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How to Be a People Magnet : Finding Friends--and Lovers--and Keeping Them for Life
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When I first started this book, I didn't think I would be able to make it through due to the author's corny writing style. I'm not sure what other word to use to explain it. What appears to be her attempt at making the book more interesting with corny stories and jokes is just plain annoying.
As I learned to tune out that annoyance in order to make it through the book, there were parts that caught my interest. Many of the tips are just common sense, but she does relay some interesting studies on how people relate. The research studies she sites are the most interesting part of the book.
She offers a number of tips for developing relationships, fostering friendships, and maximizing social situations, but some of these tips seemed ridiculous. For example, when entering a party where you don't know anyone, she suggests that you pretend to see a friend across the room and proceed to wave and smile at the imaginary friend. As you make your way across the room (to get to your imaginary friend), smile and say hello to everyone as though you're a celebrity. Her conclusion is that everyone will think you are so popular, they will be honored if you stop to talk to them. Of course, when you reach your imaginary friend, they have somehow disappeared so you can choose some lonely stranger who will no doubt be charmed by your presence.
She offers a plan of action for men approaching women in a public place, instructing them to look at the woman until she feels his gaze and makes eye contact. How the woman looks away will indicate her interest. Looking towards the floor shows interest. If she looks away moving her eyes horizontally, she is still deciding. If her eyes look upward as she looks away, she's showing lack of interest. Assuming she looks downward or sideways, the man is to check his watch and observe if she looks back within 45 seconds. If so, he should proceed to the next step - which she also outlines with clear instructions.
If you can bear the lame writing style, there are a few interesting research studies, and some helpful common sense reminders, but in my opinion, there are many superior books on finding, building, and keeping relationships.
As I learned to tune out that annoyance in order to make it through the book, there were parts that caught my interest. Many of the tips are just common sense, but she does relay some interesting studies on how people relate. The research studies she sites are the most interesting part of the book.
She offers a number of tips for developing relationships, fostering friendships, and maximizing social situations, but some of these tips seemed ridiculous. For example, when entering a party where you don't know anyone, she suggests that you pretend to see a friend across the room and proceed to wave and smile at the imaginary friend. As you make your way across the room (to get to your imaginary friend), smile and say hello to everyone as though you're a celebrity. Her conclusion is that everyone will think you are so popular, they will be honored if you stop to talk to them. Of course, when you reach your imaginary friend, they have somehow disappeared so you can choose some lonely stranger who will no doubt be charmed by your presence.
She offers a plan of action for men approaching women in a public place, instructing them to look at the woman until she feels his gaze and makes eye contact. How the woman looks away will indicate her interest. Looking towards the floor shows interest. If she looks away moving her eyes horizontally, she is still deciding. If her eyes look upward as she looks away, she's showing lack of interest. Assuming she looks downward or sideways, the man is to check his watch and observe if she looks back within 45 seconds. If so, he should proceed to the next step - which she also outlines with clear instructions.
If you can bear the lame writing style, there are a few interesting research studies, and some helpful common sense reminders, but in my opinion, there are many superior books on finding, building, and keeping relationships.
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