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The Surrounded by Idiots
鈥呚ж� 亘丕賱賲乇囟賶 丕賱賳賮爻賷賷賳鈥�
丕爻鬲乇丕鬲賷噩賷丕鬲 亘爻賷胤丞 賱賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱禺胤賷乇賷賳. 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱兀賮囟賱 賲亘賷毓賸丕 毓賱賶 賲爻鬲賵賶 丕賱毓丕賱賲 "賲購丨丕胤 亘丕賱丨賲賯賶"貙 睾賷賾乇 鬲賵賲丕爻 廿乇賷賰爻賵賳 丕賱胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱鬲賷 賷鬲賵丕氐賱 亘賴丕 丕賱賲賱丕賷賷賳 賵賷鬲賮丕毓賱賵賳 賲毓 亘毓囟賴賲 亘毓囟賸丕 亘丕爻鬲禺丿丕賲 賳馗丕賲 丿賷爻賰 丕賱亘爻賷胤 賱兀賳賲丕胤 丕賱爻賱賵賰賷丕鬲 亘兀賱賵丕賳賴 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞. 賵賱賰賳 賲丕匕丕 毓賳 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱匕賷賳 賱丕 賷賳胤亘賯 毓賱賷賴賲 匕賱賰 丕賱鬲氐賳賷賮責 賮賷 賰鬲丕亘 賲購丨丕胤 亘丕賱賲乇囟賶 丕賱賳賮爻賷賷賳貙 賷賰卮賮 廿乇賷賰爻賵賳 毓賳 賲禺丕胤乇 丕賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓 賴丐賱丕亍 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐. 賵鬲氐賱 鬲賯丿賷乇丕鬲賴 廿賱賶 兀賳 2% 賲賳 爻賰丕賳 丕賱毓丕賱賲 賲禺鬲賱賾賵賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕 賷禺丕賱賮賵賳 賰賱 鬲賵賯毓丕鬲賳丕 丕賱爻賱賵賰賷丞貨 賷賮鬲賯乇賵賳 廿賱賶 丕賱廿丨爻丕爻 亘丕賱卮賮賯丞 賵丕賱鬲毓丕胤賮貙 賵賷賲賷賱賵賳 廿賱賶 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 亘丕賱丌禺乇賷賳 亘賱丕 賳丿賲 賲賳 兀噩賱 禺丿賲丞 兀賴丿丕賮賴賲. 賷鬲爻賲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賾賵賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕 亘賯賵丞 丕賱賲賱丕丨馗丞貙 賵丕賱丕爻鬲睾賱丕賱賷丞貙 賵賱賳 賷鬲乇丿丿賵丕 賮賷 鬲丿賲賷乇 丨賷丕鬲賰 丕賱賲賴賳賷丞 兀賵 丕賱毓丕卅賱賷丞 賮賷 睾賲囟丞 毓賷賳. 賮賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘貙 爻鬲噩丿賵賳 丕賱兀丿賵丕鬲 丕賱鬲賷 鬲丨鬲丕噩賵賳 廿賱賷賴丕 賱丨賲丕賷丞 兀賳賮爻賰賲 賵兀丨亘丕卅賰賲 賲賳 鬲賱賰 丕賱賲禺丕胤乇貙 賵鬲鬲囟賲賳: 鈥� 丕賱爻賲丕鬲 丕賱卮丕卅毓丞 賱賱丕禺鬲賱丕賱 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賵胤乇賷賯丞 鬲氐乇賾賮 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕 賮賷 丕賱毓賲賱 賵丕賱丨賷丕丞 丕賱卮禺氐賷丞.
鈥� 賳賯丕胤 囟毓賮 丕賱賳賲胤 丕賱爻賱賵賰賷 賱卮禺氐賷鬲賰 賵賰賷賮 鬲丨賲賷 賳賮爻賰.
鈥� 兀爻丕賱賷亘 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱卮丕卅毓丞 丕賱鬲賷 賷爻鬲禺丿賲賴丕 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賾賵賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕.
鈥� 胤乇賯 賵兀爻丕賱賷亘 丕賱賲賵丕噩賴丞 賵賵囟毓 丨丿賾 賱賱丕爻鬲睾賱丕賱 賵丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘. 賷丨鬲賵賷 毓賱賶 丕禺鬲亘丕乇 爻賲丕鬲 丕賱丕禺鬲賱丕賱 丕賱賳賮爻賷.
賴賱 賳丨賳 賲購丨丕胤賵賳 丨賯賸丕 亘丕賱賲乇囟賶 丕賱賳賮爻賷賷賳責 丕購禺鬲賽賷乇 毓賳賵丕賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 亘毓賳丕賷丞 賵丿賯丞貙 賳馗乇賸丕 賱賵噩賵丿 毓丿丿 賲賳 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賾賷賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕 兀賰亘乇 亘賰孬賷乇 賲賲丕 兀毓鬲賯丿 兀賳 賲毓馗賲 丕賱賳丕爻 賷丿乇賰賵賳賴. 賵兀乇賷丿 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 兀賳 兀賵囟丨 賱賰賱 賯丕乇卅 賰賷賮 賷鬲毓乇賮 毓賱賶 兀爻丕鬲匕丞 丕賱丕爻鬲睾賱丕賱 賵丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷貙 賵賰賷賮 鬲丨賲賷 賳賮爻賰 廿匕丕 氐丕丿賮鬲 兀丨丿賴賲 賮賷 丨賷丕鬲賰. 爻賵賮 兀賵囟丨 賱賰 賰賷賮 鬲鬲毓乇賮 毓賱賶 丕賱賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷賸丕貙 賵賰賷賮 鬲鬲毓乇賮 毓賱賶 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱匕賷賳 賱丿賷賴賲 爻賲丕鬲 丕禺鬲賱丕賱 賵賲乇囟 賳賮爻賷. 賵丕賱兀賴賲貙 爻兀賵囟丨 賱賰 賰賷賮 鬲鬲氐乇賮 丨賷丕賱賴賲. -鬲賵賲丕爻 廿乇賷賰爻賵賳
鈥� 賳賯丕胤 囟毓賮 丕賱賳賲胤 丕賱爻賱賵賰賷 賱卮禺氐賷鬲賰 賵賰賷賮 鬲丨賲賷 賳賮爻賰.
鈥� 兀爻丕賱賷亘 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱卮丕卅毓丞 丕賱鬲賷 賷爻鬲禺丿賲賴丕 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賾賵賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕.
鈥� 胤乇賯 賵兀爻丕賱賷亘 丕賱賲賵丕噩賴丞 賵賵囟毓 丨丿賾 賱賱丕爻鬲睾賱丕賱 賵丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘. 賷丨鬲賵賷 毓賱賶 丕禺鬲亘丕乇 爻賲丕鬲 丕賱丕禺鬲賱丕賱 丕賱賳賮爻賷.
賴賱 賳丨賳 賲購丨丕胤賵賳 丨賯賸丕 亘丕賱賲乇囟賶 丕賱賳賮爻賷賷賳責 丕購禺鬲賽賷乇 毓賳賵丕賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 亘毓賳丕賷丞 賵丿賯丞貙 賳馗乇賸丕 賱賵噩賵丿 毓丿丿 賲賳 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賾賷賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕 兀賰亘乇 亘賰孬賷乇 賲賲丕 兀毓鬲賯丿 兀賳 賲毓馗賲 丕賱賳丕爻 賷丿乇賰賵賳賴. 賵兀乇賷丿 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 兀賳 兀賵囟丨 賱賰賱 賯丕乇卅 賰賷賮 賷鬲毓乇賮 毓賱賶 兀爻丕鬲匕丞 丕賱丕爻鬲睾賱丕賱 賵丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷貙 賵賰賷賮 鬲丨賲賷 賳賮爻賰 廿匕丕 氐丕丿賮鬲 兀丨丿賴賲 賮賷 丨賷丕鬲賰. 爻賵賮 兀賵囟丨 賱賰 賰賷賮 鬲鬲毓乇賮 毓賱賶 丕賱賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷賸丕貙 賵賰賷賮 鬲鬲毓乇賮 毓賱賶 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱匕賷賳 賱丿賷賴賲 爻賲丕鬲 丕禺鬲賱丕賱 賵賲乇囟 賳賮爻賷. 賵丕賱兀賴賲貙 爻兀賵囟丨 賱賰 賰賷賮 鬲鬲氐乇賮 丨賷丕賱賴賲. -鬲賵賲丕爻 廿乇賷賰爻賵賳
327 pages, Kindle Edition
First published January 1, 2017
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About the author
Thomas Erikson
45听books1,272听followersThomas Erikson is a behaviourist and the bestselling author of the Surrounded by- series about human behaviours.
The series, has been translated to close to 60 languages and has sold over 8 million copies.
His mission is to make people鈥檚 lives easier by making them more aware of themselves and help people to a better understanding of what it takes to achieve the best possible communication.
He is a highly sought-after public speaker with 120 keynotes yearly on topics such as human behaviours, self-awareness, , narcissism, and leadership.
He lives by the simple but useful quote:
You can鈥檛 change somebody else, but you can change yourself.
Thomas was writing for twenty years before finally getting published. Being an author was his dream in life, so he never gave up. Instead he tested new ideas, tweaked his writing style, learned new skills, asked professionals, worked from 03.00 in the morning for years.
No one really believed in his writing ambitions, so he had to believe in himself.
Nowadays Thomas is Sweden鈥檚 most translated author still active. Only Selma Lagerl枚f and Astid Lindgren has been translated into more languages.
He has until today published twelve books 鈥� half fiction and half non-fiction 鈥� and he will continue to write as long as he breathes.
He lives on the countryside in Sweden with his wife Christina, Sweden鈥檚 biggest romance author, he runs a family business that provides online courses and master classes on all the topics he writes about in his books.
Fun fact: Thomas is a true anglophile. He is a passionate gardener, loves topiary: if he could wear tweed the full year he would. And he is s collector of old Land Rovers.
Some of them works, most of them don鈥檛.
The series, has been translated to close to 60 languages and has sold over 8 million copies.
His mission is to make people鈥檚 lives easier by making them more aware of themselves and help people to a better understanding of what it takes to achieve the best possible communication.
He is a highly sought-after public speaker with 120 keynotes yearly on topics such as human behaviours, self-awareness, , narcissism, and leadership.
He lives by the simple but useful quote:
You can鈥檛 change somebody else, but you can change yourself.
Thomas was writing for twenty years before finally getting published. Being an author was his dream in life, so he never gave up. Instead he tested new ideas, tweaked his writing style, learned new skills, asked professionals, worked from 03.00 in the morning for years.
No one really believed in his writing ambitions, so he had to believe in himself.
Nowadays Thomas is Sweden鈥檚 most translated author still active. Only Selma Lagerl枚f and Astid Lindgren has been translated into more languages.
He has until today published twelve books 鈥� half fiction and half non-fiction 鈥� and he will continue to write as long as he breathes.
He lives on the countryside in Sweden with his wife Christina, Sweden鈥檚 biggest romance author, he runs a family business that provides online courses and master classes on all the topics he writes about in his books.
Fun fact: Thomas is a true anglophile. He is a passionate gardener, loves topiary: if he could wear tweed the full year he would. And he is s collector of old Land Rovers.
Some of them works, most of them don鈥檛.
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January 31, 2021
This author is clearly a business man. His repetitive ramblings suggest he has an axe to grind rather than any real awareness or understanding of mental ill-health, personality disorders or psychopathy. There are much better books on the market which explore similar issues. I'd start with Jon Ronson's 'The Psychopath Test' or M. E. Thomas' 'Confessions of a Sociopath'.
July 20, 2021
賲購丨丕胤 亘丕賱賲乇囟賶 丕賱賳賮爻賷賷賳 (賰賷賮 鬲丨賲賷 賳賮爻賰 賲賳 鬲賱丕毓亘 賵丕爻鬲睾賱丕賱 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳) 鬲賵賲丕爻 廿乇賷賰爻賵賳
賮賷 丕賱亘丿丕賷丞 爻兀亘賵丨 亘亘毓囟 丕賱兀爻乇丕乇 丕賱禺丕氐丞 亘賷 (亘氐賮鬲賷 賯丕乇卅丞)
1. 賱丕 兀丨亘 毓亘丕乇丞 "丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱兀賮囟賱 賲亘賷毓賸丕 毓賱賶 賲爻鬲賵賶 丕賱毓丕賱賲"貙 毓賱賶 睾賱丕賮 兀賷 賰鬲丕亘貨 廿賱丕 廿匕丕 賵囟丨賵丕 賱賷 亘丕賱兀乇賯丕賲貙 賵毓賳 兀賷 賮鬲乇丞 夭賲賳賷丞 賷鬲丨丿孬賵賳.
2. 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿丕卅賲賸丕 賷禺鬲丕乇賳賷貙 賮丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賷噩匕亘賳賷 廿賱賷賴貙 賵賲賴賲丕 丨丕賵賱鬲 兀賳 兀丨丿丿 賯丕卅賲丞 賲毓賷賳丞 亘丕賱賰鬲亘 賵賲鬲賶 爻兀賯乇兀賴丕 毓賱賶 賵噩賴 丕賱丿賯丞責 鬲亘賵亍 賲丨丕賵賱丕鬲賷 亘丕賱賮卮賱.
3. 兀毓卮賯 賲賱賲爻 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱賵乇賯賷貨 乇睾賲 兀賳 丕賱亘丿丕卅賱 賰孬賷乇丞 賵賲乇賷丨丞 兀賰孬乇.
4. 兀賰鬲亘 賮賯胤 毓賳 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱鬲賷 鬲爻鬲丨賯貙 賵丿賵賳 賲噩丕賲賱丕鬲.
5. 兀丐賲賳 兀賳 丕賱賯乇丕亍丞 賴賷 賵賯賵丿賳丕 賮賷 鬲賱賰 丕賱丨賷丕丞貙 亘丿賵賳賴丕 賷鬲賵賯賮 噩夭亍 賰亘賷乇 賲賳 毓賯賱賳丕 毓賳 丕賱鬲賮賰賷乇.
賲丕匕丕 毓賳 丕賱賰丕鬲亘責
丕賱賰丕鬲亘 鬲賵賲丕爻 廿乇賷賰爻賵賳貙 禺亘賷乇 爻賱賵賰 爻賵賷丿賷貙 賷購賱賯賷 賲丨丕囟乇丕鬲 賵賳丿賵丕鬲 賮賷 噩賲賷毓 兀賳丨丕亍 丕賱毓丕賱賲貙 賵氐丕丨亘 賰鬲丕亘 "賲購丨丕胤 亘丕賱丨賲賯賶"貙 亘丕賱賲賳丕爻亘丞 賱賲 兀賯乇兀 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丨鬲賶 丕賱丌賳貨 賵賱賰賳 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 賯乇丕亍鬲賷 賱賰鬲丕亘 "賲購丨丕胤 亘丕賱丨賲賯賶" 賷賲賰賳賳賷 丕賱賯賵賱 廿賳賴 賲乇鬲亘胤 亘賴 亘卮賰賱 賲丕貙 賷丿乇賰賴 丕賱賯丕乇卅 賲賳 丕賱爻胤賵乇 丕賱兀賵賱賶.
賲丕匕丕 毓賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘責
丕賱兀爻卅賱丞 丕賱鬲賷 賷孬賷乇賴丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘貙 賵賷胤乇丨 丨賱賵賱 賱賴丕:
賲丕 賴賵 丕賱丕禺鬲賱丕賱 丕賱賳賮爻賷責 賲賳 賴賲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賵賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕責 賲丕 丕賱賲賯氐賵丿 亘丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘責 賲丕 丕賱兀賱賵丕賳 賵毓賱丕賯鬲賴丕 亘丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲責 賰賷賮 賷鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷賸丕 亘丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 (丕賱兀丨賲乇 鈥� 丕賱兀氐賮乇 鈥� 丕賱兀禺囟乇 鈥� 丕賱兀夭乇賯) 賰賷賮 賷賲賰賳賰 丨賲丕賷丞 賳賮爻賰責
兀毓噩亘賳賷 賮賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘: 賲夭噩賴 亘賷賳 丕賱賰賱丕賲 丕賱賳馗乇賷 賵丕賱鬲噩丕乇亘 丕賱毓賲賱賷丞貙 廿卮丕乇鬲賴 廿賱賶 兀賳 丕賱賯丕乇卅 亘丕賱鬲兀賰賷丿 賷丨賲賱 賮賷 卮禺氐賷鬲賴 噩丕賳亘 賰亘賷乇 賲賲丕 賵乇丿 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘貙 賮丕賱兀賲乇 賱賷爻 賯丕卅賲 毓賱賶 賲噩乇丿 鬲賵噩賷賴 丕賱丕鬲賴丕賲丕鬲 賱賱賲丨賷胤賷賳 亘賴 賮丨爻亘. 賴匕丕 賷噩毓賱賳賷 兀丐賰丿 毓賱賶 兀賴賲賷丞 鬲賲鬲毓 丕賱賯丕乇卅 亘賯丿乇 賲毓賯賵賱 賲賳 丕賱賮賰乇 賵丕賱毓賱賲 丨鬲賶 賷賲賰賳賴 賴囟賲 丕賱賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲 丿賵賳 鬲卮賰賰 賮賷 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 丕賱賲賵噩賵丿丞 亘丿賵丕卅乇賴 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞.
亘毓囟 丕賱丕賯鬲亘丕爻丕鬲:
"賯丿 賷賰賵賳 鬲賯丿賷乇賳丕 賱匕賵丕鬲賳丕 賲賳禺賮囟賸丕 賱賱睾丕賷丞 賱兀賳賳丕 賱丕 賳丨亘 卮禺氐賷丕鬲賳丕貙 賵睾賷乇 乇丕囟賷賳 毓賳 兀賳賮爻賳丕貨 賳鬲賲賳賶 賱賵 賰賳丕 兀氐睾乇 爻賳賸丕 兀賵 兀賰亘乇 爻賳賸丕貙 賳鬲賲賳賶 賱賵 賰賳丕 兀禺賮 賵夭賳賸丕 賵兀賰孬乇 噩丕匕亘賷丞貙 賳鬲賲賳賶 賱賵 賰賳丕 兀賰孬乇 孬乇丕亍 兀賵 兀賰孬乇 匕賰丕亍貙 賳鬲賲賳賶 賱賵 賰丕賳 卮乇賷賰 丨賷丕鬲賳丕 兀噩賲賱 賵兀賰孬乇 噩丕匕亘賷丞貙 兀賵 賱賵 賰賳丕 賳鬲丨丿孬 丕賱賮乇賳爻賷丞 亘胤賱丕賯丞. 亘睾囟 丕賱賳馗乇 毓賳 兀爻亘丕亘 毓丿賲 乇囟丕賳丕 毓賳 兀賳賮爻賳丕貙 賮廿賳 匕賱賰 賷噩毓賱賳丕 賮乇賷爻丞 爻賴賱丞 賱賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕 兀賵 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 匕賵賷 爻賲丕鬲 丕賱丕禺鬲賱丕賱 丕賱賳賮爻賷."
"廿匕丕 賰賳鬲 兀爻賷乇 丕賱乇睾亘丞 賮賷 賳賷賱 丕爻鬲丨爻丕賳 賵賯亘賵賱 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳貙 爻賵賮 賷爻賴賱 丕賱鬲丨賰賲 亘爻賱賵賰賰 賲孬賱 兀賷 賲丿賲賳 丌禺乇. 賰賱 賲丕 爻賷丨鬲丕噩 兀賷 賲鬲賱丕毓亘 廿賱賶 賮毓賱賴 禺胤賵鬲賷賳 賮賷 睾丕賷丞 丕賱亘爻丕胤丞: 賲賳丨賰 賲丕 鬲鬲賵賯 廿賱賷賴貙 孬賲 丕賱鬲賴丿賷丿 亘爻賱亘賴 賲賳賰. 賰賱 鬲丕噩乇 賲禺丿乇丕鬲 賮賷 丕賱毓丕賱賲 賷賮毓賱 匕賱賰." 賴丕乇賷賷鬲 亘賷 亘乇丕賷賰乇
"賲賳 丕賱爻禺丕賮丞 賵丕賱丨賲賯 兀賳 鬲丨丕賵賱 鬲噩丕賴賱 丕賱賲卮丕毓乇 丕賱爻賱亘賷丞 賵丕賱丕禺鬲亘丕亍 賲賳賴丕. 賲賴賲丕 亘丿丕 匕賱賰 氐毓亘賸丕貙 賷噩亘 兀賳 鬲丿乇賰 兀賳 丕賱賲卮丕毓乇 丕賱氐毓亘丞 噩夭亍 賲賳 丕賱丨賷丕丞貙 賵兀賳 毓賱賷賰 賲賵丕噩賴鬲賴丕 賲乇賮賵毓 丕賱乇兀爻."
"賱賯丿 鬲賲賰賳 丕賱賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷賸丕 亘丕賱賮毓賱 賲賳 賳卮乇 爻賲賵賲 噩丕匕亘賷鬲賴 賵爻丨乇 卮禺氐賷鬲賴 賮賷 賲丨賷胤 丨賷丕鬲賴貙 賵兀氐亘丨鬲 "亘賷丕丿賯賴" 賮賷 賰賱 賲賰丕賳貙 賵爻賵賮 鬲賰鬲卮賮 兀賳賰 賲鬲兀禺乇 毓賳賴 丿丕卅賲賸丕 亘禺胤賵丞 兀賵 兀賰孬乇."
賷胤乇丨 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賰賲丕 兀卮乇鬲 丕賱毓丿賷丿 賲賳 丕賱丨賱賵賱 賱賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 丕賱鬲賷 鬲噩賷丿 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 亘睾賷乇賴丕貨 丨鬲賶 廿賳 賰賳鬲 兀賳鬲 賵丕丨丿 賲賳 賴匕賴 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲貙 賵亘賯賷鬲 賳賯胤丞 兀禺賷乇丞貙 兀賳賳丕 噩賲賷毓賸丕 賳丐孬乇 賮賷 睾賷乇賳丕貙 賵賳鬲兀孬乇 亘賴賲貙 丕賱賲賴賲 兀賱丕 賳賰賵賳 賲賳 丕賱賮卅丞 丕賱賲禺鬲賱丞 丕賱鬲賷 鬲鬲賱丕毓亘 賵鬲爻鬲睾賱 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳.
鬲賯賷賷賲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 4.5/5
賮賷 丕賱亘丿丕賷丞 爻兀亘賵丨 亘亘毓囟 丕賱兀爻乇丕乇 丕賱禺丕氐丞 亘賷 (亘氐賮鬲賷 賯丕乇卅丞)
1. 賱丕 兀丨亘 毓亘丕乇丞 "丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱兀賮囟賱 賲亘賷毓賸丕 毓賱賶 賲爻鬲賵賶 丕賱毓丕賱賲"貙 毓賱賶 睾賱丕賮 兀賷 賰鬲丕亘貨 廿賱丕 廿匕丕 賵囟丨賵丕 賱賷 亘丕賱兀乇賯丕賲貙 賵毓賳 兀賷 賮鬲乇丞 夭賲賳賷丞 賷鬲丨丿孬賵賳.
2. 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿丕卅賲賸丕 賷禺鬲丕乇賳賷貙 賮丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賷噩匕亘賳賷 廿賱賷賴貙 賵賲賴賲丕 丨丕賵賱鬲 兀賳 兀丨丿丿 賯丕卅賲丞 賲毓賷賳丞 亘丕賱賰鬲亘 賵賲鬲賶 爻兀賯乇兀賴丕 毓賱賶 賵噩賴 丕賱丿賯丞責 鬲亘賵亍 賲丨丕賵賱丕鬲賷 亘丕賱賮卮賱.
3. 兀毓卮賯 賲賱賲爻 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱賵乇賯賷貨 乇睾賲 兀賳 丕賱亘丿丕卅賱 賰孬賷乇丞 賵賲乇賷丨丞 兀賰孬乇.
4. 兀賰鬲亘 賮賯胤 毓賳 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱鬲賷 鬲爻鬲丨賯貙 賵丿賵賳 賲噩丕賲賱丕鬲.
5. 兀丐賲賳 兀賳 丕賱賯乇丕亍丞 賴賷 賵賯賵丿賳丕 賮賷 鬲賱賰 丕賱丨賷丕丞貙 亘丿賵賳賴丕 賷鬲賵賯賮 噩夭亍 賰亘賷乇 賲賳 毓賯賱賳丕 毓賳 丕賱鬲賮賰賷乇.
賲丕匕丕 毓賳 丕賱賰丕鬲亘責
丕賱賰丕鬲亘 鬲賵賲丕爻 廿乇賷賰爻賵賳貙 禺亘賷乇 爻賱賵賰 爻賵賷丿賷貙 賷購賱賯賷 賲丨丕囟乇丕鬲 賵賳丿賵丕鬲 賮賷 噩賲賷毓 兀賳丨丕亍 丕賱毓丕賱賲貙 賵氐丕丨亘 賰鬲丕亘 "賲購丨丕胤 亘丕賱丨賲賯賶"貙 亘丕賱賲賳丕爻亘丞 賱賲 兀賯乇兀 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丨鬲賶 丕賱丌賳貨 賵賱賰賳 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 賯乇丕亍鬲賷 賱賰鬲丕亘 "賲購丨丕胤 亘丕賱丨賲賯賶" 賷賲賰賳賳賷 丕賱賯賵賱 廿賳賴 賲乇鬲亘胤 亘賴 亘卮賰賱 賲丕貙 賷丿乇賰賴 丕賱賯丕乇卅 賲賳 丕賱爻胤賵乇 丕賱兀賵賱賶.
賲丕匕丕 毓賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘責
丕賱兀爻卅賱丞 丕賱鬲賷 賷孬賷乇賴丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘貙 賵賷胤乇丨 丨賱賵賱 賱賴丕:
賲丕 賴賵 丕賱丕禺鬲賱丕賱 丕賱賳賮爻賷責 賲賳 賴賲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賵賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕責 賲丕 丕賱賲賯氐賵丿 亘丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘責 賲丕 丕賱兀賱賵丕賳 賵毓賱丕賯鬲賴丕 亘丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲責 賰賷賮 賷鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷賸丕 亘丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 (丕賱兀丨賲乇 鈥� 丕賱兀氐賮乇 鈥� 丕賱兀禺囟乇 鈥� 丕賱兀夭乇賯) 賰賷賮 賷賲賰賳賰 丨賲丕賷丞 賳賮爻賰責
兀毓噩亘賳賷 賮賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘: 賲夭噩賴 亘賷賳 丕賱賰賱丕賲 丕賱賳馗乇賷 賵丕賱鬲噩丕乇亘 丕賱毓賲賱賷丞貙 廿卮丕乇鬲賴 廿賱賶 兀賳 丕賱賯丕乇卅 亘丕賱鬲兀賰賷丿 賷丨賲賱 賮賷 卮禺氐賷鬲賴 噩丕賳亘 賰亘賷乇 賲賲丕 賵乇丿 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘貙 賮丕賱兀賲乇 賱賷爻 賯丕卅賲 毓賱賶 賲噩乇丿 鬲賵噩賷賴 丕賱丕鬲賴丕賲丕鬲 賱賱賲丨賷胤賷賳 亘賴 賮丨爻亘. 賴匕丕 賷噩毓賱賳賷 兀丐賰丿 毓賱賶 兀賴賲賷丞 鬲賲鬲毓 丕賱賯丕乇卅 亘賯丿乇 賲毓賯賵賱 賲賳 丕賱賮賰乇 賵丕賱毓賱賲 丨鬲賶 賷賲賰賳賴 賴囟賲 丕賱賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲 丿賵賳 鬲卮賰賰 賮賷 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 丕賱賲賵噩賵丿丞 亘丿賵丕卅乇賴 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞.
亘毓囟 丕賱丕賯鬲亘丕爻丕鬲:
"賯丿 賷賰賵賳 鬲賯丿賷乇賳丕 賱匕賵丕鬲賳丕 賲賳禺賮囟賸丕 賱賱睾丕賷丞 賱兀賳賳丕 賱丕 賳丨亘 卮禺氐賷丕鬲賳丕貙 賵睾賷乇 乇丕囟賷賳 毓賳 兀賳賮爻賳丕貨 賳鬲賲賳賶 賱賵 賰賳丕 兀氐睾乇 爻賳賸丕 兀賵 兀賰亘乇 爻賳賸丕貙 賳鬲賲賳賶 賱賵 賰賳丕 兀禺賮 賵夭賳賸丕 賵兀賰孬乇 噩丕匕亘賷丞貙 賳鬲賲賳賶 賱賵 賰賳丕 兀賰孬乇 孬乇丕亍 兀賵 兀賰孬乇 匕賰丕亍貙 賳鬲賲賳賶 賱賵 賰丕賳 卮乇賷賰 丨賷丕鬲賳丕 兀噩賲賱 賵兀賰孬乇 噩丕匕亘賷丞貙 兀賵 賱賵 賰賳丕 賳鬲丨丿孬 丕賱賮乇賳爻賷丞 亘胤賱丕賯丞. 亘睾囟 丕賱賳馗乇 毓賳 兀爻亘丕亘 毓丿賲 乇囟丕賳丕 毓賳 兀賳賮爻賳丕貙 賮廿賳 匕賱賰 賷噩毓賱賳丕 賮乇賷爻丞 爻賴賱丞 賱賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕 兀賵 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 匕賵賷 爻賲丕鬲 丕賱丕禺鬲賱丕賱 丕賱賳賮爻賷."
"廿匕丕 賰賳鬲 兀爻賷乇 丕賱乇睾亘丞 賮賷 賳賷賱 丕爻鬲丨爻丕賳 賵賯亘賵賱 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳貙 爻賵賮 賷爻賴賱 丕賱鬲丨賰賲 亘爻賱賵賰賰 賲孬賱 兀賷 賲丿賲賳 丌禺乇. 賰賱 賲丕 爻賷丨鬲丕噩 兀賷 賲鬲賱丕毓亘 廿賱賶 賮毓賱賴 禺胤賵鬲賷賳 賮賷 睾丕賷丞 丕賱亘爻丕胤丞: 賲賳丨賰 賲丕 鬲鬲賵賯 廿賱賷賴貙 孬賲 丕賱鬲賴丿賷丿 亘爻賱亘賴 賲賳賰. 賰賱 鬲丕噩乇 賲禺丿乇丕鬲 賮賷 丕賱毓丕賱賲 賷賮毓賱 匕賱賰." 賴丕乇賷賷鬲 亘賷 亘乇丕賷賰乇
"賲賳 丕賱爻禺丕賮丞 賵丕賱丨賲賯 兀賳 鬲丨丕賵賱 鬲噩丕賴賱 丕賱賲卮丕毓乇 丕賱爻賱亘賷丞 賵丕賱丕禺鬲亘丕亍 賲賳賴丕. 賲賴賲丕 亘丿丕 匕賱賰 氐毓亘賸丕貙 賷噩亘 兀賳 鬲丿乇賰 兀賳 丕賱賲卮丕毓乇 丕賱氐毓亘丞 噩夭亍 賲賳 丕賱丨賷丕丞貙 賵兀賳 毓賱賷賰 賲賵丕噩賴鬲賴丕 賲乇賮賵毓 丕賱乇兀爻."
"賱賯丿 鬲賲賰賳 丕賱賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷賸丕 亘丕賱賮毓賱 賲賳 賳卮乇 爻賲賵賲 噩丕匕亘賷鬲賴 賵爻丨乇 卮禺氐賷鬲賴 賮賷 賲丨賷胤 丨賷丕鬲賴貙 賵兀氐亘丨鬲 "亘賷丕丿賯賴" 賮賷 賰賱 賲賰丕賳貙 賵爻賵賮 鬲賰鬲卮賮 兀賳賰 賲鬲兀禺乇 毓賳賴 丿丕卅賲賸丕 亘禺胤賵丞 兀賵 兀賰孬乇."
賷胤乇丨 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賰賲丕 兀卮乇鬲 丕賱毓丿賷丿 賲賳 丕賱丨賱賵賱 賱賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 丕賱鬲賷 鬲噩賷丿 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 亘睾賷乇賴丕貨 丨鬲賶 廿賳 賰賳鬲 兀賳鬲 賵丕丨丿 賲賳 賴匕賴 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲貙 賵亘賯賷鬲 賳賯胤丞 兀禺賷乇丞貙 兀賳賳丕 噩賲賷毓賸丕 賳丐孬乇 賮賷 睾賷乇賳丕貙 賵賳鬲兀孬乇 亘賴賲貙 丕賱賲賴賲 兀賱丕 賳賰賵賳 賲賳 丕賱賮卅丞 丕賱賲禺鬲賱丞 丕賱鬲賷 鬲鬲賱丕毓亘 賵鬲爻鬲睾賱 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳.
鬲賯賷賷賲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 4.5/5
October 3, 2021
賲亘丿卅賷賸丕 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賱賷爻 賱賴 毓賱丕賯丞 亘毓賳賵丕賳賴貙 賮賴賵 賱丕 賷鬲丨丿孬 毓賳 丕賱賲乇囟 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賵賱丕 丕賱賲乇囟賷 丕賱賳賮爻賷賳貙 賴匕丕 賮賷 亘丿丕賷丞 丕賱兀賲乇 賵賱賰賳賴 賰鬲丕亘 賲賮賷丿 賵噩賲賷賱貙 賷鬲丨丿孬 毓賳 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘貙 賵賴賵 賳賵毓 賲賳 丕賱禺丿丕毓 賷賯賵賲 亘賴 亘毓囟 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱匕賷賳 兀爻賲丕賴賲 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 " 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賳賮爻賷丕" 賵賷丐賰丿 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 毓賱賶 兀賳 丕賱賲禺鬲賱 賱賷爻 賲乇賷囟丕 賳賮爻賷丕 兀賵 毓賯賱賷丕貙賵賱賰賳賴 卮禺氐 賷賯氐丿 丕賱丕賷匕丕亍 亘賴丿賮 鬲丨賯賷賯 賲氐賱丨丞 卮禺氐賷丞貙 賵兀賳賴 卮禺氐 毓丿賷賲 丕賱賲卮丕毓乇貙 孬賲 賷購賮氐賱 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 兀賳賵丕毓 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 兀賵 胤乇賯賴貙 孬賲 胤乇賯 賱賱賵賯丕賷丞 賲賳 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘貙 賰賲丕 賷賯丿賲 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賳賲賵匕噩 兀賵 賳馗丕賲 丿賷爻賰 賱鬲丨賱賷賱 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲貙 丕賱匕賷 賷賯爻賲 賮賷賴 丕賱賳丕爻 廿賱賶 兀乇亘毓丞 兀賱賵丕賳 丕賱兀丨賲乇貙 丕賱兀氐賮乇貙 丕賱兀禺囟乇貙 丕賱兀夭乇賯貙 賵賰賷賮 賷賯毓 賰賱 賲賳賴賲 賮賷 卮亘丕賰 丕賱賲鬲賱丕毓亘.
兀賱胤賮 賲丕 賮賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 兀賳賴 賷賯丿賲 賲賵囟賵毓 噩丿賷丿 賱賲 兀賯乇兀 毓賳賴 賲賳 賯亘賱貙 賮賴賵 賷賯丿賲 賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲 噩丿賷丿丞貙 賵兀爻賱賵亘 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 爻賴賱 賵賲賳馗賲貙 賱丕 賷賵噩丿 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱鬲賰乇丕乇 丕賱賲賲賱 丕賱賲賵噩賵丿 賮賷 賲孬賱 賴匕賴 丕賱賳賵毓賷丞 賲賳 丕賱賰鬲亘 賵賱賰賳賷 丿毓賵賳賷 兀丐賰丿 毓賱賶 兀賳 丕賱毓賳賵丕賳 賲囟賱賱 噩丿丕.
兀賱胤賮 賲丕 賮賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 兀賳賴 賷賯丿賲 賲賵囟賵毓 噩丿賷丿 賱賲 兀賯乇兀 毓賳賴 賲賳 賯亘賱貙 賮賴賵 賷賯丿賲 賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲 噩丿賷丿丞貙 賵兀爻賱賵亘 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 爻賴賱 賵賲賳馗賲貙 賱丕 賷賵噩丿 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱鬲賰乇丕乇 丕賱賲賲賱 丕賱賲賵噩賵丿 賮賷 賲孬賱 賴匕賴 丕賱賳賵毓賷丞 賲賳 丕賱賰鬲亘 賵賱賰賳賷 丿毓賵賳賷 兀丐賰丿 毓賱賶 兀賳 丕賱毓賳賵丕賳 賲囟賱賱 噩丿丕.
January 7, 2021
5 pages in and as someone who studies mental health I am CRINGING. Phrases like 鈥榥ormal people鈥� and the general tone in which people who are demonised who were born this way is abhorrent. There is a factual way to get all of this across. The author seems jaded, and I can see many who have been jaded by someone with anti social/narcissistic TRAITS, would love this book. People throw the term psychopath and sociopath around so loosely- when in actuality they compromise 1% of the population in clinical terms. Someone with anti-social TRAITS is not a psychopath. Staying in a toxic relationship with someone with poor mental health- does not make them a psychopath. The tone in which this is written should have been re-evaluated, it fuels stigma even more when you are a mental health professional and you use language like this.
March 2, 2022
賲丨丕胤丞 亘丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱爻禺賷賮丞 丕賱禺丕丿毓丞 丕賱賱賷 亘賷鬲賯丕賱 毓賱賷賴丕 丕賱丕賰孬乇 賲亘賷毓丕
丕賵賱丕 丕賱毓賳賵丕賳 賲毓賲賵賱 毓卮丕賳 賷亘賷毓 賵賷鬲氐丿乇 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱丕賰孬乇 賲亘賷毓丕
禺丕丿毓 噩丿丕 賷賵氐賱賰 丕賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丨賷賮賷丿賰 賮賷 丕賰鬲卮丕賮 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賳賮爻賷丕 賲賳 丨賵賱賰 賱賰賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 囟毓賷賮 賵睾賷乇 賲賳馗賲 賵賷丐爻賮賳賷 丕賯賵賱 丕賳賴 賰鬲丕亘 鬲丕賮賴 噩丿丕 賲賳 賳賵毓賷丞 丕賱鬲賳賲賷丞 丕賱亘卮乇賷丞 丕賱乇禺賷氐丞
亘賷賯爻賲 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 賱丕丨賲乇 賵丕禺囟乇 賵丕氐賮乇 丕賷賴 丕賱毓賰 丿賴 賵賰賱 賵氐賮 賱賷賴賲 賲丕賱賵卮 丕賷 毓賱丕賯丞 亘卮禺氐賷鬲賷 賷毓賳賷 丕賳丕 亘乇丞 丕賱鬲氐賳賷賮 丕賱賱賷 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 丨丕胤賴
亘丕禺鬲氐丕乇 丕禺乇 丕乇亘毓賷賳 氐賮丨丞 賴賲丕 丕賱夭亘丿 賮丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賵賲賲賰賳 賲丕鬲賯乇丕卮 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賰賱賴 丨乇賮賷丕 賵鬲賯乇丕 丕賱賰丕賲 氐賮丨丞 丿賵賱 賵鬲賰賵賳 亘賰丿丞 丕禺丿鬲 丕賱夭鬲賵賳丞 賲賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘
賷賲賰賳 丕賱卮賷亍 丕賱賵丨賷丿 丕賱賲賮賷丿 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿賴 賴賷 丕賱丕賲孬賱丞. 丕賱賱賷 亘賷囟乇亘賴丕 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 毓卮丕賳 賷卮乇丨 賵噩賴丞 賳馗乇賴 賱賰賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賰賱賴 賰丕賳 爻胤丨賷 噩丿丕 賵賰賱 丕賱丕賳賲丕胤 賮賷賴 賲鬲卮丕亘賴丞 噩丿丕 賱丿乇噩丞 鬲禺賱賷賰 鬲賯賵賱 賴賵 丕賷賴 丕賱丕禺鬲賱丕賮 亘賷賳 丕賱卮禺氐賷丞 賵丕賱鬲丕賳賷丞
賵氐賮 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 丕賱賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷丕 丕賳賴 賲卮 亘賷丨爻 賵賲卮 亘賷賴鬲賲 亘丕丨爻丕爻賰 賵亘鬲賰乇丕乇 賰孬賷乇 噩丿丕 毓亘乇 丕賱賮氐賵賱 賴賵 丿賴 亘爻 賵氐賮 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 賱賱賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷丕
賲丨賳丕 毓丕乇賮賷賳 賷丕 亘丕卮丕 丕賷賴 丕賱噩丿賷丿
賰鬲丕亘 囟賷毓賱賷 賵賯鬲賷 賵亘噩丿 賲丕 丕賳氐丨卮 丨丿 賷賯乇丕賴 賵賲卮 丨丕賯乇丕 丕賱噩夭亍 丕賱丕賵賱 賲賳賴 賲丨丕胤 亘丕賱丨賲賯賷
February 10, 2021
A gift from my friend and an international best seller is the only reason that I completed this book. In my opinion perhaps the only relatable psychological relationship is the author last name.
The thing about self-help book is that it is often backed up by pseudo science that is written in a manner cater to lay person that is unaware of the concepts presented in the book.
Thomas Erikson's surrounded by psychopath is another classic example of such reading.
It started with running examples of what psychopath is, by claiming real experience to draw a more convincing outlook of his knowledge. Sadly how real such experiences are will never be known.
The contents within the book are also contraidict in relating of the pseudo ideas, at the introduction he described psychopath to be known as a classification that is beyond the DISC spectrum, however at later chapters decided that some traits are similar to DISC spectrum.
The semantic usage of the words is also problematic and often unnecessary, for instance manipulation in p84. Thomas conflate the concept of manipulation with influence and persuasion, such loosely use of words can easily be interpreted wrongly and also dangerous and create unnecessary miscommunication. Taking such conflation at face value would also means that we are constantly manipulating others, which Thomas term it as only natural. He then go on to prescribe an additional adjective to manipulation as being positive or negative, which is redundant and unhelpful, especially intuitively nobody relates manipulation with a positive connotation to it. The attempts by Thomas to conflate concept and then re-catergorised them, may serves as a means to simplify certain concept but is often unnecessary and unhelpful to differentiate between concept.
The portions that really makes me tick are
1) the examples given, which are often if not all are unable to verify its authenticity and tend to claim as real life examples. This gives reader an impression that psychopath are really everywhere and real, which is not necessarily true.
2) Passing statement that are either dismissive or contrary - for instance, helping others will subject ourselve to be exploited - p93; making remarks that psychologists are unable to come to a conclusive answer if psychopathic is curable but ironically will claim research data to support his position.
The author also classified psychopathic traits into the different colours, except for the blue because they are too meticulous (again another passing remark with no basis). However, this attempt really undermine the psychopathic traits that the author has been trying to establish in the earlier chapters.
Mainly the fact that he could classified them so easily into the different colours of psychopathic traits ironically contradict his earlier statement inferring that the classifying psychopath is impossible. In addition, the way he attempted to differentiate psychopath with normal people is just that they are not remorse with their doing, however psychopathic traits tend to be measure in degree rather than a clear binary distinction between psychopath and people who are normal. It then goes on to suggest how a psychopath manipulate the different colours, which is strange because the earlier part of the book the author was very concerned about the psychopath who wanted to take advantage of the personalities traits of the different colour but now wrote a manual on how to do it. Although I suspect that some may argue that the knowledge provided by the author serve as a means to know how to prevent being manipulated, but It is one thing to learn to defend and another to learn to offend. I don't need to teach someone how to shoot a gun to prepare them to protect from gun violence.
That being said, the book is not entirely without some nuggets of content to take away, for example he mentioned in the book that "Fear isn't the problem. The problem is how you choose to handle it." However, this sprinkle of "wisdom" does little to the overall quality of the book content.
In summary, the general take away of this book is how much emphasis Thomas made on the authenticity of the 4 colours "DISC", however, the scientific references to this concept is not only missing but overly inflated. Thomas make numerous passing remarks of researches or papers to suggest his concept but hardly provide any authentic sources.
Furthermore, his overly conflate and simplify concept is definitely unhelpful to the general reader, he represents himself as some sort of an authoritative figure or an expert in the field of behaviour psychology but is backed by his own pseudoscientific understanding of human behaviour. His intention in this book has been clear, to crept unwarranted skepticism to his readers, and in this time and age where the general public are mostly literate but lacks critical thinking is definitely a dangerous concoction to the progress of civilisation. If anything is worth mentioning, perhaps the most representation of a manipulative individual is none other than the author himself, not so much as to say he is a psychopath but clearly an overrated writer that devise content to meet the general population that doesn't subscribe to critical analysis.
The thing about self-help book is that it is often backed up by pseudo science that is written in a manner cater to lay person that is unaware of the concepts presented in the book.
Thomas Erikson's surrounded by psychopath is another classic example of such reading.
It started with running examples of what psychopath is, by claiming real experience to draw a more convincing outlook of his knowledge. Sadly how real such experiences are will never be known.
The contents within the book are also contraidict in relating of the pseudo ideas, at the introduction he described psychopath to be known as a classification that is beyond the DISC spectrum, however at later chapters decided that some traits are similar to DISC spectrum.
The semantic usage of the words is also problematic and often unnecessary, for instance manipulation in p84. Thomas conflate the concept of manipulation with influence and persuasion, such loosely use of words can easily be interpreted wrongly and also dangerous and create unnecessary miscommunication. Taking such conflation at face value would also means that we are constantly manipulating others, which Thomas term it as only natural. He then go on to prescribe an additional adjective to manipulation as being positive or negative, which is redundant and unhelpful, especially intuitively nobody relates manipulation with a positive connotation to it. The attempts by Thomas to conflate concept and then re-catergorised them, may serves as a means to simplify certain concept but is often unnecessary and unhelpful to differentiate between concept.
The portions that really makes me tick are
1) the examples given, which are often if not all are unable to verify its authenticity and tend to claim as real life examples. This gives reader an impression that psychopath are really everywhere and real, which is not necessarily true.
2) Passing statement that are either dismissive or contrary - for instance, helping others will subject ourselve to be exploited - p93; making remarks that psychologists are unable to come to a conclusive answer if psychopathic is curable but ironically will claim research data to support his position.
The author also classified psychopathic traits into the different colours, except for the blue because they are too meticulous (again another passing remark with no basis). However, this attempt really undermine the psychopathic traits that the author has been trying to establish in the earlier chapters.
Mainly the fact that he could classified them so easily into the different colours of psychopathic traits ironically contradict his earlier statement inferring that the classifying psychopath is impossible. In addition, the way he attempted to differentiate psychopath with normal people is just that they are not remorse with their doing, however psychopathic traits tend to be measure in degree rather than a clear binary distinction between psychopath and people who are normal. It then goes on to suggest how a psychopath manipulate the different colours, which is strange because the earlier part of the book the author was very concerned about the psychopath who wanted to take advantage of the personalities traits of the different colour but now wrote a manual on how to do it. Although I suspect that some may argue that the knowledge provided by the author serve as a means to know how to prevent being manipulated, but It is one thing to learn to defend and another to learn to offend. I don't need to teach someone how to shoot a gun to prepare them to protect from gun violence.
That being said, the book is not entirely without some nuggets of content to take away, for example he mentioned in the book that "Fear isn't the problem. The problem is how you choose to handle it." However, this sprinkle of "wisdom" does little to the overall quality of the book content.
In summary, the general take away of this book is how much emphasis Thomas made on the authenticity of the 4 colours "DISC", however, the scientific references to this concept is not only missing but overly inflated. Thomas make numerous passing remarks of researches or papers to suggest his concept but hardly provide any authentic sources.
Furthermore, his overly conflate and simplify concept is definitely unhelpful to the general reader, he represents himself as some sort of an authoritative figure or an expert in the field of behaviour psychology but is backed by his own pseudoscientific understanding of human behaviour. His intention in this book has been clear, to crept unwarranted skepticism to his readers, and in this time and age where the general public are mostly literate but lacks critical thinking is definitely a dangerous concoction to the progress of civilisation. If anything is worth mentioning, perhaps the most representation of a manipulative individual is none other than the author himself, not so much as to say he is a psychopath but clearly an overrated writer that devise content to meet the general population that doesn't subscribe to critical analysis.
May 21, 2024
"丕賱賲毓乇賮丞 賯賵丞" 賰賱賲丕 夭丕丿鬲 賲毓乇賮鬲賰 毓賳 丕賱胤乇賯 丕賱鬲賷 賷毓亘乇 亘賴丕 丕賱賲禺鬲賱 毓賳 賳賮爻賴貙賰賱賲丕 丕氐亘丨鬲 丿賮丕毓賷丕鬲賰 丕賯賵賶 賲賳 丕爻丕賱賷亘賴 賵爻賱賵賰賷丕鬲賴.
賴匕丕 丕賱賲丨鬲賵賶 賷賯丿賲 賱賰 賲丕 賷毓賷賳賰 賱賷亘賯賷賰 賷賯馗 賲賳 丕賵賱卅賰 丕賱匕賷賳 賷賳氐亘 鬲乇賰賷夭賴賲 毓賱賶 賳賯丕胤 囟毓賮賰. 賱丕賳 亘毓囟 爻賱賵賰賷丕鬲賳丕 丕賱毓賮賵賷丞 賯丿 鬲賲孬賱 丿毓賵丞 丕賱賶 賰賱 丕賱賲丨鬲丕賱賷賳 賵丕賱賲禺丕丿毓賷賳 賱賱賳賮丕匕 丕賱賶 賳賮賵爻賳丕.
賷賯賵賱 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 " 丕賳 丕丨鬲賲丕賱賷丞 鬲丿賲賷乇 丨賷丕鬲賰 賲賳 賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷丕 鬲賮賵賯 賲禺丕胤乇 丕賱丕氐丕亘丞 亘兀夭賲丞 賯賱亘賷丞 丕賵 鬲爻乇賷丨賰 賲賳 丕賱毓賲賱 丕賵 鬲丨胤賲 爻賷丕乇丕鬲賰 賮賷 丨丕丿孬".
丕賱賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷丕 賯丿 賷賰賵賳 丕賱夭賲賷賱 丕賱噩丕賱爻 賮賷 丕賱賲賰鬲亘 丕賱賲噩丕賵乇 賵 賷亘鬲爻賲 賱賳丕 賰賱 氐亘丕丨. 賮賲孬賱賲丕 賷鬲毓賱賲 乇丕毓賷 丕賱睾賳賲 賰賷賮 賷亘賯賷 丕賱匕卅丕亘 亘毓賷丿丕貙 賷賳亘睾賷 丕賳 賳鬲毓賱賲 丕賷囟丕 賰賷賮 賳鬲毓乇賮 毓賱賶 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賳賮爻賷丕.
賲賳 賴賲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賵賳 賳賮爻賷丕賸責 賵賲丕 賴賷 丕爻丕賱賷亘 鬲賱丕毓亘賴賲 賵 賰賷賮賷丞 丕賱鬲爻賱丨 賵丕賱丨匕乇 賲賳賴賲 責 賰賱 賴匕賴 賲毓乇賮丞 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 鬲毓賷賳賰 賵丕賳 賱賲 鬲賰賳 賱賰貙 賵馗賳賳鬲 賳賮爻賰 賲丨氐賳丕賸貙 賮亘賴匕丞 丕賱賲毓乇賮賴 賯丿 鬲毓賷賳 亘賷賴丕 氐丿賷賯丕 丕賵 賮乇丿 賲賳 丕賴賱賰. 賱匕丕 賱丕亘丿 賲賳 賵噩賵丿 毓賳賵丕賳 賰賴匕丕 賮賷 賲賰鬲亘鬲賳丕.
賵兀禺賷乇丕賸貙 賷爻賱胤 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱囟賵亍 毓賱賶 丕賰亘乇 鬲賴丿賷丿賷賳 賲賳
佟- 卮乇賷賰 丕賱丨賷丕丞
佗- 夭賲賱丕亍 丕賱毓賲賱 賵賲賳賴賲 丕賱乇卅賷爻 賮賷 丕賱毓賲賱.
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賴匕丕 丕賱賲丨鬲賵賶 賷賯丿賲 賱賰 賲丕 賷毓賷賳賰 賱賷亘賯賷賰 賷賯馗 賲賳 丕賵賱卅賰 丕賱匕賷賳 賷賳氐亘 鬲乇賰賷夭賴賲 毓賱賶 賳賯丕胤 囟毓賮賰. 賱丕賳 亘毓囟 爻賱賵賰賷丕鬲賳丕 丕賱毓賮賵賷丞 賯丿 鬲賲孬賱 丿毓賵丞 丕賱賶 賰賱 丕賱賲丨鬲丕賱賷賳 賵丕賱賲禺丕丿毓賷賳 賱賱賳賮丕匕 丕賱賶 賳賮賵爻賳丕.
賷賯賵賱 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 " 丕賳 丕丨鬲賲丕賱賷丞 鬲丿賲賷乇 丨賷丕鬲賰 賲賳 賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷丕 鬲賮賵賯 賲禺丕胤乇 丕賱丕氐丕亘丞 亘兀夭賲丞 賯賱亘賷丞 丕賵 鬲爻乇賷丨賰 賲賳 丕賱毓賲賱 丕賵 鬲丨胤賲 爻賷丕乇丕鬲賰 賮賷 丨丕丿孬".
丕賱賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷丕 賯丿 賷賰賵賳 丕賱夭賲賷賱 丕賱噩丕賱爻 賮賷 丕賱賲賰鬲亘 丕賱賲噩丕賵乇 賵 賷亘鬲爻賲 賱賳丕 賰賱 氐亘丕丨. 賮賲孬賱賲丕 賷鬲毓賱賲 乇丕毓賷 丕賱睾賳賲 賰賷賮 賷亘賯賷 丕賱匕卅丕亘 亘毓賷丿丕貙 賷賳亘睾賷 丕賳 賳鬲毓賱賲 丕賷囟丕 賰賷賮 賳鬲毓乇賮 毓賱賶 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賳賮爻賷丕.
賲賳 賴賲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賵賳 賳賮爻賷丕賸責 賵賲丕 賴賷 丕爻丕賱賷亘 鬲賱丕毓亘賴賲 賵 賰賷賮賷丞 丕賱鬲爻賱丨 賵丕賱丨匕乇 賲賳賴賲 責 賰賱 賴匕賴 賲毓乇賮丞 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 鬲毓賷賳賰 賵丕賳 賱賲 鬲賰賳 賱賰貙 賵馗賳賳鬲 賳賮爻賰 賲丨氐賳丕賸貙 賮亘賴匕丞 丕賱賲毓乇賮賴 賯丿 鬲毓賷賳 亘賷賴丕 氐丿賷賯丕 丕賵 賮乇丿 賲賳 丕賴賱賰. 賱匕丕 賱丕亘丿 賲賳 賵噩賵丿 毓賳賵丕賳 賰賴匕丕 賮賷 賲賰鬲亘鬲賳丕.
賵兀禺賷乇丕賸貙 賷爻賱胤 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱囟賵亍 毓賱賶 丕賰亘乇 鬲賴丿賷丿賷賳 賲賳
佟- 卮乇賷賰 丕賱丨賷丕丞
佗- 夭賲賱丕亍 丕賱毓賲賱 賵賲賳賴賲 丕賱乇卅賷爻 賮賷 丕賱毓賲賱.
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January 26, 2022
賰鬲丕亘 丨賷賻賾乇賳賷 賮賷 鬲賯賷賷賲賴. 賵爻兀丨丕賵賱 卮乇丨 丕賱兀爻亘丕亘:
兀賵賱賸丕: 賲賵丕氐賮丕鬲賴 丕賱賮賳賷丞 丕賱禺丕乇噩賷丞 (丕賱賵乇賯 賵丕賱胤亘丕毓丞 賵丕賱鬲賳爻賷賯 賵丕賱鬲噩賱賷丿貙 廿賱禺..) 賴賷 賮賷 丕賱睾丕賱亘 兀賮囟賱 賲丕 乇兀賷鬲購 賲丐禺乇賸丕 毓賱賶 丕賱廿胤賱丕賯貙 賵賱丕 兀鬲賰賱賲 賮賯胤 毓賳 丿賵乇 丕賱賳卮乇 丕賱賲氐乇賷丞 賵廿賳賲丕 亘賵噩賴 毓丕賲. 丕賱廿賲爻丕賰 亘賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賵鬲賯賱賷亘 氐賮丨丕鬲賴 賲鬲毓丞 丨爻賷丞 丨賯賷賯賷丞 賱兀賷 卮禺氐 賷賯丿賽賾乇 丕賱賰鬲亘.
孬丕賳賷賸丕: 丕賱鬲乇噩賲丞 賰丕賳鬲 噩賷丿丞 噩丿賸丕貙 賵丕囟丨丞 賵爻賱爻丞 賵兀禺胤丕丐賴丕 賯賱賷賱丞 噩丿丕. 賲毓 賲爻丨丕鬲 賱丕 鬲禺賮賶 賲賳 丕賱鬲賲賷夭.
孬丕賱孬賸丕: 丕賱賲丨鬲賵賶 賳賮爻賴貙 賵賴賵 丕賱兀賴賲 亘丕賱胤亘毓. 賰丕賳鬲 亘丿丕賷丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賵丕毓丿丞 亘賵噩亘丞 丿爻賲丞 賲賳 毓賱賲 丕賱賳賮爻 丕賱丨賯賷賯賷. 賱賰賳 丕賱賵毓丿 丕賳賴丕乇 爻乇賷毓賸丕 賲毓 丕賱丿禺賵賱 賮賷 丕賱賮氐賵賱 丕賱鬲賷 鬲賳丕賵賱賻鬲 兀賳賲丕胤 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 (丕賱兀丨賲乇 賵丕賱兀氐賮乇 賵丕賱兀禺囟乇 賵丕賱兀夭乇賯) 賵兀爻賴亘賻鬲 胤賵賷賱賸丕 賮賷 丕賱賰孬賷乇 賲賳 賴乇丕亍 丿賵乇丕鬲 "丕賱鬲賳賲賷丞 丕賱亘卮乇賷丞" 丕賱賲毓鬲丕丿. 亘丕爻鬲孬賳丕亍 賯氐丞 兀賵 丕孬賳鬲賷賳 賲賳 丕賱兀賲孬賱丞 丕賱賵丕賯毓賷丞 丕賱兀賱賷賲丞貙 賱賲 賷賯丿賽賾賲 賲鬲賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 卮賷卅賸丕 賲賲丕 賵毓丿賳賷 亘鬲賯丿賷賲賴.
兀賵賱賸丕: 賲賵丕氐賮丕鬲賴 丕賱賮賳賷丞 丕賱禺丕乇噩賷丞 (丕賱賵乇賯 賵丕賱胤亘丕毓丞 賵丕賱鬲賳爻賷賯 賵丕賱鬲噩賱賷丿貙 廿賱禺..) 賴賷 賮賷 丕賱睾丕賱亘 兀賮囟賱 賲丕 乇兀賷鬲購 賲丐禺乇賸丕 毓賱賶 丕賱廿胤賱丕賯貙 賵賱丕 兀鬲賰賱賲 賮賯胤 毓賳 丿賵乇 丕賱賳卮乇 丕賱賲氐乇賷丞 賵廿賳賲丕 亘賵噩賴 毓丕賲. 丕賱廿賲爻丕賰 亘賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賵鬲賯賱賷亘 氐賮丨丕鬲賴 賲鬲毓丞 丨爻賷丞 丨賯賷賯賷丞 賱兀賷 卮禺氐 賷賯丿賽賾乇 丕賱賰鬲亘.
孬丕賳賷賸丕: 丕賱鬲乇噩賲丞 賰丕賳鬲 噩賷丿丞 噩丿賸丕貙 賵丕囟丨丞 賵爻賱爻丞 賵兀禺胤丕丐賴丕 賯賱賷賱丞 噩丿丕. 賲毓 賲爻丨丕鬲 賱丕 鬲禺賮賶 賲賳 丕賱鬲賲賷夭.
孬丕賱孬賸丕: 丕賱賲丨鬲賵賶 賳賮爻賴貙 賵賴賵 丕賱兀賴賲 亘丕賱胤亘毓. 賰丕賳鬲 亘丿丕賷丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賵丕毓丿丞 亘賵噩亘丞 丿爻賲丞 賲賳 毓賱賲 丕賱賳賮爻 丕賱丨賯賷賯賷. 賱賰賳 丕賱賵毓丿 丕賳賴丕乇 爻乇賷毓賸丕 賲毓 丕賱丿禺賵賱 賮賷 丕賱賮氐賵賱 丕賱鬲賷 鬲賳丕賵賱賻鬲 兀賳賲丕胤 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 (丕賱兀丨賲乇 賵丕賱兀氐賮乇 賵丕賱兀禺囟乇 賵丕賱兀夭乇賯) 賵兀爻賴亘賻鬲 胤賵賷賱賸丕 賮賷 丕賱賰孬賷乇 賲賳 賴乇丕亍 丿賵乇丕鬲 "丕賱鬲賳賲賷丞 丕賱亘卮乇賷丞" 丕賱賲毓鬲丕丿. 亘丕爻鬲孬賳丕亍 賯氐丞 兀賵 丕孬賳鬲賷賳 賲賳 丕賱兀賲孬賱丞 丕賱賵丕賯毓賷丞 丕賱兀賱賷賲丞貙 賱賲 賷賯丿賽賾賲 賲鬲賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 卮賷卅賸丕 賲賲丕 賵毓丿賳賷 亘鬲賯丿賷賲賴.
June 11, 2022
賲乇丞 兀禺乇賶 賷鬲丨丿孬 "鬲賵賲丕爻 廿乇賷賰爻賵賳" 毓賳 丕賱兀賳賲丕胤 丕賱亘卮乇賷丞 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞. (丕賱兀丨賲乇 _ 丕賱兀氐賮乇 _ 丕賱兀夭乇賯 _ 丕賱兀禺囟乇)
賱賰賳貙 賴匕賴 丕賱賲乇丞 賷鬲丨丿孬 毓賳 禺囟賵毓賴賲 賱爻賱胤丞 賵禺丿丕毓 "丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賳賮爻賷丕賸". 賵賰賷賮賷丞 鬲毓丕賲賱 賰賱 賳賲胤 賲賳 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞 賲毓 賴丐賱丕亍 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳. 賵兀賷囟丕賸貙 賰賷賮 賷鬲睾賱亘賵賳 毓賱賶 賴丐賱丕亍 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賵賰卮賮 禺丿賷毓鬲賴賲!
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 亘爻賷胤 噩丿丕賸 賵賲賮賷丿.
賲賳 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱鬲賷 賱丕 鬲卮毓乇賰 亘丕賱賲賱賱 兀孬賳丕亍 賯乇丕亍鬲賴丕 -毓賱賶 毓賰爻 兀睾賱亘 賲丕 毓賱賶 卮丕賰賱鬲賴丕- 賵兀賷囟丕賸 賯丿 賷賮賷丿 丕賱亘毓囟 賮賷 丨賷丕鬲賴賲 丕賱卮禺氐賷丞 賵丕賱賲賴賳賷丞.
丕賱爻丐丕賱 賴賳丕貙 賲丕匕丕 賱賵 賰賳鬲 卮禺氐賷丞 毓噩賷亘丞 賵鬲賲鬲賱賰 氐賮丕鬲 賲卮鬲乇賰丞 賲賳 丕賱兀賳賲丕胤 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞責!!
鬲賲
佟佟 賷賵賳賷賵 佗贍佗佗
賱賰賳貙 賴匕賴 丕賱賲乇丞 賷鬲丨丿孬 毓賳 禺囟賵毓賴賲 賱爻賱胤丞 賵禺丿丕毓 "丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賳賮爻賷丕賸". 賵賰賷賮賷丞 鬲毓丕賲賱 賰賱 賳賲胤 賲賳 丕賱卮禺氐賷丕鬲 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞 賲毓 賴丐賱丕亍 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳. 賵兀賷囟丕賸貙 賰賷賮 賷鬲睾賱亘賵賳 毓賱賶 賴丐賱丕亍 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賵賰卮賮 禺丿賷毓鬲賴賲!
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 亘爻賷胤 噩丿丕賸 賵賲賮賷丿.
賲賳 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱鬲賷 賱丕 鬲卮毓乇賰 亘丕賱賲賱賱 兀孬賳丕亍 賯乇丕亍鬲賴丕 -毓賱賶 毓賰爻 兀睾賱亘 賲丕 毓賱賶 卮丕賰賱鬲賴丕- 賵兀賷囟丕賸 賯丿 賷賮賷丿 丕賱亘毓囟 賮賷 丨賷丕鬲賴賲 丕賱卮禺氐賷丞 賵丕賱賲賴賳賷丞.
丕賱爻丐丕賱 賴賳丕貙 賲丕匕丕 賱賵 賰賳鬲 卮禺氐賷丞 毓噩賷亘丞 賵鬲賲鬲賱賰 氐賮丕鬲 賲卮鬲乇賰丞 賲賳 丕賱兀賳賲丕胤 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞責!!
鬲賲
佟佟 賷賵賳賷賵 佗贍佗佗
October 6, 2020
Internationally bestselling author Thomas Erikson returns with another fascinating book which shows readers how to identify and avoid the psychopaths around them. Charming, charismatic, and delightful or manipulative, self-serving, and cunning? Psychopaths are both and that's exactly what makes them dangerous. Bestselling author of the international phenomenon Surrounded by Idiots, Thomas Erikson reveals how to identify the psychopaths in your life and combat their efforts to control and manipulate.
Using the same simple four-colour system of behaviour classification that made Surrounded by Idiots so popular, Surrounded by Psychopaths teaches readers how to deal with psychopaths in their lives by becoming aware of their own behaviour and their weaknesses. Vivid example stories illustrate ways that psychopaths can take advantage of various behaviour types, helping readers identify their own weaknesses and be proactive about protecting themselves. Erikson outlines some of the most common forms of manipulation used by psychopaths--and others--to influence those around them. Since manipulation can often be a feature of ordinary, non-psychopathic relationships, the book also includes practical methods and techniques to help readers confront controlling people and rehabilitate negative relationships into mutually respectful ones.
By understanding your behaviour as well as the tendencies and strategies of psychopaths, Surrounded by Psychopaths will teach you to protect yourself from manipulative influence in your workplace, social life, and family. It is an accessible, witty and riveting read and as a lover of true crime, and therefore interested by the inner workings of the mind of those who manipulate others, this really had me enthralled throughout. A layperson will easily comprehend the vast knowledge and information Erikson provides and the chatty, conversational writing style means you devour it quickly. I'd recommend this as an indispensable book for those in a relationship, cohabiting or acquainted with one of these types as Erikson gives tips as to how you can put a stop to the behaviour and exploitation, but I'd also recommend it highly to those interested in psychology, those who have a criminology background and true crime enthusiasts. Many thanks to Vermilion for an ARC.
Using the same simple four-colour system of behaviour classification that made Surrounded by Idiots so popular, Surrounded by Psychopaths teaches readers how to deal with psychopaths in their lives by becoming aware of their own behaviour and their weaknesses. Vivid example stories illustrate ways that psychopaths can take advantage of various behaviour types, helping readers identify their own weaknesses and be proactive about protecting themselves. Erikson outlines some of the most common forms of manipulation used by psychopaths--and others--to influence those around them. Since manipulation can often be a feature of ordinary, non-psychopathic relationships, the book also includes practical methods and techniques to help readers confront controlling people and rehabilitate negative relationships into mutually respectful ones.
By understanding your behaviour as well as the tendencies and strategies of psychopaths, Surrounded by Psychopaths will teach you to protect yourself from manipulative influence in your workplace, social life, and family. It is an accessible, witty and riveting read and as a lover of true crime, and therefore interested by the inner workings of the mind of those who manipulate others, this really had me enthralled throughout. A layperson will easily comprehend the vast knowledge and information Erikson provides and the chatty, conversational writing style means you devour it quickly. I'd recommend this as an indispensable book for those in a relationship, cohabiting or acquainted with one of these types as Erikson gives tips as to how you can put a stop to the behaviour and exploitation, but I'd also recommend it highly to those interested in psychology, those who have a criminology background and true crime enthusiasts. Many thanks to Vermilion for an ARC.
July 17, 2021
Human behaviour fascinates me and I saw this book and thought this might be interesting to get a better understanding not for psychopaths but for human behaviour in general. I couldn't finish the book and I feel dissatisfied here.
It was interesting at times but I felt it was all a kind of sales pitch to me as a reader. I do find that I question myself more what other peoples motives might be. Being an international bestseller doesn't always make the book a good read.
Mirriam Webster defines psychopath as follows
a mentally unstable person
especially : a person having an egocentric and antisocial personality marked by a lack of remorse for one's actions, an absence of empathy for others, and often criminal tendencies.
Now I do not call my self an expert but on several occassions where I have read articles/books and reports it is a word not to use carelessly. In this case for me he used this word in connection which really got my goat.
Adolf Hitler was a psyhopath.
Gets and annoys me every single time. If you are asking there are several sources that don't agree with this and I think they have a better idea of what they are talking about then this author. But I am getting off topic here.
For me the author didn't check his facts which is a major factor of the book.
The book is alright to read. I guess but I expected more and to be honest I wouldn't recommend it.
It was interesting at times but I felt it was all a kind of sales pitch to me as a reader. I do find that I question myself more what other peoples motives might be. Being an international bestseller doesn't always make the book a good read.
Mirriam Webster defines psychopath as follows
a mentally unstable person
especially : a person having an egocentric and antisocial personality marked by a lack of remorse for one's actions, an absence of empathy for others, and often criminal tendencies.
Now I do not call my self an expert but on several occassions where I have read articles/books and reports it is a word not to use carelessly. In this case for me he used this word in connection which really got my goat.
Adolf Hitler was a psyhopath.
Gets and annoys me every single time. If you are asking there are several sources that don't agree with this and I think they have a better idea of what they are talking about then this author. But I am getting off topic here.
For me the author didn't check his facts which is a major factor of the book.
The book is alright to read. I guess but I expected more and to be honest I wouldn't recommend it.
November 4, 2021
I enjoyed this much more than . Eventhough the book is targeted towards understanding how psychopaths (a term I never liked to use and label people with because it's very biased and I prefer to identify those as manipulative) could manipulate the four colors and advice on how to react. Despite the biasness emphasized throughout the book, I enjoyed picking up a few points and takeaways on how to categorize, understand and react to manipulative behavior in a conflict . A lot of these behaviors are common and I am also guilty to have practiced it myself (guilty as charged for the silent treatment). It reminds me a lot of my past experiences with people who I have walked away from (sadly not early enough in the relationship) and in a way, I congratulated myself once more for leaving after reading this book. I think this is a good book for readers who felt that they are being manipulated but with fear to admit it. It does help to boost a certain level of confidence to plan their next step regardless of what it may result in. I also personally think that it shouldn't be read as a standalone, and if the reader wants to, the reader should at least know their DISC profile.
January 21, 2022
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賱丕 賷鬲丨丿孬 毓賳 丕賱賲乇囟賶 丕賱賳賮爻賷賷賳貙 賵賱賰賳賴 賷鬲丨丿孬 毓賳 "兀氐丨丕亘 丕賱卮禺氐賷丞 丕賱爻賷賰賵亘丕鬲賷丞 兀賷 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 丕賱毓賯賱賷賷賳" 賵賱匕丕 丕賱毓賳賵丕賳 賲囟賱賱 賯賱賷賱賸丕貙 賵賱賰賳 賲丨鬲賵賶 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 噩賷丿 亘丨賯貙 賵卮乇丨 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱爻賲丕鬲 丕賱卮丕卅毓丞 賱賱丕禺鬲賱丕賱 丕賱賳賮爻賷貙 賵胤乇賷賯丞 鬲氐乇賮 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賳賮爻賷賸丕 爻賵丕亍 賮賷 丕賱毓賲賱 兀賵 丕賱丨賷丕丞 丕賱卮禺氐賷丞貙 賵賲丕 賴賷 兀爻丕賱賷亘 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱鬲賷 賷爻鬲禺丿賲賵賳賴丕貙 賵賰賷賮 鬲丐孬乇 毓賱賶 丕賱兀賳賲丕胤 丕賱爻賱賵賰賷丞 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞 賱賱丕賳爻丕賳 ( 賵賱賲賳 賱丕 賷毓乇賮 賴匕賴 丕賱兀賳賲丕胤 賷賲賰賳賴 賯乇丕亍丞 賰鬲丕亘 賲丨丕胤 亘丕賱丨賲賯賷 賱賳賮爻 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 ).
賵兀禺賷乇賸丕 匕賰乇 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 胤乇賯 丕賱丨賲丕賷丞 賲賳 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 賵丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 丕賱毓賯賱賷賷賳貙 賵賱賲賳 賱丕 賷毓乇賮 賲賳 賴賵 丕賱賲禺鬲賱 丕賱毓賯賱賷 賮賴賵 卮禺氐 亘賱丕 囟賲賷乇 兀賵 賲卮丕毓乇 賴丿賮賴 丕賱賵丨賷丿 賴賵 賲氐賱丨鬲賴 賵賷賯賵賲 亘丕爻鬲睾賱丕賱 丕賱噩賲賷毓 亘賱丕 丕爻鬲孬鬲丕亍貙 賵賱賵 賰丕賳 賮賷 丨賷丕鬲賰 兀丨丿 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賳 賱丕 鬲丨丕賵賱 鬲睾賷賷乇賴貙 賮賴賵 賱賳 賷鬲睾賷乇 賮丕賱賲禺鬲賱賷賷賳 丕賱賳賮爻賷賳 賱賷爻 賱賴賲 毓賱丕噩 賱兀賳賴賲 賷賵賱丿賵賳 賴賰匕丕貙 賵丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賲鬲毓 賱賱睾丕賷丞貙 賵兀爻賱賵亘 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 卮賷賯 賵噩匕丕亘貙 賲賳 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱鬲賷 爻鬲兀爻乇賰 亘兀爻賱賵亘賴丕 丕賱毓賱賲賷 丕賱爻丕丨乇 賵賴賵 賲賳 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱鬲賷 兀賳氐丨 丕賱噩賲賷毓 亘賯乇丕亍鬲賴丕.
August 1, 2019
Sitt lugnt i b氓ten, det 盲r inte psykopater du beh枚ver g氓 runt och oroa dig f枚r - det 盲r Eriksons argumentationsteknik. Erikson p氓minner v盲ldigt mycket om Jordan Peterson i sitt skrivande 盲ven om jag faktiskt skulle s盲ga att Peterson 盲r v盲rre. Jag skulle kunna k枚pa att Erikson skrivit n氓gon slags ess盲 枚ver psykopatin som f枚reteelse. Det vill s盲ga att det 盲r tydligt att det 盲r f枚rfattarens egna 氓sikter. Eller att han hade skrivit vetenskapligt. Denna bok precis som f枚reg氓ngaren inneh氓ller dock en salig blandning av h枚rs盲gen och tveksamma k盲llh盲nvisningar allt f枚r att den oinsatta skall luras att tro att Eriksons egna 氓sikter skulle ha n氓gon slags legitimitet. En sak som verkligen skr盲mmer mig 盲r 盲ven bevekelsegrunderna f枚r att han skriver boken. I slutet utm氓lar han en av sina f枚re detta partners som om inte fullst盲ndig psykopat s氓 med psykopat-tendenser. I say beware of men with "crazy exes", speciellt om de sen k盲nner behovet av att skriva en bok i syfte att legitimera kvinnornas beteenden som patologiska.
May 4, 2023
鬲丨賮丞 鈾ワ笍..卮賵賮鬲 賲賱禺氐賴 賲賳 兀禺囟乇
賵賮賷 兀賯乇亘 賮乇氐丞 爻兀賯乇兀賴 賰丕賲賱賸丕 鈾ワ笍鉁岋笍
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿賴 賮賰乇賳賷 亘卮禺氐賷丞 賲毓賷賳丞 ..賳賮爻賷 丕毓賲賱賴 賲賳卮賳 馃槀
賵賮賷 兀賯乇亘 賮乇氐丞 爻兀賯乇兀賴 賰丕賲賱賸丕 鈾ワ笍鉁岋笍
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿賴 賮賰乇賳賷 亘卮禺氐賷丞 賲毓賷賳丞 ..賳賮爻賷 丕毓賲賱賴 賲賳卮賳 馃槀
July 16, 2024
" 丕賳 丕丨鬲賲丕賱賷丞 鬲丿賲賷乇 丨賷丕鬲賰 賲賳 賲禺鬲賱 賳賮爻賷丕 鬲賮賵賯 賲禺丕胤乇 丕賱丕氐丕亘丞 亘兀夭賲丞 賯賱亘賷丞 丕賵 鬲爻乇賷丨賰 賲賳 丕賱毓賲賱 丕賵 鬲丨胤賲 爻賷丕乇丕鬲賰 賮賷 丨丕丿孬".
賳毓丕賳賷 噩賲賷毓丕賸 賲賳 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱爻賷賰賵亘丕鬲賷賴 賮囟乇乇賴賲 賱丕 賷毓丕賯亘 毓賱賷賴 丕賱賯丕賳賵賳 賵賱丕 鬲爻鬲胤賷毓 兀孬亘丕鬲賴 賮賴賵 亘丕乇毓 亘丕賱賰匕亘 賱丿乇噩丞 鬲噩毓賱賴 賷爻鬲禺丿賲 賰賱 賲丕 鬲賯賵賱賴 囟丿賰. 賵賱賰賳 賲卮賰賱鬲賷 賲毓 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賴賵 賱賷爻 毓賱賲賷 賮賯胤 兀賲孬賱賴 賲禺鬲賱賮丞 毓賳 兀卮禺丕氐 鬲丐匕賷 賰賱 賲丕 賷丨賷胤 亘锟斤拷丕 丿賵賳 鬲乇丕亘胤 丕賵 鬲丨賱賷賱 毓賱賲賷. 賮賯胤 爻賷賯賱亘 毓賱賷賰 丕賱匕賰乇賷丕鬲 賱鬲賰鬲卅亘 兀賰孬乇.
賵禺丿毓丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賴賷 賳毓賱賲賰 賰賷賮 鬲賳噩賵 賲賳賴賲 乇睾賲 鬲賵囟賷丨賴 賱匕賱賰 丕賱卮禺氐 亘賯丿乇丞 毓賱賷 丕賱賰匕亘 賵毓丿賲 賰卮賮 丨賯賷賯鬲賴 賲賳 丕賱亘丿丕賷丞 賵賱賴匕丕 賴賵 爻賷賰賵亘丕鬲賷. 賵賱賰賳 賱丕 囟乇乇 賲賳 賯乇丕亍丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賱賵 賰賳鬲 亘丨丕噩丞 賱賱丿禺賵賱 賮賷 丨丕賱丞 丕賱亘賰丕亍 毓賱賶 丕賱賱亘賳 丕賱賲賰爻賵亘 賵噩賱丿 丕賱匕丕鬲 賮賴賵 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱賲賳丕爻亘 賱賰 賷丕 毓夭賷夭賷.
賳毓丕賳賷 噩賲賷毓丕賸 賲賳 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱爻賷賰賵亘丕鬲賷賴 賮囟乇乇賴賲 賱丕 賷毓丕賯亘 毓賱賷賴 丕賱賯丕賳賵賳 賵賱丕 鬲爻鬲胤賷毓 兀孬亘丕鬲賴 賮賴賵 亘丕乇毓 亘丕賱賰匕亘 賱丿乇噩丞 鬲噩毓賱賴 賷爻鬲禺丿賲 賰賱 賲丕 鬲賯賵賱賴 囟丿賰. 賵賱賰賳 賲卮賰賱鬲賷 賲毓 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賴賵 賱賷爻 毓賱賲賷 賮賯胤 兀賲孬賱賴 賲禺鬲賱賮丞 毓賳 兀卮禺丕氐 鬲丐匕賷 賰賱 賲丕 賷丨賷胤 亘锟斤拷丕 丿賵賳 鬲乇丕亘胤 丕賵 鬲丨賱賷賱 毓賱賲賷. 賮賯胤 爻賷賯賱亘 毓賱賷賰 丕賱匕賰乇賷丕鬲 賱鬲賰鬲卅亘 兀賰孬乇.
賵禺丿毓丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賴賷 賳毓賱賲賰 賰賷賮 鬲賳噩賵 賲賳賴賲 乇睾賲 鬲賵囟賷丨賴 賱匕賱賰 丕賱卮禺氐 亘賯丿乇丞 毓賱賷 丕賱賰匕亘 賵毓丿賲 賰卮賮 丨賯賷賯鬲賴 賲賳 丕賱亘丿丕賷丞 賵賱賴匕丕 賴賵 爻賷賰賵亘丕鬲賷. 賵賱賰賳 賱丕 囟乇乇 賲賳 賯乇丕亍丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賱賵 賰賳鬲 亘丨丕噩丞 賱賱丿禺賵賱 賮賷 丨丕賱丞 丕賱亘賰丕亍 毓賱賶 丕賱賱亘賳 丕賱賲賰爻賵亘 賵噩賱丿 丕賱匕丕鬲 賮賴賵 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱賲賳丕爻亘 賱賰 賷丕 毓夭賷夭賷.
October 16, 2018
I learnt a lot. I think it's better to read it as a book instead of an audiobook.
Update. Lowered it to 2 stars. It is not that great actually.
Update. Lowered it to 2 stars. It is not that great actually.
September 30, 2021
卮噩毓賳賷 兀賯乇兀 兀毓賲丕賱賴 賰賱賴丕 ..
April 7, 2025
賷爻鬲賲乇 廿乇賷賰爻賵賳 賮賷 鬲賯爻賷賲 兀氐賳丕賮 丕賱亘卮乇 賵 賮乇夭賴賲 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 鬲賯爻賷賲賴賲 賱賱兀賱賵丕賳 丕賱賲毓鬲丕丿丞 : 丕賱兀丨賲乇貙 丕賱兀禺囟乇貙 丕賱兀氐賮乇貙 賵丕賱兀夭乇賯貙 賵 兀賳賲丕胤 丕賱爻賱賵賰賷丕鬲 丕賱鬲賷 鬲禺氐 賰賱 賳賵毓
賱賰賳 乇賰夭 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 毓賱賶 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賵 賰賷賮 賱賰 兀賳 鬲賰賵賳 賲丨丕胤 亘丕賱賲鬲賱丕毓亘賷賳 丕賱賳賮爻賷賷賳 丿賵賳 廿丿乇丕賰賰 賱匕丕賱賰貙 賯丿賲 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 亘毓囟 兀賵氐丕賮 賴丐賱丕亍 丕賱賲鬲賱丕毓亘賷賷賳 賵賰賷賮 賷鬲賱丕毓亘賵賳 亘賰賱 氐賳賮 賲賳 兀氐賳丕賮 丕賱亘卮乇 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞 丨爻亘 鬲賯爻賷賲賴 賮賷 賰鬲丕亘賴 丕賱爻丕亘賯 : 賲丨丕胤 亘丕賱丨賲賯賶. 賵賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲禺氐氐 賲賳 兀噩賱 丕賱賮卅丞 丕賱鬲賷. 賱丕 鬲賳胤亘賯 毓賱賷賴丕 兀賵氐丕賮 丕賱賲噩賲賵毓丕鬲 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞.
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賰丕賳 賲亘爻胤 賵 賱賰賳 賱賷爻 亘丕賱賲毓賲賯 亘丕賱卮賰賱 丕賱賰丕賮賷 賱賰賳賴 賯丿賲 兀賵氐丕賮 丨賯賷賯賷丞 賱匕丕賱賰:
毓丿賲 鬲毓丕胤賮 丕賱賲鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷 兀亘丿丕 賵賴匕賴 丕賱丨賯賷賯丞 丕賱兀賰孬乇 氐丿賯丕貙 賱賰賳 賱丕 賷賲賰賳 丕毓鬲賲丕丿 鬲賯爻賷賲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賰賯丕毓丿丞 賱賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓 賰賱 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 .
賱賰賳 乇賰夭 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 毓賱賶 丕賱鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賵 賰賷賮 賱賰 兀賳 鬲賰賵賳 賲丨丕胤 亘丕賱賲鬲賱丕毓亘賷賳 丕賱賳賮爻賷賷賳 丿賵賳 廿丿乇丕賰賰 賱匕丕賱賰貙 賯丿賲 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 亘毓囟 兀賵氐丕賮 賴丐賱丕亍 丕賱賲鬲賱丕毓亘賷賷賳 賵賰賷賮 賷鬲賱丕毓亘賵賳 亘賰賱 氐賳賮 賲賳 兀氐賳丕賮 丕賱亘卮乇 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞 丨爻亘 鬲賯爻賷賲賴 賮賷 賰鬲丕亘賴 丕賱爻丕亘賯 : 賲丨丕胤 亘丕賱丨賲賯賶. 賵賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲禺氐氐 賲賳 兀噩賱 丕賱賮卅丞 丕賱鬲賷. 賱丕 鬲賳胤亘賯 毓賱賷賴丕 兀賵氐丕賮 丕賱賲噩賲賵毓丕鬲 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞.
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賰丕賳 賲亘爻胤 賵 賱賰賳 賱賷爻 亘丕賱賲毓賲賯 亘丕賱卮賰賱 丕賱賰丕賮賷 賱賰賳賴 賯丿賲 兀賵氐丕賮 丨賯賷賯賷丞 賱匕丕賱賰:
毓丿賲 鬲毓丕胤賮 丕賱賲鬲賱丕毓亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷 兀亘丿丕 賵賴匕賴 丕賱丨賯賷賯丞 丕賱兀賰孬乇 氐丿賯丕貙 賱賰賳 賱丕 賷賲賰賳 丕毓鬲賲丕丿 鬲賯爻賷賲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賰賯丕毓丿丞 賱賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓 賰賱 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 .
May 2, 2022
This book provides a helpful mental model to understand your own behavior better and how others might use your weak spots to manipulate you.
As someone who鈥檚 worked closely with a psychopath, I found the explanation of manipulation tactics at the end to be especially useful knowledge. I just wish I would have had the book a few years ago to guide me through that situation.
This isn鈥檛 meant to be science. It鈥檚 meant to be a practical guide to help people understand human behavior a little better. It鈥檚 also about learning how to identify and cut ties with someone who is toxic or psychopathic.
I wonder if a lot of the people giving this book a one star are psychopaths attempting to keep this information out of the hands of the average empath. Because when an empath can more easily spot manipulative behavior and then pushes through the fear to draw healthy boundaries, psychopaths lose their victims! 馃槢馃檭
Read it with the right mindset鈥攊t鈥檚 storytelling to help you understand a useful framework to analyze human behavior so you can be more effective at identifying psychopaths and draw boundaries to avoid being their victim. It鈥檚 not a textbook and yes it鈥檚 repetitive at times because repetition helps people remember things better. And also yes, the author is a businessman because this book is about how to help people identify psychopaths mainly in the workplace. Let it be what it is. 馃帀
As someone who鈥檚 worked closely with a psychopath, I found the explanation of manipulation tactics at the end to be especially useful knowledge. I just wish I would have had the book a few years ago to guide me through that situation.
This isn鈥檛 meant to be science. It鈥檚 meant to be a practical guide to help people understand human behavior a little better. It鈥檚 also about learning how to identify and cut ties with someone who is toxic or psychopathic.
I wonder if a lot of the people giving this book a one star are psychopaths attempting to keep this information out of the hands of the average empath. Because when an empath can more easily spot manipulative behavior and then pushes through the fear to draw healthy boundaries, psychopaths lose their victims! 馃槢馃檭
Read it with the right mindset鈥攊t鈥檚 storytelling to help you understand a useful framework to analyze human behavior so you can be more effective at identifying psychopaths and draw boundaries to avoid being their victim. It鈥檚 not a textbook and yes it鈥檚 repetitive at times because repetition helps people remember things better. And also yes, the author is a businessman because this book is about how to help people identify psychopaths mainly in the workplace. Let it be what it is. 馃帀
February 4, 2020
Interesting approach to practical psychology, maybe too simplified, but I have no education to really judge that. Anyway, it can probably save serious troubles for more than one person. Still, it is written clearly looking from Scandinavian point of view. While fully understandable in Europe, might be not so clear and applicable for example for Latin or Asian people, despite that author recons that it is fully universal.
Nevertheless, at least two techniques of defense against manipulators are probably worth trying:
1. Always take time to think longer when you get any request for any favor from anybody. Always.
2. If some actions of anybody bother you try to communicate it to them in exactly those 4 points in such order:
a) When you do this and this
b) I feel this and this
c) If instead of this and this action you made/did this and this
d) I would feel this and this
If technique 2. doesn't help in the long run, you might be facing a psychopath.
Nevertheless, at least two techniques of defense against manipulators are probably worth trying:
1. Always take time to think longer when you get any request for any favor from anybody. Always.
2. If some actions of anybody bother you try to communicate it to them in exactly those 4 points in such order:
a) When you do this and this
b) I feel this and this
c) If instead of this and this action you made/did this and this
d) I would feel this and this
If technique 2. doesn't help in the long run, you might be facing a psychopath.
January 25, 2021
艩奴davota knyga, neveltui Obuolys i拧leido. Bet nors nebuvo gramatini懦 klaid懦 ir typos.
Viskas paremta paprastu DISA ar kokiu ten metodu, pagal kur寞 啪mon臈s skirstomi 寞 keturias spalvas. Tada ie拧koma j懦 silpn懦j懦 pusi懦 ir kaip jas gal臈t懦 i拧naudoti psichopatas. Ir tok寞 paprast膮 拧奴d膮 mal臈 beveik 300 psl. Jokios gilesn臈s analiz臈s apie psichopatij膮.
Viskas paremta paprastu DISA ar kokiu ten metodu, pagal kur寞 啪mon臈s skirstomi 寞 keturias spalvas. Tada ie拧koma j懦 silpn懦j懦 pusi懦 ir kaip jas gal臈t懦 i拧naudoti psichopatas. Ir tok寞 paprast膮 拧奴d膮 mal臈 beveik 300 psl. Jokios gilesn臈s analiz臈s apie psichopatij膮.
January 31, 2022
Must read book
August 19, 2021
Menestyskonsultti ja entinen dekkaristi iski kultasuoneen teoksellaan Idiootit ymp盲rill盲mme, ja t盲ss盲 jatko-osassa William Moulton Marstonin 1920-luvulla kehitt盲m盲盲n DISC-j盲rjestelm盲盲n on ymp盲tty v盲rikoodit: vihre盲, sininen, punainen ja keltainen, eli introvertit ja ekstrovertit pannaan nelilaatikkoon, jotta niit盲 psykopaattisia piirteit盲 voi alkaa tutkailemaan niin perheess盲 kuin ty枚paikallakin.
L盲hdeluettelo on suppea, eik盲 tekij盲ll盲 ole mink盲盲n sortin psykologian tai psykoterapian koulutusta. V盲reist盲 sitten t盲m盲n kirjan mukaan tiet盲盲, millaisia v盲rityyppej盲 voi psykopaatteina olla: 鈥漵ininen, viile盲 perfektionisti鈥�; 鈥漦eltaiset manipuloinnin mestarit ovatkin psykopaatteja鈥�, ja listaa jatketaan, miten psykopaatti manipuloi vihre盲盲 tyyppi盲. Positiivinen vahvistaminen eri muodoissaan otetaan aika usein esille.
Suurin ongelma on, ett盲 aikoinaan Jungin kehittelem盲 jako introverttiin, ekstroverttiin ja persoonallisuustyyppien yhdistelmiin ajattelu, tunteminen, aistiminen ja havainnointi on aika kyseenalainen ja ongelmallinen, ja niist盲 on johdettu jos jonkinmoista mallia luokitella ihmisten k盲ytt盲ytymist盲 ja m盲盲ritell盲 persoonallisuustyyppej盲.
Joharin ikkunakin (Joseph Luft ja Harrington Ingham) saadaan mahdutettua mukaan eli nelikentt盲: ylh盲盲ll盲 vasemmalla virallinen min盲, oikealla sokea min盲, alhaalla vasemmalla salainen min盲 ja oikealla tuntematon min盲. Virallinen min盲 siis kostuu siit盲, mit盲 yksil枚 tiet盲盲 itsest盲盲n ja mit盲 h盲n muille paljastaa. Sokeaa min盲盲 ei itse tiedet盲, mutta muut sen p盲盲ttelev盲t. Salainen min盲 onkin muilta piilossa ja oman julkisivun suojissa. Tuntematonta min盲盲 ei yksil枚 sen paremmin kuin muutkaan eiv盲t tied盲, mutta sielt盲 se kumpuaa tiukoissa paikoissa tai kun toimitaan vaiston varassa.
Menn盲盲n aika lailla keitti枚psykologian puolelle, mutta jonkin verran itsetarkkailua voi harrastaa varsinkin kirjan loppupuolella, kun tulee vinkkej盲 psykopaattien tunnistamiseen ja niiden v盲lttelyyn. Rikkin盲inen 盲lpp盲ri -taktiikkaa kannattaa kirjan mukaan k盲ytt盲盲 p盲盲llep盲sm盲rin taltuttamiseen: 鈥漃alaan asiaan, kun olen pohtinut asiaa tarpeeksi.鈥� 脛l盲 siis polta p盲reit盲si, vaan ota itsellesi aikaa, vaikka se narsisti tai psykopaatti k盲ytt盲盲 yht盲 tavallisimmista manipulointikeinoista eli aikapaineen luomista ajaakseen tahtonsa l盲pi.
Hyv盲uskoisen ja sinisilm盲isen h盲rm盲l盲isenkin on hyv盲 tunnistaa niit盲 tavallisimpia manipulointikeinoja, joita my枚s psykopaatit usein k盲ytt盲v盲t:
tahdittomuus, syyllist盲minen, ep盲suorat loukkaukset, vihjailevat kommentit, v盲heksynt盲, valehtelu, raivoaminen, uhriutuminen, imartelu ja monet muut.
L盲hdeluettelo on suppea, eik盲 tekij盲ll盲 ole mink盲盲n sortin psykologian tai psykoterapian koulutusta. V盲reist盲 sitten t盲m盲n kirjan mukaan tiet盲盲, millaisia v盲rityyppej盲 voi psykopaatteina olla: 鈥漵ininen, viile盲 perfektionisti鈥�; 鈥漦eltaiset manipuloinnin mestarit ovatkin psykopaatteja鈥�, ja listaa jatketaan, miten psykopaatti manipuloi vihre盲盲 tyyppi盲. Positiivinen vahvistaminen eri muodoissaan otetaan aika usein esille.
Suurin ongelma on, ett盲 aikoinaan Jungin kehittelem盲 jako introverttiin, ekstroverttiin ja persoonallisuustyyppien yhdistelmiin ajattelu, tunteminen, aistiminen ja havainnointi on aika kyseenalainen ja ongelmallinen, ja niist盲 on johdettu jos jonkinmoista mallia luokitella ihmisten k盲ytt盲ytymist盲 ja m盲盲ritell盲 persoonallisuustyyppej盲.
Joharin ikkunakin (Joseph Luft ja Harrington Ingham) saadaan mahdutettua mukaan eli nelikentt盲: ylh盲盲ll盲 vasemmalla virallinen min盲, oikealla sokea min盲, alhaalla vasemmalla salainen min盲 ja oikealla tuntematon min盲. Virallinen min盲 siis kostuu siit盲, mit盲 yksil枚 tiet盲盲 itsest盲盲n ja mit盲 h盲n muille paljastaa. Sokeaa min盲盲 ei itse tiedet盲, mutta muut sen p盲盲ttelev盲t. Salainen min盲 onkin muilta piilossa ja oman julkisivun suojissa. Tuntematonta min盲盲 ei yksil枚 sen paremmin kuin muutkaan eiv盲t tied盲, mutta sielt盲 se kumpuaa tiukoissa paikoissa tai kun toimitaan vaiston varassa.
Menn盲盲n aika lailla keitti枚psykologian puolelle, mutta jonkin verran itsetarkkailua voi harrastaa varsinkin kirjan loppupuolella, kun tulee vinkkej盲 psykopaattien tunnistamiseen ja niiden v盲lttelyyn. Rikkin盲inen 盲lpp盲ri -taktiikkaa kannattaa kirjan mukaan k盲ytt盲盲 p盲盲llep盲sm盲rin taltuttamiseen: 鈥漃alaan asiaan, kun olen pohtinut asiaa tarpeeksi.鈥� 脛l盲 siis polta p盲reit盲si, vaan ota itsellesi aikaa, vaikka se narsisti tai psykopaatti k盲ytt盲盲 yht盲 tavallisimmista manipulointikeinoista eli aikapaineen luomista ajaakseen tahtonsa l盲pi.
Hyv盲uskoisen ja sinisilm盲isen h盲rm盲l盲isenkin on hyv盲 tunnistaa niit盲 tavallisimpia manipulointikeinoja, joita my枚s psykopaatit usein k盲ytt盲v盲t:
tahdittomuus, syyllist盲minen, ep盲suorat loukkaukset, vihjailevat kommentit, v盲heksynt盲, valehtelu, raivoaminen, uhriutuminen, imartelu ja monet muut.
June 13, 2019
Psykopaatit ymp盲rill盲ni oli todella kiinnostava ja osittain valaisevakin kirja, mutta olisin toivonut v盲hemm盲n sen vakuuttelua, ett盲 "psykopaatteja on ymp盲rill盲si enemm盲n kuin uskotkaan!!!" ja enemm盲n ihan vain arkiel盲m盲n manipuloimista. Eri "v盲rien" tahalliset ja tahattomat tavat manipuloida ymp盲rist枚盲盲n - ja miten manipulointi vaikuttaa kuhunkin v盲riin - oli ehdottomasti kirjan parasta antia, sensaatiohakuinen psykopaatti-sanan viljely ei niink盲盲n.
Ehk盲 olisi pit盲nyt lukea ensin Idiootit ymp盲rill盲ni tiet盲盲kseen enemm盲n ihmisten luokittelusta nelj盲盲n eri v盲rikategoriaan, mutta onnekseni olen maailman selkein (sininen) tapaus, joten t盲m盲 puute ei paljoa vaivannut.
Koin kirjan hy枚dyllisen盲 ja kiinnostavana, mutta en edelleenk盲盲n koe itse盲ni hirve盲n uhatuksi psykopaattien suunnalta, vaikka heit盲 onkin (enemm盲n kuin uskotkaan) 2-4%(!!!!).
Ehk盲 olisi pit盲nyt lukea ensin Idiootit ymp盲rill盲ni tiet盲盲kseen enemm盲n ihmisten luokittelusta nelj盲盲n eri v盲rikategoriaan, mutta onnekseni olen maailman selkein (sininen) tapaus, joten t盲m盲 puute ei paljoa vaivannut.
Koin kirjan hy枚dyllisen盲 ja kiinnostavana, mutta en edelleenk盲盲n koe itse盲ni hirve盲n uhatuksi psykopaattien suunnalta, vaikka heit盲 onkin (enemm盲n kuin uskotkaan) 2-4%(!!!!).
December 31, 2020
Picked up this book because I heard so many good things about 'Surrounded by Idiots' but was too lazy to read that book. I was hoping this book to be really enlightening and all, but it turned out to be rather gossipy and filled with insipid and rather slippery slope-y anecdotes which made it really hard for me to take whatever was written too seriously. The language is fairly colloquial so it was pretty easy to just charge through the segments that were painful to read and what pushed me to finishing this book was the modicum of somewhat wise words about how to recognise manipulation and the possible strategies to react to them, that was strategically chopped up and sprinkled over the length of the book. I guess clickbait is a form of manipulation as well.
May 24, 2021
It's definitely a straightforward book about Psychopaths. Although it seems like it's very rare that we run into them, according to the book it's more common than we think.
Surrounded by Psychopaths has some great examples of how people manipulate each other and how we are fooled into being manipulated by others. It also categorizes people in four different colors which are red, yellow, green, and blue.
The last 25% of the book focuses on learning the different manipulation strategies people usually use and how you can deflect those strategies. Or even use them I suppose.
Surrounded by Psychopaths has some great examples of how people manipulate each other and how we are fooled into being manipulated by others. It also categorizes people in four different colors which are red, yellow, green, and blue.
The last 25% of the book focuses on learning the different manipulation strategies people usually use and how you can deflect those strategies. Or even use them I suppose.
January 18, 2024
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May 19, 2021
Similar to his other book, surrounded by idiots, this book repeats almost everything verbatim with little to no new insight.
October 17, 2023
The author intends to convey ideas related to the book's central theme of avoiding exploitation by others, but I'm not convinced that they possess a deep understanding of the subject matter. The book seems to lack substantial content worth your time, as the author continually introduces stories to align with the book's theme, yet often fills pages with unnecessary information. Instead of clarifying the topic, they tend to extend it with more extraneous material, leading to a repetitive pattern.馃檮
The author appears to recognize when readers become disinterested due to excessive, off-topic explanations, and attempts to regain attention by introducing new headings. It feels like a cycle where you initially read brief, relevant insights related to the headings, followed by more unrelated information that is thrust into this 250-page book. The author even goes as far as self-proclaiming expertise in behavioral matters, which might be questionable.
In my personal opinion, this book is a waste of time and could be condensed into a much shorter 50-100 page format, with a more fitting title, as the current one hardly seems relevant to the subject matter. The book doesn't live up to the grandeur of the term "Psychopaths," which encompasses a broader range of meanings and personalities. It's frustrating that the author constantly urges you to keep reading and believe in the content.鈾撅笍
It took me an extended period to finish this book, during which I managed to complete two other books due to a lack of motivation. I ended up skimming through almost three-quarters of this book, finding very little of value within.
Also Wasting my time on reviewing his book TOO Is entirely unnecessary. Certainly there are many more bluffs which has to be addressed too!
The author appears to recognize when readers become disinterested due to excessive, off-topic explanations, and attempts to regain attention by introducing new headings. It feels like a cycle where you initially read brief, relevant insights related to the headings, followed by more unrelated information that is thrust into this 250-page book. The author even goes as far as self-proclaiming expertise in behavioral matters, which might be questionable.
In my personal opinion, this book is a waste of time and could be condensed into a much shorter 50-100 page format, with a more fitting title, as the current one hardly seems relevant to the subject matter. The book doesn't live up to the grandeur of the term "Psychopaths," which encompasses a broader range of meanings and personalities. It's frustrating that the author constantly urges you to keep reading and believe in the content.鈾撅笍
It took me an extended period to finish this book, during which I managed to complete two other books due to a lack of motivation. I ended up skimming through almost three-quarters of this book, finding very little of value within.
Also Wasting my time on reviewing his book TOO Is entirely unnecessary. Certainly there are many more bluffs which has to be addressed too!
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