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賲賵囟賵毓 賲乇诏 賵 夭賳丿诏蹖
夭賲丕賳 賳诏丕乇卮 噩賲賱丕鬲 倬丕蹖丕賳蹖 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賲氐丕丿賮 丕爻鬲 亘丕 丌睾丕夭 倬丕賳丿賲蹖 讴卮賳丿賴贁 爻丿賴贁 亘蹖爻鬲 賵 蹖讴賲 讴賴 丿賳蹖丕 乇丕 亘蹖卮 丕夭 賴乇 夭賲丕賳蹖 亘丕 丕囟胤乇丕亘 丕夭 丿爻鬲 丿丕丿賳 賵 丕囟胤乇丕亘 賲乇诏 乇賵蹖丕乇賵蹖 讴乇丿.
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賵 丕夭 丕蹖賳 賱丨馗賴 讴鬲丕亘 賲賵囟賵毓 賲乇诏 賵 夭賳丿诏蹖 夭丕丿賴 賲蹖鈥屫促堌�. 丿賵 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 鬲氐賲蹖賲 賲蹖鈥屭屫辟嗀� 丌賳趩賴 賯乇丕乇 丕爻鬲 丿乇 丕蹖賳 賮乇丌蹖賳丿 丕夭 爻乇 亘诏匕乇丕賳賳丿 乇丕 亘丕 氐丿丕賯鬲 鬲賲丕賲 亘賴 鬲氐賵蹖乇 亘讴卮賳丿 賵 亘賴 丕蹖賳 鬲乇鬲蹖亘 丕乇賵蹖賳 蹖丕賱賵賲 鈥� 乇賵丕賳倬夭卮讴貙 乇賵丕賳鈥屫辟呚з嗂� 丕诏夭蹖爻鬲丕賳爻蹖丕賱 賵 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴贁 亘乇噩爻鬲賴 鈥� 賵 賲乇蹖賱蹖賳 蹖丕賱賵賲 鈥� 賲賵乇禺貙 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴貙 倬跇賵賴卮诏乇 賵 丕爻鬲丕丿 丿丕賳卮诏丕賴 鈥� 亘丕 鬲讴蹖賴 亘乇 丿丕賳卮 賵 趩蹖乇賴鈥屫池屸€屫簇з� 丿乇 賳賵卮鬲賳貙 趩賳丕賳 賲丕 乇丕 亘丕 禺賵丿 賴賲乇丕賴 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁嗀� 讴賴 賳賴鈥屫嗁囏� 禺賵丿 乇丕 讴賳丕乇 丌賳鈥屬囏� 賵 丿乇 禺丕賳賴鈥屫簇з� 丨爻 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃屬� 讴賴 鬲丕 倬賳賴丕賳鈥屫臂屬� 倬爻鬲賵賴丕蹖 匕賴賳 禺賱丕賯卮丕賳 乇丕賴 賲蹖鈥屫ㄘ臂屬� 賵 亘丕 跇乇賮鈥屫臂屬� 鬲乇爻鈥屬囏ж� 丨爻乇鬲鈥屬囏� 賵 丌乇夭賵賴丕蹖 亘卮乇蹖 趩卮賲 丿乇 趩卮賲 賲蹖鈥屫促堐屬�.
讴鬲丕亘 亘蹖卮 丕夭 賴乇趩蹖夭 乇丕夭 趩诏賵賳賴 夭蹖爻鬲賳 乇丕 亘丕 賲丕 丿乇 賲蹖丕賳 賲蹖鈥屭柏ж必� 賵 丕蹖賳 卮丕蹖丿 賴賲丕賳 趩蹖夭蹖 丕爻鬲 讴賴 賴賲鈥屫и┵嗁堎� 讴賴 夭賳丿诏蹖 亘蹖卮 丕夭 賴乇 夭賲丕賳 丿蹖诏乇蹖 卮讴賳賳丿賴 賵 丌爻蹖亘鈥屬矩佰屫� 賲蹖鈥屬嗁呚й屫� 賵 賲乇诏 亘蹖卮 丕夭 賴乇 夭賲丕賳 丿蹖诏乇蹖 賯丿 亘乇丕賮乇丕卮鬲賴 賵 禺賵丿 賲蹖鈥屬嗁呚й屫з嗀� 爻禺鬲 亘賴 丌賳 賳蹖丕夭賲賳丿蹖賲.
268 pages, Paperback
First published March 2, 2021
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Irvin D. Yalom
89听books9,570听followersIrvin David Yalom, M.D., is an author of fiction and nonfiction, Emeritus Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University, an existentialist, and accomplished psychotherapist.
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February 7, 2023
How do you rate a book written by a woman who is going through a life-sapping treatment for cancer that will ultimately fail and her husband of 67 years? How do you rate a book where the love for each other is palpable, the agonies of cancer, treatment and incipient separation are searingly, honestly described, sometimes too much information, sometimes tell me more.
How do you rate a book where every detail of the legally-assisted suicide is described, and the pain of the first three months makes you ache in a reflected grief? How do you rate a book where an old, old man of 87 with physical infirmities and a failing memory with all that implies, but still a brilliant brain, is going to have to shuffle with his cane through life, alone for the very first time?
It can't be rated on content, or even the excellent writing, it can only be rated on its emotional impact, and on how it maked me think. I did nothing at all today except listen to this book. It will live with me, so 10 star.
Death is easier to face, if life has been well-lived, and Marilyn says that she has nothing to regret, she had a full life. and mother of three boys and a girl, all very successful, she certainly illuminated 'the crack between two infinite darknesses' that is life.
I am reminded of a quote by Chaim Potok in his novel,
Despite the gloomy prediction of Dr Yalom that their books will not be read, that they will just gather dust on shelves, outdated... He is wrong, authors of their calibre with their literary contributions to science and history and feminism will not be forgotten. Biographies will be written about them, and there are videos and photographs, they will live on not just in memory but in mind. It is a kind of immortality.
注诇讬讛 讛砖诇讜诐 Marilyn, rest in peace.
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Notes on reading
A digression on art being shared, like recipes, not unique to an artist, at least in Bali and Haiti
How do you rate a book where every detail of the legally-assisted suicide is described, and the pain of the first three months makes you ache in a reflected grief? How do you rate a book where an old, old man of 87 with physical infirmities and a failing memory with all that implies, but still a brilliant brain, is going to have to shuffle with his cane through life, alone for the very first time?
It can't be rated on content, or even the excellent writing, it can only be rated on its emotional impact, and on how it maked me think. I did nothing at all today except listen to this book. It will live with me, so 10 star.
Death is easier to face, if life has been well-lived, and Marilyn says that she has nothing to regret, she had a full life. and mother of three boys and a girl, all very successful, she certainly illuminated 'the crack between two infinite darknesses' that is life.
I am reminded of a quote by Chaim Potok in his novel,
Human beings do not live forever, Reuven. We live less than the time it takes to blink an eye, if we measure our lives against eternity. So it may be asked what value is there to a human life. There is so much pain in the world. What does it mean to have to suffer so much if our lives are nothing more than the blink of an eye?Dr Yalom says that in a generation or two, has passed, no one will remember their faces, how they spoke, who they were as people and they will truly have passed on and be forgotten. When my brother and I die, my parents will have died too, there will be no one left to remember them. But not so for the Yaloms.
I learned a long time ago, Reuven, that a blink of an eye in itself is nothing. But the eye that blinks, that is something. A span of life is nothing. But the man who lives that span, he is something. He can fill that tiny span with meaning, so its quality is immeasurable though its quantity may be insignificant. Do you understand what I am saying? A man must fill his life with meaning, meaning is not automatically given to life.
It is hard work to fill one's life with meaning. That I do not think you understand yet. A life filled with meaning is worthy of rest. I want to be worthy of rest when I am no longer here.
Despite the gloomy prediction of Dr Yalom that their books will not be read, that they will just gather dust on shelves, outdated... He is wrong, authors of their calibre with their literary contributions to science and history and feminism will not be forgotten. Biographies will be written about them, and there are videos and photographs, they will live on not just in memory but in mind. It is a kind of immortality.
注诇讬讛 讛砖诇讜诐 Marilyn, rest in peace.
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Notes on reading
A digression on art being shared, like recipes, not unique to an artist, at least in Bali and Haiti
March 19, 2025
" 賱賯丿 兀購睾乇賲鬲 亘賲丕乇賱賷賳 賲賳匕 孬賱丕孬丞 賵爻亘毓賷賳 爻賳丞 貙 賵賰賳丕 賯丿 丕丨鬲賮賱賳丕 賲賳匕 賮鬲乇丞 賯乇賷亘丞 亘毓賷丿 夭賵丕噩賳丕 丕賱禺丕賲爻 賵丕賱爻鬲賷賳. 丕毓乇賮 兀賳賴 賱賷爻 兀賲乇丕賸 賲兀賱賵賮丕賸 兀賳 賷丨亘 卮禺氐 卮禺氐丕賸 丌禺乇 亘賴匕丕 丕賱賯丿乇 賵賱賴匕賴 丕賱賲丿丞 丕賱胤賵賷賱丞.賱賰賳 丨鬲賶 丕賱丌賳貙 毓賳丿賲丕 鬲丿禺賱 廿賱賶 丕賱睾乇賮丞貙 賷卮乇賯 賵噩賴賷. 賮兀賳丕 賲毓噩亘 亘賰賱 卮卅 賮賷賴丕 - 兀亘賴鬲賴丕 貙 噩賲丕賱賴丕 貙 乇賯鬲賴丕 貙 賵丨賰賲鬲賴丕. 賵毓賱賶 丕賱乇睾賲 賲賳 丕禺鬲賱丕賮 禺賱賮賷丕鬲賳丕 丕賱賮賰乇賷丞貙 賮廿賳賳丕 賳鬲賯丕爻賲 丨亘 丕賱兀丿亘 賵丕賱賲爻乇丨 廿賱賶 丿乇噩丞 賰亘賷乇丞.
賵賱賲 鬲賰賳 毓賱丕賯鬲賳丕 賴丕丿卅丞 丿丕卅賲丕賸 : 賮賯丿 賰丕賳 賱丿賷賳丕 禺賱丕賮丕鬲賳丕 貙 賲卮丕噩乇丕鬲賳丕貙 鬲氐乇賮丕鬲賳丕 丕賱胤丕卅卮丞貙 賱賰賳賳丕 賰賳丕 丿丕卅賲丕賸 氐乇賷丨賷賳 賵氐丕丿賯賷賳 賲毓 兀丨丿賳丕 丕賱丌禺乇貙 賵賰賳丕 丿丕卅賲丕賸 貙 丿丕卅賲丕賸貙 賳囟毓 毓賱丕賯鬲賳丕 賮賷 丕賱賲賯丕賲 丕賱兀賵賱."
丕賷賴 丕賱噩賲丕賱 丿賴 !!
乇睾賲 賰賱 丕賱丨夭賳 賵丕賱賲乇囟 賵丕賱兀賱賲 賵丕賱賮賯丿 丕賱賱賶 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿賴 亘爻 賮賷 賲卮丕毓乇 噩賲賷賱丞 丕賵賶 .
丕賱賰賱 亘賷鬲賰賱賲 毓賳 噩賲丕賱 亘丿丕賷丕鬲 丕賱丨亘 亘爻 丕賱兀噩賲賱 亘噩丿 賴賵 丕賱丨亘 丕賱賱賶 毓丕卮賴 兀乇賮賷賳 賵夭賵噩鬲賴 賲丕乇賱賷賳貙 丕賱丨亘 丕賱賱賶 亘賷毓賷卮 賱爻賳賷賳 貙 丕賱丨賷丕丞 亘賰賱 氐毓賵亘鬲賴丕 賵噩賲丕賱賴丕 貙 賲卮丕乇賰丞 丕賱丨賷丕丞 賵鬲賮丕氐賷賱賴丕 賵賰賱 丕賱丨亘 丿賴 賱丌禺乇 賱丨馗丞 ..
丿丕賷賲丕 亘鬲噩匕亘賳賷 氐賵乇 丕賱夭賵噩賷賳 丕賱賰亘丕乇 賵賳馗乇丞 丕賱丨亘 亘賷賳賴賲 丕噩賲賱 亘賰鬲賷乇 賲賳 賳馗乇丞 丕賱丨亘 丕賱賱賶 亘賷賳 夭賵噩賷賳 賱爻賴 噩丿丕丿 . 賱兀賳 丕賱賳馗乇丞 丿賶 亘鬲賰賵賳 賳馗乇丞 爻賳賷賳 賵毓卮乇丞 毓賲乇 賵馗乇賵賮 賵賲卮丕賰賱 賰鬲賷乇 賲乇賵丕 亘賷賴丕 爻賵丕 貙 亘賷賰賵賳賵丕 卮丕賮賵丕 丕賱丨賷丕丞 亘賲乇賴丕 賯亘賱 丨賱賵賴丕 貙 賵丕賳 賳馗乇丞 丕賱丨亘 丿賶 鬲賮囟賱 賲賵噩賵丿丞 賱丌禺乇 賱丨馗丞 丿賶 丨丕噩丞 賳丕丿乇丞 噩丿丕 賲卮 毓卮乇丞 毓賲乇 亘爻 賱兀 丨亘 賱丌禺乇 賱丨馗丞 . 丕賳賰 鬲賰賵賳 兀賮囟賱 乇賮賷賯 賵氐丿賷賯 賵丨亘賷亘 賱賱胤乇賮 丕賱丌禺乇 丿賶 賴賶 丕賱丨賷丕丞 .
賮賷 賳賴丕賷丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 廿乇賮賷賳 亘賷卮賰乇 夭賵噩鬲賴 丕賳賴丕 胤賱亘鬲 賵兀賱丨鬲 丕賳賴賲 賷賰鬲亘賵丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿賴 爻賵丕 賵兀賳丕 亘囟賲 氐賵鬲賷 賱氐賵鬲賴 賵亘卮賰乇賴賲 賴賲賴 丕賱丕鬲賳賷賳 毓賱賶 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿賴 .
"兀賮賰乇 亘賰鬲丕亘 賳賰鬲亘賴 賲毓丕賸.丕乇賷丿 丕賳 賳賵孬賯 丕賱兀賷丕賲 賵丕賱丕卮賴乇 丕賱氐毓亘丞 丕賱賲丕孬賱丞 兀賲丕賲賳丕. 賮賯丿 鬲賰賵賳 鬲噩丕乇亘賳丕 兀賳丕 賵兀賳鬲 匕丕鬲 賮丕卅丿丞 賱兀夭賵丕噩 丌禺乇賷賳 賷賵丕噩賴 丕丨丿賴賲丕 賲乇囟丕賸 賲賲賷鬲丕賸 "
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賮賷 丕賱丕賵賱 亘賷鬲賳丕賵亘 丕乇賮賷賳 賵賲丕乇賱賷賳 賮賷 賰鬲丕亘鬲賴 賵 亘賷囟賲 丕丨丿丕孬 丕賱爻賳丞 丕賱兀禺賷乇丞 賲賳 丨賷丕丞 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賵賲毓丕賳丕鬲賴丕 賲毓 賲乇囟賴丕 賵兀賱賲賴丕 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賵丕賱噩爻丿賶 賵鬲毓丕賲賱賴丕 賲毓 賮賰乇丞 賲乇囟賴丕 賵賲毓丕賳丕鬲賴丕 賲毓 乇丨賱丞 丕賱毓賱丕噩 賵鬲毓丕賲賱賴丕 賲毓 賮賰乇丞 賲賵鬲賴丕 丕賱賯乇賷亘 賵乇睾亘鬲賴丕 賮賷 丕賳賴丕 鬲賳賴賷 賲毓丕賳丕鬲賴丕 賵鬲賯亘賱賴丕 賵賴丿賵卅賴丕 鬲噩丕賴 賮賰乇丞 賲賵鬲賴丕 賱兀賳賴丕 丨丕爻丞 丕賳賴丕 毓丕卮鬲 丨賷丕鬲賴丕 賵賲卮 賳丿賲丕賳賴 毓賱賶 丕賶 卮卅 賮賷賴丕 賵乇睾亘鬲賴丕 丕賳賴丕 鬲賵丿毓 賰賱 兀丨亘丕卅賴丕 賵兀氐丿賯丕卅賴丕 賵亘鬲丨賰賶 賲賵丕賯賮 丨丿賷孬丞 賵賲賵丕賯賮 鬲丕賳賷丞 賵丕丨丿丕孬 賯丿賷賲丞 賲賳 丨賷丕鬲賴丕 .
" 廿賳賳丕 賳卮賰賱 夭賵噩丕賸 噩賷丿丕賸 : 賮兀賳丕 賲氐丕亘丞 亘丕賱爻乇胤丕賳 丕賱賳賯賵賷 貙 賵賴賵 賷毓丕賳賷 賲賳 賲卮賰賱丕鬲 賮賷 丕賱賯賱亘 賵丕囟胤乇丕亘 賮賷 丕賱鬲賵丕夭賳 .
毓噩賵夭丕賳 賮賷 乇賯氐丞 丕賱丨賷丕丞 丕賱兀禺賷乇丞 "
賵丕乇賮賷賳 亘賷鬲賰賱賲 毓賳 賲乇囟賴 丕賱卮禺氐賷 賵丨丕賱鬲賴 丕賱氐丨賷丞 賵匕賰乇賷丕鬲 賯丿賷賲丞 賵丨賷丕鬲賴 賵卮睾賱賴 賰賲毓丕賱噩 賳賮爻賷 賵賰鬲亘賴 賵丨亘賴 賱賲丕乇賱賷賳 賵丕賱丕丨丿丕孬 丕賱賱賶 丨氐賱鬲 賵 亘鬲丨氐賱 賲毓丕賴賲 賲毓 賲乇囟 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賵賲卮丕毓乇賴 賵丕賮賰丕乇賴 毓賳 賮賰乇丞 丕賳賴 賷賵丕氐賱 丨賷丕鬲賴 亘丿賵賳 賲丕乇賱賷賳 丨亘 毓賲乇賴 賵乇賮賷賯賴 丿乇亘賴 .
"賴匕賴 賴賷 丨丕賱鬲賷 丕賱乇丕賴賳丞 : 廿匕 鬲毓丕賳賷 賲丕乇賱賷賳 貙 夭賵噩鬲賷 丕賱毓夭賷夭丞貙 兀賴賲 卮禺氐 賮賷 毓丕賱賲賷 賲賳匕 兀賳 賰賳鬲 賮賷 丕賱禺丕賲爻丞 毓卮乇丞 賲賳 毓賲乇賷 賲賳 賲乇囟 毓囟丕賱 賵兀卮毓乇 兀賳 丨賷丕鬲賷 兀氐亘丨鬲 囟毓賷賮丞 賵賵丕賴賳丞 賵賮賷 禺胤乇 "
賵丕乇賮賷賳 亘賷賰賲賱 亘丕賯賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賱賵丨丿賴 亘毓丿 賵賮丕丞 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賵亘賷丨賰賶 賱賳丕 毓賳 噩賳丕夭鬲賴丕 賵毓賳 丨丕賱鬲賴 賵丨賷丕鬲賴 亘毓丿 賵賮丕鬲賴丕 賵鬲毓丕賲賱賴 丕夭丕賶 賲毓 丨夭賳賴 賵兀賱賲賴 .
丕爻賱賵亘 丕乇賮賷賳 胤亘毓丕 噩賲賷賱 亘賱丕卮賰 賵兀爻賱賵亘 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賰賲丕賳 丨賱賵 丕賵賶 .賵胤乇賷賯鬲賴賲 賮賷 丕賱賰賱丕賲 毓賳 賲卮丕毓乇賴賲 賵兀賮賰丕乇賴賲 賵丨賷丕鬲賴賲 賰丕賳鬲 乇丕卅毓丞 噩丿丕 .
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賮賷 賰賲賷丞 賲卮丕毓乇 丨夭賳 賵賮賯丿 賵賲毓丕賳丕丞 賵兀賱賲 賰鬲賷乇貙 亘賰賷鬲 賲毓 兀噩夭丕亍 賲賳賴 賵賱賲爻賳賷 賮賷 賲卮丕毓乇 賰鬲賷乇 賵賮賷 賳賮爻 丕賱賵賯鬲 賮賷 賲卮丕毓乇 丨亘 噩賲賷賱丞 亘賷賳賴賲 賵賲卮丕毓乇 賵丨亘 兀氐丿賯丕卅賴賲 賵兀亘賳丕卅賴賲 . 丿賴 睾賷乇 賳噩丕丨賴賲 賴賲賴 丕賱丕鬲賳賷賳 賮賷 丨賷丕鬲賴賲 丕賱毓賲賱賷丞.
" 丕賱丿賰鬲賵乇 廿賷乇賮賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲 貙 兀爻鬲丕匕 丕賱胤亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賮賷 噩丕賲毓丞 爻鬲丕賳賮賵乇丿 亘丕賱賵賱丕賷丕鬲 丕賱賲鬲丨丿丞 丕賱匕賷 賰乇爻 爻鬲賷賳 毓丕賲丕賸 賲賳 丨賷丕鬲賴 賮賷 鬲丿乇賷爻 丕賱胤亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賵丕賱毓賱丕噩 丕賱賳賮爻賷.
丕賱丿賰鬲賵乇丞 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲 丕爻鬲丕匕丞 賮賷 丕賱丕丿亘 丕賱賲賯丕乇賳 賮賷 丕賱賱睾鬲賷賳 丕賱賮乇賳爻賷丞 賵丕賱兀賱賲丕賳賷丞 賵兀賱賮鬲 賰鬲亘 賵丿乇丕爻丕鬲 毓丿賷丿丞 賮賷 丕賱丕丿亘 丕賱賲賯丕乇賳 賵賯囟丕賷丕 丕賱賲乇兀丞 "
佴 / 佟 / 佗贍佗伲
賵賱賲 鬲賰賳 毓賱丕賯鬲賳丕 賴丕丿卅丞 丿丕卅賲丕賸 : 賮賯丿 賰丕賳 賱丿賷賳丕 禺賱丕賮丕鬲賳丕 貙 賲卮丕噩乇丕鬲賳丕貙 鬲氐乇賮丕鬲賳丕 丕賱胤丕卅卮丞貙 賱賰賳賳丕 賰賳丕 丿丕卅賲丕賸 氐乇賷丨賷賳 賵氐丕丿賯賷賳 賲毓 兀丨丿賳丕 丕賱丌禺乇貙 賵賰賳丕 丿丕卅賲丕賸 貙 丿丕卅賲丕賸貙 賳囟毓 毓賱丕賯鬲賳丕 賮賷 丕賱賲賯丕賲 丕賱兀賵賱."
丕賷賴 丕賱噩賲丕賱 丿賴 !!
乇睾賲 賰賱 丕賱丨夭賳 賵丕賱賲乇囟 賵丕賱兀賱賲 賵丕賱賮賯丿 丕賱賱賶 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿賴 亘爻 賮賷 賲卮丕毓乇 噩賲賷賱丞 丕賵賶 .
丕賱賰賱 亘賷鬲賰賱賲 毓賳 噩賲丕賱 亘丿丕賷丕鬲 丕賱丨亘 亘爻 丕賱兀噩賲賱 亘噩丿 賴賵 丕賱丨亘 丕賱賱賶 毓丕卮賴 兀乇賮賷賳 賵夭賵噩鬲賴 賲丕乇賱賷賳貙 丕賱丨亘 丕賱賱賶 亘賷毓賷卮 賱爻賳賷賳 貙 丕賱丨賷丕丞 亘賰賱 氐毓賵亘鬲賴丕 賵噩賲丕賱賴丕 貙 賲卮丕乇賰丞 丕賱丨賷丕丞 賵鬲賮丕氐賷賱賴丕 賵賰賱 丕賱丨亘 丿賴 賱丌禺乇 賱丨馗丞 ..
丿丕賷賲丕 亘鬲噩匕亘賳賷 氐賵乇 丕賱夭賵噩賷賳 丕賱賰亘丕乇 賵賳馗乇丞 丕賱丨亘 亘賷賳賴賲 丕噩賲賱 亘賰鬲賷乇 賲賳 賳馗乇丞 丕賱丨亘 丕賱賱賶 亘賷賳 夭賵噩賷賳 賱爻賴 噩丿丕丿 . 賱兀賳 丕賱賳馗乇丞 丿賶 亘鬲賰賵賳 賳馗乇丞 爻賳賷賳 賵毓卮乇丞 毓賲乇 賵馗乇賵賮 賵賲卮丕賰賱 賰鬲賷乇 賲乇賵丕 亘賷賴丕 爻賵丕 貙 亘賷賰賵賳賵丕 卮丕賮賵丕 丕賱丨賷丕丞 亘賲乇賴丕 賯亘賱 丨賱賵賴丕 貙 賵丕賳 賳馗乇丞 丕賱丨亘 丿賶 鬲賮囟賱 賲賵噩賵丿丞 賱丌禺乇 賱丨馗丞 丿賶 丨丕噩丞 賳丕丿乇丞 噩丿丕 賲卮 毓卮乇丞 毓賲乇 亘爻 賱兀 丨亘 賱丌禺乇 賱丨馗丞 . 丕賳賰 鬲賰賵賳 兀賮囟賱 乇賮賷賯 賵氐丿賷賯 賵丨亘賷亘 賱賱胤乇賮 丕賱丌禺乇 丿賶 賴賶 丕賱丨賷丕丞 .
賮賷 賳賴丕賷丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 廿乇賮賷賳 亘賷卮賰乇 夭賵噩鬲賴 丕賳賴丕 胤賱亘鬲 賵兀賱丨鬲 丕賳賴賲 賷賰鬲亘賵丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿賴 爻賵丕 賵兀賳丕 亘囟賲 氐賵鬲賷 賱氐賵鬲賴 賵亘卮賰乇賴賲 賴賲賴 丕賱丕鬲賳賷賳 毓賱賶 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丿賴 .
"兀賮賰乇 亘賰鬲丕亘 賳賰鬲亘賴 賲毓丕賸.丕乇賷丿 丕賳 賳賵孬賯 丕賱兀賷丕賲 賵丕賱丕卮賴乇 丕賱氐毓亘丞 丕賱賲丕孬賱丞 兀賲丕賲賳丕. 賮賯丿 鬲賰賵賳 鬲噩丕乇亘賳丕 兀賳丕 賵兀賳鬲 匕丕鬲 賮丕卅丿丞 賱兀夭賵丕噩 丌禺乇賷賳 賷賵丕噩賴 丕丨丿賴賲丕 賲乇囟丕賸 賲賲賷鬲丕賸 "
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賮賷 丕賱丕賵賱 亘賷鬲賳丕賵亘 丕乇賮賷賳 賵賲丕乇賱賷賳 賮賷 賰鬲丕亘鬲賴 賵 亘賷囟賲 丕丨丿丕孬 丕賱爻賳丞 丕賱兀禺賷乇丞 賲賳 丨賷丕丞 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賵賲毓丕賳丕鬲賴丕 賲毓 賲乇囟賴丕 賵兀賱賲賴丕 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賵丕賱噩爻丿賶 賵鬲毓丕賲賱賴丕 賲毓 賮賰乇丞 賲乇囟賴丕 賵賲毓丕賳丕鬲賴丕 賲毓 乇丨賱丞 丕賱毓賱丕噩 賵鬲毓丕賲賱賴丕 賲毓 賮賰乇丞 賲賵鬲賴丕 丕賱賯乇賷亘 賵乇睾亘鬲賴丕 賮賷 丕賳賴丕 鬲賳賴賷 賲毓丕賳丕鬲賴丕 賵鬲賯亘賱賴丕 賵賴丿賵卅賴丕 鬲噩丕賴 賮賰乇丞 賲賵鬲賴丕 賱兀賳賴丕 丨丕爻丞 丕賳賴丕 毓丕卮鬲 丨賷丕鬲賴丕 賵賲卮 賳丿賲丕賳賴 毓賱賶 丕賶 卮卅 賮賷賴丕 賵乇睾亘鬲賴丕 丕賳賴丕 鬲賵丿毓 賰賱 兀丨亘丕卅賴丕 賵兀氐丿賯丕卅賴丕 賵亘鬲丨賰賶 賲賵丕賯賮 丨丿賷孬丞 賵賲賵丕賯賮 鬲丕賳賷丞 賵丕丨丿丕孬 賯丿賷賲丞 賲賳 丨賷丕鬲賴丕 .
" 廿賳賳丕 賳卮賰賱 夭賵噩丕賸 噩賷丿丕賸 : 賮兀賳丕 賲氐丕亘丞 亘丕賱爻乇胤丕賳 丕賱賳賯賵賷 貙 賵賴賵 賷毓丕賳賷 賲賳 賲卮賰賱丕鬲 賮賷 丕賱賯賱亘 賵丕囟胤乇丕亘 賮賷 丕賱鬲賵丕夭賳 .
毓噩賵夭丕賳 賮賷 乇賯氐丞 丕賱丨賷丕丞 丕賱兀禺賷乇丞 "
賵丕乇賮賷賳 亘賷鬲賰賱賲 毓賳 賲乇囟賴 丕賱卮禺氐賷 賵丨丕賱鬲賴 丕賱氐丨賷丞 賵匕賰乇賷丕鬲 賯丿賷賲丞 賵丨賷丕鬲賴 賵卮睾賱賴 賰賲毓丕賱噩 賳賮爻賷 賵賰鬲亘賴 賵丨亘賴 賱賲丕乇賱賷賳 賵丕賱丕丨丿丕孬 丕賱賱賶 丨氐賱鬲 賵 亘鬲丨氐賱 賲毓丕賴賲 賲毓 賲乇囟 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賵賲卮丕毓乇賴 賵丕賮賰丕乇賴 毓賳 賮賰乇丞 丕賳賴 賷賵丕氐賱 丨賷丕鬲賴 亘丿賵賳 賲丕乇賱賷賳 丨亘 毓賲乇賴 賵乇賮賷賯賴 丿乇亘賴 .
"賴匕賴 賴賷 丨丕賱鬲賷 丕賱乇丕賴賳丞 : 廿匕 鬲毓丕賳賷 賲丕乇賱賷賳 貙 夭賵噩鬲賷 丕賱毓夭賷夭丞貙 兀賴賲 卮禺氐 賮賷 毓丕賱賲賷 賲賳匕 兀賳 賰賳鬲 賮賷 丕賱禺丕賲爻丞 毓卮乇丞 賲賳 毓賲乇賷 賲賳 賲乇囟 毓囟丕賱 賵兀卮毓乇 兀賳 丨賷丕鬲賷 兀氐亘丨鬲 囟毓賷賮丞 賵賵丕賴賳丞 賵賮賷 禺胤乇 "
賵丕乇賮賷賳 亘賷賰賲賱 亘丕賯賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賱賵丨丿賴 亘毓丿 賵賮丕丞 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賵亘賷丨賰賶 賱賳丕 毓賳 噩賳丕夭鬲賴丕 賵毓賳 丨丕賱鬲賴 賵丨賷丕鬲賴 亘毓丿 賵賮丕鬲賴丕 賵鬲毓丕賲賱賴 丕夭丕賶 賲毓 丨夭賳賴 賵兀賱賲賴 .
丕爻賱賵亘 丕乇賮賷賳 胤亘毓丕 噩賲賷賱 亘賱丕卮賰 賵兀爻賱賵亘 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賰賲丕賳 丨賱賵 丕賵賶 .賵胤乇賷賯鬲賴賲 賮賷 丕賱賰賱丕賲 毓賳 賲卮丕毓乇賴賲 賵兀賮賰丕乇賴賲 賵丨賷丕鬲賴賲 賰丕賳鬲 乇丕卅毓丞 噩丿丕 .
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賮賷 賰賲賷丞 賲卮丕毓乇 丨夭賳 賵賮賯丿 賵賲毓丕賳丕丞 賵兀賱賲 賰鬲賷乇貙 亘賰賷鬲 賲毓 兀噩夭丕亍 賲賳賴 賵賱賲爻賳賷 賮賷 賲卮丕毓乇 賰鬲賷乇 賵賮賷 賳賮爻 丕賱賵賯鬲 賮賷 賲卮丕毓乇 丨亘 噩賲賷賱丞 亘賷賳賴賲 賵賲卮丕毓乇 賵丨亘 兀氐丿賯丕卅賴賲 賵兀亘賳丕卅賴賲 . 丿賴 睾賷乇 賳噩丕丨賴賲 賴賲賴 丕賱丕鬲賳賷賳 賮賷 丨賷丕鬲賴賲 丕賱毓賲賱賷丞.
" 丕賱丿賰鬲賵乇 廿賷乇賮賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲 貙 兀爻鬲丕匕 丕賱胤亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賮賷 噩丕賲毓丞 爻鬲丕賳賮賵乇丿 亘丕賱賵賱丕賷丕鬲 丕賱賲鬲丨丿丞 丕賱匕賷 賰乇爻 爻鬲賷賳 毓丕賲丕賸 賲賳 丨賷丕鬲賴 賮賷 鬲丿乇賷爻 丕賱胤亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賵丕賱毓賱丕噩 丕賱賳賮爻賷.
丕賱丿賰鬲賵乇丞 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲 丕爻鬲丕匕丞 賮賷 丕賱丕丿亘 丕賱賲賯丕乇賳 賮賷 丕賱賱睾鬲賷賳 丕賱賮乇賳爻賷丞 賵丕賱兀賱賲丕賳賷丞 賵兀賱賮鬲 賰鬲亘 賵丿乇丕爻丕鬲 毓丿賷丿丞 賮賷 丕賱丕丿亘 丕賱賲賯丕乇賳 賵賯囟丕賷丕 丕賱賲乇兀丞 "
佴 / 佟 / 佗贍佗伲
April 29, 2021
Am citit destule romane de dragoste, dar nu cred s膬 m膬 fi atins vreunul mai mult dec芒t ceea ce am citit zilele acestea: "O chestiune de via葲膬 葯i de moarte", Irvin Yalom 葯i Marilyn Yalom. Povestea lor nu e una inventat膬, e una real膬. O iubire mare, mare, c芒t o via葲膬 de om.
Am parcurs paginile u葯or, uneori sim葲ind c膬 mi se str芒nge sufletul. 葮i de drag, dar 葯i din compasiune. E minunat c膬 ni s-a oferit 葯ansa de a fi martorii unei asemenea pove葯ti! E o certitudine a faptului c膬 iubirea adev膬rat膬 exist膬, iar aceast膬 iubire chiar a fost una asumat膬, 葯tim bine cu ce se ocup膬 Yalom.
Tot el spune despre povestea lor a葯a:
鈥滿-am 卯ndr膬gostit de ea acum 葯aptezeci 葯i trei de ani 葯i tocmai am s膬rb膬torit cea de-a 葯aizeci 葯i cincea aniversare a nun葲ii noastre. 葮tiu c膬 este neobi葯nuit s膬 adori pe cineva at芒t de mult 葯i at芒t de mult timp. Dar, chiar acum, ori de c芒te ori ea intr膬 卯n camer膬, m膬 卯nseninez. Totul m膬 卯nc芒nt膬 la ea: gra葲ia ei, frumuse葲ea 葯i 卯n葲elepciunea ei (..)
Rela葲ia noastr膬 nu a fost 卯ntotdeauna lini葯tit膬: am avut divergen葲ele noastre, certurile noastre, dar am fost mereu deschi葯i 葯i sinceri unul cu cel膬lalt 葯i 卯ntotdeauna, dar 卯ntotdeauna, am pus rela葲ia noastr膬 pe primul loc.
Ne-am petrecut aproape 卯ntreaga via葲膬 卯mpreun膬, dar acum diagonisticul ei de mielom multiplu m膬 oblig膬 s膬 m膬 g芒ndesc la via葲膬 f膬r膬 ea (..)
Ast膬zi nu suf膬r excesiv de anxietatea de moarte, mai precis de anxietatea cu privire la propria moarte. Adev膬rata mea angoas膬 se na葯te din ideea de a o pierde pe Marilyn pentru totdeauna. Uneori, pentru o clip膬, m膬 str膬bate resentimentul c膬 ea are privilegiul de a muri 卯naintea mea. Pare mult mai u葯or a葯a.
Sunt 卯n permanen葲膬 al膬turi de ea. O 葲in de m芒n膬 c芒nd adormim. Am grij膬 de ea 卯n toate modurile posibile. C芒nd voi fi 卯n fa葲a mor葲ii, Marilyn nu va mai fi s膬 vegheze asupra mea, mereu disponibil膬, mereu l芒ng膬 mine. Nu va fi nimeni care s膬 m膬 葲in膬 de m芒n膬.鈥�
鈥漀u pot suporta g芒ndul mor葲ii tale. Nu m膬 pot 卯mp膬ca cu g芒ndul de a tr膬i 卯ntr-o lume f膬r膬 tine.鈥�
Am parcurs paginile u葯or, uneori sim葲ind c膬 mi se str芒nge sufletul. 葮i de drag, dar 葯i din compasiune. E minunat c膬 ni s-a oferit 葯ansa de a fi martorii unei asemenea pove葯ti! E o certitudine a faptului c膬 iubirea adev膬rat膬 exist膬, iar aceast膬 iubire chiar a fost una asumat膬, 葯tim bine cu ce se ocup膬 Yalom.
Tot el spune despre povestea lor a葯a:
鈥滿-am 卯ndr膬gostit de ea acum 葯aptezeci 葯i trei de ani 葯i tocmai am s膬rb膬torit cea de-a 葯aizeci 葯i cincea aniversare a nun葲ii noastre. 葮tiu c膬 este neobi葯nuit s膬 adori pe cineva at芒t de mult 葯i at芒t de mult timp. Dar, chiar acum, ori de c芒te ori ea intr膬 卯n camer膬, m膬 卯nseninez. Totul m膬 卯nc芒nt膬 la ea: gra葲ia ei, frumuse葲ea 葯i 卯n葲elepciunea ei (..)
Rela葲ia noastr膬 nu a fost 卯ntotdeauna lini葯tit膬: am avut divergen葲ele noastre, certurile noastre, dar am fost mereu deschi葯i 葯i sinceri unul cu cel膬lalt 葯i 卯ntotdeauna, dar 卯ntotdeauna, am pus rela葲ia noastr膬 pe primul loc.
Ne-am petrecut aproape 卯ntreaga via葲膬 卯mpreun膬, dar acum diagonisticul ei de mielom multiplu m膬 oblig膬 s膬 m膬 g芒ndesc la via葲膬 f膬r膬 ea (..)
Ast膬zi nu suf膬r excesiv de anxietatea de moarte, mai precis de anxietatea cu privire la propria moarte. Adev膬rata mea angoas膬 se na葯te din ideea de a o pierde pe Marilyn pentru totdeauna. Uneori, pentru o clip膬, m膬 str膬bate resentimentul c膬 ea are privilegiul de a muri 卯naintea mea. Pare mult mai u葯or a葯a.
Sunt 卯n permanen葲膬 al膬turi de ea. O 葲in de m芒n膬 c芒nd adormim. Am grij膬 de ea 卯n toate modurile posibile. C芒nd voi fi 卯n fa葲a mor葲ii, Marilyn nu va mai fi s膬 vegheze asupra mea, mereu disponibil膬, mereu l芒ng膬 mine. Nu va fi nimeni care s膬 m膬 葲in膬 de m芒n膬.鈥�
鈥漀u pot suporta g芒ndul mor葲ii tale. Nu m膬 pot 卯mp膬ca cu g芒ndul de a tr膬i 卯ntr-o lume f膬r膬 tine.鈥�
April 26, 2021
This book is not an easy read.
I'm not referring to the language or the style or the vocabulary. This book is hard to digest because of the sheer amount of emotion contained inside. It deals with death and all things related to death, all topics that we mostly try to avoid in our conversations and our minds. And the fact that it is an autobiographical piece written by a loving couple that spent more than half a century together makes it infinite times more poignant.
Don't get me wrong, this is a wonderfully crafted book. We alternate between chapters written by both spouses and see the world from their perspectives. In Marilyn's chapter, we get the first-hand experience and musings of the person that is facing a life-threatening illness. In Irvin's chapters, we see a mind of a man filled with anticipatory grief and death anxiety, preparing for life without his beloved wife. In those 200 pages, we explore their history, their memories, their feelings, and their thoughts about the afterlife.
What gives this book extra value is the fact that Irvin Yalom is a world-renown psychiatrist who at times approaches his mind as he would approach a regular patient. He recognizes the symptoms and offers solutions, but at the same time vividly shows his own pain. In this, he reaffirms his mantra that psychotherapists are not omnipotent and that they experience pain and suffering as much as the patient does.
By reading this book you will learn a lot about grief, about the inevitability of death and about human nature. However, the biggest gift this book gives is an idea of what is important in our lives. The notion of where we can find those breadcrumbs of solace when our loved ones are gone.
And quite paradoxically, what you might hear after reading this is: Carpe Diem.
I'm not referring to the language or the style or the vocabulary. This book is hard to digest because of the sheer amount of emotion contained inside. It deals with death and all things related to death, all topics that we mostly try to avoid in our conversations and our minds. And the fact that it is an autobiographical piece written by a loving couple that spent more than half a century together makes it infinite times more poignant.
Don't get me wrong, this is a wonderfully crafted book. We alternate between chapters written by both spouses and see the world from their perspectives. In Marilyn's chapter, we get the first-hand experience and musings of the person that is facing a life-threatening illness. In Irvin's chapters, we see a mind of a man filled with anticipatory grief and death anxiety, preparing for life without his beloved wife. In those 200 pages, we explore their history, their memories, their feelings, and their thoughts about the afterlife.
What gives this book extra value is the fact that Irvin Yalom is a world-renown psychiatrist who at times approaches his mind as he would approach a regular patient. He recognizes the symptoms and offers solutions, but at the same time vividly shows his own pain. In this, he reaffirms his mantra that psychotherapists are not omnipotent and that they experience pain and suffering as much as the patient does.
By reading this book you will learn a lot about grief, about the inevitability of death and about human nature. However, the biggest gift this book gives is an idea of what is important in our lives. The notion of where we can find those breadcrumbs of solace when our loved ones are gone.
And quite paradoxically, what you might hear after reading this is: Carpe Diem.
March 24, 2021
I continue to read Irvin Yalom's books, though I feel unsettled by his mix of wisdom and entitlement. It's a beautiful concept for a couple to write together about this journey, but this is not a typical nor relatable tale. When a couple has written many books, been influential in their fields, and led a lifestyle of privilege and travel, it's probably easier to make peace with a life well-lived (this name recognition is why this book was published in the first place). Admittedly, I was bothered by Irv's braggadocio and his dumping of the emotional labor and logistics of death on his children and housekeeper; even though he was honest about it, he lacked empathy for their journeys. One paragraph in this book that was meant to convey how he did right financially by his housekeeper, Gloria, led me to imagine a book by a woman like Gloria. I'm more interested in what it means to have a life well-lived and find peace in your legacy for those who are less privileged. I believe I felt this way because much of the book was about logistics (that, for me, exemplified the privilege) and the short chapters sometimes lacked nuance or depth of emotional vulnerability. Nonetheless, I find value in hearing about how people cope with the journey of dying.
December 11, 2023
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倬爻 丕夭 鬲卮禺蹖氐 丕蹖賳讴賴 爻乇胤丕賳 芦賲乇賱蹖賳禄 賴賲爻乇 芦丕乇賵蹖賳 蹖丕賱賵賲禄 賯丕亘賱 丿乇賲丕賳 賳蹖爻鬲 賵 丿丕乇賴 乇賵夭賴丕蹖 丌禺乇 夭賳丿诏蹖卮 乇賵 爻倬乇蹖 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁囏� 丕蹖賳 丿賵 亘丕 賴賲 讴鬲丕亘 賲卮鬲乇讴蹖 賲蹖鈥屬嗁堐屫迟嗀�. 鬲丕 夭賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 賲乇賱蹖賳 夭賳丿爻鬲 賮氐賱鈥屬囏� 蹖讴 丿乇 賲蹖丕賳 亘蹖賳卮賵賳 鬲賯爻蹖賲 卮丿賴. 讴鬲丕亘 丿賯蹖賯丕賸 賴賲賵賳蹖賴 讴賴 丕爻賲卮 賲蹖诏賴. 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 賲乇诏 賵 夭賳丿诏蹖. 禺賵賳丿賳 丕蹖賳 賳賵卮鬲賴鈥屬囏� 亘乇丕蹖 賲賳 鬲噩乇亘賴鈥屰� 禺丕氐蹖 亘賵丿. 趩賳丿蹖賳 噩賱爻賴 丿乇 亘賵讴鈥屭┵勜жㄙ呝堎� 毓賲蹖賯 賵 亘蹖鈥屬呝囏жㄘ� 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 賲乇诏 氐丨亘鬲 讴乇丿蹖賲 賵 毓噩亘 亘丨孬鈥屬囏й屰� 亘賵丿. 鬲讴賴鈥屬囏й屰� 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 賴賲 讴賳丕乇 禺賵丕賴乇賲 禺賵賳丿賲 賵 丕丨爻丕爻丕鬲 丕賵賳 賱丨馗賴 乇賵 卮乇蹖讴 卮丿蹖賲
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讴丕賳丕賱 鬲賱诏乇丕賲 乇蹖賵蹖賵賴丕 賵 丿丕賳賱賵丿 讴鬲丕亘鈥屬囏� 賵 氐賵鬲蹖卮賵賳
February 12, 2025
賱賳 賷購賴賷兀賰 賰賱 毓賱賲 丕賱毓丕賱賲 賱賮乇丕賯 賲賳 兀丨亘亘鬲賴
毓賻乇賮 廿賷乇賮賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲 丕賱賰孬賷乇 毓賳 丕賱賮賯丿 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 鬲丕乇賷禺賴 丕賱賲賴賳賷 賵丕賱兀賰丕丿賷賲賷 賰賵丕丨丿 賲賳 兀爻丕胤賷賳 丕賱胤亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷.
爻丕賴賲 丕賱丕賯鬲乇丕賳 丕賱賯賵賷 賱夭賵噩鬲賴 賲丕乇賱賷賳 亘毓丕賱賲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘丞 賰兀爻鬲丕匕丞 賱賱兀丿亘 丕賱賲購賯丕乇賳 毓賱賶 賲丿賶 兀賰孬乇 賲賳 爻鬲賷賳 毓丕賲 賮賷 賲賳丨賴丕 賳馗乇丞 亘丕丨孬 毓賳 丕賱噩賲丕賱 賮賷賲丕 賵購噩丿 丨賵賱 丕賱毓丕賱賲 丕賱匕賷 毓丕卮鬲賴.
兀爻鬲胤賷毓 丕賱賯賵賱 亘兀賳 丕賱毓賱賲 賵丕賱噩賲丕賱 賯丿 鬲賲丕夭噩丕 賲毓丕賸 賮賷 乇丨賱丞 丨亘 賳丕丿乇丞 丕賲鬲丿鬲 賱兀賰孬乇 賲賳 賳氐賮 賯乇賳. 賵賮賷 賳賴丕賷丞 丕賱乇丨賱丞貙 賯乇乇 丕賱夭賵噩丕賳 兀賳 賷鬲賯丕爻賲丕 兀賮賰丕乇賴賲丕 賰賲賵丕噩賴丞 賲卮鬲乇賰丞 賮賷 賵噩賴 丨丕囟乇 毓氐賷亘 賵賲爻鬲賯亘賱 賲丐賱賲 賱賱兀爻賮 爻賷賳鬲賴賷 亘丕賱賲賵鬲.
賱賲爻鬲 卮噩丕毓丞 賮賷 鬲賱賰 丕賱乇賵賷 丕賱賲鬲亘丕丿賱 亘賷賳 丕賱夭賵噩賷賳貙 賰丕賳 丕賱丨賰賷 賷購賯乇賾亘 丕賱賯丕乇卅 賲賳賴賲 賵賲賳 丨賰丕賷鬲賴賲. 賵賱賰賳賳賷 賱賲 兀卮毓乇 "亘丕賱丨賲賷賲賷丞" 兀賵 丕賱賯乇亘 丕賱丨賯賷賯賷 賱賱乇丕賵賷 "廿乇賮賷賳" 廿賱丕 亘毓丿 乇丨賷賱 賲丕乇賱賷賳.
兀丨爻爻鬲購 賰兀賳 噩丿丕乇 丕賱卮噩丕毓丞 丕賱匕賷 賰丕賳 賷禺鬲亘卅 禺賱賮賴 賵賴賶 毓賱賶 賯賷丿 丕賱丨賷丕丞 賯丿 丕賳賴丕乇. 賵鬲賰卮賾賮 賱賴 賵賱賳丕 囟毓賮賴 賮賷 賲賵丕噩賴丞 丕賱丨賷丕丞 亘丿賵賳 鬲賱賰 丕賱賲乇兀丞 丕賱鬲賷 賰丕賳鬲 賰賱 丕賱毓丕賱賲 亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賴.
賵賮賷 賲賮丕乇賯丞 賲亘賰賷丞貙 賷購賯丿賲 毓賱賲 丕賱賳賮爻 丕賱賯賱賷賱 賲賳 丕賱丿毓賲 賵丕賱賲爻丕毓丿丞 賱兀爻胤賵乇丞 毓賱賲 丕賱賳賮爻 丕賱匕賷 賲囟賶 丨賷丕鬲賴 賰賱賴丕 賷賲賳丨 丕賱賲卮賵乇丞 賱賰賱 賲賻賰賱賵賲賺 賮賯丿 丨亘賷亘 賱賴.
兀丿乇賰 廿賷乇賮賷賳 兀賳 "丕賱賱賷 毓賱賶 丕賱亘乇 丿丕賷賲丕賸 毓賵賾丕賲"貙 賵 "廿賳 丕賱賱賷 廿賷丿賴 賮賷 丕賱賲賷丞 賲卮 夭賷 丕賱賱賷 廿賷丿賴 賮賷 丕賱賳丕乇".
賷丿乇賰 賰賲 賰丕賳 亘毓賷丿丕賸 毓賳 賲乇囟丕賴 丕賱匕賷賳 賰丕賳 賷丿毓賷 賱賴賲 亘賱丕 賲賱賱 兀賳賴 "賷卮毓乇" 亘禺爻丕乇鬲賴賲 賵"賷丨爻" 亘賮噩賷毓鬲賴賲". 賷購丿乇賰 兀賳賴 賱賲 賷賰賳 "賷丿乇賰" 丕賱賲毓賳賶 丕賱丨賯賷賯賷 賱賱賮賯丿 賯亘賱 乇丨賷賱 卮乇賷賰丞 毓賲乇賴.
鬲賲乇 亘賴 賲乇丕乇丕鬲 賵噩毓 丕賱乇丨賷賱 丕賱鬲賷 丕禺鬲亘乇賳丕賴丕 噩賲賷毓丕賸 鬲賯乇賷亘丕賸. 賲乇丕乇丞 兀賳 鬲亘丨孬 毓賳 賮賯賷丿賰 賮賷 賰賱 乇賰賳賺 賲賳 賴匕丕 丕賱毓丕賱賲 賵賱丕 鬲噩丿賴.
鬲禺賮 丕賱賲乇丕乇丞 卮賷卅丕賸 亘卮卅. 賱丕 賷匕賴亘 丕賱丨夭賳 賵廿賳賲丕 鬲禺賮 丨丿丞 胤毓賳鬲賴.
丕賱丨夭賳 賴賵 丕賱孬賲賳 丕賱匕賷 賳丿賮毓賴 賱賯丕亍 卮噩丕毓鬲賳丕 賰賷 賳丨亘 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳
賰購鬲亘鬲 鬲賱賰 丕賱毓亘丕乇丞 賮賷 賲爻鬲賴賱 丕賱賰鬲丕亘. 賵亘毓丿 賳賴丕賷丞 賯乇丕亍鬲賷 賱鬲賱賰 丕賱毓賲賱貙 鬲乇丨賱 賯乇賷亘丞 睾丕賱賷丞 毓夭賷夭丞 毓賱賶 賯賱亘賷. 賷鬲兀賱賲 賯賱亘賷 毓賱賶 賮乇丕賯賴丕貙 賵賷鬲兀賱賲 兀賰孬乇 賰賱賲丕 毓乇賮鬲 賲丿賶 丕賱廿賳賴賷丕乇 丕賱匕賷 賷毓丕賷卮賴 丕賱賲賯乇亘賵賳 賱賴丕貙 夭賵噩賴丕 賵丕亘賳鬲賷賴丕 賵丕禺賵賷賴丕貙 賵兀賲賴丕.
丕鬲兀賱賲 賵兀鬲賲賳賶 賲賳 賰賱 賯賱亘賷 兀賳 兀賲賵鬲 丿賵賳 兀賳 賷賰賵賳 賴賳丕賰 賲賳 賷丨亘賳賷 賱鬲賱賰 丕賱丿乇噩丞貙 賱丕 兀乇賷丿 乇亘毓 賴匕丕 丕賱兀賱賲 賱賲賳 兀丨亘賴賲 毓賳丿賲丕 兀乇丨賱. 廿賳 賰丕賳 匕賱賰 孬賲賳 丕賱丨亘貙 賮兀賳丕 賮賷 睾賳賶 毓賳賴.
噩丕卅夭鬲賷 丕賱丨賯賷賯賷丞 亘毓丿 兀賳 兀乇丨賱貙 賴賶 兀賳 賷賰鬲賮賷 丕賱噩賲賷毓 亘 "乇丨賲賴丕 丕賱賱賴"貙 孬賲 賷匕賴亘 賰賱購賾 賱卮兀賳賴.
毓賻乇賮 廿賷乇賮賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲 丕賱賰孬賷乇 毓賳 丕賱賮賯丿 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 鬲丕乇賷禺賴 丕賱賲賴賳賷 賵丕賱兀賰丕丿賷賲賷 賰賵丕丨丿 賲賳 兀爻丕胤賷賳 丕賱胤亘 丕賱賳賮爻賷.
爻丕賴賲 丕賱丕賯鬲乇丕賳 丕賱賯賵賷 賱夭賵噩鬲賴 賲丕乇賱賷賳 亘毓丕賱賲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘丞 賰兀爻鬲丕匕丞 賱賱兀丿亘 丕賱賲購賯丕乇賳 毓賱賶 賲丿賶 兀賰孬乇 賲賳 爻鬲賷賳 毓丕賲 賮賷 賲賳丨賴丕 賳馗乇丞 亘丕丨孬 毓賳 丕賱噩賲丕賱 賮賷賲丕 賵購噩丿 丨賵賱 丕賱毓丕賱賲 丕賱匕賷 毓丕卮鬲賴.
兀爻鬲胤賷毓 丕賱賯賵賱 亘兀賳 丕賱毓賱賲 賵丕賱噩賲丕賱 賯丿 鬲賲丕夭噩丕 賲毓丕賸 賮賷 乇丨賱丞 丨亘 賳丕丿乇丞 丕賲鬲丿鬲 賱兀賰孬乇 賲賳 賳氐賮 賯乇賳. 賵賮賷 賳賴丕賷丞 丕賱乇丨賱丞貙 賯乇乇 丕賱夭賵噩丕賳 兀賳 賷鬲賯丕爻賲丕 兀賮賰丕乇賴賲丕 賰賲賵丕噩賴丞 賲卮鬲乇賰丞 賮賷 賵噩賴 丨丕囟乇 毓氐賷亘 賵賲爻鬲賯亘賱 賲丐賱賲 賱賱兀爻賮 爻賷賳鬲賴賷 亘丕賱賲賵鬲.
賱賲爻鬲 卮噩丕毓丞 賮賷 鬲賱賰 丕賱乇賵賷 丕賱賲鬲亘丕丿賱 亘賷賳 丕賱夭賵噩賷賳貙 賰丕賳 丕賱丨賰賷 賷購賯乇賾亘 丕賱賯丕乇卅 賲賳賴賲 賵賲賳 丨賰丕賷鬲賴賲. 賵賱賰賳賳賷 賱賲 兀卮毓乇 "亘丕賱丨賲賷賲賷丞" 兀賵 丕賱賯乇亘 丕賱丨賯賷賯賷 賱賱乇丕賵賷 "廿乇賮賷賳" 廿賱丕 亘毓丿 乇丨賷賱 賲丕乇賱賷賳.
兀丨爻爻鬲購 賰兀賳 噩丿丕乇 丕賱卮噩丕毓丞 丕賱匕賷 賰丕賳 賷禺鬲亘卅 禺賱賮賴 賵賴賶 毓賱賶 賯賷丿 丕賱丨賷丕丞 賯丿 丕賳賴丕乇. 賵鬲賰卮賾賮 賱賴 賵賱賳丕 囟毓賮賴 賮賷 賲賵丕噩賴丞 丕賱丨賷丕丞 亘丿賵賳 鬲賱賰 丕賱賲乇兀丞 丕賱鬲賷 賰丕賳鬲 賰賱 丕賱毓丕賱賲 亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賴.
賵賮賷 賲賮丕乇賯丞 賲亘賰賷丞貙 賷購賯丿賲 毓賱賲 丕賱賳賮爻 丕賱賯賱賷賱 賲賳 丕賱丿毓賲 賵丕賱賲爻丕毓丿丞 賱兀爻胤賵乇丞 毓賱賲 丕賱賳賮爻 丕賱匕賷 賲囟賶 丨賷丕鬲賴 賰賱賴丕 賷賲賳丨 丕賱賲卮賵乇丞 賱賰賱 賲賻賰賱賵賲賺 賮賯丿 丨亘賷亘 賱賴.
兀丿乇賰 廿賷乇賮賷賳 兀賳 "丕賱賱賷 毓賱賶 丕賱亘乇 丿丕賷賲丕賸 毓賵賾丕賲"貙 賵 "廿賳 丕賱賱賷 廿賷丿賴 賮賷 丕賱賲賷丞 賲卮 夭賷 丕賱賱賷 廿賷丿賴 賮賷 丕賱賳丕乇".
賷丿乇賰 賰賲 賰丕賳 亘毓賷丿丕賸 毓賳 賲乇囟丕賴 丕賱匕賷賳 賰丕賳 賷丿毓賷 賱賴賲 亘賱丕 賲賱賱 兀賳賴 "賷卮毓乇" 亘禺爻丕乇鬲賴賲 賵"賷丨爻" 亘賮噩賷毓鬲賴賲". 賷購丿乇賰 兀賳賴 賱賲 賷賰賳 "賷丿乇賰" 丕賱賲毓賳賶 丕賱丨賯賷賯賷 賱賱賮賯丿 賯亘賱 乇丨賷賱 卮乇賷賰丞 毓賲乇賴.
鬲賲乇 亘賴 賲乇丕乇丕鬲 賵噩毓 丕賱乇丨賷賱 丕賱鬲賷 丕禺鬲亘乇賳丕賴丕 噩賲賷毓丕賸 鬲賯乇賷亘丕賸. 賲乇丕乇丞 兀賳 鬲亘丨孬 毓賳 賮賯賷丿賰 賮賷 賰賱 乇賰賳賺 賲賳 賴匕丕 丕賱毓丕賱賲 賵賱丕 鬲噩丿賴.
鬲禺賮 丕賱賲乇丕乇丞 卮賷卅丕賸 亘卮卅. 賱丕 賷匕賴亘 丕賱丨夭賳 賵廿賳賲丕 鬲禺賮 丨丿丞 胤毓賳鬲賴.
丕賱丨夭賳 賴賵 丕賱孬賲賳 丕賱匕賷 賳丿賮毓賴 賱賯丕亍 卮噩丕毓鬲賳丕 賰賷 賳丨亘 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳
賰購鬲亘鬲 鬲賱賰 丕賱毓亘丕乇丞 賮賷 賲爻鬲賴賱 丕賱賰鬲丕亘. 賵亘毓丿 賳賴丕賷丞 賯乇丕亍鬲賷 賱鬲賱賰 丕賱毓賲賱貙 鬲乇丨賱 賯乇賷亘丞 睾丕賱賷丞 毓夭賷夭丞 毓賱賶 賯賱亘賷. 賷鬲兀賱賲 賯賱亘賷 毓賱賶 賮乇丕賯賴丕貙 賵賷鬲兀賱賲 兀賰孬乇 賰賱賲丕 毓乇賮鬲 賲丿賶 丕賱廿賳賴賷丕乇 丕賱匕賷 賷毓丕賷卮賴 丕賱賲賯乇亘賵賳 賱賴丕貙 夭賵噩賴丕 賵丕亘賳鬲賷賴丕 賵丕禺賵賷賴丕貙 賵兀賲賴丕.
丕鬲兀賱賲 賵兀鬲賲賳賶 賲賳 賰賱 賯賱亘賷 兀賳 兀賲賵鬲 丿賵賳 兀賳 賷賰賵賳 賴賳丕賰 賲賳 賷丨亘賳賷 賱鬲賱賰 丕賱丿乇噩丞貙 賱丕 兀乇賷丿 乇亘毓 賴匕丕 丕賱兀賱賲 賱賲賳 兀丨亘賴賲 毓賳丿賲丕 兀乇丨賱. 廿賳 賰丕賳 匕賱賰 孬賲賳 丕賱丨亘貙 賮兀賳丕 賮賷 睾賳賶 毓賳賴.
噩丕卅夭鬲賷 丕賱丨賯賷賯賷丞 亘毓丿 兀賳 兀乇丨賱貙 賴賶 兀賳 賷賰鬲賮賷 丕賱噩賲賷毓 亘 "乇丨賲賴丕 丕賱賱賴"貙 孬賲 賷匕賴亘 賰賱購賾 賱卮兀賳賴.
January 18, 2023
賲匕賰乇丕鬲 賲丐孬乇丞 賲賰鬲賵亘丞 賮賷 賮鬲乇丞 氐毓亘丞 鬲賯鬲乇亘 賲賳 賳賴丕賷丞 丕賱毓賲乇
丕賱丨賷丕丞 亘賰賱 賲丕 賮賷賴丕 賲噩乇丿 胤乇賷賯 賷氐賱 賮賷 賳賴丕賷鬲賴 廿賱賶 丕賱賲賵鬲
賯丿 賳鬲毓孬乇 兀孬賳丕亍 丕賱賲爻賷乇 亘丕賱兀賱賲 賵丕賱賲毓丕賳丕丞 賵丕賱賮賯丿
賱賰賳 丕賱丨賷丕丞 鬲鬲噩賲賱 丿賵賲賸丕 亘丕賱賲丨亘丞 賵丕賱賲爻丕賳丿丞 賵丕賱兀賲賱
丕賱丨賷丕丞 亘賰賱 賲丕 賮賷賴丕 賲噩乇丿 胤乇賷賯 賷氐賱 賮賷 賳賴丕賷鬲賴 廿賱賶 丕賱賲賵鬲
賯丿 賳鬲毓孬乇 兀孬賳丕亍 丕賱賲爻賷乇 亘丕賱兀賱賲 賵丕賱賲毓丕賳丕丞 賵丕賱賮賯丿
賱賰賳 丕賱丨賷丕丞 鬲鬲噩賲賱 丿賵賲賸丕 亘丕賱賲丨亘丞 賵丕賱賲爻丕賳丿丞 賵丕賱兀賲賱
October 30, 2024
賲乇蹖賱蹖賳貙 亘丕乇賴丕 賵 亘丕乇賴丕 亘蹖鈥屬佖й屫� 丿乇 匕賴賳賲 噩爻鬲噩賵 讴乇丿賴鈥屫з�: 噩爻鬲噩賵蹖 賮賱丕賳 賮乇丿蹖 讴賴 賲賱丕賯丕鬲 讴乇丿賴 亘賵丿蹖賲貙 賮賱丕賳 爻賮乇蹖 讴賴 乇賮鬲賴 亘賵丿蹖賲貙 賮賱丕賳 賲爻丕亘賯賴鈥屫й� 讴賴 丿蹖丿賴 亘賵丿蹖賲貙 賮賱丕賳 乇爻鬲賵乇丕賳蹖 讴賴 卮丕賲 禺賵乇丿賴 亘賵丿蹖賲貙 賵賱蹖 賴賲賴鈥屰� 丕蹖賳 乇賵蹖丿丕丿賴丕 丕夭 禺丕胤乇賴鈥屫з� 賲丨賵 卮丿賴鈥屫з嗀�. 賲賳 鬲賳賴丕 鬲賵 乇丕 讴賴 丕乇夭卮賲賳丿鬲乇蹖賳 賮乇丿 噩賴丕賳 亘乇丕蹖賲 亘賵丿賴鈥屫й� 丕夭 丿爻鬲 賳丿丕丿賴鈥屫з呚� 亘賱讴賴 賴賲乇丕賴 亘丕 鬲賵貙 亘禺卮 毓賲丿賴鈥屫й� 丕夭 诏匕卮鬲賴鈥屫з� 賳丕倬丿蹖丿 卮丿賴 丕爻鬲. 倬蹖卮鈥屫ㄛ屬嗃� 賲賳 丿乇 丕蹖賳 亘丕乇賴 讴賴 賵賯鬲蹖 鬲賵 鬲乇讴賲 讴賳蹖貙 亘禺卮 毓賲丿賴鈥屫й� 丕夭 诏匕卮鬲賴鈥屫з� 乇丕 賴賲 亘丕 禺賵丿鬲 賲蹖鈥屫ㄘ臂屫� 亘賴 丨賯蹖賯鬲 倬蹖賵爻鬲賴 丕爻鬲.
讴鬲丕亘 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 乇賵夭 賵 乇賵夭诏丕乇 蹖丕賱賵賲 丿乇 丨蹖賳 賵 亘毓丿 丕夭 賲乇诏 賴賲爻乇卮 丕爻鬲鈥�. 亘爻蹖丕乇 讴鬲丕亘 鬲丕孬蹖乇诏匕丕乇 賵 睾賲鈥屫з嗂屫槽� 亘賵丿.
讴鬲丕亘 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 乇賵夭 賵 乇賵夭诏丕乇 蹖丕賱賵賲 丿乇 丨蹖賳 賵 亘毓丿 丕夭 賲乇诏 賴賲爻乇卮 丕爻鬲鈥�. 亘爻蹖丕乇 讴鬲丕亘 鬲丕孬蹖乇诏匕丕乇 賵 睾賲鈥屫з嗂屫槽� 亘賵丿.
March 21, 2021
A Matter of Death and Life
His latest memoir 鈥楢 Matter of Death and Life 鈥� Love Loss and What Matters in the End鈥� co-written with his wife of 65 years Marilyn has been much anticipated by me.
It is at its heart a love story between two people who have co-existed since their teenage years: written in the context of Marilyn鈥檚 cancer diagnosis and subsequent death at the age of 87.
As a Psychotherapist myself I came to this book somewhat in awe of Irvin. I walked away from it slightly in love with Marilyn his wife.
I knew nothing of Marilyn until meeting her here. It was a joy to learn about her life and work, an avid and committed feminist, scholar, and parent. Her courage and strength in the face of continual suffering due to her illness shone through with the steadfastness of a beam from a lighthouse. She suffered and wanted to die, she held on so bravely for so long, not for herself but for others, her children, her friends, and her husband, always conscious of the impact her death would have on them. Her compassion and love for her family, for Irvin and others was monumental.
What sadden and shocked me most about the telling of this story was seeing Irvin a prominent and influential Psychotherapist, who I so admired, be so unaware of his sexism and racism as illustrated by this passage from page 175, 鈥淎 couple of months before Marilyn died, she and I took a stroll up our street and saw a new neighbor, a distinguished white-haired elderly man, obviously handicapped, being helped down the front stairs of his home and into an auto-mobile by a younger dark-skinned woman who, no doubt, we assumed, was his caretaker. The day after Christmas, these new neighbors (whom I still had not met yet) invited me to dinner and Christmas carols. I arrived at the house and was greeted by the elderly man and the caretaker. I soon learned that he was a retired MD and that the 鈥榗aretaker鈥� had an MD and a PhD degree! Moreover, she was not his caretaker but his wife! She was delightful and led the Christmas carols with a glorious voice! Again, my first thought: wait till I tell Marilyn about this!鈥�
Sexism and racism are not funny. It is disappointing that at no point in the process from first draft to publication was this picked up, called out or challenged. While Marilyn comes across as a true feminist very much aware of difference and diversity Irvin is lacking in this area.
I鈥檓 taken aback once again by Irv鈥檚 inability or unwillingness to consider the impact on his children of having to care so intimately for their mother, on page 138 鈥淢arilyn is often incontinent, and several times daily my daughter and my youngest son, Ben (who has three very young children and is highly experienced with soiled diapers), help clean and dress her. At such times I walk out of the room: I want to preserve my memory of my beautiful unsullied Marilyn.鈥�
Irvin seems to give no thought to the preservation of his children鈥檚 memories of their mother. This is a theme that continues throughout the book, leaving it to his children to deal with the messy practical reality of dying and death without a thought for the impact on them. While understandable given the depth of his own despair, for a man so highly regarded as a Psychotherapist this lack of reflection, especially in relation to his own family is disappointing.
So much of the emotional labor seems to have been left to Marilyn, hanging on for almost a year, not for herself but out of love for Irvin, repeatedly telling him how much pain she was in and that she wanted to die, that she was only holding on for him, repeatedly met with his denial, his need of her to recover and carry on.
This unfortunately is an age-old story - the imbalance of emotional labor in heterosexual relationships and the burden this placed on Marilyn is palpable and painful to witness.
While Irvin鈥檚 writing is still a joy to read, a point he makes himself in the book, the subtle undertones of racism and sexism highlight his blindness to these issues and the privileges that his whiteness and maleness afford him which makes the story a sad encounter indeed.
His latest memoir 鈥楢 Matter of Death and Life 鈥� Love Loss and What Matters in the End鈥� co-written with his wife of 65 years Marilyn has been much anticipated by me.
It is at its heart a love story between two people who have co-existed since their teenage years: written in the context of Marilyn鈥檚 cancer diagnosis and subsequent death at the age of 87.
As a Psychotherapist myself I came to this book somewhat in awe of Irvin. I walked away from it slightly in love with Marilyn his wife.
I knew nothing of Marilyn until meeting her here. It was a joy to learn about her life and work, an avid and committed feminist, scholar, and parent. Her courage and strength in the face of continual suffering due to her illness shone through with the steadfastness of a beam from a lighthouse. She suffered and wanted to die, she held on so bravely for so long, not for herself but for others, her children, her friends, and her husband, always conscious of the impact her death would have on them. Her compassion and love for her family, for Irvin and others was monumental.
What sadden and shocked me most about the telling of this story was seeing Irvin a prominent and influential Psychotherapist, who I so admired, be so unaware of his sexism and racism as illustrated by this passage from page 175, 鈥淎 couple of months before Marilyn died, she and I took a stroll up our street and saw a new neighbor, a distinguished white-haired elderly man, obviously handicapped, being helped down the front stairs of his home and into an auto-mobile by a younger dark-skinned woman who, no doubt, we assumed, was his caretaker. The day after Christmas, these new neighbors (whom I still had not met yet) invited me to dinner and Christmas carols. I arrived at the house and was greeted by the elderly man and the caretaker. I soon learned that he was a retired MD and that the 鈥榗aretaker鈥� had an MD and a PhD degree! Moreover, she was not his caretaker but his wife! She was delightful and led the Christmas carols with a glorious voice! Again, my first thought: wait till I tell Marilyn about this!鈥�
Sexism and racism are not funny. It is disappointing that at no point in the process from first draft to publication was this picked up, called out or challenged. While Marilyn comes across as a true feminist very much aware of difference and diversity Irvin is lacking in this area.
I鈥檓 taken aback once again by Irv鈥檚 inability or unwillingness to consider the impact on his children of having to care so intimately for their mother, on page 138 鈥淢arilyn is often incontinent, and several times daily my daughter and my youngest son, Ben (who has three very young children and is highly experienced with soiled diapers), help clean and dress her. At such times I walk out of the room: I want to preserve my memory of my beautiful unsullied Marilyn.鈥�
Irvin seems to give no thought to the preservation of his children鈥檚 memories of their mother. This is a theme that continues throughout the book, leaving it to his children to deal with the messy practical reality of dying and death without a thought for the impact on them. While understandable given the depth of his own despair, for a man so highly regarded as a Psychotherapist this lack of reflection, especially in relation to his own family is disappointing.
So much of the emotional labor seems to have been left to Marilyn, hanging on for almost a year, not for herself but out of love for Irvin, repeatedly telling him how much pain she was in and that she wanted to die, that she was only holding on for him, repeatedly met with his denial, his need of her to recover and carry on.
This unfortunately is an age-old story - the imbalance of emotional labor in heterosexual relationships and the burden this placed on Marilyn is palpable and painful to witness.
While Irvin鈥檚 writing is still a joy to read, a point he makes himself in the book, the subtle undertones of racism and sexism highlight his blindness to these issues and the privileges that his whiteness and maleness afford him which makes the story a sad encounter indeed.
August 11, 2023
乇丨賱丞 丨賷丕丞 賲丐賳爻丞 賵賲丐孬乇丞 賵孬乇賷丞 噩丿賸丕
亘賰锟斤拷 賲丕 鬲丨賲賱賴 賲賳 賲毓丕賳賷馃挍
亘賰锟斤拷 賲丕 鬲丨賲賱賴 賲賳 賲毓丕賳賷馃挍
November 28, 2021
賲賳 賵丕賯毓丕 賳賲蹖鈥屫堎嗁� 趩胤賵乇蹖 賲蹖卮賴 亘賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 讴賲鬲乇 丕夭 鄣 爻鬲丕乇賴 丿丕丿.
讴鬲丕亘蹖 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 賲乇诏. 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 夭賳丿诏蹖. 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 毓卮賯.
亘賴 賵丕賯毓 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 毓丕卮賯丕賳賴鈥屫臂屬� 讴鬲丕亘蹖賴 讴賴 鬲丕 丕賱丕賳 禺賵賳丿賲.
賵 趩賯丿乇 亘賴 賲賳 讴賲讴 讴乇丿 賵 趩賯丿乇 亘乇丕蹖 賲賳 亘丕丕乇夭卮 亘賵丿. 賵 趩賯丿乇 賲賲賳賵賳賲 丕夭 丌賯丕蹖 蹖丕賱賵賲 讴賴 丿乇 爻禺鬲鈥屫臂屬� 賵 卮禺氐蹖鈥屫臂屬� 丕丨爻丕爻丕鬲 賵 賱丨馗丕鬲卮 賲丕 乇賵 卮乇蹖讴 讴乇丿賴 賵 丨鬲蹖 丕夭 爻賵诏卮 賴賲 亘乇丕蹖 讴賲讴 亘賴 賲丕 賵 丿乇賲丕賳 賲丕 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 讴乇丿賴.
賲賲賳賵賳賲 丌賯丕蹖 蹖丕賱賵賲. 賲賲賳賵賳賲.
讴鬲丕亘蹖 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 賲乇诏. 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 夭賳丿诏蹖. 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 毓卮賯.
亘賴 賵丕賯毓 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 毓丕卮賯丕賳賴鈥屫臂屬� 讴鬲丕亘蹖賴 讴賴 鬲丕 丕賱丕賳 禺賵賳丿賲.
賵 趩賯丿乇 亘賴 賲賳 讴賲讴 讴乇丿 賵 趩賯丿乇 亘乇丕蹖 賲賳 亘丕丕乇夭卮 亘賵丿. 賵 趩賯丿乇 賲賲賳賵賳賲 丕夭 丌賯丕蹖 蹖丕賱賵賲 讴賴 丿乇 爻禺鬲鈥屫臂屬� 賵 卮禺氐蹖鈥屫臂屬� 丕丨爻丕爻丕鬲 賵 賱丨馗丕鬲卮 賲丕 乇賵 卮乇蹖讴 讴乇丿賴 賵 丨鬲蹖 丕夭 爻賵诏卮 賴賲 亘乇丕蹖 讴賲讴 亘賴 賲丕 賵 丿乇賲丕賳 賲丕 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 讴乇丿賴.
賲賲賳賵賳賲 丌賯丕蹖 蹖丕賱賵賲. 賲賲賳賵賳賲.
May 31, 2021
賴賲蹖卮賴 丕夭 禺賵丿賲 倬乇爻蹖丿賲 鬲賴卮 趩蹖 賲蹖卮賴責 丌禺乇卮 賯乇丕乇賴 讴噩丕 亘乇蹖賲 賵 趩乇丕 毓卮賯 丕鬲賮丕賯 賲蹖賮鬲賴 丿乇 丨丕賱蹖 讴賴 蹖賴 乇賵夭 賯乇丕乇賴 賳亘丕卮蹖賲 賵 賴蹖趩讴蹖 賳賲蹖丿賵賳賴 丕賵賳 乇賵夭 讴蹖 賲蹖丕丿.
丌禺乇蹖賳 亘丕乇蹖 讴賴 亘賴卮 丕蹖賲蹖賱 丿丕丿賲 丕夭卮 倬乇爻蹖丿賲 亘賴 賳馗乇鬲 毓卮賯 賵丕賯毓蹖 賵噩賵丿 丿丕乇賴 蹖丕 賮賯胤 乇丕賴蹖 亘乇丕蹖 鬲賳賴丕 賳賲賵丿賳賴 賵 噩賵丕亘賲賵 賳丿丕丿. 亘丕 丕蹖賳讴賴 丕賵囟丕毓 禺蹖賱蹖 禺乇丕亘賴 賵賱蹖 賴乇趩蹖 亘賴 噩賱丿 讴鬲丕亘 賵 賲鬲賳 倬卮鬲卮 賳诏丕賴 賲蹖讴乇丿賲 賳賲蹖鬲賵賳爻鬲賲 噩賱賵蹖 禺賵丿賲賵 亘诏蹖乇賲 讴賴 賳禺賵賳賲卮 賵 丕賱丕賳 讴賴 鬲賲賵賲 卮丿賴 毓賲蹖賯丕 乇丕囟蹖鈥屫з呚� 亘丕 賵噩賵丿蹖 讴賴 亘賴 賯蹖賲鬲 丕夭 丿爻鬲 乇賮鬲賳 賵賯鬲 丕賲鬲丨丕賳賲 鬲賲賵賲 卮丿 賵賱蹖 賴賲蹖卮賴 賳蹖丕夭 丿丕乇賲 亘賮賴賲賲 讴賴 鬲賵 夭賳丿诏蹖 趩蹖夭丕蹖 賲賴賲鈥屫臂� 賴賲 賴爻鬲.
蹖丕賱賵賲 氐丕丿賯鈥屫� 卮賮丕賮 賵 丕蹖囟丕 毓丕卮賯鈥屬聚屫促団€屫臂屬� 丌丿賲蹖賴 讴賴 鬲賲丕賲 毓賲乇賲 乇丕噩毓 亘賴卮 禺賵賳丿賲貙 賳賴 鬲賳賴丕 蹖賴 乇賵丕賳鈥屫辟呚з嗂� 丿乇爻鬲 賵 丨爻丕亘蹖賴貙 亘乇丕蹖 禺丕賳賵丕丿賴 賵 丿賵爻鬲丕賳卮 賴賲 亘賴鬲乇蹖賳 卮禺氐 賲賲讴賳賴 賵 賴賲爻乇卮 賲乇蹖賱蹖賳 賴賲 丕夭 丿爻鬲 讴賲蹖 丕夭 禺賵丿卮 賳丿丕乇賴 賵 蹖賴 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴貙 賴賲爻乇貙 賲丕丿乇 賵 丿賵爻鬲 賲丨卮乇賴.
氐丿丕賯鬲 蹖丕賱賵賲 鬲賵 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘乇丕賲 禺蹖賱蹖 噩丕賱亘 亘賵丿貙 亘蹖鈥屬囒屭� 爻丿 賵 賲丕賳毓蹖 丕賮讴丕乇卮 乇賵 賲蹖賳賵蹖爻賴 賵 丕賮讴丕乇卮 乇賵 亘賴 夭亘賵賳 賲蹖丕乇賴. 丕蹖賳 賮賯胤 蹖賴 讴鬲丕亘 賳蹖爻鬲貙 蹖賴 卮丕賴讴丕乇賴貙 蹖賴 丕噩乇丕蹖 爻賲賮賵賳蹖讴賴貙 蹖賴 賲噩賲賵毓賴鈥屫й� 丕夭 丕丨爻丕爻丕鬲 賵 賲賳胤賯 讴賴 丌丿賲 乇賵 卮賵讴賴 賲蹖讴賳賴.
卮丕蹖丿 夭蹖亘丕鬲乇蹖賳 噩賲賱賴鈥屫й� 讴賴 禺賵賳丿賲貙 亘丿賵賳 丕爻倬賵蹖賱貙 丕蹖賳 噩賲賱賴 亘毓丿 丕夭 賲賯丿賲賴 亘賵丿:
爻賵诏賿貙 亘賴丕蹖 噩乇卅鬲 丿賵爻鬲鈥屫ж簇� 丿蹖诏乇丕賳 丕爻鬲.
丌禺乇蹖賳 亘丕乇蹖 讴賴 亘賴卮 丕蹖賲蹖賱 丿丕丿賲 丕夭卮 倬乇爻蹖丿賲 亘賴 賳馗乇鬲 毓卮賯 賵丕賯毓蹖 賵噩賵丿 丿丕乇賴 蹖丕 賮賯胤 乇丕賴蹖 亘乇丕蹖 鬲賳賴丕 賳賲賵丿賳賴 賵 噩賵丕亘賲賵 賳丿丕丿. 亘丕 丕蹖賳讴賴 丕賵囟丕毓 禺蹖賱蹖 禺乇丕亘賴 賵賱蹖 賴乇趩蹖 亘賴 噩賱丿 讴鬲丕亘 賵 賲鬲賳 倬卮鬲卮 賳诏丕賴 賲蹖讴乇丿賲 賳賲蹖鬲賵賳爻鬲賲 噩賱賵蹖 禺賵丿賲賵 亘诏蹖乇賲 讴賴 賳禺賵賳賲卮 賵 丕賱丕賳 讴賴 鬲賲賵賲 卮丿賴 毓賲蹖賯丕 乇丕囟蹖鈥屫з呚� 亘丕 賵噩賵丿蹖 讴賴 亘賴 賯蹖賲鬲 丕夭 丿爻鬲 乇賮鬲賳 賵賯鬲 丕賲鬲丨丕賳賲 鬲賲賵賲 卮丿 賵賱蹖 賴賲蹖卮賴 賳蹖丕夭 丿丕乇賲 亘賮賴賲賲 讴賴 鬲賵 夭賳丿诏蹖 趩蹖夭丕蹖 賲賴賲鈥屫臂� 賴賲 賴爻鬲.
蹖丕賱賵賲 氐丕丿賯鈥屫� 卮賮丕賮 賵 丕蹖囟丕 毓丕卮賯鈥屬聚屫促団€屫臂屬� 丌丿賲蹖賴 讴賴 鬲賲丕賲 毓賲乇賲 乇丕噩毓 亘賴卮 禺賵賳丿賲貙 賳賴 鬲賳賴丕 蹖賴 乇賵丕賳鈥屫辟呚з嗂� 丿乇爻鬲 賵 丨爻丕亘蹖賴貙 亘乇丕蹖 禺丕賳賵丕丿賴 賵 丿賵爻鬲丕賳卮 賴賲 亘賴鬲乇蹖賳 卮禺氐 賲賲讴賳賴 賵 賴賲爻乇卮 賲乇蹖賱蹖賳 賴賲 丕夭 丿爻鬲 讴賲蹖 丕夭 禺賵丿卮 賳丿丕乇賴 賵 蹖賴 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴貙 賴賲爻乇貙 賲丕丿乇 賵 丿賵爻鬲 賲丨卮乇賴.
氐丿丕賯鬲 蹖丕賱賵賲 鬲賵 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘乇丕賲 禺蹖賱蹖 噩丕賱亘 亘賵丿貙 亘蹖鈥屬囒屭� 爻丿 賵 賲丕賳毓蹖 丕賮讴丕乇卮 乇賵 賲蹖賳賵蹖爻賴 賵 丕賮讴丕乇卮 乇賵 亘賴 夭亘賵賳 賲蹖丕乇賴. 丕蹖賳 賮賯胤 蹖賴 讴鬲丕亘 賳蹖爻鬲貙 蹖賴 卮丕賴讴丕乇賴貙 蹖賴 丕噩乇丕蹖 爻賲賮賵賳蹖讴賴貙 蹖賴 賲噩賲賵毓賴鈥屫й� 丕夭 丕丨爻丕爻丕鬲 賵 賲賳胤賯 讴賴 丌丿賲 乇賵 卮賵讴賴 賲蹖讴賳賴.
卮丕蹖丿 夭蹖亘丕鬲乇蹖賳 噩賲賱賴鈥屫й� 讴賴 禺賵賳丿賲貙 亘丿賵賳 丕爻倬賵蹖賱貙 丕蹖賳 噩賲賱賴 亘毓丿 丕夭 賲賯丿賲賴 亘賵丿:
爻賵诏賿貙 亘賴丕蹖 噩乇卅鬲 丿賵爻鬲鈥屫ж簇� 丿蹖诏乇丕賳 丕爻鬲.
December 11, 2023
賲丨鬲賵丕蹖 讴鬲丕亘 讴賴 賯丕亘賱 丕賳鬲馗丕乇 亘賵丿 賵賱蹖 噩丿丕 丕夭 丕賵賳 丨爻 賲蹖讴乇丿賲 賱丕 亘賴 賱丕蹖 禺胤賴丕蹖 讴鬲丕亘 丕蹖賳賵 賲蹖丿蹖丿賲 讴賴 趩賯丿乇 賲乇賱蹖賳 賵 丕乇賵蹖賳 丿賱卮賵賳 賲蹖禺賵丕爻鬲 丿賵亘丕乇賴 噩賵賵賳 賲蹖亘賵丿賳 賵 亘丕夭 賴賲 賲蹖鬲賵賳爻鬲賳 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳賳丿. 丕蹖賳 亘賴 倬丕蹖丕賳 乇爻蹖丿賳賴 賵 禺丿丕丨丕賮馗蹖 亘丕 賴乇趩蹖 亘賵丿蹖 賵 賴爻鬲蹖 禺蹖賱蹖 亘乇丕卮賵賳 丿乇丿賳丕讴 亘賵丿...
June 8, 2024
Zu diesem ber眉hrenden und erhellenden Buch, das mir in einer Trauerphase sehr half, hatte ich bisher noch nichts geschrieben.
Als ich mit GR Freundin Susanne heute 眉ber das Thema Trauer und Abschied schrieb, fiel mir sofort dieses Werk ein.
Mich beeindruckte das Ehepaar Yalom - Irvin D. Yalom ist Psychiater, Therapeut und Schriftsteller - im Umgang mit der t枚dlichen Erkrankung der Ehefrau, einer Literaturwissenschaftlerin.
Beide schrieben unabh盲ngig voneinander bis zum Tod von Marilyn an diesem ber眉hrenden Buch mit dem Untertitel "眉ber den Tod und das Leben".
Nach der Lekt眉re kaufte ich die DVD "Yaloms Anleitung zum Gl眉cklichsein", der Titel passt m.E. nicht, denn es ist eigentlich ein R眉ckblick auf sein Leben und Wirken, der Originaltitel
"Yaloms Cure" trifft es besser, denn darum ging ja in seiner Arbeit, Heilung.
Es kommen aber auch die Themen Alter und Tod zur Sprache.
Irvin Yalom spricht sehr offen 眉ber seine eigenen 脛ngste, eine gro脽e St盲rke, wie ich finde und wurde daf眉r tats盲chlich kritisiert.
Die Kritiker*innen haben nicht begriffen, wie wichtig es gerade Yalom ist, eigenen Schmerz u. negative Gef眉hle anzunehmen.
Den respektvollen liebevollen Umgang der beiden miteinander zu sehen, war f眉r mich eine sehr sch枚ne, wenn auch traurige Erg盲nzung, angesichts der Tatsache, da脽 Marilyn Yalom inzwischen verstorben war.
Als ich mit GR Freundin Susanne heute 眉ber das Thema Trauer und Abschied schrieb, fiel mir sofort dieses Werk ein.
Mich beeindruckte das Ehepaar Yalom - Irvin D. Yalom ist Psychiater, Therapeut und Schriftsteller - im Umgang mit der t枚dlichen Erkrankung der Ehefrau, einer Literaturwissenschaftlerin.
Beide schrieben unabh盲ngig voneinander bis zum Tod von Marilyn an diesem ber眉hrenden Buch mit dem Untertitel "眉ber den Tod und das Leben".
Nach der Lekt眉re kaufte ich die DVD "Yaloms Anleitung zum Gl眉cklichsein", der Titel passt m.E. nicht, denn es ist eigentlich ein R眉ckblick auf sein Leben und Wirken, der Originaltitel
"Yaloms Cure" trifft es besser, denn darum ging ja in seiner Arbeit, Heilung.
Es kommen aber auch die Themen Alter und Tod zur Sprache.
Irvin Yalom spricht sehr offen 眉ber seine eigenen 脛ngste, eine gro脽e St盲rke, wie ich finde und wurde daf眉r tats盲chlich kritisiert.
Die Kritiker*innen haben nicht begriffen, wie wichtig es gerade Yalom ist, eigenen Schmerz u. negative Gef眉hle anzunehmen.
Den respektvollen liebevollen Umgang der beiden miteinander zu sehen, war f眉r mich eine sehr sch枚ne, wenn auch traurige Erg盲nzung, angesichts der Tatsache, da脽 Marilyn Yalom inzwischen verstorben war.
November 7, 2023
"兀卮毓乇購 亘睾賳賶 賰亘賷乇 賲賳 賯乇丕亍丞賽 賴匕賴 丕賱乇賵丕賷丞 丕賱丨賲賷賲丞 賵 丕賱賲丐孬乇丞 賵丕爻鬲賷毓丕亘賴丕貙 賵兀賳丕 兀購噩賮賾賮 丿賲賵毓賷 賲賳 毓賷賳賷賾貙 廿賳賾賴丕 賯氐丞 丨亘賾 廿賷乇賮 賵賲丕乇賱賷賳 丕賱鬲賷 廿賳鬲賴鬲賿 亘賲兀爻丕丞賽 丕賱賳賴丕賷丕鬲貙 廿賳賾賴丕 賯氐鬲賰 賵賯氐鬲賷 賵賯氐鬲賳丕 噩賲賷毓丕賸"
_ 丿. 噩賵丕賳賰丕賰賷丕鬲賵乇
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"廿賳賾賴丕 賯氐丞 賱丕鬲購賳爻賶貙 賵噩賲賷賱丞 毓賱賶 賳丨賵賺 賲丐賱賲 毓賳 丕賱丨亘賾 丕賱乇丕爻禺..
爻兀馗賱購賾 兀賮賰乇 賮賷 賴匕賴 丕賱賯氐丞 賱爻賳賵丕鬲賺 胤賵賷賱丞 賯丕丿賲丞 "
_賱賵乇賷 睾賵鬲賱亘
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" 丕賱丨購夭賳 賴賵 丕賱孬賲賳 丕賱匕賷 賳丿賮毓賴 賱賯丕亍 卮噩丕毓鬲賳丕 賰賷 賳購丨亘賾 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳"
_ 丿. 噩賵丕賳賰丕賰賷丕鬲賵乇
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"廿賳賾賴丕 賯氐丞 賱丕鬲購賳爻賶貙 賵噩賲賷賱丞 毓賱賶 賳丨賵賺 賲丐賱賲 毓賳 丕賱丨亘賾 丕賱乇丕爻禺..
爻兀馗賱購賾 兀賮賰乇 賮賷 賴匕賴 丕賱賯氐丞 賱爻賳賵丕鬲賺 胤賵賷賱丞 賯丕丿賲丞 "
_賱賵乇賷 睾賵鬲賱亘
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" 丕賱丨購夭賳 賴賵 丕賱孬賲賳 丕賱匕賷 賳丿賮毓賴 賱賯丕亍 卮噩丕毓鬲賳丕 賰賷 賳購丨亘賾 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳"
December 24, 2022
丕夭 賲鬲賳 讴鬲丕亘:
賴乇 趩賴 讴丕賲賱鈥屫� 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳蹖 賲乇诏鬲 讴賲鬲乇 睾賲鈥屫з嗂屫� 丕爻鬲.
亘丕 噩爻丕乇鬲 賵 讴丕賲賱 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳蹖丿.
丕蹖賳 噩賲賱賴 亘賴 禺賵亘蹖 倬蹖丕賲 讴鬲丕亘 賳卮賵賳 賲蹖丿賴.
賴乇 趩賴 讴丕賲賱鈥屫� 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳蹖 賲乇诏鬲 讴賲鬲乇 睾賲鈥屫з嗂屫� 丕爻鬲.
亘丕 噩爻丕乇鬲 賵 讴丕賲賱 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賳蹖丿.
丕蹖賳 噩賲賱賴 亘賴 禺賵亘蹖 倬蹖丕賲 讴鬲丕亘 賳卮賵賳 賲蹖丿賴.
March 1, 2025
賲賳 乇蹖賵蹖賵賲 乇賵 亘乇丿丕卮鬲賲. 丕賵賱卮 丕蹖賳胤賵乇蹖 亘賵丿 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 蹖賴 噩丕 丿乇 賲賵乇丿卮 亘賳賵蹖爻賲貙 賵賱蹖 賳诏乇丕賳 禺亘乇丿丕乇 卮丿賳 胤乇丕賮蹖丕賳賲 亘賵丿賲貙 亘乇丕蹖 賴賲蹖賳 賲賵賯鬲 賮賯胤 亘乇丕蹖 蹖讴 卮亘 亘丕蹖丿 賲蹖夭丕卮鬲賲卮. 賵 亘蹖賳賴丕蹖鬲 丨爻 禺賵亘 诏乇賮鬲賲 丕夭鬲賵賳 賵 賲賲賳賵賳賲 馃┓馃┓馃┓
卮丕蹖丿 蹖賴 乇賵夭蹖 亘丕 禺亘乇 禺賵亘 亘蹖丕賲
賲賳 讴丕賲賱丕 賵丕賯毓 诏乇丕賲. 賵 卮乇丕蹖胤 乇賵 賲蹖丿賵賳賲 賵賱蹖.
丿乇 賳賴丕蹖鬲 丕賲蹖丿賵丕乇蹖 丕丨賲賯丕賳賴 卮丕蹖丿 丌爻蹖亘蹖 賳夭賳賴 賵 卮丕蹖丿 賲毓噩夭賴 丕鬲賮丕賯 亘蹖賮鬲賴.
卮丕蹖丿 蹖賴 乇賵夭蹖 亘丕 禺亘乇 禺賵亘 亘蹖丕賲
賲賳 讴丕賲賱丕 賵丕賯毓 诏乇丕賲. 賵 卮乇丕蹖胤 乇賵 賲蹖丿賵賳賲 賵賱蹖.
丿乇 賳賴丕蹖鬲 丕賲蹖丿賵丕乇蹖 丕丨賲賯丕賳賴 卮丕蹖丿 丌爻蹖亘蹖 賳夭賳賴 賵 卮丕蹖丿 賲毓噩夭賴 丕鬲賮丕賯 亘蹖賮鬲賴.
October 26, 2023
芦賲賵囟賵毓 賲乇诏 賵 夭賳丿诏蹖禄 賳賲賵賳賴鈥屰� 丿乇禺卮丕賳 蹖讴 丕孬乇 氐丕丿賯丕賳賴 賵 賲乇诏鈥屫з嗀屫簇з嗁団€屰� 丕诏夭蹖爻鬲丕賳爻蹖丕賱 丕爻鬲 賵 胤亘毓丕 禺賵丕賳丿賳卮 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗀� 卮賲丕 乇丕 亘賴 賲賵丕噩賴賴鈥屫й� 毓乇蹖丕賳 賵 卮丕蹖丿 丿乇丿賳丕讴 亘丕 賲賮丕賴蹖賲 賲乇诏貙 賲毓賳丕貙 鬲賳賴丕蹖蹖 賵 夭賳丿诏蹖 賵丕丿丕乇丿.
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丨蹖夭鬲鈥屫з嗂屫� 丕爻鬲! 賲诏乇 賲蹖鈥屫促堌� 丕蹖賳 诏賵賳賴 夭蹖爻鬲: 夭賳丿诏蹖鈥屫й� 毓丕乇蹖 丕夭 丨爻乇鬲 賵 倬卮蹖賲丕賳蹖! 賲乇蹖賱蹖賳 賵 丕乇賵蹖賳 亘賴 賲丕 賳卮丕賳 賲蹖鈥屫囏� 讴賴 丕賲讴丕賳 丿丕乇丿 賵 賳賴 鬲賳賴丕 讴賴 丕賲讴丕賳 丿丕乇丿 亘賱讴賴 亘賴 丿爻鬲丕賳 丌賳賴丕 亘丕賱賮毓賱 卮丿賴 丕爻鬲...
賲賵乇丿 丿賵賲蹖 讴賴 亘爻蹖丕乇 賯丕亘賱 鬲賵噩賴 丕爻鬲 丕蹖賳 讴賴 蹖丕賱賵賲蹖 讴賴 賯乇蹖亘 卮氐鬲 賵 禺賵乇丿賴鈥屫й� 爻丕賱 丕爻鬲丕丿 乇賵丕賳鈥屫辟呚з嗃� 丕诏夭蹖爻鬲丕賳爻蹖丕賱 丿乇 丿丕賳卮诏丕賴 丕爻鬲賳賮賵乇丿 亘賵丿賴 賵 丕賵 賵 讴鬲丕亘鈥屬囏й屫� 賲蹖賱蹖賵賳鈥屬囏� 賳賮乇 乇丕 乇丕賴 賳賲賵丿賴鈥屫з嗀� 丨丕賱 亘丕 賲賵丕噩賴 亘丕 爻賵诏 禺賵丿 賳蹖夭 丿趩丕乇 倬乇蹖卮丕賳蹖 賲蹖鈥屫促堌�... 亘賴 讴乇丕鬲 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗃屬� 讴賴 賲蹖鈥屭堐屫� 丿趩丕乇 鬲卮賵蹖卮 賵 丕囟胤乇丕亘 丕爻鬲貙 賲蹖鈥屫必池� 丕賮爻乇丿賴 丕爻鬲貙 丿乇 丌爻鬲丕賳賴鈥屰� 賳丕亘賵丿蹖 讴丕賲賱 丕爻鬲... 丨鬲蹖 丿乇 亘禺卮鈥屬囏й屰� 亘賴 爻乇丕睾 讴鬲丕亘鈥屬囏й� 禺賵丿卮 賲蹖鈥屫辟堌� 讴賴 亘亘蹖賳丿 丌蹖丕 丕夭 禺賱丕賱 丌賳 賴賲賴 鬲賵氐蹖賴 賵 乇賵丕賳鈥屫辟呚з嗃� 倬卮賲蹖 亘賴 讴賱丕賴 禺賵丿卮 賳蹖夭 賲蹖鈥屬呚з嗀� 蹖丕 賳賴!
讴鬲丕亘 卮乇丨蹖 夭蹖亘丕 丕爻鬲 丕夭 蹖讴 毓卮賯 丿賱鈥屫з嗂屫� 讴賴 丿乇 賴蹖丕賴賵蹖 賴賵賱賳丕讴 賲乇诏 乇亘賵丿賴 賲蹖鈥屫促堌�...
鬲乇噩賲賴 禺丕賳賲 丿讴鬲乇 爻倬蹖丿賴 丨亘蹖亘 亘爻蹖丕乇 乇賵丕賳 賵 禺賵卮鈥屫堌з� 亘賵丿.
August 13, 2021
First of all, I just think that I鈥檓 generally not easily impressed by books centred on the outpouring of grief for a particular person. Because it simply sounds like whining after awhile. Maybe my heart is made of stone. Or maybe that particular person just seemed so one-dimensional? And it鈥檚 just repetition throughout the book?
Second of all, I got the impression that the authors were humble bragging about their accomplishments, social circles, possessions, experiences and so on. Sometimes the stuff they wrote were frankly, of little relevance to the reader. Like I would go, so what? I read it, and I promptly forgot about it the next second. Not to forget, there was one small but truly annoying part where the 88-year old author actually made a racist assumption.
Last but not least, while I did come away with some albeit few mildly interesting insights about death, at the very core of it, the publication of this book was always more for the authors鈥� sake; it was a means of assuaging the pain and navigating the emotions of the authors when dealing with loss.
The writing is quite clean and standard; nothing to shout about. I honestly contemplated dropping this book a few times while reading it for it was just so boring. But well, that's just, like, my opinion, man.
Second of all, I got the impression that the authors were humble bragging about their accomplishments, social circles, possessions, experiences and so on. Sometimes the stuff they wrote were frankly, of little relevance to the reader. Like I would go, so what? I read it, and I promptly forgot about it the next second. Not to forget, there was one small but truly annoying part where the 88-year old author actually made a racist assumption.
Last but not least, while I did come away with some albeit few mildly interesting insights about death, at the very core of it, the publication of this book was always more for the authors鈥� sake; it was a means of assuaging the pain and navigating the emotions of the authors when dealing with loss.
The writing is quite clean and standard; nothing to shout about. I honestly contemplated dropping this book a few times while reading it for it was just so boring. But well, that's just, like, my opinion, man.
June 25, 2024
禺蹖賱蹖 丕丨爻丕爻 鬲賳賴丕蹖蹖 亘賴賲 丿爻鬲 丿丕丿. 卮丕蹖丿 禺賵丿賲 乇賵 锓硷芳 讴乇丿賲.
March 29, 2021
E茅n van de meest troostrijke gedachten over sterfelijkheid die ik ooit tegenkwam, is die over 鈥榬impelingen鈥� van Irvin D. Yalom (psychotherapeut, filosoof, schrijver van oa. Nietzsches tranen en De Schopenhauer-kuur) Omdat ik me ergers tussen athe茂sme en agnosticisme situeer, wordt de eindigheid van mijn leven en van mijn dierbaren immers niet verzacht door een hiernamaals. Evengoed krijg ik een allergische reactie bij alles wat maar neigt naar 鈥榙e eeuwige ziel'. Waar een ander bij zweeft, val ik gedwee tegen de aardkorst.
In zijn 鈥楾egen de zon in kijken鈥� schrijft Yalom het volgende:
鈥榁ergelijk je leven met een steen die je in het water gooit en die steeds grotere kringen veroorzaakt. Net als de steen veroorzaakt jouw leven een golf颅beweging: de invloed die je hebt op je kinderen, je familie, je buren, je vrienden, wordt door al deze mensen weer doorgegeven aan anderen en aan toekomstige generaties. Het idee dat we iets van onszelf kunnen nalaten, zelfs zonder dat we dat weten, is een krachtig weerwoord voor al diegenen die beweren dat je eindigheid en vergankelijkheid onafwendbaar tot zinloosheid leiden.'
Toen dit ogenschijnlijk doodeenvoudig idee (wat bij Yalom's met doodsangst en diepe rouw worstelende cli毛nten het meest effectief bleek) 茅cht tot me doordrong, reed ik huilend op mijn fiets. Mijn mama had toen terminale kanker en ik was naarstig op zoek naar een licht in de duisternis. De rimpelingen die zij veroorzaakt heeft met haar permanente glimlach en al het moois dat ze uitstraalde, golft nu nog steeds in veelvoud over de wereld. Met elk goed advies, elk op maat aangeraden boekje (ze was jeugdbibliothecaresse 鈥� ik zie nu pas dat hier het woord caresse inzit!), elk luisterend oor, elke lach wekte ze een rimpeling op die doorheen de wereld blijft lopen: natuurlijk het meeste bij haar naasten, maar ook bij al die vergeten onbekenden. Ze zit als bron van goeds in talrijke glimlachen, blije herinneringen en levens vervat. Ikzelf voel die rimpeling het sterkst in de manier waarop ik haar liefde aan mij als kind, nu doorgeef aan mijn lieve zoontje Louie, alsof haar geborgenheid door mijn aderen stroomt en via mijn huid tot bij Louie reikt.
Die rimpelingen vormen niet alleen een tegengif tegen sterfelijkheid, maar scheppen een ethische motivering om het goede te doen. Voorbij het religieuze 鈥榳ie zonder zonde is, werpe de eerste steen鈥� naar een 鈥榞ooi uw steen in het water en zorg dat die positieve kringen cre毛ert.鈥� Denk daar eens aan de volgende keer dat je op FB ziedend of zeikerig reageert...
Soit, met mijn 200 woorden in Humo, kreeg ik dit bovenstaande niet gezegd. Zie hier, wat er wel in verschijnt:
Al een halve eeuw begeleidt Irvin D. Yalom rouwende en doodangstige cli毛nten met een van filosofie doordrongen psychotherapie. Nu zit hij zelf in hun schuitje: na een 65-jarig huwelijk heeft zijn vrouw -historica, schrijfster, feministe- Marilyn terminale beenmergkanker. Ze besluiten met de ultieme oprechtheid van een dagboek beurtelings hun omgaan met haar nakende einde zonder po毛tische opsmuk te vereeuwigen. Hoewel beiden geloven in Nietzsche鈥檚 leuze 鈥榮terf op het juiste moment鈥� verschillen ze qua invulling: zij wil haar oeverloze behandelingen niet langer rekken en hij snapt niet dat zij ondanks alle fysieke ellende hun mooie, nimmer wederkerende bewustzijnsmomenten door euthanasie wil be毛indigen.
Onmogelijk om het meest unieke aan dit testimonium te kiezen: de inkijk in de radertjes die een uiterst harmonische en gelijkwaardige liefdesrelatie levenslang draaiende houden; de bitterzoete bespiegelingen over waar herinneringen heengaan als de laatste die erop kan terugblikken overlijdt; het haasje-over-springen in hoofdstukken dat bij Marilyn鈥檚 overlijden plots stopt waardoor de lezer de achtergelaten leegte van een levensechte mens in handen houdt; of de rouwspecialist die uiteindelijk als ervaringsdeskundige vol pathos en passie, zonder pathetiek alleen voort schrijft en de inzichten uit eigen oeuvre aftoetst aan zijn nieuwe zijnstoestand.
Dit is een must-read voor iedereen die ooit gaat sterven.
4,5/5
In zijn 鈥楾egen de zon in kijken鈥� schrijft Yalom het volgende:
鈥榁ergelijk je leven met een steen die je in het water gooit en die steeds grotere kringen veroorzaakt. Net als de steen veroorzaakt jouw leven een golf颅beweging: de invloed die je hebt op je kinderen, je familie, je buren, je vrienden, wordt door al deze mensen weer doorgegeven aan anderen en aan toekomstige generaties. Het idee dat we iets van onszelf kunnen nalaten, zelfs zonder dat we dat weten, is een krachtig weerwoord voor al diegenen die beweren dat je eindigheid en vergankelijkheid onafwendbaar tot zinloosheid leiden.'
Toen dit ogenschijnlijk doodeenvoudig idee (wat bij Yalom's met doodsangst en diepe rouw worstelende cli毛nten het meest effectief bleek) 茅cht tot me doordrong, reed ik huilend op mijn fiets. Mijn mama had toen terminale kanker en ik was naarstig op zoek naar een licht in de duisternis. De rimpelingen die zij veroorzaakt heeft met haar permanente glimlach en al het moois dat ze uitstraalde, golft nu nog steeds in veelvoud over de wereld. Met elk goed advies, elk op maat aangeraden boekje (ze was jeugdbibliothecaresse 鈥� ik zie nu pas dat hier het woord caresse inzit!), elk luisterend oor, elke lach wekte ze een rimpeling op die doorheen de wereld blijft lopen: natuurlijk het meeste bij haar naasten, maar ook bij al die vergeten onbekenden. Ze zit als bron van goeds in talrijke glimlachen, blije herinneringen en levens vervat. Ikzelf voel die rimpeling het sterkst in de manier waarop ik haar liefde aan mij als kind, nu doorgeef aan mijn lieve zoontje Louie, alsof haar geborgenheid door mijn aderen stroomt en via mijn huid tot bij Louie reikt.
Die rimpelingen vormen niet alleen een tegengif tegen sterfelijkheid, maar scheppen een ethische motivering om het goede te doen. Voorbij het religieuze 鈥榳ie zonder zonde is, werpe de eerste steen鈥� naar een 鈥榞ooi uw steen in het water en zorg dat die positieve kringen cre毛ert.鈥� Denk daar eens aan de volgende keer dat je op FB ziedend of zeikerig reageert...
Soit, met mijn 200 woorden in Humo, kreeg ik dit bovenstaande niet gezegd. Zie hier, wat er wel in verschijnt:
Al een halve eeuw begeleidt Irvin D. Yalom rouwende en doodangstige cli毛nten met een van filosofie doordrongen psychotherapie. Nu zit hij zelf in hun schuitje: na een 65-jarig huwelijk heeft zijn vrouw -historica, schrijfster, feministe- Marilyn terminale beenmergkanker. Ze besluiten met de ultieme oprechtheid van een dagboek beurtelings hun omgaan met haar nakende einde zonder po毛tische opsmuk te vereeuwigen. Hoewel beiden geloven in Nietzsche鈥檚 leuze 鈥榮terf op het juiste moment鈥� verschillen ze qua invulling: zij wil haar oeverloze behandelingen niet langer rekken en hij snapt niet dat zij ondanks alle fysieke ellende hun mooie, nimmer wederkerende bewustzijnsmomenten door euthanasie wil be毛indigen.
Onmogelijk om het meest unieke aan dit testimonium te kiezen: de inkijk in de radertjes die een uiterst harmonische en gelijkwaardige liefdesrelatie levenslang draaiende houden; de bitterzoete bespiegelingen over waar herinneringen heengaan als de laatste die erop kan terugblikken overlijdt; het haasje-over-springen in hoofdstukken dat bij Marilyn鈥檚 overlijden plots stopt waardoor de lezer de achtergelaten leegte van een levensechte mens in handen houdt; of de rouwspecialist die uiteindelijk als ervaringsdeskundige vol pathos en passie, zonder pathetiek alleen voort schrijft en de inzichten uit eigen oeuvre aftoetst aan zijn nieuwe zijnstoestand.
Dit is een must-read voor iedereen die ooit gaat sterven.
4,5/5
July 31, 2021
禺蹖丕賲 夭賲丕賳賴 賲丕貙 倬蹖乇 夭蹖爻鬲賴貙 乇丕賴賳賲丕蹖 诏賲 卮丿賴 ... 丕乇賵蹖賳 蹖丕賱賵賲 . 賲爻卅賱賴 賲乇诏 賵 夭賳丿诏蹖 卮丕蹖丿 丌禺乇蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 鬲賵 亘丕卮丿貙 賳賲蹖丿丕賳賲 ! 讴鬲丕亘蹖 讴賴 丿乇 88 爻丕賱诏蹖 丕鬲 賵 丿乇 賮乇丕夭 乇賮蹖毓 鬲乇蹖賳 賯賱賴 夭賳丿诏蹖 賳賵卮鬲賴 丕蹖 . 趩卮賲 丕賳丿丕夭蹖 亘丿蹖毓 貙 氐丕丿賯丕賳賴 賵 鬲讴丕賳 丿賴賳丿賴 丕夭 禺賵卮 鬲乇蹖賳 賵 夭蹖亘丕鬲乇蹖賳 夭賳丿诏蹖 賲賲讴賳 亘乇丕蹖 蹖讴 丕賳爻丕賳 讴賴 亘賴 倬蹖卮 趩卮賲 賲賳 诏卮賵丿蹖 ...
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賮丿丕讴丕乇蹖 亘蹖賳馗蹖乇蹖 丕爻鬲 . 卮讴賵賴蹖 丕爻鬲 丕夭 鬲毓賴丿 蹖讴 丕賳爻丕賳貙 蹖讴 丿乇賲丕賳诏乇貙 蹖讴 倬跇賵賴卮诏乇 賵 匕丕鬲 賴賲蹖卮賴 丿乇 丨丕賱 卮诏賵賮丕蹖蹖 賵 亘丕賱蹖丿賳 賵 鬲賵賱蹖丿 丌賳 . 讴賴 丨鬲蹖 丿乇 爻禺鬲 鬲乇蹖賳 賱丨馗丕鬲 毓賲乇 丿爻鬲 丕夭禺賱賯 賵 丌賲賵夭卮 亘乇賳賲蹖丿丕乇丿 .
丕乇賵蹖賳! 丕乇賵蹖賳 蹖丕賱賵賲 毓夭蹖夭 貙 丿乇 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕夭 禺賵丿 賲蹖 诏賵蹖丿 賵 丕夭 賲乇賱蹖賳 賴賲爻乇卮 讴賴 亘賴 爻乇胤丕賳蹖 賲乇诏 亘丕乇 丿趩丕乇 卮丿賴 賵 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵丕蹖鬲蹖 丕爻鬲 丕夭 鬲丕賳诏賵蹖 夭蹖亘丕蹖 丕蹖賳 夭賵噩 亘蹖 賴賲鬲丕 丿乇 乇賯氐 賲乇诏 . 蹖讴蹖 丿乇 賲蹖丕賳 丕夭 夭亘丕賳 丕乇賵蹖賳 賵 賲乇賱蹖賳 賲蹖 诏賵蹖丿 賵 丿乇 丕賳鬲賴丕 倬爻 丕夭 賴噩乇鬲 賲乇賱蹖賳 丕夭 爻賵诏 賵 鬲賱禺 讴丕賲蹖 亘蹖 丕賳鬲賴丕蹖 丕乇賵蹖賳 . 賵 賳丕賲賴 丕蹖 亘賴 賴賲爻乇蹖 讴賴 賴乇诏夭 亘丕夭賳禺賵丕賴丿 诏卮鬲 . .
丿乇 倬丕蹖丕賳 讴鬲丕亘 賵 丿乇 丨丕賱蹖 讴賴 乇蹖夭卮 丕卮讴 賴丕蹖 丕乇賵蹖賳 乇丕 亘乇 乇賵蹖 讴賱賲丕鬲 賳丕賲賴 丕蹖 讴賴 亘乇丕蹖 賲乇賱蹖賳 賳賵卮鬲賴 丨爻 賲蹖 讴賳蹖賲貙 賲蹖禺賵丕賳蹖賲 :
"蹖丕丿鬲 賴爻鬲 丿乇 乇賲丕賳 賳蹖讴賵爻 讴丕夭丕賳鬲夭丕讴蹖爻 夭賵乇亘丕蹖 毓丕卮賯 夭賳丿诏蹖 貙 亘丕 鬲丕讴蹖丿 賲蹖 诏賵蹖丿 : 亘乇丕蹖 賲乇诏 賴蹖趩 趩蹖夭 噩乇 賯賱毓賴 丕蹖 爻賵禺鬲賴 賵 賮乇賵乇蹖禺鬲賴 亘丕賯蹖 賳诏匕丕乇. 蹖丕 丌賳 亘禺卮 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘 夭賳丿诏蹖 賳丕賲賴 爻丕乇鬲乇 亘賴 賯賱賲 禺賵丿卮 讴賴 鬲賵 亘乇丕蹖賲 禺賵丕賳丿蹖 : 賲賳 丌乇丕賲 丌乇丕賲 亘賴 爻賲鬲 倬丕蹖丕賳 賲蹖 乇賮鬲賲... 亘丕 丕胤賲蹖賳丕賳 丕夭 丕蹖賳 讴賴 鬲丕 丌禺乇蹖賳 匕乇賴 賯賱亘賲 丿乇 丌禺乇蹖賳 氐賮丨賴 讴鬲丕亘賲 丨讴 禺賵丕賴丿 卮丿貙 賵 賲乇诏 鬲賳賴丕 丕賳爻丕賳蹖 賲乇丿賴 乇丕 亘丕 禺賵丿卮 禺賵丕賴丿 亘乇丿 .
蹖丕賱賵賲 卮丕蹖丿 ... 亘賴 丿賳亘丕賱 鬲爻讴蹖賳 丕爻鬲 . 鬲爻讴蹖賳蹖 讴賴 丨鬲蹖 丕诏乇 丕賵 亘蹖丕亘丿貙 賲丕 趩賴 亘爻丕 賳禺賵丕賴蹖賲 蹖丕賮鬲 . 賵 丿乇 丨蹖乇鬲 丕夭 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賴 賳卮賳丕禺鬲蹖賲卮 蹖讴蹖 蹖讴蹖 趩賵賳 賯胤乇賴 賴丕蹖 亘丕乇丕賳 丿乇 丨丕賱 爻賯賵胤 亘乇 夭賲蹖賳 賲乇诏 禺賵丕賴蹖賲 丕賮鬲丕丿
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賮丿丕讴丕乇蹖 亘蹖賳馗蹖乇蹖 丕爻鬲 . 卮讴賵賴蹖 丕爻鬲 丕夭 鬲毓賴丿 蹖讴 丕賳爻丕賳貙 蹖讴 丿乇賲丕賳诏乇貙 蹖讴 倬跇賵賴卮诏乇 賵 匕丕鬲 賴賲蹖卮賴 丿乇 丨丕賱 卮诏賵賮丕蹖蹖 賵 亘丕賱蹖丿賳 賵 鬲賵賱蹖丿 丌賳 . 讴賴 丨鬲蹖 丿乇 爻禺鬲 鬲乇蹖賳 賱丨馗丕鬲 毓賲乇 丿爻鬲 丕夭禺賱賯 賵 丌賲賵夭卮 亘乇賳賲蹖丿丕乇丿 .
丕乇賵蹖賳! 丕乇賵蹖賳 蹖丕賱賵賲 毓夭蹖夭 貙 丿乇 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕夭 禺賵丿 賲蹖 诏賵蹖丿 賵 丕夭 賲乇賱蹖賳 賴賲爻乇卮 讴賴 亘賴 爻乇胤丕賳蹖 賲乇诏 亘丕乇 丿趩丕乇 卮丿賴 賵 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵丕蹖鬲蹖 丕爻鬲 丕夭 鬲丕賳诏賵蹖 夭蹖亘丕蹖 丕蹖賳 夭賵噩 亘蹖 賴賲鬲丕 丿乇 乇賯氐 賲乇诏 . 蹖讴蹖 丿乇 賲蹖丕賳 丕夭 夭亘丕賳 丕乇賵蹖賳 賵 賲乇賱蹖賳 賲蹖 诏賵蹖丿 賵 丿乇 丕賳鬲賴丕 倬爻 丕夭 賴噩乇鬲 賲乇賱蹖賳 丕夭 爻賵诏 賵 鬲賱禺 讴丕賲蹖 亘蹖 丕賳鬲賴丕蹖 丕乇賵蹖賳 . 賵 賳丕賲賴 丕蹖 亘賴 賴賲爻乇蹖 讴賴 賴乇诏夭 亘丕夭賳禺賵丕賴丿 诏卮鬲 . .
丿乇 倬丕蹖丕賳 讴鬲丕亘 賵 丿乇 丨丕賱蹖 讴賴 乇蹖夭卮 丕卮讴 賴丕蹖 丕乇賵蹖賳 乇丕 亘乇 乇賵蹖 讴賱賲丕鬲 賳丕賲賴 丕蹖 讴賴 亘乇丕蹖 賲乇賱蹖賳 賳賵卮鬲賴 丨爻 賲蹖 讴賳蹖賲貙 賲蹖禺賵丕賳蹖賲 :
"蹖丕丿鬲 賴爻鬲 丿乇 乇賲丕賳 賳蹖讴賵爻 讴丕夭丕賳鬲夭丕讴蹖爻 夭賵乇亘丕蹖 毓丕卮賯 夭賳丿诏蹖 貙 亘丕 鬲丕讴蹖丿 賲蹖 诏賵蹖丿 : 亘乇丕蹖 賲乇诏 賴蹖趩 趩蹖夭 噩乇 賯賱毓賴 丕蹖 爻賵禺鬲賴 賵 賮乇賵乇蹖禺鬲賴 亘丕賯蹖 賳诏匕丕乇. 蹖丕 丌賳 亘禺卮 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘 夭賳丿诏蹖 賳丕賲賴 爻丕乇鬲乇 亘賴 賯賱賲 禺賵丿卮 讴賴 鬲賵 亘乇丕蹖賲 禺賵丕賳丿蹖 : 賲賳 丌乇丕賲 丌乇丕賲 亘賴 爻賲鬲 倬丕蹖丕賳 賲蹖 乇賮鬲賲... 亘丕 丕胤賲蹖賳丕賳 丕夭 丕蹖賳 讴賴 鬲丕 丌禺乇蹖賳 匕乇賴 賯賱亘賲 丿乇 丌禺乇蹖賳 氐賮丨賴 讴鬲丕亘賲 丨讴 禺賵丕賴丿 卮丿貙 賵 賲乇诏 鬲賳賴丕 丕賳爻丕賳蹖 賲乇丿賴 乇丕 亘丕 禺賵丿卮 禺賵丕賴丿 亘乇丿 .
蹖丕賱賵賲 卮丕蹖丿 ... 亘賴 丿賳亘丕賱 鬲爻讴蹖賳 丕爻鬲 . 鬲爻讴蹖賳蹖 讴賴 丨鬲蹖 丕诏乇 丕賵 亘蹖丕亘丿貙 賲丕 趩賴 亘爻丕 賳禺賵丕賴蹖賲 蹖丕賮鬲 . 賵 丿乇 丨蹖乇鬲 丕夭 夭賳丿诏蹖 讴賴 賳卮賳丕禺鬲蹖賲卮 蹖讴蹖 蹖讴蹖 趩賵賳 賯胤乇賴 賴丕蹖 亘丕乇丕賳 丿乇 丨丕賱 爻賯賵胤 亘乇 夭賲蹖賳 賲乇诏 禺賵丕賴蹖賲 丕賮鬲丕丿
January 5, 2022
Nu a fost o carte u葯or de citit. E o poveste a c膬sniciei, a dragostei care nu se 卯ncheie cu bine. Nicio poveste de dragoste nu se 卯ncheie cu bine, dar Irvin 葯i Marilyn m膬car au lini葯tea ca 葯i-au tr膬it vie葲ile, au vizitat locurile preferate, au copii s膬n膬to葯i 葯i realiza葲i profesional.
A fost cea mai potrivita carte pentru a 卯ncepe anul!
A fost cea mai potrivita carte pentru a 卯ncepe anul!
March 16, 2022
讴鬲丕亘 丕夭 鬲噩丕乇亘 卮禺氐蹖 蹖丕賱賵賲 賵 賴賲爻乇卮鈥屬囏� 賵 禺蹖賱蹖 噩丿蹖 賵 毓賲蹖賯 丿爻鬲 賲蹖鈥屫柏ж辟� 乇賵蹖 丕囟胤乇丕亘 賲乇诏蹖 讴賴 丨鬲蹖 卮丕蹖丿 禺賵丿鬲 賳丿賵賳蹖 丿丕乇蹖卮. 丕匕蹖鬲賲 讴乇丿 蹖讴賲 丕夭 丕蹖賳 噩賴鬲 讴鬲丕亘貙 賵賱蹖 賵丕賯毓丕 讴鬲丕亘 亘蹖鈥屬嗀港屫臂� 亘賵丿. 丕蹖賳讴賴 亘亘蹖賳蹖 讴爻蹖 賲孬賱 蹖丕賱賵賲 賴賲 亘丕 丕蹖賳 賲爻丕賱賴 丿乇诏蹖乇賴 賵 丕蹖賳 讴賴 亘亘蹖賳蹖 趩賴 賲乇丕丨賱蹖 乇賵 賲蹖诏匕乇賵賳賴 噩丕賱亘 亘賵丿.
September 29, 2023
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 賴賲乇丕賴 鬲乇丕倬蹖爻鬲賲 賵 蹖賴 诏乇賵賴 讴鬲丕亘禺賵賳蹖 禺賵賳丿賲 賵 賴乇 賴賮鬲賴 丿乇亘丕乇賴鈥屸€屰� 趩賳丿 賮氐賱卮 亘丨孬 卮丿. 賮丕乇睾 丕夭 丕蹖賳 鬲噩乇亘賴鈥屰� 禺丕氐貙 禺賵賳丿賳卮 亘丕毓孬 卮丿 丕乇丕丿鬲賲 亘賴 蹖丕賱賵賲 賵 賲乇蹖賱蹖賳貙 賴賲爻乇卮貙 趩賳丿蹖賳鈥屫ㄘ必жㄘ� 亘卮賴. 丕賲丕 亘賴 賳馗乇賲 亘丕蹖丿 亘诏賲 趩賵賳 乇賵蹖丕乇賵蹖蹖 毓乇蹖丕賳 亘丕 賲乇诏 丿丕乇賴 卮丕蹖丿 亘乇丕蹖 禺賵賳丿賳卮 亘丕蹖丿 夭賲丕賳 賲賳丕爻亘蹖 倬蹖丿丕 讴賳蹖賳.
July 30, 2023
賲賳 丕丨賱賶 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱賱賷 賯乇兀鬲賴丕 丕賱爻賳丞 丿賷
氐丕丿賯 噩丿賸丕 賵賮 丕丨爻丕爻賷 噩賲賷賱丞 亘賷賳 夭賵噩賷賳 賵賰丕鬲亘賷賳 賲賱賴賲賷賳 馃槍
兀賵賱 賯乇丕亍丞 賱 Marilyn 賵 Irvin Yalom 賵丕賰賷丿 賲卮 丕賱兀禺賷乇丞 馃憣
丕乇卮丨賴 噩丿賸丕
氐丕丿賯 噩丿賸丕 賵賮 丕丨爻丕爻賷 噩賲賷賱丞 亘賷賳 夭賵噩賷賳 賵賰丕鬲亘賷賳 賲賱賴賲賷賳 馃槍
兀賵賱 賯乇丕亍丞 賱 Marilyn 賵 Irvin Yalom 賵丕賰賷丿 賲卮 丕賱兀禺賷乇丞 馃憣
丕乇卮丨賴 噩丿賸丕
July 2, 2023
鈥� nichts f眉r Zartbesaitete. Ein Memento, ein Aufbegehren, eine Rosskur.
Ausf眉hrlicher, vielleicht begr眉ndeter auf
Der Titel des Buches 鈥灻渂er den Tod und das Leben鈥� weist schon auf das Wesentliche hin. Es geht tats盲chlich um das, was zwischen Leben und dem Tod stattfindet, das Sterben. Was jedoch in diesem Text stattfindet, ist etwas Au脽ergew枚hnliches, ein Zwiegespr盲ch zweier Liebenden, ein Abschied, ein herzzerrei脽endes Pl盲doyer daf眉r, das Leben nach eigenen W眉nschen zu leben und zu beenden.
鈥濻ie [Marilyn] hatte eine ausgezeichnete Woche: kaum 脺belkeit, ein wenig Appetit und etwas mehr Energie. Sie verbringt immer noch einen Gro脽teil des Tages damit, d枚send oder die gro脽e Eiche im Garten bewundernd auf der Couch im Wohnzimmer zu liegen. Und zweimal in dieser Woche war sie bereit, die drei脽ig Meter zum Briefkasten zu gehen.鈥�
Sie, die nicht mehr kann, nicht mehr will, und er, der nicht loslassen m枚chte, noch dazu imstande ist. Ein Schwanken, ein innerer, an den Nerven, an der Lebensfreude nagender Zweifel. 鈥濽nzertrennlich鈥� zeigt, dass selbst das gl眉ckliche, satte, im Kreis liebender Verwandte und Freunde gef眉hrte Leben vor dem harten Aus steht, wie jedes Leben, denn vor dem Tod sind alle gleich: ob als geliebte oder ungeliebte, ob als erfolgreiche oder unerfolgreiche, als bekannte oder unbekannte Menschen.
Was dieses Buch aber eigentlich ist, 眉ber die Phrasen hinaus, ist ein Briefwechsel des Vertrauens und Zutrauens, der Versuch, sich auf den letzten Schritten noch gegenseitig Kraft zu geben, wenn es k枚rperlich nicht mehr m枚glich ist. Der zerfallende, schw盲chliche, inkontinente K枚rper l盲sst die Sprache unber眉hrt. In der Sprache treffen sich beide. In der Sprache bleiben sie die alten, die Historikerin, der Psychoanalytiker, im Gewande ihrer Begriffe, ihrer Pl盲ne und Ausdrucksbem眉hungen.
Das Buch ist weniger Literatur als Sachbuch, als Briefwechsel, als Autobiographisches. Es ist Literatur dort, wo die Sprache verdeckt, verh眉llt, dort, wo diese Zuflucht gibt, aber nicht in einer schn枚rkeligen, einfallsreichen Sprache. Nein, die Sprache ist einfach, schmerzhaft simpel. Sie bleibt aber Sprache, unber眉hrt vom Tod. Sie bleibt Kommunikation, Gespr盲ch, Selbstgespr盲ch, eine Br眉cke zwischen Interessierten, Liebenden, zwischen Wollenden und Begehrenden, aus dem Dunkel eines Selbst in das Licht hinaus. Das Buch lebt vom Rhythmus, als Ganzes, nicht in den Passagen, sondern als Pfeifen im dunklen Walde, als Mond in einer sternfinsteren Nacht.
Ich empfehle dieses allen, die sich dem Schmerz, den Tr盲nen 枚ffnen m枚chten. Weiterhin zu empfehlen: Helga Schubert 鈥濾om Aufstehen鈥� und 鈥濪ie Zeremonie des Abschieds鈥� von Simone de Beauvoir. B眉cher ohne happy end, aber mit Kraft und Zuversicht, Elan und sprachlich vermittelter Lebensfreude.
PS. Ich empfehle aber auf das Lesen des Nachwortes von Regina Kammerer erst nach ein paar Stunden. Es wirkt seltsam, ein so langes, m.E. viel, viel zu langes Nachwort von einer Unbeteiligten zu lesen. Es h盲tte als Vorwort viel besser gewirkt (Spoiler kann es nicht geben) und w盲re respektvoller gewesen, dem trauernden Ehemann, dem Paar, das voneinander Abschied genommen hat, das letzte Wort zu 眉berlassen.
Ausf眉hrlicher, vielleicht begr眉ndeter auf
Der Titel des Buches 鈥灻渂er den Tod und das Leben鈥� weist schon auf das Wesentliche hin. Es geht tats盲chlich um das, was zwischen Leben und dem Tod stattfindet, das Sterben. Was jedoch in diesem Text stattfindet, ist etwas Au脽ergew枚hnliches, ein Zwiegespr盲ch zweier Liebenden, ein Abschied, ein herzzerrei脽endes Pl盲doyer daf眉r, das Leben nach eigenen W眉nschen zu leben und zu beenden.
鈥濻ie [Marilyn] hatte eine ausgezeichnete Woche: kaum 脺belkeit, ein wenig Appetit und etwas mehr Energie. Sie verbringt immer noch einen Gro脽teil des Tages damit, d枚send oder die gro脽e Eiche im Garten bewundernd auf der Couch im Wohnzimmer zu liegen. Und zweimal in dieser Woche war sie bereit, die drei脽ig Meter zum Briefkasten zu gehen.鈥�
Sie, die nicht mehr kann, nicht mehr will, und er, der nicht loslassen m枚chte, noch dazu imstande ist. Ein Schwanken, ein innerer, an den Nerven, an der Lebensfreude nagender Zweifel. 鈥濽nzertrennlich鈥� zeigt, dass selbst das gl眉ckliche, satte, im Kreis liebender Verwandte und Freunde gef眉hrte Leben vor dem harten Aus steht, wie jedes Leben, denn vor dem Tod sind alle gleich: ob als geliebte oder ungeliebte, ob als erfolgreiche oder unerfolgreiche, als bekannte oder unbekannte Menschen.
Was dieses Buch aber eigentlich ist, 眉ber die Phrasen hinaus, ist ein Briefwechsel des Vertrauens und Zutrauens, der Versuch, sich auf den letzten Schritten noch gegenseitig Kraft zu geben, wenn es k枚rperlich nicht mehr m枚glich ist. Der zerfallende, schw盲chliche, inkontinente K枚rper l盲sst die Sprache unber眉hrt. In der Sprache treffen sich beide. In der Sprache bleiben sie die alten, die Historikerin, der Psychoanalytiker, im Gewande ihrer Begriffe, ihrer Pl盲ne und Ausdrucksbem眉hungen.
Das Buch ist weniger Literatur als Sachbuch, als Briefwechsel, als Autobiographisches. Es ist Literatur dort, wo die Sprache verdeckt, verh眉llt, dort, wo diese Zuflucht gibt, aber nicht in einer schn枚rkeligen, einfallsreichen Sprache. Nein, die Sprache ist einfach, schmerzhaft simpel. Sie bleibt aber Sprache, unber眉hrt vom Tod. Sie bleibt Kommunikation, Gespr盲ch, Selbstgespr盲ch, eine Br眉cke zwischen Interessierten, Liebenden, zwischen Wollenden und Begehrenden, aus dem Dunkel eines Selbst in das Licht hinaus. Das Buch lebt vom Rhythmus, als Ganzes, nicht in den Passagen, sondern als Pfeifen im dunklen Walde, als Mond in einer sternfinsteren Nacht.
Ich empfehle dieses allen, die sich dem Schmerz, den Tr盲nen 枚ffnen m枚chten. Weiterhin zu empfehlen: Helga Schubert 鈥濾om Aufstehen鈥� und 鈥濪ie Zeremonie des Abschieds鈥� von Simone de Beauvoir. B眉cher ohne happy end, aber mit Kraft und Zuversicht, Elan und sprachlich vermittelter Lebensfreude.
PS. Ich empfehle aber auf das Lesen des Nachwortes von Regina Kammerer erst nach ein paar Stunden. Es wirkt seltsam, ein so langes, m.E. viel, viel zu langes Nachwort von einer Unbeteiligten zu lesen. Es h盲tte als Vorwort viel besser gewirkt (Spoiler kann es nicht geben) und w盲re respektvoller gewesen, dem trauernden Ehemann, dem Paar, das voneinander Abschied genommen hat, das letzte Wort zu 眉berlassen.
April 26, 2023
"賱賯丿 兀購睾乇賲鬲 亘賲丕乇賱賷賳 賲賳匕 孬賱丕孬丞 賵爻亘毓賷賳 爻賳丞貙 賵賰賳丕 賯丿 丕丨鬲賮賱賳丕 賲賳匕 賮鬲乇丞 賯氐賷乇丞 亘毓賷丿 夭賵丕噩賳丕 丕賱禺丕賲爻 賵丕賱爻鬲賷賳. 兀毓乇賮 兀賳賴 賱賷爻 兀賲乇丕賸 賲兀賱賵賮丕賸 兀賳 賷丨亘 卮禺氐 卮禺氐丕賸 丌禺乇 亘賴匕丕 丕賱賯丿乇 賵賱賴匕賴 丕賱賲丿丞 丕賱胤賵賷賱丞. 賱賰賳 丨鬲賶 丕賱丌賳貙 毓賳丿賲丕 鬲丿禺賱 廿賱賶 丕賱睾乇賮丞貙 賷卮乇賯 賵噩賴賷. 賮兀賳丕 賲毓噩亘 亘賰賱 卮賷亍 賮賷賴丕 -兀亘賴鬲賴丕貙 噩賲丕賱賴丕貙 乇賯鬲賴丕貙 賵丨賰賲鬲賴丕. 賵毓賱賶 丕賱乇睾賲 賲賳 丕禺鬲賱丕賮 禺賱賮賷丕鬲賳丕 丕賱賮賰乇賷丞貙 賮廿賳賳丕 賳鬲賯丕爻賲 丨亘 丕賱兀丿亘 賵丕賱賲爻乇丨 廿賱賶 丿乇噩丞 賰亘賷乇丞. 賮賰賱賲丕 賰丕賳 賱丿賷 爻丐丕賱 毓賳 噩丕賳亘 賲賳 噩賵丕賳亘 丕賱毓賱賵賲 丕賱廿賳爻丕賳賷丞貙 賯賱賲丕 兀禺賮賯鬲 賮賷 鬲孬賯賷賮賷. 賵賱賲 鬲賰賳 毓賱丕賯鬲賳丕 賴丕丿卅丞 丿丕卅賲丕賸: 賮賯丿 賰丕賳鬲 賱丿賷賳丕 禺賱丕賮丕鬲賳丕貙 賲卮丕噩乇丕鬲賳丕貙 鬲氐乇賮丕鬲賳丕 丕賱胤丕卅卮丞貙 賱賰賳賳丕 賰賳丕 丿丕卅賲丕賸 氐乇賷丨賷賳 賵氐丕丿賷賯賷賳 賲毓 兀丨丿賳丕 丕賱丌禺乇貙 賵賰賳丕 丿丕卅賲丕賸 丿丕卅賲丕賸貙 賳囟毓 毓賱丕賯鬲賳丕 賮賷 丕賱賲賯丕賲 丕賱兀賵賱".
匕丕鬲 賷賵賲貙 賵丨賷賳賲丕 毓賱賲鬲 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲 亘廿氐丕亘鬲賴丕 亘爻乇胤丕賳 禺賱丕賷丕 丕賱亘賱丕夭賲丕貙 賯乇乇鬲 兀賳 鬲賰鬲亘 爻賷乇鬲賴丕 丕賱匕丕鬲賷丞 賲毓 夭賵噩賴丕 廿賷乇賮賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲 禺賱丕賱 賴匕賴 丕賱賮鬲乇丞 -賮鬲乇丞 丕賱卮賷禺賵禺丞- 亘丨賷孬 賷鬲賳丕賵亘 賰賱 賲賳賴賲 毓賱賶 賰鬲丕亘丞 賮氐賱 賷鬲丨丿孬 賮賷賴 毓賳 賲丕 賷賲乇 亘賴 賮賷 賴匕賴 丕賱賮鬲乇丞貙 賵丕賱兀丨丿丕孬 賲賳 賵噩賴丞 賳馗乇賴.
丕賱賮賰乇丞 賮賷 丨丿 匕丕鬲賴丕 噩賷丿丞貙 賱賰賳 丕賱賲購丨夭賳 兀賳 賰賱丕賴賲丕 賰丕賳 賲乇賷囟丕賸貙 賵賰賱丕賴賲丕 賷丨鬲丕噩 賱毓賳丕賷丞貙 賵賰賱丕賴賲丕 賮賷 丨丕噩丞 丕賱丌禺乇 賵賱丕 賷爻鬲胤賷毓 鬲乇賰賴貙 賮賰賷賮 爻賷賯賵賲賵賳 亘賴匕丕責!
賳毓賷卮 賲毓賴賲 毓亘乇 丕賱賰鬲丕亘貙 賮氐賱 亘賮氐賱貙 丨鬲賶 賷賯乇乇 兀丨丿賴賲 兀賳賴 賱賲 賷毓丿 賱賴 丕賱賯丿乇丞 毓賱賶 廿賰賲丕賱 丕賱丨賷丕丞 賲毓 賴匕丕 丕賱兀賱賲貙 賮賷購賰賲賱 丕賱丌禺乇 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 亘賲賮乇丿賴!
賱丕 兀毓賱賲 賲丕 賴賵 兀氐毓亘 噩夭亍 賮賷 賴匕賴 丕賱爻賷乇丞貙 賮賰賱賴丕 賲丐賱賲丞!
賱賰賳貙 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 賷賰賵賳 丕賱兀賰孬乇 兀賱賲丕賸 亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賷 賴賵 丕賱噩夭亍 丕賱兀禺賷乇貙 賮賴賵 丕賱匕賷 兀亘賰丕賳賷貙 賵噩毓賱賳賷 兀爻鬲毓賷丿 孬賯鬲賷 賮賷 丕賱丨亘 賲乇丞 兀禺乇賶貙 賵兀賳賴 賴賳丕賰 賲賳 賷毓賷卮賵賳 賲毓 亘毓囟賴賲 65 毓丕賲丕賸 賵賱丕 夭丕賱賵丕 賷鬲卮亘孬賵賳 亘亘毓囟賴賲 丕賱亘毓囟 賵賱丕 賷爻鬲胤賷毓賵賳 丕賱丨賷丕丞 亘丿賵賳 丕賱丌禺乇 馃ズ
丕賱賲賴賲 賮賷 賰賱 賴匕丕 賵賰賲丕 賯丕賱 廿賷乇賮賷賳: 兀賳 賳囟毓 毓賱丕賯鬲賳丕 賮賷 丕賱賲賯丕賲 丕賱兀賵賱.
賯乇兀鬲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 兀賵賱 兀賷丕賲 毓賷丿 丕賱賮胤乇貙 賵賱賲 兀鬲乇賰賴 廿賱丕 亘毓丿 廿賳賴丕卅賴!
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佗佟 兀亘乇賷賱 佗贍佗伲
匕丕鬲 賷賵賲貙 賵丨賷賳賲丕 毓賱賲鬲 賲丕乇賱賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲 亘廿氐丕亘鬲賴丕 亘爻乇胤丕賳 禺賱丕賷丕 丕賱亘賱丕夭賲丕貙 賯乇乇鬲 兀賳 鬲賰鬲亘 爻賷乇鬲賴丕 丕賱匕丕鬲賷丞 賲毓 夭賵噩賴丕 廿賷乇賮賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲 禺賱丕賱 賴匕賴 丕賱賮鬲乇丞 -賮鬲乇丞 丕賱卮賷禺賵禺丞- 亘丨賷孬 賷鬲賳丕賵亘 賰賱 賲賳賴賲 毓賱賶 賰鬲丕亘丞 賮氐賱 賷鬲丨丿孬 賮賷賴 毓賳 賲丕 賷賲乇 亘賴 賮賷 賴匕賴 丕賱賮鬲乇丞貙 賵丕賱兀丨丿丕孬 賲賳 賵噩賴丞 賳馗乇賴.
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賱丕 兀毓賱賲 賲丕 賴賵 兀氐毓亘 噩夭亍 賮賷 賴匕賴 丕賱爻賷乇丞貙 賮賰賱賴丕 賲丐賱賲丞!
賱賰賳貙 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 賷賰賵賳 丕賱兀賰孬乇 兀賱賲丕賸 亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賷 賴賵 丕賱噩夭亍 丕賱兀禺賷乇貙 賮賴賵 丕賱匕賷 兀亘賰丕賳賷貙 賵噩毓賱賳賷 兀爻鬲毓賷丿 孬賯鬲賷 賮賷 丕賱丨亘 賲乇丞 兀禺乇賶貙 賵兀賳賴 賴賳丕賰 賲賳 賷毓賷卮賵賳 賲毓 亘毓囟賴賲 65 毓丕賲丕賸 賵賱丕 夭丕賱賵丕 賷鬲卮亘孬賵賳 亘亘毓囟賴賲 丕賱亘毓囟 賵賱丕 賷爻鬲胤賷毓賵賳 丕賱丨賷丕丞 亘丿賵賳 丕賱丌禺乇 馃ズ
丕賱賲賴賲 賮賷 賰賱 賴匕丕 賵賰賲丕 賯丕賱 廿賷乇賮賷賳: 兀賳 賳囟毓 毓賱丕賯鬲賳丕 賮賷 丕賱賲賯丕賲 丕賱兀賵賱.
賯乇兀鬲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 兀賵賱 兀賷丕賲 毓賷丿 丕賱賮胤乇貙 賵賱賲 兀鬲乇賰賴 廿賱丕 亘毓丿 廿賳賴丕卅賴!
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佗佟 兀亘乇賷賱 佗贍佗伲
November 25, 2024
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