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“Grief is visceral, not reasonable: the howling at the center of grief is raw and real. It is love in its most wild form.”
― Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK

“We do not "get over" a death. We learn to carry the grief and integrate the loss in our lives. In our hearts, we carry those who have died. We grieve and we love. We remember.”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“We've got this idea that there are only two options in grief: you're either going to be stuck in your pain, doomed to spend the rest of your life rocking in a corner in your basement wearing sackcloth, or you're going to triumph over grief, be transformed, and come back even better than you were before.
Just two options. On, off. Eternally broken or completely healed.
It doesn't seem to matter that nothing else in life is like that. Somehow when it comes to grief, the entire breadth of human experience goes out the window.”
― Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK

“Grieving is intense and it is non-stop intense. Even if things are quiet, and you're sitting there in your chair, kind of staring off into space, inside, the intensity is raging. - Lori Ennis”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“What we need to remember -- as a working practice -- is to honor all griefs. Honor all losses, small and not small. Life changing and moment changing. And then, not to compare them. That all people experience pain is not medicine for anything.”
― Megan Devine, It's OK That You're Not OK

“There are days worth living still, worth the pain of this life and the pain of their deaths.

I guess I'm just asking you a favor, in the end:

Don't give up before the future comes around that was meant for you, okay?”
― Tara Wine-Queen, Tenderness and Troubling Times: A Collection of Stories

“We do not have control over many things in life and death but we do have control over the meaning we give it.”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“There is no right way to grieve; there is only your way to grieve and that is different for everyone.”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“Trust your partner's way of coping to be the best they are able to do and be at every moment in time.”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“The best advice that I got during counseling: Don't judge your spouse's grief response. Give them the freedom to grieve their own way. - Rachel Crawford”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“Just because we lost a life, doesn't mean we have to lose ourselves. - Tamara Gabriel”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“Honestly, death took on a totally different meaning for me in the past years.....I don't feel the fear or trepidation about death that I used to feel. I felt tired of living.”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“To lose your child, to have her spirited away like something from a fairy tale, surely that must be every mother’s nightmare.”
― Elly Griffiths, The Crossing Places

“I don't think we had a joint mission to keep our relationship together. It was like: "Every man for himself." I was in so much pain, I wasn't really looking out for your interests. I didn't have the facility or resource to really do that, to be there for you. Thankfully everything held together. Our love for each other kept on a progression. It could have easily gone the other way." - Jonathan Pascual”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“When my wife and I lost our son, we had similar but very different experiences. She felt she was caught in a blizzard and she doesn't remember the six months after we lost him. For me, it was like everything that I had known burnt to the ground, this field or forest that was turned to ash, burning, smoldering. How do I make sense of a world where this can happen? - Sean Hanish”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“There are many different ways in which individuals express, experience, and adapt to grief. Understanding and accepting different ways of grieving lies at the heart of surviving your loss as a couple. Understanding is helpful but not absolutely necessary. Acceptance of your partner's approach however is a necessity. If you have not reached acceptance, make it your first priority.”
― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“To lose a parent or a lifelong friend is often to lose the past: the person who died may be the only other living witness to golden events of long ago. But to lose a child is to lose the future: what is lost is no less than one’s life project—what one lives for, how one projects oneself into the future, how one may hope to transcend death (indeed, one’s child becomes one’s immortality project).”
― Irvin D. Yalom, Love's Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy

“Grief is a silent conversation with yourself in the middle of feeling your heart crack. It's an expression to prove how deeply you feel.”
― Nikki rowe

“Grief shakes our foundations so hard sometimes it can open up cracks for healing to seep in”
― James Reed Anderson

“But that family was alone. They would be alone no matter who came or how much food was brought to the house afterwards. The father of a dead son, when that son had no brothers, must stand alone with his surname dying in his mind. The mother of a dead son must stand alone even among her sisters with the memory of that child's birth and the wasted milk of his nursing.”
― Christopher Buehlman, Those Across the River

“I’d spent seven months of my life obsessively and delightedly planning for a future that included months of caring for an infant. I expected my entire life to revolve around the person who had been closer & realer to me than anyone. Now she was suddenly and inexplicably missing from my life. My life with her and I am been so close I could taste it..”
― Brooke D. Taylor, Unimaginable: Life After Baby Loss

“I never know when I'll sense Reid's presence. It isn't in a toothbrush left behind or a frequently worn item of clothing. It's in the absences that I feel him most. It's everywhere that I had imagined he'd one day be.
For me, he is more than a body. I knew the soul, not the flesh. When I look at photos of him, I miss him, but not in the same way I miss him when I look at photos of myself pregnant.
He is a feeling. He is a feeling more than anything because of the simple fact that he died before he was born. Because he was stillborn. He is not defined by this, but the definition matters. I was meant to be his portal, the one that would lead him from his world into ours, but he left for another world, one altogether foreign to me.”
― Emma Hansen, Still: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Motherhood

“Though he died before anyone got to know him, he still made an impact, is still loved, and that many are grieving his death. We are not alone in this loss.”
― Emma Hansen, Still: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Motherhood

“I always thought, somehow, that death would follow the rules. This was supposed to be a beginning; now we are at an end.”
― Emma Hansen, Still: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Motherhood

“What happens when the order of birth and death are disrupted? Stillbirth goes against the way most people think about life and death, and the timeline in which they occur. It's unsettling.

When death takes a life before birth, is it a life? I don't know. I don't think there will ever be an answer that feels certain, or one that is right for everyone. But right here, right now, I wonder, is it really just a single breath of air that creates a life? And the absence of it that makes a death?”
― Emma Hansen, Still: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Motherhood

“But I can't figure out how to keep Reid alive in my heart without the ache. Will it always be like this? I have to believe it will get better. But then, do I want it to? Because when it gets better, what will be lost in the process? Already, I know that it will come with a price.”
― Emma Hansen, Still: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Motherhood

“When a baby dies before they have a chance to create their own story, I think one of the biggest fears parents have is that they will disappear, be forgotten. It's up to those who knew them to spread their legacy, should that be something that's in their hearts to do.”
― Emma Hansen, Still: A Memoir of Love, Loss, and Motherhood

“To witness your child's death is a hell too heavy for the fabrics of language. Words simply collapse.”
― Suleika Jaouad, Between Two Kingdoms: A Memoir of a Life Interrupted

“When parents die, they leave behind legacy.
When children die, they leave behind shattered dreams,
which pierce your whole “being� like sharp pieces of broken glass".
â€� Neena Verma, "Grief ~ Growth ~ Grace â€� A Sacred Pilgrimage", Page 13”
― Neena Verma, GRIEF GROWTH GRACE

“hardest to talk about is the loss of a child. It is not without reason that such a traumatic loss is called the ultimate bereavement. No parent can ever be strong enough to contemplate the thought of outliving their child.â€�
â€� Neena Verma, Grief ~ Growth ~ Grace â€� A Sacred Pilgrimage, Page 13”
― Neena Verma, GRIEF GROWTH GRACE