I love this book! I read it long time ago when I was in my early 20s. It's beautifully written and in my personal opinion, this book will be a good guidance for young women going through self doubt and looking for ways to find happiness rather than look inside themselves.
This is the one book that I refer to over and over again. My copy is dog-eared, highlighted throughout, and has tabs on my favorite pages. Why do I love this book so much? Well, it is by far the best "self-help" book out there! The author takes a serious subject, sadness and depression, and makes it light and enjoyable to read. The content is very basic and common sense, such as the law of attraction, the power of positive thinking, forgiveness, etc. Messages that I need to read over and over. The secret to the success of this book, is that the author is a cartoonist, so the pages are loaded with relevant and humorous cartoons. It's a quick, easy read that packs a powerful message. I highly recommend it!
"think positive thoughts and positive things will happen to you" there. Now you don't need to read the book. Go have fun in your life and don't waste it on this. Jfc this is so old and it smells. This book really didn't age well. It's such "American dream" weirdness and it's just so... Useless. Also this guy has literally no idea what depression is. Absolutely no freaking clue. Or anxiety! "Just don't be scared of irrational bs!" There, you're cured!
I like the overall idea and I agree that we as a society should focus more on positive things, but when it comes down to it I don't agree with many of his worldviews and I think that he contradicts himself throughout quite often.
But seriously, the depression part made me so angry and the blame he puts on people who are poor or about to commit suicide... Disgusting. "poor people are poor because they want to be poor and rich people are amazing and perfect and literal angels" "people who want to commit suicide simply don't enjoy life and no one can help him since it's literally their own decision". Yes, thank you. That sounds like a perfectly fine opinion. I also loved the parts where he dragged certain people for like a page and a half and then went "oh btw, I'm not saying that to be mean! I actually respect and accept these people!" riiiight
The only issues he ever used women as examples for btw was for their looks. Men had the issues with jobs and money, women were unable to stick to their diet...
Frase kata ini aku dapat setelah aku membaca satu buku berjudul "BEING HAPPY" by Andrew Matthews. Buku ini aku beli BUKAN berarti "HIDUPKU TIDAK BAHAGIA" (note,please :)) Tapi aku mencoba untuk belajar mengetahui hal-hal apa saja yang bisa membuat hidup kita tidak bahagia dan cara utk mengatasinya (in positive's way).
Salah satu bab dari buku itu yang aku suka adalah Bab 2: HIDUPLAH, SAAT INI!!
Yang anda miliki hanya SAAT INI. Ukuran ketenangan jiwa dan efektivitas pribadi kita ditentukan oleh HOW WE MANAGE OUR LIFE FOR NOW. Without getting stuck in the past or wondering what will happen tomorrow (coz it's GOD's plan NOT OUR plan), NOW is where you're standing! Seberapa besar kemampuan kita untuk mengatur hidup kita SAAT ini, tidak dengan menyesali atau hanya merenungi yang lalu dan mengira2 apa yang akan terjadi besok.
Kalo boleh jujur, apa saja yang kita renungkan atau ingat2 tentang masa lalu kita sebelumnya? Coba anda data seberapa banyak hal positif dan negatif yang masih tersimpan dengan baik di hard disc ingatan anda. Adakah dalam ingatan anda bahwa apa yg terjadi di masa lalu akan berubah dengan pemikiran "Seandainya saja waktu itu aku ....begini.... atau... begitu...Pasti aku akan... begini...!". Dan tahukah anda apa yang mendasari cara berpikir seperti itu?! Yup... Rasa Bersalah!! Rasa bersalah akan ketidakmampuan kita mengatasi sesuatu yg terjadi, rasa bersalah karena kita tdk mengambil jalan berlawanan dengan yang saat itu kita ambil, dsb.....
IF ONLY, satu judul film drama, juga bercerita tentang hal yang sama. Pada saat si pria diberi kesempatan untuk menikmati hidup dan membuat hidup lebih berarti bersama kekasihnya, dia melewatkan kesempatan itu dengan memprioritaskan hal lain bernama 'pekerjaan'. Sampai suatu saat kesabaran sang kekasih habis karena dia selalu di'nomer sekian" dari urutan prioritas si pria, dan saat si pria berusaha mengejar, sang kekasih meninggal dunia didepan matanya. Bagaimanapun pria berusaha minta maaf dan menyesalinya, hal itu tak tersampaikan karena dia sudah tiada. Bukankah penyesalan itu akan tertanam seumur hidupnya? Menurut anda kenapa pria tsb tidak berusaha memprioritaskan sang kekasih pada urutan atas sebelum-sebelumnya? Itu karena dia begitu percaya dan yakin dengan yang namanya waktu NANTI atau BESOK (Later I will .... or Tomorrow I will...). Bahwa dia yakin kalo NANTI dia bisa membagi waktunya lebih untuk sang kekasih dan berbahagia, atau bahwa BESOK dia akan bisa menepati janjinya kepada sang kekasih. Siapa yang bisa mengetahui apa yang terjadi nanti atau besok? ONLY GOD KNOWS!!
*KEBAHAGIAAN itu bisa tercapai BILA kita melibatkan diri sepenuhnya dengan SAAT INI. Kebahagiaan tidak hanya kita peroleh pada SAAT KITA SAMPAI PADA TUJUAN, tapi juga didalam PROSES MENCAPAI TUJUAN ITU.
Kadang kala, kita dengan sadar menunda melewatkan waktu bersama orang yang paling berarti dalam hidup kita yaitu pasangan dan anak. Pernahkah anda perhatikan sewaktu anda masih anak2 dan ingin bermain bersama sang ayah, namun yang anda terima adalah sebuah janji, "Mainnya nanti saja ya kalo ayah sudah pulang dari kerja". Atau saat anda menginginkan mainan (yang mungkin sebetulnya harganya juga tidak mahal) namun (lagi2) yang anda dapat juga janji, "Besok ayah belikan mainan yang lebih bagus kalo ayah dapat bonus". Dan kenyataannya? Keinginan2 anda saat itu sebagian tidak tercapai karena janji2 besok dan nanti. Anda pun menjadi orang yang sudah lebih dewasa dan akhirnya tidak menginginkan hal2 itu lagi, sehingga hilanglah kesempatan sang ayah untuk membahagiakan dirinya bersama anak2nya. Dan pada belakangannya, sang ayah menyesali waktu2 yang telah berlalu dengan hanya bisa menatap kepergian anak2nya yang telah dewasa dan juga telah memiliki keluarga sendiri. This is an important lesson for all parents!
Hidup di SAAT INI berarti kita mengembangkan kesadaran kita untuk membuat masa sekarang lebih nikmat dan bukan membuatnya menjadi hambar, baik untuk kita sendiri ataupun bersama orang2 penting dalam hidup kita.
Hidup di SAAT INI juga berarti kita mengenyahkan rasa takut dan cemas akan hal2 yg akan terjadi di masa mendatang dari pikiran kita. Karena saat ini anda BENAR BENAR BERTINDAK DAN MELAKUKAN SESUATU!
The author has a nearly childish way to explain his concepts but this is a book I rather liked. He explains the importance of self-image for us to understand the perspective that we embrace and even our view of others but also our careers and the types of lives we live. The author goes on to explain the concept of affirmation on how we see ourselves and others. And the role it has on making it difficult for us to expand our own view - it amounts to a fear of being conceited. This is also a book that's been written to the Christian reader. There are mentions of the Biblical ethos here. The author goes on speaking at short length about health, pain, association and a few other topics. It's a short book. I read it. But perhaps this is a bit too basic for me. 3 stars.
This is a very interesting book which was recommended to me by a friend who found it helpful. The book is full of helpful tips of how to cope with life and what you can do to improve it for yourself. It gives you pointers on how to encourage positive things into your life whilst getting rid of the negative.
Although I don鈥檛 agree with every point made it is very useful and I found it helped ease my own concerns and fears. It isn鈥檛 a magic solution and requires self discipline to make improvements but if you are feeling down then reading this book is definitely a step in the right direction, I am certain I will re read it again someday
Almost 25 years old now and the second book written by Andrew Matthews, Being Happy, is still a treasure trove of information and insights into the concept of happiness. Using his amazing artistic ability to include cartoons to emphasize poignant truths, Andrew makes reading this book humorous as well as informative. Dealing with such topics as forgiveness, depression, the law of attraction, and the power of words themselves, one eventually sees that the most significant aspect of being happy is鈥� well, I will leave that for you to discover in this book.