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“Duty impresses a structured hierarchy onto our lives. Duty never says, “You be you,�� or “Go ahead and do what makes you happy.�� Duty says, “This is who you are; do what is required.”
― C.R. Wiley, The Household and the War for the Cosmos: Recovering a Christian Vision for the Family

“Useful friendships are the bread and butter of life. This is one reason why marriages that are not useful don’t last. Romantic feelings come and go. In useful marriages the parties depend on each other for the basics—the dull-normal stuff of everyday existence. This is true when it comes to children too. Children serve no useful purpose any more. We look at a child and say, “So long as he’s happy, that’s all that matters”—not accounting for usefulness in our account of happiness. Perhaps this is one reason that our children disappoint us—we expect them to pursue their passions, to develop their gifts, yada, yada, yada, but we don’t give them anything worth caring about. And so they shrug and they say, “Who cares?�� And why should they care? And why should we be disappointed when they don’t amount to anything? We preached to them the gospel of happiness, implying, without meaning to, that they have nothing worthwhile to contribute to either a household, or the world at large. So they end up worthless and miserable.”
― C.R. Wiley, Man of the House: A Handbook for Building a Shelter That Will Last in a World That Is Falling Apart