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“Cheating in relationship is a sign of self-regulation failure. When it happens ones, it is a mistake. When it happens twice, it is unfortunate. But when it happens thrice or more, it is a pattern indicating primitive, uncivilized inhuman behavior.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Two married partners do not just live with each other, they live in each other, neurologically speaking.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Do not seek for the best partner, but seek for the person who makes you a better version of yourself.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Monogamy is not a choice, it is a responsibility of a genuine human.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Let me tell you a story. There was a student who asked his teacher, what is love? The teacher said go into the field and bring me the most beautiful flower. The student returned with no flower at hand and said, “I found the most beautiful flower in the field but I didn't pick it up for I might find a better one, but when I returned to the place, it was gone.â€�
We always look for the best in life. When we finally see it, we take it for granted and after some time start expecting a better one, not knowing that it's the best for us.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“When two people fall in love, they not only give up their genuine authority over their own lives, but also, they become mutual authorities of the collective life that they build together.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Either one is promiscuous or in a relationship - it cannot be both at the same time.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Marriage is not a competition. Marriage is completion of two souls.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“A healthy world is made of healthy nations. A healthy nation is made of healthy families. And a healthy family can only be raised on the foundation of a monogamous relationship.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“True love is born out of the pyre of two committed souls.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Polygamy is a luxury of the cave-people, and monogamy is an existential responsibility of the civilized society.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Cheating is an innate evolutionarily programmed desire, especially in men, but it is not a desire that cannot be controlled.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“A healthy marriage acts as the vessel of wellbeing and stability for both partners as well as the children.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Promoting promiscuity in this evolved and civilized society is actually like signing the Declaration, that says:
“I hereby renounce my membership of humankind, since I am neither human nor kind. I declare that I no longer belong to the modern human species, i.e. the Homo sapiens. From now on I shall be counted among the swingers of the animal kingdom, such as the bonobo or montane vole. I am simply an arrogant philandering savage.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“I knew what I was doing was illegal—in Massachusetts, anyway, because the state was cram-jam full of Catholics—but Doctor Nolan said this doctor was an old friend of hers, and a wise man.

“You’d like a fitting,� he said cheerfully, and I thought with relief that he wasn’t the sort of doctor to ask awkward questions.
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I climbed up on the examination table, thinking: “I am climbing to freedom, freedom from fear, freedom from marrying the wrong person, like Buddy Willard, just because of sex, freedom from the Florence Crittenden Homes where all the poor girls go who should have been fitted out like me, because what they did, they would do anyway, regardless . . .�
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I was my own woman.
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The next step was to find the proper sort of man.”
― Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

“Sex is only a tool in love, not love itself.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Polygamy is about sex, whereas monogamy is about love.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“A human is the one, who would give up a thousand Cleopatras to be with the person he or she loves.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“While the romantic can look a little soppy and self-absorbed, the true lover has a healthy, robust, earthy, strong, and loving attractor field that automatically asks for a like response in their partner. Do not underestimate the capacity of your partner to grow through the intimacy of sexual union. Both men and women need to be strong, confident, forthright, kind, gentle and nurturing. In the bedroom, three are present—the partners and the Divine. Use the openness and vulnerability of the sexual arena to grow closer to God and give that same gift to your loved one.”
― Donna Goddard, The Love of Devotion

“People use sex as a way of trying to complete themselves because they are so fragmented. They are drawn to people who have something that they need. By uniting with them, they think that they will be able to gain the coveted thing.”
― Donna Goddard, Waldmeer