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“Relationships If we are unhappy without a relationship, we’ll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn’t begin our life; a relationship doesn’t become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life. â€� BEYOND CODEPENDENCY”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“I will ask for what I need and give what feels right.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“We will not get all we need for the entire journey today. We shall receive today’s supplies today, and tomorrow’s supplies tomorrow. We were never intended to carry supplies for the entire journey. The burden would be too heavy, and the way was intended to be light.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“The problem is, if we don’t learn to say no, we stop liking ourselves and the people we always try to please. We may even punish others out of resentment.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“We don’t have to prove we’re the one. If we’re out to show people we’re the best thing that ever happened to them, it may be time to see if they’re the best thing that ever happened to us.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“If it’s not mine, I won’t keep it. I will deal with myself, my issues, and my responsibilities. I will take my hands off what is not mine.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“Too busy? There are 168 hours in each week. Taking 1 or 2 hours a week for a meeting can maximize the potential of the remaining 166 hours.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“If we are unhappy without a relationship, we’ll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn’t begin our life; a relationship doesn’t become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life. â€� BEYOND CODEPENDENCY”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“When we have a toothache, we know that not having a toothache is happiness. But later, when we don’t have a toothache, we don’t treasure our non-toothache,”
― Melody Beattie, More Language of Letting Go: 366 New Daily Meditations

“We can learn to have healthy boundaries—healthy parameters—around ourselves and our energy. We can learn to keep our energy within ourselves and deal with our issues. If we are trying to escape from our body, if our energy is spilling out of us in unhealthy ways, we can ask ourselves what is going on, what is hurting us, what we are avoiding, what we need to face, what we need to deal with. Then, we can do that. We can come back home to live—in ourselves.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“Sometimes, I feel ashamed about how long it takes me to struggle through to acceptance of reality. I feel embarrassed when I find myself again clouded by the fog of denial.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“Trust ourselves and the grief process. We won’t stay angry forever. But we may need to get mad for a while as we search over what could have been, to finally accept what is. God, help me learn to accept my own and othersâ€� anger as a normal part of achieving acceptance and peace. Within that framework, help me strive for personal accountability.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“Yes, I know that what you’re holding on to is important. Everything that I have ever had to let go of was important to me, too. If it wasn’t important, letting go wouldn’t be a struggle. We’d just put it down and walk away. You’ve been given today. Will you use it or will you miss out on today’s wonder because you’re too preoccupied with holding on to things that are beyond your control?”
― Melody Beattie, More Language of Letting Go: 366 New Daily Meditations

“Today, I will not strike out at those who cause me pain. I will feel my emotions and take responsibility for them. I will accept hurt feelings as part of being in relationships. I am willing to surrender to the pain as well as the joy in life.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“We don’t have to analyze or justify our feelings. We need to feel them, and try not to let them control our behavior.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“It is understandable that we don’t want to feel any more pain. Many of us have had more than our share. In fact, at some time in our life, we may have been overwhelmed, crushed, or stopped in our tracks by the amount of pain we felt. We may not have had the resources to cope with our pain or take care of ourselves.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“Some of us may have made a decision that no one was ever going to hurt us again. We may automatically go on “feelings freeze modeâ€� when faced with emotional pain. Or, we may terminate a relationship the first time we feel hurt.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“Eventually, we learn the lesson that real power comes from allowing ourselves to be vulnerable enough to feel hurt. Real power comes from knowing we can take care of ourselves, even when we feel emotional pain. Real power comes when we stop holding others responsible for our pain, and we take responsibility for all our feelings.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“We do not have to act in haste; we do not have to punish others to get control over our feelings. We can begin sharing our hurt feelings with others. That brings relief and often healing to them and to us.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“Feeling hurt does not have to be so frightening. We do not have to work so hard to avoid it. While hurt feelings aren’t as much fun as feeling happy, they are, still, just feelings.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“We feel safe around direct, honest people. They speak their minds, and we know where we stand with them. Indirect people, people who are afraid to say who they are, what they want, and what they’re feeling, cannot be trusted. They will somehow act out their truth even though they do not speak it. And it may catch everyone by surprise. Directness saves time and energy. It removes us as victims. It dispenses with martyrdom and games. It helps us own our power. It creates respectful relationships. It feels safe to be around direct, honest people. Be one. Today, I will own my power to be direct. I do not have to be passive, nor do I need to be aggressive. I will become comfortable with my own truth, so those around me can become comfortable with me.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“We do not have to wait for others to come to our aid. We are not victims. We are not helpless. Letting go of faulty thinking means we realize there are no knights on white horses, no magical grandmothers in the sky watching, waiting to rescue us. Teachers may come our way, but they will not rescue. They will teach. People who care will come, but they will not rescue. They will care. Help will come, but help is not rescuing. We are our own rescuers. Our relationships will improve dramatically when we stop rescuing others and stop expecting them to rescue us.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction. What would you like to have happen in your life this year? What would you like to do, to accomplish? What good would you like to attract into your life? What particular areas of growth would you like to have happen to you? What blocks, or character defects, would you like to have removed? What would you like to attain? Little things and big things? Where would you like to go? What would you like to have happen in friendship and love? What would you like to have happen in your family life? Remember, we aren’t controlling others with our goals—we are trying to give direction to our life. What problems would you like to see solved? What decisions would you like to make? What would you like to happen in your career? What would you like to see happen inside and around you? Write it down. Take a piece of paper, a few hours of your time, and write it all down—as an affirmation”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don’t love you—they are saying they don’t love themselves. â€� CODEPENDENT”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don’t love you—they are saying they don’t love themselves. â€� CODEPENDENT NO MORE”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“When people with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don’t love you—they are saying they don’t love themselves. â€� CODEPENDENT NO MORE”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“with a compulsive disorder do whatever it is they are compelled to do, they are not saying they don’t love you—they are saying they don’t love themselves.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“When you learn to be aware and relax into the ordinary, it will be easier to relax in the stressful moments when you need clarity and focus.”
― Melody Beattie, More Language of Letting Go: 366 New Daily Meditations

“There are some things we can’t do, no matter how long or hard we try. These things include changing other people, solving their problems, and controlling their behavior. Sometimes, we feel powerless over ourselves—what we feel or believe, or the effects of a particular situation or person on us.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“Problems are a part of life. So are solutions. People have problems, but we, and our self-esteem, are separate from our problems.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency