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Growing up, we need far more than food and shelter: we require a link to the symbolic order, based on trust. We need to know that when the adults speak to us, they are not deceiving us, so that we don’t need to perpetually ask ourselves ‘They are saying this, but what do they really mean?�
we tend to find that the early relation with the mother was marked not by fusion but by discontinuity and turbulence. Perhaps it is these situations that make the child’s efforts to satisfy her even more desperate, and hence the foreclosure.
This rejection or non-integration of the symbolic function can involve both an under-investment or an over-investment of the real father.
Children learn to speak, as Karl Popper once pointed out, not when they can utter words but when they can lie: that is, know things and do things that the Other doesn’t know about.
الكذب ومعناه الخفي معرفة شيء لا يعرفه الآخر
It showed how infants don’t only learn by imitating their mothers but learn, in a sense, the process of imitation itself.
