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“Wait,' Della said 'Let me see if I understand... you want me to tell her this?' Sarcasm spilled out with her words.
'Yeah,' he said as if he didn't understand her issue.
'Why don't you tell her?' Della slipped a hand on her hip.
He made a face. 'Shes's your ghost.'
'My ghost? Why the hell is she my ghost?'
'Because she's closer to you.'
'Says who?'
He opened his mouth and nothing came out right away. Then words spurted out of his lips. 'Because...Because...' His eyes widened as if he figured something out. 'Because she gave you the picture of Natasha. And Natasha has some connection to your family.'
His reasoning made sense, perfect sense, but Della didn't want to see it that way. Refused to see it that way. She didn't want to be alone with some dead person. Sharing it with him wasn't the ideal situation, but she hadn't come up with this plan.
'That doesn't make her mine,' Della insisted 'She talks to both of us. We've got joint custody here, buddy. You should have thought about this before you bonded with me And don't try to skip out of your responsibility.'
'It's a ghost,' he said 'Not a baby.”
― C.C. Hunter, Eternal

“They throw rice at a new marriage, then give him beans in a divorcement.”
― Anthony Liccione

“If a woman makes a unilateral decision to bring pregnancy to term, and the biological father does not, and cannot, share in this decision, he should not be liable for 21 years of support... autonomous women making independent decisions about their lives should not expect men to finance their choice.”
― Karen Decrow

“I am grieved for my children—and boy’s in particular—that this modern age is emasculating men under the guise of “the best interest of the childrenâ€�.”
― H. Kirk Rainer

“If children matter, than whom more to stand in the gap than their parents; yet sadly, the parents (or a parent) can ironically become the chief enemy for which the children may hold in contempt…rather than care. Under the “abuse cardâ€�, the custodial parent has the aforementioned ability to operate as a double agent: on the one-side, the protector and caretaker; while on the other side, the divider and abuser. Similarly, the state can be integral to The System of dismantling the dad while appearing (and attesting) to be acting in the best interest of the children. Within the second of these two is the divorce industry that has benefited from the spoils of war without regard to the incomparable costs borne by our community and culture.”
― H. Kirk Rainer, A Once and Always Father

“But Owen agreed to settle, to spare the children. Anyone who's worked in that field knows that the person who cares more about the children usually loses.”
― Wendy Walker, Emma in the Night

“I advocate for fatherhood because of the trauma I experienced as a father. When I separated from my daughters mother, she literally tried to destroy my relationship with my daughter. She did everything she could to jeapordize me and my daughters daddy-daughter relationship. She prioritized maternal control over the presence of paternal love. She was willing to hurt her own daughter in an effort to hurt me because she was jealous that I got married and was happy with my new family. I want to help create a world where no father and no daughter ever has to suffer the way me and my daughter did because of a divorce or separation.”
― Hendrith Vanlon Smith Jr

“When divorce or separation involves mutual children, it's often the father who suffers the most as a parent and the children who suffer in regards to their relationship with their dad. During my separation, my daughters mom used our daughter as a weapon in an effort to hurt me. She knew that I love my daughter immensely and so she would do all kinds of manipulative tricks to get in the way of our daddy daughter relationship in an effort to cause me emotional pain. She was willing to cause our daughter emotional pain in her effort to cause me emotional pain. Unfortunately, millions of fathers and children have experienced this pain. It has to end.”
― Hendrith Vanlon Smith Jr

“How can you be a 'Former-Father'? Is it possible to be a father but, because someone or something is determined to illegalize it, being a father becomes a thing of the past? Should you simply consign yourself to be effectively dead to your living children; as though the fact of being their father has somehow been terminated, nullified or otherwise, deemed non-existent? I believe the basic answer to be 'No!”
― H. Kirk Rainer

“The idea of hostages is very deep. Becoming pregnant is taking a hostage–as is running a pawnshop, being a bank, receiving a letter, taking a photograph, or listening to a confidence. Every love story, every commercial trade, every secret, every matter in which trust is involved, is a gentle transaction of hostages. Everything is, to a degree, in the custody of every other thing.”
― Renata Adler, Speedboat

“In the closing of this chapter, Lutzer describes the choice of forgiveness in more detail: 'Without both honesty and
forgiveness, there can be no freedom from the fits of rage.'
What happens through the years when such anger is left unattended or is unresolved (or forgiveness is not pursued)? Without forgiveness, does the anger dissipate or possibly fade away? I don’t think so; but instead, anger continues in one’s life and is carried into their adulthood. What kind or level of control can manifest (or grow) in this unresolved anger; and as for the person or carrier, what can be expected of their heart and soul?”
― H. Kirk Rainer

“Roughly a month into my stay in jail, I began the first of twelve letters. The choice of titles had much to do with my reason (or circumstances) for being incarcerated: I was a parent of a past-marriage; and though the courts had dissolved the marriage long ago, the matter of parenting was still being debated (by me)—but prohibited by the courts. I had to accept the possibility that my days as a father might be behind me while remaining dutiful to the possibility that, at anytime, circumstances could change. On the one hand, I am a former-father, but on the other hand, I cannot be anything but a father to my children—at any age.”
― H. Kirk Rainer, A Father and Future Felon

“I begin the chapter and book on very elementary reasoning and a simple description: this description of relationships developed naturally and socially; this reasoning that such relationships have long-existed and are very important—even eternal to those called 'special people'. My own freedom to choose this elementary reasoning has something to do with firsthand experience as one whose role has been reduced to the realm of illegal…with all the punishment. Such reasoning has consumed me in moments and has prevailed for as long as my role has been at risk.”
― H. Kirk Rainer, A Father and Future Felon

“A faraway-father is distant from his children; not necessarily in geography, but socially—either by choice or by force. Our country has many fathers who are figuratively-forced far and away from their families. Legal force brings to bear disparate dads through such innovations as no-fault divorce, legal precedence, and post-divorce incrimination. I am one of these parents—portrayed or profiled as 'perpetrator'.”
― H. Kirk Rainer, A Father and Future Felon

“Fear is a subject that I have become increasingly aware of—the result of a period that I call post-divorce. Admittedly aware of the general concerns about “fallingâ€� too, I am more concerned about the burdens of a non-custodial—the dilemma of parental alienation with absolute liability for financial support. If any 'positive' aspect could be extracted from the non-custodial lifestyle, it is the accelerated-track toward financial distress and familial disparity. What may have occurred in the 1930s in a mass economic-downward spiral of society has similarity to the consequences of the divorce—as I see it.”
― H. Kirk Rainer, A Father and Future Felon

“The criminalization of a non-custodial in not uncommon; such extreme measures of the divorce and post-divorce process can be described as common practice. Stephen Baskerville describes this consequence of no-fault in the article, “Divorced from Reality.”
― H. Kirk Rainer, A Father and Future Felon

“Collectively, THEY BUILD HOUSES WITH SHITTY MATERIALS, FAULTY STRUCTURES, TEMPORARY ARRANGEMENTS AND DEFAULT CLOSINGS, WHERE THEY THEN USE FALSE MARKETING AND ADVERTISEMENT TO SELL IT; ALL WHILE ENTERTAINING DECEPTIVE TRADE PRACTICES. STILL, I AM PERPLEXED. I AM PERPLEXED, BECAUSE THIS IS ABOUT AS BAD AS A BALLON LOAN, WITH A PRE PAYMENT PENALTY CLAUSE. WHO DOES THAT?”
― Niedria Dionne Kenny

“You can marry the right person today, yet be married to the wrong person someday â€� without having married again.”
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

“Complaining to police internal affairs does not work.”
― Steven Magee

“Given my tough road to motherhood, I considered Shreya a gift bequeathed to both of us. I could not treat her like property and use her as a bargaining chip or tool for reward or punishment while we figured out the next steps. I was clear about that.”
― Ranjani Rao, Rewriting My Happily Ever After - A Memoir of Divorce and Discovery

“That was the end of church for Mom. She retained custody of the kids, and Dad got custody of God.”
― Laurie Zaleski, Funny Farm: My Unexpected Life with 600 Rescue Animals

“The Involuntary Princeling by Stewart Stafford

The candle's blaze grows distant fast,
Quenched to an ember spark, unseen,
Carriage taken in larceny's grasp,
Darkness made far bank unclean.

Daubing a sovereign slogan,
In violet shadows unmasked,
A delinquent reunion reprieved,
A doggerel name outcast.

Trade winds howl to storming,
As fireballs 'neath seas seek to atone,
The red-crowned crest now stakes its claim,
On writhed Rosetta's key stone.

© Stewart Stafford, 2024. All rights reserved.”
― Stewart Stafford