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賮賳 丕賱鬲兀孬賷乇 賮賷 丕賱兀禺乇賷賳
100% scientific and proven ways to make friends quickly, turn enemies into friends, gain trust, and be flat-out likable.Some of the most interesting, shocking, and counterintuitive scientific conclusions to simply make people want to be around you.In The Science of Likability, you'll get all that and more. I've taken 27 seminal scientific and psychological studies and broken them down so you can use their findings to your advantage. Every piece of advice in this book to increase your social standing and likability factor is 100% backed by in-depth, peer-reviewed research.Learn how subconsciously make yourself seem likable, trustworthy, and intelligent.You can get a new haircut and wardrobe, and you even learn funny jokes. But likability is something more. It's subconscious, and it's the small signs that signal our brains to let their guards down and embrace others. Learn what common sense and intuition doesn't teach you.Analysis and insight from the best in the business.From Freud, to Cialdini, to Pavlov, to Schachter, to Goleman, these studies are insightful, analytical, sometimes surprising, but most importantly effective and actionable. Pair that with the insight and human intelligence factor of bestselling author and social skills coach Patrick King, and you have a guide that can be read equally for education as for helpful, real advice.Small and subtle actions, big results.- Chapter 1. How to Improve People's Moods.- Chapter 2. How to Turn Enemies into Friends.- Chapter 6. How to Gain Trust and Credibility.- Chapter 7. How to Work Well With Others.Understand what makes people tick.- Chapter 8. How to be More Endearing.- Chapter 10. How to Lead Anyone.- Chapter 11. How to Avoid Being Judged.- Chapter 13. How to be Funny and Charismatic.Being likable unlocks the doors to everything you want in life.A better career? You better believe that the people with the most promotions and highest salaries aren't just the most qualified. Better love life? Being likable keeps you a potential date to anyone you want. Better relationships and friendships? Not only that, but you open the door to people wanting to be friends with you. Likability is the hidden force that makes people appear to be lucky in life and receive more opportunities than they know what to do with.Change how people feel your presence. Pick up your copy today by clicking the BUY NOW button at the top of this page.
174 pages, Paperback
Published January 1, 2022
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Patrick King
190听books295听followersPatrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California, and has been featured on numerous national publications such as Inc.com. He鈥檚 also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market, and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
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August 22, 2022
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_兀爻丕賱賷亘 丕賱鬲賮丕賵囟 ( 丕賱亘丕亘 賮賷 丕賱賵噩丞 / 丕賱賯丿賲 賮賷 丕賱亘丕亘)
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_兀爻丕賱賷亘 丕賱鬲賮丕賵囟 ( 丕賱亘丕亘 賮賷 丕賱賵噩丞 / 丕賱賯丿賲 賮賷 丕賱亘丕亘)
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March 25, 2018
Not bad. I got it because it was cheap. He basically quotes a bunch of other authors. He has few original ideas. I say that he had original ideas, but only because I am giving him the benefit of the doubt. I don't remember any of them. He makes good points, but does not bring anything really new to the table.
March 1, 2018
Good stuff in here. But King spent too much time providing examples to concepts that were easy enough to comprehend. Definitely worth the time and money, but as short as it is, I think it could have been even shorter.
February 6, 2023
Gave me the vibes of Dale Carnegie's How to win friends and influence people or Robert Green's, The Laws of Human Nature. So if you haven't read those then definitely just read this lol
The nugget out of this book, for me, was the leadership/coaching styles
1. Visionary: come with me to a better world
2. Coaching: try this you might learn from it
3. Affiliate: only if everyone feels good about it
4. Democratic: what does everyone think?
5. Pace-setting: do more faster
6. Commanding: do what I say
The nugget out of this book, for me, was the leadership/coaching styles
1. Visionary: come with me to a better world
2. Coaching: try this you might learn from it
3. Affiliate: only if everyone feels good about it
4. Democratic: what does everyone think?
5. Pace-setting: do more faster
6. Commanding: do what I say
January 7, 2018
Great Read - Eye opening
Speaking as a non-people person who is working on changing that aspect of my character this book was helpful in providing implementable tactics and ideas to help me in my personal transition. The funny thing is that I recognize the blatant over use of some of these tactics by a co-worker of mine. I actually have a better perspective on making the needed changes but also on not wanting to change or be accepted so bad that I run these tactics in the ground. I think this is a good starting point for anyone trying to make some personal changes as to how they deal with people.
Speaking as a non-people person who is working on changing that aspect of my character this book was helpful in providing implementable tactics and ideas to help me in my personal transition. The funny thing is that I recognize the blatant over use of some of these tactics by a co-worker of mine. I actually have a better perspective on making the needed changes but also on not wanting to change or be accepted so bad that I run these tactics in the ground. I think this is a good starting point for anyone trying to make some personal changes as to how they deal with people.
September 8, 2017
Easy read and very informative, i will definitely will use what a i learned with thus book!
Great book, definitely recommend! Very easy to read, and simple to understand the concepts for a every day use, for social and close interactions!
Great book, definitely recommend! Very easy to read, and simple to understand the concepts for a every day use, for social and close interactions!
February 8, 2018
I would give this book 3.5 stars. The tips are likely obvious to many people just through everyday interactions, like find something positive about the person and compliment him, act like a friend (not guarded like a stranger) and the person will start to see you as a friend, and find things in common with the person. There are few tips that might not be commonly known, such as ask the person who dislikes you for a favor ("Can you help me with writing the report?"). This is a subtle compliment hidden in the request, so the person might be willing to help you. Doing the favor but disliking you at the same time creates a cognitive dissonance - inconsistency of helping someone she dislikes. Therefore, she might change how she feels about you to eliminate that inconsistency. If you don't even do the few obvious tips mentioned above, the book is useful. There are 14 short chapters. To develop the habits to increase your likability, practice the tips in each chapter for the week before moving on.
November 7, 2017
It was good, but it did not tell me anything I didn't know before.
February 24, 2025
I listened to the audiobook version of this; there was a person credited for reading it so I assume it wasn't a robot, but it really sounded like one. This surprised me a little since I think it's well-known that people don't really find voices like that to be "likable" and you'd think someone with a pleasant, personable voice would have read this book, but whatever. At least the book is short and to the point.
I saw someone in another review criticize the author for simply gathering the advice of others and not having many original ideas in this book, but to me, that seems like a silly criticism, given that the subtitle of the book basically says outright that the content of this book is an overview of scientific studies about "likability". The whole point of the book is that the author gathered existing research together. He has his own ideas in his other books (I assume, I haven't read them). He does include commentary on the results of each study and how a person might try to apply the information to their own social interactions, which I think is really exactly what I expected of the book.
So 4 stars for being EXACTLY WHAT I EXPECTED (and exactly what it says in the title).
In terms of the content itself: I myself didn't learn a ton but I didn't really expect to, since this is not the first time I've looked into this topic. I just think it's interesting, because when I was young, I didn't have great social skills and I assumed that social skills were a thing you either had "naturally" or did not have. When I was in my early 20s, I got advice from a good friend which forced me to realize that in fact, social skills can be learned (and improved with practice) like any other skill, and while we each have different starting points and learning capabilities, anyone can improve their existing skill, and there's no excuse for not improving other than a lack of will.
After that, I actually made an effort. I learned a lot of the things in this book subconsciously, after various difficult times in my life forced me to actually need and rely upon social skills (not to make friends, but to interact positively with people who could help me, as well as coworkers, etc). I enjoyed hearing these concepts laid out clearly in words even though I wasn't surprised by them.
Reading a book might feel like a very cold and calculating method of learning social skills to some people, but if I had read it as a teenager or in my early 20s, when I still thought of socializing with "normal" people as a kind of boring and impenetrable enigma, I think it might have been very illuminating in some ways. Many people are awkward with others, so they avoid social interaction whenever possible (which is often easy in our technologically connected world). Without practice, it's difficult to learn these concepts on your own, certainly not at the age where it would be most useful (when you're young). I think the kind of person that this information would be most useful to is also the sort of person who'd be interested in reading a book like this.
I saw someone in another review criticize the author for simply gathering the advice of others and not having many original ideas in this book, but to me, that seems like a silly criticism, given that the subtitle of the book basically says outright that the content of this book is an overview of scientific studies about "likability". The whole point of the book is that the author gathered existing research together. He has his own ideas in his other books (I assume, I haven't read them). He does include commentary on the results of each study and how a person might try to apply the information to their own social interactions, which I think is really exactly what I expected of the book.
So 4 stars for being EXACTLY WHAT I EXPECTED (and exactly what it says in the title).
In terms of the content itself: I myself didn't learn a ton but I didn't really expect to, since this is not the first time I've looked into this topic. I just think it's interesting, because when I was young, I didn't have great social skills and I assumed that social skills were a thing you either had "naturally" or did not have. When I was in my early 20s, I got advice from a good friend which forced me to realize that in fact, social skills can be learned (and improved with practice) like any other skill, and while we each have different starting points and learning capabilities, anyone can improve their existing skill, and there's no excuse for not improving other than a lack of will.
After that, I actually made an effort. I learned a lot of the things in this book subconsciously, after various difficult times in my life forced me to actually need and rely upon social skills (not to make friends, but to interact positively with people who could help me, as well as coworkers, etc). I enjoyed hearing these concepts laid out clearly in words even though I wasn't surprised by them.
Reading a book might feel like a very cold and calculating method of learning social skills to some people, but if I had read it as a teenager or in my early 20s, when I still thought of socializing with "normal" people as a kind of boring and impenetrable enigma, I think it might have been very illuminating in some ways. Many people are awkward with others, so they avoid social interaction whenever possible (which is often easy in our technologically connected world). Without practice, it's difficult to learn these concepts on your own, certainly not at the age where it would be most useful (when you're young). I think the kind of person that this information would be most useful to is also the sort of person who'd be interested in reading a book like this.
September 8, 2022
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爻賷乇亘胤賵賳 亘賷賳 賲丕 丕賳鬲 毓賱賷賴 賵亘賷賳 賲丕 鬲氐賮 亘賴 睾賷乇賰
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賱賷爻 爻卅 賵賱丕 噩賷丿 賴賵 賰鬲丕亘 毓丕丿賷 賷賲賰賳 丕賳 賷賰賵賳 乇賮賷賯賰 賮賷 丕賱爻賮乇 賱賷卮噩毓賰 毓賱賷 賮鬲丨 丨賵丕乇 賲毓賷 賲賳 賷噩賱爻 亘噩丕賳亘賰 賮賯乇兀賴
June 2, 2018
Very entertaining and informative book about the psychology of likeability
This book was a really fun read!
I picked this book because the title was catchy, but I didn鈥檛 have a real purpose for reading it beyond intrigue and curiosity. The author did a great job delivering valuable knowledge about likeability works.
The book touches on how we people perceive each other and how you can control people鈥檚 perceptions of you. Some great ideas in the book are: asking people to do you favors maks them perceiv you as a friend, balancing positive and negative feedback helps creating positive work environments, coming across as humble and equal to your friends causes them to trust you more, showing confidence and credibility tends to attract people around you, and many more tips.
All said, I do worry about the problem of genuine vs artificial behavior. I do believe that people can easiy spot artificial behavior, even if it鈥檚 positive, and end up disliking the person. I also would have liked the author to discuss when likeability is the wrong thing to aim for, but I understand that it鈥檚 out of scope of this book.
This book was a really fun read!
I picked this book because the title was catchy, but I didn鈥檛 have a real purpose for reading it beyond intrigue and curiosity. The author did a great job delivering valuable knowledge about likeability works.
The book touches on how we people perceive each other and how you can control people鈥檚 perceptions of you. Some great ideas in the book are: asking people to do you favors maks them perceiv you as a friend, balancing positive and negative feedback helps creating positive work environments, coming across as humble and equal to your friends causes them to trust you more, showing confidence and credibility tends to attract people around you, and many more tips.
All said, I do worry about the problem of genuine vs artificial behavior. I do believe that people can easiy spot artificial behavior, even if it鈥檚 positive, and end up disliking the person. I also would have liked the author to discuss when likeability is the wrong thing to aim for, but I understand that it鈥檚 out of scope of this book.
October 8, 2020
Concise book about strategies to increase personal interaction, relationships, and reception of ideas. Each chapter discusses a study or applicable theory from which a lesson emerges. It's a mostly suggesting that we make it others feel good about themselves and comfortable with you. Display that you care.
Benjamin Franklin- kill frenemies with kindness and ask for their expertise.
Pygmalion- act like a friend or act the part and you'll become that person.
Propinquity- being around people more makes you more comfortable.
Know your style of leadership.
Prevent judgement by letting people know details about you so they feel they know you and won't draw stereotypical conclusions. Share different sides of your personality and change their view about you.
Confident, quick and funny answers make you likeable. Monologues or indecisive answers weigh on people.
The chapter on chi-chat is about gossiping effectively so that the traits you describe in others are ascribed to you.
Good ideas but it seems like a shallow guide to social manipulation. Maybe it works for shallow interactions but I have read better books on true likeability such as Likeability Factor by Tim Sanders.
Benjamin Franklin- kill frenemies with kindness and ask for their expertise.
Pygmalion- act like a friend or act the part and you'll become that person.
Propinquity- being around people more makes you more comfortable.
Know your style of leadership.
Prevent judgement by letting people know details about you so they feel they know you and won't draw stereotypical conclusions. Share different sides of your personality and change their view about you.
Confident, quick and funny answers make you likeable. Monologues or indecisive answers weigh on people.
The chapter on chi-chat is about gossiping effectively so that the traits you describe in others are ascribed to you.
Good ideas but it seems like a shallow guide to social manipulation. Maybe it works for shallow interactions but I have read better books on true likeability such as Likeability Factor by Tim Sanders.
September 25, 2017
There were some interesting things, but also things that I think are wrong. Many of the suggestions/comments are overly simplistic. I've been working on a project about how/why people do and don't connect. I don't remember anything remarkable in this book or that I hadn't heard before, and a few things I just disagreed with. e.g One chapter suggests sharing and being vulnerable - which is true, to an extent. But there is also oversharing, as Brene Brown discusses. Another example - acting like a close friend can make you more likeable. I think that can work, and can backfire. There were some interesting points too - If you assume the best, you will start treating them in a way that makes you like them more, and they will like you more.
Overall, I wouldn't recommend the book.
Overall, I wouldn't recommend the book.
September 29, 2017
Better than I expected
See; first of all, this book lost a whole star because I had the whispersinc to voice version. The narrator was heinous. I finished the book and I'm not sure if it was a robot or a human. It sounded wrong, like sintetized voice failing spectacularly in imprint emotions in sentences. Sounded like an agonizing dying metal bird.
On the other hand, the content is better than I expected. Quite robust in scientific references and straight to the point. Felt a couple chapters were a bit silly; should be better explored or edited out (eg; leadership chapter). But overall, it was nice and informative.
See; first of all, this book lost a whole star because I had the whispersinc to voice version. The narrator was heinous. I finished the book and I'm not sure if it was a robot or a human. It sounded wrong, like sintetized voice failing spectacularly in imprint emotions in sentences. Sounded like an agonizing dying metal bird.
On the other hand, the content is better than I expected. Quite robust in scientific references and straight to the point. Felt a couple chapters were a bit silly; should be better explored or edited out (eg; leadership chapter). But overall, it was nice and informative.
December 22, 2017
For me, The Science of Likeability is a 3 star book. It's interesting and it has helpful tips; however, some of it's content is either painfully obvious or seems a little over the top.
Regardless, I gained some valuable insight and really think that certain chapters were more helpful than others - and worth revisiting when I have questions - while others didn't seem to be very helpful.
I liked having a book that I could pick up and read and then drop for a few days without feeling like I was missing out or forgot major plot points. The Science of Likeability is a great leisurely book to read.
Regardless, I gained some valuable insight and really think that certain chapters were more helpful than others - and worth revisiting when I have questions - while others didn't seem to be very helpful.
I liked having a book that I could pick up and read and then drop for a few days without feeling like I was missing out or forgot major plot points. The Science of Likeability is a great leisurely book to read.
February 5, 2018
Easy to read
This book had a lot of mostly common sense ideas a person can practice to become more likeable. Each chapter explains a summary of the experiments or theories behind why these tactics work. These would be easy to adopt the ones you aren't already using into everyday life. Some I would not use, like finding out what a person likes and pretending to like it. But even then the author explains why such tactics work. There are sections on group interaction and leadership as well. One other criticism I had was there could be more details. Each chapter is written so it really is a summary with basic details given.
This book had a lot of mostly common sense ideas a person can practice to become more likeable. Each chapter explains a summary of the experiments or theories behind why these tactics work. These would be easy to adopt the ones you aren't already using into everyday life. Some I would not use, like finding out what a person likes and pretending to like it. But even then the author explains why such tactics work. There are sections on group interaction and leadership as well. One other criticism I had was there could be more details. Each chapter is written so it really is a summary with basic details given.
April 13, 2018
A good interesting read.
I started reading this book out of curiosity as tend to be attrcted to psychology research books which this one has.
Apart from that the book is well structured so it is eady to follow. The fact that comes with research that backs up the information is even better.
I have started using one method already about acting like a friend to people I wanted to get closser together yet jist met and it definitely has been working for me.
Overall it is a good read and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
I started reading this book out of curiosity as tend to be attrcted to psychology research books which this one has.
Apart from that the book is well structured so it is eady to follow. The fact that comes with research that backs up the information is even better.
I have started using one method already about acting like a friend to people I wanted to get closser together yet jist met and it definitely has been working for me.
Overall it is a good read and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
September 5, 2020
Extremely basic and much of the advice was terrible. Here's one example:
"So to appear more charismatic, it鈥檚 clearly better to speak first and loudly, even if you have nothing to say and even if you are speaking gibberish. Slow and silent, while it may not be seen as negative, clearly won鈥檛 have the overwhelming positive effect that acting quickly will have."
Apparently, if you want to be charismatic, it doesn't matter what you say as long as you say it quickly.
This book was a waste of time and money.
"So to appear more charismatic, it鈥檚 clearly better to speak first and loudly, even if you have nothing to say and even if you are speaking gibberish. Slow and silent, while it may not be seen as negative, clearly won鈥檛 have the overwhelming positive effect that acting quickly will have."
Apparently, if you want to be charismatic, it doesn't matter what you say as long as you say it quickly.
This book was a waste of time and money.
November 10, 2017
This book is a quick read about the various wars in which we can consciously take advantage of natural human physiology to form better relationships and creat greater influence in our lives.
My favorite takeaway from this book is the tendency of our thoughts about others to be true. If we take the time to actively decide to look at people in a positive light, I锔弔 may very well be the case that they 鈥渕agically鈥� begin to act in alignment with our thoughts.
My favorite takeaway from this book is the tendency of our thoughts about others to be true. If we take the time to actively decide to look at people in a positive light, I锔弔 may very well be the case that they 鈥渕agically鈥� begin to act in alignment with our thoughts.
January 8, 2018
Just what the world needs: how to make more phony people
I鈥檇 give this no stars if possible. Quick summary is 鈥渇ake it till you make it.鈥� Fool people into believing you鈥檙e their friend and that you care about them in order to get into their circle. Yes, it works. The world is full of people who do that. Personally I鈥檇 rather make a real connection with just one person than phony my way through any situation.
Totally not for me.
I鈥檇 give this no stars if possible. Quick summary is 鈥渇ake it till you make it.鈥� Fool people into believing you鈥檙e their friend and that you care about them in order to get into their circle. Yes, it works. The world is full of people who do that. Personally I鈥檇 rather make a real connection with just one person than phony my way through any situation.
Totally not for me.
January 25, 2018
The author either cannot or will not differentiate between being likable, and manipulating people.
That he can鈥檛 see it is alarming. That 90% of the reviews can鈥檛 see it is a further indication as to the great Republic crumbling at its foundations.
鈥淚 can fake anything except sincerity,鈥� goes the old quote.
Yes he does. Got through chapter 1.
Pure sociopath, and a best selling author! Sound familiar * cough cough orange clown. *
That he can鈥檛 see it is alarming. That 90% of the reviews can鈥檛 see it is a further indication as to the great Republic crumbling at its foundations.
鈥淚 can fake anything except sincerity,鈥� goes the old quote.
Yes he does. Got through chapter 1.
Pure sociopath, and a best selling author! Sound familiar * cough cough orange clown. *
January 26, 2018
This is a great read. Very positive and easy to read. It never feels preachy or feel talked down to
I would definitely (and already have) recommended this book to my "inner ring" of friends :) youll get the reference if you choose to read! You really should by the way. Full of positive and easy ways to incorporate quick little tips in socializing, you'll be turning the pages with eager and ease.
I would definitely (and already have) recommended this book to my "inner ring" of friends :) youll get the reference if you choose to read! You really should by the way. Full of positive and easy ways to incorporate quick little tips in socializing, you'll be turning the pages with eager and ease.
June 4, 2018
Tips for traveling through life's ineractions.
Enjoyable read. If you're not very socially adept, this will definitely give you key cues by which to operate. If you have always been socially adept, there are some GREAT reminders in here. The book is laid out well, provides concrete examples and scenarios. A major benefit is it follows a progression from low-level interaction to more difficult circumstances.
Enjoyable read. If you're not very socially adept, this will definitely give you key cues by which to operate. If you have always been socially adept, there are some GREAT reminders in here. The book is laid out well, provides concrete examples and scenarios. A major benefit is it follows a progression from low-level interaction to more difficult circumstances.
March 27, 2023
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丕賱賳賲賷賲丞 鬲毓賳賷 賲丨丕賵賱丞 廿賮爻丕丿 匕丕鬲 丕賱亘賷賳 賰兀賳 賷賯丕賱 賱卮禺氐 賲丕 : (賮賱丕賳 鬲賰賱賲 賮賷賰 亘賰匕丕 賵賰匕丕) 貙 賲賰丿賽賾乇丕賸 氐賮賵 丕賱毓賱丕賯丕鬲 亘賷賳 丕賱賲丐賲賳賷賳 兀賵 賲毓賲賽賾賯丕賸 丿乇噩丞 丕賱賰丿乇 亘賷賳賴賲. 賵賴賷 鬲毓丿 賲賳 丕賱賰亘丕卅乇 賵賯丿 賵乇丿 毓賳 乇爻賵賱 丕賱賱賴 (氐) 賯賵賱賴: 芦兀賱丕 兀賳亘卅賰賲 亘卮乇丕乇賰賲責 賯丕賱賵丕 : 亘賱賶 賷丕 乇爻賵賱 丕賱賱賴 貙 賯丕賱: 丕賱賲卮丕丐賵賳 亘丕賱賳賲賷賲丞 貙 丕賱賲賮乇賯賵賳 亘賷賳 丕賱兀丨亘丞
August 20, 2017
Nice Refresher, Some Aha Moments
Nothing blew my mind, but there were several "aha..." moments that I could relate to actions and habits of my more sociable friends, peers, and role models. If nothing else, it's a great little book to refresh on some topics and keep them at the forefront during my day to day. The very short and focused chapters make that easier to accomplish.
Nothing blew my mind, but there were several "aha..." moments that I could relate to actions and habits of my more sociable friends, peers, and role models. If nothing else, it's a great little book to refresh on some topics and keep them at the forefront during my day to day. The very short and focused chapters make that easier to accomplish.
October 19, 2017
Overall a good read. Some items are treated as more of an overview and I feel could have been fleashed out more with examples. But fortunately the majority of the book does a good job addressing concepts and behaviors. Nothing earth shattering but good to keep these principles in your thoughts and start to make them into habits. Especially for us introverts.
February 1, 2018
Unlike How to Win Friends that tells you that people like compliments but Carnegie is quick to point out only make a sincere compliment, this book tells you to pretend to be clumsy and gossip can be great for bonding. But in the conclusion this author tells you not to pretend to be clumsy, that鈥檚 not the way to use the knowledge given in the book. WTF?
February 10, 2018
Practical information
I enjoyed reading the book. From the social setting to the professional, it definitely has practical tactics to succeed. Like he says in the boom, some information sounds obvious, but when it鈥檚 broken down scientifically it makes more sense. For me personally, that will make it more useable.
I enjoyed reading the book. From the social setting to the professional, it definitely has practical tactics to succeed. Like he says in the boom, some information sounds obvious, but when it鈥檚 broken down scientifically it makes more sense. For me personally, that will make it more useable.
March 6, 2018
Very insightful
My life has changed in many positive ways. I have a spouse, a job and a new car at great price. Maybe not all due to the book. In seriousness, very digestible quick studies with concise take always. Definitely gets you thinking about your interactions, particularly with strangers.
My life has changed in many positive ways. I have a spouse, a job and a new car at great price. Maybe not all due to the book. In seriousness, very digestible quick studies with concise take always. Definitely gets you thinking about your interactions, particularly with strangers.
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