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[UPDATE: Just read Wired for Love instead. It portrays the three types with much more balance, intelligence, psychological insight and sympathy -- as well as being much shorter and less fluff. Much more compassion for 'avoidant' types.

If you're the anxious type, Attached might be worth a look too: gives reassurance and more information and tips tailored to you.]



Goes into great detail about anxious attachment, but hardly anything for helping avoidant types.

It sets itself up claiming there are just three *styles*, but then the entire book is spent on how great secures are and how bad avoidants are. As other reviewers have said, it portrays avoidants as the villain and anxious as the victim.

It briefly mentions the problems avoidants have (like the fact they find intimacy or attachment distressing/difficult, despite wanting it; that they repress feelings and can sometimes only access them when distracted; that they find it difficult to communicate their needs; etc.), but then it doesn't spend much time on how to overcome these problems.

So, book is interesting but severely lacking. It should really be called 'Anxious Attachment: How To Be Treated Like Royalty When You're Prone To Freaking Out'.