“It bothers me. There’s a stigma, especially for guys. Especially for guys who are about to hit thirty. It’s not that I want to be a . . . you know . . .� He can’t bring himself to verbalize it. “But it’s hard to meet people when you have social anxiety as bad as I do. I panic. Or I want to say one thing, be a certain way, but it gets all tangled up on its way out of my mouth. A pumpkin trying to be flowers and coming off like a cactus. It’s frustrating.
“You’re much more flowers than you are cactus,� I tell him, meaning every word. I hope he believes it. “But for what it’s worth, pumpkins are the best.”
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Sarah Hogle,
Twice Shy