What do you think?
Rate this book
How to Find Love
Choosing a partner is one of the most consequential and tricky decisions we will ever make, and the cost of repeated failure is immense. How to Find Love explains why we have the 鈥榯ypes鈥� we do, and how our early experiences give us scripts of how and whom we love. It sheds light on harmful repetitive patterns and the extent to which we are not always simply choosing people who can make us happy. We learn the most common techniques we use to sabotage our chances of fulfilment and why, despite their costs, we unwittingly engage in them. The book provides a crucial set of ideas to help us make safer, more imaginative and more effective choices in love.
96 pages, Kindle Edition
First published August 1, 2017
156 people are currently reading
1,480 people want to read
About the author
The School of Life
163听books2,960听followersThe School of Life is a global organisation helping people lead more fulfilled lives.
We believe that the journey to finding fulfilment begins with self-knowledge. It is only when we have a sense of who we really are that we can make reliable decisions, particularly around love and work.
Sadly, tools and techniques for developing self-knowledge and finding fulfilment are hard to find 鈥� they鈥檙e not taught in schools, in universities, or in workplaces. Too many of us go through life without ever really understanding what鈥檚 going on in the recesses of our minds.
That鈥檚 why we created The School of Life; a resource for helping us understand ourselves, for improving our relationships, our careers and our social lives - as well as for helping us find calm and get more out of our leisure hours. We do this through films, workshops, books and gifts - as well as through a warm and supportive community.
We believe that the journey to finding fulfilment begins with self-knowledge. It is only when we have a sense of who we really are that we can make reliable decisions, particularly around love and work.
Sadly, tools and techniques for developing self-knowledge and finding fulfilment are hard to find 鈥� they鈥檙e not taught in schools, in universities, or in workplaces. Too many of us go through life without ever really understanding what鈥檚 going on in the recesses of our minds.
That鈥檚 why we created The School of Life; a resource for helping us understand ourselves, for improving our relationships, our careers and our social lives - as well as for helping us find calm and get more out of our leisure hours. We do this through films, workshops, books and gifts - as well as through a warm and supportive community.
Ratings & Reviews
Friends & Following
Create a free account to discover what your friends think of this book!
Community Reviews
Displaying 1 - 30 of 133 reviews
August 23, 2020
丿賵爻鬲卮 丿丕卮鬲賲 賵 亘賴 丿賱賲 賳卮爻鬲..!
賵 噩丕賱亘 丕蹖賳讴賴 賵爻胤 禺賵賳丿賳 蹖賴 乇賲丕賳 賳賴 趩賳丿丕賳 噩匕丕亘 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 禺蹖賱蹖 丕鬲賮丕賯蹖 卮乇賵毓 讴乇丿賲 賵 亘丿賵賳 賵賯賮賴 鬲丕 丌禺乇 丕丿丕賲賴 丿丕丿賲... 乇丕夭 賲賵賮賯蹖鬲卮 趩蹖 亘賵丿責! 卮讴爻鬲 賲賳! 馃槙馃槀
丿蹖诏賴 乇賵丿乇亘丕蹖爻鬲蹖 賳丿丕乇蹖賲 讴賴.. 毓卮賯 賳鬲蹖噩賴 蹖賴 爻乇蹖 賴賵乇賲賵賳賴 讴賴 賵丕爻賴 賴乇讴爻蹖 鬲賵 蹖賴 爻賳蹖 賲蹖乇蹖夭賴 亘賴賲.. 賳氐賮卮 睾乇蹖夭爻貙 賳氐賮卮 丌卮賳丕 倬賳丿丕乇蹖.. 賮讴乇 賲蹖讴賳蹖 胤乇賮 倬丿蹖丿爻.. 賳诏賵 丕蹖 亘丕亘丕丕丕丕 倬丿乇賿 噩丿鬲 卮亘蹖賴 丕蹖賳 亘賳丿賴 禺丿丕 亘賵丿賴 (蹖丕 亘乇毓讴爻!) ! 丿蹖丿賳卮 賳賵爻鬲丕賱跇蹖讴 亘賵丿賴 賵 賳鬲蹖噩卮 卮丿賴 鬲蹖乇 鬲賵 賯賱亘賽 賳氐賮賴 亘丕 趩賳丿 賯胤乇賴 禺賵賳..! 馃槀
倬. 賳: 倬蹖卮賳賴丕丿 賲蹖鈥屫促堌�.. 讴賵鬲丕賴 賵 賲賮蹖丿 亘賵丿.. :)
丿賱蹖賱 噩匕亘 卮丿賳 亘賴 賲毓卮賵賯 賵 丿賱蹖賱 丿賱 夭丿賴 卮丿賳 丕夭卮 乇賵 賲禺鬲氐乇 賵 诏賵诏賵賱蹖 鬲賵囟蹖丨 丿丕丿賴貙 丿乇 丨丿 賵爻毓卮 乇丕賴讴丕乇 賲賮蹖丿賲 丕乇丕卅賴 讴乇丿賴..:))
賵 噩丕賱亘 丕蹖賳讴賴 賵爻胤 禺賵賳丿賳 蹖賴 乇賲丕賳 賳賴 趩賳丿丕賳 噩匕丕亘 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 禺蹖賱蹖 丕鬲賮丕賯蹖 卮乇賵毓 讴乇丿賲 賵 亘丿賵賳 賵賯賮賴 鬲丕 丌禺乇 丕丿丕賲賴 丿丕丿賲... 乇丕夭 賲賵賮賯蹖鬲卮 趩蹖 亘賵丿責! 卮讴爻鬲 賲賳! 馃槙馃槀
丿蹖诏賴 乇賵丿乇亘丕蹖爻鬲蹖 賳丿丕乇蹖賲 讴賴.. 毓卮賯 賳鬲蹖噩賴 蹖賴 爻乇蹖 賴賵乇賲賵賳賴 讴賴 賵丕爻賴 賴乇讴爻蹖 鬲賵 蹖賴 爻賳蹖 賲蹖乇蹖夭賴 亘賴賲.. 賳氐賮卮 睾乇蹖夭爻貙 賳氐賮卮 丌卮賳丕 倬賳丿丕乇蹖.. 賮讴乇 賲蹖讴賳蹖 胤乇賮 倬丿蹖丿爻.. 賳诏賵 丕蹖 亘丕亘丕丕丕丕 倬丿乇賿 噩丿鬲 卮亘蹖賴 丕蹖賳 亘賳丿賴 禺丿丕 亘賵丿賴 (蹖丕 亘乇毓讴爻!) ! 丿蹖丿賳卮 賳賵爻鬲丕賱跇蹖讴 亘賵丿賴 賵 賳鬲蹖噩卮 卮丿賴 鬲蹖乇 鬲賵 賯賱亘賽 賳氐賮賴 亘丕 趩賳丿 賯胤乇賴 禺賵賳..! 馃槀
倬. 賳: 倬蹖卮賳賴丕丿 賲蹖鈥屫促堌�.. 讴賵鬲丕賴 賵 賲賮蹖丿 亘賵丿.. :)
丿賱蹖賱 噩匕亘 卮丿賳 亘賴 賲毓卮賵賯 賵 丿賱蹖賱 丿賱 夭丿賴 卮丿賳 丕夭卮 乇賵 賲禺鬲氐乇 賵 诏賵诏賵賱蹖 鬲賵囟蹖丨 丿丕丿賴貙 丿乇 丨丿 賵爻毓卮 乇丕賴讴丕乇 賲賮蹖丿賲 丕乇丕卅賴 讴乇丿賴..:))
October 11, 2018
Calming
I love the School of Life鈥檚 videos, and I really enjoyed this book as well. It definitely soothed some of my anxieties about finding love. My only complaint is that a lot of the information in the book was taken directly from their YouTube videos, which was irritating. There was some new information though, so that helped. Altogether, this was a quick, soothing read for anyone struggling with romantic loneliness.
I love the School of Life鈥檚 videos, and I really enjoyed this book as well. It definitely soothed some of my anxieties about finding love. My only complaint is that a lot of the information in the book was taken directly from their YouTube videos, which was irritating. There was some new information though, so that helped. Altogether, this was a quick, soothing read for anyone struggling with romantic loneliness.
Read
August 4, 2019"... we should strive to make ourselves as much at peace as we can be with the idea of being alone for a long time. Only then do we stand a chance of deciding to be with someone on the basis of their own merits."
A book I will read again and again and hope to absorb and action into my real life.
A book I will read again and again and hope to absorb and action into my real life.
November 5, 2018
At the end of the day, I think, being in love is about being vulnerable. It鈥檚 about being able to say 鈥淗ey, this is me, and these are my issues and my baggage. I will work on them but I can鈥檛 promise they will disappear. But I still want to try to make you happy and add value to your life. Are you cool with that?鈥�.
I find myself thinking about vulnerability these days. What is it about it that is so scary? Why can鈥檛 we just show what we truly are to people? At the end of the day, if one were to think pragmatically, being 100% true to anyone is the only choice that makes sense 鈥� you filter out people that don鈥檛 like you, and you get to bring in those who enjoy your company. And you do it fast. So why would it be different with love?
And yet, not hiding anything is scary. We don鈥檛 like getting rejected, even if it鈥檚 a stranger, and we really, really, don鈥檛 like getting rejected in love. It just hurts too much, right? And we feel like our own baggage is just too much, and that nobody can, or ever, truly love us because our issues make us a horrible person. Which is almost never true. There are people I don鈥檛 like, which is cool, we鈥檙e maybe too different; but I have almost never found anyone anyone that I think is horrible.
Something else that love is about, I鈥檇 say, is being generous. It鈥檚 being generous to the world, being willing to add value to it 鈥� and by consequence, to someone that you deem special enough to spend a lot of time together, for months, years, or maybe a bit longer, too. And as with being vulnerable this is super hard, because some people will not appreciate you, and your actions, regardless of their noble intentions. But that鈥檚 okay. It鈥檚 about being generous because you truly believe it鈥檚 the correct thing to do, not because you鈥檙e seeking external validation.
I recognise this is an odd review, but it鈥檚 fine. This is what I got from the book, and in general in my past love relationships. Everything rings true to me. It鈥檚 a wonderful little book.
I find myself thinking about vulnerability these days. What is it about it that is so scary? Why can鈥檛 we just show what we truly are to people? At the end of the day, if one were to think pragmatically, being 100% true to anyone is the only choice that makes sense 鈥� you filter out people that don鈥檛 like you, and you get to bring in those who enjoy your company. And you do it fast. So why would it be different with love?
And yet, not hiding anything is scary. We don鈥檛 like getting rejected, even if it鈥檚 a stranger, and we really, really, don鈥檛 like getting rejected in love. It just hurts too much, right? And we feel like our own baggage is just too much, and that nobody can, or ever, truly love us because our issues make us a horrible person. Which is almost never true. There are people I don鈥檛 like, which is cool, we鈥檙e maybe too different; but I have almost never found anyone anyone that I think is horrible.
Something else that love is about, I鈥檇 say, is being generous. It鈥檚 being generous to the world, being willing to add value to it 鈥� and by consequence, to someone that you deem special enough to spend a lot of time together, for months, years, or maybe a bit longer, too. And as with being vulnerable this is super hard, because some people will not appreciate you, and your actions, regardless of their noble intentions. But that鈥檚 okay. It鈥檚 about being generous because you truly believe it鈥檚 the correct thing to do, not because you鈥檙e seeking external validation.
I recognise this is an odd review, but it鈥檚 fine. This is what I got from the book, and in general in my past love relationships. Everything rings true to me. It鈥檚 a wonderful little book.
December 20, 2023
賷卮乇丨 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 亘兀爻賱賵亘 毓賱賲賷 亘爻賷胤 賰賷賮 賳賯毓 賮賷 丕賱丨亘 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 孬賱丕孬 睾乇丕卅夭:
佟- 睾乇賷夭丞 丕賱廿賰鬲賲丕賱: 賳丨賳 賳亘丨孬 毓賳 丕賱賰賲丕賱 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 鬲賵丕賮乇 亘毓囟 丕賱氐賮丕鬲 丕賱賲賵噩賵丿丞 賮賷 丕賱卮乇賷賰 賵丕賱睾賷乇 賲鬲賵丕賮乇丞 賱丿賷賳丕.
佗- 睾乇賷夭丞 丕賱鬲兀賷賷丿: 賳丨鬲丕噩 賱賲賳 賷鬲毓丕賲賱 亘賱胤賮 賵鬲賮賴賲 賲毓 賴卮丕卮鬲賳丕 賵賲禺丕賵賮賳丕 兀賵 賲賷賵賱賳丕 睾賷乇 丕賱賲兀賱賵賮丞貙 賱賷賰賵賳 賱丿賷賳丕 卮乇賷賰 賷賯賮 賲毓賳丕 賮賷 賵噩賴 丕賱毓丕賱賲 睾賷乇 丕賱賲鬲賮賴賲貙 賰孬賷乇 丕賱兀丨賰丕賲.
伲- 睾乇賷夭丞 丕賱廿毓鬲賷丕丿: 賯丿 賳賲賷賱 賱賱廿賳噩匕丕亘 賱兀卮禺丕氐 賷賲鬲賱賰賵賳 亘毓囟 氐賮丕鬲 兀賵 兀賳賲丕胤 丕賱兀賲 兀賵 丕賱兀亘.
丕賱爻丐丕賱 賴賳丕: 賴賱 丕鬲亘丕毓 賴匕賴 丕賱睾乇丕卅夭 賲囟乇 兀賲 賲賮賷丿 賮賷 丕賱丨亘責
賮賷 丕賱睾丕賱亘 卮兀賳賴 卮兀賳 兀賷 睾乇賷夭丞 賮賴賷 賲囟賱賱丞 賵賯丿 鬲賯賵丿 廿賱賶 丕賱賴丕賵賷丞.
鉂� 鬲鬲卮賰賾賱 丕賱胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱鬲賷 賳鬲毓丕賲賱 亘賴丕 賲毓 丕賱丨亘 賰亘丕賱睾賷賳
鈥� 廿賱賶 丨丿 賰亘賷乇 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 丕賱胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱鬲賷 毓卮賳丕 亘賴丕
鈥� 丕賱丨亘 賰兀胤賮丕賱. 鉂�
鈥�
佟- 睾乇賷夭丞 丕賱廿賰鬲賲丕賱: 賳丨賳 賳亘丨孬 毓賳 丕賱賰賲丕賱 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 鬲賵丕賮乇 亘毓囟 丕賱氐賮丕鬲 丕賱賲賵噩賵丿丞 賮賷 丕賱卮乇賷賰 賵丕賱睾賷乇 賲鬲賵丕賮乇丞 賱丿賷賳丕.
佗- 睾乇賷夭丞 丕賱鬲兀賷賷丿: 賳丨鬲丕噩 賱賲賳 賷鬲毓丕賲賱 亘賱胤賮 賵鬲賮賴賲 賲毓 賴卮丕卮鬲賳丕 賵賲禺丕賵賮賳丕 兀賵 賲賷賵賱賳丕 睾賷乇 丕賱賲兀賱賵賮丞貙 賱賷賰賵賳 賱丿賷賳丕 卮乇賷賰 賷賯賮 賲毓賳丕 賮賷 賵噩賴 丕賱毓丕賱賲 睾賷乇 丕賱賲鬲賮賴賲貙 賰孬賷乇 丕賱兀丨賰丕賲.
伲- 睾乇賷夭丞 丕賱廿毓鬲賷丕丿: 賯丿 賳賲賷賱 賱賱廿賳噩匕丕亘 賱兀卮禺丕氐 賷賲鬲賱賰賵賳 亘毓囟 氐賮丕鬲 兀賵 兀賳賲丕胤 丕賱兀賲 兀賵 丕賱兀亘.
丕賱爻丐丕賱 賴賳丕: 賴賱 丕鬲亘丕毓 賴匕賴 丕賱睾乇丕卅夭 賲囟乇 兀賲 賲賮賷丿 賮賷 丕賱丨亘責
賮賷 丕賱睾丕賱亘 卮兀賳賴 卮兀賳 兀賷 睾乇賷夭丞 賮賴賷 賲囟賱賱丞 賵賯丿 鬲賯賵丿 廿賱賶 丕賱賴丕賵賷丞.
鉂� 鬲鬲卮賰賾賱 丕賱胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱鬲賷 賳鬲毓丕賲賱 亘賴丕 賲毓 丕賱丨亘 賰亘丕賱睾賷賳
鈥� 廿賱賶 丨丿 賰亘賷乇 賲賳 禺賱丕賱 丕賱胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱鬲賷 毓卮賳丕 亘賴丕
鈥� 丕賱丨亘 賰兀胤賮丕賱. 鉂�
鈥�
July 10, 2019
鈥淢arry, and you will regret it; don鈥檛 marry, you will also regret it; marry or don鈥檛 marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world鈥檚 foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world鈥檚 foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it鈥� Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don鈥檛 hang yourself, you鈥檒l regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both. This, gentlemen, is the essence of all philosophy.鈥�
February 17, 2025
囟乇賵乇賷 賷賯乇兀賴 賰賱 卮禺氐 毓丕夭亘 丕賵 丨鬲賶 賲鬲夭賵噩馃憤馃徎
賯氐賷乇 賲賳 70 氐 鬲賯乇賷亘丕 賵賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲賴 賵丕囟丨賴 噩丿丕賸 賵賲賮賷賷丿賴 賵賲禺鬲氐乇賴 馃憣馃徎
賯氐賷乇 賲賳 70 氐 鬲賯乇賷亘丕 賵賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲賴 賵丕囟丨賴 噩丿丕賸 賵賲賮賷賷丿賴 賵賲禺鬲氐乇賴 馃憣馃徎
December 25, 2023
"鬲夭賵噩 賵爻賵賮 鬲賳丿賲貙 賱丕 鬲鬲夭賵噩 賵爻賵賮 鬲賳丿賲 兀賷囟賸丕貙 爻賵丕亍 鬲夭賵噩鬲 兀賵 賱賲 鬲鬲夭賵噩 賮爻賵賮 鬲賳丿賲 亘胤乇賷賯丞 兀禺乇賶貙 丕囟丨賰 毓賱賶 睾亘丕亍 賴匕丕 丕賱毓丕賱賲 賵爻賵賮 鬲賳丿賲貙 賵丕亘賰賽 賴匕丕 丕賱睾亘丕亍貙 爻鬲賳丿賲 兀賷囟賸丕貙 廿賳 囟丨賰鬲 毓賱賶 睾亘丕亍 丕賱毓丕賱賲 兀賵 亘賰賷鬲 爻鬲賳丿賲 賮賷 賰賱鬲丕 丕賱丨丕賱鬲賷賳"
賰鬲丕亘 賱胤賷賮 丕囟丕賮賱賷 亘毓囟 丕賱賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲 毓賳 賰賷賮 賷賳噩匕亘 丕賱丕賳爻丕賳 賱卮禺氐 丌禺乇貙 賵賲丕 丕賱爻亘亘 賵乇丕亍 賴匕丕 丕賱丕賳噩匕丕亘 賵賰賷賮 賷鬲賲賰賳 丕賱廿賳爻丕賳 賲賳 賮賴賲 丿賵丕賮毓賴 賵賰賷賮 賷鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓賴丕 亘卮賰賱 氐丨賷丨.
賵賱賰賳 亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賳賵毓 賲賳 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱匕賷 賷毓胤賷賳賷 亘毓囟 丕賱賳氐丕卅丨 丕賱賲乇爻賱丞 丕賱鬲賷 賱丕 丕爻丕爻 賱賴丕貙 賱丕 丕爻鬲爻賷睾賴. 賵兀賮囟賱 賱賵 賰丕賳 賮賷丿賷賵 賱丕 賷鬲噩丕賵夭 丕賱禺賲爻丞 毓卮乇 丿賯賷賯丞 毓賱賶 丕賱賷賵鬲賷賵亘.
丕爻鬲賮丿鬲 賲賳賴 亘毓囟 丕賱賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲 丕賱亘爻賷胤丞 賵賱賰賳 丕賱噩丿賷丿 丕賱匕賷 鬲毓賱賲鬲賴 賱賷爻 亘丕賱賯丿乇 丕賱賰丕賮賷 丕賱匕賷 賷鬲賳丕爻亘 賲毓 賰賵賳賴 賰鬲丕亘 亘毓賳賵丕賳 賰賷賮 賳噩丿 丕賱丨亘.
賰鬲丕亘 賱胤賷賮 丕囟丕賮賱賷 亘毓囟 丕賱賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲 毓賳 賰賷賮 賷賳噩匕亘 丕賱丕賳爻丕賳 賱卮禺氐 丌禺乇貙 賵賲丕 丕賱爻亘亘 賵乇丕亍 賴匕丕 丕賱丕賳噩匕丕亘 賵賰賷賮 賷鬲賲賰賳 丕賱廿賳爻丕賳 賲賳 賮賴賲 丿賵丕賮毓賴 賵賰賷賮 賷鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓賴丕 亘卮賰賱 氐丨賷丨.
賵賱賰賳 亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 賱賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賳賵毓 賲賳 丕賱賰鬲亘 丕賱匕賷 賷毓胤賷賳賷 亘毓囟 丕賱賳氐丕卅丨 丕賱賲乇爻賱丞 丕賱鬲賷 賱丕 丕爻丕爻 賱賴丕貙 賱丕 丕爻鬲爻賷睾賴. 賵兀賮囟賱 賱賵 賰丕賳 賮賷丿賷賵 賱丕 賷鬲噩丕賵夭 丕賱禺賲爻丞 毓卮乇 丿賯賷賯丞 毓賱賶 丕賱賷賵鬲賷賵亘.
丕爻鬲賮丿鬲 賲賳賴 亘毓囟 丕賱賲毓賱賵賲丕鬲 丕賱亘爻賷胤丞 賵賱賰賳 丕賱噩丿賷丿 丕賱匕賷 鬲毓賱賲鬲賴 賱賷爻 亘丕賱賯丿乇 丕賱賰丕賮賷 丕賱匕賷 賷鬲賳丕爻亘 賲毓 賰賵賳賴 賰鬲丕亘 亘毓賳賵丕賳 賰賷賮 賳噩丿 丕賱丨亘.
August 26, 2018
讴鬲丕亘 噩丕賱亘蹖 亘賵丿貙 禺賱丕氐賴 賵 賲賮蹖丿貙 丌賲賵夭卮 賲蹖鈥屫囏� 鬲丕 亘丕 賯爻賲鬲蹖 丕夭 賳丕禺賵丿丌诏丕賴 賲丕 讴賴 丿乇诏蹖乇 丕賳鬲禺丕亘 讴乇丿賳 丕爻鬲 賵 丿賱丕蹖賱 丌賳 丕賳鬲禺丕亘鈥屬囏� 丌卮賳丕 亘卮賵蹖賲 賵 丿乇賳鬲蹖噩賴 丕賳鬲禺丕亘鈥屬囏й屬呚з� 亘丕 趩卮賲丕賳 亘丕夭鬲乇 賵 丌诏丕賴丕賳賴鈥屫� 丕賳噩丕賲 卮賵丿.
August 19, 2022
毓賳賵丕賳 鬲乇噩賲賴贁 賮丕乇爻蹖: 毓卮賯 乇丕 噩爻鬲賳
March 5, 2025
爻胤丨賷 噩丿賸丕.
April 9, 2020
A great book, and like Allain de Butten's "essays in love," he opposes Romanticism and clearly suggests a more realistic yet healthier notion of love and how to find it. An absolute to-read-again.
乇蹖卮賴 蹖 鬲乇爻 賲丕 丿乇 丨囟賵乇 賲毓卮賵賯 丕丨鬲賲丕賱蹖 丕蹖賳 丕丨爻丕爻 丕爻鬲 讴賴 賳讴賳丿 丿爻鬲 乇丿 亘賴 爻蹖賳賴 丕賲 亘夭賳丿. 亘賴 丕蹖賳 禺丕胤乇 丿乇 诏乇賮鬲賳 卮賲丕乇賴 蹖丕 诏匕丕卮鬲賳 賯乇丕乇 鬲乇丿蹖丿 丿丕乇蹖賲
讴賴 丕丨爻丕爻 賲蹖 讴賳蹖賲 丿乇 倬蹖卮诏丕賴 蹖讴 賲賵噩賵丿 賵丕賱丕賲賯丕賲蹖 賴爻鬲蹖賲 讴賴 毓丕乇蹖 丕夭 賳賯氐 賴丕蹖 賲毓賲賵賱 丕爻鬲 賵 讴賱蹖丿 禺賵卮亘禺鬲蹖 賲丕 丿乇 丿爻鬲丕賳 賲亘丕乇讴 丕賵爻鬲. 亘乇丕蹖 賴賲蹖賳 鬲毓噩亘蹖 賳丿丕乇丿 讴賴 丿乇 賲賯丕亘賱 丕賵 禺噩丕賱鬲 亘讴卮蹖賲 蹖丕 丿趩丕乇 賱讴賳鬲 夭亘丕賳 卮賵蹖賲. 賵丕讴賳卮 毓丕賯賱丕賳賴 鬲乇 丕蹖賳 丕爻鬲 讴賴 亘賴 禺丕胤乇 亘蹖丕賵乇蹖賲 讴賴 丕蹖賳 丕爻賵賴 蹖 夭蹖亘丕蹖蹖 賵 讴賲丕賱
倬爻 丕夭 賲丿鬲蹖 亘丕胤賳 倬蹖趩蹖丿賴 蹖 禺賵丿 乇丕 亘乇賵夭 禺賵丕賴丿 丿丕丿 賵 丿乇 賲賵丕賯毓蹖 亘丕 乇賮鬲丕乇賴丕蹖 賳賵賲蹖丿 讴賳賳丿賴 賵 丿蹖賵丕賳賴 賵丕乇卮 賲丕蹖賴 蹖 睾賲 賵 睾氐賴 賲丕賳 禺賵丕賴丿 卮丿
丕蹖賳 賵丕賯毓蹖鬲 鬲賱禺 亘賴 賲丕 讴賲讴 賲蹖 讴賳丿 讴賴 賲賵賯毓 氐丨亘鬲 亘丕 丕賵 丌爻賵丿賴 亘丕卮蹖賲: 丿乇 賵丕賯毓 賲丕 丿乇 亘乇丕亘乇 蹖讴 賲丨亘賵亘 丌爻賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 爻乇賳賵卮鬲 賲丕 乇丕 丿爻鬲丕賳 馗乇蹖賮 禺賵丿
丿丕乇丿 賯乇丕乇 賳诏乇賮鬲賴 丕蹖賲. 丕賵 蹖讴 賲賵噩賵丿 賲毓賲賵賱蹖 丕爻鬲 亘丕 賴賲丕賳 丕囟胤乇丕亘 賴丕貙 讴丕爻鬲蹖 賴丕貙 賵 賳賯胤賴 囟毓賮 賴丕蹖蹖 讴賴 丿乇 禺賵丿賲丕賳 爻乇丕睾 丿丕乇蹖賲. 丨丕賱丕 亘丕 丕胤賲蹖賳丕賳 讴丕賲賱 賲蹖 丿丕賳蹖賲 讴賴 丿乇 賯乇丕乇 毓丕卮賯丕賳賴貙 蹖讴 賲賵噩賵丿 睾賲 丕賳诏蹖夭 亘丕 蹖讴 賲賵噩賵丿 睾賲 丕賳诏蹖夭 丿蹖诏乇 亘賴 鬲賵丕賮賯 賲蹖 乇爻賳丿 讴賴 乇丕亘胤賴 丕蹖 乇丕 卮乇賵毓 讴賳賳丿 讴賴 亘賴 賲乇賵乇 夭賲丕賳 賵 丿乇
.亘爻蹖丕乇蹖 丕夭 賲賵丕乇丿 丕夭 丌賳 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 丕卮鬲亘丕賴 賮噩蹖毓 蹖丕丿 禺賵丕賴賳丿 讴乇丿
乇蹖卮賴 蹖 鬲乇爻 賲丕 丿乇 丨囟賵乇 賲毓卮賵賯 丕丨鬲賲丕賱蹖 丕蹖賳 丕丨爻丕爻 丕爻鬲 讴賴 賳讴賳丿 丿爻鬲 乇丿 亘賴 爻蹖賳賴 丕賲 亘夭賳丿. 亘賴 丕蹖賳 禺丕胤乇 丿乇 诏乇賮鬲賳 卮賲丕乇賴 蹖丕 诏匕丕卮鬲賳 賯乇丕乇 鬲乇丿蹖丿 丿丕乇蹖賲
讴賴 丕丨爻丕爻 賲蹖 讴賳蹖賲 丿乇 倬蹖卮诏丕賴 蹖讴 賲賵噩賵丿 賵丕賱丕賲賯丕賲蹖 賴爻鬲蹖賲 讴賴 毓丕乇蹖 丕夭 賳賯氐 賴丕蹖 賲毓賲賵賱 丕爻鬲 賵 讴賱蹖丿 禺賵卮亘禺鬲蹖 賲丕 丿乇 丿爻鬲丕賳 賲亘丕乇讴 丕賵爻鬲. 亘乇丕蹖 賴賲蹖賳 鬲毓噩亘蹖 賳丿丕乇丿 讴賴 丿乇 賲賯丕亘賱 丕賵 禺噩丕賱鬲 亘讴卮蹖賲 蹖丕 丿趩丕乇 賱讴賳鬲 夭亘丕賳 卮賵蹖賲. 賵丕讴賳卮 毓丕賯賱丕賳賴 鬲乇 丕蹖賳 丕爻鬲 讴賴 亘賴 禺丕胤乇 亘蹖丕賵乇蹖賲 讴賴 丕蹖賳 丕爻賵賴 蹖 夭蹖亘丕蹖蹖 賵 讴賲丕賱
倬爻 丕夭 賲丿鬲蹖 亘丕胤賳 倬蹖趩蹖丿賴 蹖 禺賵丿 乇丕 亘乇賵夭 禺賵丕賴丿 丿丕丿 賵 丿乇 賲賵丕賯毓蹖 亘丕 乇賮鬲丕乇賴丕蹖 賳賵賲蹖丿 讴賳賳丿賴 賵 丿蹖賵丕賳賴 賵丕乇卮 賲丕蹖賴 蹖 睾賲 賵 睾氐賴 賲丕賳 禺賵丕賴丿 卮丿
丕蹖賳 賵丕賯毓蹖鬲 鬲賱禺 亘賴 賲丕 讴賲讴 賲蹖 讴賳丿 讴賴 賲賵賯毓 氐丨亘鬲 亘丕 丕賵 丌爻賵丿賴 亘丕卮蹖賲: 丿乇 賵丕賯毓 賲丕 丿乇 亘乇丕亘乇 蹖讴 賲丨亘賵亘 丌爻賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 爻乇賳賵卮鬲 賲丕 乇丕 丿爻鬲丕賳 馗乇蹖賮 禺賵丿
丿丕乇丿 賯乇丕乇 賳诏乇賮鬲賴 丕蹖賲. 丕賵 蹖讴 賲賵噩賵丿 賲毓賲賵賱蹖 丕爻鬲 亘丕 賴賲丕賳 丕囟胤乇丕亘 賴丕貙 讴丕爻鬲蹖 賴丕貙 賵 賳賯胤賴 囟毓賮 賴丕蹖蹖 讴賴 丿乇 禺賵丿賲丕賳 爻乇丕睾 丿丕乇蹖賲. 丨丕賱丕 亘丕 丕胤賲蹖賳丕賳 讴丕賲賱 賲蹖 丿丕賳蹖賲 讴賴 丿乇 賯乇丕乇 毓丕卮賯丕賳賴貙 蹖讴 賲賵噩賵丿 睾賲 丕賳诏蹖夭 亘丕 蹖讴 賲賵噩賵丿 睾賲 丕賳诏蹖夭 丿蹖诏乇 亘賴 鬲賵丕賮賯 賲蹖 乇爻賳丿 讴賴 乇丕亘胤賴 丕蹖 乇丕 卮乇賵毓 讴賳賳丿 讴賴 亘賴 賲乇賵乇 夭賲丕賳 賵 丿乇
.亘爻蹖丕乇蹖 丕夭 賲賵丕乇丿 丕夭 丌賳 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 丕卮鬲亘丕賴 賮噩蹖毓 蹖丕丿 禺賵丕賴賳丿 讴乇丿
September 15, 2019
A very down to earth book despite the cheesiness of the title. And in usual de-Botton fashion, funny, forgiving and ironically doomsday-ish. Yet expecting less and being prepared to laugh more, teach more, listen more is perhaps a good way to look at life and not only relationships.
鈥淲e trust that it is an option to lead a good love life without regularly making a complete idiot of ourselves. It isn鈥檛鈥�
鈥淲e trust that it is an option to lead a good love life without regularly making a complete idiot of ourselves. It isn鈥檛鈥�
November 25, 2024
賰鬲丕亘 噩賲賷賱 噩丿丕 賵賱胤賷賮 賵禺賮賷賮貙 賵廿賳 鬲禺賱賱鬲賴 亘毓囟 丕賱孬乇孬乇丞貙 賰毓丕丿丞 丌賱丕賳 丿賵 亘賵鬲賵賳. 亘毓囟 丕賱兀賮賰丕乇 丕賱鬲賷 噩丕亍鬲 賮賷賴 毓賳 毓賱丕賯丕鬲 丕賱丨亘 賯賵賷丞貙 賵廿賳 賰丕賳鬲 胤乇賷賯丞 氐賷丕睾鬲賴丕 亘丕賴鬲丞貙 賵賱爻鬲 兀毓賱賲 毓賱賶 賵噩賴 丕賱丿賯丞 賲丕 廿匕丕 賰丕賳 匕賱賰 亘爻亘亘 丕賱鬲乇噩賲丞貙 兀賲 亘爻亘亘 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賳賮爻賴貙 廿匕 賱賲 兀胤賾賱毓 亘毓丿 毓賱賶 丕賱兀氐賱.
爻鬲賰賵賳 賱賷 賵賯賮丞 賲賮氐賱丞 賲毓 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賵兀賮賰丕乇賴 賲毓 匕賱賰.
爻鬲賰賵賳 賱賷 賵賯賮丞 賲賮氐賱丞 賲毓 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賵兀賮賰丕乇賴 賲毓 匕賱賰.
September 11, 2021
I'm fascinated how this book helped me navigate through this deeply complex thing we call love. It gave me a lot to reflect upon and also made me want to share this knowledge as wide as possible, for the sake of the better world I envision.
.
.
.
"We need to move towards a more humane and mature model of complex love; a love that tolerates imperfection and ambivalence, that accepts that we can have faults and love ourselves and can see the faults of another person and still love them."
"Realism about oneself leads to a more realistic engagement with others. It helps us compromise constructively around our ideas of who might be good enough for us. Of course, we have got a lot of merits, but we need to compromise because we鈥檙e difficult people to be with. We will be a challenge for anyone."
"... the only thing that is actually on offer: a radically imperfect but genuine love for another flawed person and a necessarily troubled but still valuable shared life beside them."
.
.
.
"We need to move towards a more humane and mature model of complex love; a love that tolerates imperfection and ambivalence, that accepts that we can have faults and love ourselves and can see the faults of another person and still love them."
"Realism about oneself leads to a more realistic engagement with others. It helps us compromise constructively around our ideas of who might be good enough for us. Of course, we have got a lot of merits, but we need to compromise because we鈥檙e difficult people to be with. We will be a challenge for anyone."
"... the only thing that is actually on offer: a radically imperfect but genuine love for another flawed person and a necessarily troubled but still valuable shared life beside them."
March 2, 2024
Another tightly written book from The School Of Life s茅ries. Hardly a word wasted, and can be read in an hour or two but you will want - and need - much more time to reflect on the insights and wisdom.
One of the fun things about reading the SoL books is to see all the ways one has messed up and gone wrong over the years (I鈥檓 in my sixth decade) being explained forensically and clearly, although always in a compassionate way. I find myself often wishing I had had the insights on offer when I was younger but then reflect that they may not have meant anything to me then and that one needs to live them first (ie make the mistakes) then have the sages show us gently how we got it wrong, and out of that process comes understanding and wisdom.
One of the fun things about reading the SoL books is to see all the ways one has messed up and gone wrong over the years (I鈥檓 in my sixth decade) being explained forensically and clearly, although always in a compassionate way. I find myself often wishing I had had the insights on offer when I was younger but then reflect that they may not have meant anything to me then and that one needs to live them first (ie make the mistakes) then have the sages show us gently how we got it wrong, and out of that process comes understanding and wisdom.
December 25, 2023
As always a very illuminating read from 鈥淭he School of Life鈥�. Short, concise, perfect for summing up the essentials about love.
鈥淲e have to be at peace with the prospect of many years of solitude in order to have any chance of forming a good relationship, or we鈥檒l love no longer being single rather more than we love the partner who spared us being so.鈥�
鈥淲e have to be at peace with the prospect of many years of solitude in order to have any chance of forming a good relationship, or we鈥檒l love no longer being single rather more than we love the partner who spared us being so.鈥�
December 15, 2024
Incroyable, un livre tr猫s bien construit, avec des propos structur茅s et des id茅es claires. Je l'ai lu d'une traite tellement il 茅tait captivant. J'ai appris beaucoup de choses sur moi m锚me et mon comportement en relation. Je recommande vivement 脿 toutes les personnes qui se posent des questions sur leur c茅libat.
January 11, 2020
Concise, doesn't lecture, not drowned out with philosophical references. Good advice and insight that is digestible and can be returned to.
December 31, 2020
Read this in a self curated series of zen meditation, and Gibran's The Prophet. They all have the same message, beautifully delivered in such different language: it all begins with yourself, you are not to be ruled by passion only, and to be is to suffer. Fun stuff!
March 6, 2021
Short and crisp view on realistic view of relationships. What I love about the book is how it treats everyone as flawed and focuses on acceptance of imperfections of human beings.
April 23, 2023
賲賲賳賵賳賲 丕夭 丌賱賳 丿賵亘丕鬲賳 亘丕亘鬲 蹖丕丿 丿丕丿賳 丕蹖賳 賴賲賴 賳讴鬲賴 賲賴賲.
Read
July 24, 2023Watch me do the exact opposite of what this books says so I will stay single & happy 4ever !!
February 24, 2025
鬲丕賳賷 賰鬲丕亘 賮賷 爻賱爻賱賴 毓噩亘賳賷 丕夭丕賷 賳禺鬲丕乇 卮乇賷賰 丨賷丕丞 賲賳丕爻亘 賵賳亘鬲毓丿 毓賳 丕賱丕禺胤丕亍 夭賷 鬲賲爻賰 亘卮乇賷賰 鬲乇賰賳丕 賵賳丿賷 賮乇氐賴 賱賱賷 賲賳毓乇賮賵卮 賷孬亘鬲 賱賷賳丕 賳賮爻賴
March 25, 2025
Was killing time at a bookstore
March 30, 2025
Yo quer铆a que me dijeran c贸mo encontrar pareja. XD.
De todos modos, creo que es un muy buen libro. Y habla de temas avalados por la psicolog铆a moderna as铆 que doble check por ah铆.
Igual que, on confidence, creo que es un libro que me gustar铆a tener en la mesilla de noche y revisitarlo para recordarme cosas sobre m铆 y sobre el futuro y sobre el presente e intentar las cosas. As铆 que buena lectura, me gustan m谩s estos dos que el libro largo de autores
De todos modos, creo que es un muy buen libro. Y habla de temas avalados por la psicolog铆a moderna as铆 que doble check por ah铆.
Igual que, on confidence, creo que es un libro que me gustar铆a tener en la mesilla de noche y revisitarlo para recordarme cosas sobre m铆 y sobre el futuro y sobre el presente e intentar las cosas. As铆 que buena lectura, me gustan m谩s estos dos que el libro largo de autores
Read
May 18, 2024i accidentally read this book in Dussmann.
August 25, 2021
So many helpful points to take from this book, and incredibly calming and reassuring too.
July 18, 2018
Someone posted two pages from this book as their Insta story. After I read those two pages, I knew I had to read this.
After I figured out that I will have to travel to UK to get my hands on a hard copy, I settled and downloaded the PDF online. Took me half hour to finish reading it.
It鈥檚 splendid! The book simplifies some really complicated feelings and gives a different perspective.
Anybody in love or looking for love or who even just generally wants to be more compassionate should read this.
After I figured out that I will have to travel to UK to get my hands on a hard copy, I settled and downloaded the PDF online. Took me half hour to finish reading it.
It鈥檚 splendid! The book simplifies some really complicated feelings and gives a different perspective.
Anybody in love or looking for love or who even just generally wants to be more compassionate should read this.
July 5, 2020
亘丕 丕蹖賳讴賴 丕爻賲 睾賱胤 丕賳丿丕夭蹖 丿丕乇賴貨 丕賲丕 丕夭 賳馗乇 乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 讴鬲丕亘 亘爻蹖丕乇 禺賵亘蹖 亘賵丿.
Displaying 1 - 30 of 133 reviews
Can't find what you're looking for?
Get help and learn more about the design.