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“Does it get better when you're older?"
"It did for me," Connor said.
"How?" Bolt asked.
"Someone lese believed in me," Connor said. "All it took was one person's approval and suddenly I believed in myself, too. It gave me a shield to block out all the doubt and negativity. It made me realize I was just as capable and deserving as the people I compared myself to. But you know what? I was wrong."
"You were?" Bolt asked.
"Totally," Conner said. "I didn't NEED someone else. I had confidence in myself, deep down inside, the whole time. Approval is just a shortcut to self-worth, but sometimes we have to find things out on our own. Sometimes if we want something bad enough, we have to inspire ourselves to get it. Sometimes we have to be our own superhero.”
― Chris Colfer, An Author's Odyssey

“A woman of God does not need approval from anyone, she has a final approval from God.”
― Gift Gugu Mona, Woman of Virtue: Power-Filled Quotes for a Powerful Woman

“Nobody applauds nature, yet she still glows.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson, Song of a Nature Lover

“Who exactly are these people that you want to be admired by? Aren’t they the same people you are in the habit of calling crazy? And is this your life ambition, then �� to win the approval of lunatics”
― Epictetus, Discourses and Selected Writings

“If I do this thing,�� he said, “it is the last I will ever do for you. Do not come begging again.��
“Father,�� I said, “I never will. I leave this place tomorrow.��
He would not ask where, he would not even wonder. So many years I had spent as a child sifting his bright features for his thoughts, trying to glimpse among them one that bore my name. But he was a harp with only one string, and the note it played was himself.”
― Madeline Miller, Circe

“I did not ask for your approval, if you would have said no, I still would have imbibed your energy.”
― Amanda Littrell, Living Among Others

“You do not need any approval to believe in yourself.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita

“I'm sure your children won't approve of you, Scarlett, any more than Mrs. Merriwether and Mrs. Elsing and their broods approve of you now. Your children will probably be soft, prissy creatures, as the children of hard-bitten characters usually are. And to make them worse, you, like every other mother, are probably determined that they shall never know the hardships you've known. And that's all wrong. Hardships make or break people. So you'll have to wait for approval from your grandchildren.”
― Margaret Mitchell, Gone with the Wind

“There is a big difference between wanting someone's opinion and needing their approval. The latter typically comes disguised as the former. We ask for an opinion because we are feeling unsure about something, and often, if we can find someone to agree, we somehow justify the idea as good or bad.”
― Rachel Hollis, Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals

“Above anyone else’s approval, first and foremost be sure to get your own.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Being Bold: Quotes, Poetry, & Motivations for Every Day of the Year

“It may have something to do with intelligence, but I am certain it has nothing to do with knowledge - I mean that there are people who have an instinctive yet perfect moral judgment, who can perform the most complex ethical calculations as Indian peasants can sometimes perform astounding mathematical feats in a matter of seconds. Lily was such a person. And I craved her approval.”
― John Fowles, The Magus

“In order to fully free ourselves from incessant approval seeking, we need to strengthen those boundaries.”
― Aziz Gazipura, Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself

“Living for the Approval Rating
Of Hypocrites and Tools
Makes one an Honorary Member of Fools”
― Aida Mandic, A Candid Aim

“By seeking the love and approval of others, we abandon ourselves and settle for far less than we deserve.”
― Kathy Sparrow, Literary Midwife

“The argument must begin from a position that generates acceptance or approval.”
― Gerry Spence, How to Argue and Win Every Time: At Home, At Work, In Court, Everywhere, Every Day

“Let go of the anchor of needing other people’s approval. It will only hold you back, weaken your resolve, and make you resentful toward them. You need all of your emotional and physical energy to propel you forward to your dream.”
― Sheri Fink, InstaGrateful: Finding Your Bliss in a Social Media World

“He settled on a classic rock station—Revved up like a deuce, another runner in the night, Heinrich would have liked that—and he looked to her for approval.”
― S.A. Hunt, Burn the Dark

“The return to the “Father from whom all fatherhood takes its name�� allows me to let my dad be no less than the good, loving, but limited human being he is, and to let my heavenly Father be the God whose unlimited, unconditional love melts away all resentments and anger and makes me free to love beyond the need to please or find approval.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen, The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming

“During the first part of this stage, the encouragement and support of parents and teachers was crucial to the child’s progress, but eventually the students began to experience some of the rewards of their hard work and became increasingly self-motivated. A piano student performed for others and appreciated the applause. A swimmer basked in the approval and respect of peers. These students became more vested in the process, and their self-image started to include those abilities that were setting them apart from their peers. In the case of team sports, like swimming, the students often relished being part of a group of like-minded people. But whatever the reasons, the motivation started to shift from external to internal in origin.”
― Anders Ericsson, Peak: How all of us can achieve extraordinary things

“So if you are stuck with thoughts such as trying to keep everyone happy, always trying to impress others, always needing to get approval or worrying about what others think, then it is likely that your troop drive is out of control. Sit down and redefine your troop. Decide who is in it.”
― Steve Peters

“So when I presented to what was until then the most hostile crowd in the world, members of the American Statistical Association, a map of the four quadrants, and told them: your knowledge works beautifully in these three quadrants, but beware of the fourth one, as this is where the Black Swans breed, I received instant approval, support, offers of permanent friendship, refreshments (Diet Coke), invitations to come present at their sessions, even hugs.”
― Nassim Nicholas Taleb, The Black Swan: The Impact of the Highly Improbable

“The culture has been the same for hundreds of years and your not approving of it, will not change it.”
― T.M Cicinski, Drifting Onward Down The Stream

“You don't need any approval to believe in yourself.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita

“A woman of God does not need approval from anyone. She gets final approval from her God.”
― Gift Gugu Mona, Woman of Virtue: Power-Filled Quotes for a Powerful Woman

“67. One Day When There Were Several People in the Empress’s Presence

One day when there were several people in the empress’s presence, including many senior courtiers and young noblemen, I was leaning against a pillar, chatting with some of the other women. Suddenly Her Majesty threw a note at me. “Should I love you or should I nor?�� it said. “What will you do if I cannot give you first place in my heart?��

No doubt she was thinking of recent conversations when I had remarked in her hearing, “If I do not come first in people’s affections, I had just soon not be loved at all; in fact I would rather be hated or even maltreated. It is better to be dead than to be loved in second or third place. Yes, I must be first.�� Hearing this, someone had said, “There we have the Single Vehicle of the Law!�� and everyone had burst out laughing.

Now the Empress gave me a brush and some paper. I wrote the following note and handed it to her: “Among the Nine Ranks of lotus seats even the lowliest would satisfy me.��

“Well, well,�� said the Empress, “you seem to have lost heart completely. That’s bad. I prefer you to go on thinking as you did before.��

“My attitude depends on the person in question,�� I replied.

“That’s really bad,�� she said, much to my delight. “You should try to come first in the affections of even the most important people.”
― Sei Shōnagon, The pillow-book of Sei Shōnagon

“67. One Day When There Were Several People in the Empress’s Presence

One day when there were several people in the empress’s presence, including many senior courtiers and young noblemen, I was leaning against a pillar, chatting with some of the other women. Suddenly Her Majesty threw a note at me. “Should I love you or should I not?�� it said. “What will you do if I cannot give you first place in my heart?��

No doubt she was thinking of a recent conversation when I had remarked in her hearing, “If I do not come first in people’s affections, I had just soon not be loved at all; in fact I would rather be hated or even maltreated. It is better to be dead than to be loved in second or third place. Yes, I must be first.�� Hearing this, someone had said, “There we have the Single Vehicle of the Law!�� and everyone had burst out laughing.

Now the Empress gave me a brush and some paper. I wrote the following note and handed it to her: “Among the Nine Ranks of lotus seats even the lowliest would satisfy me.��

“Well, well,�� said the Empress, “you seem to have lost heart completely. That’s bad. I prefer you to go on thinking as you did before.��

“My attitude depends on the person in question,�� I replied.

“That’s really bad,�� she said, much to my delight. “You should try to come first in the affections of even the most important people.”
― Sei Shōnagon, The pillow-book of Sei Shōnagon

“It doesn’t matter what a man of God would say, but what God Himself would say.”
― Aegelis, X Captain Ruik's Adventure

“After all my childhood years of watching him silently and revering him unquestionably, I took my twenties to spin out against him__not to refute him, but to scream out I was equal to him, a person who was just as funny, just as smart, and just as worthy of talking to.”
― Caitlin Connors, Irishman Dies from Stubbornness: Unbelievable Truths Behind the Life That Launched the Viral Obituary of Christopher Clifford Connors

“It’s only God Himself who can truly give validation and recognition for our actions and opinions, and His approval is what makes them worthy of all things. The feelings in our heart coming from God are the only feelings of validation we strive. It’s that spark of Godhood. For this emotional gift of morals are some of the most spiritual gifts of all.”
― Ron Baratono

“I guess I just took that approval and ran with it. But at some point in this journey, my mother started to rise up in her faith. Maybe it was from those countless nights of worrying where her son was and if he’d be alright,
wondering if I’d make it home safely or when I would come back on the
radar. And there were the nights she sat up praying for her lost son to come
home.”
― Michael J Heil, Pursued: God’s relentless pursuit and a drug addict’s journey to finding purpose