i forgot to add this: “Maybe a little of the same. Not enjoying it, exactly. But willing. Understanding my need.�
this is so hi will not be rating this.
i forgot to add this: “Maybe a little of the same. Not enjoying it, exactly. But willing. Understanding my need.�
this is so hard for me to write about because in the end i feel just so angry. i am angry at quin, ofcourse, but also margot- i am mad at her for defending him, i am mad at her for being mad at the others who raised their voices against him. the narrative of this story is simple and straightforward- and i applaud the author for trying to explore both sides of the metoo movement- but this just doesnt sit right with me. both parties are in the wrong, and both parties should be held accountable for it- thats what i think. in cases such as margot's who vehemently refused any sexual contact from quin whatsoever its different (NOT saying he is not a creep, just saying SHE is not in the wrong HERE) because she said no, and he complied. in the cases of the others who were against him, in the end, quite like margot, they continued to humour him and his advances because he was unlike people they've met before.
but then again- there were women who just came to him for emotional support, or those like sharon (was that her name? i dont remember sorry lmao) who just refused to talk to him about anything that was deemed 'inappropriate'- these women were still against quin when the petition was flying around what i believe was just for the sake of solidarity (and in my opinion, rightly so). that sounds like something i would have done, too, if i had been in the orbit of someone like quin.
as for his own narrative- its so perplexing to me. he's a creep, and he uses the words "his needs" quite frequently. he doesn't understand that his actions might just be a cause of negativity and guilt and shame to his victims, and in the end still doesnt understand what and why was it wrong. his moral compass is so queer and awful and fascinating that i understand why people flocked around him and wanted to be around him still, but i also think that its not justified of him not being able to become friends with someone until he touches them sexually, or flirts with them, or holds hands- whatever. it made me feel quite unnatural and disgusted while reading it because as someone who's a fan of platonic physical touch and treats it as a form of comfort and respect it only incited feelings of apathy and disgust and shame, as if i did something dirty by just reading about him.
at the same time, as someone who's a fan of casual, platonic touch i understand the comfort and happiness that quin got by holding hands with someone. i hold hands with my mom a lot, and she lets me do it because she understands that i somehow like it, but i would also be open to holding hands (or just a pat on the shoulder, a ruffle of hair, something- AS LONG AS THEY DONT MIND IT AND THEY ARE COMFORTABLE BY IT) with a friend no matter what their gender is- but again, WITH CONSENT. quin's advances were all without consent and vulgur. i would not be sympathizing for him, even though he didnt mean anything by it- if i were on the receiving end of that, i would be devastated or disgusted or just would feel alien in my own skin. that would be very hard to get through.
i think it was wrong for him to appropriately touch those women. a hundred percent. but i also think its morally and fundamentally wrong for those women who invited his advances rather than declining them and then acted against him. that what i think.
i will be going now because i dont want to be thinking about this story anymore. i am off to youtube to watch the 8 second clip of this REALLY REALLY CUTE weather girl for the fourth time ever since i discovered it a few hours ago and have been making a conscious effort to not watch it many times because I WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH THAT WOMAN OHMYGOD...more
edit: i read this on valentines day ohmygod im more of a mess than i realised hello. this review is a mess. im sure ill come to laugh at it in a few moedit: i read this on valentines day ohmygod im more of a mess than i realised hello. this review is a mess. im sure ill come to laugh at it in a few months, but i sorta feel horrible right now so ill be sleeping now. on that thought, read this its funny and gay
i think ive forgotten how to rate books what is wrong with me. yesterday i couldnt do a d-grade math problem. and math is my best subject, so i should have been able to do it, considering im going to be studying it for the rest of my life, probably. this pandemic really did a number on me, im a mess lord help
well. this book is absolutely hilarious. like not in a oh-i-think-i-laughed-so-hard-i-woke-my-parents-up-at-2-am way(tho the laughing too hard part did happen quite a few times), but more like (actually, to hell with the dashes. they're too much work.) wow i want to un-deactivate my recently deactivated twitter account to talk about how this piece of fiction made me realize i was even more of a homosexual than i realised, except im pretty sure im, currently, a very pissed and sorta happy bisexual because the love interest was not really vegetarian and ate a bacon sandwich, which put a damper to my very happy mood i literally cannot believe i actually sorta care about that, but maybe this is just me releasing some very pent up feelings about a)finally finding a vegetarian character in a book which was very Funny and Nice but then he ate a bacon sandwich, and b)how i have not read in months and this is the Worst ive felt since the pandemic started and im having best friend problems and just like. drowning and in a generally bad place, so in that way i really liked this book because it took my mind off shit. so yes.
///before reading: ill be reading this only bc the love interest is vegetarian...more
okay so this was all meh, and i realised i dont like reading about weird sexual adventures after all, and i was prepared to quit it but the ending wasokay so this was all meh, and i realised i dont like reading about weird sexual adventures after all, and i was prepared to quit it but the ending was pretty cuteeeee >o<
also, i loved the reason why they fake dated. that trope is one of my LEAST FAVOURITES like really, and everytime the reason is so half assed it makes me want to bang my head against a wall, but here it was good good, so i am going to let all the negativity go away for the time it takes me to write this review.
anyway, yep. quotes: -the 'you gotta love the brown sisters' one:(view spoiler)[“Sorry, don’t let me throw you,� Eve said, “I’d just like to check before we go any further. Are you telling me that your fake boyfriend, who you have, obviously, been sleeping with—� “Bravo, by the way,� Chloe interjected. “—told you he loved you, and you decided, for some reason, that he’d . . . made it up?� “Yes,� Dani managed in a very small voice. “And what,� Eve asked delicately, “did you say to him in return?� “I said . . . I said we’d made a mistake.� “Oh sweet fucking Christ,� Sorcha muttered. “Baby Jesus in a manger, give me strength. Danika Brown, if I strangle you—� (hide spoiler)] -the 'dani brown is lowkey great' one: (view spoiler)[The last time Dani had nowhere’d him, it was because she’d accidentally bought a fern on Facebook Marketplace that was almost as big as Zaf—despite being banned from buying any more plants because they could no longer see their TV. (hide spoiler)]
DNF DNF DNF i dnf'd this withing the first chapter. not for me. i also found Naomi infuriating, and i only read some scenes throughout the whole thing.DNF DNF DNF i dnf'd this withing the first chapter. not for me. i also found Naomi infuriating, and i only read some scenes throughout the whole thing....more
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