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“The truth is - no matter how “self-made�� you think you are, you are really made by many who have invested in your life.
Be known as a thankful and grateful person�� and be known as the person that is investing in others to build them up, as well. It’s your way of paying back the debt that others have invested in you.”
― Josh Hatcher, Manlihood: The 12 Pillars of Masculinity

“Mentorship happens organically, and you can’t just force it. Many men don’t even know HOW to mentor, and often mentor others by accident. It’s not a mentor’s responsibility to mentor, it’s the responsibility of the mentee to seek mentorship and appropriate it.”
― Josh Hatcher, Manlihood: The 12 Pillars of Masculinity

“Eso también me ha enseñado a no avergonzarme de mis emociones; a admitir que sentir miedo, dolor o anhelo por dar y recibir afecto no me vuelve más débil y que no necesito encajar en ningún modelo de hombre para ser, precisamente, un hombre.”
― Mariana Palova, El señor del Sabbath

“No one owes you anything. If we live our lives expecting people to hand us anything, we’ll not only alienate all of our friends, but we’ll create a situation where our value is puffed up and manufactured, and not based on our actual value. When something goes wrong, when crisis comes, we are left feeling bankrupt.”
― Josh Hatcher

“The root of the word “integrity�� is “integer.�� It’s a math term - and it refers to whole numbers. The word itself implies “wholeness.�� These are the questions we must ask ourselves frequently. “Am I whole?�� “Are there parts of my character that are lacking?”
― Josh Hatcher, Manlihood: The 12 Pillars of Masculinity

“The truth is �� no matter how “self-made�� you think you are, you are really made by many who have invested in your life.
Be known as a thankful and grateful person�� and be known as the person that is investing in others to build them up, as well. It’s your way of paying back the debt that others have invested in you.”
― Josh Hatcher

“So, you’re handed a baby and a new name (Daddy) and you now have to choose to accept the challenge. Here’s the thing. I don’t believe that rejecting it’s an option. I mean, people DO reject it. But you shouldn’t. You choose then and there to be a father. And you make that choice, day in and day out to make sure their needs are met, that the example is set for them, that they are loved, cherished, corrected, and challenged. You have to choose it.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Men are wild, mighty, and fierce. Yet our culture wraps silky ropes around our necks, and shaves our faces, and trims our nails. The wildman isn’t quite socially acceptable. It’s not okay to have dirt under your fingernails, or to kill your own dinner.
We don’t have to reject civilization entirely, there is a time and a place for manners and polite conversation and neckties and cologne.
But I believe that all men, even the dandier, fluffier ones, have a call �� drums beating in the distance �� that beckons them into the wild.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Women are awesome! I may not agree with the politics behind a lot of contemporary feminism, I like to think that feminism at it’s core is a good thing. Women are not our underlings, they are not subservient, they are not objects created for our pleasure. They are our equals, and should be treated with the same respect and dignity that we expect for ourselves.”
― Josh Hatcher, Manlihood: The 12 Pillars of Masculinity

“I know that women want to be treated equally - and they should be treated equally - but the truth is - no man should ever strike a woman unless he needs to protect his life or the life of another - and even then - fleeing the situation is a better option whenever possible. If you find yourself at a place where you are so angry that you want to strike a woman - then you need to get some help.”
― Josh Hatcher, Manlihood: The 12 Pillars of Masculinity

“Your feelings come from your thoughts, as you master your mind, you'll need to matter feelings too. If an emotion starts to take control�� your best weapon is truth. It's ok to feel. Not okay to be controlled by feelings. Don't follow your heart. Follow truth.”
― Josh Hatcher

“You have ONE job as a parent.
Raising a responsible human being.
If you don't set high expectations for that human being - the world will have yet another crappy human being.
Give them chores. Force them to do them”
― Josh Hatcher

“Your kids need you to be present - but that doesn’t mean in the building, playing X-Box and yelling at them. Change diapers. Show them how to treat their mother by treating her good yourself. Tell them that you love them. Laugh with them.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Wild fury and righteous anger stirs up in the hearts of men. Driving them to action, to battle, to fight. Hopefully, it’s tempered with the code, with the order. Fury must be kept in check, and be used to propel justice, to free the oppressed, to protect.”
― Josh Hatcher

“I’ve known men who fought in wars to liberate the Jews from Hitler. I’ve known men who sewed their own buttons on their clothes. I’ve known men who talked with a lisp and wore paisley shirts, and men who could chop down trees, and run heavy equipment. Other men were more comfortable in a suit and tie, with soft hands, and a penchant for math, or words. Some men are adventurers, others prefer comic books. Masculinity has never just been one thing.”
― Josh Hatcher

“If you make your woman your EVERYTHING - then your EVERYTHING hangs on her perfection. And we all know she doesn't have perfection any more than you do.
Do not look for spiritual fulfillment from a woman.
Do not look to a woman to give you value.
Do not expect a woman to give you purpose.
Do not look for redemption from a woman.
Do not expect her to meet every need that you have.
Do not make her your god. She is incapable of being that for you.
There are things no woman can ever give you. I believe many of those things come from God. Whether you do or not, I can tell you this - you cannot find them in a woman.
She may be able to help on your journey to find those things, but she can't give them to you.”
― Josh Hatcher

“The heart follows wherever it is led. It swings back and forth like a pendulum. Just embrace that, learn to laugh and cry when you should, and don’t expect those emotions to be a roadmap to your destination.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Feelings are great, and they have a purpose, but it’s certainly not to guide your life. Whoever said, “Follow your heart�� was a fool. Your “heart�� is your emotional center. Emotions have a great purpose �� to allow us to enjoy life, to mourn loss, to have a tangible way to experience love �� but feelings are fickle, and they are not meant to be the guiding force in our life.”
― Josh Hatcher

“In our culture today �� there is a rampant “victim mentality�� �� and while we don’t want to take away the legitimate issues that a real victim of a crime or abuse faces �� we think somehow people have used their status as victim as a cop out, or invented reasons to identify as a victim.”
― Josh Hatcher

“At the core of the wild is the idea that we must seek, stalk, kill, and haul our prey home to feed our young. It was a right of passage for young men for generations �� to get that first kill. To take the life of an animal, and to learn that our life depends on the life of another. I understand that there are some that don’t eat meat -but don’t think for a minute that you aren’t still killing SOMETHING when you pluck that carrot out of its dirty ground!
Our cultured and shiny environment now doesn’t require people to get their hands dirty. If you go to the store to buy meat, you buy meat. You don’t see the beating heart, the twitching nerves, or the cold stare left behind by the animal that gave its flesh for you”
― Josh Hatcher

“From the time boys are young, they enter contests, either alone or with their brothers, and their fathers �� to see how strong they are. Wrestling, weightlifting, arm-wrestling, “bloody knuckles,�� Chinese hot-hands, even thumb wrestling. This wild behavior may seem reminiscent of goats butting their heads against each other, or bears mawing at each other’s necks��. But it’s a part of who we are. We don’t necessarily outgrow it. And that rough and tumble tug-of-war helps shape us, helps bond us together, and helps remind us who we want on our side if there is a time to fight.
The call of the wild pushes men to success. It drives men to be refreshed in nature. As long as we wrap it up in silk and lace and soap, it will still be there.”
― Josh Hatcher

“To be wild, to hear the heartbeat of nature, to feel the rush of adrenal strength, to drink from the fresh air and howl at the moon �� these are things that are embedded into men.”
― Josh Hatcher, Manlihood: The 12 Pillars of Masculinity

“The answers to today's problems are not to eschew masculinity. We do not need to redefine masculinity. We need to reclaim it. We need to affirm the masculinity, the rough and tumble, the competition, and the discipline needed to teach boys right from wrong. We need to be able to give them safe avenues to express themselves, and to model for them what it means to accept and love people. We need to teach them things like honor, perseverance, integrity, adventure, justice, tenderness, determination, hope, love, peace, and freedom are all masculine virtues, and they are a part of what it means to be a man.”
― Josh Hatcher