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“Give it to yourself. Validate yourself. Affirm yourself. Yes, it’s nice to get it from others, but we must build within ourselves the ability to self-affirm.”
― Josh Hatcher

“No one can achieve their dreams, and become the kind of person they were meant to be all at once. It’s a series of little movements, and you can only take the step that’s right in front of you.”
― Josh Hatcher

“We've all got scars. Words that were said to you when you were young... Things you saw that you should never have seen... Lifelong consequences from stupid decisions, whether ours or someone else's...
Men, make sure that they are SCARS not WOUNDS.
If you keep finding that you are sensitive about certain things, held back by the same unreasonable fears, or that you keep making the same bad decisions repeatedly, or that you have habits you just can't quit.... chances are good that you have a wound that never healed right. It's not a scar, it's a wound or an infection.
Get it cleaned out and get it healed. If that means you need to get some professional help, to talk to a trusted friend about it, or whatever - the only person that can make the decision to get that part of your life healed is you.
A scar shows you've been through the process.
An overly sensitive attitude, a destructive habit, a fearful mindset just show that you have a wound you need to work on.”
― Josh Hatcher

“You teach people how you want them to treat you.
If you tolerate disrespect, and if you give disrespect, you'll get disrespect. You must set clear expectations of the behavior and communication you want to receive from them, and patiently correct them when they deliver something different.
Complaining, insults, intentionally hurtful words create a spiraling effect. One of you offers them up, the other retaliates.”
― Josh Hatcher

“I don’t believe that the rough and tumble nature of children, especially boys is inherently wrong. We see in nature, bear cubs, deer, goats, puppies, especially males, play rough with each other. We’re not animals, so we do try to civilize things a bit, but that rough and tumble play creates an environment where children are strengthened, and they learn that their bodies endure pain a certain way. They also learn empathy, when they see that a twisted arm hurts, they are less likely to twist someone’s arm. This unstructured type of play isn’t suited for classrooms, where six years olds are expected to sit at a desk and work for more than eight hours a day, and so it is discouraged. Children do not have the opportunity to properly express those natural tendencies to compete, to wrestle, or to express the emotions behind those desires.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Sometimes, we fail at a challenge. That can be a disappointment, but it can also be the thing that helps us learn how to rise above and meet that challenge on the next go round. Failure can build discipline and strength and wisdom. It’s up to us if we choose to let that failure rip our confidence away. We get to choose to keep pressing in and charging forward to meet the challenge.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Sir, you have a purpose. You are here, breathing, moving, living, for a reason. Part of that reason is the process of discovering it, and discovering yourself.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Purpose answers the question, “Why do I exist?â€� And as we ask it and explore it, I encourage you to study and look at the purpose statements of others, and of organizations, to fully understand the idea. Remember that your purpose is transcendent, and it is permanent. It doesn’t sway with the seasons of life. It is something that brings you fulfillment at every part of your life, and guides you.”
― Josh Hatcher

“I am the only person responsible for my success and failure.
I am where I am because of the choices I have made.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Fathers! You have no idea the impact that your example has on the person your child will become. Everything you say to them will be like a stud or brick in their construction.
Would you build a house with crappy supplies? Do you think that you can skimp on costs and still expect a quality house? Do you think you can just toss it all together and hope it stands up?
No! You have to have a plan, the right materials, and careful construction procedures to build a proper house.
You can't ignore your kids, or parent without any thought. You can't consistently lose your temper and insult them and expect them.to grow up healthy and whole.
I'm not a perfect parent, and you won't be either. But we HAVE to think about what effect our actions has on them.”
― Josh Hatcher

“You can’t live without purpose. You exist for a reason. You didn’t just “poofâ€� into the world, meant to suck in oxygen, and eat and poop, make a kid or two, and then disappear.”
― Josh Hatcher

“If you could look at your whole life from the outside, you can see that just past the point you wanted to give up, is the victory you hoped for. And in the grand scheme - the distance between the “I feel like I can’tâ€� and the “I did itâ€� was miniscule.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Often, when a man encounters a moment of extreme trial, his inner fears come out in the form of a specific kind of excuse. I hate to dismiss those excuses as only that, because they also often reveal a deep truth about that man, and what he believes about himself.
I am not strong enough.
I am not smart enough.
I am not rich enough.
I am not young enough.
I am not old enough.
I am not MAN enough.
Men. These are lies. These are weapons fashioned to bring you down.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Our American culture paints a picture of masculinity where a man is an island. A lone cowboy on the prairie smoking marlboros. A caped crusader who works better alone. A dad in his den, reading the paper, shooing the kids away so he can unwind.
But this lone ranger mentality is dangerous. Even the actual Lone Ranger had Tonto.
We are not made to be alone.”
― Josh Hatcher

“You can’t expect to achieve a dream if you don’t push yourself harder. Whether it’s strength training, or a sales goal at work, or anything. You’ve got to push through past what you think you can do. And when you do it, it builds confidence in you, and your next task will have a momentum to it. The confidence gained makes your output exponential. You have already done something you thought was impossible. Now you are waiting for the next impossible task.”
― Josh Hatcher

“If life is a battlefield, many of us would be rejected as 4F, given a card, and sent home. What can we do to be ready for the battle of manhood? What can we do to reset ourselves, and get our lives healthy enough to thrive?”
― Josh Hatcher

“One of the biggest things that hold men back from being the fathers, husbands, and leaders they are meant to be is that we are often unfit, unhealthy, or otherwise limping along.”
― Josh Hatcher

“As you’re trying to reignite your life, coming up with a new vision, new goals, and trying to get the fire back, you’re not going to get there without a plan.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Men, the fact that a dream is unrealistic doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t dream it. You can dream big. You can imagine great things. In fact, you should hope for something big and great in your life.
They key isn’t in squashing the dreams.The key is in understanding that difference between dreams and goals. The difference between a dream and a vision.”
― Josh Hatcher

“Your dream is the destination that you plug into your GPS. And once you know your destination, you plot your course to get there. Sometimes, as you travel, you change your destination. Maybe I wanted to visit California, but I fell in love with Wyoming on the way.”
― Josh Hatcher

“It’s easy to see how far you are from your desired outcome. It’s easy to see that you are not the man you want to be. The easy thing is not always the best thing. It’s also easy to get discouraged about the marathon that you are only a fifth of the way through.
Instead of focusing solely on the hard work and pain ahead of you, take the time to celebrate the steps you have made, the milestones you have passed.”
― Josh Hatcher

“So many times I have tried to get my life under control, and to make changes. So many times I have tried to conquer my weight, to be a better husband, to get a better job, to manage my business and finances better, and I have often felt like a juggling circus clown with one too many balls (or chainsaws) spinning in the air.
I’m learning that we cannot do everything at once.”
― Josh Hatcher

“If we are not careful to understand who we are, which is transcendent above our roles, above our duties, then we are at risk of collapse when something happens to change our roles and to change our duties.”
― Josh Hatcher

“As men, we often identify with our career, or some thing that we DO.
But what we DO is not who we ARE.”
― Josh Hatcher

“There is one question that gnaws away at the heart of every man, and has done so since the beginning. “Why am I here?â€� I can’t tell you that there is an easy answer. But I can tell you part of the answer to that question, is the journey of discovering it. The other equally pressing question is “Who am I?”
― Josh Hatcher

“To take responsibility is painful. It is hard to admit that the reason for your situation is you.
Admitting this often fuels shame. And shame is a dirty lover. Shame says, “See - I told you you weren’t good enough. You should feel horrible about this.�
And when I embrace shame - an interesting thing happens. I feel bad. And then we are driven to the same wrong behaviors - porn - overeating - drugs - booze - anger - because hey make you feel better - until the shame kicks in. Getting caught in that cycle is destructive.”
― Josh Hatcher

“You didn’t get here by accident. The condition of your life, for better or for worse is here because of a very reason. Learning this lesson was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done.”
― Josh Hatcher

“You might even ask, 'Who is this guy to be telling me how to live my life?' And my answer is simple.
I’m the guy that is figuring it out just like you. I can’t guarantee that I’m ahead of you in the race - but I do feel it’s my responsibility to help people get into the race, and to stay on track in the race.
I know I don’t have it all together. I know that I’m not an expert. I know that I’m not perfect. But I can’t sit by and let men live 'lives of quiet desperation.' (To quote Thoreau)
Let’s do this together. Take the flint. Take the steel. Strike. And we will reignite our lives together.”
― Josh Hatcher

“I don’t want to imply that all we need to do is pull ourselves up by our bootstraps.
Some of us may be able to do that.
Some of us may need some professional help.
But all of us will benefit from a long hard evaluating look at our life, and from working to realign our thinking with a sense of purpose. Even those that need professional help, we’re going to need to realign our thoughts, and to take practical steps to reignite the fire in us.”
― Josh Hatcher

“But Audrey was helping him realize it wasn't brute strength or his ability to sit a horse or wield a sword that made him a man. Self-sacrifice and courage were what defined the best kind of man.”
― Melanie Dickerson, Castle of Refuge