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“Traumatic events destroy the sustaining bonds between individual and community. Those who have survived learn that their sense of self, of worth, of humanity, depends upon a feeling of connection with others. The solidarity of a group provides the strongest protection against terror and despair, and the strongest antidote to traumatic experience. Trauma isolates; the group re-creates a sense of belonging. Trauma shames and stigmatizes; the group bears witness and affirms. Trauma degrades the victim; the group exalts her. Trauma dehumanizes the victim; the group restores her humanity.
Repeatedly in the testimony of survivors there comes a moment when a sense of connection is restored by another person��s unaffected display of generosity. Something in herself that the victim believes to be irretrievably destroyed---faith, decency, courage---is reawakened by an example of common altruism. Mirrored in the actions of others, the survivor recognizes and reclaims a lost part of herself. At that moment, the survivor begins to rejoin the human commonality...”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

“I think there's something to the old saying that women use sex to get love, and men use love to get sex. And love is really just a word we use to describe a close bond, or relationship, between two people. Men have been programmed to want sex, so they do whatever is necessary to be in a relationship with a woman. And a woman is programmed to want the stability and (financial) security of a relationship, so she offers the man what he wants: sex.”
― Oliver Markus, Why Men And Women Can't Be Friends

“A slip of the foot may injure your body, but a slip of the tongue will injure your bond.”
― Amit Kalantri, Wealth of Words

“I held out the packet and suddenly we were friends. That's one of the only good things about being a smoker these days. You're part of a persecuted minority. You bond easily.”
― Anthony Horowitz, Magpie Murders

“True love can demolish any obstacles �C even bond those two who are completely different creatures, because with their souls, they are one��”
― Tamuna Tsertsvadze, The Mermaid and the Centaur

“Differences of opinion may occur between husband and wife. But one's objective in marriage is never to win an argument, but to build an eternal relationship of love.”
― Russell M. Nelson, Accomplishing the Impossible: What God Does, What We Can Do

“If it's public, it's not bonding.”
― Will Advise

“Go figure, that happened to be his same style of flirtation as well��annoy her half to death until, before she could stop herself, she confessed her deep darks and bonded with him to a degree she never had before.”
― Katherine McIntyre, Forged Alliances

“Accountability is the glue that bonds commitment to results.”
― Will Craig, Living the Hero's Journey

“The rituals, the male bonding. When we get together there��s this kind of pack mentality. We get carried away.”
― Lucy Foley, The Guest List

“Christians who like to write might do as a description of the genus. But the actual species shared more precise characteristics, including intellectual vivacity, love of death, conservative politics, memories of war, and a passion for beef, beer, and verbal battle.”
― Philip Zaleski, The Fellowship: The Literary Lives of the Inklings: J.R.R. Tolkien, C.S. Lewis, Owen Barfield, Charles Williams

“We gradually accepted each other with our strengths and weaknesses. And now, I think, we have started to enjoy our differences more”
― Swati Kumar, The Great Indian Dilemma

“Strength alone does not create human bonds. The world is filled with more warmth than that.”
― Kyouta Shibano, �ե�����`�ƥ��� �⁻ ��ҧ��˫�o 1 [Fear�� Teiru Gaiden Seib��t��su no S��ry�� 1]

“To boost bonding among others so they are more apt to work (or play) well together, ask them, when together, to do two powerfully simple things that can be done rather quickly:
1. Write down the ways they are like each other. Hint: Create a level playing field. Writing rather than immediately sharing helps slow thinkers keep up with fast thinkers. Fast thinkers aren't smarter, just different in their thinking processes, and each kind has advantages and pitfalls, so they can accomplish more together than when a majority in a group think and speak at the same speed. Hint: Salespeople are often fast thinkers.
2. Share with each other what they wrote, going around the circle, one by one.
Bonus benefit: Other studies show that when you reflect on how you are similar to those with whom you are talking, you pay more attention to them. You care about them more. That spurs the other person to listen more closely to you.”
― Kare Anderson, Mutuality Matters More Living a Happy, Meaningful and Satisfying Life With Others

“Remember that every child and every parent has a completely unique and special rela- tionship. That child knows his dad and loves his dad. Our job is to watch that communication, to nurture it, and to support the parents in their heart-to-heart relationships with their children”
― Vimala McClure, The Tao of Motherhood

“Maybe it was our shared trauma, or maybe it was a combination of things, but I felt warmth emenate from my heart and spread throughout my chest.”
― Theresa Braun, Dead over Heels

“The family that reads together grows together!”
― Carmela Dutra

“I love mockingbirds, but I cannot rehab them because they imprint, or bond, or whatever you choose to call it. Young ravens and crows are worse. In their quest for attention and affection, they are akin to domestic dogs. And when you placate young wild animals with a tender human touch, it changes them forever. So rehabbers have to reject the overtures of creatures who attempt to bond, to ensure they retain their wild nature. Some people are good at this. I am not. I have too much of what John Keats called negative capability as well as a close corollary, empathy. When birds arrive at my door lost, broken, and terrified, the distinctions between us fall away, and they are no longer wild animals separate from my humanity. Instead, I am right there with them, sharing their troubles, fear, and pain. I see myself in them and want to protect, love, and reassure them.”
― Terry Masear, Fastest Things on Wings: Rescuing Hummingbirds in Hollywood

“Music is the social act of communication among people, a gesture of friendship, the strongest there is.”
― Malcolm Arnold

“In a few moments, pale yellow-green dots flashed all around them. The longer they waited, the more dots appeared, little stars twinkling just for them.
"Are these fireflies?"
Sanna nodded. "There are always more of them here than in any other part of the orchard. It's better than fireworks."
"We don't have fireflies in California."
Sanna looked around her and gently cupped her hands around a bug that had flown close to them.
"Look inside." She held her hands out to Bass, who peeked between her fingers at the creature who flashed in her makeshift cage.
"Can I try?"
"I insist. We can't go back until you catch your first firefly."
Sanna let hers go and it flew straight for Bass's white T-shirt. He gently cupped it and peeked inside. Watching his eyes widen in amazement, Sanna understood something she'd always missed. While kids were messy, distracting, and obviously a ton of work, they also opened a path to the past. Through Bass's wonder, she felt ten years old again- catching her first fireflies and discovering the magic of the Looms.”
― Amy E. Reichert, The Simplicity of Cider

“As long as water is there,
two banks accompany each other
for a period perpetual.”
― Geeta Tripathee, Simalko Geet

“The existence of homosexuality, not as a circumstantial matter of passing sexual whim, but as a shared condition and identity, raises the intriguing possibility of homosexual culture, or at least of a minority subculture with sexual identity as its base. At the very least, by sympathetic identification with cultural texts which appeared to be affirmative, homosexual people saw a way to shore up their self-respect in the face of constant moral attack, and they found materials with which to justify themselves not only to each other but also to those who found their very existence, let alone their behaviour, unjustifiable.”
― Gregory Woods, A History of Gay Literature: The Male Tradition

“I shivered as the cold was all encompassing, not just from being outdoors, but from being read as well. He had a way of seeing through me. It was as unnerving as it was bonding and I couldn't figure out how the two could co-exist.”
― Donna Lynn Hope, Willow

“We know
The wheel of time moves on
New bonds, new ties ignite
Moments fleet, memories drift, shadows glide
There is always a hope
At the horizon we seek.”
― Balroop Singh, Sublime Shadows Of Life

“So there was no explicit bonding. Certainly not the kind you might be expecting if you like films like The Parent Trap as much as Mizuko and I did. We watched it together once, and I dared to say that we were like two little Lindsay Lohans in the isolation cabin, to which she made a kind of grunt.”
― Olivia Sudjic, Sympathy

“There is very little that is not wasteful and dismal about war. The only clear, deep, good is the special kind of bond welded between people who, having mutually shared a crisis, whether it be a shelling or a machine-gun attack, emerge knowing that those involved behaved well. There is much pretence in our everyday life, and, with a skilful manner, much can be concealed. But with a shell whistling at you there is not much time to pretend and a person��s qualities are starkly revealed. You believe that you can trust what you have seen. It is a feeling that makes old soldiers, old sailors, old airmen, and even old war correspondents, humanly close in a way shut off to people who have not shared the same thing. I think that correspondents, because they are rarely in a spot where their personal strength or cowardice can affect the life of another, probably feel only an approximation of this bond. So far as I am concerned, even this approximation is one of the few emotions about which I would say: It��s as close to being absolutely good as anything I know.”
― Marguerite Higgins

“He didn��t want to be an absentee father. He didn��t want to be like his own father, who thought being a provider was his only obligation to his family.
There was a hell of a lot more to parenthood than providing all the material necessities. Rafael wanted to be there for all the school plays, the soccer games. He wanted to be the one to put money under his kid��s pillow when he lost a tooth and pretend that it was the tooth fairy.
He wanted to be a father. The best father he could be.”
― Maya Banks, Enticed by His Forgotten Lover

“Social rituals enhance social bonding between commune members and encourage togetherness, which increase members�� perceived value of the inside option and thus alleviate brain drain. Rituals also mitigate adverse selection by demanding a hard-to-fake, costly signal of commitment to the commune.”
― Ran Abramitzky, The Mystery of the Kibbutz: Egalitarian Principles in a Capitalist World

“Building a bridge requires the help of other people. It is an active process involving connections, bonding, and collaboration; working together, we build a newer and richer mutual understanding.”
― Lisa Fain, Bridging Differences for Better Mentoring: Lean Forward, Learn, Leverage

“Being attached to another person is what makes us human. So, if you say that attachment is bad, you are saying that life is bad.”
― Abhijit Naskar