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“Give your friendships the magic you would give a romance. Because they're just as important. Actually, for us, they're way more important.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“She's happy with who she is. Maybe it's not the heteronormative dream that she grew up wishing for, but... knowing who you are and loving yourself is so much better than that, I think.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I’m not gay,â€� said Raphael. “I’m not straight. I’m not interested.â€� “Your sexuality is ‘not interestedâ€�?â€� Alec asked curiously. Raphael said, “That’s right.”
― Cassandra Clare, The Red Scrolls of Magic

“People are really out there just â€� thinking about having sex all the time and they can’t even help it?â€� I spluttered. ‘People have dreams about it because they want it that much? How the â€� I’m losing it. I thought all the movies were exaggerating, but you’re all really out there just craving genitals and embarrassment. This has to be some kind of huge joke.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Picturing fanfic characters having sex? Great. Fine. Sexy. But picturing myself having sex with anyone, guy, girl, whoever, didn’t interest me. No â€� it was more than that. It was an immediate fucking turn-off.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Sunil said he felt indifferent about sex. I’d never heard anyone talk about sex like that before. Like it was a takeaway cuisine you thought was OK, but you wouldn’t personally choose it.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Some people misinterpret aesthetic appreciation, romantic attraction, or sexual arousal as being sexual attraction, only to realize later that they are asexual.”
― Julie Sondra Decker, The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

“--the ethereal, fine-nerved, sensitive girl, quite unfitted by temperament and instinct to fulfil the conditions of the matrimonial relation with Phillotson, possibly with scarce any man...”
― Thomas Hardy, Jude the Obscure

“I didn’t even know what was wrong. Everything. Myself. I didn’t know. How come everyone else could function and I couldn’t? How could everyone live properly yet I had some sort of error in my programming?”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“It wasn’t that she hated the idea of sex, just . . . she didn’t want it. Didn’t need it. But no one else ever seemed to feel that way”
― Elyse Springer

“I don't like kissing."

"I suppose it is a matter of taste."[...]"I wondered, did anyone ever," shrug, "you know, hurt you so you don't like kissing? love?"

"Nope."[...]

"I thought maybe someone had been bad to you in the past, and that was why you don't like people touching or holding you."

"Ah damn it to hell," she bangs the lamp down on the desk and the flame jumps wildly.
"I said no. I haven't been raped or jilted or abused in any fashion. There is nothing in my background to explain the way I am." She steadies her voice, taking the impatience out of it. "I'm the odd one out, the peculiarity in my family, because they are all normal and demonstrative physically. But ever since I can remember, I've disliked close contact...charge contact, emotional contact, as well as any overtly sexual contact. I veer away from it, because it always feels like the other person is draining something out of me. I know that's irrational, but that's the way I feel."

She touches the lamp and the flaring light stills.

"I spent a considerable amount of time when I was, o, adolescent, wondering why I was different, whether there were other people like me. Why, when everyone else was facinated by their developing sexual nature, I couldn't give a damn. I've never been attracted to men. Or women. Or anything else. It's difficult to explain, and nobody has ever believed it when I have tried to explain, but while I have an apparently normal female body, I don't have any sexual urge or appetite. I think I am a neuter.”
― Keri Hulme, The Bone People

“Maybe it's the gay friends I have but they're all like... Sex! Exclamation mark exclamation mark! Which is extremely wonderful for them - I'm not saying they should be any other way - but. They're good at casual sex. I can't even imagine having it. I don't think any of my friends could put up with dating a guy who doesn't want to have sex. It's hard enough feeling like you're an outsider with most people because you're gay! And so you have to work harder to find your people. But you do it, you meet other gay guys, you manage to become friends with some of them, and then it still turns out you don't fit in. You're still different. What do you do then?”
― Cynthia So, If You Still Recognise Me

“The thing is,' Gwen said, muffled again against her dress, 'I think I could love a man. I just...haven't. I don't notice many people in that way. And if I could love a man, then surely I should try. It would make everything so much easier.'
'You could,' said Arthur. 'You could fall in love with a man, and know that you once liked Bridget, and neither of those things would change the other. They would both be true. But right now you do like Bridget. So I don't think you should settle for a life that denies that particular truth.”
― Lex Croucher, Gwen & Art Are Not in Love

“If a person who has trouble believing sex could be unenjoyable can imagine a person they are not attracted to at all, and then try to imagine whether they could enjoy sex with that person, they might have some understanding of how an asexual person might be feeling about sex. Many asexual people feel that way about all potential partners. Just like most straight guys can’t imagine liking sex with another man, many asexual people would not enjoy the act—not because they’re doing it wrong, but because people just aren’t sexually attractive to them.”
― Julie Sondra Decker, The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

“She said it wasn’t unheard of for people to identify as asexual, meaning those who were "ace" didn’t experience attraction in the same way others did. Sex-positive or sex-repulsed, there was no wrong way to be.
"So I’m not malfunctioning?" Vic asked nervously, mulling the word "asexual" over in his mind.
"You are not," Nurse Ratched had replied. "I also do not experience sexual attraction, and I am perfect. The same could arguably be said about you.”
― T.J. Klune, In the Lives of Puppets

“Romance is supposed to be great, and not being able to like anyone isn't normal, because any regular person would definitely-"
"But you feel like you don't get it. Then why should you have to do it? Why would you force yourself to do something that doesn't feel natural?”
― Uta Isaki, Is Love the Answer?

“Nobody talks about breaking up with your friends. It sucks. Especially when that friend ditches you to be with whoever they think is The One.”
― Ann Zhao, Dear Wendy

“He had found refuge in imagining a lover who would catch him up in a bearlike hug and promise instead, "this is enough. This is more than enough, and I love you for you, and I want you happy." He had imagined, in every iteration, ricocheting joy and tears and a relief so strong he could no breathe.”
― Elizabeth Wambheim, More Than Enough

“She said it wasn’t unheard of for people to identify as asexual, meaning those who were ‘aceâ€� didn’t experience attraction in the same way others did. Sex-positive or sex-repulsed, there was no wrong way to be.
‘So I’m not malfunctioning?� Vic asked nervously, mulling the word ‘asexual� over in his mind.
‘You are not,â€� Nurse Ratched had replied. ‘I also do not experience sexual attraction, and I am perfect. The same could arguably be said about you.”
― T.J. Klune

“I think I might have a crush.

Shit.”
― Amanda DeWitt, Wren Martin Ruins It All

“I don't need another person to heal my heart. I don't need a partner... at least, not until and unless I'm ready on my own terms. I don't need to be forced-shipped with anyone or wear anybody else's label. For the first time in a long time, I feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.”
― Rick Riordan, The Tyrant’s Tomb

“Assexual.
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Eu voltei para as palavras até elas parecerem reais na minha cabeça, no mínimo. Talvez elas não fossem reais na cabeça da maioria das pessoas, mas eu poderia fazer com que fossem reais para mim. Eu podia fazer a porra que eu bem entendesse.”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“I still couldn’t quite imagine a scenario in which I would fall for someone, but I was going to make it happen, and I was going to enjoy it”
― Alice Oseman, Loveless

“Asexual. The prefix 'a-' means 'not.' Hasn't my life always been about what I'm not? Not pretty, not athletic, not interested, not ready--but now here's this word that tells me that what I am not is actually what I am. Something--I'm something.”
― Karen Wilfrid, Just Lizzie

“And still, it's hard to find people like me. The asexual community is small enough as it is; there are fewer aromantic people and even fewer people who are both.”
― Ann Zhao, Dear Wendy

“And that really made me think for the first time about how this could happen with any friend who's not also aroace. Like, my person, my closest confidant, will probably always have someone else - a romantic partner - that they're closer to.”
― Ann Zhao, Dear Wendy

“El sexo sin amor conoce el desamor. El amor sin sexo también conoce el amor. El amor y el sexo son el anverso y reverso del las hojas del libro de la vida.”
― Alejandro Mos Riera

“El sexo sin amor conoce el desamor. El amor sin sexo también conoce el amor. El amor y el sexo son el anverso y reverso de las hojas del libro de la vida.”
― Alejandro Mos Riera

“Lei failed to grasp why everyone cared. He could not imagine sharing his life with someone the same way his parents did. No one ever caught his eye the way boys caught Ninshee's attention. While he wished she would talk of something else, the detailed accounts of her exploits did not bother him. If anything, he found them amusing. It was when the conversation turned to him that he grew uncomfortable. He would be nobody's wife, but his few attempts to explain his lack of interest had met with dismissal and ridicule.”
― Danny Ride, The Stones Stay Silent

“She’d told him she was asexual at the end of ninth grade—and when he told her he thought he’d never find a boyfriend, she’d told him she was also aromantic and had no desire to date. Early in their freshman year, she’d gone on dates with Jade Miller and Keenan Price just to be nice, but she told them after one date that she didn’t feel a connection.”
― Kenneth Creech, Fate, Coincidence, and Other Curse Words