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“Occurrences can be unpredictable. If we have to endure a cascade of rumpling coincidences, it’s fate that dictates our lives, taking over the common procedure of ‘timing,â€� and, thus, sealing the bondage of our free choice. Once our choice is kidnapped and strangled to the core, fate checkmates our destiny. (“Wrong time. Wrong placeâ€�)”
― Erik Pevernagie

“... how terrible is the pain of the mind and heart when the freedom of mankind is suppressed!”
― E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly

“True love is built on free will and free choice, not control and manipulation.”
― Ken Poirot

“If a woman had a right to wear a miniskirt, surely I had the right to choose my headscarf. My choice was a sign of independence of mind. Surely, to choose to wear what I wanted was an assertion of my feminism. I was a feminist, wasn't I?

But I was to learn that choosing to wear the hijab is much easier than choosing to take it off. And that lesson was an important reminder of how truly "free" choice is.”
― Mona Eltahawy, Headscarves and Hymens: Why the Middle East Needs a Sexual Revolution

“Most people have no understanding of the psychological changes of captivity. Social judgment of chronically traumatized people therefore tends to be extremely harsh. The chronically abused person's apparent helplessness and passivity, her entrapment in the past, her intractable depression and somatic complaints, and her smoldering anger often frustrate the people closest to her. Moreover, if she has been coerced into betrayal of relationships, community loyalties, or moral values, she is frequently subjected to furious condemnation.

Observers who have never experienced prolonged terror and who have no understanding of coercive methods of control presume that they would show greater courage and resistance than the victim in similar circumstances. Hence the common tendency to account for the victim's behavior by seeking flaws in her personality or moral character. ...

The propensity to fault the character of the victim can be seen even in the case of politically organized mass murder. The aftermath of the Holocaust witnessed a protracted debate regarding the 'passivity' of the Jews and their 'complicity' in their fate. But the historian Lucy Dawidowicz points out that 'complicity' and 'cooperation' are terms that apply to situations of free choice. They do not have the same meaning in situations of captivity.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

“That’s not our role here, provide our parents with a “success storyâ€� to share at gatherings.

Our role here is to contribute the best we can to the society. Use our talents and make sure we add the greatest value possible to other people’s lives.”
― Lukasz Laniecki, You Have The Right Not To Make Your Parents Proud. A Book Of Quotes

“We grow up in a belief system according to which children should always make their parents proud and happy (instead of making themselves proud and happy) - and that’s unfortunately the belief system in most cultures.”
― Lukasz Laniecki, You Have The Right Not To Make Your Parents Proud. A Book Of Quotes

“You are free to the choice that you want, but you are not free from the consequences of that choice. That choice you make today may break or make your family in future.”
― Itayi Garande, Broken Families: How to get rid of toxic people and live a purposeful life

“I am exactly who I am choosing to be. Should I change my choice, the universe will always be there to assist me.”
― Jennifer Sodini

“An approach, according to which children should fulfil their parentsâ€� dreams/ do everything in order to make their parents happy/ provide their parents with a peace of mind, or whatever they want for themselves - because they owe it to them for all those years in which their parents took care of them - is utterly selfish.”
― Lukasz Laniecki, You Have The Right Not To Make Your Parents Proud. A Book Of Quotes

“We are, you see, both masters of our fate and at the mercy of the Moirai--the three Fates who weave our futures and cut them short. And while I still believe we can control the little things in life, those small decisions that add up to the everyday, I think, perhaps, the overall shape of our life is not ours to decide.”
― Katy Hays, The Cloisters

“Parents were good to us, gave us a lot, took care for us when we couldn’t have taken care for ourselves, wanted the best for us, continue to care about us and our future, but none of it is good enough a reason to fulfil their dreams/ do everything in order to make them happy/ provide them with a peace of mind, or whatever they want for themselves.”
― Lukasz Laniecki, You Have The Right Not To Make Your Parents Proud. A Book Of Quotes

“When the absolute free will argument loses
its shining armour, we are left with one
unsettling conclusion; there is but
circumstantial free will. - On the End of Free Will”
― Lamine Pearlheart, To Life from the Shadows

“Once adrift, you can go any direction”
― Erik Tanghe

“In one case, you're hoping someone else will do the right thing. In the other case, you're directing your own life, even if someone else does something stupid. Guess which path is going to be more successful.”
― Dennis Prager, No Safe Spaces

“I understand the need to defend one's headscarf -- I did it for years, even as I was privately struggling with it. It's an important defence in the face of Islamophobes and racists. I get that. But if it's done without cognisance of the lived realities of women who do not have the privilege of choice, then my interlocutors end up doing exactly what they accuse me of doing with my support of a niqab ban: silencing other women. Why the silence, as some of our women fade into black, either owing to identity politics or out of acquiescence to Salafism?”
― Mona Eltahawy, Headscarves and Hymens: Why the Middle East Needs a Sexual Revolution

“When I was a child, I did not know that it mattered whether you loved a man or a woman - I thought you could love whoever you wanted, because love was supposed to be blind. I have always loved men, I can't help it, it is the way I am, the way I feel, and the worst is knowing that Dr Hanson will never love me back, no matter what I do - if I were a woman, I would at least be able to hope that some day I might win his heart but for me that option just does not exist.'' - from ''The Girl Who Was a Gentleman”
― Ann Jane Greenville

“Destiny is the hand that guides us to a moment, but fate is the path we carve from it. We cannot control destiny, but what happens next? That's fate. That's our choice.”
― Jayne Anderson