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فن احتواء الذات: دليلك العملي لفهم نفسك والاستماع إلى أصواتك الداخلية
كثيرًا ما نتجاهل صوتنا الداخلي، لا نبحث وراء فهم الإشارات التي تمنحنا إياها ذواتنا. القليل منا يُدرك أن بداخلنا العديد من الأصوات التي تُمثل طاقات مختلفة موجودة داخلنا؛ صوت الطفل الداخلي، صوت الناقد، صوت القوة، صوت الغضب، صوت الخوف، صوت الحكمة، وغيرها من أصوات تُمثّل جوانب مختلفة لدينا، جوانب بعضها هشّ منبوذ وبعضها مسيطر، وقلة من ينتبه لتعدّد تلك الأصوات، ويُدرك أهمية فهم تناقضاتها.
هذا الكتاب يُخبرنا الكثير عن ماهية الأصوات التي تتصارع وتتناحر دومًا دون توقف، وكُلها نابعة من دواخلنا. لا يسعى لتحديدها وحسب، بل يسعى نحو تعليم الإنسان كيف يسمع نفسه، ويُدرك أصواته، ويقبلها.
هذا الكتاب يُخبرنا الكثير عن ماهية الأصوات التي تتصارع وتتناحر دومًا دون توقف، وكُلها نابعة من دواخلنا. لا يسعى لتحديدها وحسب، بل يسعى نحو تعليم الإنسان كيف يسمع نفسه، ويُدرك أصواته، ويقبلها.
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First published January 1, 1989
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October 29, 2015
This book offers an entire world of taboo personalities that people wish to disown about themselves based on who we think we are. The imagination of "the self." The basis of this book is that we are all, the things we love about ourselves and the things we dislike. Yet, one in the same, we are all of them. This book is a way to find spiritual balance in life and gives you a greater (if not the greatest) defined definition of going with the flow and letting go and bringing in parts of yourself you may be fearful to let out. Yet, like a caged animal for so long, when let out without awareness, becomes wild. This book brings in an awareness that these parts of ourselves we disown still need to be loved and honored so we can let them out in a balanced way. If you're interested in energy and expanding your consciousness, this book is remarkable and fascinating to read and explore.
October 4, 2023
هذا الكتاب تذكِرة لكل شخص يحاول قمع صوته الداخلي وإخفائه.
لكل من يعاني بسبب عدم قدرته على إظهار الجانب الخفي منه.
هذا الكتاب لك.
يخبرنا الكتاب عن الأصوات التي تتصارع داخلنا، لا يخبرك كيف تتخلص منها كما يسعى الكثير، بل يعلمك كيف تتعامل معها وترودها بل وتقبلها لأنها جزء لا يتجزء منك، بل قد تكون الجزء الأهم!
الكتاب جيد، ليس بالأفضل لكنه كما قلت (تذكِرة) بأن نرحم ذواتنا ونتعامل معها بلطف ولين ونستغل كل ما هو فينا لمصلحتنا وليس العكس.
تم
٢٣ سبتمبر ٢٠٢٣
لكل من يعاني بسبب عدم قدرته على إظهار الجانب الخفي منه.
هذا الكتاب لك.
يخبرنا الكتاب عن الأصوات التي تتصارع داخلنا، لا يخبرك كيف تتخلص منها كما يسعى الكثير، بل يعلمك كيف تتعامل معها وترودها بل وتقبلها لأنها جزء لا يتجزء منك، بل قد تكون الجزء الأهم!
الكتاب جيد، ليس بالأفضل لكنه كما قلت (تذكِرة) بأن نرحم ذواتنا ونتعامل معها بلطف ولين ونستغل كل ما هو فينا لمصلحتنا وليس العكس.
تم
٢٣ سبتمبر ٢٠٢٣
August 10, 2011
The self is a not a homogeneous being, but a collection of different sub-personalities who sometimes complement or contradict each other. The idea is to be aware.
March 3, 2014
This is a very accessible book that is useful for people interested in learning about defining aspects of their self. It lends itself well to Voice Dialoguing techniques.
It is quite inspirational in parts with excerpts from therapy sessions and examples. There is a particular emphasis on not only the ‘critic�, but also the ‘pusher�. The book also looks at disowned parts of self that may be shown in an ‘animal energy�. The disowned self may also be an ‘inner-child�. The book shows variants of the ‘inner-child�, such as the ‘magical child�.
I find the exploration of ‘inner-child� interesting, but it only just skims the surface of what to do when this aspect of self emerges. The ‘inner child� is about knowing how to ‘be�, says Stone on p150, where as, ‘The rest of our personality knows how to “do� and how to “act”�. People can argue the validity of this statement. Everyone’s experience of this aspect of self is different. But it is a valid enough assumption.
Do read this book. Definitely worth while. You may even find yourself recognising aspects of yourself as you go through it. Sometimes worth having a dialogue on paper with them, if you’re into that.
It is quite inspirational in parts with excerpts from therapy sessions and examples. There is a particular emphasis on not only the ‘critic�, but also the ‘pusher�. The book also looks at disowned parts of self that may be shown in an ‘animal energy�. The disowned self may also be an ‘inner-child�. The book shows variants of the ‘inner-child�, such as the ‘magical child�.
I find the exploration of ‘inner-child� interesting, but it only just skims the surface of what to do when this aspect of self emerges. The ‘inner child� is about knowing how to ‘be�, says Stone on p150, where as, ‘The rest of our personality knows how to “do� and how to “act”�. People can argue the validity of this statement. Everyone’s experience of this aspect of self is different. But it is a valid enough assumption.
Do read this book. Definitely worth while. You may even find yourself recognising aspects of yourself as you go through it. Sometimes worth having a dialogue on paper with them, if you’re into that.
November 1, 2022
Persoonlijk vind ik het prettig om af en toe iets buiten mijn gebaande paden wat betreft genres zoals Fantasy, YA en thrillers te lezen. Zo kreeg ik deze keer dankzij uitgeverij AnkhHermes de mogelijkheid om de nieuwe uitgave van ‘Thuiskomen in jezelf� te lezen, geschreven door Hal & Sidra Stone. Een boek wat onder psychologie en persoonlijke ontwikkeling valt of hoe de genre typering tegenwoordig dan ook mag heten.
Als ik eerlijk ben over mijn verwachting voor het boek kwam dat neer op weinig nieuws of opzienbarends wat betreft informatie in verband met mijn eigen ervaringen jarenlang. De eerste keer dat de technieken en theorie die besproken worden in dit boek tijdens therapiesessies gebezigd werden ligt ver in het verleden en wordt heden ten dage nog altijd aangehaald. Door Hal & Sidra Stone was dat al in een uitgave van 1989 gepubliceerd. Dus heel gek is het niet dat ik als ervaringsdeskundige hieruit niet zozeer iets nieuws qua inzicht heb kunnen halen.
“Als je blij bent dat je helemaal niet op deze persoon lijkt, heb je je eerste verstoten ik ontdekt.�
Wel vind ik het belangrijk dat deze manier van communiceren en bewustwording van je innerlijke stemmen/subpersoonlijkheden bereikbaar blijft op therapeutisch vlak en tevens in hedendaagse begrijpbare taal toegankelijk blijft voor iedereen die interesse heeft in persoonlijke ontwikkeling. Ik mag dan persoonlijk niet zozeer compleet vernieuwende inspiratie hebben opgedaan tijdens het lezen toch maakte het me wederom bewuster en attenter op mijn eigen wat verstofte valkuilen of juist positieve kanten die ik al lange tijd weet, eerder ontdekt heb en ook nog eens dagelijks meeneem in het leven.
“Het doel van dit proces is dat je je ‘psychologische auto� leert bestuderen.�
De schrijfstijl leest in ieder geval goed, soepel zonder enorm vakjargon. Het bijzondere aan dit boek vind ik dan ook dat de inhoud al zolang van belang is in de therapeutische wereld en steeds meebeweegt met de opvolgende generaties. Daarnaast wordt er met de nodige humor geschreven en op die manier worden onderwerpen nog meer ondersteund en inzichtelijker gemaakt.
“Als de leeuw in ons wil brullen, maar het schaap gaat blaten, betalen we hier op de een of andere manier de prijs voor.�
Het boek is opgedeeld in drie delen en voorin vind je een duidelijke inhoudsopgave. Op die manier kan je altijd gemakkelijk bladeren naar dat deel wat voor jou van belang is op dat moment. Ik heb nu het boek volledig gelezen maar je kan het uiteraard als naslag werk gebruiken mocht dat voor jou van toepassing zijn.
“Het verlies van het Innerlijke Kind is een van de grootste tragedies van het proces van ‘opgroeien�. Als we het kwijtraken, raken we tegelijkertijd veel van het magische en het geheimzinnige van het leven kwijt, en ook van de intimiteit en het plezier is onze relatie.�
Ik ben content met mijn leestijd die ik besteed heb aan dit boek. Dat verrast je misschien door mijn eerdere kritische uitingen maar al zijn het kleine spelde prikjes waar ik wel mee vooruit kan is dat voor mij al genoeg. Soms is het nou eenmaal goed om herhaald te krijgen wat je al wist. Zal ik het boek aanraden? Ja zeker, als je wil lezen en leren over je eigen persoonlijke zijn in de toch al zo ingewikkelde wereld kan dit boek een goed handvat zijn.
Lieve leesgroet, Elsa.
Als ik eerlijk ben over mijn verwachting voor het boek kwam dat neer op weinig nieuws of opzienbarends wat betreft informatie in verband met mijn eigen ervaringen jarenlang. De eerste keer dat de technieken en theorie die besproken worden in dit boek tijdens therapiesessies gebezigd werden ligt ver in het verleden en wordt heden ten dage nog altijd aangehaald. Door Hal & Sidra Stone was dat al in een uitgave van 1989 gepubliceerd. Dus heel gek is het niet dat ik als ervaringsdeskundige hieruit niet zozeer iets nieuws qua inzicht heb kunnen halen.
“Als je blij bent dat je helemaal niet op deze persoon lijkt, heb je je eerste verstoten ik ontdekt.�
Wel vind ik het belangrijk dat deze manier van communiceren en bewustwording van je innerlijke stemmen/subpersoonlijkheden bereikbaar blijft op therapeutisch vlak en tevens in hedendaagse begrijpbare taal toegankelijk blijft voor iedereen die interesse heeft in persoonlijke ontwikkeling. Ik mag dan persoonlijk niet zozeer compleet vernieuwende inspiratie hebben opgedaan tijdens het lezen toch maakte het me wederom bewuster en attenter op mijn eigen wat verstofte valkuilen of juist positieve kanten die ik al lange tijd weet, eerder ontdekt heb en ook nog eens dagelijks meeneem in het leven.
“Het doel van dit proces is dat je je ‘psychologische auto� leert bestuderen.�
De schrijfstijl leest in ieder geval goed, soepel zonder enorm vakjargon. Het bijzondere aan dit boek vind ik dan ook dat de inhoud al zolang van belang is in de therapeutische wereld en steeds meebeweegt met de opvolgende generaties. Daarnaast wordt er met de nodige humor geschreven en op die manier worden onderwerpen nog meer ondersteund en inzichtelijker gemaakt.
“Als de leeuw in ons wil brullen, maar het schaap gaat blaten, betalen we hier op de een of andere manier de prijs voor.�
Het boek is opgedeeld in drie delen en voorin vind je een duidelijke inhoudsopgave. Op die manier kan je altijd gemakkelijk bladeren naar dat deel wat voor jou van belang is op dat moment. Ik heb nu het boek volledig gelezen maar je kan het uiteraard als naslag werk gebruiken mocht dat voor jou van toepassing zijn.
“Het verlies van het Innerlijke Kind is een van de grootste tragedies van het proces van ‘opgroeien�. Als we het kwijtraken, raken we tegelijkertijd veel van het magische en het geheimzinnige van het leven kwijt, en ook van de intimiteit en het plezier is onze relatie.�
Ik ben content met mijn leestijd die ik besteed heb aan dit boek. Dat verrast je misschien door mijn eerdere kritische uitingen maar al zijn het kleine spelde prikjes waar ik wel mee vooruit kan is dat voor mij al genoeg. Soms is het nou eenmaal goed om herhaald te krijgen wat je al wist. Zal ik het boek aanraden? Ja zeker, als je wil lezen en leren over je eigen persoonlijke zijn in de toch al zo ingewikkelde wereld kan dit boek een goed handvat zijn.
Lieve leesgroet, Elsa.
May 30, 2023
نجمة وحدة لأنه طلع بعيد كليًا عما توقعت. لن أحكم على صحة النظريات وطرق العلاج المذكورة لأنه فكرته الأساسية ليست خطأ بالكامل، لكن يبدو أن الكتاب مكتوب لممارسين صحيين أو معالجين وليس لأفراد يحاولون يساعدون نفسهم. شعرت أنه الكتاب سطحي وغير عملي بل عبارة عن علم غير مجرب، ويذكر أمثلة أو قصص مشكوك بدقتها، غالبًا غير حقيقية أصلًا هذا مفروغ منه، لكنها غير واقعية حتى، بالإضافة لكون بعض أبطال هذه القصص التخيلية مجموعة من التنميطات العنصرية "يقود رجل شرق أوسطي...بينما تجلس زوجته مستسلمة تماماً في المقعد الخلفي..".
النجمة الثانية لجزء تمكين المرأة (أو ثورة علم نفس النساء) وتطور دورها الاجتماعي عند الاعتراف بجزئها "المتنافس" و "المحارب". نظرية مثيرة للتفكير.
النجمة الثانية لجزء تمكين المرأة (أو ثورة علم نفس النساء) وتطور دورها الاجتماعي عند الاعتراف بجزئها "المتنافس" و "المحارب". نظرية مثيرة للتفكير.
February 8, 2016
I was hooked on this book from the get go. It was recommended as further reading in my Somato Emotional Release training manual and I would highly recommend for Upledger Craniosacral therapists to read it as it seems to have been a huge influence on the therapeutic imagery and dialogue work in this modality. Indeed I wish I'd read it prior to my training. It is engaging, well written and really makes sense psychologically, while avoiding any heavy theoretical baggage. Basically the authors, two long time psychiatrists with oodles of experience cane up with a powerful therapy tool that they teach to lay people in lots of different modalities. They don't shy away from the spiritual dimensions of life and therapy either which is refreshing.
January 3, 2012
This is an amazing and enlightening book about a fairly new communication and self-interpretation technique. It is one of those books that rings very true as to the way we tend to dis-integrate over time as a result of traumas in our lives, and how we might approach reintegration of those selves into a personality system that functions in a healthier way. I'm looking forward to incorporating what i've learned from the book into my own therapy (My therapist is a practitioner of the Voice Dialogue technique, and introduced me to it) as well as using it in my interactions with others.
I highly recommend the book to self-improvement geeks like myself, or others with an interest in therapeutic techniques, the makeup of personality and the psyche, interpersonal dynamics, etc. I think it will provide a unique and valuable perspective for future application, investigation, and dialogue.
I highly recommend the book to self-improvement geeks like myself, or others with an interest in therapeutic techniques, the makeup of personality and the psyche, interpersonal dynamics, etc. I think it will provide a unique and valuable perspective for future application, investigation, and dialogue.
March 1, 2014
After being introduced to Voice Dialogue in a workshop, I wanted to know more.
Alas, this book wasn't quite right for me. The edition I read was from the mid-eighties and made the technique almost seem outdated with all the Jungian dreamwork examples it offered. I'm still intrigued by Voice Dialogue, but if I hadn't experienced it myself this book just might have put me off.
Alas, this book wasn't quite right for me. The edition I read was from the mid-eighties and made the technique almost seem outdated with all the Jungian dreamwork examples it offered. I'm still intrigued by Voice Dialogue, but if I hadn't experienced it myself this book just might have put me off.
February 10, 2009
Generally I'm a Voice Dialogue fan -- all the subpersonalities it has us explore can sometimes consume more time than more typical Gestalt chair work but hey, if it's your preference to go really deep this is a style of therapy for you. :)
August 11, 2023
الترجمة من أسوء ما يكون
November 19, 2024
Embracing Our Selves is an introduction to a powerful gestalt-like technique called Voice Dialogue which, upon learning, undoubtedly blazed a trail for many of the 3rd wave, psychospiritual models that are popular today (such as IFS). I do not believe they are celebrated or given credit for their courageous pioneering into the depths of the kaleidoscopic nature of the psyche. This book creates a fresh - though a bit outdated now - method for negotiating with our sub-personalities and, in turn, catalyzing the evolution of our consciousness.
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December 7, 2024هو مجهود يحترم وكل حاجة، بس احتواء الذات دا غريب جدًّا، وايه كمية الأصوات الداخلية دي، تو ماتش أصوات داخلية على فرهود صغنون زيي، أنا هكتئب أسهل يا عم 🫣
January 6, 2024
Voice Dialogue, a concept by psychologists Hal and Sidra Stone, is one of the many offspring of Carl Gustav Jung’s Personality Psychology. I’ve skimmed through this edition, to get a feel of the concept. Originally published in 1989, this version seems outdated and the examples feel like clichés. Also, the many interviews come across as implausible concoctions, roleplay or schizophrenia. I missed a description or explanation on how the clients get to a state where different voices come up. How does that work? Not to mention the many breakthroughs clients seem to realise through dreams. So I’ll probably read a more recent work on this topic, to see what’s useful in the current day and age.
March 31, 2009
This book is aimed towards psychology professionals. However, if you are looking for some good self-exploration, this book is intriguing. It takes a little while to get the flow of it. I found myself thinking, "Is the clinician trying to coax out multiple personality disorder?" What it is really about is giving your various traits a voice and imagining what they would say to you. Definitely thought-provoking.
August 10, 2013
There are a lot of really interesting and relatable ideas in this book. It gave insight into a lot of things going on in my head and also into a lot of my current and past relationships with friends, family, exes. The writing is not very good and I had a really hard time getting through the first third of it. The second and third parts were considerably more enjoyable for me. Although only giving it three stars I recommend it - just be open minded and take some/leave some as u see fit.
October 9, 2014
Eye opening and comforting. Reminds us that the answers to some of life's biggest questions can only be found from within.
As mentioned in the book, there are deities and villains within us that must be honored and respected, just like the gods of ancient Greece, in order for us to live with ourselves, with other people, and the lessons in life.
As mentioned in the book, there are deities and villains within us that must be honored and respected, just like the gods of ancient Greece, in order for us to live with ourselves, with other people, and the lessons in life.
April 27, 2021
Desperately needs updating. References persecutors as "demonic selves", weirdly racial comments about "Mexicans, Middle Eastern Men", and otherwise insightful section on women's liberation is stuck in the 70s.
A nice perspective on earlier theories of parts psychology / inner aspects/ inner voices, but must be read along with newer material.
A nice perspective on earlier theories of parts psychology / inner aspects/ inner voices, but must be read along with newer material.
August 28, 2023
حسيت الفكرة خرجت عن السياق الأساسي ليها ومكنش ده توقعى نهائى عن الكتاب اللى كان بيأمل انه يساعد أفراد عاديين مش مختصين يبدأ بطرح الفكرة قبل ما يتعمق يمكن اكتر جزء حبيته كان زئير الصحوة اللى في البداية بس على الرغم من ده استفدت جدًا
الكتابه كانت مش سلسة محتاجة وقت وذهن حاضر
جزء تمكين المرأة عجبنى جدًا
الكتابه كانت مش سلسة محتاجة وقت وذهن حاضر
جزء تمكين المرأة عجبنى جدًا
June 25, 2023
لم تكن الترجمة موفقة وأسلوب الكاتبين غير سلس جعل إيصال الفكرة أكثر تعقيد
November 11, 2023
كتاب رائع وطريقة العرض وسرد الأمثلة متميزة جدا
Shelved as 'partly-read'
June 25, 2019I didn’t get very far in this book, until I was actually bored. And slightly confused about all these part selves, but also the theoretical and practical implications of the books (even though that was what they were trying to explain).
I had hoped for the opposite. And if the book isn’t comprehensive to me at the outset, when it’s trying to explain and lay out its theoretical groundwork, and if I’m already bored at this point: it probably won’t get a whole lot better.
So moving on to the many other books that holds promise of being practical tools and to broaden the scope of my understanding.
I had hoped for the opposite. And if the book isn’t comprehensive to me at the outset, when it’s trying to explain and lay out its theoretical groundwork, and if I’m already bored at this point: it probably won’t get a whole lot better.
So moving on to the many other books that holds promise of being practical tools and to broaden the scope of my understanding.
September 13, 2020
From soul-searchers to goal seekers to career-minded creatives interested in accessible wellness—and those who delight in discovering conscious and subconscious components of our personality that make up our everyday reality—this is an incredibly liberating must-read. As many, if not most have discovered life can be incredibly messy but before you hide traits from yourself that have historically gotten you judged or punished, why not deeply and profoundly embrace what has contributed to the multitude of alter egos that make you who you are? Embracing Our Selves is a unique opportunity to meet the good, the bad, and the ugly and be the better for it.
January 12, 2020
I think this book is probably great for therapists. As a therapee (?) it was educational and helpful, but drier than a burned biscotti. The example dialogues from the various selves all lacked any charisma or relatability, and it made for a tough slough. I excepted to read it in a day or so. It took almost two weeks, and not because I was busy with other things. I had to take some time off after the nightmares it gave me, so -- be warned I guess.
August 20, 2020
I loved this book. Published in the late 80s it is quite useful today. As a Co-Active coach I was referred to this book a few years ago by one of my certification supervisors. He suggested it to populate my fulfillment "crew". It is much more than that, awareness to the bone through a process that is not obvious to practice w/o proper training and you don't have to actually practice the process for you to obtain enormous value from reading it.
July 26, 2022
What I liked:
- The different selves that we have as part of us is real and beautifully explained and illustrated.
- Some mythology is used to illustrate concepts, but not enough
What I didn't like:
- This book is an advert for their Voice Dialogue method, which I mean, I understand, but personally not that interested in the nuances of that
- Too many dreams of other people explained in detail - boring
- Too new age for me; the wording used is ridiculous at times
- The different selves that we have as part of us is real and beautifully explained and illustrated.
- Some mythology is used to illustrate concepts, but not enough
What I didn't like:
- This book is an advert for their Voice Dialogue method, which I mean, I understand, but personally not that interested in the nuances of that
- Too many dreams of other people explained in detail - boring
- Too new age for me; the wording used is ridiculous at times
March 10, 2024
يمكن تلخيص الكتاب أن الإنسان بداخله أصوات مختلفة
مثل صوت الحامي أو المسيطر
صوت الطفل ( طفل لاعب و طفل هش)
صوت المتفوق
صوت النفس التنافسية
صوت النفس المتبلدة
كلما تم تجاهل وكبت صوت ما زاد التوتر وربما زاد الصوت ويخرج بدون وعي بأسوأ الأشكال
تكمن مشكلة أو صعوبة سماع هذه الأصوات وإعطائها مساحتها.. أنه قد تم تجاهلها من البداية لأنها تسببت بالألم لصاحبها..
لكن عند تعلم السماع لها بهدوء ربما يمكن الإستفادة منها أو التحكم بها بشكل أكثر وعيًا
مثل صوت الحامي أو المسيطر
صوت الطفل ( طفل لاعب و طفل هش)
صوت المتفوق
صوت النفس التنافسية
صوت النفس المتبلدة
كلما تم تجاهل وكبت صوت ما زاد التوتر وربما زاد الصوت ويخرج بدون وعي بأسوأ الأشكال
تكمن مشكلة أو صعوبة سماع هذه الأصوات وإعطائها مساحتها.. أنه قد تم تجاهلها من البداية لأنها تسببت بالألم لصاحبها..
لكن عند تعلم السماع لها بهدوء ربما يمكن الإستفادة منها أو التحكم بها بشكل أكثر وعيًا
August 16, 2024
I found the book a good read in the categories of self-improvement and psychology. As a practitioner in the Psychology field of humanities, I appreciate the wealth of knowledge in this book touching on topics such as Heaven and Earth, the manifestations we are in both realms. Emotions and spirituality are explored in this book with much fluidity and respect to the life force within us. Evolution of consciousness is attained with the teacher and student principles at play.
November 12, 2023
Fantastic walkthrough of the theory of our selves and how we can become aware of all aspects of our owned and disowned personalities. I found it very balanced and very well presented. I had learned about this theory from my therapist and it gave me a more in-depth view and methodology for how to work with my selves�
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