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Jan 04, 2021 11:32AM
A place to share things you have learned from this book, new perspectives you have gained, eye opening epiphanies, favourite quotes and sections.
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Learning about the Monkey Mind VS The Monk Mind was very eye opening for me. The examples given were short and direct making it easy to differentiate the two.
Some of the things I can definitely relate to and would like to make a change are
- Complains, Compares and Criticizes VS Compassionate, Caring and Collaborative
- Short-Term Gratification VS Long-Term Gratification
- Changes on a whim VS Commits to a mission, vision or goal
- Looks for Pleasure VS Looks for meaning
- Multi-tasking VS Single-Tasking. (I've gained a terrible multi-tasking habit through the years that have caused me a great deal of anxiety more than it has helped, especially in the long run. I'd like to learn how to be more present with the task at hand)
(page xvii)
Some of the things I can definitely relate to and would like to make a change are
- Complains, Compares and Criticizes VS Compassionate, Caring and Collaborative
- Short-Term Gratification VS Long-Term Gratification
- Changes on a whim VS Commits to a mission, vision or goal
- Looks for Pleasure VS Looks for meaning
- Multi-tasking VS Single-Tasking. (I've gained a terrible multi-tasking habit through the years that have caused me a great deal of anxiety more than it has helped, especially in the long run. I'd like to learn how to be more present with the task at hand)
(page xvii)
"When we tune out the opinions, expectations, and obligations of the world around us, we begin to hear ourselves" (page 11)
"...it is worth taking a step back to consider whether the values you carried feel right to you." (page 9)
"Do not give your attention to what others do or fail to do; give it to what you do or fail to do"
Becoming an Objective Observer
"There is no commandment that says we have to be upset by the way other people treat us. The reason why we're upset is because we have an emotional program that says, ''If someone is nasty to me, I can not be happy or feel good about myself...." Instead of reacting compulsively and retaliating we could enjoy our freedom as human beings and refuse to be upset"
- I struggle with this constantly as it falls in line with the "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" ... it's easier said than done. More practice!
Becoming an Objective Observer
"There is no commandment that says we have to be upset by the way other people treat us. The reason why we're upset is because we have an emotional program that says, ''If someone is nasty to me, I can not be happy or feel good about myself...." Instead of reacting compulsively and retaliating we could enjoy our freedom as human beings and refuse to be upset"
- I struggle with this constantly as it falls in line with the "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" ... it's easier said than done. More practice!
A few quotes and excerpts from theb ook that have resignated with me, opened up my eyes or have taught me something new.
- "Remember, saying whatever you want, whenever you want, however you want is not freedom. Real freedom is not feeling the need to say these things" (Page 35) - I concurr with this 100%
- "When you deal with fear and hardship, you realize you're capable of dealing with fear and hardship" ...i've always thought that my fears usually dissipate with time the more i expose myself to my fears and as a result gain more confidence in myself to take me through difficult times where fear is present.
- "The cause of fear is: Attachment.
The cure for fear is: Detachment"
it's always been difficult for me to detach myself from my fear, usually the opposite happens. My brain takes the fear and brings it closer and expands it tenfold so that it is the only thing I see... i'm learning everyday to learn how to curb this and change it.
This book so far has been filled with many new perspectives that I'm happy to have gained.
- "Remember, saying whatever you want, whenever you want, however you want is not freedom. Real freedom is not feeling the need to say these things" (Page 35) - I concurr with this 100%
- "When you deal with fear and hardship, you realize you're capable of dealing with fear and hardship" ...i've always thought that my fears usually dissipate with time the more i expose myself to my fears and as a result gain more confidence in myself to take me through difficult times where fear is present.
- "The cause of fear is: Attachment.
The cure for fear is: Detachment"
it's always been difficult for me to detach myself from my fear, usually the opposite happens. My brain takes the fear and brings it closer and expands it tenfold so that it is the only thing I see... i'm learning everyday to learn how to curb this and change it.
This book so far has been filled with many new perspectives that I'm happy to have gained.
Few quotes and excerpts from the book that has inspired me and pushed my perspective to open up a little more.
"Our fears are more numerous than our dangers, and we suffer more in our imagination than our reality" - THe Roman Stoic Philospher Seneca
"As long as we keep attaching our happiness to the external events of our lives, which are ever changing, we'll always be left waiting for it." - Tara Brach, Founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington, DC
"Happiness can be elusive - it's hard to sustain a high level of joy. But to feel meaning shows that our actions have purpose."
"External goals can not fill internal voids. No external labels or accomplishments can give me true confidence. I have to find it in myself"
"Living your intention means having it permeate your behavior"
"There's nothing intrinsically wrong with cloudy or multifaceted intentions. We just need to remember that hte less pure they are, the less likely they are to make us happy, even if they make us successful. When people gain what they want but aren't happy at all, it's because they did it with the wrong intention"
"You can't be anything you want but you can be everything that you are."
"Our fears are more numerous than our dangers, and we suffer more in our imagination than our reality" - THe Roman Stoic Philospher Seneca
"As long as we keep attaching our happiness to the external events of our lives, which are ever changing, we'll always be left waiting for it." - Tara Brach, Founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington, DC
"Happiness can be elusive - it's hard to sustain a high level of joy. But to feel meaning shows that our actions have purpose."
"External goals can not fill internal voids. No external labels or accomplishments can give me true confidence. I have to find it in myself"
"Living your intention means having it permeate your behavior"
"There's nothing intrinsically wrong with cloudy or multifaceted intentions. We just need to remember that hte less pure they are, the less likely they are to make us happy, even if they make us successful. When people gain what they want but aren't happy at all, it's because they did it with the wrong intention"
"You can't be anything you want but you can be everything that you are."
