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“No one is likable from the inside out.”
― Colleen Hoover, Verity

“We have a world full of women who are unable to exhale fully because they have for so long been conditioned to fold themselves into shapes to make themselves likeable.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions

“We are far more revealing by the questions we ask than the answers we give. Answer briefly to sense where their questions are heading.”
― Kare Anderson, Mutuality Matters How You Can Create More Opportunity, Adventure & Friendship With Others

“Often in literary criticism, writers are told that a character isn't likable, as if a character's likability is directly proportional to the quality of a novel's writing.”
― Roxane Gay, Bad Feminist

“In many ways, likability is a very elaborate lie, a performance, a code of conduct dictating the proper way to be. Characters who don't follow this code become unlikable. Critics who criticize a character's unlikability cannot necessarily be faulted. They are merely expressing a wider cultural malaise with all things unpleasant, all things that dare to breach the norm of social acceptability.”
― Roxanne Gay

“Early in 1967 Highsmith's agent told her why her books did not sell in paperback in America. It was, said Patricia Schartle Myrer, because they were 'too subtle', combined with the fact that none of her characters were likeable. 'Perhaps it is because I don't like anyone,' Highsmith replied. 'My last books may be about animals'.”
― Andrew Wilson, Patricia Highsmith, ζωή στο σκοτάδι

“In conversation, he came off as if he was enjoying a private joke at your expense. When he sang, though, he sounded as if he believed every word with all his heart. And it became hard to dislike him.”
― Sebastian Rotella

“To boost bonding among others so they are more apt to work (or play) well together, ask them, when together, to do two powerfully simple things that can be done rather quickly:
1. Write down the ways they are like each other. Hint: Create a level playing field. Writing rather than immediately sharing helps slow thinkers keep up with fast thinkers. Fast thinkers aren't smarter, just different in their thinking processes, and each kind has advantages and pitfalls, so they can accomplish more together than when a majority in a group think and speak at the same speed. Hint: Salespeople are often fast thinkers.
2. Share with each other what they wrote, going around the circle, one by one.
Bonus benefit: Other studies show that when you reflect on how you are similar to those with whom you are talking, you pay more attention to them. You care about them more. That spurs the other person to listen more closely to you.”
― Kare Anderson, Mutuality Matters More Living a Happy, Meaningful and Satisfying Life With Others

“I'm not holding a grudge. I just don't like you.”
― Brian Spellman

“It's hard not to like a man who not only notices the colors, but speaks them.”
― Markus Zusak, The Book Thief

“I hate the concept of likeability—it gave us two terms of George Bush, whom a plurality of voters wanted to have a beer with, and Facebook. You’d unfriend a lot of people if you knew them as intimately and unsparingly as a good novel would. But not the ones you actually love.”
― Jonathan Franzen

“We tend to like each other better when walking, sitting or standing side by side or at right angles from each other.”
― Kare Anderson, Mutuality Matters How You Can Create More Opportunity, Adventure & Friendship With Others

“This is the Law of Likability: The real you is the best you.”
― Michelle Tillis Lederman, 11 Laws of Likability

“Joogtaynta qabashada waxa aad jeceshahay waa waa jaranjarada jagada aad jamatay.”
― Abdirahman Habane

“When you sense yourself about to commit an unfriendly act, talk yourself out of it by asking yourself two questions and making two statements. They won't all apply at the same time, but at least one of them should work.
- Will this fix anything?
- Is this how I want to be remembered?
- You are welcome here.
- I should be helping you.”
― Tim Sanders, The Likeability Factor: How to Boost Your L-Factor and Achieve Your Life's Dreams

“a person's faults are largely what make him or her likable”
― Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life