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小胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪: 泻邪泻 写邪 锌褉械褍褋锌械械屑, 泻芯谐邪褌芯 褋胁械褌褗褌 薪懈 锌褉懈褌懈褋泻邪 懈 芯斜褗褉泻胁邪
袠屑邪褌械 卸懈胁芯 胁褗芯斜褉邪卸械薪懈械? 孝胁褗褉写械 褋褉邪屑械卸谢懈胁懈 懈 褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈 褋褌械? 袘谢芯泻懈褉邪褌械, 泻芯谐邪褌芯 褋械 芯泻邪卸械褌械 胁 褑械薪褌褗褉邪 薪邪 胁薪懈屑邪薪懈械? 孝褗谢锌懈褌械 胁懈 锌芯褌懈褋泻邪褌, 邪 褕褍屑褗褌 胁懈 锌褉械褌芯胁邪褉胁邪? 孝芯谐邪胁邪 褔械褋褌懈褌芯! 袩芯锌邪写邪褌械 胁 锌褉懈胁懈谢械谐懈褉芯胁邪薪邪褌邪 谐褉褍锌邪 薪邪 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪.
小胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪芯褋褌褌邪 械 胁褉芯写械薪邪 褔械褉褌邪, 泻芯褟褌芯 蟹邪褋褟谐邪 芯泻芯谢芯 15鈥�20 锌褉芯褑械薪褌邪 芯褌 薪邪褋械谢械薪懈械褌芯. 小胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪 褔械褋褌芯 褋邪 屑薪芯谐芯 褍屑薪懈, 褌胁芯褉褔械褋泻懈 薪邪褌褍褉懈, 薪芯 屑薪芯蟹懈薪邪 芯褌 褌褟褏 褋褌褉邪写邪褌 芯褌 谢懈锌褋邪 薪邪 褋邪屑芯褔褍胁褋褌胁懈械. 孝械 薪械 褋邪 鈥炐叫敌惭€芯褌懈褑懈鈥�, 泻邪泻褌芯 写褗谢谐芯 胁褉械屑械 斜褟褏邪 蟹邪泻谢械泄屑褟胁邪薪懈. 孝褟褏薪邪褌邪 懈蟹芯褋褌褉械薪邪 褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪芯褋褌 芯斜邪褔械 屑芯卸械 写邪 谐懈 薪邪泻邪褉邪 写邪 褋械 懈蟹芯谢懈褉邪褌 芯褌 胁褗薪褕薪懈褟 褋胁褟褌.
袗泻芯 懈 胁懈械 褋褌械 芯褌 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪, 褌褍泻 褖械 薪邪屑械褉懈褌械 褉械褕械薪懈褟 蟹邪 褌芯胁邪 泻邪泻 写邪 锌芯褋褌懈谐薪械褌械 褖邪褋褌谢懈胁 懈 褍写芯胁谢械褌胁芯褉褟胁邪褖 卸懈胁芯褌. 袣薪懈谐邪褌邪 褖械 胁懈 锌芯屑芯谐薪械 写邪 锌褉械写械褎懈薪懈褉邪褌械 褋胁芯械褌芯 屑懈薪邪谢芯 懈 写邪 蟹邪锌芯褔薪械褌械 写邪 谢械泻褍胁邪褌械 胁褗褌褉械褕薪懈褌械 褋懈 褉邪薪懈.
小胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪芯褋褌褌邪 屑芯卸械 写邪 械 薪械胁械褉芯褟褌薪芯 斜褉械屑械 蟹邪褉邪写懈 褋胁褉褗褏褋褌懈屑褍谢邪褑懈褟褌邪 薪邪 薪械褉胁薪邪褌邪 褋懈褋褌械屑邪, 泻芯械褌芯 械 屑薪芯谐芯 懈蟹褌芯褖懈褌械谢薪芯. 袨褌 写褉褍谐邪 褋褌褉邪薪邪 芯斜邪褔械, 褌芯胁邪 泻邪褔械褋褌胁芯 写邪胁邪 蟹薪邪褔懈褌械谢薪懈 锌褉械写懈屑褋褌胁邪 锌芯褉邪写懈 褋胁芯泄褋褌胁芯褌芯 褋懈 写邪 懈蟹芯褋褌褉褟 褋械褌懈胁邪褌邪. 小胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪 褋邪 胁 褋褗褋褌芯褟薪懈械 锌芯-蟹邪写褗谢斜芯褔械薪芯 写邪 芯斜褉邪斜芯褌胁邪褌 懈薪褎芯褉屑邪褑懈褟褌邪 懈 写邪 蟹邪斜械谢褟蟹胁邪褌 褎懈薪懈 薪褞邪薪褋懈 懈 锌芯写褉芯斜薪芯褋褌懈, 褔械褋褌芯 锌褉械薪械斜褉械谐胁邪薪懈 懈谢懈 锌芯谐褉械褕薪芯 懈薪褌械褉锌褉械褌懈褉邪薪懈 芯褌 芯褋褌邪薪邪谢懈褌械.
袩褉械胁褗褉薪械褌械 褋胁芯褟褌邪 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪芯褋褌 胁 褋褍锌械褉褋懈谢邪, 蟹邪 写邪 褉械邪谢懈蟹懈褉邪褌械 懈褋褌懈薪褋泻懈褟 褋懈 锌芯褌械薪褑懈邪谢.
小胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪芯褋褌褌邪 械 胁褉芯写械薪邪 褔械褉褌邪, 泻芯褟褌芯 蟹邪褋褟谐邪 芯泻芯谢芯 15鈥�20 锌褉芯褑械薪褌邪 芯褌 薪邪褋械谢械薪懈械褌芯. 小胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪 褔械褋褌芯 褋邪 屑薪芯谐芯 褍屑薪懈, 褌胁芯褉褔械褋泻懈 薪邪褌褍褉懈, 薪芯 屑薪芯蟹懈薪邪 芯褌 褌褟褏 褋褌褉邪写邪褌 芯褌 谢懈锌褋邪 薪邪 褋邪屑芯褔褍胁褋褌胁懈械. 孝械 薪械 褋邪 鈥炐叫敌惭€芯褌懈褑懈鈥�, 泻邪泻褌芯 写褗谢谐芯 胁褉械屑械 斜褟褏邪 蟹邪泻谢械泄屑褟胁邪薪懈. 孝褟褏薪邪褌邪 懈蟹芯褋褌褉械薪邪 褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪芯褋褌 芯斜邪褔械 屑芯卸械 写邪 谐懈 薪邪泻邪褉邪 写邪 褋械 懈蟹芯谢懈褉邪褌 芯褌 胁褗薪褕薪懈褟 褋胁褟褌.
袗泻芯 懈 胁懈械 褋褌械 芯褌 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪, 褌褍泻 褖械 薪邪屑械褉懈褌械 褉械褕械薪懈褟 蟹邪 褌芯胁邪 泻邪泻 写邪 锌芯褋褌懈谐薪械褌械 褖邪褋褌谢懈胁 懈 褍写芯胁谢械褌胁芯褉褟胁邪褖 卸懈胁芯褌. 袣薪懈谐邪褌邪 褖械 胁懈 锌芯屑芯谐薪械 写邪 锌褉械写械褎懈薪懈褉邪褌械 褋胁芯械褌芯 屑懈薪邪谢芯 懈 写邪 蟹邪锌芯褔薪械褌械 写邪 谢械泻褍胁邪褌械 胁褗褌褉械褕薪懈褌械 褋懈 褉邪薪懈.
小胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪芯褋褌褌邪 屑芯卸械 写邪 械 薪械胁械褉芯褟褌薪芯 斜褉械屑械 蟹邪褉邪写懈 褋胁褉褗褏褋褌懈屑褍谢邪褑懈褟褌邪 薪邪 薪械褉胁薪邪褌邪 褋懈褋褌械屑邪, 泻芯械褌芯 械 屑薪芯谐芯 懈蟹褌芯褖懈褌械谢薪芯. 袨褌 写褉褍谐邪 褋褌褉邪薪邪 芯斜邪褔械, 褌芯胁邪 泻邪褔械褋褌胁芯 写邪胁邪 蟹薪邪褔懈褌械谢薪懈 锌褉械写懈屑褋褌胁邪 锌芯褉邪写懈 褋胁芯泄褋褌胁芯褌芯 褋懈 写邪 懈蟹芯褋褌褉褟 褋械褌懈胁邪褌邪. 小胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪 褋邪 胁 褋褗褋褌芯褟薪懈械 锌芯-蟹邪写褗谢斜芯褔械薪芯 写邪 芯斜褉邪斜芯褌胁邪褌 懈薪褎芯褉屑邪褑懈褟褌邪 懈 写邪 蟹邪斜械谢褟蟹胁邪褌 褎懈薪懈 薪褞邪薪褋懈 懈 锌芯写褉芯斜薪芯褋褌懈, 褔械褋褌芯 锌褉械薪械斜褉械谐胁邪薪懈 懈谢懈 锌芯谐褉械褕薪芯 懈薪褌械褉锌褉械褌懈褉邪薪懈 芯褌 芯褋褌邪薪邪谢懈褌械.
袩褉械胁褗褉薪械褌械 褋胁芯褟褌邪 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪芯褋褌 胁 褋褍锌械褉褋懈谢邪, 蟹邪 写邪 褉械邪谢懈蟹懈褉邪褌械 懈褋褌懈薪褋泻懈褟 褋懈 锌芯褌械薪褑懈邪谢.
352 pages, 屑邪谢褗泻 褎芯褉屑邪褌, 屑械泻懈 泻芯褉懈褑懈
First published January 1, 1996
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October 16, 2012
It's a godsend. So nice to know why I am the way I am after a lifetime of "loved ones" telling me I needed to be less shy, have more confidence (that's real doable when someone constantly criticizes your inborn characteristics), be more outgoing, worry less, am too thin-skinned, take everything personally (duh, I do take it personally when I'm being attacked), and my favorite, "You are just like your father!". I am just like my father, it's an inherited trait and he's one of my favorite people. Also nice to know why I'm irritable when I'm too hot or too cold, my bangs are in my eyes, socks are too tight, how I know right away if I will get along with someone the first time we speak, why I never answer the phone and avoid speaking on the phone, why I mistrust and question religion and authority figures, and strangely enough why Benedryl not only makes me tired but paranoid and moody. Weird. But at least now I know that I am not. So liberating!!
May 7, 2010
Ok, I finished it.
First the good: Aron is at her best when she is helping the reader assess real world challenges and come up with concrete solutions. What do you do when your job overwhelms you? How do you work it out with your spouse or friends when activities they find exciting just overwhelm and overstimulate you? That's good stuff, and I think if you're aware that your personal tendencies are causing you to be stuck in unpleasant or untenable situations, this is definitely a helpful book. It will also be helpful for those who need reassuring that there are other people out there who have the same tendencies and sensitivities. I personally found the chapters on children to be good reading, because many of the traits she described fit me to a T as a child, and it's nice to think of myself as having been something other than a scaredy-kid.
There's a lot here I disliked or felt ambiguous about, however. Aron's writing style makes me grind my teeth (NO ONE should use "alas" that often, particularly not in nonfiction). I'm also still not crazy about the label "Highly Sensitive Person"; I know there are positive connotations to sensitivity, but every time I read Hightly Sensitive Person my mind sort of replaced it with Delicate Flower, which is the opposite of Aron's intent. That might be my own fault, though, based on years of people saying, "Why are you so SENSITIVE?" Additionally, while I appreciated Aron's forays into the possible biological causes of these physical and mental traits, at best the discussion lacks nuance, and at worst she just gets her facts wrong. I felt, reading the brief sections on medication and biology, that she might have been better off leaving out these sections entirely, since her ambiguity comes through really strongly.
First the good: Aron is at her best when she is helping the reader assess real world challenges and come up with concrete solutions. What do you do when your job overwhelms you? How do you work it out with your spouse or friends when activities they find exciting just overwhelm and overstimulate you? That's good stuff, and I think if you're aware that your personal tendencies are causing you to be stuck in unpleasant or untenable situations, this is definitely a helpful book. It will also be helpful for those who need reassuring that there are other people out there who have the same tendencies and sensitivities. I personally found the chapters on children to be good reading, because many of the traits she described fit me to a T as a child, and it's nice to think of myself as having been something other than a scaredy-kid.
There's a lot here I disliked or felt ambiguous about, however. Aron's writing style makes me grind my teeth (NO ONE should use "alas" that often, particularly not in nonfiction). I'm also still not crazy about the label "Highly Sensitive Person"; I know there are positive connotations to sensitivity, but every time I read Hightly Sensitive Person my mind sort of replaced it with Delicate Flower, which is the opposite of Aron's intent. That might be my own fault, though, based on years of people saying, "Why are you so SENSITIVE?" Additionally, while I appreciated Aron's forays into the possible biological causes of these physical and mental traits, at best the discussion lacks nuance, and at worst she just gets her facts wrong. I felt, reading the brief sections on medication and biology, that she might have been better off leaving out these sections entirely, since her ambiguity comes through really strongly.
September 23, 2020
EA hasn't written a book about being more sensitive, but about being a psychologically troubled introvert with an inferiority complex. It's full of crap about spirit guides, religion and dreams as guides which imho has nothing to do with exhaustion and overstimulation from normal experiences. Other than that I got really annoyed with the whole 'society needs us' thing about how 'we' are nurturing society and more HSPs should become leaders. I'm not nurturing society, I'm just trying to figure out how to go out without wanting to cry from overstimulation or needing twelve hours of sleep afterwards.
May 4, 2016
Thankful that this book exists to support those who have always felt more sensitive to the world around them. Though I enjoy a party every now and then, I do prefer one-on-one conversations and time spent reading books and listening to Ariana Grande. With the popularity of books like
Quiet
by Susan Cain, society has started to warm up to those who desire time alone and those who get aroused faster by external stimuli. Still, Elaine Aron's The Highly Sensitive Person contributes to our understanding of sensitive people by shedding light on our relationships, our work lives, and how we can thrive in the world around us.
I appreciate how Aron frames sensitivity as a trait that carries both strengths and weaknesses, as any facet of an individual does. She provides helpful tools to highly sensitive people on how to maximize the assets of sensitivity as well as strategies to cope with its challenges. She discusses how friends and family can interact with sensitive people in understanding ways, such as by not overreacting if a sensitive person asks for time alone or declines an invitation to a large gathering. While I felt that her tone came across as a little condescending to sensitive people at times, for the most part Aron did an amazing job of accepting and celebrating a trait so often dismissed by society.
I most loved Aron's emphasis on how we should avoid both pathologizing sensitivity and erasing it with medication. Though the book felt outdated in some parts - such as by not including therapies like - Aron makes relevant connections between various fields like psychology and gender studies. Overall, recommended to those who might identify as a highly sensitive person, or to those who want to understand us better. I think we all carry some sensitivity within us, and we can all work to cultivate it to our advantage.
I appreciate how Aron frames sensitivity as a trait that carries both strengths and weaknesses, as any facet of an individual does. She provides helpful tools to highly sensitive people on how to maximize the assets of sensitivity as well as strategies to cope with its challenges. She discusses how friends and family can interact with sensitive people in understanding ways, such as by not overreacting if a sensitive person asks for time alone or declines an invitation to a large gathering. While I felt that her tone came across as a little condescending to sensitive people at times, for the most part Aron did an amazing job of accepting and celebrating a trait so often dismissed by society.
I most loved Aron's emphasis on how we should avoid both pathologizing sensitivity and erasing it with medication. Though the book felt outdated in some parts - such as by not including therapies like - Aron makes relevant connections between various fields like psychology and gender studies. Overall, recommended to those who might identify as a highly sensitive person, or to those who want to understand us better. I think we all carry some sensitivity within us, and we can all work to cultivate it to our advantage.
April 21, 2010
If you have ever felt like life is too overwhelming and all you want to do is crawl into a cave and hide away from it all, this book might be for you.
This book contains a little too much psychobabble for my taste (too much talk about parenting your inner infant and other wonderful stuff like that - without all of that I would have given it five stars) but I am glad I read it because I finally understand why I am so weird. Now I know why I can be such an introvert even though I love being around people, why I can't handle people playing with my hair, why I can't remember people's names when I meet them for the first time, why I have such a low tolerance for alcohol, caffeine, and most medications, why I can't stand wearing wool scarves, why I startle so easily.....and many more traits that I thought were just part of my personality - mental quirks that I've developed over the years. Now I know that all of my weirdness is genetic and I'm pretty sure I lovingly passed it onto my oldest child.
The theory is basic: some people (approximately 15 percent) are born with nervous systems that are just more sensitive than average. These people notice, take in, and need time to process EVERYTHING: small details in rooms, people's moods, whether someone or something is touching them, how things smell, how foods they eat make them feel, small noises, the feel of the wind on their cheek, the look someone gave them from across the room, the slight tickly feeling in their throat, etc. Their nervous systems are constantly alerting them to new things, which can be overwhelming after a while. These people need down time, peace and quiet to recover from being around people, doing fun or exciting things, going somewhere loud, even interacting with their immediate family if it involves an activity where there is a lot to process. They need this down time even if these are fun activities that they look forward to and enjoy immensely! They also experience more physical symptoms of stress - their bodies react more to everything from what they eat or drink to what they are thinking about to demands placed on them by other people or their jobs.
Highly sensitive people are prone to anxiety and depression, partially because they are a minority in a world populated mostly with people who aren't quite so sensitive and don't understand why they have a hard time handling the normal demands of life or always seem stressed or unsocial. It can be easy to feel like you are falling short when you are constantly needing to "take a break" or "get some air" or "have some alone time," etc. or when you would rather be by yourself than hanging out with your loved ones. Highly sensitive types pick up on these differences, these nuances, even more than the average person would and take them to heart. There can be a deep feeling of not doing or being enough, or of being high-maintenance or having "issues."
The main advice in the book is to realize that if you happen to be a highly sensitive person, it is part of your genetic makeup and you shouldn't feel like you are less of a person because of it. In fact, most highly sensitive people are smart, thoughtful, and introspective - they have lots of thoughts and they have deep thoughts. So, be proud of your inner sensitivity! Also, realize your limits and plan your life accordingly. If you are going out on Friday night, especially if it is a new or fast-paced, busy experience, fill your Saturday with relaxing activities because you will probably need time to be quiet, rest, and just think and.... be.
This book contains a little too much psychobabble for my taste (too much talk about parenting your inner infant and other wonderful stuff like that - without all of that I would have given it five stars) but I am glad I read it because I finally understand why I am so weird. Now I know why I can be such an introvert even though I love being around people, why I can't handle people playing with my hair, why I can't remember people's names when I meet them for the first time, why I have such a low tolerance for alcohol, caffeine, and most medications, why I can't stand wearing wool scarves, why I startle so easily.....and many more traits that I thought were just part of my personality - mental quirks that I've developed over the years. Now I know that all of my weirdness is genetic and I'm pretty sure I lovingly passed it onto my oldest child.
The theory is basic: some people (approximately 15 percent) are born with nervous systems that are just more sensitive than average. These people notice, take in, and need time to process EVERYTHING: small details in rooms, people's moods, whether someone or something is touching them, how things smell, how foods they eat make them feel, small noises, the feel of the wind on their cheek, the look someone gave them from across the room, the slight tickly feeling in their throat, etc. Their nervous systems are constantly alerting them to new things, which can be overwhelming after a while. These people need down time, peace and quiet to recover from being around people, doing fun or exciting things, going somewhere loud, even interacting with their immediate family if it involves an activity where there is a lot to process. They need this down time even if these are fun activities that they look forward to and enjoy immensely! They also experience more physical symptoms of stress - their bodies react more to everything from what they eat or drink to what they are thinking about to demands placed on them by other people or their jobs.
Highly sensitive people are prone to anxiety and depression, partially because they are a minority in a world populated mostly with people who aren't quite so sensitive and don't understand why they have a hard time handling the normal demands of life or always seem stressed or unsocial. It can be easy to feel like you are falling short when you are constantly needing to "take a break" or "get some air" or "have some alone time," etc. or when you would rather be by yourself than hanging out with your loved ones. Highly sensitive types pick up on these differences, these nuances, even more than the average person would and take them to heart. There can be a deep feeling of not doing or being enough, or of being high-maintenance or having "issues."
The main advice in the book is to realize that if you happen to be a highly sensitive person, it is part of your genetic makeup and you shouldn't feel like you are less of a person because of it. In fact, most highly sensitive people are smart, thoughtful, and introspective - they have lots of thoughts and they have deep thoughts. So, be proud of your inner sensitivity! Also, realize your limits and plan your life accordingly. If you are going out on Friday night, especially if it is a new or fast-paced, busy experience, fill your Saturday with relaxing activities because you will probably need time to be quiet, rest, and just think and.... be.
July 4, 2014
Thoroughly disappointed. As I identify as an introvert, I have become increasingly suspicious that I might be high sensitive (or a HSP) as well.
I felt the book went too much into repeating how different people are HSPs are so at different points of their lives (childhood, adulthood, etc.). I get it already. I had hoped there would be more about how to cope and what HSPs can do.
Others have already gone over the issues in the book, but one part that particularly bothered me and turned me off for the rest of the book is one of the early quizzes about being out vs. in. As someone else mentions, the formatting of the book is not conducive for clear organization. This particular quiz (in my version) comes in the middle of the section that she recommends people to read. I'm not sure if that is an editorial decision, but I was annoyed that the quiz was not placed before the section, as I flipped through the pages after to find the section she recommended.
I also take severe issue with the quiz itself. It specifically refers to being "in" or "out" and whether the quiz taker leans too far in one direction or another. According to this quiz I am just on the cusp of being inside too much. But the wording of the question or her decision of how to score it is problematic. I do not see the issue of spending most of my time inside or alone, nor do I see a problem with stopping with my activity if I feel a little too overwhelmed to continue and need a break. Being out more often won't help me be happier or somehow make me less sensitive.
As another reviewer notes, the author discusses a woman who had a history of abuse and assault who finally started her artistic career after ending an abusive marriage. Aron does not note if the woman received therapy or other steps she might have taken and seems to imply that the woman was somehow "blocked" from her artistic abilities. That situation probably had less to do with sensitivity and more about healing from her past.
As yet another reviewer notes, Aron does get into New Age and religion. I won't deny that it probably helps many HSPs in their daily lives, but it went a little too far for me and I definitely just wanted the book to end.
It's unfortunate because it seems Aron is a leading figure when discussing HSPs and I had been very much looking forward to this book. I had also been considering buying the workbook that goes with this, but it looks like I'll be skipping this and any other works by this author.
I felt the book went too much into repeating how different people are HSPs are so at different points of their lives (childhood, adulthood, etc.). I get it already. I had hoped there would be more about how to cope and what HSPs can do.
Others have already gone over the issues in the book, but one part that particularly bothered me and turned me off for the rest of the book is one of the early quizzes about being out vs. in. As someone else mentions, the formatting of the book is not conducive for clear organization. This particular quiz (in my version) comes in the middle of the section that she recommends people to read. I'm not sure if that is an editorial decision, but I was annoyed that the quiz was not placed before the section, as I flipped through the pages after to find the section she recommended.
I also take severe issue with the quiz itself. It specifically refers to being "in" or "out" and whether the quiz taker leans too far in one direction or another. According to this quiz I am just on the cusp of being inside too much. But the wording of the question or her decision of how to score it is problematic. I do not see the issue of spending most of my time inside or alone, nor do I see a problem with stopping with my activity if I feel a little too overwhelmed to continue and need a break. Being out more often won't help me be happier or somehow make me less sensitive.
As another reviewer notes, the author discusses a woman who had a history of abuse and assault who finally started her artistic career after ending an abusive marriage. Aron does not note if the woman received therapy or other steps she might have taken and seems to imply that the woman was somehow "blocked" from her artistic abilities. That situation probably had less to do with sensitivity and more about healing from her past.
As yet another reviewer notes, Aron does get into New Age and religion. I won't deny that it probably helps many HSPs in their daily lives, but it went a little too far for me and I definitely just wanted the book to end.
It's unfortunate because it seems Aron is a leading figure when discussing HSPs and I had been very much looking forward to this book. I had also been considering buying the workbook that goes with this, but it looks like I'll be skipping this and any other works by this author.
July 29, 2011
I probably didn't like this mostly because it's self-help and I was just trying to get some concept of how to explain myself to other people... but way too much in the way of 'you thought there was something wrong with you, but there isn't!' Seriously, as an introverted person, don't you think most of us (70%) would be able to deduce what it is that makes us different (especially when many of us are also gifted)? Even with a rather tormented adolescence, I never thought there was anything 'wrong' with my sensitivity. I always liked being the way I was, so I think a separate book for people who are that way and enjoy it is in order.
I would have preferred this if it had been geared at informing and not at fixing the way we think about sensitivity. Understanding something leads to changing our concept, and telling a large group of variable people how to change something is just not helpful.
I also thought she was basing too much of it on how she is, as a sensitive person. It would have been beneficial if she would have talked about her own experience so that there was some context (in the form of a caveat) about how the information would apply to us. More research and less personal experience would have added credibility.
I would have preferred this if it had been geared at informing and not at fixing the way we think about sensitivity. Understanding something leads to changing our concept, and telling a large group of variable people how to change something is just not helpful.
I also thought she was basing too much of it on how she is, as a sensitive person. It would have been beneficial if she would have talked about her own experience so that there was some context (in the form of a caveat) about how the information would apply to us. More research and less personal experience would have added credibility.
February 10, 2014
was much better. If I hadn't read Quiet before reading this book, I may have given it 2 or 3 stars instead. There were a few helpful discussions of sensitivity and the differences between sensitive and non-sensitive people, but overall.. just.. ugh.
The author sounds very stuck in her way of thinking, and the style of writing was very grating. Everything was about childhood trauma (except for the excerpt that said it wasn't all about childhood trauma, really...just the rest of this chapter and the next and maybe some more throughout the book). There was a whole lot of shock factor -- she would start talking about a client, then all of a sudden drop "sexual abuse" all over the description and talk about childhood trauma. In one case, she talked about a former classmate who was teased, but who was getting better and moving on, and then -- bam! -- btw, he committed suicide.
I have no tolerance for this kind of writing. Especially since this is in a book about highly sensitive people, you'd think she would know better than to pull that.
Don't recommend. If you want to know about introversion and sensitivity, Quiet is a much better (and more helpful) book.
The author sounds very stuck in her way of thinking, and the style of writing was very grating. Everything was about childhood trauma (except for the excerpt that said it wasn't all about childhood trauma, really...just the rest of this chapter and the next and maybe some more throughout the book). There was a whole lot of shock factor -- she would start talking about a client, then all of a sudden drop "sexual abuse" all over the description and talk about childhood trauma. In one case, she talked about a former classmate who was teased, but who was getting better and moving on, and then -- bam! -- btw, he committed suicide.
I have no tolerance for this kind of writing. Especially since this is in a book about highly sensitive people, you'd think she would know better than to pull that.
Don't recommend. If you want to know about introversion and sensitivity, Quiet is a much better (and more helpful) book.
June 16, 2022
In an aggressive culture, non-HSPs are favored, and that fact will be obvious everywhere
Do not overschedule yourself. Allow time to think, to daydream. Keep your expectations realistic. Do not hide your abilities. Be your own advocate. Support your right to be yourself. Accept it when you have narrow interests. Or broad ones.
Being so eager to please, we鈥檙e not easy to liberate. We鈥檙e too aware of what others need.
I found this to be extremely interesting and insightful. I only just realised now at the time of writing this review that the author was not the narrator. This doesn't matter, but I assumed it was her. Being a HSP and psychotherapist herself, the author has tremendous experience and clinical knowledge into the phenomena behind this mostly unrealised personality type.
One not must assume all highly sensitive people are extraverts, or introverts either, there are so many qualities to this personality. Upbringing, attachment style is a huge one, trauma, and life events all go into the melting pot of this ideal.
I love learning, and here I realised there are so much to this concept. Things I knew but was not made concrete until now. A sensitivity to light, sound, smell just to name a few. I suppose most interestingly to me was the susceptibility to cold. This rang so true for me. As did those prior sensitivities. I am unfortunately well able to a high level of discomfort when working with people who don't have clean clothing or who possibly are not very hygienic. Sometimes this is honestly hard to tolerate, and knowing I'm not abnormal is helpful.
On the other hand, a lot did not apply to me, but this is all part of it. The author has had a lot of experience in interviewing many HSPs in a clinical setting, and was able to lay out many ideas and scenarios. A lot of the ideals pertaining to spirituality and the esoteric didn't apply to me, but this would definitely be of interest to others.
High intuition, being really attune to others in the space you share, noticing everything. Being highly aware of one's surroundings and other's intricacies is common. Needing extra time alone, retreating to the written world. The importance of boundaries, reactions to hunger and cold. Being too aware of other's needs. This is so interesting to me. There is much detail in all this, and activities and ideas that can be used.
This is a well written and equally well researched book written by an expert in the field who describes her life experiences throughout.
Do not overschedule yourself. Allow time to think, to daydream. Keep your expectations realistic. Do not hide your abilities. Be your own advocate. Support your right to be yourself. Accept it when you have narrow interests. Or broad ones.
Being so eager to please, we鈥檙e not easy to liberate. We鈥檙e too aware of what others need.
I found this to be extremely interesting and insightful. I only just realised now at the time of writing this review that the author was not the narrator. This doesn't matter, but I assumed it was her. Being a HSP and psychotherapist herself, the author has tremendous experience and clinical knowledge into the phenomena behind this mostly unrealised personality type.
One not must assume all highly sensitive people are extraverts, or introverts either, there are so many qualities to this personality. Upbringing, attachment style is a huge one, trauma, and life events all go into the melting pot of this ideal.
I love learning, and here I realised there are so much to this concept. Things I knew but was not made concrete until now. A sensitivity to light, sound, smell just to name a few. I suppose most interestingly to me was the susceptibility to cold. This rang so true for me. As did those prior sensitivities. I am unfortunately well able to a high level of discomfort when working with people who don't have clean clothing or who possibly are not very hygienic. Sometimes this is honestly hard to tolerate, and knowing I'm not abnormal is helpful.
On the other hand, a lot did not apply to me, but this is all part of it. The author has had a lot of experience in interviewing many HSPs in a clinical setting, and was able to lay out many ideas and scenarios. A lot of the ideals pertaining to spirituality and the esoteric didn't apply to me, but this would definitely be of interest to others.
High intuition, being really attune to others in the space you share, noticing everything. Being highly aware of one's surroundings and other's intricacies is common. Needing extra time alone, retreating to the written world. The importance of boundaries, reactions to hunger and cold. Being too aware of other's needs. This is so interesting to me. There is much detail in all this, and activities and ideas that can be used.
This is a well written and equally well researched book written by an expert in the field who describes her life experiences throughout.
July 1, 2008
This, for me, was an amazing book. I will be reading it again eventually, just to remind myself of all the important information that Aron researched and now shares with readers. It has taken me roughly 30 years to learn many things about myself which are clearly explained by Aron's research. I feel more confident about expressing my needs, now that I know I'm not the only one, and now that I have been reminded about the strengths which balance out my weaknesses.
I am definitely a "highly sensitive person" though I wish she had called it "highly SENSING person" because that is a clearer description to me. Sometimes Aron uses terms and concepts that are probably common in pyschology, but which seem a bit odd or out of place in the regular world. However, it is definitely worth overlooking any strangeness in order to get to the important information which she presents.
I am definitely a "highly sensitive person" though I wish she had called it "highly SENSING person" because that is a clearer description to me. Sometimes Aron uses terms and concepts that are probably common in pyschology, but which seem a bit odd or out of place in the regular world. However, it is definitely worth overlooking any strangeness in order to get to the important information which she presents.
March 10, 2023
"丨匕乇賵賳 丕賳胤賵丕卅賷賵賳 賵賳丨鬲丕噩 廿賱賶 賵賯鬲 兀胤賵賱 亘賲賮乇丿賳丕".
丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 匕賵賵 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞
鬲毓乇賮鬲 賲賳匕 爻賳賵丕鬲 賯賱賷賱丞 毓賱賶 賴匕賴 丕賱爻賲丞 賵毓賱賲鬲 兀賳賳賷 賲賳 賴丐賱丕亍 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐貙 賵賱賰賳 賴匕丕 丨丿孬 亘毓丿 丕賳 丕爻鬲胤毓鬲 丕賱鬲毓丕賷卮 賲毓 丕賱賰孬賷乇 賲賳 丕賱兀賲賵乇 丕賱賲賲賷夭丞 賱賴匕賴 丕賱爻賲丞貙 賵爻丕賴賲 丕賱鬲賯丿賲 賮賷 丕賱毓賲乇 賵夭賷丕丿丞 丕賱禺亘乇丞 賵丕賱賵毓賷 亘卮賰賱 賰亘賷乇 賮賷 匕賱賰貙 丨鬲賶 丕賳賳賷 兀鬲匕賰乇 賳賮爻賷 賮賷 丕賱賲丕囟賷 賵禺丕氐丞 賮賷 賲乇丨賱丞 丕賱賲乇丕賴賯丞 賵丕賱卮亘丕亘 賵兀乇孬賶 賱丨丕賱賷貙 賮賯丿 賰丕賳鬲 爻賲丞 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞 賮賷 丕賵噩 賳卮丕胤賴丕.
丕賱睾乇賷亘 兀賳賳賷 亘毓丿 賯乇丕亍丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賰鬲卮賮鬲 兀賳 兀睾賱亘 氐賮丕鬲賷 賵爻賱賵賰賷丕鬲賷 賳丕鬲噩 毓賳 賴匕賴 丕賱爻賲丞 賵賷賲賰賳 丕毓鬲亘丕乇賷 賳賲賵匕噩 賲孬丕賱賷 賱賴丕.
"賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賮賷丿 賱丕賰鬲卮丕賮 賵噩賵丿 賴匕賴 丕賱爻賲丞 賱丿賷賰貙 賵賰賷賮賷丞 丕賱鬲毓丕賷卮 賲毓賴丕 賵賷賮賷丿 賰匕賱賰 賲賳 賷鬲毓丕賲賱賵賳 賲毓 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 匕賵賵 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞 賲賳 丕噩賱 賮賴賲 兀賮囟賱 賱賴賲".
"丕賱氐賮丕鬲 丕賱兀乇亘毓 丕賱賲賲賷夭丞 賱匕賵賷 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞
賲毓丕賱噩丞 丕賱兀賲賵乇 亘鬲毓賲賯
爻乇毓丞 丕賱廿孬丕乇丞
丕賱丕爻鬲噩丕亘丞 丕賱毓丕胤賮賷丞
丕爻鬲卮毓丕乇 丕賱鬲賮丕氐賷賱 丕賱丿賯賷賯丞".
"賷賴丿賮 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 廿賱賶 賲毓乇賮丞 丕賱匕丕鬲貙 廿毓丕丿丞 丕賱鬲卮賰賷賱貙 丕賱毓賱丕噩貙 丕賱丕賳賮鬲丕丨 毓賱賶 丕賱毓丕賱賲".
"賷賯丕賱 廿賳 亘毓囟 賲賳 賷鬲丨賱賵賳 亘賴匕賴 丕賱爻賲丞 賷卮毓乇賵賳 亘爻毓丕丿丞 丕賯賱貙 賯丿 賳亘丿賵 鬲毓爻丕亍 丕賵 賲鬲賯賱亘賷 丕賱賲夭丕噩 賱兀賳賳丕 賳爻鬲睾乇賯 賵賯鬲丕 胤賵賷賱丕 賮賷 丕賲賵乇 丕禺乇賶貙 賲孬賱 賲毓賳賶 丕賱丨賷丕丞 賵丕賱賲賵鬲貙 賵賲丿賶 鬲毓賯賷丿 丕賱兀賲賵乇".
丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 匕賵賵 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞
鬲毓乇賮鬲 賲賳匕 爻賳賵丕鬲 賯賱賷賱丞 毓賱賶 賴匕賴 丕賱爻賲丞 賵毓賱賲鬲 兀賳賳賷 賲賳 賴丐賱丕亍 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐貙 賵賱賰賳 賴匕丕 丨丿孬 亘毓丿 丕賳 丕爻鬲胤毓鬲 丕賱鬲毓丕賷卮 賲毓 丕賱賰孬賷乇 賲賳 丕賱兀賲賵乇 丕賱賲賲賷夭丞 賱賴匕賴 丕賱爻賲丞貙 賵爻丕賴賲 丕賱鬲賯丿賲 賮賷 丕賱毓賲乇 賵夭賷丕丿丞 丕賱禺亘乇丞 賵丕賱賵毓賷 亘卮賰賱 賰亘賷乇 賮賷 匕賱賰貙 丨鬲賶 丕賳賳賷 兀鬲匕賰乇 賳賮爻賷 賮賷 丕賱賲丕囟賷 賵禺丕氐丞 賮賷 賲乇丨賱丞 丕賱賲乇丕賴賯丞 賵丕賱卮亘丕亘 賵兀乇孬賶 賱丨丕賱賷貙 賮賯丿 賰丕賳鬲 爻賲丞 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞 賮賷 丕賵噩 賳卮丕胤賴丕.
丕賱睾乇賷亘 兀賳賳賷 亘毓丿 賯乇丕亍丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賰鬲卮賮鬲 兀賳 兀睾賱亘 氐賮丕鬲賷 賵爻賱賵賰賷丕鬲賷 賳丕鬲噩 毓賳 賴匕賴 丕賱爻賲丞 賵賷賲賰賳 丕毓鬲亘丕乇賷 賳賲賵匕噩 賲孬丕賱賷 賱賴丕.
"賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賮賷丿 賱丕賰鬲卮丕賮 賵噩賵丿 賴匕賴 丕賱爻賲丞 賱丿賷賰貙 賵賰賷賮賷丞 丕賱鬲毓丕賷卮 賲毓賴丕 賵賷賮賷丿 賰匕賱賰 賲賳 賷鬲毓丕賲賱賵賳 賲毓 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 匕賵賵 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞 賲賳 丕噩賱 賮賴賲 兀賮囟賱 賱賴賲".
"丕賱氐賮丕鬲 丕賱兀乇亘毓 丕賱賲賲賷夭丞 賱匕賵賷 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞
賲毓丕賱噩丞 丕賱兀賲賵乇 亘鬲毓賲賯
爻乇毓丞 丕賱廿孬丕乇丞
丕賱丕爻鬲噩丕亘丞 丕賱毓丕胤賮賷丞
丕爻鬲卮毓丕乇 丕賱鬲賮丕氐賷賱 丕賱丿賯賷賯丞".
"賷賴丿賮 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 廿賱賶 賲毓乇賮丞 丕賱匕丕鬲貙 廿毓丕丿丞 丕賱鬲卮賰賷賱貙 丕賱毓賱丕噩貙 丕賱丕賳賮鬲丕丨 毓賱賶 丕賱毓丕賱賲".
"賷賯丕賱 廿賳 亘毓囟 賲賳 賷鬲丨賱賵賳 亘賴匕賴 丕賱爻賲丞 賷卮毓乇賵賳 亘爻毓丕丿丞 丕賯賱貙 賯丿 賳亘丿賵 鬲毓爻丕亍 丕賵 賲鬲賯賱亘賷 丕賱賲夭丕噩 賱兀賳賳丕 賳爻鬲睾乇賯 賵賯鬲丕 胤賵賷賱丕 賮賷 丕賲賵乇 丕禺乇賶貙 賲孬賱 賲毓賳賶 丕賱丨賷丕丞 賵丕賱賲賵鬲貙 賵賲丿賶 鬲毓賯賷丿 丕賱兀賲賵乇".
August 10, 2022
漠 jautrum膮 a拧 啪i奴riu kaip 寞 plonus r奴bus. Su jais labiau jausi aplink膮, smilgas, gal臈si paliesti. Bet 啪iem膮 bus 拧alta. O 啪mogus, kuris visuomet su paltu, vasar膮 nieko nejaus gamtoje, negal臈s prisiliesti, bet 啪iem膮 jam bus patogiau.
Taip ir su jautrumu. Jau膷iame daugiau nei kiti, bet esame ir labiau pa啪eid啪iami.
A拧 kaifuoju d臈l to, kad pasaul寞 patiriu kaip labiau spalvot膮, 寞domesn寞. Pastebiu ko kiti nepastebi. Gerai pajau膷iu vyraujan膷i膮 atmosfer膮. Man lengviau suprasti kitus 啪mones. Lengviau 寞sijausti 寞 j懦 gyvenim膮. Mane labiau veikia menas. Verkiu per filmus. Knygos labiau 寞traukia. U啪tenka i拧gerti truput寞 kavos ar juodos arbatos, o veikia pana拧iai kaip narkotikai.
Taip ir su jautrumu. Jau膷iame daugiau nei kiti, bet esame ir labiau pa啪eid啪iami.
A拧 kaifuoju d臈l to, kad pasaul寞 patiriu kaip labiau spalvot膮, 寞domesn寞. Pastebiu ko kiti nepastebi. Gerai pajau膷iu vyraujan膷i膮 atmosfer膮. Man lengviau suprasti kitus 啪mones. Lengviau 寞sijausti 寞 j懦 gyvenim膮. Mane labiau veikia menas. Verkiu per filmus. Knygos labiau 寞traukia. U啪tenka i拧gerti truput寞 kavos ar juodos arbatos, o veikia pana拧iai kaip narkotikai.
January 27, 2012
i am highly sensitive but i won't think of myself as an infant/body self ever.
April 8, 2020
"賱丕 賷夭丕賱 丕賱賲乇亍 兀賲賷賸賾丕 丨鬲賶 賷賯乇兀 匕丕鬲賴"
鬲禺賷賱 兀賳 鬲毓賷卮 毓賲乇賰 亘丕賰賲賱丞 賵兀賳 鬲鬲氐乇賮 亘胤乇賷賯丞 賲毓賷賳丞 賵賱丕 賷賲賰賳賰 兀賳 鬲賮爻乇 賱賲丕 鬲鬲氐乇賮 賵鬲賮丕毓賱 亘賴匕賴 丕賱胤乇賷賯丞貙 賵禺氐賵氐丕 賱賵 賰丕賳鬲 胤乇賷賯丞 賲禺鬲賱賮丞 毓賳 兀睾賱亘 丕賱賲丨賷胤賷賳 亘賰貙 丕賵 爻亘亘鬲 賱賰 賳賯丿丕 賲賳 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳 亘氐賮丞 丿丕卅賲丞 賵賲夭毓噩丞.
鬲鬲丨丿孬 丕賱賰丕鬲亘賴 賮賶 賲賯丿賲丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 毓賳 亘毓囟 丕賱兀毓乇丕囟 丕賱鬲賶 氐丕丨亘鬲賴丕 胤賵丕賱 丨賷丕鬲賴丕 賵賱賲 鬲賰賳 鬲毓乇賮 爻亘亘賴丕貙 兀賵 丕毓鬲賯丿鬲 丕賳賴丕 亘爻亘亘 丨丕賱丞 賲賳 丕賱丕賳胤賵丕亍 丕賵 丕賱廿賰鬲卅丕亘 丕賵 丨鬲賶 丕賱禺噩賱 丕賱丕噩鬲賲丕毓賶 賵匕賰乇鬲 毓賱賶 賵噩賴 丕賱鬲丨丿賷丿 丨丕噩鬲賴丕 賱賱亘賰丕亍 賮賶 亘毓囟 丕賱賲賵丕賯賮 丕賱噩丿賷丿丞 丕賱鬲賶 鬲鬲毓乇囟 賱賴丕 兀賵 鬲賰賵賳 賮賷賴丕 毓乇囟丞 賱賱丕禺鬲賱丕胤 丕賱丕噩鬲賲丕毓賶 亘丿乇噩丞 賰亘賷乇丞貙 賱賲 鬲賰鬲卮賮 爻亘亘 賴匕丕 毓賱賶 賲丿丕乇 丕賱爻賳賷賳 丨鬲賶 亘乇睾賲 丕賳賴丕 賮賶 賲乇丨賱丞 丕賱噩丕賲毓賴 丿乇爻鬲 毓賱賲 丕賱賳賮爻 賵鬲禺氐氐鬲 賮賶 丿乇噩丞 丕賱賲丕噩爻鬲賷乇 賮賶 匕丕鬲 丕賱毓賱賲 丨鬲賶 丕賱鬲賯鬲 賲毓 賲毓丕賱噩鬲賴丕 丕賱賳賮爻賷丞 賵丕禺亘乇鬲賴丕 丕賳賴丕 鬲毓丕賳賷 賲賳 賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞. 賵賲賳 賴賳丕 鬲亘丿丕 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 賵丕賱亘丕丨孬丞 賮賶 匕丕鬲 丕賱賵賯鬲 賮賶 乇丨賱丞 丕賱亘丨孬 毓賳 賴匕丕 丕賱賲乇囟貙 賲丕 賲毓賳賶 賴匕丕 丕賱鬲卮禺賷氐責 賵賰賷賮 賷賲賰賳 丕賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓丕賴 丕賵 丨鬲賶 賲毓丕賱噩鬲賴責
賵亘賵噩賵丿 賯賱丞 丕賱兀亘丨丕孬 丕賱毓賱賲賷丞 丕賱鬲賶 鬲賳丕賵賱鬲 賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 賴賳丕 鬲亘丿丕 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 乇丨賱丞 丕亘丨丕孬賴丕 丕賱禺丕氐丞 賱賲毓乇賮丞 兀爻乇丕乇 賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞.
丕賴賲 賲丕 賷賲賷夭 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 兀賳 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 毓丕賱賲丞 賳賮爻 賵賲氐丕亘丞 亘賲乇囟 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞 亘丕賱廿囟丕賮丞 廿賱賶 賰賵賳賴丕 乇賵丕卅賷丞貙 賮賰丕賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 亘爻賷胤 賵賲賮賷丿 亘乇睾賲 丕賳 胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕卮亘賴 亘賰鬲亘 賲爻丕毓丿丞 丕賱匕丕鬲貙 賵賴匕丕 賯丿 賷賰賵賳 賲賳 賲賲賷夭丕鬲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賳 賵噩賴丞 賳馗乇 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 兀氐丨丕亘 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞貙 兀賵 賱賲賳 賱丿賷賴賲 丨亘 丕賱賲毓乇賮丞 賱胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱賲氐丕亘賷賳 賵賰賷賮賷丞 賲爻丕毓丿鬲賴賲. 賵賱賰賳 賱卮禺氐 賷丨亘 兀賳 賷賯乇丕亍 毓賳 丕賱賲賵囟賵毓 賮賯胤 賯丿 賷氐賷亘賴 亘毓囟 丕賱賲賱賱 賲賳 胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞.
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賱賲 賷賰賳 賰鬲丕亘 毓賱賲賶 賯丕卅賲 毓賱賶 毓賱賲 丕賱賳賮爻 賵丕賱兀亘丨丕孬 丕賱毓賱賲賷丞 賮賶 丕賱賲賯丕賲 丕賱兀賵賱 賵賱賰賳 賰丕賳 丕睾賱亘賴 賯氐氐 賱兀卮禺丕氐 賲氐丕亘賷賳 賵胤乇賷賯丞 鬲毓丕賲賱賴賲 賲毓 丕賱賲乇囟 賮賶 賲乇丕丨賱 毓賲乇賴賲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 賵丕賱賲賵丕賯賮 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 亘丕賱廿囟丕賮丞 廿賱賶 賳氐丕卅丨 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞.
鬲禺賷賱 兀賳 鬲毓賷卮 毓賲乇賰 亘丕賰賲賱丞 賵兀賳 鬲鬲氐乇賮 亘胤乇賷賯丞 賲毓賷賳丞 賵賱丕 賷賲賰賳賰 兀賳 鬲賮爻乇 賱賲丕 鬲鬲氐乇賮 賵鬲賮丕毓賱 亘賴匕賴 丕賱胤乇賷賯丞貙 賵禺氐賵氐丕 賱賵 賰丕賳鬲 胤乇賷賯丞 賲禺鬲賱賮丞 毓賳 兀睾賱亘 丕賱賲丨賷胤賷賳 亘賰貙 丕賵 爻亘亘鬲 賱賰 賳賯丿丕 賲賳 丕賱丌禺乇賷賳 亘氐賮丞 丿丕卅賲丞 賵賲夭毓噩丞.
鬲鬲丨丿孬 丕賱賰丕鬲亘賴 賮賶 賲賯丿賲丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 毓賳 亘毓囟 丕賱兀毓乇丕囟 丕賱鬲賶 氐丕丨亘鬲賴丕 胤賵丕賱 丨賷丕鬲賴丕 賵賱賲 鬲賰賳 鬲毓乇賮 爻亘亘賴丕貙 兀賵 丕毓鬲賯丿鬲 丕賳賴丕 亘爻亘亘 丨丕賱丞 賲賳 丕賱丕賳胤賵丕亍 丕賵 丕賱廿賰鬲卅丕亘 丕賵 丨鬲賶 丕賱禺噩賱 丕賱丕噩鬲賲丕毓賶 賵匕賰乇鬲 毓賱賶 賵噩賴 丕賱鬲丨丿賷丿 丨丕噩鬲賴丕 賱賱亘賰丕亍 賮賶 亘毓囟 丕賱賲賵丕賯賮 丕賱噩丿賷丿丞 丕賱鬲賶 鬲鬲毓乇囟 賱賴丕 兀賵 鬲賰賵賳 賮賷賴丕 毓乇囟丞 賱賱丕禺鬲賱丕胤 丕賱丕噩鬲賲丕毓賶 亘丿乇噩丞 賰亘賷乇丞貙 賱賲 鬲賰鬲卮賮 爻亘亘 賴匕丕 毓賱賶 賲丿丕乇 丕賱爻賳賷賳 丨鬲賶 亘乇睾賲 丕賳賴丕 賮賶 賲乇丨賱丞 丕賱噩丕賲毓賴 丿乇爻鬲 毓賱賲 丕賱賳賮爻 賵鬲禺氐氐鬲 賮賶 丿乇噩丞 丕賱賲丕噩爻鬲賷乇 賮賶 匕丕鬲 丕賱毓賱賲 丨鬲賶 丕賱鬲賯鬲 賲毓 賲毓丕賱噩鬲賴丕 丕賱賳賮爻賷丞 賵丕禺亘乇鬲賴丕 丕賳賴丕 鬲毓丕賳賷 賲賳 賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞. 賵賲賳 賴賳丕 鬲亘丿丕 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 賵丕賱亘丕丨孬丞 賮賶 匕丕鬲 丕賱賵賯鬲 賮賶 乇丨賱丞 丕賱亘丨孬 毓賳 賴匕丕 丕賱賲乇囟貙 賲丕 賲毓賳賶 賴匕丕 丕賱鬲卮禺賷氐責 賵賰賷賮 賷賲賰賳 丕賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓丕賴 丕賵 丨鬲賶 賲毓丕賱噩鬲賴責
賵亘賵噩賵丿 賯賱丞 丕賱兀亘丨丕孬 丕賱毓賱賲賷丞 丕賱鬲賶 鬲賳丕賵賱鬲 賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 賴賳丕 鬲亘丿丕 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 乇丨賱丞 丕亘丨丕孬賴丕 丕賱禺丕氐丞 賱賲毓乇賮丞 兀爻乇丕乇 賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞.
丕賴賲 賲丕 賷賲賷夭 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 兀賳 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 毓丕賱賲丞 賳賮爻 賵賲氐丕亘丞 亘賲乇囟 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞 亘丕賱廿囟丕賮丞 廿賱賶 賰賵賳賴丕 乇賵丕卅賷丞貙 賮賰丕賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 亘爻賷胤 賵賲賮賷丿 亘乇睾賲 丕賳 胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕卮亘賴 亘賰鬲亘 賲爻丕毓丿丞 丕賱匕丕鬲貙 賵賴匕丕 賯丿 賷賰賵賳 賲賳 賲賲賷夭丕鬲 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賳 賵噩賴丞 賳馗乇 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 兀氐丨丕亘 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱賲賮乇胤丞貙 兀賵 賱賲賳 賱丿賷賴賲 丨亘 丕賱賲毓乇賮丞 賱胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱鬲毓丕賲賱 賲毓 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱賲氐丕亘賷賳 賵賰賷賮賷丞 賲爻丕毓丿鬲賴賲. 賵賱賰賳 賱卮禺氐 賷丨亘 兀賳 賷賯乇丕亍 毓賳 丕賱賲賵囟賵毓 賮賯胤 賯丿 賷氐賷亘賴 亘毓囟 丕賱賲賱賱 賲賳 胤乇賷賯丞 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞.
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賱賲 賷賰賳 賰鬲丕亘 毓賱賲賶 賯丕卅賲 毓賱賶 毓賱賲 丕賱賳賮爻 賵丕賱兀亘丨丕孬 丕賱毓賱賲賷丞 賮賶 丕賱賲賯丕賲 丕賱兀賵賱 賵賱賰賳 賰丕賳 丕睾賱亘賴 賯氐氐 賱兀卮禺丕氐 賲氐丕亘賷賳 賵胤乇賷賯丞 鬲毓丕賲賱賴賲 賲毓 丕賱賲乇囟 賮賶 賲乇丕丨賱 毓賲乇賴賲 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 賵丕賱賲賵丕賯賮 丕賱賲禺鬲賱賮丞 亘丕賱廿囟丕賮丞 廿賱賶 賳氐丕卅丨 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞.
September 17, 2020
袟薪邪械褏, 褔械 褋褗屑 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢械薪 褔芯胁械泻 写芯褋褌邪 锌褉械写懈 写邪 锌褉芯褔械褌邪 褌邪蟹懈 泻薪懈谐邪, 薪芯 薪械 蟹薪邪械褏 薪懈褖芯 蟹邪 褌芯蟹懈 褌懈锌 褏芯褉邪 - 泻邪褌芯 褌芯胁邪, 褔械 褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪芯褋褌褌邪 械 胁褉芯写械薪邪, 褔械褋褌芯 薪邪褋谢械写褋褌胁械薪邪, 褔械 42% 芯褌 褏芯褉邪褌邪 褋械 芯锌褉械写械谢褟褌 泻邪褌芯 薪械褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈, 邪 褋邪屑芯 15-20% 泻邪褌芯 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈. 袩褗褉胁懈褌械 褋邪 薪褍卸薪懈 薪邪 褔芯胁械褔械褋褌胁芯褌芯, 蟹邪褖芯褌芯 褋邪 写械泄薪懈, 褋屑械谢懈 懈 写械泄褋褌胁邪褌, 斜械蟹 屑薪芯谐芯 写邪 屑褍 屑懈褋谢褟褌. 袙褌芯褉懈褌械 褍褋械褖邪褌 胁褋懈褔泻懈 褎懈薪懈 锌褉芯屑械薪懈 胁 芯泻芯谢薪邪褌邪 褋褉械写邪 懈 胁薪邪褋褟褌 斜邪谢邪薪褋 褋 屑褗写褉芯褋褌褌邪 懈 褋褗胁械褌懈褌械 褋懈. 孝芯胁邪 械 褌邪泻邪 芯褌泻褉邪泄 胁褉械屑械, 泻芯谐邪褌芯 胁谢邪写械褌械谢懈褌械 褔械褋褌芯 褋邪 斜懈谢懈 懈屑锌褍谢褋懈胁薪懈, 邪 褌械褏薪懈褌械 褋褗胁械褌薪懈褑懈/卸褉械褑懈 褋邪 锌褉芯褌懈胁芯写械泄褋褌胁邪谢懈, 蟹邪 写邪 薪械 懈蟹锌邪写邪褌 胁 泻褉邪泄薪芯褋褌懈.
袣薪懈谐邪褌邪 蟹邪锌芯褔胁邪 锌芯-邪泻邪写械屑懈褔薪芯, 泻芯械褌芯 屑懈 褏邪褉械褋邪, 懈 锌褉芯写褗谢卸邪胁邪 褋褗褋 褋褗胁械褌懈 泻邪泻 写邪 褋械 胁褗蟹锌芯谢蟹胁邪屑械 芯褌 锌芯蟹懈褌懈胁懈褌械 懈 写邪 薪械褍褌褉邪谢懈蟹懈褉邪屑械 薪械谐邪褌懈胁懈褌械 薪邪 褌芯胁邪 褋褗褋褌芯褟薪懈械 (薪邪泄-谐芯谢械屑懈褟褌 械, 褔械 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪 胁褗蟹锌褉懈械屑邪褌 屑薪芯谐芯 锌芯-写褗谢斜芯泻芯 胁褋懈褔泻懈 褋褌懈屑褍谢懈 胁 褋褉械写邪褌邪, 写芯褉懈 写邪 薪褟屑邪褌 锌芯-懈蟹芯褋褌褉械薪懈 褋械褌懈胁邪, 懈 胁 褋谢械写褋褌胁懈械 薪邪 褌芯胁邪 褔械褋褌芯 褋械 薪邪屑懈褉邪褌 胁 褋褗褋褌芯褟薪懈械 薪邪 "薪械褉胁薪邪 锌褉械胁褗蟹斜褍写邪", 泻芯褟褌芯 谐懈 懈蟹褌芯褖邪胁邪 锌芯褋褌芯褟薪薪芯). 袝, 锌芯薪械 胁械褔械 蟹薪邪屑 蟹邪褖芯 褔械褋褌芯 褋褗屑 褌芯谢泻芯胁邪 褍屑芯褉械薪邪 - 芯褌 锌褉械泻邪谢械薪芯 屑薪芯谐芯 "褔褍胁褋褌胁邪薪械" 薪邪 胁褋懈褔泻芯 :)
袧邪懈褋褌懈薪邪 泻薪懈谐邪褌邪 械 褋褌褉邪褏芯褌薪邪 懈 屑芯谐邪 写邪 泻邪卸邪, 褔械 薪械 锌芯屑邪谐邪 褌芯谢泻芯胁邪 褋褗褋 褋褗胁械褌懈褌械 褋懈 (泻芯懈褌芯 薪邪锌芯屑薪褟褏邪 薪邪 写芯褋褌邪 芯褌 泻薪懈谐懈褌械 蟹邪 褋邪屑芯褍褋褗胁褗褉褕械薪褋褌胁邪薪械, 泻邪泻胁懈褌芯 薪械 褋邪 屑懈 锌芯 胁泻褍褋邪), 邪 褋 芯锌懈褋邪薪懈械褌芯 薪邪 胁褋懈褔泻懈 薪褞邪薪褋懈 薪邪 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪. 孝邪泻邪 褏械屑 褔芯胁械泻 褋械 褔褍胁褋褌胁邪 锌芯-薪芯褉屑邪谢械薪, 褏械屑 屑芯卸械 邪写械泻胁邪褌薪芯 写邪 芯斜褟褋薪懈 "泻邪泻胁芯 屑褍 懈屑邪" 薪邪 褋械斜械 褋懈 懈 薪邪 屑薪芯蟹懈薪褋褌胁芯褌芯. 袠 写邪 褋械 芯锌芯蟹薪邪械. 袗 胁褟褉胁邪屑, 褔械 褋谢械写 褌芯胁邪, 邪泻芯 械 褌芯谢泻芯胁邪 懈薪褌褍懈褌懈胁械薪, 褋邪屑 褖械 褋械 褋械褌懈 泻邪泻胁芯 写邪 锌褉邪胁懈. 袩褉械锌芯褉褗褔胁邪屑 褟 褋 写胁械 褉褗褑械!
袣薪懈谐邪褌邪 蟹邪锌芯褔胁邪 锌芯-邪泻邪写械屑懈褔薪芯, 泻芯械褌芯 屑懈 褏邪褉械褋邪, 懈 锌褉芯写褗谢卸邪胁邪 褋褗褋 褋褗胁械褌懈 泻邪泻 写邪 褋械 胁褗蟹锌芯谢蟹胁邪屑械 芯褌 锌芯蟹懈褌懈胁懈褌械 懈 写邪 薪械褍褌褉邪谢懈蟹懈褉邪屑械 薪械谐邪褌懈胁懈褌械 薪邪 褌芯胁邪 褋褗褋褌芯褟薪懈械 (薪邪泄-谐芯谢械屑懈褟褌 械, 褔械 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪 胁褗蟹锌褉懈械屑邪褌 屑薪芯谐芯 锌芯-写褗谢斜芯泻芯 胁褋懈褔泻懈 褋褌懈屑褍谢懈 胁 褋褉械写邪褌邪, 写芯褉懈 写邪 薪褟屑邪褌 锌芯-懈蟹芯褋褌褉械薪懈 褋械褌懈胁邪, 懈 胁 褋谢械写褋褌胁懈械 薪邪 褌芯胁邪 褔械褋褌芯 褋械 薪邪屑懈褉邪褌 胁 褋褗褋褌芯褟薪懈械 薪邪 "薪械褉胁薪邪 锌褉械胁褗蟹斜褍写邪", 泻芯褟褌芯 谐懈 懈蟹褌芯褖邪胁邪 锌芯褋褌芯褟薪薪芯). 袝, 锌芯薪械 胁械褔械 蟹薪邪屑 蟹邪褖芯 褔械褋褌芯 褋褗屑 褌芯谢泻芯胁邪 褍屑芯褉械薪邪 - 芯褌 锌褉械泻邪谢械薪芯 屑薪芯谐芯 "褔褍胁褋褌胁邪薪械" 薪邪 胁褋懈褔泻芯 :)
袧邪懈褋褌懈薪邪 泻薪懈谐邪褌邪 械 褋褌褉邪褏芯褌薪邪 懈 屑芯谐邪 写邪 泻邪卸邪, 褔械 薪械 锌芯屑邪谐邪 褌芯谢泻芯胁邪 褋褗褋 褋褗胁械褌懈褌械 褋懈 (泻芯懈褌芯 薪邪锌芯屑薪褟褏邪 薪邪 写芯褋褌邪 芯褌 泻薪懈谐懈褌械 蟹邪 褋邪屑芯褍褋褗胁褗褉褕械薪褋褌胁邪薪械, 泻邪泻胁懈褌芯 薪械 褋邪 屑懈 锌芯 胁泻褍褋邪), 邪 褋 芯锌懈褋邪薪懈械褌芯 薪邪 胁褋懈褔泻懈 薪褞邪薪褋懈 薪邪 褋胁褉褗褏褔褍胁褋褌胁懈褌械谢薪懈褌械 褏芯褉邪. 孝邪泻邪 褏械屑 褔芯胁械泻 褋械 褔褍胁褋褌胁邪 锌芯-薪芯褉屑邪谢械薪, 褏械屑 屑芯卸械 邪写械泻胁邪褌薪芯 写邪 芯斜褟褋薪懈 "泻邪泻胁芯 屑褍 懈屑邪" 薪邪 褋械斜械 褋懈 懈 薪邪 屑薪芯蟹懈薪褋褌胁芯褌芯. 袠 写邪 褋械 芯锌芯蟹薪邪械. 袗 胁褟褉胁邪屑, 褔械 褋谢械写 褌芯胁邪, 邪泻芯 械 褌芯谢泻芯胁邪 懈薪褌褍懈褌懈胁械薪, 褋邪屑 褖械 褋械 褋械褌懈 泻邪泻胁芯 写邪 锌褉邪胁懈. 袩褉械锌芯褉褗褔胁邪屑 褟 褋 写胁械 褉褗褑械!
January 13, 2018
Have you ever thought you were weird because you couldn't stand to watch movies or read books with a lot of violence in them while other people seemed to love that stuff? Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed from being around a lot of noise, strong scents, or bright lights, especially florescent lights? Have you ever been called "too sensitive" or "too shy?" Are you deeply moved by art and music? Are you particularly sensitive to changes in temperature, body language, and your surroundings? Do other people's moods affect you? If so, you might be highly sensitive.
No, this is not one of those self-help books written by a quack who is going to try to convince you to eliminate all forms of stress, including family, a job, and bills from your life in order to nourish your soul. But it is a book that will change your life if you think you might be highly sensitive. I know, it sounds silly, but I'm telling you, as soon as I sat down to read this book, I felt like someone finally understood all of the little quirks about me that other people have always thought were weird but have always just been part of who I am. I even talked to a few of my friends who I think might be highly sensitive, and they felt the same way.
I decided to read this after Anne from Modern Mrs. Darcy (modernmrsdarcy.com) recommended it for those of us who would consider ourselves more sensitive than the average person. I remember the blog post distinctly because it was the first time I had ever heard anyone else mention the topic of people who tend to "screen" books with violent content because they prefer to avoid any type of entertainment with it. As someone who has always avoided books, movies and TV shows with violence as well as scary movies in general, this caught my attention. I always thought that my tendency to avoid scary movies was due to my overactive imagination that caused me to have frequent and vivid nightmares after watching these types of movies, which is in part true, but this is also a sign that you might be highly sensitive.
Aron, a licensed psychiatrist, takes readers on a journey through the mind of a highly sensitive person. If you yourself are highly sensitive, you'll learn more about how your mind and body work. You'll learn how to view yourself as someone who is unique and ultimately needed in the universe. I particularly liked Aron's notes on the idea of a warrior-king type of personality and the idea of a more sensitive advisor type of personality and the benefits to society of both. I appreciated that while Aron encourages neither type of personality to view theirs as superior, each does have its own advantages. For example, as a sensitive person, you might be considered shy, sometimes aloof, or even arrogant, since you tend to keep to yourself and find it hard to make friends. You tend to avoid social engagements with a large number of people and lots of noise and sounds, so people sometimes might think of you as a party pooper. But on the flip side, sensitive people are also the most compassionate, the most intuitive, and the most creative of all personality types. If you find yourself reading this book and realizing you are more than likely a highly sensitive person, you'll begin to look at past events in your life with a new understanding, perhaps even realizing why you reacted to certain things and people the way you did.
For some people, this might be a laughable subject. The idea that someone can be "highly sensitive.鈥� Even the word sensitive has a negative connotation in our society today. But if you find you just might belong to this category of rare but unique people, (chances are if you find yourself on a site like GoodReads that encourages one to read as much as you can, you just might be) then I highly suggest giving this a look. I've found a lot of valuable info on working with others, building relationships with others, and having a more stressless environment that allows my highly sensitive self to thrive in this book, and I highly recommend it to others who might be searching for the same peace of mind.
No, this is not one of those self-help books written by a quack who is going to try to convince you to eliminate all forms of stress, including family, a job, and bills from your life in order to nourish your soul. But it is a book that will change your life if you think you might be highly sensitive. I know, it sounds silly, but I'm telling you, as soon as I sat down to read this book, I felt like someone finally understood all of the little quirks about me that other people have always thought were weird but have always just been part of who I am. I even talked to a few of my friends who I think might be highly sensitive, and they felt the same way.
I decided to read this after Anne from Modern Mrs. Darcy (modernmrsdarcy.com) recommended it for those of us who would consider ourselves more sensitive than the average person. I remember the blog post distinctly because it was the first time I had ever heard anyone else mention the topic of people who tend to "screen" books with violent content because they prefer to avoid any type of entertainment with it. As someone who has always avoided books, movies and TV shows with violence as well as scary movies in general, this caught my attention. I always thought that my tendency to avoid scary movies was due to my overactive imagination that caused me to have frequent and vivid nightmares after watching these types of movies, which is in part true, but this is also a sign that you might be highly sensitive.
Aron, a licensed psychiatrist, takes readers on a journey through the mind of a highly sensitive person. If you yourself are highly sensitive, you'll learn more about how your mind and body work. You'll learn how to view yourself as someone who is unique and ultimately needed in the universe. I particularly liked Aron's notes on the idea of a warrior-king type of personality and the idea of a more sensitive advisor type of personality and the benefits to society of both. I appreciated that while Aron encourages neither type of personality to view theirs as superior, each does have its own advantages. For example, as a sensitive person, you might be considered shy, sometimes aloof, or even arrogant, since you tend to keep to yourself and find it hard to make friends. You tend to avoid social engagements with a large number of people and lots of noise and sounds, so people sometimes might think of you as a party pooper. But on the flip side, sensitive people are also the most compassionate, the most intuitive, and the most creative of all personality types. If you find yourself reading this book and realizing you are more than likely a highly sensitive person, you'll begin to look at past events in your life with a new understanding, perhaps even realizing why you reacted to certain things and people the way you did.
For some people, this might be a laughable subject. The idea that someone can be "highly sensitive.鈥� Even the word sensitive has a negative connotation in our society today. But if you find you just might belong to this category of rare but unique people, (chances are if you find yourself on a site like GoodReads that encourages one to read as much as you can, you just might be) then I highly suggest giving this a look. I've found a lot of valuable info on working with others, building relationships with others, and having a more stressless environment that allows my highly sensitive self to thrive in this book, and I highly recommend it to others who might be searching for the same peace of mind.
January 29, 2012
I remember feeling quite jazzed about this book when I first read it. After all, I was so shy that I didn't really begin to connect with my peers until late middle school. I felt overwhelmed every time I had to leave my house and whenever I was around people I was a tightly wound ball of anxiety and irritation. I always felt I was way more sensitive to nearly everything than most people, and here was a book that seemed to validate my experience and offer solutions.
Except the solutions didn't really work. I even went to a Highly-Sensitive People support group for a time. I remember almost everybody in that room spoke very softly and had nervous rumbly stomachs. There was very little eye contact. We were like a bunch of vibrating tuning forks. It was interesting, but oddly unhelpful. I stopped going after awhile. I figured my sensitivity was something I just had to motor on with.
However, my problem was something more complex than just being "highly-sensitive". I have Asperger's Syndrome, which is on the autistic spectrum. A great deal of the sensitivities described in The Highly Sensitive Person could be applied directly to a mildly autistic person.
Do loud noises make you cringe into a quivering ball?
Of course.
Do you sometimes feel antagonized by clothing tags?
Hellz yes.
Do you go into a tailspin when forced to socialize for too long?
Well, duh.
And so on and so on..
I just found about my Asperger's at age 32 and I really can't help thinking I could have used such a discovery a bit earlier in my life.. perhaps 12 years ago when I read The Highly-Sensitive Person. I strongly suspect that other "Aspies" have gone over this book, chalked up their many quirks to just being sensitive, and then been left in the lurch when the one-dimensional approach to a far more complicated issue fails to improve their situation. Looking back, I suspect that several people in that support group I attended had undiagnosed Asperger's and I hope they were able to find assistance that was tailored more specifically to their needs.
So, to sum up, this book may be helpful to people who are a bit more sensitive or naturally shy, but its ambiguity may lead some in entirely the wrong direction.
Finally, if you think you may be something more than just sensitive, if you're often confounded by social situations that don't faze others, or if you find yourself wondering if you're even living in the same sensory world as most people, than there is a fabulous online test for Asperger's called The Aspie Quiz. Google it.
Except the solutions didn't really work. I even went to a Highly-Sensitive People support group for a time. I remember almost everybody in that room spoke very softly and had nervous rumbly stomachs. There was very little eye contact. We were like a bunch of vibrating tuning forks. It was interesting, but oddly unhelpful. I stopped going after awhile. I figured my sensitivity was something I just had to motor on with.
However, my problem was something more complex than just being "highly-sensitive". I have Asperger's Syndrome, which is on the autistic spectrum. A great deal of the sensitivities described in The Highly Sensitive Person could be applied directly to a mildly autistic person.
Do loud noises make you cringe into a quivering ball?
Of course.
Do you sometimes feel antagonized by clothing tags?
Hellz yes.
Do you go into a tailspin when forced to socialize for too long?
Well, duh.
And so on and so on..
I just found about my Asperger's at age 32 and I really can't help thinking I could have used such a discovery a bit earlier in my life.. perhaps 12 years ago when I read The Highly-Sensitive Person. I strongly suspect that other "Aspies" have gone over this book, chalked up their many quirks to just being sensitive, and then been left in the lurch when the one-dimensional approach to a far more complicated issue fails to improve their situation. Looking back, I suspect that several people in that support group I attended had undiagnosed Asperger's and I hope they were able to find assistance that was tailored more specifically to their needs.
So, to sum up, this book may be helpful to people who are a bit more sensitive or naturally shy, but its ambiguity may lead some in entirely the wrong direction.
Finally, if you think you may be something more than just sensitive, if you're often confounded by social situations that don't faze others, or if you find yourself wondering if you're even living in the same sensory world as most people, than there is a fabulous online test for Asperger's called The Aspie Quiz. Google it.
didnt-finish
October 17, 20171/1/16 $2.99 on Kindle.
DNF - Chapter 5 of 15.
I give up. So far not what I was looking for. I know I'm not "flawed" and my self-esteem is fine. What I was hoping to find here are ways to improve interactions with others, including hopefully ways to help them understand and accept I am not like them, but not "broken" or needing to "try harder" to be more like them.
This book so far has been all over the place. It's talking about "highly sensitive" to outside stimuli, but then talks about sensitivity in regards to being caring and nurturing, as if those things are the same or always go together - which is untrue.
It also paints non-HSPs in a bad light, as those prone to aggressive, even violent, behavior, uncaring about environmental issues, the evil corporate CEO, etc. Makes it sound like the author thinks all social liberals are HSPs, who are loving, nurturing, caring and peaceful people and all social conservatives are non-HSPs and evil warmongers out to destroy the environment.
Sorry, but I don't think highly sensitive introverts are all in one political box, nor do I think all those who are not sensitive to outside stimuli, or enjoy it, are all evil, uncaring, unfeeling people.
This book so far is a mess. It's mixing up meanings of "sensitive" as if they're all interchangeable, and throwing in political stereotypes and even some religious new-agey stuff.
At chapter 5 the only thing remotely helpful it's said is to advise to mute commercials when watching TV as commercials are intended to be highly stimulating. Everything else so far either doesn't apply to me (even though I scored high on the test included), is insulting and generalities to non-HSP people, contradictory or obviously false.
I'm giving up. I recommend instead. It's much better and much more helpful in my opinion.
DNF - Chapter 5 of 15.
I give up. So far not what I was looking for. I know I'm not "flawed" and my self-esteem is fine. What I was hoping to find here are ways to improve interactions with others, including hopefully ways to help them understand and accept I am not like them, but not "broken" or needing to "try harder" to be more like them.
This book so far has been all over the place. It's talking about "highly sensitive" to outside stimuli, but then talks about sensitivity in regards to being caring and nurturing, as if those things are the same or always go together - which is untrue.
It also paints non-HSPs in a bad light, as those prone to aggressive, even violent, behavior, uncaring about environmental issues, the evil corporate CEO, etc. Makes it sound like the author thinks all social liberals are HSPs, who are loving, nurturing, caring and peaceful people and all social conservatives are non-HSPs and evil warmongers out to destroy the environment.
Sorry, but I don't think highly sensitive introverts are all in one political box, nor do I think all those who are not sensitive to outside stimuli, or enjoy it, are all evil, uncaring, unfeeling people.
This book so far is a mess. It's mixing up meanings of "sensitive" as if they're all interchangeable, and throwing in political stereotypes and even some religious new-agey stuff.
At chapter 5 the only thing remotely helpful it's said is to advise to mute commercials when watching TV as commercials are intended to be highly stimulating. Everything else so far either doesn't apply to me (even though I scored high on the test included), is insulting and generalities to non-HSP people, contradictory or obviously false.
I'm giving up. I recommend instead. It's much better and much more helpful in my opinion.
November 25, 2022
賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 賴賷 爻賲丞 賵 賱賷爻鬲 賲乇囟 賷鬲賲賷夭 亘賴丕 亘毓囟 丕賱亘卮乇 毓賳 睾賷乇賴賲 丨賷孬 鬲乇鬲亘胤 亘爻乇毓丞 丕賱鬲兀孬乇听 亘丕賱賲丐孬乇丕鬲 爻賵丕亍 丕賱丿丕禺賱賷丞 兀賵 丕賱禺丕乇噩賷丞 賵 亘丿乇噩丞 丕賱賲毓丕賱噩丞 丕賱毓丕賱賷丞.
听賴賳丕賰 4 氐賮丕鬲 兀爻丕爻賷丞 鬲氐賮 丕賱丨丕賱丞 賵 賴賷 :
1/ 賲毓丕賱噩丞 丕賱兀賲賵乇 亘鬲毓賯
2/ 爻乇毓丞 丕賱廿孬丕乇丞
3/ 丕賱廿爻鬲噩丕亘丞 丕賱毓丕胤賮賷
4/ 廿爻鬲卮毓丕乇 丕賱鬲賮丕氐賷賱 丕賱丿賯賷賯丞
賷賳胤賱賯 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賮賷 賮氐賵賱賴 丕賱兀賵賱賶 亘卮乇丨 賱爻賲丕鬲 賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞賵 鬲毓賲賯 賮賷賴丕 賲毓 賲丨丕賵賱丞 鬲卮噩賷毓 氐丕丨亘賴丕听 毓賱賶 鬲賯亘賱賴丕 賰賵賳賴丕 丕賲乇 廿賷噩丕亘賷 毓賰爻 賲丕 賷丨丕賵賱 丕賱賲噩鬲賲毓 鬲乇賵賷噩 賱賴 貙 孬賲 鬲兀禺丿賳丕 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 賮賷 乇丨賱丞 毓亘乇 丕賱丨賷丕丞 賱賳卮丕賴丿 丕賱卮禺氐 賲賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 賮賷 賲禺鬲賱賮 賲乇丕丨賱賴 丕賱毓賲乇賷丞 賵 賲禺鬲賱賮 鬲噩丕乇亘賴 賮賷 丕賱丨賷丕丞貙听 賵 鬲亘賷賳 鬲兀孬賷乇 賲丨賷胤賴 賵 毓賱丕賯丕鬲賴 毓賱賶 丨丕賱鬲賴貙 賵 鬲兀孬賷乇 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賳丕鬲噩 毓賳 賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞.
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賳馗賲 亘胤乇賷賯丞 爻賱爻賱丞貙听 賰賱 賮氐賱 賷亘丿兀 亘賳亘匕丞 毓賳 丕賱賲賵囟賵毓 丕賱匕賷 爻賷鬲胤乇賯 賱賴 賵 賷賳鬲賴賷 亘鬲賲丕乇賷賳 賵 賳氐丕卅丨 賱鬲丨賯賷賯 丕賱丕爻鬲賮丕丿丞 丕賱鬲丕賲丞 賲賳 丕賱賲丨鬲賵賶貙听 賰賲 丕賳 賰賱 賮氐賱 賲賯爻賲 賱毓賳丕賵賷賳 賲氐睾乇丞 鬲噩毓賱 丕賱賯乇丕亍丞 兀爻賴賱 +兀爻賱賵亘 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 丕賱亘爻賷胤丞 賵 丕賱賵丕囟丨.
賰賵賳 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 賲賮乇胤丞 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賷囟丕 賮賯丿 賵囟毓鬲 賰賱 禺亘乇鬲賴丕 賮賷 賲丨丕賵賱丞 鬲賯丿賷賲 丕賱賲爻丕毓丿丞 賱賴丕鬲賴 丕賱賮卅丞 貙 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 睾賳賷 亘賳氐丕卅丨 賵 賷乇鬲賰夭 丕賰孬乇 毓賱賶 賯氐氐 賵 禺亘乇丕鬲 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 亘毓賷丿丕 毓賳 丿乇丕爻丕鬲 丕賱毓賱賲賷丞听 賵 丕賱賳賮爻賷丞 賲丕 噩毓賱 胤丕亘毓 丕賱鬲賳賲賷丞 丕賱匕丕鬲賷丞 賷胤睾賶貙 丨賯賯鬲 廿爻鬲賮丕丿丞 兀賰孬乇 賲賳 丕賱賮氐賵賱 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞 丕賱兀賵賱賶 賵 亘毓囟 丕賱賮賯乇丕鬲 賮賷 丕賱賮氐賵賱 丕賱賲鬲亘賯賷丞貙听 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賵噩賴 賮賷 丕賱兀爻丕爻 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱匕賷賳 賷鬲爻賷賲賵賳 亘賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞貙 賱匕賶 賮兀賳丕 兀乇賶 丕賳 丕賱賯丕乇卅 丕賱匕賷 賷亘丨孬 賮賯胤 毓賳 賲毓乇賮丞 卮丕賲賱丞 爻賷噩丿 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賲賱 賵 爻賷賰賵賳 賲賳 丕賱兀賮囟賱 廿禺鬲氐丕乇 丕賱賵賯鬲 賵 丕賱亘丨孬 賮賷 丕賱廿賳鬲乇賳鬲 貙賴匕丕 賱丕 賷賳賮賷 賯賷賲丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘.
the highly sensitive person test :
听賴賳丕賰 4 氐賮丕鬲 兀爻丕爻賷丞 鬲氐賮 丕賱丨丕賱丞 賵 賴賷 :
1/ 賲毓丕賱噩丞 丕賱兀賲賵乇 亘鬲毓賯
2/ 爻乇毓丞 丕賱廿孬丕乇丞
3/ 丕賱廿爻鬲噩丕亘丞 丕賱毓丕胤賮賷
4/ 廿爻鬲卮毓丕乇 丕賱鬲賮丕氐賷賱 丕賱丿賯賷賯丞
賷賳胤賱賯 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賮賷 賮氐賵賱賴 丕賱兀賵賱賶 亘卮乇丨 賱爻賲丕鬲 賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞賵 鬲毓賲賯 賮賷賴丕 賲毓 賲丨丕賵賱丞 鬲卮噩賷毓 氐丕丨亘賴丕听 毓賱賶 鬲賯亘賱賴丕 賰賵賳賴丕 丕賲乇 廿賷噩丕亘賷 毓賰爻 賲丕 賷丨丕賵賱 丕賱賲噩鬲賲毓 鬲乇賵賷噩 賱賴 貙 孬賲 鬲兀禺丿賳丕 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 賮賷 乇丨賱丞 毓亘乇 丕賱丨賷丕丞 賱賳卮丕賴丿 丕賱卮禺氐 賲賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 賮賷 賲禺鬲賱賮 賲乇丕丨賱賴 丕賱毓賲乇賷丞 賵 賲禺鬲賱賮 鬲噩丕乇亘賴 賮賷 丕賱丨賷丕丞貙听 賵 鬲亘賷賳 鬲兀孬賷乇 賲丨賷胤賴 賵 毓賱丕賯丕鬲賴 毓賱賶 丨丕賱鬲賴貙 賵 鬲兀孬賷乇 丕賱賳賮爻賷 賳丕鬲噩 毓賳 賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞.
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賳馗賲 亘胤乇賷賯丞 爻賱爻賱丞貙听 賰賱 賮氐賱 賷亘丿兀 亘賳亘匕丞 毓賳 丕賱賲賵囟賵毓 丕賱匕賷 爻賷鬲胤乇賯 賱賴 賵 賷賳鬲賴賷 亘鬲賲丕乇賷賳 賵 賳氐丕卅丨 賱鬲丨賯賷賯 丕賱丕爻鬲賮丕丿丞 丕賱鬲丕賲丞 賲賳 丕賱賲丨鬲賵賶貙听 賰賲 丕賳 賰賱 賮氐賱 賲賯爻賲 賱毓賳丕賵賷賳 賲氐睾乇丞 鬲噩毓賱 丕賱賯乇丕亍丞 兀爻賴賱 +兀爻賱賵亘 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 丕賱亘爻賷胤丞 賵 丕賱賵丕囟丨.
賰賵賳 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 賲賮乇胤丞 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賷囟丕 賮賯丿 賵囟毓鬲 賰賱 禺亘乇鬲賴丕 賮賷 賲丨丕賵賱丞 鬲賯丿賷賲 丕賱賲爻丕毓丿丞 賱賴丕鬲賴 丕賱賮卅丞 貙 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 睾賳賷 亘賳氐丕卅丨 賵 賷乇鬲賰夭 丕賰孬乇 毓賱賶 賯氐氐 賵 禺亘乇丕鬲 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 亘毓賷丿丕 毓賳 丿乇丕爻丕鬲 丕賱毓賱賲賷丞听 賵 丕賱賳賮爻賷丞 賲丕 噩毓賱 胤丕亘毓 丕賱鬲賳賲賷丞 丕賱匕丕鬲賷丞 賷胤睾賶貙 丨賯賯鬲 廿爻鬲賮丕丿丞 兀賰孬乇 賲賳 丕賱賮氐賵賱 丕賱兀乇亘毓丞 丕賱兀賵賱賶 賵 亘毓囟 丕賱賮賯乇丕鬲 賮賷 丕賱賮氐賵賱 丕賱賲鬲亘賯賷丞貙听 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賵噩賴 賮賷 丕賱兀爻丕爻 丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 丕賱匕賷賳 賷鬲爻賷賲賵賳 亘賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞貙 賱匕賶 賮兀賳丕 兀乇賶 丕賳 丕賱賯丕乇卅 丕賱匕賷 賷亘丨孬 賮賯胤 毓賳 賲毓乇賮丞 卮丕賲賱丞 爻賷噩丿 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賲賱 賵 爻賷賰賵賳 賲賳 丕賱兀賮囟賱 廿禺鬲氐丕乇 丕賱賵賯鬲 賵 丕賱亘丨孬 賮賷 丕賱廿賳鬲乇賳鬲 貙賴匕丕 賱丕 賷賳賮賷 賯賷賲丞 丕賱賰鬲丕亘.
the highly sensitive person test :
October 28, 2021
Psychologist Elaine N. Aron has produced several books on the subject of highly-sensitive people. This appears to have been her first and is, I suspect, her most commercial. In it, she attempts to introduce the theory that there exists a distinct set of human beings who are genetically wired with a heightened sensitivity to all things sensory. Unlike the introvert, who purportedly thrives in isolation and opts for solitude or smaller groups when given the choice, the highly-sensitive person has trouble withstanding the cacophony of the wider world and is constitutionally compelled to seek sanctuary when confronted with an abundance of stimulation - whether she wishes to or not. The distinction is a subtle one, and made all the more difficult to draw by the author's freshman approach to this sort of presentation. Much of the material has been dumbed down for the layman, couched in wildly-contradictory terms, and richly romanticized. Again, first book. One assumes lessons have been learned.
I do not give that pass lightly. I found some very intriguing ideas nestled in amid the dross, and I do believe Dr. Aron may be on to something here. I might try a later work. Possibly Psychotherapy and the Highly Sensitive Person - in which one hopes she'll be playing to her peers.
I do not give that pass lightly. I found some very intriguing ideas nestled in amid the dross, and I do believe Dr. Aron may be on to something here. I might try a later work. Possibly Psychotherapy and the Highly Sensitive Person - in which one hopes she'll be playing to her peers.
March 18, 2020
First of all, I have to clarify for the record that The World is not, thankfully, (at least at this point in my life), "overwhelming" me.
But I have often been told that I'm being "too sensitive" about a comment someone made about me.
And I got intrigued by this book when I saw it referenced in Oprah magazine. (Well...full disclosure, I didn't just "see" it. I took the quiz "Are You A Highly Sensitive Person?" while I was getting a pedicure. And I got a score that landed me in the Yes zone. So I was intrigued and checked out the book.)
Perhaps surprisingly, there's little to no discussion of that emotional sensitivity or touchiness over comments from others. Instead, Elaine Aaron's use of "sensitive" is actually "over arousal" in the nervous system: over-stimulation. Still, much of what she discusses applies to certain aspects of my personality: intuitive, sensitive to others' moods, pulled by inner conflicting voices (difficulty w/ decisions), conscientiousness, cautious, pleasing, worried about making mistakes. If these same traits resonate with you, I think you'd definitely find this book an excellent source of food for thought.
One thing I couldn't help wondering, however, (and maybe it's because I'm one of the more internal consider-ers she talks about, rather than a "warrior king" type) was whether the concept of sensitivity was being used too widely as a kind of blanket cop-out.
In other words, I know I tire easily after being around people too much, and need restorative alone time, (despite the fact that I might seem like a social butterfly on the outside), and I know that I have a low tolerance for doing B.S. jobs that aren't "on the front lines" (Aaron says HSPs often crave meaningful careers).
And I would LOVE to be able to claim that I have a legitimate, neuro-scientific cause for these traits--I could justify needing a nap every day and needing to not hate my job!
But I worried that perhaps there was maybe a little bit too much "feel good about yourself for being a special HSP!" message. Seriously, who does have a high tolerance for doing a job that isn't meaningful?
At the same time, each chapter raised at least one point I either hadn't considered before, or had considered at length but in some other context. So I think it's worth a read if you take the quiz and any of the personality traits apply to you.
Well, now I've been too "aroused" by dealing with all you people and need to go take a nap. (har!)
But I have often been told that I'm being "too sensitive" about a comment someone made about me.
And I got intrigued by this book when I saw it referenced in Oprah magazine. (Well...full disclosure, I didn't just "see" it. I took the quiz "Are You A Highly Sensitive Person?" while I was getting a pedicure. And I got a score that landed me in the Yes zone. So I was intrigued and checked out the book.)
Perhaps surprisingly, there's little to no discussion of that emotional sensitivity or touchiness over comments from others. Instead, Elaine Aaron's use of "sensitive" is actually "over arousal" in the nervous system: over-stimulation. Still, much of what she discusses applies to certain aspects of my personality: intuitive, sensitive to others' moods, pulled by inner conflicting voices (difficulty w/ decisions), conscientiousness, cautious, pleasing, worried about making mistakes. If these same traits resonate with you, I think you'd definitely find this book an excellent source of food for thought.
One thing I couldn't help wondering, however, (and maybe it's because I'm one of the more internal consider-ers she talks about, rather than a "warrior king" type) was whether the concept of sensitivity was being used too widely as a kind of blanket cop-out.
In other words, I know I tire easily after being around people too much, and need restorative alone time, (despite the fact that I might seem like a social butterfly on the outside), and I know that I have a low tolerance for doing B.S. jobs that aren't "on the front lines" (Aaron says HSPs often crave meaningful careers).
And I would LOVE to be able to claim that I have a legitimate, neuro-scientific cause for these traits--I could justify needing a nap every day and needing to not hate my job!
But I worried that perhaps there was maybe a little bit too much "feel good about yourself for being a special HSP!" message. Seriously, who does have a high tolerance for doing a job that isn't meaningful?
At the same time, each chapter raised at least one point I either hadn't considered before, or had considered at length but in some other context. So I think it's worth a read if you take the quiz and any of the personality traits apply to you.
Well, now I've been too "aroused" by dealing with all you people and need to go take a nap. (har!)
August 16, 2014
賴丕賱賰鬲丕亘 廿賱賵 毓賳丿賷 匕賰乇賷丕鬲 賯丿賷賲丞
匕賰乇賷丕鬲 丿賲賴丕 鬲賯賷賱 兀賵 賷賲賰賳 兀賳丕 亘卮賵賮賴丕 丿賲賴丕 鬲賯賷賱 亘毓丿 賲乇賵乇 丕賱賵賯鬲 毓賱賷賴丕
賯丕乇賷鬲賵 賲賳 卮賷 兀賰鬲乇 賲賳 毓卮乇 爻賳賷賳 兀賵 13 爻賳丞
賵賯鬲賴丕 胤賱毓鬲 乇賵丨賷 賵 毓賲賱鬲 丕賱賲爻鬲丨賷賱 賱丨鬲賶 賯丿乇鬲 丨氐賱鬲 毓賱賷賴
賵 賵賯鬲賴丕 兀賵賱 賲賳鬲丿賶 丕卮鬲乇賰鬲 賮賷锟斤拷 毓丕賱賳鬲 亘丨賷丕鬲賷 賰丕賳
毓賳 賯丕乇卅賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘
賰丕賳 賵賯鬲賴丕 丕賱丕賰鬲卮丕賮 丕賱毓馗賷賲 賷毓賳賷 廿賳賵 賮賷 賳丕爻 賴賷賰 亘丕賱丿賳賷丕
賵 鬲賲丕賴賷鬲 賲毓 丕賱丨丕賱丞貙 賵 賮賱賯鬲 乇丕爻 丕賱賳丕爻 賷賱賷 亘毓乇賮賴賲 亘賴丕賱丕賰鬲卮丕賮 丕賱毓噩賷亘 賵 氐乇鬲 賰鬲賷乇 卮丕毓乇賷丞 賵賯鬲賴丕
賵 賰鬲亘鬲 卮賵賷丞 卮毓乇
賴賷 賱賲丕 賰賳鬲 毓賲 丨丕賵賱 丕鬲毓丕賷卮 賲毓 匕丕鬲賷 丕賱賱胤賷賮丞 丕賱賲夭毓噩丞
賯亘賱 賲丕 兀賳鬲氐乇 兀賳丕 賵 匕丕鬲賷 丕賱馗乇賷賮丞 丕賱卮乇賷乇丞 (卮賵賷丞) 毓賱賶 鬲賱賰 丕賱賱胤賷賮丞
賵 賳鬲禺賱氐 賲賳 丿賲賴丕 丕賱孬賯賷賱 賱賱兀亘丿
亘爻 賷毓賳賷 亘毓丿 兀賰孬乇 賲賳 毓卮乇 爻賳賷賳 毓賱賶 賯乇丕亍鬲賵
賲丕 亘馗賳 廿賳賵 賮丕丿賳賷 卮賷 亘丨賷丕鬲賷
賱丕 賴賵 賵 賱丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱鬲丕賳賷
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love
賷毓賳賷 賱賲丕 鬲賰賵賳 卮禺氐 丨爻丕爻貙 亘鬲毓賷卮 胤賵賱 毓賲乇賰 亘鬲爻賲毓 賴丕賱毓亘丕乇丞 賲賳 賷賱賷 丨賵賱賰
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲丕 賯丿賲賱賷 卮賷 噩丿賷丿
睾賷乇 廿賳賵 賷毓賳賷 賱爻鬲 賵丨丿賰 賮賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰賵賳
亘爻 賷毓賳賷 卮賵 丕賱賮丕賷丿丞
賲丿乇賷
亘爻 賷毓賳賷 賱爻鬲 賵丨丿賷 賮賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰賵賳
賷丕 賱賱爻毓丕丿丞
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賵 亘噩賵夭 丕賱爻亘亘 廿賳賷 賰賳鬲 睾賱胤丕賳丞 亘鬲卮禺賷氐 丕賱丨丕賱丞
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賲丿乇賷
毓賱賶 賰賱 賲丕 賲賳 毓丕丿鬲賷 丕賱丨丿賷孬 毓賳 賰鬲亘 賯丿賷賲丞貙 賯乇兀鬲賴丕 賯亘賱 賮鬲乇丞 亘毓賷丿丞
賱兀賳賵 賮賷 賰賱 賲賳毓胤賮 亘丕賱丨賷丕丞 賮賷 賰鬲亘 賯乇丕賴丕 丕賱賵丕丨丿 賲鬲賳丕爻亘丞 賲毓 丕賱卮禺氐 賷賱賷 賰丕賳賵
賵 賷賱賷 賲丕 毓丕丿 賷毓乇賮 賰賷賮 賯乇兀賴丕 兀賵 毓噩亘鬲賵 賮賷 賮鬲乇丞 賲丕
賵 廿賳賵 賴丕賱卮禺氐 賷賱賷 賰丕賳賵 賷賵賲丕貙 賲丕 毓丕丿 賷毓乇賮賵 賵 賱丕 賷鬲匕賰乇賵
賵 禺丕氐丞 廿賳 賰賳鬲 賲鬲賱賷 賲丕 亘鬲丨亘 鬲丨賲賱 匕賰乇賷丕鬲貙 賵 賰賱 賲丕 亘毓丿鬲 亘鬲亘賴鬲 亘乇丕爻賰 賱丨鬲賶 鬲禺鬲賮賷 賵 賰兀賳賴丕 賲丕 賰丕賳鬲
賵 亘鬲爻鬲鬲賯賱 丿賲 丨丕賱賰 兀賰鬲乇 賲賳 賲丕 兀賳鬲 賲爻鬲鬲賯賱 丿賲 兀賳鬲 丕賱丨丕賱賷
賮兀丨賷丕賳丕 亘丨爻 廿賳 亘丿賷 丕丨賰賷 毓賳 賴賷賰 賰鬲亘 賰兀賳賷 毓賲 亘丨賰賷 毓賳 丨丿丕 鬲丕賳賷
毓賳 賲禺賱賵賯丞 鬲丕賳賷丞 賲丕 亘毓乇賮賴丕
賵 亘丨爻 亘毓丿賲 丕賱丕乇鬲賷丕丨 賱賵 亘丿賷 丕爻鬲禺丿賲 囟賲賷乇 丕賱兀賳丕 毓賳賴丕/ 毓賳賷
兀賵 丨丕賵賱 丕爻鬲丨囟乇 賲卮丕毓乇 賲丕 毓丕丿 廿賱賴丕 賵噩賵丿 賰鬲賷乇
賵 丕丨賰賷 賯氐氐賴丕 賷賱賷 賲丕 毓丕丿鬲 囟賲賳 賳胤丕賯 丕賴鬲賲丕賲丕鬲賷
賱賰賳 爻乇丿 丕賱賯氐氐 卮睾賱丞 丨賱賵丞 賵 賲爻賱賷丞 亘賰鬲賷乇 兀丨賷丕賳
賮賰賷賮 賱賵 賯丕賱 丕賱賵丕丨丿 賯氐丞 氐睾賷乇丞 毓賳 丨丕賱賵
亘丨爻 丕賱賵丕丨丿 丨丕賱賵 亘胤賱 賵 賲賴賲 賵 賱賵 囟賲賳 賴丕賱賯氐丞 丕賱氐睾賷乇丞
賵 亘賲丕 廿賳賵 丕賱賯氐氐 亘鬲賯賵賲 毓丕賱禺賷丕賱
亘鬲禺賷賱 丨丕賱賷 廿賳賷 賱爻丕賳賷 丨丕賱賷 賵 亘丨賰賷 毓賳賴丕
賵 亘爻鬲禺丿賲 囟賲賷乇 丕賱兀賳丕 丕賱賯丿賷賲丞 丕賱賲鬲乇賵賰丞
賵 丕賱賯丕乇卅 賲丕 丨賷毓乇賮 丕賱賮乇賯
賰賱賵 亘卮賵賮賵 賰賱賲丞 (兀賳丕) 賲鬲噩丕賳爻丞
丨鬲賶 賱賵 兀賳鬲 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 賲丕 賴賷賰 亘鬲丨爻
匕賰乇賷丕鬲 丿賲賴丕 鬲賯賷賱 兀賵 賷賲賰賳 兀賳丕 亘卮賵賮賴丕 丿賲賴丕 鬲賯賷賱 亘毓丿 賲乇賵乇 丕賱賵賯鬲 毓賱賷賴丕
賯丕乇賷鬲賵 賲賳 卮賷 兀賰鬲乇 賲賳 毓卮乇 爻賳賷賳 兀賵 13 爻賳丞
賵賯鬲賴丕 胤賱毓鬲 乇賵丨賷 賵 毓賲賱鬲 丕賱賲爻鬲丨賷賱 賱丨鬲賶 賯丿乇鬲 丨氐賱鬲 毓賱賷賴
賵 賵賯鬲賴丕 兀賵賱 賲賳鬲丿賶 丕卮鬲乇賰鬲 賮賷锟斤拷 毓丕賱賳鬲 亘丨賷丕鬲賷 賰丕賳
毓賳 賯丕乇卅賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘
賰丕賳 賵賯鬲賴丕 丕賱丕賰鬲卮丕賮 丕賱毓馗賷賲 賷毓賳賷 廿賳賵 賮賷 賳丕爻 賴賷賰 亘丕賱丿賳賷丕
賵 鬲賲丕賴賷鬲 賲毓 丕賱丨丕賱丞貙 賵 賮賱賯鬲 乇丕爻 丕賱賳丕爻 賷賱賷 亘毓乇賮賴賲 亘賴丕賱丕賰鬲卮丕賮 丕賱毓噩賷亘 賵 氐乇鬲 賰鬲賷乇 卮丕毓乇賷丞 賵賯鬲賴丕
賵 賰鬲亘鬲 卮賵賷丞 卮毓乇
賴賷 賱賲丕 賰賳鬲 毓賲 丨丕賵賱 丕鬲毓丕賷卮 賲毓 匕丕鬲賷 丕賱賱胤賷賮丞 丕賱賲夭毓噩丞
賯亘賱 賲丕 兀賳鬲氐乇 兀賳丕 賵 匕丕鬲賷 丕賱馗乇賷賮丞 丕賱卮乇賷乇丞 (卮賵賷丞) 毓賱賶 鬲賱賰 丕賱賱胤賷賮丞
賵 賳鬲禺賱氐 賲賳 丿賲賴丕 丕賱孬賯賷賱 賱賱兀亘丿
亘爻 賷毓賳賷 亘毓丿 兀賰孬乇 賲賳 毓卮乇 爻賳賷賳 毓賱賶 賯乇丕亍鬲賵
賲丕 亘馗賳 廿賳賵 賮丕丿賳賷 卮賷 亘丨賷丕鬲賷
賱丕 賴賵 賵 賱丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丕賱鬲丕賳賷
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love
賷毓賳賷 賱賲丕 鬲賰賵賳 卮禺氐 丨爻丕爻貙 亘鬲毓賷卮 胤賵賱 毓賲乇賰 亘鬲爻賲毓 賴丕賱毓亘丕乇丞 賲賳 賷賱賷 丨賵賱賰
丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲丕 賯丿賲賱賷 卮賷 噩丿賷丿
睾賷乇 廿賳賵 賷毓賳賷 賱爻鬲 賵丨丿賰 賮賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰賵賳
亘爻 賷毓賳賷 卮賵 丕賱賮丕賷丿丞
賲丿乇賷
亘爻 賷毓賳賷 賱爻鬲 賵丨丿賷 賮賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰賵賳
賷丕 賱賱爻毓丕丿丞
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賵 亘噩賵夭 丕賱爻亘亘 廿賳賷 賰賳鬲 睾賱胤丕賳丞 亘鬲卮禺賷氐 丕賱丨丕賱丞
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賲丿乇賷
毓賱賶 賰賱 賲丕 賲賳 毓丕丿鬲賷 丕賱丨丿賷孬 毓賳 賰鬲亘 賯丿賷賲丞貙 賯乇兀鬲賴丕 賯亘賱 賮鬲乇丞 亘毓賷丿丞
賱兀賳賵 賮賷 賰賱 賲賳毓胤賮 亘丕賱丨賷丕丞 賮賷 賰鬲亘 賯乇丕賴丕 丕賱賵丕丨丿 賲鬲賳丕爻亘丞 賲毓 丕賱卮禺氐 賷賱賷 賰丕賳賵
賵 賷賱賷 賲丕 毓丕丿 賷毓乇賮 賰賷賮 賯乇兀賴丕 兀賵 毓噩亘鬲賵 賮賷 賮鬲乇丞 賲丕
賵 廿賳賵 賴丕賱卮禺氐 賷賱賷 賰丕賳賵 賷賵賲丕貙 賲丕 毓丕丿 賷毓乇賮賵 賵 賱丕 賷鬲匕賰乇賵
賵 禺丕氐丞 廿賳 賰賳鬲 賲鬲賱賷 賲丕 亘鬲丨亘 鬲丨賲賱 匕賰乇賷丕鬲貙 賵 賰賱 賲丕 亘毓丿鬲 亘鬲亘賴鬲 亘乇丕爻賰 賱丨鬲賶 鬲禺鬲賮賷 賵 賰兀賳賴丕 賲丕 賰丕賳鬲
賵 亘鬲爻鬲鬲賯賱 丿賲 丨丕賱賰 兀賰鬲乇 賲賳 賲丕 兀賳鬲 賲爻鬲鬲賯賱 丿賲 兀賳鬲 丕賱丨丕賱賷
賮兀丨賷丕賳丕 亘丨爻 廿賳 亘丿賷 丕丨賰賷 毓賳 賴賷賰 賰鬲亘 賰兀賳賷 毓賲 亘丨賰賷 毓賳 丨丿丕 鬲丕賳賷
毓賳 賲禺賱賵賯丞 鬲丕賳賷丞 賲丕 亘毓乇賮賴丕
賵 亘丨爻 亘毓丿賲 丕賱丕乇鬲賷丕丨 賱賵 亘丿賷 丕爻鬲禺丿賲 囟賲賷乇 丕賱兀賳丕 毓賳賴丕/ 毓賳賷
兀賵 丨丕賵賱 丕爻鬲丨囟乇 賲卮丕毓乇 賲丕 毓丕丿 廿賱賴丕 賵噩賵丿 賰鬲賷乇
賵 丕丨賰賷 賯氐氐賴丕 賷賱賷 賲丕 毓丕丿鬲 囟賲賳 賳胤丕賯 丕賴鬲賲丕賲丕鬲賷
賱賰賳 爻乇丿 丕賱賯氐氐 卮睾賱丞 丨賱賵丞 賵 賲爻賱賷丞 亘賰鬲賷乇 兀丨賷丕賳
賮賰賷賮 賱賵 賯丕賱 丕賱賵丕丨丿 賯氐丞 氐睾賷乇丞 毓賳 丨丕賱賵
亘丨爻 丕賱賵丕丨丿 丨丕賱賵 亘胤賱 賵 賲賴賲 賵 賱賵 囟賲賳 賴丕賱賯氐丞 丕賱氐睾賷乇丞
賵 亘賲丕 廿賳賵 丕賱賯氐氐 亘鬲賯賵賲 毓丕賱禺賷丕賱
亘鬲禺賷賱 丨丕賱賷 廿賳賷 賱爻丕賳賷 丨丕賱賷 賵 亘丨賰賷 毓賳賴丕
賵 亘爻鬲禺丿賲 囟賲賷乇 丕賱兀賳丕 丕賱賯丿賷賲丞 丕賱賲鬲乇賵賰丞
賵 丕賱賯丕乇卅 賲丕 丨賷毓乇賮 丕賱賮乇賯
賰賱賵 亘卮賵賮賵 賰賱賲丞 (兀賳丕) 賲鬲噩丕賳爻丞
丨鬲賶 賱賵 兀賳鬲 丕賱賰丕鬲亘 賲丕 賴賷賰 亘鬲丨爻
October 14, 2022
I think this book just changed my life. Most of the information in it was stuff I鈥檇 already intuited or learned elsewhere, but the way it was framed here under the label of 鈥淗SP鈥� just made something finally click about how I see myself. It helped me reframe many of the things I鈥檝e struggled with all my life or made 鈥渨rong鈥� about myself. Gives me a much different perspective moving forward.
May 21, 2011
I actually found this book to be very helpful. The author/psychologist coined the phrase "highly sensitive person"(or "HSP") admittedly in reference to herself and to those whom she has found in her 5 years of research to make up approximately 20% of the human population. Highly sensitive people share many of the same attributes: They are most often introverted (not necessarily 鈥渟hy鈥�) turning inward for strength and rejuvenation. They are typically highly intelligent, very creative, compassionate, spiritual, and are deeply affected by the arts. They are sensitive many things both internally and externally that most in the general population overlook, such as slight changes in a room, and the moods of others. They are also very easily over-aroused by various forms of external stimuli (excess noise, chaos, too many people, bright lights, etc) often needing to retreat from the stimuli in order to regain their sanity. (In fact the majority of the book centers on coping with over-arousal, the HSP Achilles' heel). HSP's tend to fall in love hard and form strong attachments to certain individuals, and are significantly affected by traumatic events in their childhoods. Other hallmark traits of HSP's are that they form very close friendships, often have problematic relationships with doctors (who, in order to survive med school, tend to not relate to the highly sensitive), are valued in their vocation for integrity and work ethic, but are not good self-promoters. They often don't do well with transition and change.
These extremely sensitive individuals are not "flawed," as our non-HSP counterparts may lead us to believe (personally, although my sensitivity has challenged me, I don't share the author's defensive viewpoint that I am under-valued because of it). According to the author, Western and Indo-European societies tend to under-value many HSP attributes such as introversion, but HSP's are actually important contributors to a balanced civilization, acting as the advisors, judges, and spiritual leaders to the population majority's "warrior king" tendency to fearlessly expand and conquer. The HSP tendency to "pause and check" is the cautious counterpoint that keeps civilizations in tact.
I highly recommend this book for anyone who thinks they fall under the category of a highly sensitive person. I picked it up because it was recommended to me and although I was a little skeptical because it was one author's research and perspective, I was floored by how much of what she described fit my personality completely - in fact, not only me, but a few of my family members as well (extreme sensitivity is an inherited genetic trait). Aron writes in a manner that helps the HSP not only to cope with, but to celebrate their unique qualities. Society needs a select group of individuals who are creative, docile, and spiritually in tune to effectively function. In some cultures such as China, the HSP personality is the most highly-valued.
Aron repeatedly quotes Carl Jung, an early psychotherapist and (according to her) a fellow HSP, to help with the HSP condition. The chapters of the book focus on HSP鈥檚 and realms of everyday life such as in vocation, social relationships, intimate relationships, and vocation. I found the chapters on physical treatment particularly helpful (medications such as SSRI's or anti-anxiety meds may be helpful for HSP's both in the short or long term, but aren't necessarily a good fit for everyone. It should also be pointed out that some of her conclusions about SSRI's may be outdated as more research has been done since this book's publication in '96). My favorite chapter was the final chapter, which focuses on the HSP's tie to the spiritual realm. It was actually very practical, citing examples about how HSP's, religious and non- religious alike, tend to look inward and seek for explanations beyond what can be explained by science.
These extremely sensitive individuals are not "flawed," as our non-HSP counterparts may lead us to believe (personally, although my sensitivity has challenged me, I don't share the author's defensive viewpoint that I am under-valued because of it). According to the author, Western and Indo-European societies tend to under-value many HSP attributes such as introversion, but HSP's are actually important contributors to a balanced civilization, acting as the advisors, judges, and spiritual leaders to the population majority's "warrior king" tendency to fearlessly expand and conquer. The HSP tendency to "pause and check" is the cautious counterpoint that keeps civilizations in tact.
I highly recommend this book for anyone who thinks they fall under the category of a highly sensitive person. I picked it up because it was recommended to me and although I was a little skeptical because it was one author's research and perspective, I was floored by how much of what she described fit my personality completely - in fact, not only me, but a few of my family members as well (extreme sensitivity is an inherited genetic trait). Aron writes in a manner that helps the HSP not only to cope with, but to celebrate their unique qualities. Society needs a select group of individuals who are creative, docile, and spiritually in tune to effectively function. In some cultures such as China, the HSP personality is the most highly-valued.
Aron repeatedly quotes Carl Jung, an early psychotherapist and (according to her) a fellow HSP, to help with the HSP condition. The chapters of the book focus on HSP鈥檚 and realms of everyday life such as in vocation, social relationships, intimate relationships, and vocation. I found the chapters on physical treatment particularly helpful (medications such as SSRI's or anti-anxiety meds may be helpful for HSP's both in the short or long term, but aren't necessarily a good fit for everyone. It should also be pointed out that some of her conclusions about SSRI's may be outdated as more research has been done since this book's publication in '96). My favorite chapter was the final chapter, which focuses on the HSP's tie to the spiritual realm. It was actually very practical, citing examples about how HSP's, religious and non- religious alike, tend to look inward and seek for explanations beyond what can be explained by science.
May 26, 2022
鈥淲hile it is wise to accept what we cannot change about ourselves, it is also good to remember that we are never too old to replace discouragement with bits and pieces of confidence and hope.鈥� 鈥� Elaine N.Aron, PhD, The Highly Sensitive Person
Vivid dreams, a deep need to have alone time, easily overwhelmed by loud noises, sensitivity to pain, a rich and complex inner life or searching for a deeper meaning to life鈥� All signs you might be an HSP.
Most of the world is geared for those who can handle high doses of stimulation at an almost constant pace and for those who are less so inclined are seen as over-sensitive, boring, or shy. This book is for those who often find themselves overwhelmed by the stimulation of the world and need some clarity of why this is, those who want to confront the lies they have been told about being sensitive.
鈥淚ntroverts are still social beings. In fact, their well-being is more affected by their social relationships than is the well-being of extroverts.鈥� 鈥� Elaine N. Aron, PhD, The Highly SensitivePerson
Aron writes of her own and other HSPs 鈥檚tories and how they have used their skills to help others and themselves to grow and live full lives. She writes of all the research that went into this book with many helpful tips on exploring your sensitivity and using it to your advantage.
But first, she gets you to go deep into your past and find those moments that lead you to believe your sensitivity was bad, the moments where not only people but your own body told you that you are too sensitive.
鈥淎nother equally important part of growing up is no longer pretending we will be able to do absolutely everything. Life is short and filled with limits and responsibilities鈥︹€� 鈥� Elaine N. Aron, PhD, TheHighly Sensitive Person
With so few people knowing and being HSP it can be hard to appreciate the gift that is being sensitive and knowing how to harness it in an overwhelming world. Aron shows us that sensitivity should be cherished and that the world needs it even if they do not know it.
While the book is well written it is hard to read and takes some time to work through, with the many exercises and tasks to ponder on. Still, a truly eye-opening book that everyone should read, whether you are an HSP or not, knowing the wonderful diversity of people and how everyone is needed, is crucial for a world that appreciates and benefits from the glorious diversity.
鈥淭he pursuit of wholeness is really a kind of circling closer and closer through different meanings鈥︹€� 鈥� Elaine N. Aron, PhD,The Highly Sensitive Person
Vivid dreams, a deep need to have alone time, easily overwhelmed by loud noises, sensitivity to pain, a rich and complex inner life or searching for a deeper meaning to life鈥� All signs you might be an HSP.
Most of the world is geared for those who can handle high doses of stimulation at an almost constant pace and for those who are less so inclined are seen as over-sensitive, boring, or shy. This book is for those who often find themselves overwhelmed by the stimulation of the world and need some clarity of why this is, those who want to confront the lies they have been told about being sensitive.
鈥淚ntroverts are still social beings. In fact, their well-being is more affected by their social relationships than is the well-being of extroverts.鈥� 鈥� Elaine N. Aron, PhD, The Highly SensitivePerson
Aron writes of her own and other HSPs 鈥檚tories and how they have used their skills to help others and themselves to grow and live full lives. She writes of all the research that went into this book with many helpful tips on exploring your sensitivity and using it to your advantage.
But first, she gets you to go deep into your past and find those moments that lead you to believe your sensitivity was bad, the moments where not only people but your own body told you that you are too sensitive.
鈥淎nother equally important part of growing up is no longer pretending we will be able to do absolutely everything. Life is short and filled with limits and responsibilities鈥︹€� 鈥� Elaine N. Aron, PhD, TheHighly Sensitive Person
With so few people knowing and being HSP it can be hard to appreciate the gift that is being sensitive and knowing how to harness it in an overwhelming world. Aron shows us that sensitivity should be cherished and that the world needs it even if they do not know it.
While the book is well written it is hard to read and takes some time to work through, with the many exercises and tasks to ponder on. Still, a truly eye-opening book that everyone should read, whether you are an HSP or not, knowing the wonderful diversity of people and how everyone is needed, is crucial for a world that appreciates and benefits from the glorious diversity.
鈥淭he pursuit of wholeness is really a kind of circling closer and closer through different meanings鈥︹€� 鈥� Elaine N. Aron, PhD,The Highly Sensitive Person
August 3, 2021
At best, this book is highly outdated. It does not address a lot of things that we know now about psychology, ADD, ADHD, anxiety, introversion/introverted tendencies and other disorders and mental illnesses.
To say that some one is 鈥渉ighly sensitive鈥� without really addressing those other things and the research around them is just not okay. It鈥檚 outdated. It invalidates those with mental illness experiences or with introverted tendencies.
We鈥檝e come a long way since this book was published, I would recommend a newer more relevant book.
To say that some one is 鈥渉ighly sensitive鈥� without really addressing those other things and the research around them is just not okay. It鈥檚 outdated. It invalidates those with mental illness experiences or with introverted tendencies.
We鈥檝e come a long way since this book was published, I would recommend a newer more relevant book.
July 10, 2018
丕賱卮禺氐 賲賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 , 廿匕丕 賰賳鬲 鬲鬲賲鬲賾毓 亘丨賷丕丞 噩賵賾丕賳賷丞 睾賳賷賾丞 , 賵鬲鬲兀孬賾乇 亘毓賲賯 亘丕賱兀卮毓丕乇 賵丕賱賲賵爻賷賯賶 , 賵鬲賳賮乇 賲賳 賲卮丕賴丿 丕賱毓賳賮 賵鬲鬲賵鬲賾乇 賲賳 丕賱兀氐賵丕鬲 丕賱毓丕賱賷丞 賵丕賱夭丨丕賲 , 賮睾丕賱亘丕賸 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賷毓賳賷賰 , 兀賳鬲 卮禺氐 賲賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞.
賵噩丿鬲 賲毓馗賲 丕賱賲乇丕噩毓丕鬲 賴賳丕 鬲丿賵乇 丨賵賱 賮賰乇丞 兀賳 丕賱賯丕乇卅 賱賳 賷噩丿 賳賮爻賴 賵丨賷丿丕賸 亘毓丿 丕賱賷賵賲 , 賮賲丕 賷賲乇賾 亘賴 賷賲乇賾 亘賴 賰孬賷乇賵賳 , 賵丕賱賵丕賯毓 兀賳 賴匕賴 賱賲 鬲賰賳 賲卮賰賱鬲賷 , 賱賲 兀卮毓乇 賷賵賲丕賸 亘丕賱禺噩賱 賲賳 氐賮丞 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱鬲賷 兀賲鬲賱賰賴丕 , 亘賱 兀卮毓乇 兀賳 丕賱氐賮丕鬲 兀毓賱丕賴 賴賷 賲丕 賷賳亘睾賷 兀賳 賷賰賵賳 毓賱賷賴 丕賱賲乇亍 亘丕賱胤亘賷毓丞, 乇睾賲 兀賳賳賷 爻賲毓鬲 賵兀爻賲毓 毓賱賶 丕賱丿賵丕賲 賳氐丕卅丨 亘丕賱鬲禺賮賷賮 賲賳賴丕 賱兀噩賱 兀賱丕 兀鬲毓亘 , 賱賰賳 賰賳鬲 賵賲賳 賯亘賱 兀賳 兀賯乇兀 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 兀毓丿賾 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 賲賷夭丞 賱丿賷 賵賱丕 兀乇睾亘 亘丕賱鬲禺賱賾氐 賲賳賴丕 , 賱賰賳 賰丕賳 賱丿賷 丕乇鬲亘丕賰 賮賷 亘爻胤賴丕 賮賷 丕賱毓丕賱賲 丕賱禺丕乇噩賷賾 丕賱賲賯賱賯 亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 廿賱賷賾 , 爻丕毓丿賳賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 毓賱賶 鬲禺胤賾賷賴 ..
賮賷 毓丕賱賲 賷賯丿賾乇 丕賱賲丕丿賾丞 賵"丕賱禺丕乇噩" 兀賰孬乇 賲賳 丕賱丿丕禺賱 , 賵賱丕 賷毓鬲乇賮 廿賱丕 亘卮賰賱 賵丕丨丿 賲賳 兀卮賰丕賱 丕賱賯賵賾丞, 爻賷爻賴賱 毓賱賶 丕賱噩賲賷毓 賵氐賮 丕賱卮禺氐 丕賱丨爻賾丕爻 亘兀賳賴 囟毓賷賮 賵禺噩賵賱 賵賲賳胤賵 賵賷毓丕賳賷 賲賳 丕賱賰亘鬲 , 賵賱賰賳 丕賱兀賲乇 賮賷 丕賱丨賯賷賯丞 兀賳賴 賷鬲賲鬲賾毓 亘卮賰賱 禺丕氐 賲賳 丕賱賯賵丞 , 賴賷 丕賱鬲賷 鬲禺賱賯 賱丿賷賴 賴丿賵亍丕賸 賵爻賰賵賳丕賸 賮賷 丕賱鬲毓丕胤賷 賲毓 丕賱兀丨丿丕孬 丕賱禺丕乇噩賷丞, 賵丨丿爻丕賸 賳丕賮匕丕賸 賱丕 賷禺賷亘 廿賱丕 賳丕丿乇丕賸 , 賵賯丿乇丞 毓賱賶 廿賱賴丕賲 丕賱噩賲賷毓 賵鬲爻賰賷賳 禺賵丕胤乇賴賲 ..
鬲賯爻賾賲 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 賮氐賵賱 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丨賵賱 爻賲丕鬲 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 丕賱兀爻丕爻賷丞 賵賰賷賮 鬲毓乇賮 兀賳賰 卮禺氐 丨爻丕爻 兀賲 賱丕 , 孬賲 賲丕 賷丨鬲賲賱 兀賳 鬲賰賵賳 賲乇乇鬲 亘賴 賰卮禺氐 丨爻丕爻 賲匕 賰賳鬲 乇囟賷毓丕賸 賵丨鬲賶 丕賱賱丨馗丞 , 賵爻賵丕亍 賲乇乇鬲 亘胤賮賵賱丞 賲爻鬲賯乇賾丞 兀賵 賲囟胤乇亘丞 , 爻鬲噩丿 賮賷 賳賴丕賷丞 賰賱 賮氐賱 鬲賲丕乇賷賳 賳賮爻賷丞 鬲爻丕毓丿賰 毓賱賶 丕賱鬲毓乇賮 廿賱賶 賳賮爻賰 賵丕賱爻賲丕丨 賱毓賯賱賰 丕賱亘丕胤賳 亘丕賱廿賮氐丕丨 毓賳 賳賮爻賴 賯賱賷賱丕賸 ..
賱丕 乇賷亘 兀賳賳賷 丕賰鬲卮賮鬲 兀賳 賲賷賱賷 賱亘毓囟 丕賱賰鬲賾丕亘 賵丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 賰丕賳 亘爻亘亘 兀賳賴賲 賷卮丕乇賰賵賳賳賷 氐賮丞 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 賲賳 丿賵賳 兀賳 兀毓乇賮 , 乇賷賱賰賴 ,賮賷賰鬲賵乇 賮乇丕賳賰賱 , 賰丕乇賱 賷賵賳睾 - 丕賱匕賷 鬲鬲兀孬乇 亘賴 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 賰孬賷乇丕賸 - , 賵賴丐賱丕亍 噩賲賷毓丕賸 丕爻鬲卮賴丿鬲 亘賴賲 賴賷 賮賷 賲賵丕囟毓 賲賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 , 賵賵氐賮鬲賴賲 亘兀賳賴賲 匕賵賵 丨爻丕爻賷丞 賲賮乇胤丞 , 賵賷賲賰賳賳賷 兀賳 兀囟賷賮 卮賵亘丕賳 , 丕賱賯氐亘噩賷 , 亘賴丕亍 丕賱丿賷賳 夭賴賷乇 , 丿賵爻鬲賵賷賮爻賰賷 , 賮丕賳 睾賵禺 , 賰丕賮賰丕 , 賵睾賷乇賴賲 , 廿賱賶 鬲賱賰 丕賱賯丕卅賲丞 , 賯丕卅賲丞 丕賱賲爻鬲卮丕乇賷賳 丕賱賲賱賰賷賷賳 賲賮乇胤賷 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 , 賵丕賱匕賷賳 兀賲賷賱 賱賴賲 卮禺氐賷丕賸 ..
賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賱丕丨馗丕鬲 匕賰賷賾丞 毓丿賷丿丞 丨賵賱 丕賱賮乇賯 亘賷賳 丕賱賰賲丕賱 賵丕賱賲孬丕賱賷丞 , 賵賰賷賮賷賾丞 鬲毓丕賲賱 丕賱卮禺氐 賲賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 賲毓 賳賮爻賴 丨賷賳賲丕 賷卮毓乇 亘囟睾胤 賰亘賷乇 毓賱賶 噩賴丕夭賴 丕賱毓氐亘賷賾 , 兀賵 賰賷賮 賷賳亘睾賷 賱賱丌禺乇賷賳 兀賳 賷鬲毓丕賲賱賵丕 賲毓賴 , 賱丕 亘賵氐賮賴 丨丕賱丞 禺丕氐丞 鬲爻鬲丿毓賷 丕賱卮賮賯丞 賵丕賱賲爻丕毓丿丞 , 賵賱賰賳 亘賵氐賮賴 氐丕丨亘 爻賲丞 賳賮爻賷賾丞 賲賲賷夭丞 賱丕 鬲丨馗賶 亘丕賱賰孬賷乇 賲賳 丕賱丕丨鬲乇丕賲 , 兀賵 亘賳馗乇丞 廿賷噩丕亘賷丞 毓賱賶 賳胤丕賯 賵丕爻毓 賮賷 丕賱賲噩鬲賲毓 ..
賰鬲丕亘 賲賴賲 賵賲賮賷丿 囟賲賳 賰鬲亘 丕賱賵毓賷 丕賱匕丕鬲賷 , 賵賰丕鬲亘鬲賴 胤亘賷亘丞 賳賮爻賷丞 賵賱匕丕 鬲鬲丨丿賾孬 賮賷 亘毓囟 丕賱賮氐賵賱 毓賳 丕賱毓賱丕噩丕鬲 丕賱丿賵丕卅賷丞 賱賱賯賱賯 丕賱賲賮乇胤 兀賵 丕賱丕賰鬲卅丕亘 丕賱匕賷 賯丿 賷鬲毓乇賾囟 賱賴 賲毓馗賲 兀氐丨丕亘 丕賱卮禺氐賷丞 丕賱丨爻丕爻丞 .
賷賯乇兀 賲乇丕乇丕賸 .
賵噩丿鬲 賲毓馗賲 丕賱賲乇丕噩毓丕鬲 賴賳丕 鬲丿賵乇 丨賵賱 賮賰乇丞 兀賳 丕賱賯丕乇卅 賱賳 賷噩丿 賳賮爻賴 賵丨賷丿丕賸 亘毓丿 丕賱賷賵賲 , 賮賲丕 賷賲乇賾 亘賴 賷賲乇賾 亘賴 賰孬賷乇賵賳 , 賵丕賱賵丕賯毓 兀賳 賴匕賴 賱賲 鬲賰賳 賲卮賰賱鬲賷 , 賱賲 兀卮毓乇 賷賵賲丕賸 亘丕賱禺噩賱 賲賳 氐賮丞 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷丞 丕賱鬲賷 兀賲鬲賱賰賴丕 , 亘賱 兀卮毓乇 兀賳 丕賱氐賮丕鬲 兀毓賱丕賴 賴賷 賲丕 賷賳亘睾賷 兀賳 賷賰賵賳 毓賱賷賴 丕賱賲乇亍 亘丕賱胤亘賷毓丞, 乇睾賲 兀賳賳賷 爻賲毓鬲 賵兀爻賲毓 毓賱賶 丕賱丿賵丕賲 賳氐丕卅丨 亘丕賱鬲禺賮賷賮 賲賳賴丕 賱兀噩賱 兀賱丕 兀鬲毓亘 , 賱賰賳 賰賳鬲 賵賲賳 賯亘賱 兀賳 兀賯乇兀 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 兀毓丿賾 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 賲賷夭丞 賱丿賷 賵賱丕 兀乇睾亘 亘丕賱鬲禺賱賾氐 賲賳賴丕 , 賱賰賳 賰丕賳 賱丿賷 丕乇鬲亘丕賰 賮賷 亘爻胤賴丕 賮賷 丕賱毓丕賱賲 丕賱禺丕乇噩賷賾 丕賱賲賯賱賯 亘丕賱賳爻亘丞 廿賱賷賾 , 爻丕毓丿賳賷 賴匕丕 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 毓賱賶 鬲禺胤賾賷賴 ..
賮賷 毓丕賱賲 賷賯丿賾乇 丕賱賲丕丿賾丞 賵"丕賱禺丕乇噩" 兀賰孬乇 賲賳 丕賱丿丕禺賱 , 賵賱丕 賷毓鬲乇賮 廿賱丕 亘卮賰賱 賵丕丨丿 賲賳 兀卮賰丕賱 丕賱賯賵賾丞, 爻賷爻賴賱 毓賱賶 丕賱噩賲賷毓 賵氐賮 丕賱卮禺氐 丕賱丨爻賾丕爻 亘兀賳賴 囟毓賷賮 賵禺噩賵賱 賵賲賳胤賵 賵賷毓丕賳賷 賲賳 丕賱賰亘鬲 , 賵賱賰賳 丕賱兀賲乇 賮賷 丕賱丨賯賷賯丞 兀賳賴 賷鬲賲鬲賾毓 亘卮賰賱 禺丕氐 賲賳 丕賱賯賵丞 , 賴賷 丕賱鬲賷 鬲禺賱賯 賱丿賷賴 賴丿賵亍丕賸 賵爻賰賵賳丕賸 賮賷 丕賱鬲毓丕胤賷 賲毓 丕賱兀丨丿丕孬 丕賱禺丕乇噩賷丞, 賵丨丿爻丕賸 賳丕賮匕丕賸 賱丕 賷禺賷亘 廿賱丕 賳丕丿乇丕賸 , 賵賯丿乇丞 毓賱賶 廿賱賴丕賲 丕賱噩賲賷毓 賵鬲爻賰賷賳 禺賵丕胤乇賴賲 ..
鬲賯爻賾賲 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 賮氐賵賱 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 丨賵賱 爻賲丕鬲 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 丕賱兀爻丕爻賷丞 賵賰賷賮 鬲毓乇賮 兀賳賰 卮禺氐 丨爻丕爻 兀賲 賱丕 , 孬賲 賲丕 賷丨鬲賲賱 兀賳 鬲賰賵賳 賲乇乇鬲 亘賴 賰卮禺氐 丨爻丕爻 賲匕 賰賳鬲 乇囟賷毓丕賸 賵丨鬲賶 丕賱賱丨馗丞 , 賵爻賵丕亍 賲乇乇鬲 亘胤賮賵賱丞 賲爻鬲賯乇賾丞 兀賵 賲囟胤乇亘丞 , 爻鬲噩丿 賮賷 賳賴丕賷丞 賰賱 賮氐賱 鬲賲丕乇賷賳 賳賮爻賷丞 鬲爻丕毓丿賰 毓賱賶 丕賱鬲毓乇賮 廿賱賶 賳賮爻賰 賵丕賱爻賲丕丨 賱毓賯賱賰 丕賱亘丕胤賳 亘丕賱廿賮氐丕丨 毓賳 賳賮爻賴 賯賱賷賱丕賸 ..
賱丕 乇賷亘 兀賳賳賷 丕賰鬲卮賮鬲 兀賳 賲賷賱賷 賱亘毓囟 丕賱賰鬲賾丕亘 賵丕賱兀卮禺丕氐 賰丕賳 亘爻亘亘 兀賳賴賲 賷卮丕乇賰賵賳賳賷 氐賮丞 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 賲賳 丿賵賳 兀賳 兀毓乇賮 , 乇賷賱賰賴 ,賮賷賰鬲賵乇 賮乇丕賳賰賱 , 賰丕乇賱 賷賵賳睾 - 丕賱匕賷 鬲鬲兀孬乇 亘賴 丕賱賰丕鬲亘丞 賰孬賷乇丕賸 - , 賵賴丐賱丕亍 噩賲賷毓丕賸 丕爻鬲卮賴丿鬲 亘賴賲 賴賷 賮賷 賲賵丕囟毓 賲賳 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 , 賵賵氐賮鬲賴賲 亘兀賳賴賲 匕賵賵 丨爻丕爻賷丞 賲賮乇胤丞 , 賵賷賲賰賳賳賷 兀賳 兀囟賷賮 卮賵亘丕賳 , 丕賱賯氐亘噩賷 , 亘賴丕亍 丕賱丿賷賳 夭賴賷乇 , 丿賵爻鬲賵賷賮爻賰賷 , 賮丕賳 睾賵禺 , 賰丕賮賰丕 , 賵睾賷乇賴賲 , 廿賱賶 鬲賱賰 丕賱賯丕卅賲丞 , 賯丕卅賲丞 丕賱賲爻鬲卮丕乇賷賳 丕賱賲賱賰賷賷賳 賲賮乇胤賷 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 , 賵丕賱匕賷賳 兀賲賷賱 賱賴賲 卮禺氐賷丕賸 ..
賮賷 丕賱賰鬲丕亘 賲賱丕丨馗丕鬲 匕賰賷賾丞 毓丿賷丿丞 丨賵賱 丕賱賮乇賯 亘賷賳 丕賱賰賲丕賱 賵丕賱賲孬丕賱賷丞 , 賵賰賷賮賷賾丞 鬲毓丕賲賱 丕賱卮禺氐 賲賮乇胤 丕賱丨爻丕爻賷賾丞 賲毓 賳賮爻賴 丨賷賳賲丕 賷卮毓乇 亘囟睾胤 賰亘賷乇 毓賱賶 噩賴丕夭賴 丕賱毓氐亘賷賾 , 兀賵 賰賷賮 賷賳亘睾賷 賱賱丌禺乇賷賳 兀賳 賷鬲毓丕賲賱賵丕 賲毓賴 , 賱丕 亘賵氐賮賴 丨丕賱丞 禺丕氐丞 鬲爻鬲丿毓賷 丕賱卮賮賯丞 賵丕賱賲爻丕毓丿丞 , 賵賱賰賳 亘賵氐賮賴 氐丕丨亘 爻賲丞 賳賮爻賷賾丞 賲賲賷夭丞 賱丕 鬲丨馗賶 亘丕賱賰孬賷乇 賲賳 丕賱丕丨鬲乇丕賲 , 兀賵 亘賳馗乇丞 廿賷噩丕亘賷丞 毓賱賶 賳胤丕賯 賵丕爻毓 賮賷 丕賱賲噩鬲賲毓 ..
賰鬲丕亘 賲賴賲 賵賲賮賷丿 囟賲賳 賰鬲亘 丕賱賵毓賷 丕賱匕丕鬲賷 , 賵賰丕鬲亘鬲賴 胤亘賷亘丞 賳賮爻賷丞 賵賱匕丕 鬲鬲丨丿賾孬 賮賷 亘毓囟 丕賱賮氐賵賱 毓賳 丕賱毓賱丕噩丕鬲 丕賱丿賵丕卅賷丞 賱賱賯賱賯 丕賱賲賮乇胤 兀賵 丕賱丕賰鬲卅丕亘 丕賱匕賷 賯丿 賷鬲毓乇賾囟 賱賴 賲毓馗賲 兀氐丨丕亘 丕賱卮禺氐賷丞 丕賱丨爻丕爻丞 .
賷賯乇兀 賲乇丕乇丕賸 .
July 10, 2010
3 stars because I found reading this book to be tremendously validating and meaningful, but at the same time I had a lot of criticisms of it. This book describes that percentage of the population whose systems are easily (over)stimulated by sensory information. Wow, do I wish someone had given me this book to read, like, 10 years ago.
The criticisms:
- Wanted more specific techniques and suggestions.
- She's really into how Highly Sensitive People are super important to society and we should all feel so good about how valuable and meaningful our sensitivity is and how much we have to contribute to the world. I found this irritating.
- Not enough material about how to be a parent who's highly sensitive, just one paragraph. I felt like the book really begged the question, as it used the metaphor of taking care of your body's needs as if your body were a baby. So... what about when my ACTUAL baby has needs at the same time?
- She doesn't talk about how to differentiate innate sensitivity from similar symptoms that can develop from trauma. As a therapist, I am curious about this.
- I questioned a lot of her claims (some based on research, some not) about biological traits vs. acquired traits. For example, she goes on at length about how shyness is an acquired trait, unlike sensitivity which is inborn. This didn't make sense to me. Why can't shyness be inborn too?
- She's really into Jung and Jungian analysis. I'm not.
The criticisms:
- Wanted more specific techniques and suggestions.
- She's really into how Highly Sensitive People are super important to society and we should all feel so good about how valuable and meaningful our sensitivity is and how much we have to contribute to the world. I found this irritating.
- Not enough material about how to be a parent who's highly sensitive, just one paragraph. I felt like the book really begged the question, as it used the metaphor of taking care of your body's needs as if your body were a baby. So... what about when my ACTUAL baby has needs at the same time?
- She doesn't talk about how to differentiate innate sensitivity from similar symptoms that can develop from trauma. As a therapist, I am curious about this.
- I questioned a lot of her claims (some based on research, some not) about biological traits vs. acquired traits. For example, she goes on at length about how shyness is an acquired trait, unlike sensitivity which is inborn. This didn't make sense to me. Why can't shyness be inborn too?
- She's really into Jung and Jungian analysis. I'm not.
February 12, 2011
With a box full of books to read and only so much spare time, I've implemented a new rule of thumb; generally, if the book doesn't hook me by the first few chapters, I stop reading it and try the next one. I am a fast reader, so I don't feel I am asking too much of a book to keep me interested for twenty minutes.
This title kept me engaged for about one third of the book. After that I started skimming, and when I had to force myself to keep going I said "Hey, what's up with that, I might as well be reading something fun."
I appreciate that this book confirmed what I've already known for years: I am different. Sometimes very different. There is a 23-question "sensitivity test" on pages xxi-xxii; I answered 22 of them positively (in other words, "Yes, this bothers me").
However, after the first three or four chapters, I felt that the book was repeating itself, saying the same things but merely changing the settings. "HSPs are sensitive as children. HSPs are sensitive as adolescents. HSPs are especially affected by puberty. HSPs are especially affected by trauma. HSPs are especially affected by relationships."
Okay, I get it; we're affected more than most. I have enough imagination that I don't need things spelled out for every aspect of life.
Being a conservative Christian, I don't find the definite New Age slant of the book especially edifying, especially since it is not overtly acknowledged.
It has some interesting ideas, but as a fairly well-adapted sensitive person I don't find that I need the extensive advice and "make sure you feel good about yourself" handpatting.
My summary: not bad, but not riveting either.
This title kept me engaged for about one third of the book. After that I started skimming, and when I had to force myself to keep going I said "Hey, what's up with that, I might as well be reading something fun."
I appreciate that this book confirmed what I've already known for years: I am different. Sometimes very different. There is a 23-question "sensitivity test" on pages xxi-xxii; I answered 22 of them positively (in other words, "Yes, this bothers me").
However, after the first three or four chapters, I felt that the book was repeating itself, saying the same things but merely changing the settings. "HSPs are sensitive as children. HSPs are sensitive as adolescents. HSPs are especially affected by puberty. HSPs are especially affected by trauma. HSPs are especially affected by relationships."
Okay, I get it; we're affected more than most. I have enough imagination that I don't need things spelled out for every aspect of life.
Being a conservative Christian, I don't find the definite New Age slant of the book especially edifying, especially since it is not overtly acknowledged.
It has some interesting ideas, but as a fairly well-adapted sensitive person I don't find that I need the extensive advice and "make sure you feel good about yourself" handpatting.
My summary: not bad, but not riveting either.
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April 8, 2020this book had a lot of helpful info in it. i felt like i was finally understanding my own perpetual feeling of overwhelm. and then at the end 鈥� SUDDENLY (not kidding) there was one absolutely random chapter written from a factual perspective in which a woman claims she was benevolently observed by an alien as she slept????? what in the world!!! what. in. the. world. how is this not in every single review??????????
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