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October 9, 2010
Between Parent and Haim Ginott
Khaya: Dr. Ginott, I have so many feelings about your book. It鈥檚 hard for me to sort them all out.
Dr. Ginott: You鈥檙e confused and you don鈥檛 know where to start. You feel many different things.
Khaya: Yes! I have friends who swear by you and your methods. They think you鈥檙e great.
Dr. Ginott: Khaya, evaluative words like 鈥済reat鈥� do not represent helpful praise. Praise should deal only with the person鈥檚 efforts and accomplishments, not with his character and personality attributes.
Khaya: Oh. So I guess it would be more accurate to say that your books have helped my friends develop a philosophy of parenting that seems to work for them.
Dr. Ginott: You have reframed your words to be a more specific, and therefore helpful and effective form of praise. From my words just now you may infer, 鈥淚鈥檝e caught on!鈥� and feel pretty good about yourself. This is what effective praise does.
Khaya: I guess I sort of see that. I鈥檓 struggling, though, with a broader question. Do you think your philosophy, well-intentioned though it might be, may result in whiny, entitled children?
Dr. Ginott: You are concerned that children whose feelings are reflected back to them by their parents may be whinier. Can you explain what you mean?
Khaya: I remember my friend鈥檚 four-year-old whining at her, 鈥淚 want that RIGHT NOW.鈥� And her response was, 鈥淚t must be hard to want something right now.鈥�
Dr. Ginott: So you feel that your friend鈥檚 empathetic response to her child encouraged the child to whine more?
Khaya: I mean, I do wonder that. Although maybe I鈥檓 just jealous. I have trouble being that nice when my child鈥檚 whining is getting on my nerves.
Dr. Ginott: So you鈥檙e feeling some self-doubt about your own parenting and wondering whether that鈥檚 what鈥檚 causing this reaction.
Khaya: Yes, although I also think it鈥檚 important for parents to be authentic, isn鈥檛 it? And for kids to receive authentic feedback on their behavior?
Dr. Ginott: You think my approach feels fake, perhaps scripted. Yes?
Khaya: Yes. I mean, it鈥檚 definitely kinder and gentler than yelling at a child or putting him down, and I give you credit for sensitizing parents to that. But Jean Twenge鈥檚 book 鈥淕eneration Me鈥� makes me wonder whether we are overly focused on kids鈥� self-esteem and actually doing them a disservice by sanitizing all our feedback to them. Our focus on developing our children鈥檚 self-esteem may come at the expense of working on their self-control, e.g., encouraging them to stop whining.
Dr. Ginott: Khaya, I will speak plainly now. I am, after all, not my actual self but merely a projection you are using to serve as a foil for your review. You can only guess what I would say.
Khaya: Yes, that鈥檚 true.
Dr. Ginott: So this is not necessarily how I would have responded, but here鈥檚 an attempt. I hear your question about whether responding empathically as opposed to in a genuinely irritated way fosters whining rather than self-control. It is my belief that my approach, properly applied, need not foster whining. I believe it is entirely possible to first reflect the child鈥檚 feelings and then follow up with a statement about the need for the child to use a more palatable tone. And the tone of that statement may be as firm as necessary.
Khaya: In an ideal world, maybe. What I see, though, is that many of my friends鈥� kids seem happier but a heck of a lot whinier than we were in my day. When I was growing up, I learned quickly that whining got on my parents鈥� nerves and was cured of the habit. And also that I simply couldn't have everything I wanted, and that I had to suck it up rather than expecting infinite consolation for every setback.
Dr. Ginott: And do you feel your upbringing was superior?
Khaya: Not exactly. But I often wonder whether the generation we鈥檙e raising now is truly better off. Maybe today鈥檚 parents are a little too nice for their children鈥檚 good.
Dr. Ginott: Well to be honest, Khaya, I wrote this book a long time ago. Perhaps it is a bit dated. In my day, I believe parents needed to hear this message. As to whether a different message is needed today, I cannot say.
Khaya: No offense, Dr. Ginott, but many aspects of this book were indeed dated. Freudian developmental concepts stated as absolutes, and much of the discussion about sex roles and mothers and fathers for example. But in fairness to you, I think you had a lot of good ideas.
Dr. Ginott: So you did like some things.
Khaya: Oh, definitely! I believe your book was groundbreaking in its day. You taught parents to discipline their children in a way that respected them as human beings. I also loved the book鈥檚 thoroughness 鈥� you cover a wide range of relevant topics, including self-defeating parenting patterns, teaching manners, teaching responsibility and independence, setting limits, anxiety in children, and more. Much of what you say is actually very helpful. And most of all, you did inspire me to work more on my parenting 鈥� even if I still have a ways to go.
Dr. Ginott: So you liked the book overall and hope to use it to improve your parenting.
Khaya: Yes. Four stars, absolutely.
Khaya: Dr. Ginott, I have so many feelings about your book. It鈥檚 hard for me to sort them all out.
Dr. Ginott: You鈥檙e confused and you don鈥檛 know where to start. You feel many different things.
Khaya: Yes! I have friends who swear by you and your methods. They think you鈥檙e great.
Dr. Ginott: Khaya, evaluative words like 鈥済reat鈥� do not represent helpful praise. Praise should deal only with the person鈥檚 efforts and accomplishments, not with his character and personality attributes.
Khaya: Oh. So I guess it would be more accurate to say that your books have helped my friends develop a philosophy of parenting that seems to work for them.
Dr. Ginott: You have reframed your words to be a more specific, and therefore helpful and effective form of praise. From my words just now you may infer, 鈥淚鈥檝e caught on!鈥� and feel pretty good about yourself. This is what effective praise does.
Khaya: I guess I sort of see that. I鈥檓 struggling, though, with a broader question. Do you think your philosophy, well-intentioned though it might be, may result in whiny, entitled children?
Dr. Ginott: You are concerned that children whose feelings are reflected back to them by their parents may be whinier. Can you explain what you mean?
Khaya: I remember my friend鈥檚 four-year-old whining at her, 鈥淚 want that RIGHT NOW.鈥� And her response was, 鈥淚t must be hard to want something right now.鈥�
Dr. Ginott: So you feel that your friend鈥檚 empathetic response to her child encouraged the child to whine more?
Khaya: I mean, I do wonder that. Although maybe I鈥檓 just jealous. I have trouble being that nice when my child鈥檚 whining is getting on my nerves.
Dr. Ginott: So you鈥檙e feeling some self-doubt about your own parenting and wondering whether that鈥檚 what鈥檚 causing this reaction.
Khaya: Yes, although I also think it鈥檚 important for parents to be authentic, isn鈥檛 it? And for kids to receive authentic feedback on their behavior?
Dr. Ginott: You think my approach feels fake, perhaps scripted. Yes?
Khaya: Yes. I mean, it鈥檚 definitely kinder and gentler than yelling at a child or putting him down, and I give you credit for sensitizing parents to that. But Jean Twenge鈥檚 book 鈥淕eneration Me鈥� makes me wonder whether we are overly focused on kids鈥� self-esteem and actually doing them a disservice by sanitizing all our feedback to them. Our focus on developing our children鈥檚 self-esteem may come at the expense of working on their self-control, e.g., encouraging them to stop whining.
Dr. Ginott: Khaya, I will speak plainly now. I am, after all, not my actual self but merely a projection you are using to serve as a foil for your review. You can only guess what I would say.
Khaya: Yes, that鈥檚 true.
Dr. Ginott: So this is not necessarily how I would have responded, but here鈥檚 an attempt. I hear your question about whether responding empathically as opposed to in a genuinely irritated way fosters whining rather than self-control. It is my belief that my approach, properly applied, need not foster whining. I believe it is entirely possible to first reflect the child鈥檚 feelings and then follow up with a statement about the need for the child to use a more palatable tone. And the tone of that statement may be as firm as necessary.
Khaya: In an ideal world, maybe. What I see, though, is that many of my friends鈥� kids seem happier but a heck of a lot whinier than we were in my day. When I was growing up, I learned quickly that whining got on my parents鈥� nerves and was cured of the habit. And also that I simply couldn't have everything I wanted, and that I had to suck it up rather than expecting infinite consolation for every setback.
Dr. Ginott: And do you feel your upbringing was superior?
Khaya: Not exactly. But I often wonder whether the generation we鈥檙e raising now is truly better off. Maybe today鈥檚 parents are a little too nice for their children鈥檚 good.
Dr. Ginott: Well to be honest, Khaya, I wrote this book a long time ago. Perhaps it is a bit dated. In my day, I believe parents needed to hear this message. As to whether a different message is needed today, I cannot say.
Khaya: No offense, Dr. Ginott, but many aspects of this book were indeed dated. Freudian developmental concepts stated as absolutes, and much of the discussion about sex roles and mothers and fathers for example. But in fairness to you, I think you had a lot of good ideas.
Dr. Ginott: So you did like some things.
Khaya: Oh, definitely! I believe your book was groundbreaking in its day. You taught parents to discipline their children in a way that respected them as human beings. I also loved the book鈥檚 thoroughness 鈥� you cover a wide range of relevant topics, including self-defeating parenting patterns, teaching manners, teaching responsibility and independence, setting limits, anxiety in children, and more. Much of what you say is actually very helpful. And most of all, you did inspire me to work more on my parenting 鈥� even if I still have a ways to go.
Dr. Ginott: So you liked the book overall and hope to use it to improve your parenting.
Khaya: Yes. Four stars, absolutely.
March 16, 2012
Ok. First of all, I AM NOT PREGNANT. (Nor do I have children.)
Good, glad we cleared that up. So why am I reading a parenting book, you might ask? Well, one of my main self-improvement goals for the past few years has been to improve my communication skills, especially with relation to conflict resolution and emotions.
This book was mentioned in an advice column that has been entertaining me recently ("Dear Prudence" from Slate Magazine). The concepts mentioned in the book intrigued me because they seemed to align with some things I have discovered, like that a fight often cannot progress or be resolved until the feelings are addressed somehow.
This book really crystallized my half-formed theories on communication, emotions, and conflict resolution, and suddenly it all makes sense. It was a quick, fascinating read. Just substitute the word "child" with the word "human" and all of these principles and techniques apply to adults as well! They give great examples of our typical impulsive reactions in certain situations, and examples of more effective ways of communicating.
I've already started applying the techniques to my coworkers, clients, friends and family. First of all, it's amazing how WRONG I've been communicating for so long! I'm very prone to preaching and evaluative praise/criticism! I'd already figured out nagging doesn't really work, but I've realized I just over-explain and preach and talk about what we "should" do too much. Get to the point, lady! People don't generally need explanations unless they ask for one. I over-explain to justify my point but often a justification is unnecessary.
But it's amazing how effective the techniques are when applied even clumsily by an amateur! I've already gotten surprising results just by carefully mirroring emotions without judgement or blame. I've had casual conversations become suddenly deep and meaningful when that wouldn't have happened before. It feels odd at first to just mirror, a little contrived and manipulative, but all skills feel contrived at first until one has more practice and experience with them. And the pleasure and relief my mirroring brought my companions was very rewarding. That was always my goal before, but who knew I didn't really even need to do or say that much in order to bring that relief. I'm becoming a better listener!
Anyway, I recommend everyone everywhere read this book if you want to become a better, more caring and compassionate person and communicator.
Words are the tools we use to interact with others, and they can cause great emotional harm or nurturing depending on how we use them. I'm learning how to express my true emotions and feelings without upsetting others, and it's very freeing and rewarding! I used to be scared to discuss angry feelings because of the inevitable conflict that would arise, and I was starting to develop a nasty temper. Now I feel I'm developing a much better way of expressing my negative feelings.
Good, glad we cleared that up. So why am I reading a parenting book, you might ask? Well, one of my main self-improvement goals for the past few years has been to improve my communication skills, especially with relation to conflict resolution and emotions.
This book was mentioned in an advice column that has been entertaining me recently ("Dear Prudence" from Slate Magazine). The concepts mentioned in the book intrigued me because they seemed to align with some things I have discovered, like that a fight often cannot progress or be resolved until the feelings are addressed somehow.
This book really crystallized my half-formed theories on communication, emotions, and conflict resolution, and suddenly it all makes sense. It was a quick, fascinating read. Just substitute the word "child" with the word "human" and all of these principles and techniques apply to adults as well! They give great examples of our typical impulsive reactions in certain situations, and examples of more effective ways of communicating.
I've already started applying the techniques to my coworkers, clients, friends and family. First of all, it's amazing how WRONG I've been communicating for so long! I'm very prone to preaching and evaluative praise/criticism! I'd already figured out nagging doesn't really work, but I've realized I just over-explain and preach and talk about what we "should" do too much. Get to the point, lady! People don't generally need explanations unless they ask for one. I over-explain to justify my point but often a justification is unnecessary.
But it's amazing how effective the techniques are when applied even clumsily by an amateur! I've already gotten surprising results just by carefully mirroring emotions without judgement or blame. I've had casual conversations become suddenly deep and meaningful when that wouldn't have happened before. It feels odd at first to just mirror, a little contrived and manipulative, but all skills feel contrived at first until one has more practice and experience with them. And the pleasure and relief my mirroring brought my companions was very rewarding. That was always my goal before, but who knew I didn't really even need to do or say that much in order to bring that relief. I'm becoming a better listener!
Anyway, I recommend everyone everywhere read this book if you want to become a better, more caring and compassionate person and communicator.
Words are the tools we use to interact with others, and they can cause great emotional harm or nurturing depending on how we use them. I'm learning how to express my true emotions and feelings without upsetting others, and it's very freeing and rewarding! I used to be scared to discuss angry feelings because of the inevitable conflict that would arise, and I was starting to develop a nasty temper. Now I feel I'm developing a much better way of expressing my negative feelings.
May 9, 2016
M峄檛 cu峄憂 s谩ch m脿 khi 膽峄峜 t么i ph岷 li锚n t峄 highlight, 膽岷 kh谩i l脿 v脿ng kh猫 c岷� cu峄憂 s谩ch. T么i c贸 媒 膽峄媙h chia s岷� c谩c ghi ch煤 sau khi 膽峄峜. Nh瓢ng sau khi b么i v脿ng c岷� cu峄憂 s谩ch th矛 t么i t峄� b峄� 媒 膽峄媙h n脿y. B峄焛 v矛 n岷縰 l脿m nh瓢 v岷瓂 th矛 coi nh瓢 chia s岷� to脿n b峄� cu峄憂 s谩ch m岷 r峄搃. T么i ch峄� c贸 m峄檛 膽峄� ngh峄� 膽岷縩 c谩c ba, m岷� r岷眓g h茫y 膽峄峜 cu峄憂 s谩ch n脿y 膽峄� c贸 th峄� h瓢峄沶g d岷玭 con tr岷� l峄沶 l锚n v峄痭g v脿ng, v峄沬 l貌ng t峄� tr峄峮g, s峄� t峄� tin v脿 t矛nh y锚u th瓢啤ng th岷 膽岷玬. 膼芒y l脿 cu峄憂 s谩ch l脿m cha, m岷� th峄� hai m脿 t么i 膽峄� ngh峄� must-read 膽峄慽 v峄沬 b岷 k峄� cha, m岷� n脿o. Cu峄憂 th峄� nh岷 l脿 cu峄憂 Con tr岷� c岷 g矛 峄� cha m岷�, m脿 t么i c贸 chia s岷� c谩c ghi ch煤 峄� 膽芒y: .
- C谩c ba m岷� s岷� t矛m th岷 v么 s峄� v铆 d峄� c峄� th峄� c霉ng v峄沬 gi岷 ph谩p 膽峄� x峄� l媒 c谩c t矛nh hu峄憂g m脿 ai c农ng ph岷 v貌 膽岷, b峄﹖ t贸c, l锚n t膬ng x么ng 膽峄慽 v峄沬 con c谩i c峄 ch煤ng ta. T么i nh矛n th岷 h矛nh 岷h c峄 b岷 th芒n nhi峄乽 trong c谩c v铆 d峄� n脿y. May m岷痭 l脿 v岷玭 c貌n c贸 th峄� ch峄塶h s峄璦 k峄媝, sau khi 膽峄峜 xong s谩ch.
- Tuy cu峄憂 s谩ch n贸i v峄� vi峄嘽 d岷 con, c谩c ba m岷� s岷� th岷 r岷眓g ch铆nh c谩c ba m岷� s岷� h峄峜 膽瓢峄 nhi峄乽 膽i峄乽 膽峄� s峄璦 膽峄昳 ch铆nh b岷 th芒n, 膽峄� tr峄� th脿nh m峄檛 ng瓢峄漣 t峄憈 h啤n, 膽峄� c贸 th峄� 膽岷 tr谩ch m峄檛 c谩ch t峄� tin tr峄峮g tr谩ch l脿m cha, m岷�, m峄檛 tr峄峮g tr谩ch v么 c霉ng th峄� th谩ch, nh瓢ng c农ng l脿 m峄檛 c么ng vi峄嘽 膽岷 媒 ngh末a v脿 y锚u th瓢啤ng.
- H茫y lu么n nh峄� r岷眓g, con tr岷� v岷玭 ch峄� l脿 tr岷� con, ch煤ng s岷� l脿m ch煤ng ta phi峄乶 l貌ng, ch岷痗 ch岷痭 l脿 nh瓢 th岷�. Ch峄� c贸 t岷 l貌ng y锚u th瓢啤ng v么 膽i峄乽 ki峄噉 d脿nh cho con, s峄� ki锚n nh岷玭, v脿 ki岷縩 th峄ヽ / k峄� n膬ng 膽煤ng th矛 c谩c ba, m岷� m峄沬 c贸 th峄� h瓢峄沶g d岷玭 膽瓢峄 c谩c em n贸 n锚n ng瓢峄漣. V脿 ng瓢峄漣 c岷 thay 膽峄昳 膽岷 ti锚n trong h脿nh tr矛nh n脿y ch铆nh l脿 c谩c ba, m岷�, ch峄� kh么ng ph岷 l脿 c谩c em n贸.
- H茫y kh峄焛 膽岷 b岷眓g vi峄嘽 l岷痭g nghe t峄� n峄乶 t岷g c峄 s峄� t么n tr峄峮g con tr岷�. Ch煤ng c贸 quy峄乶 c贸 nh峄痭g c岷 x煤c v脿 suy ngh末 kh谩c v峄沬 ch煤ng ta, ti锚u c峄眂 l岷玭 t铆ch c峄眂. C岷 ph岷 gi煤p ch煤ng th峄� hi峄噉 c谩c c岷 x煤c c峄 ch煤ng ra ngo脿i b岷眓g l峄漣 v脿 h脿nh 膽峄檔g. C谩c ba, m岷� c岷 x谩c nh岷璶 c谩c c岷 x煤c, suy ngh末 c峄 con, ch峄� kh么ng n锚n 茅p bu峄檆, ch峄慽 b峄�, m末a mai, b峄� qua, ... c谩c c岷 x煤c v脿 suy ngh末 n脿y. 膼贸 ch铆nh l脿 s峄� t么n tr峄峮g c峄 cha m岷� 膽峄慽 v峄沬 con tr岷�.
- X谩c nh岷璶 c谩c c岷 x煤c v脿 suy ngh末 kh么ng 膽煤ng 膽岷痭 c峄 tr岷� kh么ng c贸 ngh末a l脿 ch煤ng ta 膽峄搉g 媒 v峄沬 tr岷�, m脿 膽贸 l脿 kh峄焛 膽岷 c峄 vi峄嘽 x岷� x矛 ng貌i n峄� xung 膽峄檛, tranh lu岷璶, b岷 膽峄搉g gi峄痑 cha m岷� v脿 con c谩i. V脿 t峄� 膽贸, ch煤ng ta c贸 th峄� chuy峄僴 h瓢峄沶g v脿 膽峄� ngh峄� c谩c h脿nh vi thay 膽峄昳 t铆ch c峄眂 cho con c谩i, theo m峄檛 c谩ch m脿 con c谩i ch煤ng ta c贸 quy峄乶 t峄� ch峄� trong vi峄嘽 l峄盿 ch峄峮 v脿 ra quy岷縯 膽峄媙h. 膼贸 l脿 m岷 ch峄憈 c峄 vi峄嘽 r猫n luy峄噉 cho tr岷� s峄� t峄� tin, ch峄� 膽峄檔g, thay v峄� b峄� 膽峄檔g v脿 b峄� 岷h h瓢峄焠g b峄焛 v矛 cha, m岷� 膽茫 quy岷縯 膽峄媙h thay cho c谩c em n贸.
V脿 c貌n nhi峄乽 膽i峄乽 b峄� 铆ch kh谩c n峄痑 cho c谩c ba m岷�, nhi峄乽 v铆 d峄� th峄眂 ti峄卬 c贸 th峄� 谩p d峄g 膽瓢峄 ngay trong s谩ch. H茫y d脿nh th峄漣 gian 膽峄峜 v脿 b岷 s岷� th岷 l脿m ba, m岷� kh么ng qu谩 th谩ch th峄ヽ :).
- C谩c ba m岷� s岷� t矛m th岷 v么 s峄� v铆 d峄� c峄� th峄� c霉ng v峄沬 gi岷 ph谩p 膽峄� x峄� l媒 c谩c t矛nh hu峄憂g m脿 ai c农ng ph岷 v貌 膽岷, b峄﹖ t贸c, l锚n t膬ng x么ng 膽峄慽 v峄沬 con c谩i c峄 ch煤ng ta. T么i nh矛n th岷 h矛nh 岷h c峄 b岷 th芒n nhi峄乽 trong c谩c v铆 d峄� n脿y. May m岷痭 l脿 v岷玭 c貌n c贸 th峄� ch峄塶h s峄璦 k峄媝, sau khi 膽峄峜 xong s谩ch.
- Tuy cu峄憂 s谩ch n贸i v峄� vi峄嘽 d岷 con, c谩c ba m岷� s岷� th岷 r岷眓g ch铆nh c谩c ba m岷� s岷� h峄峜 膽瓢峄 nhi峄乽 膽i峄乽 膽峄� s峄璦 膽峄昳 ch铆nh b岷 th芒n, 膽峄� tr峄� th脿nh m峄檛 ng瓢峄漣 t峄憈 h啤n, 膽峄� c贸 th峄� 膽岷 tr谩ch m峄檛 c谩ch t峄� tin tr峄峮g tr谩ch l脿m cha, m岷�, m峄檛 tr峄峮g tr谩ch v么 c霉ng th峄� th谩ch, nh瓢ng c农ng l脿 m峄檛 c么ng vi峄嘽 膽岷 媒 ngh末a v脿 y锚u th瓢啤ng.
- H茫y lu么n nh峄� r岷眓g, con tr岷� v岷玭 ch峄� l脿 tr岷� con, ch煤ng s岷� l脿m ch煤ng ta phi峄乶 l貌ng, ch岷痗 ch岷痭 l脿 nh瓢 th岷�. Ch峄� c贸 t岷 l貌ng y锚u th瓢啤ng v么 膽i峄乽 ki峄噉 d脿nh cho con, s峄� ki锚n nh岷玭, v脿 ki岷縩 th峄ヽ / k峄� n膬ng 膽煤ng th矛 c谩c ba, m岷� m峄沬 c贸 th峄� h瓢峄沶g d岷玭 膽瓢峄 c谩c em n贸 n锚n ng瓢峄漣. V脿 ng瓢峄漣 c岷 thay 膽峄昳 膽岷 ti锚n trong h脿nh tr矛nh n脿y ch铆nh l脿 c谩c ba, m岷�, ch峄� kh么ng ph岷 l脿 c谩c em n贸.
- H茫y kh峄焛 膽岷 b岷眓g vi峄嘽 l岷痭g nghe t峄� n峄乶 t岷g c峄 s峄� t么n tr峄峮g con tr岷�. Ch煤ng c贸 quy峄乶 c贸 nh峄痭g c岷 x煤c v脿 suy ngh末 kh谩c v峄沬 ch煤ng ta, ti锚u c峄眂 l岷玭 t铆ch c峄眂. C岷 ph岷 gi煤p ch煤ng th峄� hi峄噉 c谩c c岷 x煤c c峄 ch煤ng ra ngo脿i b岷眓g l峄漣 v脿 h脿nh 膽峄檔g. C谩c ba, m岷� c岷 x谩c nh岷璶 c谩c c岷 x煤c, suy ngh末 c峄 con, ch峄� kh么ng n锚n 茅p bu峄檆, ch峄慽 b峄�, m末a mai, b峄� qua, ... c谩c c岷 x煤c v脿 suy ngh末 n脿y. 膼贸 ch铆nh l脿 s峄� t么n tr峄峮g c峄 cha m岷� 膽峄慽 v峄沬 con tr岷�.
- X谩c nh岷璶 c谩c c岷 x煤c v脿 suy ngh末 kh么ng 膽煤ng 膽岷痭 c峄 tr岷� kh么ng c贸 ngh末a l脿 ch煤ng ta 膽峄搉g 媒 v峄沬 tr岷�, m脿 膽贸 l脿 kh峄焛 膽岷 c峄 vi峄嘽 x岷� x矛 ng貌i n峄� xung 膽峄檛, tranh lu岷璶, b岷 膽峄搉g gi峄痑 cha m岷� v脿 con c谩i. V脿 t峄� 膽贸, ch煤ng ta c贸 th峄� chuy峄僴 h瓢峄沶g v脿 膽峄� ngh峄� c谩c h脿nh vi thay 膽峄昳 t铆ch c峄眂 cho con c谩i, theo m峄檛 c谩ch m脿 con c谩i ch煤ng ta c贸 quy峄乶 t峄� ch峄� trong vi峄嘽 l峄盿 ch峄峮 v脿 ra quy岷縯 膽峄媙h. 膼贸 l脿 m岷 ch峄憈 c峄 vi峄嘽 r猫n luy峄噉 cho tr岷� s峄� t峄� tin, ch峄� 膽峄檔g, thay v峄� b峄� 膽峄檔g v脿 b峄� 岷h h瓢峄焠g b峄焛 v矛 cha, m岷� 膽茫 quy岷縯 膽峄媙h thay cho c谩c em n贸.
V脿 c貌n nhi峄乽 膽i峄乽 b峄� 铆ch kh谩c n峄痑 cho c谩c ba m岷�, nhi峄乽 v铆 d峄� th峄眂 ti峄卬 c贸 th峄� 谩p d峄g 膽瓢峄 ngay trong s谩ch. H茫y d脿nh th峄漣 gian 膽峄峜 v脿 b岷 s岷� th岷 l脿m ba, m岷� kh么ng qu谩 th谩ch th峄ヽ :).
December 4, 2009
No parenting book is perfect, but I can honestly say that this is the first book that has helped me change my behavior in less than a week of reading it. It deals more with psychology and understanding the basis of why we should treat our children (and all people) a certain way. I think the behavior change came very naturally because I understood my daughter's emotions so much better within a few chapters. This book comes highly recommended and is helping me in more relationships than one.
I just have to add, though, there are things I definitely don't agree with in the slightest when it comes to certain values suggested in the later chapters of the book. Just have to throw some of it out, but it doesn't mean that the book is not worthwhile or the principles unhelpful.
I just have to add, though, there are things I definitely don't agree with in the slightest when it comes to certain values suggested in the later chapters of the book. Just have to throw some of it out, but it doesn't mean that the book is not worthwhile or the principles unhelpful.
April 27, 2008
Reading a book on parenting is the easy part but applying its principles is quite another. Yet with this book, I could start applying Ginotte's techniques from the moment I started reading and I found them to be extremely effective. I now find it easier to communicate with my two-year old and in particular, to handle her emotional outbursts in a more mature and empathetic way. The book is full of practical advice and real-life examples and is very easy to read, especially for an exhausted mom. Between Parent and Child is a wonderful tool to help you become a better, more empathetic and effective parent.
June 4, 2008
Haim Ginott (wish I knew how to pronounce his name) was a mentor to John Gottman (Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child) and Adele Faber (How to Talk so Kids will Listen...) and they drew heavily from his early work. The book is full of basic parenting gems, but I didn't necessarily agree with all of his suggestions and some of his examples weren't very realistic. I would recommend the Gottman and Faber & Mazlish books first.
June 10, 2008
This book I read in one of my child/family classes in college. This is my favorite of all the texts I read in this area of study. I highly recommend this book to every parent! Easy and fast reading.
August 8, 2018
cok cok iyi bir rehber oldu臒una inand谋臒谋m bir kitap. kitapta orneklenen diyaloglar,alternatif oneriler hem yol gosterici hem de uygulanabilir. Hatta 9 ya艧谋ndaki k谋z谋m bile arada sayfalar谋n谋 karistiriyor.
bu t眉r kitaplari okuduktan sonra yazilanlarim ne kadarini uygulayabilirim sorusu insanin kafasina tak谋l谋yor. Bu sebeple, bir defa okunup bir koseye birakilacak bir kitap degil. ara ara okunup, notlar alinacak bir kitap.
枚te yandan, duygulari gostermenin ve dile getirmenin ayip oldugu T眉rk toplumunda, bu duygulari anladigimizi belirten cumleler kurarken zorlanacagimizi ve kimo yerde de bu cumlelerim egreti duracagini dusunuyorum. Ancak,
kendi davranislarimizi duzelttigimizde cocugumuzun davran谋艧larinin da duzelecegini bu kitapta da belirtiliyor. bu sebeple onerileri denemeye deger buluyorum.
bu t眉r kitaplari okuduktan sonra yazilanlarim ne kadarini uygulayabilirim sorusu insanin kafasina tak谋l谋yor. Bu sebeple, bir defa okunup bir koseye birakilacak bir kitap degil. ara ara okunup, notlar alinacak bir kitap.
枚te yandan, duygulari gostermenin ve dile getirmenin ayip oldugu T眉rk toplumunda, bu duygulari anladigimizi belirten cumleler kurarken zorlanacagimizi ve kimo yerde de bu cumlelerim egreti duracagini dusunuyorum. Ancak,
kendi davranislarimizi duzelttigimizde cocugumuzun davran谋艧larinin da duzelecegini bu kitapta da belirtiliyor. bu sebeple onerileri denemeye deger buluyorum.
November 9, 2018
DR. HAIM G. GINOTT
Revised and Updated by DR. ALICE GINNOT & DR. H. WALLACE GODDART
鈥淏etween Parent and Child鈥�
Published by Three Rivers Press
Highly recommended for parents in difficult periods of 鈥減arent-child鈥� relations.
This book gives you short, informative tools and examples for easier problem solving.
鈥淒on鈥檛 be a parent, be a human being who is a parent鈥�.
鈥淧arents need to learn to respond to their children as they do to guests鈥�.
鈥淟ove is not enough. Insight is insufficient. Good parents need skill鈥�.
鈥淲hen children feel understood, their loneliness and hurt diminish. When children are understood, their love for parent is deepened. A parents sympathy serves as emotional first aid for bruised feelings鈥�.
鈥淩espond to Children鈥檚 Feelings, Not Their Behavior鈥�.
鈥淔eelings must be dealt with before behavior can be improved鈥�.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
July 23, 2024
I was nodding throughout the whole book (I'm never having kids)
November 21, 2008
This book had some good points, but it was quite preachy, and used "should" language a lot. It is the predecessor to book: Raising an Emotionally Intellegent Child. It was the reason they decided to do all the research for that book. It has good points on how to relate with your children. Some of it seems somewhat out of touch. Some of it does not fit with my value system (for example, how permissive we should be with our children about premarital sex.) And I know that if I was in the middle of raising kids this book would definitely cause a lot of guilt.
I do like what he says about stating emotions for children instead of asking them to come up with the labels. And the main thing that's important to me from the past 3 parenting books I've read is being empathic to our children. Putting ourselves in their shoes, realizing what a big deal these things are. Instead of berating or belittling, we should try to be understanding and uplifting. (now there I go with the shoulds)
Overall, good ideas that challenged my paradigms, but that was what also made it difficult. I couldn't just all out believe, I had to sort and decipher what I wanted to change about my ideas and what I wanted to hold on to.
I do like what he says about stating emotions for children instead of asking them to come up with the labels. And the main thing that's important to me from the past 3 parenting books I've read is being empathic to our children. Putting ourselves in their shoes, realizing what a big deal these things are. Instead of berating or belittling, we should try to be understanding and uplifting. (now there I go with the shoulds)
Overall, good ideas that challenged my paradigms, but that was what also made it difficult. I couldn't just all out believe, I had to sort and decipher what I wanted to change about my ideas and what I wanted to hold on to.
March 26, 2022
Easy but rewarding read. I repeatedly read simple pieces of advice in this book and thought, 鈥渨ow, that makes perfect sense, but it is the opposite of what I would have thought to do on my own.鈥� For those gems, I am deeply grateful and am sure I will return to this over the years. Yet for all it鈥檚 strength in the communication department, a lack of robust morals leaves much to be desired in very important areas. A very loose sexual morality inclined me to distrust some of his pieces on more general discipline.
March 18, 2018
艦imdiye kadar okudu臒um en yal谋n, en somut, en ger莽ek莽i ebeveyn kitab谋. 脟ok tavsiye ederim.
January 28, 2015
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毓賱賶 丕賱丌亘丕亍 賮賷 賲乇丨賱丞 賲丕 兀賳 賷賰賵賳賵丕 賲乇丌丞 賲丨丕賷丿丞 鬲毓賰爻 賲卮丕毓乇 丕賱胤賮賱 ..,
賴賱 鬲賳馗乇 賱賱賲乇丌丞 賵鬲賯賵賱 賱賰 丕賱賲乇丌丞 :" 廿賳賰 鬲亘丿賵 賲乇賷囟丕 賲賳 丕賱兀賮囟賱 兀賳 鬲賮毓賱 卮賷卅丕 賱賳賮爻賰" 責..
賰賱丕 ..賵廿賱丕 賮廿賳賰 爻鬲鬲噩賳亘 乇丐賷丞 賳賮爻賰 賮賷賴丕 賲乇丞 兀禺乇賶 ..,
丕賱胤賮賱 賷乇賷丿 賲乇丌丞 賲賳 睾賷乇 鬲卮賵賷卮 .., 賴
賲乇丌丞 毓丕胤賮賷丞 卮毓賵乇賷丞 ..鬲毓賰爻 賲丕 亘賳賮爻賴 ..,賴 mirroring emotions without judgment or blame))賴
賰兀賳 鬲賯賵賱 (賷亘丿賵 賵賰兀賳賰 睾丕囟亘 噩丿丕 )...., (賷亘丿賵 賵賰兀賳賰 睾丕囟亘 賲賳賴 * 賰孬賷乇丕 賮賷 賴匕賴 丕賱賱丨馗丞..)賴
#丕爻毓丕賮 兀賵賱賷 毓丕胤賮賷
Parents provide physical first aid for physical injuries, but we *also* need to provide *emotional* first aid for emotional injuries. We are to be the healers of our children's hearts, not just their skinned knees.
賱丕 鬲亘丕卮乇 亘廿爻丿丕亍 丕賱賳氐丕卅丨 丕賱鬲賷 賱爻丕賳 丨丕賱賴丕 賷賯賵賱:- (廿賳賰 兀毓噩夭 賲賳 兀賳 鬲毓乇賮 賲丕匕丕 鬲毓乇賮 ) 賴
丕賱賲卮丕毓乇 賴賷 丕賱賲賴賲丞 .., 鬲噩賳亘 鬲賵噩賷賴 丕賱賳氐丕卅丨 .., 兀賵 丕賳鬲賯丕丿 丕賱胤賮賱 毓賳丿 賰賱 丨丕丿卅丞
賱丕 賷賲賰賳 鬲卮賵賷賴 丕賱賲乇丌丞 丕賱賵丨賷丿丞 丕賱鬲賷 賷賲賱賰賴丕 丕賱胤賮賱 毓賳 賳賮爻賴 ..., 賱賳 賷禺胤乇 亘亘丕賱 丕賱胤賮賱 兀賳 賱丕 賷孬賯 亘鬲賱賰 丕賱賲乇丌丞 丕賱鬲賷 賴賷 賵丕賱丿賷賴 .., 亘賱 賱丕 賷賲賱賰賵賳 兀賷 爻亘亘 賱賱卮賰 亘丕賱氐賵乇丞 丕賱鬲賷 賷毓賰爻賴丕 兀賴賱賴賲 貙廿賳賴賲 賷鬲賯亘賱賵賳 丨鬲賶 鬲賯賷賷賲丕鬲賴賲 丕賱爻賱亘賷丞 賵丕賱鬲賷 毓丕丿丞 賲丕 鬲氐賳賮賴賲 賰賰爻賵賱賷賳 兀賵 兀賳丕賳賷賷賳 兀賵 兀賵 睾賷乇 賲爻丐賵賱賷賳 兀賵 睾賷乇 賲乇睾賵亘賷賳 .., 賴
毓亘丕乇丞 "廿賳賰 賱丕 鬲賯賵賲 亘卮賷亍 亘氐賵乇丞 氐丨賷丨丞 " 鬲賯賳睾 丕賱胤賮賱 亘兀賳賴 睾賷乇 賯丕丿乇 .., 賴
鬲噩賳亘 丕賱丕賳鬲賯丕丿 .., 丕賱丕賳鬲賯丕丿 賲賳 賯亘賱 丕賱賵丕賱丿賷賳 賴賵 卮賷亍 睾賷乇 賲爻丕毓丿 廿賳賴 賷賵賱丿 丕賱睾囟亘 賵丕賱爻禺胤 貙 賵丨鬲賶 兀爻賵兀 賲賳 匕賱賰
賮丕賱兀賵賱丕丿 丕賱匕賷賳 賷鬲毓乇囟賵賳 賱賱賳賯丿 亘氐賵乇丞 賲爻鬲賲乇丞 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 廿丿丕賳丞 兀賳賮爻賴賲 賵丕賱丌禺乇賷賳 貙 廿賳賴賲 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 兀賳 賷卮賰賵丕 亘賯賷賲鬲賴賲 丕賱匕丕鬲賷丞 賵兀賳 賷爻鬲氐睾乇賵丕 賯賷賲丞 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳 .., 廿賳賴賲 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 兀賳 賷卮賰賾賵丕 亘丕賱賳丕爻 賵兀賳 賷鬲賵賯毓賵丕 賲氐賷乇賴賲 丕賱卮禺氐賷 ..!賴
丕賱兀賵賱丕丿 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 丕賱兀卮賷丕亍 丕賱鬲賷 賷毓丕賷卮賵賳賴丕 .廿賳 毓丕卮賵丕 賵爻胤 丕賱丕賳鬲賯丕丿 賮廿賳賴賲 賱丕 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 丕賱賲爻丐賵賵賱賷丞.廿賳賴賲 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 兀賳 賷丿賷賳賵丕 兀賳賮爻賴賲 賵兀賳 賷噩丿賵丕 丕賱兀禺胤丕亍 亘丕賱丌禺乇賷賳.廿賳賴賲 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 兀賳 賷卮賰賵丕 亘丨賰賲賴賲 毓賱賶 丕賱兀卮賷丕亍貙 賵賷丨丿賵丕 賲賳 賲賯丿乇鬲賴賲 丕賱禺丕氐丞 賵兀賳 賱丕 賷孬賯賵丕 亘賳賵丕賷丕 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳. 賴
廿賳 丕賱孬賲丕乇 丕賱賲乇丞 賱氐乇丕毓丕鬲 胤賮賵賱鬲賳丕 睾賷乇 丕賱賲丨爻賵賲丞 鬲賱丕丨賯賳丕 賮賷 賮賷 丨賷丕丞 亘賱賵睾賳丕. 廿賳賴丕 鬲卮丕賴丿 賮賷 丕賱賲賳丕賮爻丕鬲 睾賷乇 丕賱賲賳胤賯賷丞 毓賳丿 丕賱卮禺氐 丕賱匕賷 賴賵 亘爻亘丕賯 兀亘丿賷 賲毓 賰賱 爻賷丕乇丞 賮賷 丕賱胤乇賷賯 兀賵 丕賱匕賷 賱賷爻 亘廿賲賰丕賳賴 兀賳 賷禺爻乇 亘賱胤賮 賰乇丞 賲囟乇亘 兀賵 丕賱匕賷 賴賵 毓賱賶 丕爻鬲毓丿丕丿 丿丕卅賲 賱賷乇丕賴賳 亘丨賷丕鬲賴 賵孬乇賵鬲賴 賱賷亘乇賴賳 賳賯胤丞 賲丕 賷賰賵賳 賲賯鬲賳毓丕 亘賴丕 兀賵 丕賱匕賷 賷卮毓乇 亘丿丕賮毓 賱賰賷 賷鬲亘乇毓 兀賰孬乇 賲賳 睾賷乇賴 賵賱賵 賰丕賳 匕賱賰 賮賵賯 賯丿乇鬲賴.廿賳賴丕 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 鬲卮丕賴丿 兀賷囟丕 毓賳丿 丕賱卮禺氐 丕賱匕賷 賷乇賮囟 丕賱丿禺賵賱 賮賷 賰賱 丕賱賲賳丕賮爻丕鬲 貙 賵丕賱匕賷 賷卮毓乇 亘兀賳賴 賲賴夭賵賲 賯亘賱 兀賳 賷亘丿兀 丕賱毓乇丕賰 賵毓賳丿 丕賱卮禺氐 丕賱賲爻鬲毓丿 兀亘丿丕 賱賷賰賵賳 賮賷 丕賱賲賯毓丿 丕賱禺賱賮賷 賵丕賱匕賷 賱丕 賷胤丕賱亘 兀亘丿丕 丨鬲賶 亘丨賯賵賯賴 丕賱賲卮乇賵毓丞. 賴
廿賳 丕賱爻噩丕賱丕鬲 亘賷賳 丕賱兀禺賵丞 鬲丐孬乇 毓賱賶 丨賷丕丞 丕賱胤賮賱 丕賰孬乇 賲賲丕 賷丿乇賰賴 丕賱兀賴賱 .., 亘廿賲賰丕賳賴丕 兀賳 鬲胤亘毓 賳賮爻賷鬲賴 亘卮賰賱 賱丕 賷賲丨賶 賵鬲卮賵卮 卮禺氐賷鬲賴 .. 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 鬲賰賵賳 賲丨賵乇 丨賷丕丞 賲鬲毓亘丞 .., 賴
亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賱亘丕賱睾賷賳 貙 賮廿賳 賲兀爻丕丞 丕賱賲賵鬲 鬲鬲噩爻丿 賮賷 毓丿賲 賯丕亘賱賷鬲賴丕 賱賱賳賯囟. 丕賱賲賵鬲 貙 賳賴丕卅賷貙 賴賵 賳賴丕賷丞 賰賱 兀賲賱. 廿匕丕 賮丕賱賲賵鬲 賴賵 睾賷乇 賯丕亘賱 賱賱廿丿乇丕賰 賲賳 丕賱賳丕丨賷丞 丕賱卮禺氐賷丞. 廿賳賳丕 毓丕噩夭賵賳 毓賳 鬲氐賵賾乇 賳賴丕賷鬲賳丕 丕賱匕丕鬲賷丞貙 賵丕賳丨賱丕賱 匕賵丕鬲賳丕 賳丨賳. 鬲卮鬲賲賱 丕賱賳賮爻 毓賱賶 匕賰乇賷丕鬲 賵丌賲丕賱貙 毓賱賶 丕賱賲丕囟賷 賵丕賱丨丕囟乇貙 賵丕賱賳丕爻 賱丕 賷爻鬲胤賷毓賵賳 乇丐賷丞 匕賵丕鬲賴賲 亘丿賵賳 賲爻鬲賯亘賱. 廿賳 丕賱毓夭丕亍 丕賱匕賷 賷噩賱亘賴 丕賱廿賷賲丕賳 賷賯毓 鬲賲丕賲丕 囟賲賳 賴匕丕 丕賱賲噩丕賱貙 廿賳賴 賷賯丿賲 丕賱賲爻鬲賯亘賱 賱賱賳丕爻 賰賷 賷毓賷卮賵丕 賵賷賲賵鬲賵丕 亘爻賱丕賲.
亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賱兀賵賱丕丿 丕賱氐睾丕乇貙 賮廿賳賴賲 賱丕 賷爻鬲胤賷毓賵賳 兀賳 賷丿乇賰賵丕 兀賳 丕賱賲賵鬲 賳賴丕卅賷 賵賱丕 卮賷亍 賷乇噩毓 丕賱乇丕丨賱. 廿賳 亘胤賱丕賳 丕賱鬲賲賳賷丕鬲 丕賱爻丨乇賷丞 亘賵噩賴 丕賱賲賵鬲 賴賵 囟乇亘丞 賲賵噩毓丞 賱賱兀賵賱丕丿. 廿賳賴 賷夭毓夭毓 廿賷賲丕賳賴賲 亘賯賵鬲賴賲 毓賱賶 丕賱鬲兀孬賷乇 毓賱賶 丕賱兀丨丿丕孬 亘賵丕爻胤丞 丕賱鬲賮賰賷乇 丕賱賲鬲賲賳賷貙 賵賷噩毓賱賴賲 賷卮毓乇賵賳 亘丕賱囟毓賮 賵丕賱賯賱賯
賷丨丕賵賱 亘毓囟 丕賱兀賴丕賱賷 丕賱賯賷丕賲 亘丨賲丕賷丞 兀賵賱丕丿賴賲 賲賳 鬲噩乇亘丞 丕賱兀賱賲 賵丕賱丨夭賳 丕賱賰丕賲賳 賮賷 賮賯丿丕賳 卮禺氐 賷丨亘賵賳賴. 廿匕丕 賲丕鬲鬲 爻賲賰丞 賮廿賳賴賲 賷爻丕乇毓賵賳 廿賱賶 鬲毓賵賷囟賴丕 亘賵丕丨丿丞 噩丿賷丿丞 丌賲賱賷賳 兀賳 賱丕 賷賱丕丨馗 丕賱賵賱丿 丕賱賮乇賯
賲丕 賴賷 丕賱丿乇賵爻 丕賱鬲賷 賷鬲毓賱賲賴丕 丕賱兀賵賱丕丿 賲賳 賴匕賴 丕賱鬲噩丕乇亘 丕賱賲亘賰乇丞 賱賱賮賯丿丕賳 丕賱賮噩丕卅賷 賵丕賱鬲毓賵賷囟 丕賱爻乇賷毓責 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 賷爻鬲賳鬲噩賵丕 亘兀賳 禺爻丕乇丞 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱匕賷賳 賷丨亘賵賳賴賲 賴賷 賱賷爻鬲 亘鬲賱賰 丕賱兀賴賲賷丞 丕賱賰亘賷乇丞 貙 賵兀賳 丕賱丨亘 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 賷購賳賯賱 亘爻賴賵賱丞 賵兀賳 丕賱賵賱丕亍 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 賷購丨賵賾賱 亘爻賴賵賱丞.
丕賱賲丿賷丨 丕賱賲賯丿乇 賷亘丿兀 亘 兀賳丕 .., 亘賷賳 丕賱賲丿賷丨 丕賱匕賷 賷氐丿乇 丕賱兀丨賰丕賲 賷亘丿兀 亘 "兀賳鬲"
賷禺鬲鬲賲 亘廿噩丕亘鬲賴 毓賱賶 爻丐丕賱 :
亘賵噩賵丿 丕賱丨馗貙 賱賲丕匕丕 賳丨鬲丕噩 丕賱賲賴丕乇丞 責
賳丨鬲丕噩賴 賰賷 賱丕 賳賮爻丿 丕賱丨馗 !
賴賳丕賰 丕賱賰孬賷乇 賲賲丕 賷賲賰賳 丕賱丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 賲賳賴 賮賷 馗賱 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱毓乇亘賷丞 丕賱鬲賷 賱賲 鬲乇鬲賯 亘毓丿 賮賷 賰鬲亘 鬲乇亘賷丞 丕賱兀胤賮丕賱 .., 賲毓 睾囟 丕賱賳馗乇 毓賳 賮賱爻賮丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱賯丕卅賲丞 毓賱賶 兀賳 丕賱兀禺賱丕賯賷丕鬲 鬲購乇丕噩毓 毓賱賶 囟賵亍 丕賱賵賯丕卅毓 !賴
賲賲丕 賷毓賳賷 兀賳 丕賱兀乇亘毓 賳噩賲丕鬲 睾囟鬲 丕賱賳馗乇 毓賳 亘毓囟 兀賮賰丕乇 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 丕賱鬲賷 賲賳 丕賱亘丿賷賴賷 兀賳賳丕 賳禺鬲賱賮 毓賱賷賴丕 亘丨賰賲 丕賱賲乇噩毓賷丕鬲 丕賱丿賷賳賷丞 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 ..., 賵丕賱兀禺賱丕賯賷丞 .. 賵丕賱賲鬲乇賰夭丞 毓賱賶 丕賱兀睾賱亘 賮賷 丕賱賮氐賵賱 丕賱兀禺賷乇丞 ..,
亘毓囟 賲賲丕 丕賯鬲亘爻鬲賴 賲賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 :-
賮賷 丕賱賵賯鬲 丕賱匕賷 賳丨賳 賮賷賴 賱爻賳丕 兀丨乇丕乇丕 賱賰賷 賳禺鬲丕乇 賲卮丕毓乇賳丕 丕賱鬲賷 鬲孬賵乇 賮賷賳丕貙 賮廿賳賳丕 兀丨乇丕乇 賰賷 賳禺鬲丕乇 賰賷賮 賵賲鬲賶 賳賯賵賲 亘丕賱鬲毓亘賷乇 毓賳賴丕 貙 亘卮乇胤 兀賳 賳毓乇賮 賲丕 賴賷 .., 賴匕丕 賴賵 賱亘 丕賱賲賵囟賵毓 ..,
賱賯丿 鬲乇亘賷賳丕 賰賷賮 賳亘賯賶 禺丕乇噩 賲卮丕毓乇賳丕 .., 毓賳丿賲丕 賳賰賵賳 禺丕卅賮賷賳 亘賯丕賱 賱賳丕 亘兀賳賴 賱丕 賷賵噩丿 卮賷亍 賷賳亘睾賷 兀賳 賳禺丕賮 賲賳賴 .. 賵毓賳丿賲丕 卮毓乇賳丕 亘丕賱兀賱賲 賳氐丨賵賳丕 亘兀賳 賳鬲丨賱賶 亘丕賱卮噩丕毓丞 賵兀賳 賳亘鬲爻賲 .. 賮鬲毓賱賲賳丕 兀賳 賳鬲馗丕賴乇 亘丕賱爻毓丕丿丞 賮賷 丨賷賳 兀賳賳丕 賱爻賳丕 賰匕賱賰 ..,
#孬賯丕賮丞 丕賱賲卮丕毓乇
亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賱賱胤賮賱 賷賰賵賳 丕賱兀賲乇 兀賰孬乇 兀賴賲賷丞 兀賳 賷卮毓乇 丕賱胤賮賱 亘賲丕匕丕 賷卮毓乇 亘丿賱丕 賲賳 兀賳 賷毓乇賮 賱賲丕匕丕 賷卮毓乇 ..,
賵毓賳丿賲丕 賷毓乇賮 亘賰賱 賵囟賵丨 賲丕賴賷丞 賲卮丕毓乇賴貙 賮廿賳賴 賷氐亘丨 兀賯賱 丕丨鬲賲丕賱丕 賲賳 丕賱卮毓賵乇 亘丕賱鬲卮賵賷卮 丕賱賰賱賷 賮賷 丕賱兀毓賲丕賯 ..,
毓賱賶 丕賱丌亘丕亍 賮賷 賲乇丨賱丞 賲丕 兀賳 賷賰賵賳賵丕 賲乇丌丞 賲丨丕賷丿丞 鬲毓賰爻 賲卮丕毓乇 丕賱胤賮賱 ..,
賴賱 鬲賳馗乇 賱賱賲乇丌丞 賵鬲賯賵賱 賱賰 丕賱賲乇丌丞 :" 廿賳賰 鬲亘丿賵 賲乇賷囟丕 賲賳 丕賱兀賮囟賱 兀賳 鬲賮毓賱 卮賷卅丕 賱賳賮爻賰" 責..
賰賱丕 ..賵廿賱丕 賮廿賳賰 爻鬲鬲噩賳亘 乇丐賷丞 賳賮爻賰 賮賷賴丕 賲乇丞 兀禺乇賶 ..,
丕賱胤賮賱 賷乇賷丿 賲乇丌丞 賲賳 睾賷乇 鬲卮賵賷卮 .., 賴
賲乇丌丞 毓丕胤賮賷丞 卮毓賵乇賷丞 ..鬲毓賰爻 賲丕 亘賳賮爻賴 ..,賴 mirroring emotions without judgment or blame))賴
賰兀賳 鬲賯賵賱 (賷亘丿賵 賵賰兀賳賰 睾丕囟亘 噩丿丕 )...., (賷亘丿賵 賵賰兀賳賰 睾丕囟亘 賲賳賴 * 賰孬賷乇丕 賮賷 賴匕賴 丕賱賱丨馗丞..)賴
#丕爻毓丕賮 兀賵賱賷 毓丕胤賮賷
Parents provide physical first aid for physical injuries, but we *also* need to provide *emotional* first aid for emotional injuries. We are to be the healers of our children's hearts, not just their skinned knees.
賱丕 鬲亘丕卮乇 亘廿爻丿丕亍 丕賱賳氐丕卅丨 丕賱鬲賷 賱爻丕賳 丨丕賱賴丕 賷賯賵賱:- (廿賳賰 兀毓噩夭 賲賳 兀賳 鬲毓乇賮 賲丕匕丕 鬲毓乇賮 ) 賴
丕賱賲卮丕毓乇 賴賷 丕賱賲賴賲丞 .., 鬲噩賳亘 鬲賵噩賷賴 丕賱賳氐丕卅丨 .., 兀賵 丕賳鬲賯丕丿 丕賱胤賮賱 毓賳丿 賰賱 丨丕丿卅丞
賱丕 賷賲賰賳 鬲卮賵賷賴 丕賱賲乇丌丞 丕賱賵丨賷丿丞 丕賱鬲賷 賷賲賱賰賴丕 丕賱胤賮賱 毓賳 賳賮爻賴 ..., 賱賳 賷禺胤乇 亘亘丕賱 丕賱胤賮賱 兀賳 賱丕 賷孬賯 亘鬲賱賰 丕賱賲乇丌丞 丕賱鬲賷 賴賷 賵丕賱丿賷賴 .., 亘賱 賱丕 賷賲賱賰賵賳 兀賷 爻亘亘 賱賱卮賰 亘丕賱氐賵乇丞 丕賱鬲賷 賷毓賰爻賴丕 兀賴賱賴賲 貙廿賳賴賲 賷鬲賯亘賱賵賳 丨鬲賶 鬲賯賷賷賲丕鬲賴賲 丕賱爻賱亘賷丞 賵丕賱鬲賷 毓丕丿丞 賲丕 鬲氐賳賮賴賲 賰賰爻賵賱賷賳 兀賵 兀賳丕賳賷賷賳 兀賵 兀賵 睾賷乇 賲爻丐賵賱賷賳 兀賵 睾賷乇 賲乇睾賵亘賷賳 .., 賴
毓亘丕乇丞 "廿賳賰 賱丕 鬲賯賵賲 亘卮賷亍 亘氐賵乇丞 氐丨賷丨丞 " 鬲賯賳睾 丕賱胤賮賱 亘兀賳賴 睾賷乇 賯丕丿乇 .., 賴
鬲噩賳亘 丕賱丕賳鬲賯丕丿 .., 丕賱丕賳鬲賯丕丿 賲賳 賯亘賱 丕賱賵丕賱丿賷賳 賴賵 卮賷亍 睾賷乇 賲爻丕毓丿 廿賳賴 賷賵賱丿 丕賱睾囟亘 賵丕賱爻禺胤 貙 賵丨鬲賶 兀爻賵兀 賲賳 匕賱賰
賮丕賱兀賵賱丕丿 丕賱匕賷賳 賷鬲毓乇囟賵賳 賱賱賳賯丿 亘氐賵乇丞 賲爻鬲賲乇丞 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 廿丿丕賳丞 兀賳賮爻賴賲 賵丕賱丌禺乇賷賳 貙 廿賳賴賲 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 兀賳 賷卮賰賵丕 亘賯賷賲鬲賴賲 丕賱匕丕鬲賷丞 賵兀賳 賷爻鬲氐睾乇賵丕 賯賷賲丞 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳 .., 廿賳賴賲 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 兀賳 賷卮賰賾賵丕 亘丕賱賳丕爻 賵兀賳 賷鬲賵賯毓賵丕 賲氐賷乇賴賲 丕賱卮禺氐賷 ..!賴
丕賱兀賵賱丕丿 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 丕賱兀卮賷丕亍 丕賱鬲賷 賷毓丕賷卮賵賳賴丕 .廿賳 毓丕卮賵丕 賵爻胤 丕賱丕賳鬲賯丕丿 賮廿賳賴賲 賱丕 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 丕賱賲爻丐賵賵賱賷丞.廿賳賴賲 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 兀賳 賷丿賷賳賵丕 兀賳賮爻賴賲 賵兀賳 賷噩丿賵丕 丕賱兀禺胤丕亍 亘丕賱丌禺乇賷賳.廿賳賴賲 賷鬲毓賱賲賵賳 兀賳 賷卮賰賵丕 亘丨賰賲賴賲 毓賱賶 丕賱兀卮賷丕亍貙 賵賷丨丿賵丕 賲賳 賲賯丿乇鬲賴賲 丕賱禺丕氐丞 賵兀賳 賱丕 賷孬賯賵丕 亘賳賵丕賷丕 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳. 賴
廿賳 丕賱孬賲丕乇 丕賱賲乇丞 賱氐乇丕毓丕鬲 胤賮賵賱鬲賳丕 睾賷乇 丕賱賲丨爻賵賲丞 鬲賱丕丨賯賳丕 賮賷 賮賷 丨賷丕丞 亘賱賵睾賳丕. 廿賳賴丕 鬲卮丕賴丿 賮賷 丕賱賲賳丕賮爻丕鬲 睾賷乇 丕賱賲賳胤賯賷丞 毓賳丿 丕賱卮禺氐 丕賱匕賷 賴賵 亘爻亘丕賯 兀亘丿賷 賲毓 賰賱 爻賷丕乇丞 賮賷 丕賱胤乇賷賯 兀賵 丕賱匕賷 賱賷爻 亘廿賲賰丕賳賴 兀賳 賷禺爻乇 亘賱胤賮 賰乇丞 賲囟乇亘 兀賵 丕賱匕賷 賴賵 毓賱賶 丕爻鬲毓丿丕丿 丿丕卅賲 賱賷乇丕賴賳 亘丨賷丕鬲賴 賵孬乇賵鬲賴 賱賷亘乇賴賳 賳賯胤丞 賲丕 賷賰賵賳 賲賯鬲賳毓丕 亘賴丕 兀賵 丕賱匕賷 賷卮毓乇 亘丿丕賮毓 賱賰賷 賷鬲亘乇毓 兀賰孬乇 賲賳 睾賷乇賴 賵賱賵 賰丕賳 匕賱賰 賮賵賯 賯丿乇鬲賴.廿賳賴丕 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 鬲卮丕賴丿 兀賷囟丕 毓賳丿 丕賱卮禺氐 丕賱匕賷 賷乇賮囟 丕賱丿禺賵賱 賮賷 賰賱 丕賱賲賳丕賮爻丕鬲 貙 賵丕賱匕賷 賷卮毓乇 亘兀賳賴 賲賴夭賵賲 賯亘賱 兀賳 賷亘丿兀 丕賱毓乇丕賰 賵毓賳丿 丕賱卮禺氐 丕賱賲爻鬲毓丿 兀亘丿丕 賱賷賰賵賳 賮賷 丕賱賲賯毓丿 丕賱禺賱賮賷 賵丕賱匕賷 賱丕 賷胤丕賱亘 兀亘丿丕 丨鬲賶 亘丨賯賵賯賴 丕賱賲卮乇賵毓丞. 賴
廿賳 丕賱爻噩丕賱丕鬲 亘賷賳 丕賱兀禺賵丞 鬲丐孬乇 毓賱賶 丨賷丕丞 丕賱胤賮賱 丕賰孬乇 賲賲丕 賷丿乇賰賴 丕賱兀賴賱 .., 亘廿賲賰丕賳賴丕 兀賳 鬲胤亘毓 賳賮爻賷鬲賴 亘卮賰賱 賱丕 賷賲丨賶 賵鬲卮賵卮 卮禺氐賷鬲賴 .. 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 鬲賰賵賳 賲丨賵乇 丨賷丕丞 賲鬲毓亘丞 .., 賴
亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賱亘丕賱睾賷賳 貙 賮廿賳 賲兀爻丕丞 丕賱賲賵鬲 鬲鬲噩爻丿 賮賷 毓丿賲 賯丕亘賱賷鬲賴丕 賱賱賳賯囟. 丕賱賲賵鬲 貙 賳賴丕卅賷貙 賴賵 賳賴丕賷丞 賰賱 兀賲賱. 廿匕丕 賮丕賱賲賵鬲 賴賵 睾賷乇 賯丕亘賱 賱賱廿丿乇丕賰 賲賳 丕賱賳丕丨賷丞 丕賱卮禺氐賷丞. 廿賳賳丕 毓丕噩夭賵賳 毓賳 鬲氐賵賾乇 賳賴丕賷鬲賳丕 丕賱匕丕鬲賷丞貙 賵丕賳丨賱丕賱 匕賵丕鬲賳丕 賳丨賳. 鬲卮鬲賲賱 丕賱賳賮爻 毓賱賶 匕賰乇賷丕鬲 賵丌賲丕賱貙 毓賱賶 丕賱賲丕囟賷 賵丕賱丨丕囟乇貙 賵丕賱賳丕爻 賱丕 賷爻鬲胤賷毓賵賳 乇丐賷丞 匕賵丕鬲賴賲 亘丿賵賳 賲爻鬲賯亘賱. 廿賳 丕賱毓夭丕亍 丕賱匕賷 賷噩賱亘賴 丕賱廿賷賲丕賳 賷賯毓 鬲賲丕賲丕 囟賲賳 賴匕丕 丕賱賲噩丕賱貙 廿賳賴 賷賯丿賲 丕賱賲爻鬲賯亘賱 賱賱賳丕爻 賰賷 賷毓賷卮賵丕 賵賷賲賵鬲賵丕 亘爻賱丕賲.
亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賱兀賵賱丕丿 丕賱氐睾丕乇貙 賮廿賳賴賲 賱丕 賷爻鬲胤賷毓賵賳 兀賳 賷丿乇賰賵丕 兀賳 丕賱賲賵鬲 賳賴丕卅賷 賵賱丕 卮賷亍 賷乇噩毓 丕賱乇丕丨賱. 廿賳 亘胤賱丕賳 丕賱鬲賲賳賷丕鬲 丕賱爻丨乇賷丞 亘賵噩賴 丕賱賲賵鬲 賴賵 囟乇亘丞 賲賵噩毓丞 賱賱兀賵賱丕丿. 廿賳賴 賷夭毓夭毓 廿賷賲丕賳賴賲 亘賯賵鬲賴賲 毓賱賶 丕賱鬲兀孬賷乇 毓賱賶 丕賱兀丨丿丕孬 亘賵丕爻胤丞 丕賱鬲賮賰賷乇 丕賱賲鬲賲賳賷貙 賵賷噩毓賱賴賲 賷卮毓乇賵賳 亘丕賱囟毓賮 賵丕賱賯賱賯
賷丨丕賵賱 亘毓囟 丕賱兀賴丕賱賷 丕賱賯賷丕賲 亘丨賲丕賷丞 兀賵賱丕丿賴賲 賲賳 鬲噩乇亘丞 丕賱兀賱賲 賵丕賱丨夭賳 丕賱賰丕賲賳 賮賷 賮賯丿丕賳 卮禺氐 賷丨亘賵賳賴. 廿匕丕 賲丕鬲鬲 爻賲賰丞 賮廿賳賴賲 賷爻丕乇毓賵賳 廿賱賶 鬲毓賵賷囟賴丕 亘賵丕丨丿丞 噩丿賷丿丞 丌賲賱賷賳 兀賳 賱丕 賷賱丕丨馗 丕賱賵賱丿 丕賱賮乇賯
賲丕 賴賷 丕賱丿乇賵爻 丕賱鬲賷 賷鬲毓賱賲賴丕 丕賱兀賵賱丕丿 賲賳 賴匕賴 丕賱鬲噩丕乇亘 丕賱賲亘賰乇丞 賱賱賮賯丿丕賳 丕賱賮噩丕卅賷 賵丕賱鬲毓賵賷囟 丕賱爻乇賷毓責 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 賷爻鬲賳鬲噩賵丕 亘兀賳 禺爻丕乇丞 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱匕賷賳 賷丨亘賵賳賴賲 賴賷 賱賷爻鬲 亘鬲賱賰 丕賱兀賴賲賷丞 丕賱賰亘賷乇丞 貙 賵兀賳 丕賱丨亘 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 賷購賳賯賱 亘爻賴賵賱丞 賵兀賳 丕賱賵賱丕亍 賷賲賰賳 兀賳 賷購丨賵賾賱 亘爻賴賵賱丞.
丕賱賲丿賷丨 丕賱賲賯丿乇 賷亘丿兀 亘 兀賳丕 .., 亘賷賳 丕賱賲丿賷丨 丕賱匕賷 賷氐丿乇 丕賱兀丨賰丕賲 賷亘丿兀 亘 "兀賳鬲"
賷禺鬲鬲賲 亘廿噩丕亘鬲賴 毓賱賶 爻丐丕賱 :
亘賵噩賵丿 丕賱丨馗貙 賱賲丕匕丕 賳丨鬲丕噩 丕賱賲賴丕乇丞 責
賳丨鬲丕噩賴 賰賷 賱丕 賳賮爻丿 丕賱丨馗 !
May 25, 2019
An exceptionally good book about how to speak and interact with children.
September 25, 2009
I had high expectations for this book. I studied Dr. Ginott's ideas as they pertained to education, and agreed generally w/ his approach when it came to the teachers/student relationship.
The first few chapters were fine. I agree that we should praise children for their efforts; not the finished product, I agree that children tune us out when we sermonize or lecture and that anyone is incapable of truly communicating when emotions are highly charged. Ginott also talks about the importance of kids feeling our empathy. He gives some examples in dialogs. Some were helpful, but I found most to be overly simplistic or structured. I was thinking, "What parent and child out there has EVER talked to each other like that?"
And then there were approaches that I completely disagreed with. For example, Ginott suggests that when a parent and child go to another home to visit that the parent needs to be the child's emotional support in a different environment; not the enforcer of rules. So the parent should inform the host that "this is your home, and your rules. Please feel free to reprimand my child." WHATEVER. First of all, as a host, I don't feel comfortable reprimanding someone else's kid - that's the parent's responsibility. Secondly, my idea of reprimanding my be totally different from someone else's idea. It's too gray an area.
But the chapter that had me incredulous and disgusted was the one about how to approach sex and human values. First, he starts with the assumption that the average teen has sexual relationships. It is important, according to Ginott, that the teen feel safe in talking w/ his/her parent about this aspect of their life so parents should not moralize or judge their children. Read the sample conversation between father and 16 yr old son on pg. 176. I was horrified! And also bothered by how casually Ginott approaches premarital sex. I sincerely hope that his views aren't held by the parents of my kids' future friends and classmates.
Anyway, I noticed that several of my friends have this on their to-read shelves. My advice would be not to waste your time. Oh, and please refer me to some better parenting books!
The first few chapters were fine. I agree that we should praise children for their efforts; not the finished product, I agree that children tune us out when we sermonize or lecture and that anyone is incapable of truly communicating when emotions are highly charged. Ginott also talks about the importance of kids feeling our empathy. He gives some examples in dialogs. Some were helpful, but I found most to be overly simplistic or structured. I was thinking, "What parent and child out there has EVER talked to each other like that?"
And then there were approaches that I completely disagreed with. For example, Ginott suggests that when a parent and child go to another home to visit that the parent needs to be the child's emotional support in a different environment; not the enforcer of rules. So the parent should inform the host that "this is your home, and your rules. Please feel free to reprimand my child." WHATEVER. First of all, as a host, I don't feel comfortable reprimanding someone else's kid - that's the parent's responsibility. Secondly, my idea of reprimanding my be totally different from someone else's idea. It's too gray an area.
But the chapter that had me incredulous and disgusted was the one about how to approach sex and human values. First, he starts with the assumption that the average teen has sexual relationships. It is important, according to Ginott, that the teen feel safe in talking w/ his/her parent about this aspect of their life so parents should not moralize or judge their children. Read the sample conversation between father and 16 yr old son on pg. 176. I was horrified! And also bothered by how casually Ginott approaches premarital sex. I sincerely hope that his views aren't held by the parents of my kids' future friends and classmates.
Anyway, I noticed that several of my friends have this on their to-read shelves. My advice would be not to waste your time. Oh, and please refer me to some better parenting books!
December 22, 2007
I have often wondered what is the "right way" to respond to a child who is misbehaving and/or upset. Dr. Ginott answered my questions -- plus the many more that comes with having a child.
Dr. Ginott teaches us how to communicate not just with our children, but also with other adults. This has been a very eye-opening experience to learn that the way I communicate with others, especially those who are closest to me, may not be the most effective. Dr. Ginott has a great way of teaching through example in his book.
It's a great read and a book that I use constantly. It also makes a very good babyshower gift!
Dr. Ginott teaches us how to communicate not just with our children, but also with other adults. This has been a very eye-opening experience to learn that the way I communicate with others, especially those who are closest to me, may not be the most effective. Dr. Ginott has a great way of teaching through example in his book.
It's a great read and a book that I use constantly. It also makes a very good babyshower gift!
February 1, 2014
This book is among the classics and for good reason. Dr. Ginott provided insight on respecting a child as a person and training the child to deal with their own emotions. I have gained insight on responding not only to children but also adults in a more responsive way. I am looking forward to making use of with of his processes in how I respond to my child and also my wife. Short read and powerful in content.
November 24, 2018
袦薪芯谐芯 锌芯谢械蟹薪芯 褔械褌懈胁芯! 小褉械写 芯泻械邪薪邪 芯褌 泻薪懈谐懈 蟹邪 胁褗蟹锌懈褌邪薪懈械褌芯 薪邪 写械褑邪褌邪 械 屑薪芯谐芯 褌褉褍写薪芯 写邪 褋械 芯褉懈械薪褌懈褉邪屑械 胁 薪械褖芯 薪邪懈褋褌懈薪邪 锌芯谢械蟹薪芯 懈 锌褉邪泻褌懈褔薪芯, 薪芯 懈, 褉邪蟹斜懈褉邪 褋械, 薪邪褍褔薪芯 芯斜芯褋薪芯胁邪薪芯. 袩褉械锌芯褉褗褔胁邪屑 薪邪 胁褋懈褔泻懈, 薪械 褋邪屑芯 薪邪 薪邪褋褌芯褟褖懈 褉芯写懈褌械谢懈, 蟹邪褖芯褌芯 胁 褌邪蟹懈 泻薪懈谐邪 褋械 褋褗写褗褉卸邪褌 褋褗胁械褌懈 蟹邪 锌褗谢薪芯褑械薪薪芯 芯斜褖褍胁邪薪械 薪械 褋邪屑芯 褋 写械褑邪, 薪芯 懈 褋 胁褗蟹褉邪褋褌薪懈. 袝写懈薪褋褌胁械薪邪褌邪 屑懈 蟹邪斜械谢械卸泻邪 褌褍泻 械 薪械锌褉械褑懈蟹薪邪褌邪 泻芯褉械泻褌芯褉褋泻邪 褉邪斜芯褌邪, 泻芯械褌芯 锌褉邪胁懈 谢芯褕芯 胁锌械褔邪褌谢械薪懈械.
October 4, 2018
袣薪懈谐邪褌邪 懈屑邪 屑薪芯谐芯 写芯斜褉懈 锌芯锌邪写械薪懈褟, 薪芯 谐芯谢褟屑邪 褔邪褋褌 芯褌 薪械褟 胁械褔械 薪械 械 邪泻褌褍邪谢薪邪: 邪褍褌懈蟹屑褗褌 懈 写褉褍谐懈 锌褋懈褏懈褔薪懈 褉邪蟹褋褌褉芯泄褋褌胁邪 褋械 锌褉械写褋褌邪胁褟褌 泻邪褌芯 褔械褉褌懈 薪邪 褏邪褉邪泻褌械褉邪, 邪 褏芯屑芯褋械泻褋褍邪谢薪芯褋褌褌邪 - 泻邪褌芯 锌芯胁械写械薪褔械褋泻芯 褉邪蟹褋褌褉芯泄褋褌胁芯. 袩芯谢芯胁懈褌械 褉芯谢懈 褋邪 薪邪谢芯卸械薪懈 写芯褋褌邪 褉懈谐懈写薪芯 懈 斜械蟹泻芯屑锌褉芯屑懈褋薪芯, 泻芯械褌芯 锌褉械写锌芯谢邪谐邪屑 械 薪芯褉屑邪谢薪芯 蟹邪 60-褌械 谐芯写懈薪懈, 写芯褉懈 懈 蟹邪 小褗械写懈薪械薪懈褌械 褖邪褌懈. 袠屑邪 写芯褋褌邪 锌芯胁褌芯褉械薪懈褟 懈 薪械褍屑械褋褌薪懈 谐械薪械褉邪谢懈蟹懈褉邪薪懈褟.
March 20, 2016
Okudu臒um en iyi ebeveyn kitab谋 dersem abartm谋艧 olmam san谋r谋m.
June 20, 2017
This book is an all time favorite that I've read more than once. Should be required reading for parents.
September 9, 2020
I finished an entire highlighter ink on it. Now let鈥檚 practice.
June 20, 2022
Ger莽ek bir klasik. Her klasik gibi 莽ok etkileyici...
March 18, 2024
效械褌芯褏 褌邪蟹懈 泻薪懈卸泻邪 锌褉械写懈 芯泻芯谢芯 写胁邪写械褋械褌 谐芯写懈薪懈 胁 泻邪褔械褋褌胁芯褌芯 褋懈 薪邪 褍褔懈褌械谢 懈 谢械谢褟, 褋械谐邪 褟 锌褉芯褔械褌芯褏 胁 泻邪褔械褋褌胁芯褌芯 褋懈 薪邪 屑邪泄泻邪 懈 薪邪 褔芯胁械泻, 泻芯泄褌芯 谢械泻褍胁邪 褌褉邪胁屑懈褌械 芯褌 写械褌褋褌胁芯褌芯 褋懈. (袛邪, 邪蟹 褋褗屑 褋械 胁芯写懈谢邪 蟹邪褌胁芯褉械薪芯, 褉邪蟹谢懈褔薪芯 写械褌械, 薪芯 薪懈泻芯谐邪 薪械 褋褗屑 锌芯谢褍褔懈谢邪 褋锌械褑懈邪谢懈蟹懈褉邪薪邪 锌芯屑芯褖.)
袙褗锌褉械泻懈 芯谐褉芯屑薪邪褌邪 写懈褋褌邪薪褑懈褟 胁褗胁 胁褉械屑械褌芯 (锌懈褋邪薪邪 写芯泻邪褌芯 邪蟹 褋邪屑邪褌邪 褋褗屑 斜懈谢邪 屑邪谢泻邪), 屑械褌芯写懈褌械 胁 褌邪蟹懈 泻薪懈谐邪 褋邪 芯褋薪芯胁芯锌芯谢邪谐邪褖懈 蟹邪 写芯斜褉邪 胁褉褗蟹泻邪 褉芯写懈褌械谢-写械褌械, 薪邪锌褗谢薪芯 锌褉懈谢芯卸懈屑懈 褋邪 懈 邪蟹 胁械写薪邪谐邪 褋械 褍斜械写懈褏 胁 褌芯胁邪 薪邪 锌褉邪泻褌懈泻邪 褋褗褋 褋懈薪邪 褋懈 (7 谐芯写). 袨褋褗蟹薪邪褏 懈 褍谢芯胁懈褏 蟹邪泻芯写懈褉邪薪懈褌械 褋褗芯斜褖械薪懈褟, 泻芯懈褌芯 屑懈 懈蟹锌褉邪褖邪. 袟邪写邪写芯褏 褋懈 蟹邪 褑械谢 写邪 胁薪懈泻薪邪 褋 写褗谢斜芯褔懈薪邪 胁 锌褉懈褔懈薪懈褌械 蟹邪 锌芯胁械写械薪懈械褌芯 屑褍. 袧邪褋芯褔懈褏 谢懈褔薪芯褋褌褌邪 褋懈 写邪 褉邪蟹斜懈褉邪 锌芯胁械褔械 懈 写邪 懈蟹褉邪蟹褟胁邪 褉邪蟹斜懈褉邪薪械. 孝械泻褋褌褗褌 械 锌芯写薪械褋械薪 锌褉芯褋褌懈褔泻芯, 泻褉邪褌泻芯, 褉邪蟹斜懈褉邪械屑芯 懈 褟褋薪芯, 褋 屑薪芯谐芯 锌褉懈屑械褉懈, 褏褍屑芯褉 懈 械 写芯斜褉械 褋褌褉褍泻褌褍褉懈褉邪薪.
袠 胁褋械 锌邪泻 芯褌褔械褌芯褏 褉邪蟹谢懈泻懈褌械, 褋 泻芯懈褌芯 褉芯谢褟褌邪 薪邪 屑邪泄泻邪褌邪 (薪械 薪邪 斜邪褖邪褌邪) 褋械 芯褌谢懈褔邪胁邪 胁 褋褗胁褉械屑械薪薪邪褌邪 薪懈 泻褍谢褌褍褉邪 懈 泻邪泻褗胁褌芯 懈 写邪 褋褗屑 褌褉邪写懈褑懈芯薪邪谢懈褋褌 锌芯 写褍褕邪, 胁械褔械 褋褗屑 褌芯胁邪, 泻芯械褌芯 褋褗屑, 邪 懈屑械薪薪芯 卸械薪邪 褋 胁懈褋褕械, 泻芯褟褌芯 械 懈屑邪谢邪 蟹邪 褑械谢 写邪 谐褉邪写懈 泻邪褉懈械褉邪 懈 写邪 斜褗写械 褋邪屑芯褋褌芯褟褌械谢薪邪 懈 褎懈薪邪薪褋芯胁芯 薪械蟹邪胁懈褋懈屑邪.
袗胁褌芯褉褗褌 薪械 芯褌褔懈褌邪 懈 懈薪写懈胁懈写褍邪谢薪懈褌械 褏邪褉邪泻褌械褉懈 薪邪 写械褑邪褌邪, 邪 褋邪屑芯 谐懈 褋锌芯屑械薪邪胁邪 薪邪 泻褉邪褟 薪邪 泻薪懈谐邪褌邪. 孝械褉屑懈薪褗褌 "邪褌懈锌懈褔械薪" 械 芯褋褌邪褉褟谢 懈 薪械 谐芯 褋褉械褖邪屑 胁 褋褗胁褉械屑械薪薪邪褌邪 锌褋懈褏芯谢芯谐懈褟.
袙褗锌褉械泻懈 褌芯胁邪: 胁褌芯褉懈褟褌 锌褉芯褔懈褌 屑懈 写邪写械 械写薪邪 薪邪胁褉械屑械薪薪邪 褟褋薪芯褌邪 懈 芯褋褗蟹薪邪胁邪薪械 蟹邪 屑芯褟褌邪 褉芯谢褟 薪邪 褉芯写懈褌械谢, 蟹邪 泻芯褟褌芯 邪蟹 褉械邪谢薪芯 薪褟屑邪屑 锌褉懈屑械褉 芯褌 卸懈胁芯褌邪. 小械谐邪 屑懈 芯褋褌邪胁邪 锌褉邪泻褌懈泻邪褌邪...
袙褗锌褉械泻懈 芯谐褉芯屑薪邪褌邪 写懈褋褌邪薪褑懈褟 胁褗胁 胁褉械屑械褌芯 (锌懈褋邪薪邪 写芯泻邪褌芯 邪蟹 褋邪屑邪褌邪 褋褗屑 斜懈谢邪 屑邪谢泻邪), 屑械褌芯写懈褌械 胁 褌邪蟹懈 泻薪懈谐邪 褋邪 芯褋薪芯胁芯锌芯谢邪谐邪褖懈 蟹邪 写芯斜褉邪 胁褉褗蟹泻邪 褉芯写懈褌械谢-写械褌械, 薪邪锌褗谢薪芯 锌褉懈谢芯卸懈屑懈 褋邪 懈 邪蟹 胁械写薪邪谐邪 褋械 褍斜械写懈褏 胁 褌芯胁邪 薪邪 锌褉邪泻褌懈泻邪 褋褗褋 褋懈薪邪 褋懈 (7 谐芯写). 袨褋褗蟹薪邪褏 懈 褍谢芯胁懈褏 蟹邪泻芯写懈褉邪薪懈褌械 褋褗芯斜褖械薪懈褟, 泻芯懈褌芯 屑懈 懈蟹锌褉邪褖邪. 袟邪写邪写芯褏 褋懈 蟹邪 褑械谢 写邪 胁薪懈泻薪邪 褋 写褗谢斜芯褔懈薪邪 胁 锌褉懈褔懈薪懈褌械 蟹邪 锌芯胁械写械薪懈械褌芯 屑褍. 袧邪褋芯褔懈褏 谢懈褔薪芯褋褌褌邪 褋懈 写邪 褉邪蟹斜懈褉邪 锌芯胁械褔械 懈 写邪 懈蟹褉邪蟹褟胁邪 褉邪蟹斜懈褉邪薪械. 孝械泻褋褌褗褌 械 锌芯写薪械褋械薪 锌褉芯褋褌懈褔泻芯, 泻褉邪褌泻芯, 褉邪蟹斜懈褉邪械屑芯 懈 褟褋薪芯, 褋 屑薪芯谐芯 锌褉懈屑械褉懈, 褏褍屑芯褉 懈 械 写芯斜褉械 褋褌褉褍泻褌褍褉懈褉邪薪.
袠 胁褋械 锌邪泻 芯褌褔械褌芯褏 褉邪蟹谢懈泻懈褌械, 褋 泻芯懈褌芯 褉芯谢褟褌邪 薪邪 屑邪泄泻邪褌邪 (薪械 薪邪 斜邪褖邪褌邪) 褋械 芯褌谢懈褔邪胁邪 胁 褋褗胁褉械屑械薪薪邪褌邪 薪懈 泻褍谢褌褍褉邪 懈 泻邪泻褗胁褌芯 懈 写邪 褋褗屑 褌褉邪写懈褑懈芯薪邪谢懈褋褌 锌芯 写褍褕邪, 胁械褔械 褋褗屑 褌芯胁邪, 泻芯械褌芯 褋褗屑, 邪 懈屑械薪薪芯 卸械薪邪 褋 胁懈褋褕械, 泻芯褟褌芯 械 懈屑邪谢邪 蟹邪 褑械谢 写邪 谐褉邪写懈 泻邪褉懈械褉邪 懈 写邪 斜褗写械 褋邪屑芯褋褌芯褟褌械谢薪邪 懈 褎懈薪邪薪褋芯胁芯 薪械蟹邪胁懈褋懈屑邪.
袗胁褌芯褉褗褌 薪械 芯褌褔懈褌邪 懈 懈薪写懈胁懈写褍邪谢薪懈褌械 褏邪褉邪泻褌械褉懈 薪邪 写械褑邪褌邪, 邪 褋邪屑芯 谐懈 褋锌芯屑械薪邪胁邪 薪邪 泻褉邪褟 薪邪 泻薪懈谐邪褌邪. 孝械褉屑懈薪褗褌 "邪褌懈锌懈褔械薪" 械 芯褋褌邪褉褟谢 懈 薪械 谐芯 褋褉械褖邪屑 胁 褋褗胁褉械屑械薪薪邪褌邪 锌褋懈褏芯谢芯谐懈褟.
袙褗锌褉械泻懈 褌芯胁邪: 胁褌芯褉懈褟褌 锌褉芯褔懈褌 屑懈 写邪写械 械写薪邪 薪邪胁褉械屑械薪薪邪 褟褋薪芯褌邪 懈 芯褋褗蟹薪邪胁邪薪械 蟹邪 屑芯褟褌邪 褉芯谢褟 薪邪 褉芯写懈褌械谢, 蟹邪 泻芯褟褌芯 邪蟹 褉械邪谢薪芯 薪褟屑邪屑 锌褉懈屑械褉 芯褌 卸懈胁芯褌邪. 小械谐邪 屑懈 芯褋褌邪胁邪 锌褉邪泻褌懈泻邪褌邪...
May 22, 2022
just giving this one a solid three stars 鈥� it was neither amazing nor awful!! things I appreciated: an approach to parenting that recognizes parents need help in learning how to be effective with their children, and a general idea/understanding that children are to be respected as individuals, AND that it is the parents鈥� responsibility to foster this respect in their home. this (contrary to popular belief......) does not mean letting a child do as they wish all the time, but acknowledging their wishes and feelings, establishing boundaries, and STICKING TO THEM even when it is not easy and tensions are high and emotions are rampant.
things I did not appreciate: very little insight on what to do if your child does NOT respond perfectly and angelically to your efforts, like every example conversation plays out in this book..... and a lack of instruction on how to teach morality to children, ESPECIALLY in regards to sexuality. I would appreciate a Catholic (or at least Christian) view on this parenting style and how to teach children that right and wrong do exist, and what it means to live a Christian life.
(the end of the book does mention a few examples of what to do if a child does not respond well to a parent鈥檚 effort, and lists resources for further reading should specific problems arise. I did appreciate this a lot! I just wish it was more interwoven into the book.)
overall though a very insightful read that I hope I will be able to remember in the midst of difficult moments 馃槵 and I liked that this approach to interacting with children is founded on love and respect.
things I did not appreciate: very little insight on what to do if your child does NOT respond perfectly and angelically to your efforts, like every example conversation plays out in this book..... and a lack of instruction on how to teach morality to children, ESPECIALLY in regards to sexuality. I would appreciate a Catholic (or at least Christian) view on this parenting style and how to teach children that right and wrong do exist, and what it means to live a Christian life.
(the end of the book does mention a few examples of what to do if a child does not respond well to a parent鈥檚 effort, and lists resources for further reading should specific problems arise. I did appreciate this a lot! I just wish it was more interwoven into the book.)
overall though a very insightful read that I hope I will be able to remember in the midst of difficult moments 馃槵 and I liked that this approach to interacting with children is founded on love and respect.
December 9, 2021
Between Parent and Child by Dr. Haim G. Ginott
Enlightening, Eye-opening, Emphatic!!!
All parents should read it and read it now.
'Why do children lie? Sometimes they lie because they are not allowed to tell the truth?'
'Politeness must be taught politely.'
'Labeling is disabling.'
"What is the goal of parenting? It's to help a child grow up to be a decent human being, a mensch, a person with compassion, commitment, and caring. How does one go
about humanizing a child? Only by using humane methods, by recognizing that the process is the method, that ends do not justify the means, and that in our attempt to be effective in getting children to behave, ,we do not damage them emotionally."
Parenting is a skill. It's about knowing certain things and mastering them.
A must read for All the parents.
Brilliant work.馃憤馃憤
Enlightening, Eye-opening, Emphatic!!!
All parents should read it and read it now.
'Why do children lie? Sometimes they lie because they are not allowed to tell the truth?'
'Politeness must be taught politely.'
'Labeling is disabling.'
"What is the goal of parenting? It's to help a child grow up to be a decent human being, a mensch, a person with compassion, commitment, and caring. How does one go
about humanizing a child? Only by using humane methods, by recognizing that the process is the method, that ends do not justify the means, and that in our attempt to be effective in getting children to behave, ,we do not damage them emotionally."
Parenting is a skill. It's about knowing certain things and mastering them.
A must read for All the parents.
Brilliant work.馃憤馃憤
May 23, 2021
The best parenting book that I鈥檝e ever read
How to talk to your child - perhaps nothing is more crucial than that in parenting. This book offers wisdom for the topic, and it is written in way that is extremely pleasant to read.
Definitely the best book on parenting that I鈥檝e came across. Highly recommended to all parents. Especially relevant for parents who have children the age of three to twelve.
How to talk to your child - perhaps nothing is more crucial than that in parenting. This book offers wisdom for the topic, and it is written in way that is extremely pleasant to read.
Definitely the best book on parenting that I鈥檝e came across. Highly recommended to all parents. Especially relevant for parents who have children the age of three to twelve.
January 9, 2022
Sonra yine okuyacaklar谋m aras谋na ald谋m.
September 22, 2023
Very quick to read and readable, with lots of useful advice and insights. Must have been quite revolutionary in its time. In 2023, I feel like a lot of concepts can still be applied, though of course as with everything it is good to always be critical about what you're reading. Covers a lot of topics in interesting ways, recommended!
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