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¿Tienes a veces la sensación de estar desbordado por la existencia? ¿Paralizado por compromisos –afectivos, laborales...� que ya no te satisfacen? ¿Dominado por complejos de culpa o inseguridad? No proyectes tu insatisfacción en otros, la causa está en ti, en las zonas erróneas de tu personalidad, que te bloquean e impiden que te realices. Esta obra, quizá la más leída y respetada de toda la literatura de autoayuda, muestra dónde se encuentran, qué significan y cómo superarlas. Todo ello contado con la amenidad y sencillez de quien sabe que puede cooperar en la mejora de la vida de los otros.
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Wayne W. Dyer
231books3,386followersWayne Walter Dyer was an American self-help author and a motivational speaker. Dyer earned a Bachelor’s degree in History and Philosophy, a Master’s degree in Psychology and an Ed.D. in Guidance and Counseling at Wayne State University in 1970. Early in his career, he worked as a high school guidance counselor, and went on to run a successful private therapy practice. He became a popular professor of counselor education at St. John's University, where he was approached by a literary agent to put his ideas into book form. The result was his first book, Your Erroneous Zones (1976), one of the best-selling books of all time, with an estimated 100 million copies sold. This launched Dyer's career as a motivational speaker and self-help author, during which he published 20 more best-selling books and produced a number of popular specials for PBS. Influenced by thinkers such as Abraham H. Maslow and Albert Ellis, Dyer's early work focused on psychological themes such as motivation, self actualization and assertiveness. By the 1990s, the focus of his work had shifted to spirituality. Inspired by Swami Muktananda and New Thought, he promoted themes such as the "power of intention," collaborated with alternative medicine advocate Deepak Chopra on a number of projects, and was a frequent guest on the Oprah Winfrey Show.
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December 8, 2021
Many people will hate me for my review, others will be puzzled. But it can save your life. Literally. This book is a fine example of how (literally) dead wrong a guru can be on his ideas and beliefs, which however seem nice and adorable and people follow them with no further research.
There are many, many false ideas, assumptions, conclusions that violate human physiology and how our mind works (which can also affect our health!), such as
- Our thoughts create our feelings
- You can choose your thoughts by decision and that will change your feelings
- You can choose health over illness
- By changing the words you use, you can change your reality
- You can replace your erroneous beliefs with new positive ones just because you want to
- You can ignore your negative emotions like they don't exist
... and many, many others.
The core philosophy of this book is that we can all change our life just by changing our ideas and beliefs. Although it does spot ideas and beliefs that cause trouble, if fails miserably in how to change them and in fact suggests ways that can be detrimental to our emotional and, in the end, our physical health. I don't want to sound cruel, but Wayne Dyer failed to choose his own health over illness. He struggled with leukemia for some years and finally died from a heart attack and his people tried to convince us that his cause of death was irrelevant to his illness. Even if it's true, heart attack at 75? A man who had found ways to think positively and live happily without stress? Please spend some good time thinking about it.
Biology and neuroscience have proved the bad effects of ignoring and suppressing our negative thoughts and emotions on our body and eventually our health. Psychology has found ways of intervention that are much more effective and healthy than the ones suggested in this book. What we have here is a book written in 1976 by a man who clearly does not know how our brain works and is lost in phenomenology.
By using nice words, comforting language, and blaming "bad thoughts" this book may have affected millions of people and probably did some damage to many of them. Especially if you are sick, I suggest that you stop reading this book and others like that to save your life. Respect your negative emotions and thoughts and use healthy ways of administering them, changing your mind reality and processes and improving your life such as meditation, mindfulness, contemporary techniques of positive psychology and if things get serious ask for help such as Mindfulness-based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (MCBT), Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) or other healthy interventions. This book is so wrong and dangerous that I wouldn't suggest reading it even for the few nice ideas you can find there.
There are many, many false ideas, assumptions, conclusions that violate human physiology and how our mind works (which can also affect our health!), such as
- Our thoughts create our feelings
- You can choose your thoughts by decision and that will change your feelings
- You can choose health over illness
- By changing the words you use, you can change your reality
- You can replace your erroneous beliefs with new positive ones just because you want to
- You can ignore your negative emotions like they don't exist
... and many, many others.
The core philosophy of this book is that we can all change our life just by changing our ideas and beliefs. Although it does spot ideas and beliefs that cause trouble, if fails miserably in how to change them and in fact suggests ways that can be detrimental to our emotional and, in the end, our physical health. I don't want to sound cruel, but Wayne Dyer failed to choose his own health over illness. He struggled with leukemia for some years and finally died from a heart attack and his people tried to convince us that his cause of death was irrelevant to his illness. Even if it's true, heart attack at 75? A man who had found ways to think positively and live happily without stress? Please spend some good time thinking about it.
Biology and neuroscience have proved the bad effects of ignoring and suppressing our negative thoughts and emotions on our body and eventually our health. Psychology has found ways of intervention that are much more effective and healthy than the ones suggested in this book. What we have here is a book written in 1976 by a man who clearly does not know how our brain works and is lost in phenomenology.
By using nice words, comforting language, and blaming "bad thoughts" this book may have affected millions of people and probably did some damage to many of them. Especially if you are sick, I suggest that you stop reading this book and others like that to save your life. Respect your negative emotions and thoughts and use healthy ways of administering them, changing your mind reality and processes and improving your life such as meditation, mindfulness, contemporary techniques of positive psychology and if things get serious ask for help such as Mindfulness-based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (MCBT), Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) or other healthy interventions. This book is so wrong and dangerous that I wouldn't suggest reading it even for the few nice ideas you can find there.
July 29, 2012
honestly, I don't know why it received a 3 star rating. This book changed my outlook! Dyre teaches us that Approval seeking is engrained in our culture. Some feel guilt and shame and are constantly seeking approval doubting themselves and not being able to decide or process their feelings to acheive compromise or a rational result. They value peoples opinions more than they value their own especially if those people they seek approval of are close and important to them. This develops at a very young age. It has to do with self-worth yes, but it develops at school, in our culture, from our parents attitudes. The best thing about this book is it gives you a very nice little test to take to determine which areas you really need to work on, Approval, Self-Love, Perfectionism, etc... I would recommend this book to anyone who has always doubted their own abilities and struggle with dependency and reliance on others to make their decisions for them. It teaches you how to disarm people who criticize you and makes you realize that people have different experiences, right or wrong. If you open yourself up to negativity, to vulnerability, then most people will tend to dump their insecurities on you. It teaches you to accept responsibility for your actions, to stop worrying about the future, to live in the now, and to stop saying sorry and apologizing for every single thing, mistake or not! One more thing, stop asking this or that person if your judgement is right or wrong. Think it through, write the negatives and positives (pros and cons) of feeling the way you do and then rationalize it. This will stop your impulsive behaviour to lash out. You think relationship books helps? THEY DON'T! These books do! If you want to have a meaningful relationship, start by building yourself, by accepting your mistakes, but not beating yourself up for it. The more you think positively, the more radiant and attractive you feel, and the more assertive your behaviour will be. Let me say that I am stating the obvious, and it is easier said than done! But running a marathon will probably be easier than changing your self-defeating habits. It will take time, take focus, (read Think Fast Think Slow) and it will take a lot of verbatim with yourself. Don't expect others to help you along the way, to seek marriage in order to seek security, to seek love for the sake of running away from your problems. The end result is disastrous! Seek instead self-love, self-worth, and accept people for who they are, accept what they say but never internalize it. you never know what people are really thinking, and you can never truly trust a person's judgement until you trust your own first! It is a book I will read and re-read and re-read! The one thing to keep in mind is that you need not only to read but to practice the things you've learned. So stop beating yourself up, compromise, disarm those who feed your negativity, and rationalize by taking nothing personally and start living your life the way you want and stop worrying about what others think of you. Accept love, stop fearing the outcomes, predict nothing, and enjoy every single minute! I hope this helps!
June 26, 2019
Your Erroneous Zones, Wayne W. Dyer
Your Erroneous Zones is the first self-help book written by Wayne Dyer and issued on August 1, 1976.
تاریخ نخستین خوانش: سال 1985 میلادی
این کتاب با عنوانهای: «بررسی� نقا� ضعف� شما� مترجم: مصطفی رحیم زاده، تهران، مشک افشان، 1380، در 315 ص»؛ «چگونه� شخصیت� سالمت� بیابیم�: غلبه� ب� عصبیت� مترجم: بدرالزمان نیک فطرت، تهران، زمان، 1364، در 253 ص، چاپ سوم 1369، تهران، علم 1373، در 256 ص، چاپ ششم 1374، چاپ دوازدهم 1390»؛ «نقاط ضعف شما، مترجم: اصغر سجادیان، تهران، عطایی، 1382، در 366 ص»؛ «باورهای غلط شما، مترجم: پروین ادیب، کتاب پارسه، 1388، در 323 ص، چاپ پنجم 1393»؛ «قلمرو اشتباهات زندگی شما»؛ «قلمرو اشتباهات شما، مترجم: سمیرا اباذری، تهران، ندای معاصر، 1398، در 224 ص»؛ «قلمرو اشتباهات شما، مترجم: فروزنده دولتیاری، تهران، نیک فرجام، 1397، در 344 ص»؛ «قلمرو اشتباهات شما، مترجم: آزیتا نجات مهر، تهران، الماس پارسیان، 1396، در 344 ص»؛ «نقاط ضعف خودتان را بشناسید، مترجم: محمدجواد نعمتی، تهران، پل، 1394، در 301 ص»؛ هر کدام بارها با ترجمه مترجمهای مختلف چاپ و نشر شده است؛ شاید اگر حالم بهتر شد، در فرصتی مشخصات کاملتر را بنگارم. ا. شربیانی
Your Erroneous Zones is the first self-help book written by Wayne Dyer and issued on August 1, 1976.
تاریخ نخستین خوانش: سال 1985 میلادی
این کتاب با عنوانهای: «بررسی� نقا� ضعف� شما� مترجم: مصطفی رحیم زاده، تهران، مشک افشان، 1380، در 315 ص»؛ «چگونه� شخصیت� سالمت� بیابیم�: غلبه� ب� عصبیت� مترجم: بدرالزمان نیک فطرت، تهران، زمان، 1364، در 253 ص، چاپ سوم 1369، تهران، علم 1373، در 256 ص، چاپ ششم 1374، چاپ دوازدهم 1390»؛ «نقاط ضعف شما، مترجم: اصغر سجادیان، تهران، عطایی، 1382، در 366 ص»؛ «باورهای غلط شما، مترجم: پروین ادیب، کتاب پارسه، 1388، در 323 ص، چاپ پنجم 1393»؛ «قلمرو اشتباهات زندگی شما»؛ «قلمرو اشتباهات شما، مترجم: سمیرا اباذری، تهران، ندای معاصر، 1398، در 224 ص»؛ «قلمرو اشتباهات شما، مترجم: فروزنده دولتیاری، تهران، نیک فرجام، 1397، در 344 ص»؛ «قلمرو اشتباهات شما، مترجم: آزیتا نجات مهر، تهران، الماس پارسیان، 1396، در 344 ص»؛ «نقاط ضعف خودتان را بشناسید، مترجم: محمدجواد نعمتی، تهران، پل، 1394، در 301 ص»؛ هر کدام بارها با ترجمه مترجمهای مختلف چاپ و نشر شده است؛ شاید اگر حالم بهتر شد، در فرصتی مشخصات کاملتر را بنگارم. ا. شربیانی
October 9, 2011
هذا الكتاب بلغته الأصليه وليس الترجمه ..
خرافي! لو أقدر أعطيه 10 نجوم من 5 عطيته ..
قرأته في 2006 ، تغيرت نفسيتي تماما وأذكر انيتخلصت من الكثير من المشاعر السلبيه اللي مالها سبب معين الا ترسبات قديمه .. جيد جدا لمن تكون في أسوأ مراحل حياتك النفسيه "2006" كانت بداية جيده بسبب هذا الكتاب.
كنت في أول سنه جامعيه والحياه متغيره لكن هذا الكتاب ساعدني اني أشوف وين المشكله وكيف احلها ..
أنصح فيه لأي أحد في أي عمر .. وأنصح بقرائته عدة مرات على حسب الحاجه :]
خرافي! لو أقدر أعطيه 10 نجوم من 5 عطيته ..
قرأته في 2006 ، تغيرت نفسيتي تماما وأذكر انيتخلصت من الكثير من المشاعر السلبيه اللي مالها سبب معين الا ترسبات قديمه .. جيد جدا لمن تكون في أسوأ مراحل حياتك النفسيه "2006" كانت بداية جيده بسبب هذا الكتاب.
كنت في أول سنه جامعيه والحياه متغيره لكن هذا الكتاب ساعدني اني أشوف وين المشكله وكيف احلها ..
أنصح فيه لأي أحد في أي عمر .. وأنصح بقرائته عدة مرات على حسب الحاجه :]
February 12, 2021
YOUR ERRONEOUS ZONES by Wayne W. Dyer is a book that challenges you to question your emotional habits. Each chapter tackles a different erroneous zone (I.e. self-destructive behaviour) and walks through why the way we ALWAYS respond to situations isn’t necessarily the BEST way to respond to situations� even if the responses are ones that we as a collective label “normal.� Some of these erroneous zones include seeking approval from others, living in the past, feeding guilt/worry, perfectionism, the justice trap, procrastination, and more (hmmm, any of those feel familiar to you?! 😅🙋♀�)
What I really appreciated about this one is the fact that it made me confront a lot of learned responses and think about how they may (or may not) be limiting me. Wayne emphasizes throughout each chapter that our emotions are choices—it often feels easier to submit to feelings of anger/sadness/doubt when they pop up, but we have the power to shift our headspace. We have a choice on what thoughts we choose to feed.
The book is direct and doesn’t attempt to cushion hard truths. Although I’m nowhere near being free of every erroneous zones for the rest of my life (the last chapter walks through the life of a person free of all erroneous zones and I have yet to meet someone that has their shit together at that level LOL), it’s left me more determined to take control over my emotions.
Overall, I’m going to be taking a look at Wayne’s other books in the future.... his writing style is really easy to follow, so I’m curious to see what other topics he explores. The book was originally published in the 70s, so there are definitely some dated examples, but still a lot of stuff relevant to 2021.
An easy read that provoked some deep inner work... I suspect that this is one I’m going to reread at different stages of my life. 🙌
What I really appreciated about this one is the fact that it made me confront a lot of learned responses and think about how they may (or may not) be limiting me. Wayne emphasizes throughout each chapter that our emotions are choices—it often feels easier to submit to feelings of anger/sadness/doubt when they pop up, but we have the power to shift our headspace. We have a choice on what thoughts we choose to feed.
The book is direct and doesn’t attempt to cushion hard truths. Although I’m nowhere near being free of every erroneous zones for the rest of my life (the last chapter walks through the life of a person free of all erroneous zones and I have yet to meet someone that has their shit together at that level LOL), it’s left me more determined to take control over my emotions.
Overall, I’m going to be taking a look at Wayne’s other books in the future.... his writing style is really easy to follow, so I’m curious to see what other topics he explores. The book was originally published in the 70s, so there are definitely some dated examples, but still a lot of stuff relevant to 2021.
An easy read that provoked some deep inner work... I suspect that this is one I’m going to reread at different stages of my life. 🙌
September 20, 2014
I admit to being skeptical of this book before I began. I needed a non-fiction book of some sort to balance my reading diet, and this one had somehow found its way into our bedroom and been staring at me from the dresser for--well, I suspect several years--so I decided I would at least see what it said. I expected it to be a lot of psychobabble pablum of little value. It was so much worse than that.
It hit me wrong twice within the first few pages. First, it made the argument that since we are mortal we have only our brief life on earth and therefore should base everything we do on making that as good, in our own view, as we can. Obviously, if he is right then much of what he says follows from it--but I am of the view that this life is just the opening chapter of eternity, and that what we do now matters in eternal terms. I thus had a bad start right there.
He then attempted to commandeer the word "intelligence" to mean something other than intelligence. Certainly I can understand that people who are not intelligent can still be wise and smart and clever and capable and successful--indeed, more successful than I. I understand that intelligence, as measured by tests and puzzles and logic problems, is not the be-all and end-all of existence. However, as a person for whom intelligence is perhaps my strongest trait it was offensive to be told that such a thing does not really exist. The author suggested that since anyone can learn anything if he works at it hard and long enough, everyone is really as intelligent as anyone else. Right. Tell it to Einstein.
Gradually I began to get the overall theory of the book. People are unhappy in large part because we let other people dictate our view of our selves and our actions. If you want to be happy, you must ignore everything everyone else thinks--peer pressure, parental guidance, schooling, everything you have ever learned, everything society tells you about how you ought to act. In short, you should decide what you want to do and who you want to be, then do that, and not worry about what anyone else thinks.
That seems to me to be the definition of sociopathic.
He tries to avoid that by hedging here and there. You should not do things simply because everyone else disapproves--doing something for its shock value is just as much being controlled by others as doing things for approval. Ultimately, though, the lines are ephemeral, the boundaries nonexistent, and the direction for finding a happy life is simply to do whatever you want and ignore anyone else who suggests that you are making bad choices.
I'm not one for social and societal correctness; I'm pretty bad at it, actually. However, I do perceive major problems with a concept of ignoring the dictates of society. It is bound to interfere with your happiness, whether because it results in exclusion from social gatherings or in incarceration and criminal penalties. The author just assumes that his readers will not go there, without any clear explanation of why.
Now, I am probably not the right audience for this book. It was a bestseller, and probably found its audience among middle and upper middle class businessmen and housewives and others--people whose problems in life are mostly that they are stressed about little things. People with real problems in the real world are not going to benefit much from this--the advice that worry has no value probably won't be much use to someone who is certain that he will be evicted or have his car repossessed or his utilities terminated, and he has no means of forestalling it. Of course it has no value; yet the advice to live life as it comes is not very encouraging to those for whom life comes at you fast, as the insurance commercial said.
So maybe it would be helpful for some people, but frankly I did not find it to be advice I would apply in my own life or recommend to others--at least, in the main. Here and there I thought there was something of worth, but it was buried in material I would as soon not have read.
It hit me wrong twice within the first few pages. First, it made the argument that since we are mortal we have only our brief life on earth and therefore should base everything we do on making that as good, in our own view, as we can. Obviously, if he is right then much of what he says follows from it--but I am of the view that this life is just the opening chapter of eternity, and that what we do now matters in eternal terms. I thus had a bad start right there.
He then attempted to commandeer the word "intelligence" to mean something other than intelligence. Certainly I can understand that people who are not intelligent can still be wise and smart and clever and capable and successful--indeed, more successful than I. I understand that intelligence, as measured by tests and puzzles and logic problems, is not the be-all and end-all of existence. However, as a person for whom intelligence is perhaps my strongest trait it was offensive to be told that such a thing does not really exist. The author suggested that since anyone can learn anything if he works at it hard and long enough, everyone is really as intelligent as anyone else. Right. Tell it to Einstein.
Gradually I began to get the overall theory of the book. People are unhappy in large part because we let other people dictate our view of our selves and our actions. If you want to be happy, you must ignore everything everyone else thinks--peer pressure, parental guidance, schooling, everything you have ever learned, everything society tells you about how you ought to act. In short, you should decide what you want to do and who you want to be, then do that, and not worry about what anyone else thinks.
That seems to me to be the definition of sociopathic.
He tries to avoid that by hedging here and there. You should not do things simply because everyone else disapproves--doing something for its shock value is just as much being controlled by others as doing things for approval. Ultimately, though, the lines are ephemeral, the boundaries nonexistent, and the direction for finding a happy life is simply to do whatever you want and ignore anyone else who suggests that you are making bad choices.
I'm not one for social and societal correctness; I'm pretty bad at it, actually. However, I do perceive major problems with a concept of ignoring the dictates of society. It is bound to interfere with your happiness, whether because it results in exclusion from social gatherings or in incarceration and criminal penalties. The author just assumes that his readers will not go there, without any clear explanation of why.
Now, I am probably not the right audience for this book. It was a bestseller, and probably found its audience among middle and upper middle class businessmen and housewives and others--people whose problems in life are mostly that they are stressed about little things. People with real problems in the real world are not going to benefit much from this--the advice that worry has no value probably won't be much use to someone who is certain that he will be evicted or have his car repossessed or his utilities terminated, and he has no means of forestalling it. Of course it has no value; yet the advice to live life as it comes is not very encouraging to those for whom life comes at you fast, as the insurance commercial said.
So maybe it would be helpful for some people, but frankly I did not find it to be advice I would apply in my own life or recommend to others--at least, in the main. Here and there I thought there was something of worth, but it was buried in material I would as soon not have read.
December 20, 2018
Había oído hablar varias veces de este libro pero no era consciente de lo mucho que lo necesitaba hasta que cayó accidentalmente en mis manos. No es una guía absoluta ni la solución inmediata a todos los problemas, pero a mí por lo menos me ha hecho replantearme algunos comportamientos muy arraigados en mi personalidad y de los que no era del todo consciente. Puede ser que sea uno de esos libros que solo puedes absorber al máximo cuando te encuentras en un momento receptivo, en el que te planteas que quizá necesites otro enfoque en la vida. No renacerás al instante de terminarlo, pero incita a que reflexiones interiormente y eso nunca está de más.
February 17, 2016
The audiobook is only an hour and a half, because it's abridged, but it's packed full of helpful information. Here are my favorite points:
We have control of our feelings. We have the choice of how we process other people's opinion. Esteem lies within you, not in other people. That's why it's called self-esteem.
"As you think, so shall you be."
"You are what you think about all day long."
If you put a label on yourself such as "I am..." and your label becomes your reality, then you're acting on that and processing that as who you are. It's a neurosis trap. It's self-defeating. These "I am" statements are a choice. You can choose the kind of personality you're going to have. It's not something you're stuck with. If you say "I'm disorganized," it's because you choose to be. You can be any way that you want to be.
You can do anything!
Don't let an old person move into your body.
Guilt is the immobilization of living in the past. It's very powerful and gets people to conform. Ask yourself, "Instead of feeling guilty now, what could I be doing? What am I avoiding?" Teach people that guilt no longer applies.
Worry immobilizes you in the present about the future. Again, what could you be doing now if you didn't worry?
Ask yourself, "Does it immobilize me in the present?" If so, then get rid of it.
When the student is ready, the teacher appears. For example, you may have a book on your shelf at home for decades before you actually read it and realize how much valuable information it contained.
Security is an illusion.
You have to make the decision to change. It's a fear of moving into new territory that keeps you where you are and the fear is only in your mind. A new, healthy, fulfilling, exciting and exquisite life is only a thought away.
Don't keep looking for fairness, justice or for everything being exactly equal. Stop comparing yourself to others and keep your nose out of other people's garden.
If you want to get ahead in life and all that you know you can make of it, then you have to say to yourself, "Why am I choosing not to do that?"
What you think about expands. If you argue for limitations in your life, that's what you'll get. If you argue for happiness, that's what you'll get.
Anything you can visualize you can act upon.
You won't be punished for your anger, you'll be punished by your anger. When you're angry, you're carrying around the seeds of your destruction and the destruction of others. It's not the act that makes you angry. It's how you process the act that does.
I highly recommend this book to anyone looking to read something inspiring that helps you to change your mindset.
We have control of our feelings. We have the choice of how we process other people's opinion. Esteem lies within you, not in other people. That's why it's called self-esteem.
"As you think, so shall you be."
"You are what you think about all day long."
If you put a label on yourself such as "I am..." and your label becomes your reality, then you're acting on that and processing that as who you are. It's a neurosis trap. It's self-defeating. These "I am" statements are a choice. You can choose the kind of personality you're going to have. It's not something you're stuck with. If you say "I'm disorganized," it's because you choose to be. You can be any way that you want to be.
You can do anything!
Don't let an old person move into your body.
Guilt is the immobilization of living in the past. It's very powerful and gets people to conform. Ask yourself, "Instead of feeling guilty now, what could I be doing? What am I avoiding?" Teach people that guilt no longer applies.
Worry immobilizes you in the present about the future. Again, what could you be doing now if you didn't worry?
Ask yourself, "Does it immobilize me in the present?" If so, then get rid of it.
When the student is ready, the teacher appears. For example, you may have a book on your shelf at home for decades before you actually read it and realize how much valuable information it contained.
Security is an illusion.
You have to make the decision to change. It's a fear of moving into new territory that keeps you where you are and the fear is only in your mind. A new, healthy, fulfilling, exciting and exquisite life is only a thought away.
Don't keep looking for fairness, justice or for everything being exactly equal. Stop comparing yourself to others and keep your nose out of other people's garden.
If you want to get ahead in life and all that you know you can make of it, then you have to say to yourself, "Why am I choosing not to do that?"
What you think about expands. If you argue for limitations in your life, that's what you'll get. If you argue for happiness, that's what you'll get.
Anything you can visualize you can act upon.
You won't be punished for your anger, you'll be punished by your anger. When you're angry, you're carrying around the seeds of your destruction and the destruction of others. It's not the act that makes you angry. It's how you process the act that does.
I highly recommend this book to anyone looking to read something inspiring that helps you to change your mindset.
September 2, 2022
A ver, yo no es como que soy muy fan de los libros de autoayuda por lo cual esta reseña puede que no sea muy justa, pero en términos generales, creo que es un libro que pudo haber tenido mucho potencial, sin embargo, no me gustó del todo. Puedo rescatar muchas cosas con las que me quedo, como la zona errónea de la necesidad de aprobación, o la de la culpa y también la de la obligación que sentimos con los "debes". Pero aparte de esto, siento que va al mismo plano del típico libro que intenta decirte que seas libre y hagas lo que quieras y al mismo tiempo diciéndote lo que debes hacer. En muchas partes sentí que los ejemplos no eran del todo prácticos para la vida real y van un poco a una fantasía que no existe.
En algunos capítulos se iba a extremos en los que la validación de los sentimientos no existe (cuando todos sabemos que es una parte importante de la sanación y salud mental). Digamos que te presenta un tipo de persona inhumano con rasgos "independientes y controlados". Yo me voy más por el lado de gestión de las emociones, que por el lado de la eliminación por completo. Por ejemplo, es mejor explicarle al lector cómo gestionar la ira de manera saludable, que decirle que debe eliminarla por completo como por arte de magia. Creo que ahí fue que tuve el choque de pensamiento.
No obstante, hay muchísimas cosas que sí que me gustaron, principalmente las que hablan de la toma de decisiones y el tomar la responsabilidad de lo que nos pasa y lo que hacemos con ello.
3 estrellas, buen potencial, pero no del todo práctico.
En algunos capítulos se iba a extremos en los que la validación de los sentimientos no existe (cuando todos sabemos que es una parte importante de la sanación y salud mental). Digamos que te presenta un tipo de persona inhumano con rasgos "independientes y controlados". Yo me voy más por el lado de gestión de las emociones, que por el lado de la eliminación por completo. Por ejemplo, es mejor explicarle al lector cómo gestionar la ira de manera saludable, que decirle que debe eliminarla por completo como por arte de magia. Creo que ahí fue que tuve el choque de pensamiento.
No obstante, hay muchísimas cosas que sí que me gustaron, principalmente las que hablan de la toma de decisiones y el tomar la responsabilidad de lo que nos pasa y lo que hacemos con ello.
3 estrellas, buen potencial, pero no del todo práctico.
June 25, 2020
Un libro para leer y releer lo había visto recomendado multitud de veces pero no me animaba, me llego en el mejor momento es muy bueno y te abre la mente, estoy segura que volveré a él.Es un libro altamente adictivo por todo lo que nos transmite.
August 19, 2018
Σχεδον καθε καλοκαιρι πεφτει στα χερια μου κατα εναν περιεργο τροπο, ενα βιβλιο αυτοβελτιωσης.θες απο εναν γειτονα που το προτεινει, θες επειδη εχει ξεμεινει στο εξοχικο..καπως θα καταληξω να διαβαζω ενα τετοιο βιβλιο παντοτε ξεκινωντας με την επιφυλαξη "καλα τι αλλο θα μου δωσει τωρα αυτο το βιβλιο περα απο ολα οσα εχω παρει απο οταν τα ειχα διαβασει με το τσουβαλι στο παρελθον?".κι ομως..οπως εχω ξαναπει, αυτα τα βιβλια τελικα ειναι θεμα timing.μπορει να εχεις διαβασει δεκαδες απο αυτα στο παρελθον, αλλα αν πεσει ενα απο αυτα στα χερια σου οταν το ζητα μια αναγκη μεσα σου, γινεται το κλικ.ετσι συνεβη κ σε μενα με τον κυριο Ντυερ.διαβασα τα λογια του σαν βαλσαμο σε πληγες και αναγκες που εχω μεσα μου και που ισως δεν τους δινω πολλη σημασια.ειδα ποσο εχω προχωρησει ή και οχι απο την τελευταια φορα που κοιταξα πραγματικα μεσα μου.το βιβλιο αυτο δε λεει ουτε μεγαλες φιλοσοφιες ουτε δινει τις μαγικες λυσεις.αλλα λεει απλες αληθειες που αφορουν ολους οσους θελουν να τις ακουσουν και να τις δεχτουν και να γινουν καλυτεροι.
October 16, 2023
Me he leído unas 70 páginas y no he podido seguir. Este discurso terrible de tu puedes decidir como te sientes me parece casi una burla o una parodia. Esto no es escoge tu propia aventura cariño.
La conducta humana va mucho más allá.
Dejo por aquí frases estelares:
“¿Por qué voy a escoger la depresión?�
“Si te sientes deprimido a causa de un huracán es que te estás diciendo a ti mismo cosas que te deprimen respecto al huracán� Amigooo wtf
“si estás cansado, puedes hacer distintas cosas para remediarlo, pero quejarte aunque sea a una sola persona, es un abuso de confianza.�
Pues mira, estoy cansada de este tipo de libros que ven a las personas como máquinas. Que creen que apretando un botón, que llaman pensamientos, todo se soluciona�
Por más momentos donde nos quejemos, nos sostengamos y nos dejemos afectar por las cosas 🫂❤️
Besitos
La conducta humana va mucho más allá.
Dejo por aquí frases estelares:
“¿Por qué voy a escoger la depresión?�
“Si te sientes deprimido a causa de un huracán es que te estás diciendo a ti mismo cosas que te deprimen respecto al huracán� Amigooo wtf
“si estás cansado, puedes hacer distintas cosas para remediarlo, pero quejarte aunque sea a una sola persona, es un abuso de confianza.�
Pues mira, estoy cansada de este tipo de libros que ven a las personas como máquinas. Que creen que apretando un botón, que llaman pensamientos, todo se soluciona�
Por más momentos donde nos quejemos, nos sostengamos y nos dejemos afectar por las cosas 🫂❤️
Besitos
June 23, 2016
This book just makes a lot of sense. It completely blew my mind! Herein, Dyer presents us with a completely different paradigm, a new lens from which to look at ourselves and the world. He introduces very many fundamental principles on right living, most of which we are already aware of, but unwilling to apply or fear the consequences of doing so - being that we live in a society wherein we are constantly bombarded on a daily basis with hundreds of cultural messages that encourages us to obey, to conform, to think and behave a certain way, to blame, to seek approval & acceptance, to feel guilt, etc. I'm giving myself time digest everything I've read, the paradigm shift I've experienced, then read the book AGAIN before attempting a "proper" review of this amazing piece of work.
July 7, 2013
الكتاب يساعدك على اكتشاف نقاط ضعفك ومعرفة مدى تأثيرها على حياتك و أسبابها وماتجنيه من حاجات نفسيه من وراء تمسك فيها ، ويلخص لك بعض الأساليب والتطبيقات للتحرر منها ..
يحتوي على 12 فصل ، كل فصل يتكلم عن نقطه ضعف ويعرضها عليك بطريقه جديده في كل مره ..
احببت طريقة عرض الكاتب للمشكله في انه يحللها ويعطيك امثله ممكن انت تقع فيها في حياتك اليوميه ، وآخر شي طُرق لتغييرها ..
تقسيم الفصول:
1- كن مسئولا عن نفسك
2- الحب الأول
3- لست في حاجة إلى استحسان الآخرين
4- التحرر من قيود الماضي
5- مشاعر وأحاسيس لانفع من ورائها: الشعور بالذنب والقلق
6- استكشاف المجهول
7- كسر حاجز التقاليد
8- مصيدة العدل
9- ضع حداً للتسويف: الآن
10- اعلن استقلالك
11- وداعاً للغضب
12- صورة لإنسان قد استأصل كل مواطن الضعف
يحتوي على 12 فصل ، كل فصل يتكلم عن نقطه ضعف ويعرضها عليك بطريقه جديده في كل مره ..
احببت طريقة عرض الكاتب للمشكله في انه يحللها ويعطيك امثله ممكن انت تقع فيها في حياتك اليوميه ، وآخر شي طُرق لتغييرها ..
تقسيم الفصول:
1- كن مسئولا عن نفسك
2- الحب الأول
3- لست في حاجة إلى استحسان الآخرين
4- التحرر من قيود الماضي
5- مشاعر وأحاسيس لانفع من ورائها: الشعور بالذنب والقلق
6- استكشاف المجهول
7- كسر حاجز التقاليد
8- مصيدة العدل
9- ضع حداً للتسويف: الآن
10- اعلن استقلالك
11- وداعاً للغضب
12- صورة لإنسان قد استأصل كل مواطن الضعف
January 23, 2012
Este es el único libro que recuerdo, que cambió mi vida, en su momento.
Yo lo leí a los 18 años. Empecé a ver mis relaciones con los demás de manera diferente.
En ese tiempo estaba lejos de tener las experiencias y el conocimiento que tengo hoy, más aún, después de estudiar psicología, por eso ese libro en su momento me ayudó a abrir los ojos, a no caer en las trampas de los demas (que quizas crean sin intención), a no manejar culpas ni dejarmelas imponer, a no caer en manipulaciones, etc., etc.
Es un excelente libro, que siempre he querido volver a leer.
A lo mejor hoy muchas cosas me parezcan obvias, pero se que puede ser muy enriquecedor para muchas personas.
Yo lo leí a los 18 años. Empecé a ver mis relaciones con los demás de manera diferente.
En ese tiempo estaba lejos de tener las experiencias y el conocimiento que tengo hoy, más aún, después de estudiar psicología, por eso ese libro en su momento me ayudó a abrir los ojos, a no caer en las trampas de los demas (que quizas crean sin intención), a no manejar culpas ni dejarmelas imponer, a no caer en manipulaciones, etc., etc.
Es un excelente libro, que siempre he querido volver a leer.
A lo mejor hoy muchas cosas me parezcan obvias, pero se que puede ser muy enriquecedor para muchas personas.
December 10, 2018
La crisis social que vivimos ahora es resultado (parte) de la filosofía que promueven libros como este. “Nada es un fracaso� “Si lo imaginas, lo puedes ser� “Nunca te equivocaste, es solo un enfoque�, “eres un ser divino� etc. Vivir con esta mentalidad superficial crea gente superficial y frustrada que no quiere aceptar la realidad. Un ejemplo es el absurdo y textual ejemplo que comparte el autor: “no estás gordo, es un error y un prejuicio decirte así, tienes abundancia de corporeidad, tienes que amarte como eres�.... Pésimo libro que promueve una pésima filosofía....
October 9, 2009
I love Wayne Dyer so when I was helping my MIL clear out and organize her huge book collection and found this old gem, I asked if I could have it. Let me tell you, it does not disappoint. Written in 1976 and his first book, it reads like he wrote it last week. Straight forward and real, this book will hit home for everyone! I'm going slow and learning, learning.
April 2, 2014
While the ideas were revolutionary back in 1976 when it was first published. Today this kind of ideas have been over exploited and is difficult to judge based on who published his book first, who has the better system or who goes into more detail.
The true thing is that no matter who you like or how many self-help books you read. Is until you give it a try and start living by these ideas that you'll notice how you are actually and truly able to accomplish whatever you want.
The true thing is that no matter who you like or how many self-help books you read. Is until you give it a try and start living by these ideas that you'll notice how you are actually and truly able to accomplish whatever you want.
October 24, 2023
Satisfactory if we consider it was an original approach h when it was initially published. Obviously, some of the premises are questionable as new scientific research proves some of Wayne’s views to be weak and/or heavily biased, but it is nevertheless an adequate work which was necessary at the time of its publication and which help many people identify and address certain problematic behaviour that may be preventing them from living a better, more fulfilling life.
I read it and re-read it multiple times! The first time I read Your Erroneous Zones I was still a teenager. To me it is the best book of its kind. All those new cheesy, overly simplistic authors who are proclaming they 'know how to find happiness and will take you there' should probably learn from Wayne Dyer- to a degree. That said, Dyer's writing style has changed and I don't enjoy his later work as much as I enjoyed his early work. Remember that some of what is noted in the book will work for you and some will not. There are some sections that for many may come across as harsh and/or already debunked by science, and that is why I changed my rating from 5 stars to 4 but keep the best and ignore what doesn’t work for you.
One more thing. At some point I was misguided thinking of self-development books as merely 'how to be happy' books. That is no longer the case. Self-development books can be motivational, inspiring and effective if you find the right writer for you. A person can be already a happy person but one can always be happier; udentifying areas in your life that you can control and those which you cannot helps life satisfaction and builds self-awareness.
I read it and re-read it multiple times! The first time I read Your Erroneous Zones I was still a teenager. To me it is the best book of its kind. All those new cheesy, overly simplistic authors who are proclaming they 'know how to find happiness and will take you there' should probably learn from Wayne Dyer- to a degree. That said, Dyer's writing style has changed and I don't enjoy his later work as much as I enjoyed his early work. Remember that some of what is noted in the book will work for you and some will not. There are some sections that for many may come across as harsh and/or already debunked by science, and that is why I changed my rating from 5 stars to 4 but keep the best and ignore what doesn’t work for you.
One more thing. At some point I was misguided thinking of self-development books as merely 'how to be happy' books. That is no longer the case. Self-development books can be motivational, inspiring and effective if you find the right writer for you. A person can be already a happy person but one can always be happier; udentifying areas in your life that you can control and those which you cannot helps life satisfaction and builds self-awareness.
March 16, 2025
Se proponen herramientas, más o menos acertadas, para identificar y erradicar pensamientos autodestructivos que limitan la felicidad y el crecimiento personal... Desde una perspectiva algo hedonista, bajo mi punto de vista. Se argumenta que las personas viven atrapadas en zonas erróneas (patrones negativos de pensamiento como la culpa, preocupación excesiva, dependencia, aprobación ajena, miedo al cambio, etc.). Se anima al lector a asumir el control de sus acciones y emociones. Hay una idea que me gustó en especial, la de locus interno (creemos que tenemos todo el control de lo que nos pasa) y locus externo (creemos que son otras personas o las circunstancias las que dominan nuestra vida). El lenguaje es claro, es una lectura fácil que nos conduce al empoderamiento personal y nos responsabiliza de nuestra propia felicidad, dando el valor real a nuestras acciones y minimizando factores externos como la cultura o contexto económico y social.
April 20, 2015
قرأت الكتاب بالعربية، الترجمة بها الكثير من العيوب، وبعض الجمل غير مفهومة. الكتاب من الأروع في التغيير، كان يغيرني في نفس اللحظة. أتمنى أن لا أنسى نصائحه، سجلتها بعناية، وسأجتهد لإزالة جميع مواطن الضعف لدي. أندم على كوني كنت مبتعدا عن هذه الكتب الفترة الماضية، كانت حياتي ستكون مختلفة. أنصح به، وبشدة!
July 7, 2020
WARNING - a bitter summary.
I saw once a tattoo on someone's arm saying:
Fuck the rest, I'm the best.
Basically that's the best summary of the book.
The book is 300 pages LONG!
I don't remember how many times I snoozed while reading this book. The content is super long for something that could be said just in a few words: live in the moment and follow your own rules by simply not caring about what others think of you and not being so uptight about cultural and societal norms. Amen to this.
Don't know if it's because the author got paid per page and wrote same things on repeat,
or his editor sucked
or the dude who did Polish translation did a HORRIBLE job,
but this book was in my opinion a real challenge if not a torture to get through.
Luckily for me I bought 2 books so now I'm mentally preparing for the second one - help!
I saw once a tattoo on someone's arm saying:
Fuck the rest, I'm the best.
Basically that's the best summary of the book.
The book is 300 pages LONG!
I don't remember how many times I snoozed while reading this book. The content is super long for something that could be said just in a few words: live in the moment and follow your own rules by simply not caring about what others think of you and not being so uptight about cultural and societal norms. Amen to this.
Don't know if it's because the author got paid per page and wrote same things on repeat,
or his editor sucked
or the dude who did Polish translation did a HORRIBLE job,
but this book was in my opinion a real challenge if not a torture to get through.
Luckily for me I bought 2 books so now I'm mentally preparing for the second one - help!
April 20, 2020
Non mi ha convinto del tutto. Non è male ma per le recensioni che avevo visto mi aspettavo qualcosa in più. Ci sono libri di self help che passano in sordina e sono sicuramente altrettanto validi se non di più. L'edizione poi è piena di refusi e con un uso della sintassi e del lessico davvero forzato, non so se dipenda dalla traduzione o se sia l'autore stesso ad usare termini così antiquati (ad un certo punto ho trovato scritto papà natale invece di babbo natale).
Ci sono tanti consigli utili, ma il tono di saccenza che ho percepito per tutta la lettura (anche qui non so se dipenda dalla traduzione) non mi ha aiutato ad entrare in sintonia con l'autore.
Ci sono tanti consigli utili, ma il tono di saccenza che ho percepito per tutta la lettura (anche qui non so se dipenda dalla traduzione) non mi ha aiutato ad entrare in sintonia con l'autore.
September 2, 2013
وین دایر نویسنده محبوب من نیست.وشخصا کسی هم نیستم که بعد از خواندن چندین و چند کتاب روانشناسی شخصیت بخواهم خیلی زود تحت تاثیر مطلبی قرار بگیرم.اما این کتاب از نظر من بشدت خوب نوشته شده و یک کتاب راهنمایی روانشناسی به زبان ساده برای تمام آدم هایی هست که به دنبال کاهش تنش و آرامش بیشتر در زندگی هستند. در طول 5-6 سال گذشته ی زندگی ام هرجا که لازم بوده به این کتاب مراجعه کرده ام و خیلی واضح ریشه ی آن رفتار یا عمل که مانع پیشرفتم شده یا موجب ناراحتی ام دیده ام.و فکر می کنم تا آخرین روز عمرم باز هم چیزی در این کتاب خواهد بود که با خواندنش آن را در روح خودم کشف کنم.
June 18, 2023
نکات خوب و آموزنده داشت ،بسیار کاربردی .کتابی که با مطالعه چند فصل از آن متوجه اشتباهات رفتاری خود و دیرگان را به ما گوشزد میکنه که مناسب برای کنترل شخصیت به ویژه خصیصه های رفتاری همچون عصبانیت و خشم و... جهت توسعه فردی و دارای شخصیت سالم باشند و یک خودسازی کوچک داشته باشند. موفقیت و داشتن جامعها� سالم، از آن کسانی است که نه فقط به فکر درمان جسم خود،بلکه به فکر درمان روح و روان دیگران نیز باشند.
January 5, 2019
Maravilloso. Ayuda mucho a eliminar tus actitudes, pensamientos y actos que no necesitas: ira, ansiedad, miedo... Un MUST
June 1, 2021
made me even more anxious
March 30, 2024
4/5 ⭐️ Tus zonas erróneas es un libro que ayuda a visualizar todo aquello que de manera directa o indirecta nos pueden causar la infelicidad.. no es la panacea del alma pero SI una guía en cómo detectar nuestras zonas erróneas qué desde la infancia venimos acarreado y en ocasiones eso limita es que seamos libres de lo que nos rodea y podamos vivir plenamente en el presidente.. Un libro para leer a cualquier edad y re-leerlo las veces que sea necesario!
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March 5, 2016 "Psychotherapist Albert Ellis wrote that Dyer's book Your Erroneous Zones was probably "the worst example" of plagiarism of Ellis' Rational Emotive Therapy (RET). In a 1985 letter to Dyer, Ellis claimed that Dyer had participated in an Ellis workshop on RET before he published Your Erroneous Zones, in which Dyer appeared to understand RET very well. Ellis added that "300 or more people have voluntarily told me... that [the book] was clearly derived from RET." Dyer never apologized nor expressed any sense of wrongdoing. Ellis admonished Dyer for unethically and unprofessionally failing to credit Ellis's work as the book's primary source, but expressed overall gratitude for Dyer's work, writing: "Your Erroneous Zones is a good book, ... it has helped a great number of people, and ... it outlines the main principles of RET quite well,... with great simplicity and clarity." ...hat's off to Albert Ellis!
c/o Wikipedia
...what an apple...RIP
c/o Wikipedia
...what an apple...RIP
September 7, 2013
Your Erroneous Zones is simply one of the greatest self-help books ever written. For people just beginning to read self-help or spiritual books, this book is a great place to start. It is nearly imperative that if one reads any book by Dr. Wayne Dyer that they start with this book. By reading his books in order of copyright, the amazing shift in his philosophy and interests over the years can be witnessed.
Dr. Dyer has written so many books, but important books to follow with this one are "Pulling Your Own Strings," "Your Sacred Self," and "Manifest Your Destiny." Later works include "Change Your Thoughts - Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao."
Your Erroneous Zones is a book for people who are just beginning to discover that we all have thoughts that do not serve us towards living a self-fulfilled life. We are given erroneous viewpoints from childhood and can live a more self-actualized life by becoming aware of our self-defeating thoughts.
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