflexi贸n y calidez. Desde varias experiencias de diferentes personas (y de ella misma) va mostrando las c谩rceles que nos autoimponemos, los miedos que aprendemos, la culpa que sentimos. Admito que los primeros cap铆tulos conectaron m谩s conmigo que los 煤ltimos, pero realmente es un buen libro por si se sienten algo perdidos o desean reforzar terapia (al menos as铆 lo sent铆).
Esa frase me hizo mucho sentido mientras estoy en terapia y con medicamentos, especialmente porque mi depresi贸n est谩 muy ligada a no ser yo misma, a no atreverme a expresar y soltar.
El libro es maravilloso. Aunque es un libro de autoayuda, lleno de consejos, no se siente que te den mil cachetadas de realidad, sino mil abracitos de comprensi贸n, reflexi贸n y calidez. Desde varias experiencias de diferentes personas (y de ella misma) va mostrando las c谩rceles que nos autoimponemos, los miedos que aprendemos, la culpa que sentimos. Admito que los primeros cap铆tulos conectaron m谩s conmigo que los 煤ltimos, pero realmente es un buen libro por si se sienten algo perdidos o desean reforzar terapia (al menos as铆 lo sent铆).
November 20, 2020
Edith Eger is a Holocaust survivor, American psychologist, and specialist in the treatment of PTSD. The Gift is the eagerly awaited follow-up and companion piece to The Choice, her internationally acclaimed memoirs. Endorsed by Oprah, these '12 Lessons to Save Your Life鈥� have more in common with the saccharine sentimentality of Law of Attraction nonsense like The Secret than the more serious work of other Holocaust survivors. Full as it is of nuggets like: 鈥淚t鈥檚 not what happens to us that matters most, it鈥檚 what we do with our experiences.鈥� 鈥淟oving yourself is the only foundation for wholeness, health, and joy. So, fall in love with yourself!" and 鈥淚f you鈥檙e perfectionistic, you鈥檙e competing with God.鈥� You could be reading any other self-help book or Oprah's book club title. Remembering the Holocaust and recording survivor stories is incredibly important. You'd do well to start with Edith Eger's memoirs rather than this title which is an adjunct to that work. For a clear-eyed account of someone's else's personal experiences read Elie Wiesel's devastating Night Trilogy (Night, Dawn, and Day) and for psychological insights and life-affirming motifs read Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl.
October 24, 2020
Edith Eger鈥檚 second book, The Gift:12 Lessons to Save Your Life was a work of love, hope, searching and choices. It was so well written using relatable stories from her own life and from some of her patients. The stories she shared had the propose to inspire and teach. Edith Eger felt that those darkest times in life could be turned around into something positive. Everyone was given a choice when faced with death, sadness, loss, failure, anxiety, depression or any other feelings. One could choose to embrace those feelings and give in to them or learn to overcome those feelings and live every second of life as a precious gift. In Eger鈥檚 words, 鈥� Life-even with its inevitable trauma, pain, grief, misery, and death-is a gift. A gift we sabotage when we imprison ourselves in our fears of punishment, failure, and abandonment; in our need for approval; in shame and blame; in superiority and inferiority; in our need for power and control. To celebrate the gift of life is to find the gift in everything that happens, even the parts that are difficult, that we鈥檙e not sure we can survive. To celebrate life, period. To live with joy, love and passion.鈥�
Edith Eger embraced those lessons and beliefs as a young girl and they helped her survive Auschwitz. Today she continues to impart those very same lessons she learned as a young girl to encourage her patients to make good choices and choose to celebrate life. I am so glad I got to read Edith Eger鈥檚 second book. She is a woman that has accomplished so much and has given back so much to others. I admire and respect her enormously. The Choice was an exceptional book in my opinion. It was in a category of its own but The Gift was an amazing book with clear messages. I highly recommend this book.
Edith Eger embraced those lessons and beliefs as a young girl and they helped her survive Auschwitz. Today she continues to impart those very same lessons she learned as a young girl to encourage her patients to make good choices and choose to celebrate life. I am so glad I got to read Edith Eger鈥檚 second book. She is a woman that has accomplished so much and has given back so much to others. I admire and respect her enormously. The Choice was an exceptional book in my opinion. It was in a category of its own but The Gift was an amazing book with clear messages. I highly recommend this book.
August 31, 2020
Edith Eger brings her own life experiences as a survivor of Auschwit.z. We get some great tips in this intriguing story. It's full of wisdom and compassion. The book is well written and easy to understand. There's stories from other survivors of various events. Edith has lots life experiences. It teaches us new techniques to change how we are feeling/reacting/behaving. Everybody could learn something from reading this well written book about mental health and self care.
I would like to thank #NetGalley, #RandomHouseUK #EburyPublishing and the author #EdithEger for my ARC in exchange for an honest review.
I would like to thank #NetGalley, #RandomHouseUK #EburyPublishing and the author #EdithEger for my ARC in exchange for an honest review.
June 28, 2022
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August 11, 2024
Twee jaar geleden begon ik dit boek te lezen. Toen heb ik het een tijdje weg gelegd, om de inhoud ook even tijd te geven om te landen. Want dit is niet zomaar een verhaal. Dit is het verhaal van de Hongaars Joodse Edith Eger die naast gevierd therapeut ook een holocaustoverlever is.
Deze bijzondere vrouw deelt haar levenslessen in dit boek 鈥楬et Geschenk鈥�. Je leert om je slechtste momenten te zien als je beste leermeester, staat er zo mooi geschreven op de achterkant.
Edith Eger wist Auschwitz niet alleen te overleven. Ze wist daarna tot bloei te komen en heeft met haar leven (nog steeds) een grote impact gemaakt.
Mooie passage:
鈥淢ijn leidinggevende kwam naar me toe en zei: 鈥楨die, je moet je doctoraat halen.鈥�
Ik lachte. 鈥楾egen de tijd dat ik een doctoraat heb, ben ik vijftig.鈥� Zei ik.
鈥榃el of geen doctoraat, vijftig word je toch.鈥�
Dat waren de slimste acht woorden die iemand ooit tegen me had gezegd. Lieverd, je wordt vijftig ongeacht wat je doet; of dertig of zestig of negentig. Dus je kunt net zo goed een risico nemen. Doe iets wat je nog nooit heb gedaan. Verandering is synoniem aan groei.鈥�
Dit is een vrouw om naar te luisteren. Wat een geschenk. Wat een inspiratie. 5 sterren!
Deze bijzondere vrouw deelt haar levenslessen in dit boek 鈥楬et Geschenk鈥�. Je leert om je slechtste momenten te zien als je beste leermeester, staat er zo mooi geschreven op de achterkant.
Edith Eger wist Auschwitz niet alleen te overleven. Ze wist daarna tot bloei te komen en heeft met haar leven (nog steeds) een grote impact gemaakt.
Mooie passage:
鈥淢ijn leidinggevende kwam naar me toe en zei: 鈥楨die, je moet je doctoraat halen.鈥�
Ik lachte. 鈥楾egen de tijd dat ik een doctoraat heb, ben ik vijftig.鈥� Zei ik.
鈥榃el of geen doctoraat, vijftig word je toch.鈥�
Dat waren de slimste acht woorden die iemand ooit tegen me had gezegd. Lieverd, je wordt vijftig ongeacht wat je doet; of dertig of zestig of negentig. Dus je kunt net zo goed een risico nemen. Doe iets wat je nog nooit heb gedaan. Verandering is synoniem aan groei.鈥�
Dit is een vrouw om naar te luisteren. Wat een geschenk. Wat een inspiratie. 5 sterren!
July 12, 2020
So much of this book resonated with me! Although I have a very different story to Dr Eger's, I also recognised that I had a choice in how I respond to what was done to me and how I want to live my life.
I refused to be identified by what had happened to me (gang raped at 13) and chose to take back my power by living my life as well as I can.
I think this will be a great self help guide to anyone that is struggling or feels stuck in life. She offers such wisdom not only through her professional achievements but her incredible story of survival
"Even a Nazi can be a messenger of God. This boy was my best teacher, guiding me to the choice I always have to replace judgement with compassion - to recognise our shared humanity and practice love"
"To celebrate the gift of life is to find the gift in everything that happens, even the parts that are difficult, that we're not sure we can survive. To celebrate ;life, period. To Live with joy, love and passion"
I refused to be identified by what had happened to me (gang raped at 13) and chose to take back my power by living my life as well as I can.
I think this will be a great self help guide to anyone that is struggling or feels stuck in life. She offers such wisdom not only through her professional achievements but her incredible story of survival
"Even a Nazi can be a messenger of God. This boy was my best teacher, guiding me to the choice I always have to replace judgement with compassion - to recognise our shared humanity and practice love"
"To celebrate the gift of life is to find the gift in everything that happens, even the parts that are difficult, that we're not sure we can survive. To celebrate ;life, period. To Live with joy, love and passion"
June 19, 2021
I wanted to like this book, but I didn鈥檛. Maybe listening to it as an audiobook caused the author鈥檚 repeated mention of herself and her family to be more irritating? I felt, more than workable info, this book was a lengthy recounting of her own story with a few pieces of corny advice thrown in. At one point, she literally states 鈥淛ust because someone calls you a poopyhead doesn鈥檛 mean you鈥檝e got to call them a poopyhead,鈥� and, sadly, the bulk of the other advice was similarly trite.
October 12, 2021
Dr. Edith Eva Eger vine s膬 ne aduc膬 un dar, 葯i aume 鈥濪arul. 12 lec葲ii care 卯葲i vor salva via葲a鈥�, o carte 卯n care 卯葯i g膬se葯te ecoul o alt膬 oper膬 de-a autoarei,鈥濧legerea鈥�, o carte superb膬 de memorii despre supravie葲uire 卯n lag膬rele naziste 葯i despre puterea de confruntare cu propriile frici 葯i nelini葯ti.
Pentru mul葲i cititori aceast膬 carte ar putea pica la 葲anc pentru st膬ri de dezn膬dejde 葯i pierdere de sine. Dr. Eger ne ofer膬 situa葲ii exacte, ne puncteaz膬 problemele existente 葯i ne d膬ruie葯te solu葲ii 葯i exerci葲ii pentru fiecare dintre cazuri 卯n parte. Da, e plin膬 de durere 葯i groaz膬, dar nu se putea altfel. Dac膬 vrei s膬 g膬se葯ti dezlegarea unui conflict, trebuie s膬 vezi amploarea cazului, cu bune 葯i rele.
Scris膬 profesional, onest, 卯n葲elept, autoarea ne-a oferit cartea ca pe o profilaxie a violen葲ei, abuzului 葯i a presiunii de orice fel.
Mul葲i cititori pot vedea abisul propriei vie葲i v膬z芒nd scris膬 pe h芒rtie istoria dramei pe care o tr膬iesc. Citind, po葲i vedea clar devierea inuman膬 卯n care te afli, iar sfaturile 葯i 卯ncuraj膬rile pe care le g膬se葯ti aici te pot ajuta s膬-i pui cap膬t sau s膬 iei m膬suri pentru a schimba cursul situa葲iei 卯n care te-ai pomenit.
Nu-mi pot imagina co葯marul pe care l-a tr膬it dna Eger la Auschwitz, 卯n acel iad pe p膬m芒nt, care i-a r膬pit familia, sufletul, propria persoan膬, 卯ns膬 d-ei a ales, prin propriul exemplu, s膬 ne 卯nve葲e lec葲iile pe care le putem lua drept pova葲膬, iar cele 12 exemple pe care ni le aduce se multiplic膬 dac膬 citim bine printre r芒nduri.
De葯i co葯marul din lag膬r a luat sf芒r葯it, trauma trecutului e cea care a b芒ntuit-o mult timp dup膬. D-ei, acum liber膬, a r膬mas 卯nc膬 acea prizonier膬 sleit膬, 卯nfrigurat膬, orfan膬 de drepturi. Propria traum膬 a determinat-o s-o ia pe drumul t膬m膬duirii durerii altora, ea 卯ns膬葯i s膬 ne fie, prin terapie 葯i scris, alinarea de care a fost lipsit膬 葯i care a l膬sat-o cu sechele.
鈥濪arul鈥� e o carte terapeutic膬, e m芒na care d膬 jos v膬lul de pe ochi 葯i ne pune fa葲膬 卯n fa葲膬 cu fricile care a葯teapt膬 s膬 ne doboare. 鈥濪arul鈥� ne face s膬 卯n葲elegem c膬 suferin葲a e inevitabil膬 葯i universal膬, 葯i c膬 libertatea autentic膬 葲ine de felul cum 卯i 葲inem piept.
Nu ve葲i g膬si o carte motiva葲ional膬 mediocr膬 ce v膬 va elibera 卯n doi pa葯i 葯i trei mi葯c膬ri de toate problemele 葯i durerile printr-o list膬 de 鈥瀋e s膬 faci鈥� 葯i 鈥瀋e s膬 nu faci鈥�. E o carte-exerci葲iu, un ghid cu exemple 葯i solu葲ii din via葲a autoarei 葯i din via葲a altor oameni care ne fac s膬 palp膬m bine terenul problemei, care nu ne va concentra pe durere, fric膬 葯i traum膬, ci pe consecin葲e, pe sine, pe aptitudinile pe care le putem 卯nsu葯i 卯nv膬葲芒nd s膬 葲inem piept provoc膬rilor.
鈥濪arul鈥� e cartea care merit膬 aten葲ia fiec膬ruia. Nimic nou, s-ar p膬rea, dar starea de spirit pe care o poart膬 e foarte necesar膬 pentru a face fa葲膬 haosului zilnic. Cartea v膬 face s膬 ridica葲i capul seme葲, s膬 privi葲i 卯n zare 葯i s膬 confrunta葲i via葲a cu de toate cu care vine la pachet, 葯i bune 葯i rele, cu pl膬cute 葯i mai pu葲in.
Pentru mul葲i cititori aceast膬 carte ar putea pica la 葲anc pentru st膬ri de dezn膬dejde 葯i pierdere de sine. Dr. Eger ne ofer膬 situa葲ii exacte, ne puncteaz膬 problemele existente 葯i ne d膬ruie葯te solu葲ii 葯i exerci葲ii pentru fiecare dintre cazuri 卯n parte. Da, e plin膬 de durere 葯i groaz膬, dar nu se putea altfel. Dac膬 vrei s膬 g膬se葯ti dezlegarea unui conflict, trebuie s膬 vezi amploarea cazului, cu bune 葯i rele.
Scris膬 profesional, onest, 卯n葲elept, autoarea ne-a oferit cartea ca pe o profilaxie a violen葲ei, abuzului 葯i a presiunii de orice fel.
Mul葲i cititori pot vedea abisul propriei vie葲i v膬z芒nd scris膬 pe h芒rtie istoria dramei pe care o tr膬iesc. Citind, po葲i vedea clar devierea inuman膬 卯n care te afli, iar sfaturile 葯i 卯ncuraj膬rile pe care le g膬se葯ti aici te pot ajuta s膬-i pui cap膬t sau s膬 iei m膬suri pentru a schimba cursul situa葲iei 卯n care te-ai pomenit.
Nu-mi pot imagina co葯marul pe care l-a tr膬it dna Eger la Auschwitz, 卯n acel iad pe p膬m芒nt, care i-a r膬pit familia, sufletul, propria persoan膬, 卯ns膬 d-ei a ales, prin propriul exemplu, s膬 ne 卯nve葲e lec葲iile pe care le putem lua drept pova葲膬, iar cele 12 exemple pe care ni le aduce se multiplic膬 dac膬 citim bine printre r芒nduri.
De葯i co葯marul din lag膬r a luat sf芒r葯it, trauma trecutului e cea care a b芒ntuit-o mult timp dup膬. D-ei, acum liber膬, a r膬mas 卯nc膬 acea prizonier膬 sleit膬, 卯nfrigurat膬, orfan膬 de drepturi. Propria traum膬 a determinat-o s-o ia pe drumul t膬m膬duirii durerii altora, ea 卯ns膬葯i s膬 ne fie, prin terapie 葯i scris, alinarea de care a fost lipsit膬 葯i care a l膬sat-o cu sechele.
鈥濪arul鈥� e o carte terapeutic膬, e m芒na care d膬 jos v膬lul de pe ochi 葯i ne pune fa葲膬 卯n fa葲膬 cu fricile care a葯teapt膬 s膬 ne doboare. 鈥濪arul鈥� ne face s膬 卯n葲elegem c膬 suferin葲a e inevitabil膬 葯i universal膬, 葯i c膬 libertatea autentic膬 葲ine de felul cum 卯i 葲inem piept.
Nu ve葲i g膬si o carte motiva葲ional膬 mediocr膬 ce v膬 va elibera 卯n doi pa葯i 葯i trei mi葯c膬ri de toate problemele 葯i durerile printr-o list膬 de 鈥瀋e s膬 faci鈥� 葯i 鈥瀋e s膬 nu faci鈥�. E o carte-exerci葲iu, un ghid cu exemple 葯i solu葲ii din via葲a autoarei 葯i din via葲a altor oameni care ne fac s膬 palp膬m bine terenul problemei, care nu ne va concentra pe durere, fric膬 葯i traum膬, ci pe consecin葲e, pe sine, pe aptitudinile pe care le putem 卯nsu葯i 卯nv膬葲芒nd s膬 葲inem piept provoc膬rilor.
鈥濪arul鈥� e cartea care merit膬 aten葲ia fiec膬ruia. Nimic nou, s-ar p膬rea, dar starea de spirit pe care o poart膬 e foarte necesar膬 pentru a face fa葲膬 haosului zilnic. Cartea v膬 face s膬 ridica葲i capul seme葲, s膬 privi葲i 卯n zare 葯i s膬 confrunta葲i via葲a cu de toate cu care vine la pachet, 葯i bune 葯i rele, cu pl膬cute 葯i mai pu葲in.
September 3, 2020
This practical and inspirational guide to healing from the award-winning, New York Times bestselling author of The Choice shows us how to stop destructive patterns and imprisoning thoughts to find freedom and enjoy life. After the success of Edith Eger鈥檚 powerful first book The Choice which tells the story of her survival in the concentration camps, her escape, healing, and journey to freedom, thousands of people around the world wrote to Eger asking her to pen a how-to book on healing from pain and past experiences. The Gift is that book. Eger expands on her message of healing and provides a hands-on guide that gently encourages us to change the thoughts and behaviors that may be keeping us imprisoned in the past. Eger explains that the worst prison she experienced is not the prison that Nazis put her in but the one she created for herself, the prison within her own mind. She describes the twelve most pervasive imprisoning beliefs she has known鈥攊ncluding fear, grief, anger, secrets, stress, guilt, shame, and avoidance鈥攁nd the tools she has discovered to deal with these universal challenges.
Accompanied by stories from Eger鈥檚 own life and the lives of her patients each chapter includes thought-provoking questions and takeaways. Filled with empathy, insight, and humor, The Gift captures the vulnerability and common challenges we all face and provides encouragement and advice for breaking out of our personal prisons to find healing and enjoy life. It is an inspirational, moving and hopeful book which asks us to confront our truths and actively work to move forward from them. I found the part that states that tough and trying times are the times that teach you the most in life was a great way of turning a negative incident into a positive learning experience which is a really helpful way to deal with what life throws your way. Eger鈥檚 own past reminds us that no matter how large or small the problem is that you have faced or are currently facing, there is still hope for a bright and fulfilling future. This is a book that should, and deserves to, be read widely. A book simply oozing with compassion, empathy and wisdom. Highly recommended. Many thanks to Rider for an ARC.
Accompanied by stories from Eger鈥檚 own life and the lives of her patients each chapter includes thought-provoking questions and takeaways. Filled with empathy, insight, and humor, The Gift captures the vulnerability and common challenges we all face and provides encouragement and advice for breaking out of our personal prisons to find healing and enjoy life. It is an inspirational, moving and hopeful book which asks us to confront our truths and actively work to move forward from them. I found the part that states that tough and trying times are the times that teach you the most in life was a great way of turning a negative incident into a positive learning experience which is a really helpful way to deal with what life throws your way. Eger鈥檚 own past reminds us that no matter how large or small the problem is that you have faced or are currently facing, there is still hope for a bright and fulfilling future. This is a book that should, and deserves to, be read widely. A book simply oozing with compassion, empathy and wisdom. Highly recommended. Many thanks to Rider for an ARC.
March 17, 2022
Sin duda est谩 se帽ora es una de mis grandes 铆dolas. Un libro que me ha emocionado y hecho aprender much铆simo sobre la mente humana y ciertamente me ha ayudado en un momento dif铆cil a conocerme y a saber gestionar muchas de mis emociones y a hacerme y responderme grandes cuestiones de mi vida.
Un libro que no s贸lo ten茅is que leer sino releer, o al menos eso har茅 yo siempre que pueda para recordarme las grandes ense帽anzas que esta valiente mujer nos ha regalado a trav茅s de este maravilloso libro.
Mil gracias a la autora por compartir sus aprendizajes y por ayudar cada d铆a a tanta gente. Bravo por ella, ojal谩 mucha gente fuese solo la cuarta parte de lo que ella demuestra en este libro.
Un libro que no s贸lo ten茅is que leer sino releer, o al menos eso har茅 yo siempre que pueda para recordarme las grandes ense帽anzas que esta valiente mujer nos ha regalado a trav茅s de este maravilloso libro.
Mil gracias a la autora por compartir sus aprendizajes y por ayudar cada d铆a a tanta gente. Bravo por ella, ojal谩 mucha gente fuese solo la cuarta parte de lo que ella demuestra en este libro.
April 13, 2021
Just skip this one especially if you have red The Choice by Edith Eger, the same ideas are receicled here also. If you haven't red then skip this one and read the choice! All respect for the author that she was able to write this book at 92 and it's nice to hear her story but otherwise is a waste of time. It's not a terrible book don't get me wrong, it's a nice easy read just a total waste of time :)
April 15, 2022
celebrate the GIFT of life
Nesen latvie拧u valod膩 izdota Ed墨tes Egeres gr膩mata 芦IZV膾LE禄 (Zvaigzne ABC), 拧墨 gr膩mata 芦D膧VANA禄 ir uzrakst墨ta p膿c t膩s, k膩 br墨ni拧姆墨gs un j膿gpilns papildin膩jums, ar daudziem skaidrojumiem emocij膩m un atbild膿m uz jaut膩jumiem, kuri palika un rad膩s p膿c IZV膾LES izlas墨拧anas.
Ed墨te Egere ir iedvesmojo拧a: izdz墨vot Au拧vicas holokausta n膩ves nometn膿 un ar savu dz墨ves pieredzi, svin膿t un iedro拧in膩t las墨t膩ju un klaus墨t膩ju milijoniem dz墨ves vis膩 pasaul膿!
Nesen latvie拧u valod膩 izdota Ed墨tes Egeres gr膩mata 芦IZV膾LE禄 (Zvaigzne ABC), 拧墨 gr膩mata 芦D膧VANA禄 ir uzrakst墨ta p膿c t膩s, k膩 br墨ni拧姆墨gs un j膿gpilns papildin膩jums, ar daudziem skaidrojumiem emocij膩m un atbild膿m uz jaut膩jumiem, kuri palika un rad膩s p膿c IZV膾LES izlas墨拧anas.
Ed墨te Egere ir iedvesmojo拧a: izdz墨vot Au拧vicas holokausta n膩ves nometn膿 un ar savu dz墨ves pieredzi, svin膿t un iedro拧in膩t las墨t膩ju un klaus墨t膩ju milijoniem dz墨ves vis膩 pasaul膿!
August 8, 2021
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些械 蟹邪斜械谢械卸懈褌械, 褔械 褑懈褌邪褌懈褌械, 泻芯懈褌芯 褋褗屑 锌芯屑械褋褌懈谢 褌褍泻, 锌褉懈褋褗褋褌胁邪褌 懈 薪邪 蟹邪写薪邪褌邪 泻芯褉懈褑邪 鈥� 褉械褕懈褏, 褔械 褋邪屑邪褌邪 袝谐械褉 薪邪泄-写芯斜褉械 屑芯卸械 写邪 芯锌懈褕械 褋胁芯褟 锌褗褌 懈 泻邪泻 褌芯泄 械 褟 械 芯褌胁械谢 写芯 褌芯胁邪 写邪 锌芯屑邪谐邪 薪邪 斜械蟹斜褉芯泄 褏芯褉邪 懈 胁 锌褉械泻谢芯薪薪邪褌邪 褋懈 胁褗蟹褉邪褋褌 写邪 褋械 褉邪写胁邪 薪邪 斜械蟹屑械褉薪芯 褍胁邪卸械薪懈械 胁 褋胁械褌邪 薪械 锌褉芯褋褌芯 泻邪褌芯 芯褑械谢械薪械褑 芯褌 泻芯薪褑谢邪谐械褉, 薪芯 懈 泻邪褌芯 褔芯胁械泻, 芯褌写邪写械薪 薪邪 褌芯胁邪 写邪 锌芯屑邪谐邪 薪邪 写褉褍谐懈褌械 褋 胁褋懈褔泻芯, 泻芯械褌芯 蟹薪邪械 懈 泻芯械褌芯 械 锌褉械卸懈胁褟谢邪. 袙 褋胁芯褟褌邪 泻薪懈谐邪 褌褟 谐芯胁芯褉懈 蟹邪 写胁邪薪邪写械褋械褌 屑械薪褌邪谢薪懈 蟹邪褌胁芯褉邪, 泻芯懈褌芯 褋邪 褍薪懈胁械褉褋邪谢薪懈 蟹邪 褏芯褉邪褌邪 锌芯 褑械谢懈褟 褋胁褟褌, 懈 芯褋胁芯斜芯卸写邪胁邪薪械褌芯 芯褌 泻芯懈褌芯 械 薪褍卸薪芯:
CIELA Books
些械 蟹邪斜械谢械卸懈褌械, 褔械 褑懈褌邪褌懈褌械, 泻芯懈褌芯 褋褗屑 锌芯屑械褋褌懈谢 褌褍泻, 锌褉懈褋褗褋褌胁邪褌 懈 薪邪 蟹邪写薪邪褌邪 泻芯褉懈褑邪 鈥� 褉械褕懈褏, 褔械 褋邪屑邪褌邪 袝谐械褉 薪邪泄-写芯斜褉械 屑芯卸械 写邪 芯锌懈褕械 褋胁芯褟 锌褗褌 懈 泻邪泻 褌芯泄 械 褟 械 芯褌胁械谢 写芯 褌芯胁邪 写邪 锌芯屑邪谐邪 薪邪 斜械蟹斜褉芯泄 褏芯褉邪 懈 胁 锌褉械泻谢芯薪薪邪褌邪 褋懈 胁褗蟹褉邪褋褌 写邪 褋械 褉邪写胁邪 薪邪 斜械蟹屑械褉薪芯 褍胁邪卸械薪懈械 胁 褋胁械褌邪 薪械 锌褉芯褋褌芯 泻邪褌芯 芯褑械谢械薪械褑 芯褌 泻芯薪褑谢邪谐械褉, 薪芯 懈 泻邪褌芯 褔芯胁械泻, 芯褌写邪写械薪 薪邪 褌芯胁邪 写邪 锌芯屑邪谐邪 薪邪 写褉褍谐懈褌械 褋 胁褋懈褔泻芯, 泻芯械褌芯 蟹薪邪械 懈 泻芯械褌芯 械 锌褉械卸懈胁褟谢邪. 袙 褋胁芯褟褌邪 泻薪懈谐邪 褌褟 谐芯胁芯褉懈 蟹邪 写胁邪薪邪写械褋械褌 屑械薪褌邪谢薪懈 蟹邪褌胁芯褉邪, 泻芯懈褌芯 褋邪 褍薪懈胁械褉褋邪谢薪懈 蟹邪 褏芯褉邪褌邪 锌芯 褑械谢懈褟 褋胁褟褌, 懈 芯褋胁芯斜芯卸写邪胁邪薪械褌芯 芯褌 泻芯懈褌芯 械 薪褍卸薪芯:
CIELA Books
June 13, 2020
Wow, this book will change your life and save you a fortune in therapy fees.
Everyone needs to read this book.
It鈥檚 a game charger!!!
Everyone needs to read this book.
It鈥檚 a game charger!!!
May 2, 2021
乇賷賰賵賲賳丿丿 亘卮丿丞 賱丕賷 丨丿 賲乇 亘氐丿賲丞 賲卮 毓丕乇賮 賷鬲噩丕賵夭賴丕 賵賱兀賷 丨丿 丨丕爻爻 兀賳賴 "賮賷賴 丨丕噩丞 睾賱胤" . 賱丕 丕毓鬲賯丿 兀賳 賮賷賴 丨丿 賲卮 賲丨鬲丕噩 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿丞
January 2, 2024
Conoc铆 la experiencia e historia de Edith Eger a trav茅s de "La Bailarina de Auschwitz" (libro que recomiendo bastante). Escog铆 este por leer m谩s sobre ella y es que me parece casi obligado saber m谩s sobre la autora y de todo su proceso de superaci贸n/psicol贸gico tras haber pasado por un campo de exterminio.
Para m铆 es la manera de leer este libro, no como si fuera un manual de autoayuda, aunque creo que puede parecerlo. Edith es brillante e inspiradora, de ah铆 mis 4*, pero solo por el riesgo de "confundir" la lectura en un manual de autopsicolog铆a, recomendar铆a mejor La Bailarina.
Para m铆 es la manera de leer este libro, no como si fuera un manual de autoayuda, aunque creo que puede parecerlo. Edith es brillante e inspiradora, de ah铆 mis 4*, pero solo por el riesgo de "confundir" la lectura en un manual de autopsicolog铆a, recomendar铆a mejor La Bailarina.
May 19, 2021
A true gift for the soul! A most read for everyone! A life-changer practical guide that reminds us that each and everyone of us has the choice of seeing the gift in everything and every situation!
- Our worst experiences can be our best teachers.
- It鈥檚 not what happens to us that matters most, it鈥檚 what we do with our experiences.
- The most damaging prison is in our mind and the key is in our pocket.
- Suffering is universal, victimhood is optional.
- What comes out of you doesn鈥檛 make you sick, what stays in there does.
- You can鈥檛 heal what you don鈥檛 feel.
-When is enough, enough.
- May you be more and more you every day.
- Time doesn鈥檛 heal. It鈥檚 what you do with the time.
- Love isn鈥檛 what you feel. It鈥檚 what you do.
- We鈥檙e all victims of victims. How far back do you want to go, searching for the source? It鈥檚 better to start with yourself.
- We鈥檙e born to love. We learn to hate. It鈥檚 up to us what we reach for.
- Forgivenes isn鈥檛 something we do for the person who鈥檚 hurt us. It鈥檚 something we do for ourselves, so we鈥檙e no longer victims or prisoners of the past, so we can stop carrying a burden that harbors nothing but pain.
- Our worst experiences can be our best teachers.
- It鈥檚 not what happens to us that matters most, it鈥檚 what we do with our experiences.
- The most damaging prison is in our mind and the key is in our pocket.
- Suffering is universal, victimhood is optional.
- What comes out of you doesn鈥檛 make you sick, what stays in there does.
- You can鈥檛 heal what you don鈥檛 feel.
-When is enough, enough.
- May you be more and more you every day.
- Time doesn鈥檛 heal. It鈥檚 what you do with the time.
- Love isn鈥檛 what you feel. It鈥檚 what you do.
- We鈥檙e all victims of victims. How far back do you want to go, searching for the source? It鈥檚 better to start with yourself.
- We鈥檙e born to love. We learn to hate. It鈥檚 up to us what we reach for.
- Forgivenes isn鈥檛 something we do for the person who鈥檚 hurt us. It鈥檚 something we do for ourselves, so we鈥檙e no longer victims or prisoners of the past, so we can stop carrying a burden that harbors nothing but pain.
October 24, 2020
Dr. Edith Eger, age 92 at the publishing of this book, is a worldwide treasure and an amazing human being. Earlier, I reviewed her first book, The Choice, (check it out here), which was an amazing journey into her experiences during the holocaust- her days at Auschwitz, near-death experience at the end of the war, and remarkable recovery and escape from communism to end up as a psychologist in Texas.
While The Choice was a chronicle of her life story and how she ended up in the psychology field, The Gift is her gift to the world on how to escape the prisons of grief and sorrow from someone who's done it. While Dr. Eger mentions her experiences with the Nazi's somewhat in this book, most of it is focused on the current day and what some of her current patients have taught her.
This book is divided into 12 brief chapters, each one devoted to different ways we imprison ourselves. She provides snippets from her life and the lives of others to illustrate how being imprisoned limits us and how to break free. Examples of prisons include victim-hood, avoidance, guilt, grief, resentment and judgment.
I cannot even begin to imagine the tragedy and sorrow that Dr. Eger witnessed, after watching her parents be sent to their deaths, having to dance before Josef Mengele, and enduring constant abuse at the hands of the Nazis. Nazi Germany was about as dysfunctional and evil as humanity has ever managed, and for someone to survive and thrive after experiencing that- they have to be an incredibly strong person.
One chapter is fittingly titled "The Nazi in You", and it's compelling reading today when alt-right militia groups are rearing their hatreds in cities all over America. Let go of judgment, Dr. Eger advises us, starting with yourself. We all have a Nazi within us and are capable of withholding compassion from others. Hatred is learned, and we need to learn from other's mistakes and release the past.
If anyone has a right to claim victimization, it's survivors of the Holocaust. But Dr. Eger says suffering is universal, victimhood is optional. She advises us to think like a survivor and ask what now instead of why me. Victimhood is just another prison we construct for ourselves in order to blame the past, and run away from responsibility for creating our future.
The opposite of depression is expression, Dr. Eger states more than once in this book. She advises all victims of bad luck, hate, or tragedy to feel the feelings so that they can heal. Everything is temporary. Don't avoid pain- let it come and then let it go.
At the end of each chapter Dr. Eger presents a helpful summary combined with concrete action steps, like "spend a day listening to your self-talk", or "visualize a person with whom you're experiencing conflict, and then envision this person's highest self." It almost makes you feel like she's right there in the room with you prodding you with advice on how to get moving and put this book into action in your life.
The 12 prisons make a nice metaphor for the structure of the book, and Dr. Eger is open and honest with her own experiences that kept her imprisoned and limited. At age 92, she's worked on herself extensively after surviving a war, moving to America, raising a family, and going back to school to get a PhD.
Hearing this strong little woman tell her story made me think my problems are tiny by comparison. If she could make it, so can all of us. Her close brushes with death and disaster have prompted her to get stronger and eventually help others. She as a lot in common with Victor Frankl and his book Man's Search For Meaning. With people today still doubting that the holocaust ever happened, and with fear, anxiety, and hatred raising their ugly heads as people look for others to blame for their problems, books like this are essential. I recommend both The Choice and The Gift very strongly.
10 Inspiring Quotes from Dr. Edith Eger's The Gift
- "Freedom means accepting our whole, imperfect selves and giving up on the need for perfection."
- "As long as you're avoiding your feelings, you're denying reality. Invite the feeling in, sit down with it, keep it company. And then decide how long you're going to hold onto it."
- "Would you like to be married to you?"
- "Healing can't happen as long as we're hiding or disowning parts of ourselves. The things we silence or cover up become like hostages in the basement, trying more and more desperately to get our attention."
- "There were two things I hoped she could let go of: guilt and worry. "Guilt is in the past," I told her. "Worry is in the future. The only thing you can change is right here in the present."
-鈥淲hen you turn the other cheek, you look at the same thing from a new perspective. You can鈥檛 change the situation, you can鈥檛 change someone else鈥檚 mind, but you can look at reality differently. You can accept and integrate multiple points of view. This flexibility鈥�
- 鈥淗ope isn鈥檛 the white paint we use to mask our suffering. It鈥檚 an investment in curiosity. A recognition that if we give up now, we鈥檒l never get to see what happens next.鈥�
- 鈥淏ut as long as you鈥檙e avoiding your feelings, you鈥檙e denying reality. And if you try to shut something out and say, 鈥淚 don鈥檛 want to think about it,鈥� I guarantee that you鈥檙e going to think about it. So invite the feeling in, sit down with it, keep it company. And then decide how long you鈥檙e going to hold on to it. Because you鈥檙e not a fragile little somebody. It鈥檚 good to face every reality. To stop fighting and hiding. To remember that a feeling is just a feeling鈥攊t鈥檚 not your identity.鈥�
- 鈥淣o more don鈥檛, don鈥檛, don鈥檛,鈥� I told her. 鈥淚 want to give you lots of dos. I do have a choice. I do have a life to live. I do have a role. I do live in the present. I do pay attention to what I鈥檓 focusing on, and it鈥檚 definitely in alignment with the goals I鈥檓 choosing: what gives me pleasure, what gives me joy.鈥�
- "I used to ask "Why me? But now I ask "Why not me?" Perhaps I survived so I can choose what to do with what happened, and how to be here now. So I can show others how to choose life, so my parents and all the innocents didn't die in vain. So I can turn all the lessons I learned in hell into a gift I offer you now: the opportunity to decide what kind of life you want to have, to discover the untapped potential lying in the shadows, to reveal and reclaim who you really are."
While The Choice was a chronicle of her life story and how she ended up in the psychology field, The Gift is her gift to the world on how to escape the prisons of grief and sorrow from someone who's done it. While Dr. Eger mentions her experiences with the Nazi's somewhat in this book, most of it is focused on the current day and what some of her current patients have taught her.
This book is divided into 12 brief chapters, each one devoted to different ways we imprison ourselves. She provides snippets from her life and the lives of others to illustrate how being imprisoned limits us and how to break free. Examples of prisons include victim-hood, avoidance, guilt, grief, resentment and judgment.
I cannot even begin to imagine the tragedy and sorrow that Dr. Eger witnessed, after watching her parents be sent to their deaths, having to dance before Josef Mengele, and enduring constant abuse at the hands of the Nazis. Nazi Germany was about as dysfunctional and evil as humanity has ever managed, and for someone to survive and thrive after experiencing that- they have to be an incredibly strong person.
One chapter is fittingly titled "The Nazi in You", and it's compelling reading today when alt-right militia groups are rearing their hatreds in cities all over America. Let go of judgment, Dr. Eger advises us, starting with yourself. We all have a Nazi within us and are capable of withholding compassion from others. Hatred is learned, and we need to learn from other's mistakes and release the past.
If anyone has a right to claim victimization, it's survivors of the Holocaust. But Dr. Eger says suffering is universal, victimhood is optional. She advises us to think like a survivor and ask what now instead of why me. Victimhood is just another prison we construct for ourselves in order to blame the past, and run away from responsibility for creating our future.
The opposite of depression is expression, Dr. Eger states more than once in this book. She advises all victims of bad luck, hate, or tragedy to feel the feelings so that they can heal. Everything is temporary. Don't avoid pain- let it come and then let it go.
At the end of each chapter Dr. Eger presents a helpful summary combined with concrete action steps, like "spend a day listening to your self-talk", or "visualize a person with whom you're experiencing conflict, and then envision this person's highest self." It almost makes you feel like she's right there in the room with you prodding you with advice on how to get moving and put this book into action in your life.
The 12 prisons make a nice metaphor for the structure of the book, and Dr. Eger is open and honest with her own experiences that kept her imprisoned and limited. At age 92, she's worked on herself extensively after surviving a war, moving to America, raising a family, and going back to school to get a PhD.
Hearing this strong little woman tell her story made me think my problems are tiny by comparison. If she could make it, so can all of us. Her close brushes with death and disaster have prompted her to get stronger and eventually help others. She as a lot in common with Victor Frankl and his book Man's Search For Meaning. With people today still doubting that the holocaust ever happened, and with fear, anxiety, and hatred raising their ugly heads as people look for others to blame for their problems, books like this are essential. I recommend both The Choice and The Gift very strongly.
10 Inspiring Quotes from Dr. Edith Eger's The Gift
- "Freedom means accepting our whole, imperfect selves and giving up on the need for perfection."
- "As long as you're avoiding your feelings, you're denying reality. Invite the feeling in, sit down with it, keep it company. And then decide how long you're going to hold onto it."
- "Would you like to be married to you?"
- "Healing can't happen as long as we're hiding or disowning parts of ourselves. The things we silence or cover up become like hostages in the basement, trying more and more desperately to get our attention."
- "There were two things I hoped she could let go of: guilt and worry. "Guilt is in the past," I told her. "Worry is in the future. The only thing you can change is right here in the present."
-鈥淲hen you turn the other cheek, you look at the same thing from a new perspective. You can鈥檛 change the situation, you can鈥檛 change someone else鈥檚 mind, but you can look at reality differently. You can accept and integrate multiple points of view. This flexibility鈥�
- 鈥淗ope isn鈥檛 the white paint we use to mask our suffering. It鈥檚 an investment in curiosity. A recognition that if we give up now, we鈥檒l never get to see what happens next.鈥�
- 鈥淏ut as long as you鈥檙e avoiding your feelings, you鈥檙e denying reality. And if you try to shut something out and say, 鈥淚 don鈥檛 want to think about it,鈥� I guarantee that you鈥檙e going to think about it. So invite the feeling in, sit down with it, keep it company. And then decide how long you鈥檙e going to hold on to it. Because you鈥檙e not a fragile little somebody. It鈥檚 good to face every reality. To stop fighting and hiding. To remember that a feeling is just a feeling鈥攊t鈥檚 not your identity.鈥�
- 鈥淣o more don鈥檛, don鈥檛, don鈥檛,鈥� I told her. 鈥淚 want to give you lots of dos. I do have a choice. I do have a life to live. I do have a role. I do live in the present. I do pay attention to what I鈥檓 focusing on, and it鈥檚 definitely in alignment with the goals I鈥檓 choosing: what gives me pleasure, what gives me joy.鈥�
- "I used to ask "Why me? But now I ask "Why not me?" Perhaps I survived so I can choose what to do with what happened, and how to be here now. So I can show others how to choose life, so my parents and all the innocents didn't die in vain. So I can turn all the lessons I learned in hell into a gift I offer you now: the opportunity to decide what kind of life you want to have, to discover the untapped potential lying in the shadows, to reveal and reclaim who you really are."
April 19, 2022
Darul este o carte de exercitii, un ghid practic al vindecarii de doctor Eger construita pe Alegerea - povestea vietii ei ca supravie葲uitoare la Auschwitz.
Este o lectura facila, care se concentreaza mai mult pe aspectele vietii de zi cu zi si cum ne putem elibera de anumite "inchisori" in care ne incatusam de unii singuri decat pe a continua cu alte povesti din lagar.
Exploreaza multe concepte din psihanaliza (cu putina tangenta si spre stoicism) si ofera solutii la cum sa nu te mai victimezezi si sa incepi sa te iubesti. Cam toate solutiile sunt la noi, spune Eger si le putem gasi prin introspectie, exercitii sau/si cu ajutorul unui psiholog.
Este o lectura facila, care se concentreaza mai mult pe aspectele vietii de zi cu zi si cum ne putem elibera de anumite "inchisori" in care ne incatusam de unii singuri decat pe a continua cu alte povesti din lagar.
Exploreaza multe concepte din psihanaliza (cu putina tangenta si spre stoicism) si ofera solutii la cum sa nu te mai victimezezi si sa incepi sa te iubesti. Cam toate solutiile sunt la noi, spune Eger si le putem gasi prin introspectie, exercitii sau/si cu ajutorul unui psiholog.
August 26, 2022
M-a deranjat subtitlul de self-help victorios, atoate艧tiutor, dar cartea nu e din zona aceea. 脦mi pl膬cuse mult ,,Alegerea" 艧i am avut 卯ncredere. 脦n plus, e de la Anansi:) E autentic膩 艧i plin膩 de umanitate 艧i de speran葲膩. Am avut 艧ansa s膩 cunosc 艧i 卯n realitate o supravie葲uitoare a Holocaustului 艧i vocea lui Edith Eger mi-a l膩sat aceea艧i impresie, de bun膩tate inteligent膬 艧i de 卯n葲elegere profund膩 pentru infinitele nuan葲e ale omenescului, dintre alb 艧i negru. E genul de carte pe care a艧 face-o cadou tuturor prietenilor sau celor care trec prin pove艧ti greu de dus.
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November 20, 2021DNF. I made it past 60% and stopped reading it. I鈥檒l try to pick it up another time. It wasn鈥檛 resonating with me. The author survived unspeakable horrors and while that was captivating I didn鈥檛 find her clinical frank detached style of moving through things palatable. She said a lot of things I believe to be true and practice in my own life. I just don鈥檛 think now was the right time for me and this book.
November 30, 2020
脰r眉l枚k, hogy Dr. Edith Eva Eger els艖 k枚nyv茅vel kezdhettem 茅s (szinte) ezzel a k枚nyvvel z谩rhatom az 茅vet.
Ez a k枚nyv m茅lt贸 ut贸dja A d枚nt茅snek. 12 leck茅ben foglalja 枚ssze ter谩pi谩ja alapjait 茅s ad egy rendszerezett 茅s haszn谩lhat贸 煤tmutat贸t. Hihetetlen眉l 谩tj枚n az 铆r贸 茅letigenl茅se. Biztos, hogy A d枚nt茅ssel egy眉tt ez is sokszor 煤jra olvas贸s lesz.
Ez a k枚nyv m茅lt贸 ut贸dja A d枚nt茅snek. 12 leck茅ben foglalja 枚ssze ter谩pi谩ja alapjait 茅s ad egy rendszerezett 茅s haszn谩lhat贸 煤tmutat贸t. Hihetetlen眉l 谩tj枚n az 铆r贸 茅letigenl茅se. Biztos, hogy A d枚nt茅ssel egy眉tt ez is sokszor 煤jra olvas贸s lesz.
July 23, 2022
There are some good thoughts of wisdom here, but it鈥檚 buried under huge load of non-interesting repeated stories. I was more inspired in the first few chapters, but less interested toward the final chapters.
June 6, 2021
Nothing at all that gives the reader pearls of wisdom. We all know this stuff inside and out. Completely over-rated.
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