I was prepared to be skeptical of this book but I found it convincing, and there was much more hedging about the conclusions and where to continue thiI was prepared to be skeptical of this book but I found it convincing, and there was much more hedging about the conclusions and where to continue thinking about proper approaches. I think I know where I need to adjust some of my own parenting....more
I adore Emily Oster, and there was a lot that was useful in this book. I understand why she had to go this way with this book, since creating frameworI adore Emily Oster, and there was a lot that was useful in this book. I understand why she had to go this way with this book, since creating frameworks is the only way to do things. But I just can't get my co-parent on board with calendars much less project management software. Alas. I did read many of these pieces via her newsletter, and I think the newsletter tone crept into the book in ways that I didn't love. But it was a pandemic, so I get it....more
There were some helpful ideas in this book for helping kids deal with anxiety--I can definitely see how it would be lifechanging for some people, but There were some helpful ideas in this book for helping kids deal with anxiety--I can definitely see how it would be lifechanging for some people, but I found it more of a helpful adjunct to a million other interventions necessary in my parenting life....more
I saw an emergency pandemic parenting webinar she gave last month, and had to read this. It's extremely helpful, and makes me feel a lot better about I saw an emergency pandemic parenting webinar she gave last month, and had to read this. It's extremely helpful, and makes me feel a lot better about my ability to come back from my constant parenting mistakes. There are times where the casual writing gets old to me, but overall I really enjoyed this....more
As I was listening to this, I kept thinking "I know why some people won't like this book, but I pre-disagree with them." That is not the best way to cAs I was listening to this, I kept thinking "I know why some people won't like this book, but I pre-disagree with them." That is not the best way to consume advice. All the advice isn't easy, but she is very specific about what she believes are the most important things to emphasize--based on the latest science and her own decades of experience. It did not make me a perfect parent overnight, but I am trying to think more carefully about what I say, and to whom. (This is also about how to talk to other important people in your child's life.)...more
Some of this was very obvious, but I took enough away that is sticking a week later (and led to a very good discussion in therapy) that I will forgiveSome of this was very obvious, but I took enough away that is sticking a week later (and led to a very good discussion in therapy) that I will forgive that. ...more
I can't reccommend this enough if you have kids, ambition, a partner, and some struggle between them all. This really made a huge difference in my lifI can't reccommend this enough if you have kids, ambition, a partner, and some struggle between them all. This really made a huge difference in my life immediately. I appreciate Tiffany Dufu's perspective which is somewhat different from many writers of this type of book--she talks about her own perspective as an African-American woman and her husband's African background, which gives her some different views that are really helpful. ...more
Totally not an anti-breastfeeding book, though it might seem that way at first. This is more about the terrible family leave and shaming of low-incomeTotally not an anti-breastfeeding book, though it might seem that way at first. This is more about the terrible family leave and shaming of low-income women policies that exist in our society. Especially important to understand the context of the studies that show the benefits of breastfeeding were not done in the US, and so does not control for the situation of women working full time (particularly women of color in low income jobs)....more
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