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I haven't done any updates for this book because for my purposes, it wasn't one in which I had time to read from front to back. I needed and will continue to need to refer to the sections which for the needs of my girls and how I can help them as well as the three of us together. Fantastic book and one I'll refer to often even if it may be too late. I pray to God it's not and I cannot thank @Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ @RandomHouse #BallantineBooks and the author Lisa Damour for this gift. A genre/self help book I've been in need of for far too many years. So many choices out there and after trying to do it on my own, not knowing which books to randomly pick from Amazon, I was so incredibly blessed to have won this. The moment I saw I had, my hand flew up to cup my mouth and I gasped and then I cried and I cried and cried a lot more in thanks to have been given this opportunity. I love love love all book genres, however I'm in crisis mode and this was very much needed. It had to have been meant to be. Seriously, I kept saying thank you out thank while I was crying, as if anyone part of this book and giveaway could me. Grateful is an understatement.

This book is written in a novel format. No side bars or boxes, no checklists, that I saw in the topics I went to, but the author weaves general topic discussion with scenarios/stories she's heard and finally practical reasons and solutions are given. I obviously have to wait and see if these solutions make the change that's needed and I have a feeling they will. They're solutions, but anyone's solutions can be expanded on as we know our situations best, but this is a fantastic start and help. So to all the parents out there going through all the ups and downs, ripping your hair out, screaming inside like you're ready to explode and cried more tears than you'd think one could possibly have inside them than I high;y recommend this book!!!

Being a parent is 'the' most incredible blessing anyone can experience. It's also the most painful at times. It always amazes me how the love for a child, no matter their age, can be both absolutely everything beautiful and at the same time be equally heartbreaking. The teen years didn't come with a manual and my kids are extraordinary, however we all have our moments and getting through these years intact and/or fixing what's been so shattered is all that matters. There is nothing more important than our kids. Nothing more precious so if you're in a situation or not.....grab this book. What headed our way.....we never saw it coming. Be prepared....

Please refer to the table of contents I shared for others having the same battle looking for the right book, the best book for you and your kids. I wish I had had somebody point me in one direction years ago, but I wasn't so I hope it helps you. It is a stepping stone worth the read and putting into practice what the author is sharing. Do it for your kids because even though they can say the cruelest things, things that would make any parent "End it all" <-----not literally, inside they're just kids trying to find their way, hurting deeply inside and many times, even if you're bond is very strong, there are many things they will not share so pay attention and make sure they know they're loved unconditionally. Give your babies (not so little anymore) what they desperately need.....guidance, acceptance, and love. Unconditional Love.....

This book is a wonderful tool to work with in seeing and helping through so much subject matter. Now go grab this book and go show your kids how much they're loved. Even tough love in needed, but not too tough. Compassion, listening and just being there without the anger flying in both directions is what they need. Best to all.

~*For The Love Of Our Children*~ give them your time


I haven't finished reading this, however I've been flipping through it back and forth so I'm not ready to mark it as read or rate it yet, soon just not quite yet ready for a fair rating, but this is exactly the kind of book I've been asking around for, for nearly five years. What I pray for is that it's not too late.

I searched exhaustingly and asked everyone always with no replies, then I was so lucky to have won this from the Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ program. There so many books out there on this subject and most can't afford to play guessing games on which to choose. I hope with all my heart that it's not too late to fix things, undue the damage from circumstances and teen years and that is exactly why I'm about to share what I'm sharing below. I'm sharing this now because I don't want 'any' parent to search for five years while things are falling apart out of control and face the "too late possibilities".

Below is the table of contents from the ARC so it is subject to change, but if this post helps even one person find a book which may be exactly what they've been searching for, in order to help save and mend a family.....that's all that matters. Just a quick glance to see if the topics suit you without going on a forever search for the right book. As soon as I received it and read the tablets contents, I was so elated and found hope in what I was about to embark in healing, prevention and intervention.

I can't give page numbers as they're not listed in the ARC, but I hope this helps: (again please remember this is from an ARC so some things will be different)

Product Details
Hardcover: 352 pages
Publisher: Ballantine Books (February 9, 2016)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0553393057
ISBN-13: 978-0553393057
Product Dimensions: 5.8 x 1.1 x 8.5 inches


One: Parting with Childhood

The cold Shoulder
Allergic to Questions
Surprisingly Mean
The Swimming Pool
Totally Competent , Except for When She's Not
Blooming, Reluctantly
Smoke Without Fire
Parting with Childhoods: When to Worry
*The Female Peter Pan
*Rushing Into Adulthood

Two: Joining a New Tribe

The Pull of Popular
Tribal Warfare
Frenemies
If Your Tribe Jumped Off a Bridge.....
When Tribes Need Elders
Social (Media) Skills
Join a New Tribe: When to Worry
*Social Isolation
*Being Bullied
*Being A Bully

Three: Harnessing Emotions

You: The Emotional Dumping Ground
I'm Upset, Now You're Upset
Befriending Distress
Catalytic Reactions
Coping By Posting
How To Become an Accidental Helicopter Parent
Harnessing Emotions: When to Worry
*Recognizing Adolescent Mood and Anxiety Disorders
*Self-Destructive Coping

Four: Contending with Adult Authority

Seeing Behind the Curtain
The End of "Because I Said So"
Framing Danger
Rupture and Repair
Crazy Spots
Adults with Faults
Holding The Line
Contending with Adult Authority: When to Worry
*Too Good to Be True
*Constantly Contending
*Adults Contending with Each Other

Five: Planning for the Future

Impulses, Meet the Internet
The Road to the Future: Who Drives?
Making the Grade
Tense About Tests
Planning for Next Week
Dealing with Disappointment
Planning for the Future: When to Worry
*All Plan and No Play
*No Plan in Sight

Six: Entering the Romantic World

A Dream Deferred
A Match Made in A Marketing Meeting
Offering Some Perspective
The Inner Compass
Dating For Credit
Being Gay: The Slur and the Reality
Entering the Romantic World: When to Worry
*The Tributaries and the Lake
*April-June Romances

Seven: Caring For Herself

Nodding Without Listening
Girls, Food, and Weight
Sleep vs. Technology
Getting Real About Drinking
Straight Talk About Drugs
Sex and It's Risks
Caring for Herself: When to Worry
*Eating Disorders
*Not Ready to Launch

Conclusion
Acknowledgements
Notes
Recommended Resources
Index

There is most definitely something and a lot in this book for everyone with kids of every age. Again, I've skimmed, but I thought it would be great to post the "contents" for everyone who may be looking for books like this and the specifics at a glance, as well as contemplating this book in particular. I really hope this helps. God knows I needed it years ago before the destruction of what is now, became.......

Best to all!!

Thank you to #Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ #RandomHouse #BallantineBooks and the author #LisaDamourPh.D. For this book, which I received through the Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ First Reads Program, for my honest thoughts. More to came as I read. My situation is one in which I'm not reading from front to back. I'm in need of picking out pertinent topics and zoning in on those right now.

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