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Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough
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Are you single? Do you know a single guy? Is he nice? Does he have nice breath? That last one isn't as important. You need to run to him. Like leap into in his arms and marry him before someone else snatches him up. Because while you are waiting around for Mr. Perfect Hottie who does not exist Mr. Nice Guy is getting married and soon you are going to be left all alone. ALONE! And you will only have yourself to blame. Can you feel your eggs drying up now? Well they are!
This is the whole message of Lori Gottlieb's book. Yes, I agree with the whole idea that women need to be realistic in what they are looking for in a man. I agree that women should be open to dating different types of guys to get to know them. Of course don't just dump guys for superficial reasons. However, her scare tactics are beyond CRAZY!
Like seriously, I think we as women who are approaching our thirties, in our thirties, in our forties have scared ourselves enough. We don't need to read Ms. Gottlieb's book to realize that we need to reprioritize what we are looking for in a man. Most women smarten up around their late twenties. However, according to Lori most of the good men are already snatched up by then and the pickings are just going to get worse and worse.
However, she acts like most of these women are the ones turning men away. I don't know many men in their twenties who were fixing to get themselves hitched.
Obviously lots of people love this book and my friend even asked if we had read the same book. I felt like this book was just one big scare tactic and incredibly negative. If you are already jaded, this book will not help you. If I hadn't borrowed this book from my friend, I probably would've burned it.
This is the whole message of Lori Gottlieb's book. Yes, I agree with the whole idea that women need to be realistic in what they are looking for in a man. I agree that women should be open to dating different types of guys to get to know them. Of course don't just dump guys for superficial reasons. However, her scare tactics are beyond CRAZY!
Like seriously, I think we as women who are approaching our thirties, in our thirties, in our forties have scared ourselves enough. We don't need to read Ms. Gottlieb's book to realize that we need to reprioritize what we are looking for in a man. Most women smarten up around their late twenties. However, according to Lori most of the good men are already snatched up by then and the pickings are just going to get worse and worse.
However, she acts like most of these women are the ones turning men away. I don't know many men in their twenties who were fixing to get themselves hitched.
Obviously lots of people love this book and my friend even asked if we had read the same book. I felt like this book was just one big scare tactic and incredibly negative. If you are already jaded, this book will not help you. If I hadn't borrowed this book from my friend, I probably would've burned it.
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Reading Progress
December 14, 2010
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December 14, 2010
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December 14, 2010
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22.02%
"Less than half of women over 40 will ever marry. This book is super depressing!"
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December 15, 2010
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35.71%
"She is 5'2 and wants someone 5'10. She put 5'5 on her online profile. Ridiculous!!! Even I put the same height as me knowing full well guys lie how tall they are."
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December 16, 2010
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45.83%
"Some of these chapters are better but she keeps encouraging getting married young. I have read multiple statistics that say people who marry early in life have a higher rate of divorce than those who wait. She just floats these theories of hers without proof. She says "the opposite is probably true.". No actually it isn't!"
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December 17, 2010
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62.8%
"Where is she finding these women who are breaking up w/ guys because they don't like to hike? And where can I find these men? Obviously she is going to say 2 weeks later someone swooped in and married them on pg 212."
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December 18, 2010
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"She is talking about the cost of being single. I am confused, once we snatch our man do we get to stop coloring our hair & waxing? Sorry minus the dating websites & maybe bar hopping w/ friends, you are still going to spend all that money if you care about your appearance."
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December 18, 2010
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"Noting a positive. Good point! Personality won't change but couples do tend to take on the other persons interests."
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December 19, 2010
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83.33%
"And I quote "her ex husband remarries (someone much younger),... While the wife who left him ends up w/ a 1 bd rm apartment w/a netflix subscription & no sign of Prince Charming." She should work in politics w/ all this fear mongering."
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December 19, 2010
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92.56%
"She compares her book to a drunk driving PSA. Ok, so I can think of a few friends who need a wake up. But seriously she should call it readjusting our priorities."
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December 19, 2010
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94.35%
"Blaming feminism for dating problems is idiotic! Look up the definition women. I am pretty sure having unrealistic expectations for men is not included."
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December 19, 2010
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December 19, 2010
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Dec 14, 2010 08:26AM
She is encouraging getting married young. Ugh! I understand not being picky but seriously. Have you heard divorce statistics lady?
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Okay so I am admitting to reading this! My friend let me borrow it because she really liked it. I actually heard the author on a podcast and she enraged me.
She thinks ladies don't want Harry from When Harry Met Sally. Who would want Harry? That's like my fantasy.
Consider the source, etc etc but I think getting married young is a huge mistake for most people! Love hearing these updates but wonder who her target audience is. I don't actually know anyone in real life who expects the perfect guy!
She thinks women are maximizers. If we aren't married by 30 it must be because we keep thinking someone better is out there for us. Like guys are proposing to us left and right and we are doing all the dumping. I see her point on being open minded about guys but I tend to think you see more cute girls w/ ok guys than vice versa.
Finished! Stay tuned for my review. Although I think you know what I think.
Thanks for the comment, Stephanie. I'm 9 years late to your wise advice but I started reading this book today. Actually started listening to it on Audible and it enraged me. One hour into the book and what I've realised is, it's written from the point of view of "All women are dying to get married and have children and that's the sole purpose of their life". Now, I'm reading this book after "Maybe you should talk to someone" which I loved and hence decided to give this book a try. I should have taken my clue from the title itself that's this is going to be some book that would dilute women's success to "married and children". Lori herself had a son in her late 30s and decided that's what the entire female race wants. I understand what she's saying and even agree to it that leaving what you have for something better isn't going to get you anywhere. It applies to all aspects of life. It's called being content. I had to buy all of Adichie's book to wash myself off Lori's 1940s advice to women to settle for whoever you meet because he might not be around tomorrow.
Good to know you liked her other book. Once I found out she was the author, I was like “nope� 😂 But maybe I’ll give it a chance.
Haha. I can understand the precaution. In fact, Marry him wasn't even available in audio format in my country, I actually bought it from Amazon's UK marketplace and boy those were the worst 1 hour I ever invested.
Lol! 9 years later I’m still bitter I wasted my time reading it 😂
Some people (this author included) don't realise that women are perfectly fine (if not happier) dying alone rather than settling for a low value man.
Omg I hate this book! It is making me angry. I also read the author's previous book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and really enjoyed it, which is the only reason I thought this book might be as engaging and interesting. First of all, who the hell knows who they are in their 20's?? How many of those marriages last and are even moderately happy? And yes, it is absolutely possible to be happy as a single woman, have a full life, not be lonely or longing for a man, and not all of us want children! I am about 25% into the book and not going to waste any more time. The book is already repeating itself, demeaning and criticizing women.
