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“During your struggle society is not a bunch of flowers, it is a bunch of cactus.”
― Amit Kalantri, Wealth of Words

“While in principle groups for survivors are a good idea, in practice it soon becomes apparent that to organize a successful group is no simple matter. Groups that start out with hope and promise can dissolve acrimoniously, causing pain and disappointment to all involved. The destructive potential of groups is equal to their therapeutic promise. The role of the group leader carries with it a risk of the irresponsible exercise of authority.
Conflicts that erupt among group members can all too easily re-create the dynamics of the traumatic event, with group members assuming the roles of perpetrator, accomplice, bystander, victim, and rescuer. Such conflicts can be hurtful to individual participants and can lead to the group’s demise. In order to be successful, a group must have a clear and focused understanding of its therapeutic task and a structure that protects all participants adequately against the dangers of traumatic reenactment. Though groups may vary widely in composition and structure, these basic conditions must be fulfilled without exception.
Commonality with other people carries with it all the meanings of the word common. It means belonging to a society, having a public role, being part of that which is universal. It means having a feeling of familiarity, of being known, of communion. It means taking part in the customary, the commonplace, the ordinary, and the everyday. It also carries with it a feeling of smallness, or insignificance, a sense that one’s own troubles are ‘as a drop of rain in the sea.â€� The survivor who has achieved commonality with others can rest from her labors. Her recovery is accomplished; all that remains before her is her life.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

“Plenty of people will think you're crazy, no matter what you do. Don't let that stop you from finding the people who think you're incredible—the ones who need to hear your voice, because it reminds them of their own. Your tribe. They're out there. Don’t let your critics interfere with your search for them.”
― Vironika Tugaleva

“Is human dignity and human life so cheap that the rights protecting it can be traded away to appease the appetite for intimidation and prejudice of a vicious and self-centered group - for whatever reason, power, politics, nationalism, or unity?”
― Christina Engela, Bugspray

“It's about the ways in which girls deal with anger and aggression, as opposed to the ways in which boys do. The premise is that boys tend to be more direct in their aggression - physical confrontation - while in contrast, girls use an indirect approach known as relational aggression. Relational aggression is a form of aggression where the group is used as a weapon to assault others and others' relationships. It uses lies, secrets, betrayals and a host of other two-faced tactics to destroy or damage the relationships and social standing of others in the group.”
― Anonymous

“All the recognizable cliques came by, and so did those un-groupable stragglers who were known by their little circles of two or three.”
― Adi Alsaid, Never Always Sometimes

“Warriors don't get weary, troops do.”
― T.F. Hodge, From Within I Rise: Spiritual Triumph over Death and Conscious Encounters With the Divine Presence

“The multitude was a frothing octopus, pulsating anthropomorphically over the church steps.”
― Ondjaki, The Whistler

“Societies are mediocre, individuals are excellent.”
― Amit Kalantri

“The religious right sees every group trying to achieve equality with them as a threat, because if they become equal to them, THEY won't be able to abuse their human rights anymore. Giving other people equality WITH THEM, in their minds takes something away from THEM - POWER - and that TERRIFIES them. It scares them shitless.”
― Christina Engela, Inanna Rising: Women Forged in Fire

“The religious right sees every group trying to achieve equality with them as a threat, because obviously if they become equal to them, THEY won't be able to abuse their human rights anymore.”
― Christina Engela, All That Remains

“Cada adolescente tiene el suyo, y el que no lo consigue, está en problemas. Son sus "mejores amigos", sus compañeros de aventuras, los que más aman, sus confidentes, sus iguales. Esta es una de las características principales del grupo de pares, que se eligen por similitud. Les gusta la misma música, se visten de la misma manera, disfrutan de las mismas cosas. Como si se estuvieran eligiendo a sí mismos en el cuerpo de otros. Es, en realidad, una manera de reforzar su propia imagen, su narcisismo que se siente amenazado en esta etapa.”
― Gabriel Rolón, Historias de diván: Ocho relatos de vida

“Conflict can be healthy within a collaborative group, as long as everyone sticks to the issues and things don't get personal.”
― Eunice Parisi-Carew, Collaboration Begins with You: Be a Silo Buster

“Always think about the needs of others because being a part of a group is
an essential characteristic of human nature.”
― Eraldo Banovac

“Group idea sessions rarely work. Why? Members too busy knocking down insights to hear the tap-tap of revelation”
― Phillip Gary Smith

“People attacking a group from outside will simply case that group to close ranks and unify and become even stronger - which in case they haven't noticed, is exactly what has happened with the pink community.”
― Christina Engela, For Love of Leelah

“Those who deny any group of people human rights are really denying the humanity of that group - and their own.”
― Christina Engela, Blachart: Galaxii Series Book 1

“The following are not my words, i have seen it some where . But i wish to share it here for every one ....
Two ice cubes jump from fridge
They laugh each other...
Hug and Enjoy each other...
Smile to every one
Suddenly they melt each other
and remained a little water...
Changed in to water ????
They asked each other!!!
In this water which is Me and You??
Finally they found out
From now there is no Me and You
ONLY WE .......”
― Anoop Ashok

“For few matters you need to be solo, for some matters you need soul mate and for many matters you need society,”
― Amit Kalantri, Wealth of Words

“The odd thing was that he had hated to be part of any group in America. Maybe he had never been in a group large enough â€� a group so large that he could approach vanishing in it, which was a kind of freedom â€� or maybe he had never been in a group devoted to freedom itself.”
― Caleb Crain, Necessary Errors

“Human thought and human caring go on in one brain and one heart at a time. Groups are necessary. Regulations are necessary. Government, I would hope limited government, is necessary. But it all starts with the individual. Everything that is accomplished starts with one person, even if the group steps in and helps; it’s still one brain and one heart at a time.”
― Dan Groat, A Punctual Paymaster

“You're not a wave, you're part of the ocean.”
― Mitch Albom

“Pigs after pigs, walking in group going on the way for the barracks, to be the first meal of the wolfs.
(Salem's Lot)”
― Deyth Banger

“There is no doubt that I am selective in my listening, hence "directive" if people wish to accuse me of this. I am centered in the group member who is speaking, and am unquestionably much less interested in the details of his quarrel with his wife, or of his difficulties on the job, or his disagreement with what has just been said, than in the meaning these experience have for him now and the feeling they arouse in him. It is to these meanings and feelings that I try to respond.”
― Carl R. Rogers

“I am willing for the participant to commit or not commit himself to the group. If a person wishes to remain psychologically on the sidelines, he has my implicit permission to do so. The group itself may or may not be willing for him to remain in this stance but personally I am willing. One skeptical college administrator said that the main things he had learned was that he could withdraw from personal participation, be comfortable about it, and realize that he would not be coerced. To me, this seemed a valuable learning and one that would make it much more possible for him actually to participate at the next opportunity. Recent reports on his behavior, a full year later, suggest that he gained and changed from his seeming nonparticipation.”
― Carl R. Rogers, On Encounter Groups

“I saw a guy faint at the W. M. Keck Observatory, he stepped out from the tour group and said to me "I'm feeling sick" and then his eyes rolled back and his knees gave way! The group caught him on his way to the ground and he got free emergency medical oxygen for half an hour before being evacuated off the summit by his tour group!!! His friends stated that he was considered the healthiest person in the group while he was gasping for breaths of life on the summit of Mauna Kea! Never saw him again.”
― Steven Magee

“I write. See you there.”
― Barbara Johansen

“You know that when a group of utility workers are withholding their customer service identification cards, they are likely engaging in some form of illegal activity at your home.”
― Steven Magee

“The truth of the world is that in every group you will find some good and some bad people - which is why i am keenly aware that no group is ALL bad, just as no group is ALL good.”
― Christina Engela

“The biologically harmful effects of man-made environmental radiation was a jigsaw of existing information that needed to be assembled by a group of independent researchers that had a broad range of knowledge and were free of corrupt corporate government influence.”
― Steven Magee