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Stay True by Hua Hsu
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This memoir is definitely all about the vibes. Hua Hsu captures the aesthetics and culture that characterized his college experiences. Hsu recollects the music, clothes, and cultural influences that shaped this time in his life. The memoir is also about his unlikely friendship with Ken, someone whose tastes didn’t really match Hsu's. The two nevertheless become friends and Hsu relates some of their shared escapades. After Ken’s murder, the memoir adopts a more sombre tone, as Hsu renders on the page his own grief as well as those of the people around him.

I honestly wanted to love this a lot more than I did. Hsu spends too much time discussing his hobby and interests and not enough time fleshing out or conveying the personalities of the people who characterized his college days. I would have liked less talk about aesthetics and more about friendship tbh. While Hsu does explore grief, he also uses that same section of the memoir to do a lot of college talk that failed to enthuse me. I liked it when he spoke about his calls with his father and the way he captures the atmosphere of that specific period of time. Nevertheless, I wanted something with more of a bite. This was an easy enough read, which is odd given the subject matter. Hsu, I don’t know you, and I’m sure you were being slightly self-deprecating, however, the college self you present in this memoir gave me some serious Not Like Other Guys vibes and that is just not my vibe. He is an alternative, he likes wearing vintage clothes, and wearing band tees (of course, unlike other people he listens to those bands), he is into zines…you get the drift. I’m sure this memoir will resonate with a lot of readers but sadly I found its portrayal of friendship somewhat of a let-down.
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Reading Progress

May 12, 2022 – Shelved
May 12, 2022 – Shelved as: to-read
May 12, 2022 – Shelved as: nonfiction
May 12, 2022 – Shelved as: memoirs
September 23, 2022 – Shelved as: tbr-arcs
October 1, 2022 – Shelved as: tbr-overdrive
October 12, 2022 – Started Reading
October 13, 2022 – Finished Reading
November 4, 2022 – Shelved as: so-so-reads

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Gail I'm half-way through this one and you captured my feelings (so far) BRILLIANTLY. I wish he would have acknowledged just how special those faxes and calls were from his father. The way his dad would ask "What do you think?" in response to the questions/conversations they were having. Oh, that is SO kind—what a father! I could definitely do with less talk about him trying to fit in (and talk of his 'zine -- OMG) and more with learning about the other people in his life, parents included.


Blanca I beg to differ, but people are allowed to have their affinities; namely, like when some people prefer plot-driven movies versus character-driven, etc. That said, Hua Hsu specifically writes about culture for the New Yorker. That’s his thing. To me, the juxtaposition of the culture moments against Hsu’s personal life was cleverly done, purposeful, world-building, and interesting to me in a philosophical way. This memoir could have as much been an essay on culture at the time of the author’s formative years as it could have been a memoir about friendship, loss, coming of age, and how the writer came to be the writer he is today.


Blanca Not to mention a straight-up homage to Hsu’s friend Ken. But then I identify strongly with Hsu’s experience of loss and wanting to capture those fleeting memories, to encapsulate them, and then also feeling as if that cathartic feeling of feeling the urge to write because of loss - that that in itself inspired him to become a writer.


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harry cohen I'm a bit more than halfway through Stay True and so far completely agree with you. The book is more about the author's zines, music tastes, various roomates, and way to much time talking about philosophers. Ken so far is a secondary character. I might stick with the book because it is short, but may also add it to my dnf pile.


Kate Arnold I think the whole point of his presentation of himself as an annoying, not like the other boys trope is that he’s trying to explain how Ken connected him to the real world and helped him stop being like this. Hua clearly recognizes that he was annoying, otherwise he wouldn’t have been writing in such an on-the-nose manner. After Ken’s death he’s not like that anymore and finds it funny that he is listed as a member of Ken’s frat. Before Ken he probably would have been really mad about this and been like “I hate the institution of Greek life, I’m going to write in my zine about it� or some stupid thing


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