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“The road to your highest achievements leads through environments that support you.”
― Raoul Davis Jr., Firestarters: How Innovators, Instigators, and Initiators Can Inspire You to Ignite Your Own Life

“In the midst of this despondency, I’m not responsible for my feelings. I can’t talk myself out of irritability and apathy. But I am accountable for my behavior, for cracks in my facade.”
― Larry Godwin, Transcending Depression: Quest Without a Compass

“Why doesn’t every fire once kindled, survive and thrive? Why doesn’t every person accomplish her dreams? The simple answer is that the Firestarter’s life is a constant fight against extinction.”
― Raoul Davis Jr., Firestarters: How Innovators, Instigators, and Initiators Can Inspire You to Ignite Your Own Life

“What others view as setbacks, Firestarters see as opportunities to learn and grow more.”
― Raoul Davis Jr., Firestarters: How Innovators, Instigators, and Initiators Can Inspire You to Ignite Your Own Life

“Firestarters are able to make associations between similar situations and use lessons learned from one sphere of their lives to inform actions and thoughts in seemingly unrelated situations. They look for patterns of success, and then they pounce on situations that have proven to be generators of that success.”
― Raoul Davis Jr., Firestarters: How Innovators, Instigators, and Initiators Can Inspire You to Ignite Your Own Life

“Interest isn’t just something you feel. It’s something you live.”
― Raoul Davis Jr., Firestarters: How Innovators, Instigators, and Initiators Can Inspire You to Ignite Your Own Life

“If you feel you don’t know the right people, turn to the next person you see on the street and introduce yourself—that connection could be the key to your future.”
― Raoul Davis Jr., Firestarters: How Innovators, Instigators, and Initiators Can Inspire You to Ignite Your Own Life

“We cannot remove guns once they are made. We can still stop making bullets.

2 Oct International Day of Non Violence”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“BE CAREFUL ABOUT BEING JUDGEMENTAL ABOUT ME. YOU WOULD HAVE TO LIVE WITH THAT IMAGE ALL LIFE.”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“DEMOCRACY ALLOWS ONE TO RIG MINDS. THAT SPACE WAS UNENCROACHABLE IN MONARCHIES.

THE DANCE OF DEMOCRACY”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“THE BOUT HAS ENDED
THE PLAYER HAS NOT

खे�� ख़त्म हु�� है, खिलाड़ी नही��”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“THERE ARE NO LAST
MATCHES IN SPORTS

खे�� कभी ख़त्म नही�� होता”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“YOUR HEAVIEST ORGAN IS YOUR TONGUE.

TONGUE CARRIES MORE WEIGHT THAN ANY OTHER ORGAN OF YOUR BODY.

आपके शरी�� का सबसे वज़नदार अं�� आपकी ज़ुबा�� है��”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“IF I GO WRONG, IT MUST BE AT THE RIGHT SIDE OF THE CAUSE, RATHER THAN BEING RIGHT ON THE WRONG SIDE OF THE CAUSE.”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“I AM NOT WHO I IMAGINE TO BE.

Imagine a room full of projectors. That's your mind. You can never be what you imagined. Since there's too much of imagination happening.”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“THEY LOOK AT MY MOUNTAIN AS THEIR MOUNTAIN LOOKS AT THEM

Why do you stare at my mountain when you have yours to climb?”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“HUNDRED FRIENDS WERE NO HELP. ONE ENEMY MADE ME WHO I AM”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“IF YOU WANT TO BE CREATIVE, TIME MAY BE YOUR FIRST PURCHASE.”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“If you plan to make your hobby your work, make something else your hobby. You will still need hobbies.”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“He failed to try. He tried to fail”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“YOU MAY DOUBT MY CAPABILITY
NOT MY INTENT

मेरी क़ाबलिय�� पे शक़ जाइज़ है, मेरी नियत पर नही��

MERI QABLIYAT PE
SHAQ JAIZ HAI,
MERI NIYAT PAR NAHI.N”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“TAKING RESPONSIBILITY IS THE BEST FORM OF DEFENSE.

Never defend without taking responsibility”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“PEOPLE DON'T COME TO YOU FOR YOUR WEALTH AND SUCCESS. THEY COME TO YOU BECAUSE THEY TRUST YOU TO DO WHAT YOU JUST SAID.”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“HUMANS SUFFER OTHER'S PROGRESS

कष्ट पराई प्रगति

We don't feel because everyone else is suffering too. So this shows us a way to slow down the pace of human life. You need to keep a limit on the earnings. Also this has an explanation of communism. Humans are happy to suffer together. It's the progress of some, that is insufferable for humans.”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor, UNCHESS: Untie Your Shoes and Walk on the Chessboard of Life

“Life is a practiced skill

जीवन एक कौशल अभ्यास है

5 Oct World Teachers Day”
― Vineet Raj Kapoor

“Experienced Professional Certified Coach (PCC). I specialize in personal leadership �� the key to becoming all of who you are meant to be. I partner with you to increase your personal agency and strategic decision-making.”
― lyndahoffman

“Effective leaders know that to maintain their edge they need to see their edge �� and beyond.
They recognize that if they can’t see their own blind spots, patterns and world views, they’ll be making decisions based on erroneous information. Acting on what they believe to be true, rather than on what is actually true, is a great way to guarantee muddy results.

Effective leaders know intuitively that self-awareness is the key to creating desirable results. Coaching is all about developing that deeper awareness by revealing what cannot otherwise be seen.

As a busy executive or professional, you’re already a life-long learner. But how aware are you? Are you applying your curiosity to yourself? Your patterns?

So how does coaching help leaders?
Coaching is the one place where you can explore what you truly want �� with no fear of being judged or found wanting. You can question your own point of view in confidence, and play with alternate ways of seeing your experience. You get to learn how to think flexibly, learn about your strengths, face your challenges and discover the wisdom you already have.

Coaching is the process that supports you in finding your own answers. You learn to be your own best ally by regularly exploring how to make your deeper knowing sustainable across time. Over time, you learn to trust yourself in a new way.”
― lyndahoffman

“It’s embarrassing for any executive or professional to forget the name of the person you just met, but it’s not life-changing. It’s the other working memory lapses that have a much bigger impact on your relationships and your career: consistently veering off course during a conversation, interrupting people because you’re afraid you’ll forget what you want to say, or arriving late for important meetings because once again you got caught up in a phone call.

It’s not just frustrating for you �� but for everyone else around you. No matter how good your intentions are, weak working memory will wreak havoc with your results.

The significance of working memory to your overall performance cannot be overstated. It is the linchpin to all other executive functions. If it’s in top working order, other executive functions will be too. When prioritizing, working memory helps you remember �� in the moment �� all possible priorities while you sort through them. When planning, working memory helps you hold in your head all the details that you need to make time for. Regulating your emotions requires you to remember what you’re trying to achieve �� despite the pull of strong feelings.

You may be accomplished and highly intelligent and still struggle with working memory. When you do, the contrast between your intellectual ability and your ability to execute consistently can have a devasting impact on your self-concept. No matter how smart you are, or how much you care, the people around you may judge you for these working memory lapses and not who you truly are. Worse, you may be judging yourself.

Here are some ways to support your working memory:

Identify when you will need memory strategies
You are unique. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Great memory strategists know themselves and have a tool kit for every occasion. Good strategies are efficient, automatic and flexible.
Assume you’ll forget �� everything
Never assume you’ll remember something just because it’s front of mind right now. Your brain needs a strategy to remember it 30 minutes from now. Or tomorrow.
Create your own external hard drives
Visuals are essential. Plans, agendas, and a central notebook are all great. Whatever method you choose, it should be in plain sight. If you have to open a device, or look for the post-it-note, you’re giving your working memory one more thing to remember �� which will definitely not help you.

Create visual memory
This is a good trick for someone with solid inner vision. Put the idea into your mind’s eye. See it. Experience it. Describe it to yourself. When time comes to remember it, go to your mind’s eye to find it.
Say it out loud
As you say it out loud to yourself or another person, really pay attention to the words. If you forget names, repeat that person’s name and look at them while focusing on connecting their name to what you know about them.
Chunk information
Practice categorizing or chunking items that go together and focus on the chunk, not the detail. Your working memory remembers chunks of information much better than 30 odd details.

Pay attention to your working memory and show the world �� and yourself �� just how amazing you are!”
― lyndahoffman

“There’s an assumption out there that good leaders are decisive and clear. They know the priorities and don’t let themselves get tangled up in agonizing thoughts about details. If you’re an executive, you want others to see you this way. Decisiveness gives the impression of confidence. And confidence helps others have confidence in you.

As an entrepreneur, professional or executive, you know that making decisions is a large part of your daily life. You signed up for this �� making decisions, big and small.

So what make it difficult for smart, driven executives to be fully decisive?

Indecisiveness is not just about decision fatigue or over-responsibility, although they may play a role.

It’s about your executive functioning (EF) and how you’re managing it.

To make difficult decisions, you need great EF �� the brain-based skills for goal-directed behaviour and everything that goes with it. By virtue of where you are in your career, your EF is already well developed. And yet, you’d like to be more decisive.

So what’s going on when you feel stuck in indecisiveness?

Your particular brand of EF �� your brain profile �� may be highly comfortable with abstract thinking. Perhaps too comfortable. And that’s what can take you into endless ambivalence.

Have you noticed that when you can’t land on a decision, there’s a sense of not quite settling? If you’re accustomed to thinking in the abstract, you may find it uncomfortable to land on a choice.

If you want to be muscularly decisive, look at your emotions.

Are they heightened? Triggered? If so, your EF will definitely go offline. You’ll experience mental fog, poor focus, and rumination.

How do you respond when you’re triggered? Do you put your emotions aside? Do you tell yourself there’s no time during the work day to deal with them?

Emotions don’t go away just because you decided not to pay attention to them. They’re still there, bubbling under the surface. If you try to think past the emotions, you won’t be effective. EF functions best when the brain is calm and clear.

But emotions are very useful too �� when you choose to pay attention to them. They’re a gold mine of information about risks, values, priorities and self-management. You need a balance of emotional information and facts to make a good decision. The most powerful leaders make decisions with a combination of intuition, past experience, emotional intelligence and cognitive flexibility. If you cut off these valuable data sets, the result will be indecisiveness.


So how do you become confidently decisive?


1. Check in.

Ask yourself:

Who do I want to be as I make this decision?

In what way may I be too comfortable with the abstract?

What might I be resisting?

Recognize that No decision IS a decision.
Ask yourself:

How do I benefit from making no decision?

What if no decision is the best decision?

Commit to making a decision anyway.
Ask yourself:

In what way can I make this decision more clear?

Who will I be once I’ve made this decision?

Accept that some ‘good�� decisions will feel uncomfortable.
Ask yourself:

What do I believe about what makes a good decision?

What will deepen my comfort with what I don’t have control over?

You can be a good leader and still be indecisive from time to time.

The next time you have a difficult decision to make, draw from both emotional and factual information.

And don’t forget to enjoy the afterglow of clarity!

With love and gratitude,

Lynda”
― lyndahoffman

“How to Write your Own Success Story

Everyone’s story is unique. Where your story starts may not be up to you, but where it ends definitely is. Every twist and turn is an opportunity to choose what comes next. Make that choice authentically yours, and you can’t do anything but succeed.

Your Rough Draft

We all have a different way of finding out what will work for us. But no matter which route we take on the journey to success �� however you define it �� we have to get into the messy and the profound in equal measure. And once it all comes together, the structure will make sense: the who, the why and the how.

As you’re reading this, you’re probably frantically wondering how to do this, or finding reasons why it can’t happen. Great. You’ve just stumbled on your first limiting belief, the one that’s literally stopping you from creating the outcome you want.

At this point, you can deepen your brainstorming process. Imagine what is real, true and possible. Not what you think is real, true and possible but what actually is.

Once you have a rough idea of what you truly deeply want, learn from those who’ve gone before you on this journey. They have a lot to share and they can teach us about how to create the conditions for successful follow through. Hint��.its about being authentic and invigorated. Your state of being is everything.

Writing Your Success Story: the Essentials
1. Tolerate Uncertainty

If you want to write a new success story for yourself, commit to a brand new way of thinking and being. It’s normal to feel afraid of what you can’t see ahead. How you choose to be with that fear is a central key to your success.

Who do you need to be to create what you want?
To tolerate the uncertainty of letting go of the old to make way for the new?

2. Take Your Time

Remember to allow that learning takes time. How long it takes for it to all come together depends on you and the universe. Time is your friend, no matter how it feels. There’s no deadline. There is only now.

Are you giving yourself an arbitrary deadline? One you feel you ‘should�� be able to meet?

Are you holding unhelpful, unrealistic expectations of yourself?


3. The Lure of the ‘One Right Way��

There’s another common misperception out there that there must be one, perfect and efficient way to get this right. People are in such a hurry to make the change, feel happier, and get that business started, that they miss all the best guideposts to change.

In writing your next best steps, your authentic self is trying to get your attention.

Are you listening? Responding?


4. “I did it my way��

There is only your way. How you find it is up to you. Once you’ve committed to creating your great story, understand that you’ve signed up for a miraculously creative endeavour.

There’s no getting it right in the first attempt, or even the fifth��

There’s only living the new way of being once you understand what the change actually is �� practicing it until it’s fully integrated into your everyday life.

Ask yourself,

What way of being are you ready to incorporate into your day?

How will you hold yourself accountable for this commitment to yourself?

When you pay attention to the process, there’s no way for you to fail.”
― lynda hoffman