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“What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.”
― Confucius

“A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman–Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass: Embracing Singleness with Confidence

“Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.”
― Danielle Bernock, Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals

“Dignity will only happen when you realize that having someone in your life doesn’t validate your worth.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Just like children, emotions heal when they are heard and validated.”
― Jill Bolte Taylor, My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist's Personal Journey

“The woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.”
― Mohadesa Najumi

“I’ve found that it’s of some help to think of one’s moods and feelings about the world as being similar to weather.

Here are some obvious things about the weather:

It's real.
You can't change it by wishing it away.
If it's dark and rainy, it really is dark and rainy, and you can't alter it.
It might be dark and rainy for two weeks in a row.

BUT
it will be sunny one day.
It isn't under one's control when the sun comes out, but come out it will.
One day.

It really is the same with one's moods, I think. The wrong approach is to believe that they are illusions. Depression, anxiety, listlessness - these are all are real as the weather - AND EQUALLY NOT UNDER ONE'S CONTROL.
Not one's fault.

BUT
They will pass: really they will.

In the same way that one really has to accept the weather, one has to accept how one feels about life sometimes, "Today is a really crap day," is a perfectly realistic approach. It's all about finding a kind of mental umbrella. "Hey-ho, it's raining inside; it isn't my fault and there's nothing I can do about it, but sit it out. But the sun may well come out tomorrow, and when it does I shall take full advantage.”
― Stephen Fry

“All bad behavior is really a request for love, attention, or validation.”
― Kimberly Giles, Choosing Clarity: The Path to Fearlessness

“Belief in yourself is more important than endless worries of what others think of you. Value yourself and others will value you. Validation is best that comes from within.”
― NgÅ©gÄ© wa Thiong’o, Dreams in a Time of War

“There are people who need our stories. These individuals are just hidden from our view. We need to put ourselves out there because maybe our stories will validate theirs.”
― Janine Myung Ja, Adoption Stories

“It's a tragic that we recognized our self worth from external validation.”
― Aditya Ajmera

“When we listen, we hear someone into existence.”
― Laurie Buchanan

“The whole world is sick...we've all got this pathetic need to be seen. We're a bunch of fucking toddlers trying to get attention.”
― Jess Walter, Beautiful Ruins

“I used to think that prizes were damaging and divisive, until I got one. And now they seem sort of meaningful and real.”
― Bill Nighy

“They say you start weaving clearer, sharper memories after you've been to a place at least twice. Because then the reflection is more of validation. Let the rush come to you and let your senses be flushed the first time. There will be time for reflection after you've had your fill.”
― Psyche Roxas-Mendoza

“I do the splits perfectly in PE. I lose half a pound in two days. I get the spinach and pig-meat frittata from the lo-carb section for lunch. And no-one else knows. I mentally construct a MyFace status, polishing the memories carefully until they shine. The need to record my life is as fundamental as my need to breathe. Without MyFace, I'm floating. I have nothing to anchor me down, to prove I exist.”
― Louise O'Neill

“She ran straight into Leo’s open arms, unable to stop the tears from falling, feeling at last defended, like a single musical note that had finally found the symphony to which it belonged.”
― Natasha Lester, Her Mother's Secret

“Warhol will plant a journalism seed in me. He will also defend me in his diary, which will be published posthumously a few years from now and point out a thing no one currently acknowledges but that I will feel acutely--Warhol will describe his experience of my father and privately criticize Frank for viewing me as something he alone invented, a tool at my dad's disposal. When this icon's journal entries are made public, they wll become concrete validation and confirmation of my own unarticulated experience, a tiny light in the dark that lets me start to see my way out.”
― Moon Unit Zappa, Earth to Moon: A Memoir

“Make your praise specific, not "You're a great poet," but, "I love that line about green hair the color of Sprite cans." Sweeping compliments are often dismissed by teenagers and can make them feel the pressure of unrealistic expectations. When you respond specifically to something concrete they have already done, they can really take it in.”
― Susan Noyes Anderson, At the End of Your Rope, There's Hope : Parenting Teens in Crisis

“Y'know you act like you're owning up to being a lameass. But you're socially awkward and you're a pain to deal with. You've got a big attitude. We can all see that from just lookin' at ya. But, even so, who even gives a crap about that? How can any of us feel disappointed when we see how something that hurts us hurts you, too, and how stupidly serious you can be, worrying about it? Why do you have to apologize when you just did what's natural and we've done the same to you? Did you really think that'd be enough to piss us off? Get real, dude! No one like that exists here in Furin! It doesn't matter how socially awkward you are, or what a pain you can be! You still charge straight into trouble just to protect your friends! You're really cool for it, too! I... no, we... really, seriously like you for you who are!”
― Satoru Nii, WIND BREAKER 8

“So much of being adult is reconciling ourselves with the awkwardness and strangeness of our own feelings. Youth is the time of life lived for some imaginary audience.”
― Douglas Coupland, Girlfriend in a Coma

“I am blessed because I say I am. I am lucky because I say I am. I am favored because I say I am. That is all that is needed.”
― Robin S. Baker

“Flowers bloom in secret. Animals build in silence. Humans crave attention.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson, These Words Pour Like Rain

“Lower your expectations from others, and raise your self reliance.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson, These Words Pour Like Rain

“God’s word is a safe space for communication, correction, revitalization, restoration, preservation and validation. It establishes a fundamental basis for understanding the divine revelation.”
― Gift Gugu Mona, The Infallible Word of God: 365 Inspirational Quotes

“You've willingly placed yourself under restrictions to achieve this or that, unconsciously following a set of rules that limit who you truly are. Is the constant, never-ending chase for validation worth the bargain? How many years of your life will you trade before realising that none of it was ever truly worth living for?”
― Blade Seventh

“I think all of us need to do a better job of seeing the humanity of people on the other side of the aisle. Because I think what happens in this country right now is: The left says to the right, “What do you know about pain, white straight man? My pain is real, as an L.G.B.T.Q. person.â€� And the right says to the left, “What do you know about pain, college-educated, cosmopolitan élite? My pain is real, in a post-industrial community ravaged by the opioid crisis.â€� And I know that, when I am upset, the worst thing that someone can say to me, even if it is said with the best of intentions, is “It’s not as bad as you think.â€� Any therapist will tell you that the first step to healing is to have your pain seen and validated. And I think all of us have to do a better job of recognizing that people don’t have to be right in our mind for what they’re facing to be wrong. And people don’t have to be right in our minds for us to try to right that wrong. That comes down to sort of a core recognition that every single person is more than just one thing about them. And every single person is more than even beliefs that might personally hurt many other people.”
― Sarah McBride

“That's the point about representation. It isn't always about us putting up billboards that say, 'We need people of color represented because we want people of color represented.' It's often about how those marks of validation sit in our subconscious, or how we avoid talking ourselves out of the gifts that people would seek to weaponize against us.”
― William Evans, Black Nerd Problems

“Our feelings need validation. When we dare to share our true feelings, what we seek is validation and support. Not criticism. Not correction. Not solutions. What we need is to be heard, understood, and validated. Remember this when someone speaks openly with you. Validation is a profound form of love.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Hope Evermore: Quotes, Verse, & Spiritual Inspiration for Every Day of the Year

“Con lo fácil que sería tener los dos ojos morados o una enfermedad que pudiera definirse fácilmente, una herida, un hueso roto... cualquier cosa que pudiera ser vista y comprendida.”
― Rachel Yoder, Nightbitch