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“So, here we are, all of us poor bewildered darlings, wandering adrift in a universe too big and too complex for us, clasping and ricochetting off other people too different and too perplexing for us, and seeking to satisfy myriad, shifting, vague needs and desires, both mean and exalted. And sometimes we mesh. Don't we?

- Attributed to James Flynn, Ph.D. ”
― Carl R. Rogers, On Encounter Groups

“I believe that individuals nowadays are probably more aware of their inner loneliness than has ever been true before in history.”
― Carl R. Rogers, On Encounter Groups

“Part of the discipline of the person-centred approach is not to make assumptions about the client's appropriate process, but to follow the process laid out by the client.”
― Dave Mearns, Person-Centred Therapy Today: New Frontiers in Theory and Practice

“Behavior is basically the goal-directed attempt of the organism to satisfy its needs as experienced, in the field as perceived.”
― Carl R. Rogers, Client-Centered Therapy: Its Current Practice, Implications and Theory

“The path of waiting and listening forgoes certainty and exposes us to a sense of tentative unknowing, which is often uncomfortable at best.

This may only be tolerable when we have developed some degree of trust in the inherent healing capacity built into the human system and the power of interpersonal receptivity to animate the process.

For most of us, this trust arrives because we have experienced it ourselves and can now embody it for others.

As this deep learning proceeds in us, we may be able to rest more easily into the waiting because the unknowing is increasingly being held within our expanding window of tolerance.

As we are able to work in this way, I believe our people get a felt sense of our profound and enduring respect for their inherent wisdom, something that is likely a unique and healing experience given their history of traumatic relationships.

I don't believe I have found any offering that is more empowering than respect.”
― Bonnie Badenoch, The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

“An openness to being changed by the client is required of the person-centred therapist. A person-centred therapist who is closed off from being changed implicitly denies the full humanity of the client.”
― David Murphy, Relational Depth: New Perspectives and Developments

“Movement away from defensive destructiveness and towards greater social responsibility is a characteristic of this [actualising] tendency. The political implication of this position is that we do not need to be controlled by authority. We, individually and collectively, not only have the right to self-determination and group determination but, given the necessary conditions, can be trusted to use our power responsibly.”
― Rose Cameron, Person-Centred Practice: The BAPCA Reader

“Person-centred counselling may be thought of as 'not enough'. In my experience it is. It allows for self-determination through an acknowledgement of a person's human rights.”
― Suzanne Keys, Person-Centred Practice: The BAPCA Reader

“Being an effective person-centred counsellor is not so much a matter of possessing skills and knowledge, but of having a particular set of deeply-held values and beliefs and then being able to express these qualities in interactions with other people.”
― John McLeod, Person-Centred Counselling in Action

“On reflection now, it seems to me she was already telling me what she needed most--a place to settle in proximity, safety, warmth and quiet because she had none of that as a child.”
― Bonnie Badenoch, The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

“This was the unexpected ... unforeseeable resolution of the paradox ... her personal goodness was no longer the issue because it had been replaced by the sweetness of relationship.”
― Bonnie Badenoch, The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

“Revolutionary leaders cannot think without the people, or for the people, but only with the people.”
― Paulo Freire, Pedagogy of the Oppressed

“We Person-Centred Approach people are as human as anyone else after all, and, as does everyone, must daily face the difference between our aspirations and stated values, and our actual choices and behaviours, and the resulting outcomes. However, we keep giving ourselves a chance to change, again and again, thus more closely approximating our hopes for how we can be together”
― Gay Barfield, Politicizing the Person-Centred Approach: An Agenda for Social Change

“For me the very essence of the Person-Centred Approach is about individuality, which leads to a community of acceptance characterised by difference.”
― Terry Daly, Idiosyncratic Person-Centred Therapy: From the Personal to the Universal

“These two viewpoints offer us different ways of orienting to the world that lead to strikingly different values, ways of relating, and behaviors ...

The essence of the right-hemisphere perspective involves attending to relationship, embodiment, and what is unfolding in the unique moment in the space between. We could say that from this viewpoint, the central metaphor here is living beings in relationship with each other in this moment.

In contrast, the left-hemisphere viewpoint steps out of the relational moment to focus on division, fixity, disembodiment, and the creation of algorithms (standardized step-by-step solutions to problems that do not take individuality and context into account). The central metaphor here is the machine, with our bodies, our brains and our very selves viewed as mechanisms to be analyzed and shaped.

We might immediately sense that the perspective of each hemisphere has substantial consequences for how we are able to be present with one another.”
― Bonnie Badenoch

“The therapist seeking to offer a relationship at depth does not use the relationship as a means to treat, cure or change the client's problem. The clients problem is accepted and respected as a expression of their self-experience, but it does not define the person: the therapist remains oriented towards the whole person - not towards the client's specific symptoms or difficulties.”
― Elke Lambers

“The commitment within the person-centred approach [is] to dismantling the structural distribution of power within society.”
― David Murphy, Relational Depth: New Perspectives and Developments

“The Person-Centred Approach can be learned but it can't be taught.”
― Peggy Natiello