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丕賱兀胤賮丕賱 賲賳 丕賱噩賳丞 : 賲賴丕乇丕鬲 鬲乇亘賵賷丞 廿賷噩丕亘賷丞 賱鬲賳卮卅丞 兀胤賮丕賱 賲鬲毓丕賵賳賷賳 貙 賵丕孬賯賷賳 貙 賲鬲毓丕胤賮賷賳
鬲賯賵賲 丕賱乇爻丕卅賱 丕賱禺賲爻丞 賱賱鬲乇亘賷丞 丕賱丕賷噩丕亘賷丞 亘鬲丿毓賷賲 卮毓賵乇 賯賵賶 亘丕賱匕丕鬲 賵鬲丨鬲賵賷 毓賱賶 賴亘丞 禺丕氐丞 賱賱鬲賲賷夭: 亘丕賱爻賲丕丨 亘丕賱丕禺鬲賱丕賮. 亘丕賱爻賲丕丨 亘丕乇鬲賰丕亘 丕賱禺胤兀. 賷爻鬲胤賷毓 丕賱丕胤賮丕賱 鬲氐丨賷丨 兀賳賮爻賴賲貙 賵丕賱鬲毓賱賲 賲賳 兀禺胤丕卅賴賲貙 賵鬲丨賯賷賯 賳噩丕丨丕鬲 兀賰亘乇 亘丕賱爻賲丕丨 亘丕賱鬲毓亘賷乇 毓賳 丕賱賲卮丕毓乇 丕賱爻賱亘賷丞. 亘丕賱爻賲丕丨 亘丕賱乇睾亘丞 賮賷 丕賱賲夭賷丿. 賷賰鬲爻亘 丕賱丕胤賮丕賱 卮毓賵乇丕 氐丨賷丕 亘賲丕 賷爻鬲丨賯賵賳賴 賵賲賴丕乇丞 鬲兀噩賷賱 丕卮亘丕毓 丕賱乇睾亘丕鬲 亘丕賱爻賲丕丨 賱賴賲 亘丕賱賲賯丕賵賲丞 賷爻鬲胤賷毓 丕賱丕胤賮丕賱 鬲丿乇賷亘 丕乇丕丿鬲賴賲 賵丕賰鬲爻丕亘 卮毓賵乇 氐丨賷 賵丕賷噩丕亘賷 亘丕賱匕丕鬲.
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First published August 1, 2000
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John Gray
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John Gray is an American relationship counselor, lecturer, and author. In 1969, he began a nine-year association with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi before beginning his career as an author and personal relationship counselor. In 1992 he published the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which became a long-term best seller and formed the central theme of his subsequent books and career activities. His books have sold millions of copies.
John Gray is an American relationship counselor, lecturer, and author. In 1969, he began a nine-year association with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi before beginning his career as an author and personal relationship counselor. In 1992 he published the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which became a long-term best seller and formed the central theme of his subsequent books and career activities. His books have sold millions of copies.
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November 18, 2016
At first I thought I was reading this one for work, and I saw from the title that it only concerns parents or teachers... but my interest grew bigger soon after I started with it.
It helps us to know more about ourselves now, when we understand what got us here and this book takes us way back to childhood. It shows us the links between some of our insecurities or securities and the parenting techniques or lack of techniques we received as children. We see how some of our characteristics and tendencies began to evolve.
What I would like to share from this book is some chapters' titles.
The Five Messages of Positive Parenting:
- It's okay to be different.
- It's okay to make mistakes.
- It's okay to express negative emotions.
- It's okay to want more.
- It's okay to say no, but remember mom and dad are the bosses.
The Four Temperaments:
-Sensitive children need listening and understanding.
- Active children need preparation and structure.
- Responsive children need distraction and direction.
- Receptive children need ritual and rhythm.
And The Different intelligences:
- Academic intelligence.
- Emotional intelligence.
- Physical intelligence.
- Creative intelligence.
- Artistic intelligence.
- Common sense intelligence.
- Intuitive intelligence.
- Gifted intelligence.
I do recommend it to self-explorers and I think it's a must-read for parents and teachers.
It helps us to know more about ourselves now, when we understand what got us here and this book takes us way back to childhood. It shows us the links between some of our insecurities or securities and the parenting techniques or lack of techniques we received as children. We see how some of our characteristics and tendencies began to evolve.
What I would like to share from this book is some chapters' titles.
The Five Messages of Positive Parenting:
- It's okay to be different.
- It's okay to make mistakes.
- It's okay to express negative emotions.
- It's okay to want more.
- It's okay to say no, but remember mom and dad are the bosses.
The Four Temperaments:
-Sensitive children need listening and understanding.
- Active children need preparation and structure.
- Responsive children need distraction and direction.
- Receptive children need ritual and rhythm.
And The Different intelligences:
- Academic intelligence.
- Emotional intelligence.
- Physical intelligence.
- Creative intelligence.
- Artistic intelligence.
- Common sense intelligence.
- Intuitive intelligence.
- Gifted intelligence.
I do recommend it to self-explorers and I think it's a must-read for parents and teachers.
June 23, 2019
賰鬲丕亘 噩賲賷賱
毓噩亘鬲賳賷 賯氐丞 兀爻鬲丕匕 賲乇亘毓 丕賱匕賷 毓賳丿賴 孬賱丕孬 兀胤賮丕賱(( 丿丕卅乇丞 賵賲孬賱孬 賵賲乇亘毓 氐睾賷乇))
賵賲丕 兀賰孬乇 丨乇氐賴 毓賱賷 廿賳鬲丕噩 賲乇亘毓丕鬲 賲孬丕賱賷丞 賲孬賱賴
賵賴賳丕 鬲亘丿兀 賲毓丕賳丕丞 丕賱丕胤賮丕賱 賵丕賱兀亘
賵卮毓賵乇 丕賱兀胤賮丕賱 賵丕賱兀亘 亘丕賱匕賳亘 .
賵馗賴賵乇 兀卮亘丕賴 卮禺氐賷丞
胤亘毓丕 賲丕 兀爻毓丿 丕賱賲乇亘毓 丕賱氐睾賷乇
賵兀賲丕 丕賱亘丕賯賷 兀氐亘丨賵 賲卮賵賴賷賷賳 賱賲 賷氐亘丨賵 兀賳賮爻賴賲 賰賲丕 賷噩亘 賵賱賲 賷氐亘丨賵 賲乇亘毓 爻賱賷賲 賲鬲毓丕賮賷 亘丿賵賳 兀囟乇丕乇 賵廿賳亘毓丕噩 賮賷 爻胤丨賴 賵丿丕禺賱 乇賵丨賴
兀爻鬲丕匕 賲乇亘毓 亘丿賱丕 賲賳 兀賳 鬲爻毓賷 賱鬲乇亘賷丞 賲乇亘毓丕鬲 賲孬丕賱賷丞
賮賷 廿賲賰丕賳賰. 鬲乇亘賷丞 兀賮囟賱 丿丕卅乇丞 賵兀賮囟賱 賲孬賱孬
((賰賱 胤賮賱 爻賷氐亘丨 兀賮囟賱 賮賷 丕賱賯丕賱亘 丕賱匕賷 賴賵丕 胤亘賷毓鬲賴))
毓噩亘鬲賳賷 賯氐丞 兀爻鬲丕匕 賲乇亘毓 丕賱匕賷 毓賳丿賴 孬賱丕孬 兀胤賮丕賱(( 丿丕卅乇丞 賵賲孬賱孬 賵賲乇亘毓 氐睾賷乇))
賵賲丕 兀賰孬乇 丨乇氐賴 毓賱賷 廿賳鬲丕噩 賲乇亘毓丕鬲 賲孬丕賱賷丞 賲孬賱賴
賵賴賳丕 鬲亘丿兀 賲毓丕賳丕丞 丕賱丕胤賮丕賱 賵丕賱兀亘
賵卮毓賵乇 丕賱兀胤賮丕賱 賵丕賱兀亘 亘丕賱匕賳亘 .
賵馗賴賵乇 兀卮亘丕賴 卮禺氐賷丞
胤亘毓丕 賲丕 兀爻毓丿 丕賱賲乇亘毓 丕賱氐睾賷乇
賵兀賲丕 丕賱亘丕賯賷 兀氐亘丨賵 賲卮賵賴賷賷賳 賱賲 賷氐亘丨賵 兀賳賮爻賴賲 賰賲丕 賷噩亘 賵賱賲 賷氐亘丨賵 賲乇亘毓 爻賱賷賲 賲鬲毓丕賮賷 亘丿賵賳 兀囟乇丕乇 賵廿賳亘毓丕噩 賮賷 爻胤丨賴 賵丿丕禺賱 乇賵丨賴
兀爻鬲丕匕 賲乇亘毓 亘丿賱丕 賲賳 兀賳 鬲爻毓賷 賱鬲乇亘賷丞 賲乇亘毓丕鬲 賲孬丕賱賷丞
賮賷 廿賲賰丕賳賰. 鬲乇亘賷丞 兀賮囟賱 丿丕卅乇丞 賵兀賮囟賱 賲孬賱孬
((賰賱 胤賮賱 爻賷氐亘丨 兀賮囟賱 賮賷 丕賱賯丕賱亘 丕賱匕賷 賴賵丕 胤亘賷毓鬲賴))
June 3, 2010
賰鬲丕亘 賲鬲乇噩賲 賱賱賰丕鬲亘 噩賵賳 睾乇丕賷
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賷鬲賰賱賲 毓賳 禺賲爻丞 兀爻丕賱賷亘 賱賱鬲乇亘賷丞 丕賱廿賷噩丕亘賷賴
賱賱丨氐賵賱 毓賱賶 丕胤賮丕賱 賲鬲毓丕賵賳賷賷賳 賵丕孬賯賷賷賳
賷丨鬲丕噩 丕賱丌亘丕亍 廿賱賶 賯乇丕卅鬲賴 賲乇丕鬲 賵賲乇丕鬲 賵丕賱鬲丿乇亘 毓賱賶 鬲賱賰 丕賱兀爻丕賱賷亘
賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 睾賷乇 丕賱賰孬賷賷乇 賲賳 丕賮賰丕乇賷 亘卮兀賳 丕賱鬲乇亘賷賴 ..
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賷鬲賰賱賲 毓賳 禺賲爻丞 兀爻丕賱賷亘 賱賱鬲乇亘賷丞 丕賱廿賷噩丕亘賷賴
賱賱丨氐賵賱 毓賱賶 丕胤賮丕賱 賲鬲毓丕賵賳賷賷賳 賵丕孬賯賷賷賳
賷丨鬲丕噩 丕賱丌亘丕亍 廿賱賶 賯乇丕卅鬲賴 賲乇丕鬲 賵賲乇丕鬲 賵丕賱鬲丿乇亘 毓賱賶 鬲賱賰 丕賱兀爻丕賱賷亘
賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 睾賷乇 丕賱賰孬賷賷乇 賲賳 丕賮賰丕乇賷 亘卮兀賳 丕賱鬲乇亘賷賴 ..
March 16, 2014
Very good once he gets to the point!! I think this book should be summarized to half of it. Over 350 pages is too much for what he has to say. And the question" HOW do I do that."arises a lot while I'm reading. Maybe everything will come clear at the end. Otherwise there are a lot of important points about parenting I learned from here that I wouldn't have known elsewhere. I'm a Bit skeptical about the part about avoiding fear based methods,I think there should be at least a tiny part of it. The chapter about minimizing resistance is good though,tells you how to deal with every kind of child.
March 20, 2014
賰鬲丕亘 噩賲賷賱貙 賱賷爻 賮賯胤 賱兀賳賴 賷毓賱賲 賰賷賮 賷噩亘 兀賳 賳鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓 丕賱兀胤賮丕賱貙 亘賱 賱兀賳賴 賷賮鬲丨 兀毓賷賳賳丕 毓賱賶 兀賳賮爻賳丕貨 賰賷賮 賳卮兀賳丕 賷賵賲 賰賳丕 兀胤賮丕賱! 賷爻丕毓丿 丕賱廿賳爻丕賳 毓賱賶 兀賳 賷乇丕噩毓 賳卮兀鬲賴 賵鬲乇亘賷鬲賴 賵賷賰賵賳 兀賰孬乇 鬲賮賴賲丕 賱賲丕 賱丕 賷毓噩亘賴 賮賷 鬲乇亘賷鬲賴 賵兀賯丿乇 毓賱賶 賲毓丕賱噩丞 兀賷 丌孬丕乇 馗賱鬲 賮賷 賳賮爻賴 賲賳 鬲賱賰 丕賱賲乇丨賱丞 丕賱兀賴賲 賮賷 丨賷丕丞 賰賱 廿賳爻丕賳
February 4, 2016
I skimmed a lot, but appreciated the techniques in here. Skip this repetitive read, and give your kids 5 things:
1. Permission to be different, which enables children to discover, appreciate, and develop their unique inner potential and purpose.
2. Permission to make mistakes, which enables children to self-correct, learn from their mistakes, and achieve greater success.
3. Permission to express negative emotions, which teaches children to manage their emotions and develop a feeling awareness that makes them more confident, compassionate, and cooperative.
4. Permission to want more, which helps children develop a healthy sense of what they deserve and the skill of delayed gratification. They are able to want more, and yet be happy with what they have.
5. Permission to say no, which enables children to exercise their will and to define a true and positive sense of self. This freedom strengthens children鈥檚 mind, heart, and will and develops a greater awareness of what they want, feel, and think. This permission to resist authority is at the basis of all the positive-parenting skills.
Then every time you need cooperation, do the following steps:
1. Ask for what you want child to do
2. Listen and validate feelings
3. Offer a related reward if possible ("If you get PJs on now, we'll have time for a story")
4. Give a command ("I want you to..."). Repeat this command several times if necessary.
5. Give a time out (not a punishment, but a chance for child to regain self control)
1. Permission to be different, which enables children to discover, appreciate, and develop their unique inner potential and purpose.
2. Permission to make mistakes, which enables children to self-correct, learn from their mistakes, and achieve greater success.
3. Permission to express negative emotions, which teaches children to manage their emotions and develop a feeling awareness that makes them more confident, compassionate, and cooperative.
4. Permission to want more, which helps children develop a healthy sense of what they deserve and the skill of delayed gratification. They are able to want more, and yet be happy with what they have.
5. Permission to say no, which enables children to exercise their will and to define a true and positive sense of self. This freedom strengthens children鈥檚 mind, heart, and will and develops a greater awareness of what they want, feel, and think. This permission to resist authority is at the basis of all the positive-parenting skills.
Then every time you need cooperation, do the following steps:
1. Ask for what you want child to do
2. Listen and validate feelings
3. Offer a related reward if possible ("If you get PJs on now, we'll have time for a story")
4. Give a command ("I want you to..."). Repeat this command several times if necessary.
5. Give a time out (not a punishment, but a chance for child to regain self control)
August 25, 2013
賵噩丿鬲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 鬲噩丕乇賷丕賸 賱賱睾丕賷丞 貙 賱賲 賷丨鬲賵賷 亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賷 毓賱賶 兀賷丞 廿囟丕賮丞 鬲乇亘賵賷丞 貙 賱賲 丕爻鬲賲鬲毓 亘賴 賵賱賲 丕爻鬲賮丿 賲賳賴
March 26, 2013
Thanks to my journal, I discover that I read some parenting books in the year 2008. But why???
I remember this to be a bulky book and I definitely can't remember all the principles that are shared until I read it again. Here are 5 messages to positive parenting.
1. It's okay to be different
2. It's okay to make mistakes
3. It's okay to express negative emotions
4. It's okay to want more. [Though I have an issue with this- if it's okay to want more, then how will I teach them contentment?] Maybe that was explained but I didn't put it down.
5. It's okay to say no, but Mom and Dad are the bosses.
I remember this to be a bulky book and I definitely can't remember all the principles that are shared until I read it again. Here are 5 messages to positive parenting.
1. It's okay to be different
2. It's okay to make mistakes
3. It's okay to express negative emotions
4. It's okay to want more. [Though I have an issue with this- if it's okay to want more, then how will I teach them contentment?] Maybe that was explained but I didn't put it down.
5. It's okay to say no, but Mom and Dad are the bosses.
February 28, 2017
賯亘賱 兀賳 兀賯鬲賳賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賮賰乇鬲 賮賷 丕爻鬲毓丕乇鬲賴 賲賳 賯乇賷亘丞 賱賷 賱丿賷賴丕 兀乇亘毓丞 兀胤賮丕賱貙 賱賲丕 乇兀賷鬲 睾賱丕賮 賰鬲丕亘賴丕 賵賯丿 夭賷丿鬲 賰賱賲丞 亘賷賳 丕賱爻胤乇賷賳 賮兀氐亘丨 丕賱毓賳賵丕賳 ( 丕賱兀胤賮丕賱 卮賷丕胤賷賳 賲賳 丕賱噩賳丞) 賴賰匕丕 賯乇兀鬲賴貙
亘毓丿 兀賳 卮賲賲鬲 乇丕卅丨丞 丕賱噩賳丞 賵乇夭賯 亘胤賮賱賷 噩賳鬲賷
毓乇賮鬲 亘兀賳 賴匕賴 丕賱噩賳丞 賱丕 賷鬲賲鬲毓 亘賴丕 丕賱賰孬賷乇貙 賵毓賱賶 丕賱乇睾賲 賲賳 兀賳賳賷 賯乇兀鬲 賳爻禺丞 廿賱賰鬲乇賵賳賷丞 賯乇乇鬲 卮乇丕亍 賳爻禺丞 賵乇賯賷丞 禺丕氐丞 亘賷 賱兀賯乇兀 毓賳賵丕賳賴 賮賯胤 賮賷 賲賰鬲亘鬲賷 賰賱 賷賵賲.
亘毓丿 兀賳 卮賲賲鬲 乇丕卅丨丞 丕賱噩賳丞 賵乇夭賯 亘胤賮賱賷 噩賳鬲賷
毓乇賮鬲 亘兀賳 賴匕賴 丕賱噩賳丞 賱丕 賷鬲賲鬲毓 亘賴丕 丕賱賰孬賷乇貙 賵毓賱賶 丕賱乇睾賲 賲賳 兀賳賳賷 賯乇兀鬲 賳爻禺丞 廿賱賰鬲乇賵賳賷丞 賯乇乇鬲 卮乇丕亍 賳爻禺丞 賵乇賯賷丞 禺丕氐丞 亘賷 賱兀賯乇兀 毓賳賵丕賳賴 賮賯胤 賮賷 賲賰鬲亘鬲賷 賰賱 賷賵賲.
October 18, 2010
賰鬲丕亘 鬲乇亘賵賷 賲賳 丕賱胤乇丕夭 丕賱兀賵賱
毓噩亘賳賷 賵丕賷丿 賵丕爻賲鬲毓鬲 賮賷賴
毓噩亘賳賷 賵丕賷丿 賵丕爻賲鬲毓鬲 賮賷賴
February 7, 2017
賰鬲丕亘 丨賱賵 賷爻丕毓丿賰 賮賷 鬲丨爻賷賳 胤乇賷賯鬲賰 賮賷 丕賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓 丕賱兀胤賮丕賱 丕賵 丕賱賲乇丕賴賯賷賳.
February 15, 2010
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* Memupuk kemauan anak & bukan menjinakkannya adalah dasar untuk menciptakan rasa percaya diri, sikap kooperatif, dan memahami perasaan orang lain pada diri anak.
* Tujuan membesarkan anak-anak secara positif adalah menciptakan anak2 yang punya kemauan, tapi bersikap kooperatif. Tujuannya bukan menciptakan anak baik2, tapi membuat anak bersikap mengerti terhadap perasaan orang lain. Tujuan menciptakan anak2 menjadi kooperatif tidak sama dengan menciptakan anak2 'penurut'. Anak-anak kooperatif masih menginginkan apa yang mereka inginkan, tapi mereka lebih ingin menyenangkan orangtua mereka....
* Kehidupan bermoral tidak dipaksakan dari luar pada anak2 tapi timbul dari dalam dan dipelajari melalui kerjasama dengan orangtua.
* Hukuman membuat orangtua/guru menjadi musuh yang harus ditinggal bersembunyi, bukan menjadi orangtua yang harus didatangi untuk dimintai dukungan. Dulu hukuman untuk mempertahankan kendali sebagai orangtua, tapi sekarang malah sebaliknya. Karena anak-anak sekarang lebih sensitif, dalam artian mudah meng-copy tindakan buruk dengan membalas keburukan pula.
* Anak anak mendengarkan bila orangtua juga mendengarkan mereka.
wah..itu baru poin-poin pendahuluan, lom ke halaman 1....
amazing!
* Anak juga membutuhkan waktu 'sendiri' walau dalam hitungan beberapa menit saja, namun anak manja biasanya membutuhkan waktu sendiri lebih banyak, untuk dapat memahami sitasinya.
* Ajari anak untuk meminta, bukan memerintah. dampingi untuk memilih kata yang tepat, seperti kata "tolong.. , ayo.."
bukan dengan kata "jangan.. , sana! ..."
* Kata- ajakan seperti "ayo kita.." efektif untuk anak berumur 9 thn kebawah. untuk setelahnya, lebih efektif dengan bertindak bersama..
* menangani anak remaja ;
bukan dengan memberi kebebasan , tapi menguatkan komunikasi...yang jelas dan terbuka.
karna bila ia merasa tidak diterima di rumah, maka ia akan mencari dukungan dari temannya.
salah satu poin yang bagus :
"Anak-anak tidak pernah jelak, mereka hanya lepas dari kendali"
* kalau orangtua berpinmdah ke bawah garis generasi, maka anak mungkin terpaksa menjadi dewasa terlalu dini.
* kalau orangtua membutuhkan dukungan emosional, sepantasnya mereka mendapatkan dari orang yang berada diatas generasinya, bukan kepada anak.
penulis kawakan ini bahkan membutuhkan 30 tahun untuk mengembangkan kemahiran mengasuh secara positif yang tertuang dalam buku ini. 16 tahun sebagai penasihat, serta mempelajari situasi terutama dari problema para orangtua. 14 tahun untuk mengembangkan aplikasinya...
* Bagian penting dalam mengasuh anak adalah mencurahkan kasih sayang, waktu dan energi sepenuhnya. Kasih sayang adalah hal utama, tapi ternyata kasih sayang saja tidak cukup.
orangtua perlu memahami apa kebutuhan-kebutuhan unik anak2nya. tanpa pemahaman, orangtua tak akan bisa mendukung mereka dengan efektif. banyak yang sudah melewatkan waktu bersama anak2, tapi tak mampu [belum kali yaa:] untuk memenuhi keinginan/kebutuhan anak. anak malah menolak usaha orantua...
maka diperlukan cara-cara baru dalam mengasuh anak...dan tinggalkan cara-cara lama...
* Banyak orangtua yang tidak terlibat dalam mengasuh anak2 mereka tidak menyadari betapa besarnya kegembiraan bersama anak2 mereka, yang tak mereka rasakan.
* Masalah pada anak2 bermula dari rumah, dan dapat diatasi di rumah.
* Memupuk kemauan anak & bukan menjinakkannya adalah dasar untuk menciptakan rasa percaya diri, sikap kooperatif, dan memahami perasaan orang lain pada diri anak.
* Tujuan membesarkan anak-anak secara positif adalah menciptakan anak2 yang punya kemauan, tapi bersikap kooperatif. Tujuannya bukan menciptakan anak baik2, tapi membuat anak bersikap mengerti terhadap perasaan orang lain. Tujuan menciptakan anak2 menjadi kooperatif tidak sama dengan menciptakan anak2 'penurut'. Anak-anak kooperatif masih menginginkan apa yang mereka inginkan, tapi mereka lebih ingin menyenangkan orangtua mereka....
* Kehidupan bermoral tidak dipaksakan dari luar pada anak2 tapi timbul dari dalam dan dipelajari melalui kerjasama dengan orangtua.
* Hukuman membuat orangtua/guru menjadi musuh yang harus ditinggal bersembunyi, bukan menjadi orangtua yang harus didatangi untuk dimintai dukungan. Dulu hukuman untuk mempertahankan kendali sebagai orangtua, tapi sekarang malah sebaliknya. Karena anak-anak sekarang lebih sensitif, dalam artian mudah meng-copy tindakan buruk dengan membalas keburukan pula.
* Anak anak mendengarkan bila orangtua juga mendengarkan mereka.
wah..itu baru poin-poin pendahuluan, lom ke halaman 1....
amazing!
* Anak juga membutuhkan waktu 'sendiri' walau dalam hitungan beberapa menit saja, namun anak manja biasanya membutuhkan waktu sendiri lebih banyak, untuk dapat memahami sitasinya.
* Ajari anak untuk meminta, bukan memerintah. dampingi untuk memilih kata yang tepat, seperti kata "tolong.. , ayo.."
bukan dengan kata "jangan.. , sana! ..."
* Kata- ajakan seperti "ayo kita.." efektif untuk anak berumur 9 thn kebawah. untuk setelahnya, lebih efektif dengan bertindak bersama..
* menangani anak remaja ;
bukan dengan memberi kebebasan , tapi menguatkan komunikasi...yang jelas dan terbuka.
karna bila ia merasa tidak diterima di rumah, maka ia akan mencari dukungan dari temannya.
salah satu poin yang bagus :
"Anak-anak tidak pernah jelak, mereka hanya lepas dari kendali"
* kalau orangtua berpinmdah ke bawah garis generasi, maka anak mungkin terpaksa menjadi dewasa terlalu dini.
* kalau orangtua membutuhkan dukungan emosional, sepantasnya mereka mendapatkan dari orang yang berada diatas generasinya, bukan kepada anak.
October 8, 2023
John Gray. Vaikai kil臋 i拧 dangaus
Kaip stipriai mes mylime savo vaikus?
Dauguma atsakyt懦, kad beproti拧kai, ta膷iau tikrai atsirast懦 diskusij懦 apie tai, kaip reikia vaikus aukl臈ti.
Vieni palieka k奴dikius i拧siverkti ir nepuola j懦 膷i奴膷iuoti, kiti teigia, kad atliepti poreikius reikia nedelsiant. Vieni pasisako u啪 tvirt膮 啪od寞 ir autoriteting膮 aukl臈jim膮 鈥� vaikai turi paklusti t臈vams, kiti ie拧ko b奴d懦, kaip aukl臈ti vaikus 拧velniai ir pozityviai. John Gray 鈥濾aikai kil臋 i拧 dangaus鈥� 鈥� tai pozityvaus aukl臈jimo principais pagr寞sta knyga, kuri suteikia instrument懦 geb臈ti vaikus suvaldyti kitais metodais nei patys papras膷iausi 鈥� 寞sakin臈jimas, balso pak臈limas.
John Gray mano, kad vaikams reikia duoti laisv臈s pasirinkti ir elgtis su jais kaip su ma啪ais 啪mogu膷iais, turin膷iais savo charakter寞 ir nuomon臋. Klaidinga manyti, kad tik vaikai turi derintis prie t臈v懦 gyvenimo 寞pro膷i懦. Priimdami nauj膮 gyvyb臋 寞 拧eim膮, mes prisiimame atsakomyb臋, jog leisime jiems 寞silieti 寞 m奴s懦 kasdienyb臋 ir b奴ti tokiems, kokie jie yra. Visuomet tik臈jau, kad vaikai pasirenka t臈vus, tad pagalvokime, koki膮 laim臋 ir dovan膮 jie mums padaro.
Knygos atpasakoti prasm臈s n臈ra, tad pasidalinsiu vienu mane sudominusiu momentu. Kiekvienas vaikas turi savit膮 charakter寞/temperament膮, tad aukl臈jimas tur臈t懦 b奴ti adaptuotas remiantis juo. Kas turima mintyje?
1. Jautrus vaikas. Nori b奴ti i拧girstas ir suprastas. Turime skirti jam daugiau laiko ir d臈mesio. Padeda atidus klausymas bei jausmas, kad yra ne vieni拧i.
2. Aktyvus vaikas. Link臋s veikti ir yra orientuotas 寞 rezultat膮. Kasdienoje turi veiksmu plan膮. Tokiam vaik懦 tipui John Gray si奴lo nustatyti taisykles, ribas bei kas vadovauja. Jei nori b奴ti nugal臈tojais, s臈km臈 jiems geriausia paskata. Kaip tvarkytis su aktyviu vaiku? Apibr臈啪ti k膮 veiksime, kaip tai atliksime, duoti u啪duoti. Valdyti su procesu arba eikvojant jo energij膮 u啪duotimis.
3. Reaktyv奴s vaikai. M臈gsta prie拧tarauti. Kaip elgtis? Reikia sutiekti galimyb臋 priimti sprendimus, gerbti j懦 nuomon臋. Nem臈gsta tvarkytis, tad geriau 寞 proces膮 寞sitraukti ir tai daryti kartu.
4. Iml奴s vaikai. Reikia ritual懦 ir ritmo. Jiems 寞domu, ko galima tik臈tis, nori 啪inoti gyvenimo t臈km臋. Nem臈gsta neapibr臈啪tumo. Reikia dienotvark臈s ir rimto. Laikas valgyti ir miegoti ir pan. Labiau nurodyti, k膮 daryti, pasakant 鈥瀌abar laikas". Jiems tuomet atrodo, kad viskas pagal plan膮 vyksta. M臈gsta steb臈ti, jis jau膷iasi dalyvaujantis steb臈damas. Nem臈gsta, kai trukdo, nes patinka pabaigti visk膮 iki galo. Jiems reikia meilumo ritual懦. Pvz. laikas kartu ka啪kokio proceso metu.
Man tai i拧 ties懦 atrodo vertinga. Net jei 寞 knygoje pateikiam膮 informacij膮 啪i奴r臈sime kriti拧kai, tikiu, kad atsiras princip懦, kuriuos nor臈sime i拧bandyti kasdienoje. Ar dar kart膮 skir膷iau savo laik膮 鈥濾aikai kil臋 i拧 dangaus鈥� knygai? Tikrai taip. T臈vyst臈s patarim懦 negali b奴ti per daug.
Kaip stipriai mes mylime savo vaikus?
Dauguma atsakyt懦, kad beproti拧kai, ta膷iau tikrai atsirast懦 diskusij懦 apie tai, kaip reikia vaikus aukl臈ti.
Vieni palieka k奴dikius i拧siverkti ir nepuola j懦 膷i奴膷iuoti, kiti teigia, kad atliepti poreikius reikia nedelsiant. Vieni pasisako u啪 tvirt膮 啪od寞 ir autoriteting膮 aukl臈jim膮 鈥� vaikai turi paklusti t臈vams, kiti ie拧ko b奴d懦, kaip aukl臈ti vaikus 拧velniai ir pozityviai. John Gray 鈥濾aikai kil臋 i拧 dangaus鈥� 鈥� tai pozityvaus aukl臈jimo principais pagr寞sta knyga, kuri suteikia instrument懦 geb臈ti vaikus suvaldyti kitais metodais nei patys papras膷iausi 鈥� 寞sakin臈jimas, balso pak臈limas.
John Gray mano, kad vaikams reikia duoti laisv臈s pasirinkti ir elgtis su jais kaip su ma啪ais 啪mogu膷iais, turin膷iais savo charakter寞 ir nuomon臋. Klaidinga manyti, kad tik vaikai turi derintis prie t臈v懦 gyvenimo 寞pro膷i懦. Priimdami nauj膮 gyvyb臋 寞 拧eim膮, mes prisiimame atsakomyb臋, jog leisime jiems 寞silieti 寞 m奴s懦 kasdienyb臋 ir b奴ti tokiems, kokie jie yra. Visuomet tik臈jau, kad vaikai pasirenka t臈vus, tad pagalvokime, koki膮 laim臋 ir dovan膮 jie mums padaro.
Knygos atpasakoti prasm臈s n臈ra, tad pasidalinsiu vienu mane sudominusiu momentu. Kiekvienas vaikas turi savit膮 charakter寞/temperament膮, tad aukl臈jimas tur臈t懦 b奴ti adaptuotas remiantis juo. Kas turima mintyje?
1. Jautrus vaikas. Nori b奴ti i拧girstas ir suprastas. Turime skirti jam daugiau laiko ir d臈mesio. Padeda atidus klausymas bei jausmas, kad yra ne vieni拧i.
2. Aktyvus vaikas. Link臋s veikti ir yra orientuotas 寞 rezultat膮. Kasdienoje turi veiksmu plan膮. Tokiam vaik懦 tipui John Gray si奴lo nustatyti taisykles, ribas bei kas vadovauja. Jei nori b奴ti nugal臈tojais, s臈km臈 jiems geriausia paskata. Kaip tvarkytis su aktyviu vaiku? Apibr臈啪ti k膮 veiksime, kaip tai atliksime, duoti u啪duoti. Valdyti su procesu arba eikvojant jo energij膮 u啪duotimis.
3. Reaktyv奴s vaikai. M臈gsta prie拧tarauti. Kaip elgtis? Reikia sutiekti galimyb臋 priimti sprendimus, gerbti j懦 nuomon臋. Nem臈gsta tvarkytis, tad geriau 寞 proces膮 寞sitraukti ir tai daryti kartu.
4. Iml奴s vaikai. Reikia ritual懦 ir ritmo. Jiems 寞domu, ko galima tik臈tis, nori 啪inoti gyvenimo t臈km臋. Nem臈gsta neapibr臈啪tumo. Reikia dienotvark臈s ir rimto. Laikas valgyti ir miegoti ir pan. Labiau nurodyti, k膮 daryti, pasakant 鈥瀌abar laikas". Jiems tuomet atrodo, kad viskas pagal plan膮 vyksta. M臈gsta steb臈ti, jis jau膷iasi dalyvaujantis steb臈damas. Nem臈gsta, kai trukdo, nes patinka pabaigti visk膮 iki galo. Jiems reikia meilumo ritual懦. Pvz. laikas kartu ka啪kokio proceso metu.
Man tai i拧 ties懦 atrodo vertinga. Net jei 寞 knygoje pateikiam膮 informacij膮 啪i奴r臈sime kriti拧kai, tikiu, kad atsiras princip懦, kuriuos nor臈sime i拧bandyti kasdienoje. Ar dar kart膮 skir膷iau savo laik膮 鈥濾aikai kil臋 i拧 dangaus鈥� knygai? Tikrai taip. T臈vyst臈s patarim懦 negali b奴ti per daug.
October 9, 2021
(兀賳 鬲賰賵賳 賵丕賱丿丕 兀賲乇 氐毓亘貙 賵 賱賰賳 賰賲丕 賳毓賱賲 噩賲賷毓丕 賮賴匕賴 丕賴賲 賵馗賷賮丞 賳賯賵賲 亘賴丕 賮賷 丕賱丨賷丕丞 賵 兀噩丿乇賴丕 亘丕賱丕賴鬲賲丕賲)
賰鬲丕亘 乇丕卅毓 噩丿丕 賵 丕賳氐丨 丕賱丕亘丕亍 賵 丕賱丕賲賴丕鬲 亘賯乇丕亍鬲賴馃槂馃憤馃徎
賰鬲丕亘 乇丕卅毓 噩丿丕 賵 丕賳氐丨 丕賱丕亘丕亍 賵 丕賱丕賲賴丕鬲 亘賯乇丕亍鬲賴馃槂馃憤馃徎
July 21, 2010
I found some of his advice to be interesting, but he tends to go on and on in his writing and I found myself skipping over paragraphs because it seemed so repetitive. I do really like his steps for encouraging obedience from children...although he doesnt call it obedience really, he calls it childrens natural desire to please their parents. I have been discouraged lately as I hear my son mimic orders to me and I don't like it. So, following Dr. Gray's advice to ask "Would you....please?" brought about immediate changes in how my son talks to me now. There are some more steps that come after the initial request, should the child choose to say No, that I still need to work on in order to see how effective it is, but overall - reading this book was a nice reminder to just be more polite to my son and even my husband. The atmosphere in the house has changed for the better.
May 12, 2010
This was highly recommended to me. However, so far, it hasn't given me any earth-shattering news. Don't beat your kids. (anyone surprised?) Then it has focused on parents focusing on the positives with their kids rather than the negative.
Okay, so I got through chapter 9 and just couldn't do anymore. This has good ideas, but it's all obvious. Don't beat your kids. Use positive messages instead of threats. Thanks- learned that in 101 of teaching. If I hadn't been a teacher, this would have been much more helpful. But the book was SO repetitive. I felt like I was reading the same chapter over and over again...
Oh well. :)
I'd recommend this to anyone struggling with any children. Just don't expect a FUN read...
Okay, so I got through chapter 9 and just couldn't do anymore. This has good ideas, but it's all obvious. Don't beat your kids. Use positive messages instead of threats. Thanks- learned that in 101 of teaching. If I hadn't been a teacher, this would have been much more helpful. But the book was SO repetitive. I felt like I was reading the same chapter over and over again...
Oh well. :)
I'd recommend this to anyone struggling with any children. Just don't expect a FUN read...
June 26, 2012
I felt quite disappointed and did not even finish reading this book. Some of the advice are interesting but others seem pretty unrealistic to me. I agree with Gray's approach of avoiding punishment, physical or psychological, but his method has not convinced me fully. The practical examples he gives on how to speak to children seem very unlikely to me. Furthermore, the book is quite repetitive and lengthy.
January 11, 2022
Loved the 鈥減ositive parenting鈥� concept. Some of my personal education towards son was so undescribed, I did not have any pattern or felt bad while telling him things too roughly according to my personal feeling, as my parents did. I am happy that I found information how to tell hard things without negativity, pressure or motiv. That鈥檚 a really great book which I think to use as notes for many years in advance.
June 5, 2013
Was very helpful!
I don't agree though with some of the ideas but in general I really learned something that has helped me a lot when I first started teaching kg1s!
I highly recommend teachers and parents to go through it once at least!
Thank you Miss Mariam for recommending the book.
I don't agree though with some of the ideas but in general I really learned something that has helped me a lot when I first started teaching kg1s!
I highly recommend teachers and parents to go through it once at least!
Thank you Miss Mariam for recommending the book.
September 1, 2017
This is an excellent book for (new) mamas who are as confused and anxious as I am as my baby approaches toddlerhood! The messages were very clear and came in small chunks. Very easy to absorb and apply. I felt some sort of comfort cloud over me as I read this book. I would definitely recommend it!
July 11, 2007
I hated this book. I couldn't even finish it. Very opinionated and full of crap.
February 13, 2022
賰鬲丕亘 賲賮賷丿 賵賷爻鬲丨賯 丕賱賯乇丕亍丞馃尶
April 13, 2023
Den f酶rste boken jeg leste som var skrevet av John Gray var 鈥滿enn er fra Mars, Kvinner er fra Venus鈥�. Den falt ganske godt i smak og gav meg bedre kjennskap til forskjellene i hvordan kvinner og menn tenker. Siden den norske tittelen (Mars og Venus og Barna) gav inntrykk av at denne boken var en videref酶ring av overnevnte bok s氓 fanget den ogs氓 interessen min, men jeg oppdaget fort at den innholdt veldig lite 鈥滿ars og Venus鈥�. N氓r det er sagt s氓 er den positive barneoppdragelsen som Gray fremhever et spennende felt 氓 begi seg ut p氓, og etter 氓 ha testet ut noen av metodene s氓 ser det ut som om det til en viss grad er noe i det. Boken har mye nyttig man kan ta med seg som forelder, men som pedagog klarer jeg allikevel ikke sluke alt forfatteren kommer med, selv om jeg kan si meg enig i en god del, ja, mange av elementene finnes allerede skrevet om i andre nyttige oppdragelsesb酶ker.
Innimellom 酶nsket jeg forskningsmessig belegg rundt det han skriver, men boken innholder verken kildehenvisninger eller henvisning til eventuell forskning rundt metoden han fremmer. Det virker ogs氓 ofte som om det er forfatteren selv som kommer med sine erfaringer og meninger p氓 en reklamerende m氓te. Jeg regner med og vet at en del av det finnes det forskningsmessig belegg p氓, men p氓 andre omr氓der igjen hadde jeg trengt litt mer kj酶tt p氓 beina. Jeg synes ogs氓 boken var litt for lang og gjentakende og kunne godt ha v忙rt kortet ned med n忙rmere 150 sider.
Omr氓der jeg savnet et mer forskningsmessig belegg p氓 er ni氓rsfasen han stadig referer til som en grense hvor man ikke skal gj酶re det og det med barna, eller si det og det, eller oppf酶re seg s氓nn og s氓nn osv. Videre p氓peker han at alle barn alltid gj酶r sitt beste og at de alltid 酶nsker 氓 samarbeide med foreldrene, og n氓r de ikke gj酶r det s氓 kan det virke som det alltid er foreldrenes feil. Her synes jeg forskning hadde v忙rt en god ting. Ja, det trenger ikke v忙re helt feil at barn pr酶ver 氓 gj酶re sitt beste og at de 酶nsker 氓 samarbeide og at det kan v忙re foreldrenes feil n氓r de ikke gj酶r det, men er det slik alltid? Neppe. Da tenker jeg at man frar酶ver man barna noe av sin frie vilje, man overser egoismen som har blitt en del av barnets natur og setter heller all skyld p氓 foreldrene hvis ting g氓r galt. Med dette s氓 mener jeg ikke at sm氓barn skal ta ansvaret for sine feil. Ja, boken har rett i at vi kan gj酶re mye riktig for 氓 f氓 barna v氓re til 氓 samarbeide og yte sitt beste, men det betyr ikke at de alltid gj酶r det selv om vi hadde gjort alt riktig.
En annen ting forfatteren p氓peker er at barn ikke trenger valgmuligheter f酶r de er ni 氓r. N氓 kommer det ikke helt klart fram hva han mener med valgmuligheter, men som pedagog vet jeg at yngre barn har godt av noen valgmuligheter innimellom, bare de ikke f氓r altfor mange ting 氓 velge mellom og ting som kun b酶r v忙re den voksnes ansvar og valg 氓 ta. Jeg er ogs氓 ganske uenig i det boken snakker om rundt det 氓 avlede barn n氓r de begynner 氓 gr氓te eller har skriketokter. Hvor ble det av 氓 ta barnas f酶lelser p氓 alvor? Selv om dette skrives i sammenheng med lettp氓virkelige barn, s氓 b酶r de ogs氓 f氓 anerkjent f酶lelsene sine og bli tatt p氓 alvor. Det kan hende jeg kan ha misforst氓tt noe av det han skriver om akkurat det, siden han ogs氓 skriver mye riktig om det 氓 ta barnas f酶lelser p氓 alvor.
Selv om det er en del 氓 p氓peke i denne boken, s氓 er faktisk mesteparten nyttig 氓 ha med seg i 鈥漮ppdragelseskofferten鈥� sin, og jeg likte spesielt m氓ten man p氓 en god m氓te kan kommandere barn p氓 slik at de gj酶r det du gir dem beskjed om. Det har v忙rt en slags 鈥漨agic bullett鈥� under lesingen. Videre fremhever John Gray viktigheten av 氓 ikke til stadighet kritisere barna sine og p氓peke alle feil de gj酶r, noe som vil kunne g氓 p氓 selvf酶lelsen l酶s, men la barn v忙re barn og v忙r en god samarbeidspartner med dem og ikke glem 氓 vise dem at du virkelig setter pris p氓 dem ved 氓 bl.a. fremme deres positive sider. Jeg velger 氓 gi denne tre sterke stjerner.
Innimellom 酶nsket jeg forskningsmessig belegg rundt det han skriver, men boken innholder verken kildehenvisninger eller henvisning til eventuell forskning rundt metoden han fremmer. Det virker ogs氓 ofte som om det er forfatteren selv som kommer med sine erfaringer og meninger p氓 en reklamerende m氓te. Jeg regner med og vet at en del av det finnes det forskningsmessig belegg p氓, men p氓 andre omr氓der igjen hadde jeg trengt litt mer kj酶tt p氓 beina. Jeg synes ogs氓 boken var litt for lang og gjentakende og kunne godt ha v忙rt kortet ned med n忙rmere 150 sider.
Omr氓der jeg savnet et mer forskningsmessig belegg p氓 er ni氓rsfasen han stadig referer til som en grense hvor man ikke skal gj酶re det og det med barna, eller si det og det, eller oppf酶re seg s氓nn og s氓nn osv. Videre p氓peker han at alle barn alltid gj酶r sitt beste og at de alltid 酶nsker 氓 samarbeide med foreldrene, og n氓r de ikke gj酶r det s氓 kan det virke som det alltid er foreldrenes feil. Her synes jeg forskning hadde v忙rt en god ting. Ja, det trenger ikke v忙re helt feil at barn pr酶ver 氓 gj酶re sitt beste og at de 酶nsker 氓 samarbeide og at det kan v忙re foreldrenes feil n氓r de ikke gj酶r det, men er det slik alltid? Neppe. Da tenker jeg at man frar酶ver man barna noe av sin frie vilje, man overser egoismen som har blitt en del av barnets natur og setter heller all skyld p氓 foreldrene hvis ting g氓r galt. Med dette s氓 mener jeg ikke at sm氓barn skal ta ansvaret for sine feil. Ja, boken har rett i at vi kan gj酶re mye riktig for 氓 f氓 barna v氓re til 氓 samarbeide og yte sitt beste, men det betyr ikke at de alltid gj酶r det selv om vi hadde gjort alt riktig.
En annen ting forfatteren p氓peker er at barn ikke trenger valgmuligheter f酶r de er ni 氓r. N氓 kommer det ikke helt klart fram hva han mener med valgmuligheter, men som pedagog vet jeg at yngre barn har godt av noen valgmuligheter innimellom, bare de ikke f氓r altfor mange ting 氓 velge mellom og ting som kun b酶r v忙re den voksnes ansvar og valg 氓 ta. Jeg er ogs氓 ganske uenig i det boken snakker om rundt det 氓 avlede barn n氓r de begynner 氓 gr氓te eller har skriketokter. Hvor ble det av 氓 ta barnas f酶lelser p氓 alvor? Selv om dette skrives i sammenheng med lettp氓virkelige barn, s氓 b酶r de ogs氓 f氓 anerkjent f酶lelsene sine og bli tatt p氓 alvor. Det kan hende jeg kan ha misforst氓tt noe av det han skriver om akkurat det, siden han ogs氓 skriver mye riktig om det 氓 ta barnas f酶lelser p氓 alvor.
Selv om det er en del 氓 p氓peke i denne boken, s氓 er faktisk mesteparten nyttig 氓 ha med seg i 鈥漮ppdragelseskofferten鈥� sin, og jeg likte spesielt m氓ten man p氓 en god m氓te kan kommandere barn p氓 slik at de gj酶r det du gir dem beskjed om. Det har v忙rt en slags 鈥漨agic bullett鈥� under lesingen. Videre fremhever John Gray viktigheten av 氓 ikke til stadighet kritisere barna sine og p氓peke alle feil de gj酶r, noe som vil kunne g氓 p氓 selvf酶lelsen l酶s, men la barn v忙re barn og v忙r en god samarbeidspartner med dem og ikke glem 氓 vise dem at du virkelig setter pris p氓 dem ved 氓 bl.a. fremme deres positive sider. Jeg velger 氓 gi denne tre sterke stjerner.
June 6, 2022
鬲丿賵乇 賮賰乇丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 毓賳 賲賴丕乇丕鬲 鬲乇亘賵賷丞 丕賷噩丕亘賷丞 賷噩亘 丕賳 賷鬲毓賱賲賴丕 丕賱兀賴賱 賵 賷鬲賯賳賵賴丕 賱鬲賳卮卅丞 丕胤賮丕賱 賲鬲毓丕賵賳賷賳 賵 賵丕孬賯賷賳 賵 賲鬲毓丕胤賮賷賳 .
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賷乇賰夭 毓賱賶 禺賲爻 乇爻丕卅賱 賲賳 丕噩賱 鬲乇亘賷丞 丕賷噩丕亘賷丞 氐丨賷丞 賵 氐丨賷丨丞 :
賱丕 亘兀爻 賮賷 丕賳 鬲賰賵賳 賲禺鬲賱賮丕
賱丕 亘兀爻 賮賷 丕乇鬲賰丕亘 丕賱丕禺胤丕亍
賱丕 亘兀爻 賮賷 丕賱鬲毓亘賷乇 毓賳 丕賱賲卮丕毓乇 丕賱爻賱亘賷丞
賱丕 亘兀爻 賮賷 丕賳 鬲乇睾亘 賮賷 丕賱賲夭賷丿
賱丕 亘丕爻 賮賷 丕賳 鬲賯賵賱 賱丕 賵 賱賰賳 鬲匕賰乇 亘丕賳 丕賱丕亘 賵 丕賱丕賲 賴賲丕 丕賱賲鬲丨賰賲丕賳 賮賷 夭賲丕賲 丕賱丕賲賵乇
丕賱噩賲賷賱 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賳 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 賷卮乇丨 賰賱 賳賯胤賴 賵 賷賮爻乇賴丕 賵賷賵囟丨 丕賱賮乇賯 亘賷賳 鬲胤亘賷賯 賲孬賱 賴匕賴 丕賱乇爻丕卅賱 毓賱賶 賰賱 賲賳 丕賱胤賮賱 賵 丕賱胤賮賱丞 賰賳賵毓賷賳 賲禺鬲賱賮賷賳 匕賰乇 賵丕賳孬賶 貙 毓賱賶 丕賱賲乇丕丨賱 丕賱毓賲乇賷丞 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 賵丕賱鬲賷 賯爻賲賴丕 丕賱賶 孬賱丕孬 賲乇丕丨賱 .
丕賱賲夭毓噩 丕賳 丕賱賮賰乇丞 鬲毓丕丿 賵 鬲鬲賰乇乇 亘卮賰賱 賲亘丕賱睾 賮賷賴 丕丨賷丕賳丕 賱丿乇噩丞 丕卮毓乇鬲賳賷 亘丕賱賲賱賱 賮賷 賲賵丕賯毓 賲毓賷賳丞 .
丕卮毓乇 賮賷 賰賱 賲乇丞 丕賯乇丕 賮賷賴丕 賰鬲丕亘 鬲乇亘賷丞 丕賳賳賷 禺乇噩鬲 亘賰賲 賴丕卅賱 賲賳 丕賱賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲 丕賱賲乇氐賵氐丞 賵 亘丕賮賰丕乇 賰孬賷乇丞 賵 賰亘賷乇丞 賵 賱賷爻 賲賳 丕賱爻賴賱 鬲賳賮賷匕賴丕 賵 丕賱匕賷 賷丨鬲丕噩 丕賱賶 氐亘乇 賵 鬲丿乇賷亘 賵 賵賯鬲 賵 噩賴丿 貙 亘丕賱廿囟丕賮丞 丕賱賶 丕賳賰 鬲卮毓乇 亘丕賳 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 賷囟賷亍 賱賰 賮賰乇丞 賲毓賷賳賴 亘丿賵賳 胤乇賯 賲爻丕毓丿丞 賱賰賷賮賷丞 丕賱亘丿亍 丕賵 丕賱毓賲賱 毓賱賶 丕賱賮賰乇丞 賱鬲氐亘丨 賵丕賯毓 賵賴匕丕 賲丕 賷卮毓乇賳賷 賰兀賲 丕丨賷丕賳丕 亘丕賱廿丨亘丕胤 丕賵 丕賱鬲賵鬲乇 賲賳 賰賲 丕賱賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲
賵賱賰賳 賲丕 卮毓乇鬲
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賷乇賰夭 毓賱賶 禺賲爻 乇爻丕卅賱 賲賳 丕噩賱 鬲乇亘賷丞 丕賷噩丕亘賷丞 氐丨賷丞 賵 氐丨賷丨丞 :
賱丕 亘兀爻 賮賷 丕賳 鬲賰賵賳 賲禺鬲賱賮丕
賱丕 亘兀爻 賮賷 丕乇鬲賰丕亘 丕賱丕禺胤丕亍
賱丕 亘兀爻 賮賷 丕賱鬲毓亘賷乇 毓賳 丕賱賲卮丕毓乇 丕賱爻賱亘賷丞
賱丕 亘兀爻 賮賷 丕賳 鬲乇睾亘 賮賷 丕賱賲夭賷丿
賱丕 亘丕爻 賮賷 丕賳 鬲賯賵賱 賱丕 賵 賱賰賳 鬲匕賰乇 亘丕賳 丕賱丕亘 賵 丕賱丕賲 賴賲丕 丕賱賲鬲丨賰賲丕賳 賮賷 夭賲丕賲 丕賱丕賲賵乇
丕賱噩賲賷賱 賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賳 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 賷卮乇丨 賰賱 賳賯胤賴 賵 賷賮爻乇賴丕 賵賷賵囟丨 丕賱賮乇賯 亘賷賳 鬲胤亘賷賯 賲孬賱 賴匕賴 丕賱乇爻丕卅賱 毓賱賶 賰賱 賲賳 丕賱胤賮賱 賵 丕賱胤賮賱丞 賰賳賵毓賷賳 賲禺鬲賱賮賷賳 匕賰乇 賵丕賳孬賶 貙 毓賱賶 丕賱賲乇丕丨賱 丕賱毓賲乇賷丞 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 賵丕賱鬲賷 賯爻賲賴丕 丕賱賶 孬賱丕孬 賲乇丕丨賱 .
丕賱賲夭毓噩 丕賳 丕賱賮賰乇丞 鬲毓丕丿 賵 鬲鬲賰乇乇 亘卮賰賱 賲亘丕賱睾 賮賷賴 丕丨賷丕賳丕 賱丿乇噩丞 丕卮毓乇鬲賳賷 亘丕賱賲賱賱 賮賷 賲賵丕賯毓 賲毓賷賳丞 .
丕卮毓乇 賮賷 賰賱 賲乇丞 丕賯乇丕 賮賷賴丕 賰鬲丕亘 鬲乇亘賷丞 丕賳賳賷 禺乇噩鬲 亘賰賲 賴丕卅賱 賲賳 丕賱賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲 丕賱賲乇氐賵氐丞 賵 亘丕賮賰丕乇 賰孬賷乇丞 賵 賰亘賷乇丞 賵 賱賷爻 賲賳 丕賱爻賴賱 鬲賳賮賷匕賴丕 賵 丕賱匕賷 賷丨鬲丕噩 丕賱賶 氐亘乇 賵 鬲丿乇賷亘 賵 賵賯鬲 賵 噩賴丿 貙 亘丕賱廿囟丕賮丞 丕賱賶 丕賳賰 鬲卮毓乇 亘丕賳 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 賷囟賷亍 賱賰 賮賰乇丞 賲毓賷賳賴 亘丿賵賳 胤乇賯 賲爻丕毓丿丞 賱賰賷賮賷丞 丕賱亘丿亍 丕賵 丕賱毓賲賱 毓賱賶 丕賱賮賰乇丞 賱鬲氐亘丨 賵丕賯毓 賵賴匕丕 賲丕 賷卮毓乇賳賷 賰兀賲 丕丨賷丕賳丕 亘丕賱廿丨亘丕胤 丕賵 丕賱鬲賵鬲乇 賲賳 賰賲 丕賱賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲
賵賱賰賳 賲丕 卮毓乇鬲
February 9, 2025
袣薪懈谐邪 锌褉芯锌芯薪褍褦 褑褨泻邪胁褨 褋锌芯褋褌械褉械卸械薪薪褟 褌邪 锌芯褉邪写懈 褖芯写芯 胁懈褏芯胁邪薪薪褟 写褨褌械泄, 胁 芯褋薪芯胁褨 褟泻懈褏 褨写械褟 锌芯蟹懈褌懈胁薪芯谐芯 锌褨写褏芯写褍 斜械蟹 锌芯泻邪褉邪薪褜. 袩褉芯褌械 胁邪褉褌芯 蟹胁邪卸邪褌懈, 褖芯 写械褟泻褨 褌胁械褉写卸械薪薪褟 邪胁褌芯褉邪, 蟹芯泻褉械屑邪, 锌褉芯 谐械薪写械褉薪褨 胁褨写屑褨薪薪芯褋褌褨 胁 械屑芯褑褨泄薪懈褏 锌芯褌褉械斜邪褏 褌邪 锌褉芯 胁褉芯写卸械薪褨 褉芯谢褨 褋褌邪褌褨 褍 锌芯胁械写褨薪褑褨 褌邪 薪邪胁褔邪薪薪褨, 薪械 屑邪褞褌褜 薪邪褍泻芯胁芯谐芯 锌褨写覒褉褍薪褌褟.
December 1, 2023
Informa葲ii utile 卯n aceast膬 carte, 卯n deosebi pentru p膬rin葲ii ner膬bd膬tori. Eu cred c膬 aceast膬 carte e binevenit膬 s膬 educe mai 卯nt芒i p膬rin葲ii 葯i apoi copii dac膬 va fi cazul.
April 9, 2022
The book is repetetive as most of educational books, but the idea and methods inside it are simple and amazing. I started fixing my parenting skills right away and simply was astonished of the fact that they workied imediately !
I do recommend this book to all parents and all teachers.
I do recommend this book to all parents and all teachers.
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August 18, 202427% 懈 褏胁邪褌懈褌 屑褍褔邪褌褜褋褟. 袦褍褌褜 泻邪泻邪褟-褌芯 褋 胁泻褉邪锌谢械薪懈褟屑懈 锌芯谢械蟹薪褘褏 褋芯胁械褌芯胁.
February 14, 2021
This book started out great - a new method of parenting with its own principles that I was excited to learn. Then at the halfway mark it started to get very repetitive. It was like Gray didn't know what words he preferred to use so he rewrote the whole book multiple times. Over and over again he focused on WHY positive parenting is great, but I found myself asking HOW a lot - especially with the principle of keeping your authority. In the end, even the basics of positive parenting seemed quite obvious to me without having to read this book - don't hit your child, listen to them and keep it positive. I would love to learn more about this method with the focus on the practical side of it and from a different author.
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October 22, 2007I am still reading this book. I am not sure whatto say yet. It is new and different than other parenting books I have read and I like the direction it is going in. I want to talk about it more and think about it more but I need to read more!
My husband said when I mentioned one concept,"That is the opposite as the the other book we read!" I said,"I know, just go with it! It cannot hurt to try."
I still am going to get to this book but the one I am reading right now takes priority! (Hold Onto Your Kids)
Some day I will read them all!
My husband said when I mentioned one concept,"That is the opposite as the the other book we read!" I said,"I know, just go with it! It cannot hurt to try."
I still am going to get to this book but the one I am reading right now takes priority! (Hold Onto Your Kids)
Some day I will read them all!
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