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Positive Discipline's ideas and advice about raising children really feels right for me as a parent. Their most basic point is to have a consistent "kind but firm" manner when disciplining your child - kind to show that you validate their feelings and respect them as their own person, but firm to let them know you mean business. On a day to day level this approach really takes lots of patience, but when doing it, and seeing it work, it just feels right. Another strong point they make is that when children misbehave it is usually because they are feeling like they don't belong, and want to participate. I realized that often when my son was "being bad" it was because I was failing to involve him in some way with whatever was going on because I just had to get stuff done. I realized that by letting him "help" me with chores, like washing dishes, switching laundry etc. - even if it took a little longer or was a little messier is a great way for us to connect and for him to feel important. This book helped remind me what "discipline" really means - "to teach" NOT "to punish" and that punitive punishment really only cultivates fear, shame, resentment and rebellion in children throughout their lives. I am not saying that PD encourages permissive parenting - the theory and tools provided in this book help us to understand that it is better to guide them into cooperation rather than to force them.