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“We Are Lovable
Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay. —Codependent No More

Do you ever find yourself thinking: How could anyone possibly love me? For many of us, this is a deeply ingrained belief that can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Thinking we are unlovable can sabotage our relationships with co-workers, friends, family members, and other loved ones. This belief can cause us to choose, or stay in, relationships that are less than we deserve because we don’t believe we deserve better. We may become desperate and cling as if a particular person was our last chance at love. We may become defensive and push people away. We may withdraw or constantly overreact. While growing up, many of us did not receive the unconditional love we deserved. Many of us were abandoned or neglected by important people in our life. We may have concluded that the reason we weren’t loved was because we were unlovable. Blaming ourselves is an understandable reaction, but an inappropriate one. If others couldn’t love us, or love us in ways that worked, that’s not our fault. In recovery, we’re learning to separate ourselves from the behavior of others. And we’re learning to take responsibility for our healing, regardless of the people around us. Just as we may have believed that we’re unlovable, we can become skilled at practicing the belief that we are lovable. This new belief will improve the quality of our relationships. It will improve our most important relationship: our relationship with our self. We will be able to let others love us and become open to the love and friendship we deserve. Today, help me be aware of and release any self-defeating beliefs I have about being unlovable. Help me begin, today, to tell myself that I am lovable. Help me practice this belief until it gets into my core and manifests itself in my relationships.”
― Melody Beattie

“Because we were treated neglectfully and abusively in our young years—when we most needed self-love to be mirrored—it was difficult to hold onto…We take up the challenge of learning to love ourselves, through our highs & our lows, when we are finding acceptance from others and when we are being closed out and rejected.”
― Maureen Brady, Beyond Survival: A Writing Journey for Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse

“Traumatic experiences in early childhood may interfere with the child's ability to securely attach.”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“In some cases we neglect our health, because we were never told about its value.”
― Sunday Adelaja

“Her deep romantic nature prevented her from demanding, from asking for that quenching. She wanted it to come freely, like flowers that are sent and not requested.”
― Sean Ferrer

“There is no debating that the effects of trauma experienced in childhood may have grave consequences.”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“Abuse may consist of physical maltreatment or language that is belittling, discriminatory...”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“Attachments that are not fostered may lend to the child's inability to properly attach or have no attachment at all.”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“Don't you love your mother, dear?"

"I guess so. A hard, sharp, thorny kind of love that might be pity more than anything else.”
― Dean Koontz, Brother Odd

“Perception and worldview are one's summary of life.”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“A child's temperament appears to play another significant role in the child's own perceptions and worldview.”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“Survivors of trauma may have difficulty initiating relationships ...”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“A secure attachment is the ability to bond; to develop a secure and safe base...”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“A child's attachment process begins within the first year of life...”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“The sequence is suffering, insight, will, action, change.”
― Allen Wheelis, How People Change

“Trauma may be endured through a physiological or psychological threat to life or overall wellbeing.”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“You can cease to be influenced by people who tease you... Just neglect their helps and elevate your steps... You can do it!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, Daily Drive 365

“My traumatic experience was life changing”
― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“Most people neglect their lives and allow all kinds of accidents, mishaps and misfortunes to happen to them.”
― Sunday Adelaja

“Neglect is a major reason for some of the most painful experiences we suffer in life.”
― Sunday Adelaja

“The table that cannot stand upright, is an insult to the carpenter who makes it. God made us perfectly; so when we refuse to carry out the functions we were created for, our father loses the glory He deserves!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, Leaders' Watchwords

“Some neglect their virginity and are made to pay dearly for it.”
― Sunday Adelaja

“After centuries of marginalization and neglect, we need to cast our own movements, projects, and ideas as a battle for relevancy in the face of historical manipulation, exploitation, and oppression. We need to fight, tooth and nail, for equity in all areas of social life. One point to make clear, ethnic and racial minorities are not looking for scraps or a handout from the old paternalistic system but an equitable, stable, and leveled playing field.”
― Martin Guevara Urbina, Twenty-first Century Dynamics of Multiculturalism: Beyond Post-racial America

“I prepared to get out of bed, tossing the covers aside, the sheets dank-smelling, gray from my body. I wondered how long it had been since I'd changed them. And then I wondered how often you were supposed to change them. These were the kinds of things you didn't learn. I changed bedclothes after sex, now, finally, and that I only learned a few years ago from a movie on TV: Glenn Close, some thriller, and she'd just had sex and is changing the sheets and I can't remember the rest, because all I was thinking was: Oh, I guess people change sheets after they have sex. It made sense, but I'd never thought of it. I was raised feral, and I mostly stayed that way.”
― Gillian Flynn, Dark Places

“Don’t neglect the importance of prayer in your Christian life.”
― Jim George

“Their marriage hadn’t died dramatically. There were no adulterous truants or burst spleens or freakish lightning strikes or splattered brains over the highway. Their marriage had died of neglect and errors and abrasiveness. It died under a long protracted illness for which there was a diagnosis but no remedy. The disease had no name. So how could she explain it to others?”
― Meghna Pant, One and a Half Wife

“When we neglect God`s priority, we become God`s secondary.”
― Sunday Adelaja

“Those who neglect the demands of life, they live in perpetual pain and regret.”
― Sunday Adelaja

“Those who decide to neglect this demand of life, cry through life.”
― Sunday Adelaja

“When a Promise of Leadership is neglected or unfulfilled, trust is broken, engagement erodes, and performance suffers.”
― William A. Adams, Mastering Leadership: An Integrated Framework for Breakthrough Performance and Extraordinary Business Results